April 10, 2023 • 36 mins
Granger Smith Podcast Episode 183: Forgiveness can be tough. Really tough. But it’s such a huge part of healing and it needs to be talked about and explored. Let’s discuss!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This doesn't surprise me. I should say it that way.
When I read this, I'm not surprised by a story
like yours in a fallen world in twenty twenty three,
(00:21):
what's up, everybody. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode
one hundred and eighty three. Thank you for being here.
The format of this podcast, if you're new to it,
is I answer your questions, and there's not a certain
subject I ask for. It could be about anything. Email
me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll put
it in the queue. And I've got a lot to read.
(00:43):
I will never ever get to all of the questions,
but send it in. I'll put it in the queue
and we'll kind of flip through like a vending machine
and see what comes up. The first question here, subject
line says he doesn't want it like I do. Side
note here, I don't read these ahead of time. I'm
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not prepared. I don't have notes. I'm going blind, completely blind.
There's nothing on this table but the phone I'm using
to read the emails themselves. They come straight from you.
Let's get started here, says Hey Granger. My name is
Kaylin Jones, Keelan Jones. Let's say it that way. K
e y Li and Keelan Jones. I'm seventeen from South
Carolina and my whole life, me and my dad have
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not had the best relationship at all. My parents got
divorced when I was about eight years old, and at
first they stayed friends. Then he got married and all
of that changed. He changed. I ended up quitting baseball
because I realized we didn't have a relationship if it
wasn't through that, so I started working. But after about
a month of him being remarried, about six months of
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him knowing her, he stood by and watched his new
wife disrespect his mother. Fast forward seven years and he
still hasn't said a word to them and talks about
about my mom any chance he got. The last time
I spoke to him, we got into it and he
told me to get out of my house and you're
fired from both your jobs. Then I wasn't welcomed back.
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I post myself riding bulls, and he recently a few months,
after a few months of not even reaching out at all,
text me and says that I'm starting to get good.
I'm assuming at riding bulls, and he misses me. What
should I do? All right, Kielan, appreciate your emailing brother
and man seventeen years old. I'm so sorry that this
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is your world and that this is your dad and
your relationship with your dad and your family. It just
it feels mixed up for you. I want to tell
you that you're not alone. A lot of people listening
are in a similar situation, similar kind of story. This
is not This doesn't surprise me. I should say it
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that way. When I read this, I'm not surprised by
a story like yours in a fallen world in twenty
twenty three. Okay. That doesn't make it better, that doesn't
make it easier. It just simply allows you to know
that you're not abnormal, you're not different, you're not unlucky
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at all. Okay, so what do you do? That's your question?
What do you do? You got this dad, and he
he left you. Looks like when you're eight years old,
your parents got divorced, he got remarried, and it's been
rocky ever since. It was a long time ago, right,
that was nine years ago, and you're trying to figure
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out do you respond to him now because he's hurt
you and he's put you in awkward situations, he's disrespected
your family. Should you reach back out because he saw
you bull riding and said you're getting good and you
message it? Should you just ignore him? I think that's
part of your question, right, Should I just ignore dad?
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He's brought so much pain to my family? Is this
a point when I'm seventeen right now to Is this
a point where I just gonna I'm gonna cut ties
with this? Would it surprised you if I said, no,
don't do that. It's hard. Being seventeen is hard enough.
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Having a man's problem at seventeen is harder. And that's
what this is. Brother. You gotta you gotta see this
for what it is. This is an adult problem and
you're needing to deal with it. So how do you
do it? What would a man do in this kind
of situation? What would a man of integrity do in
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this kind of situation? Those of that have that have
listened to this podcast for a long time, No, probably
you're starting to get to know a little bit. You know,
after one hundred and eighty three episodes, you could probably
recognize similar patterns in what I say. But the right
thing to do, and Keelan is forgive him I think
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it was last episode I said you don't have to
maybe two. You don't have to trust him. There's a
difference between trust and forgiveness. But you gotta forgive him.
You gotta love him, even though you feel like you shouldn't,
even like you feel like you can't forgive him. You
just say, Dad, I miss you too, man. I appreciate
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you reaching out. And that's first of all, that's gonna
surprise him to be like, wow, what And and you say, Dad,
can we talk? And you be honest with you? And
you say, Dad, I'm being honest with you here. I've
been upset the last few years. I haven't appreciated how
you treated the family. I haven't appreciated how you treated
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your mum and my mom. It's been hard on me.
It's you know, I try to I try to have
this teenage life and and try to go through all
these trials, and it's tough without having the approval of
a dad. But this is Kilan, This is that part's easy.
Here's where you become a man. Here's the integrity part.
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But Dad, but I haven't been that. I haven't been
the best either. I've said some things I regret I've
done some things I probably shouldn't. I've disrespected you, Dad,
in a way that I should be honoring to you.
Not because you've earned it or because you've done things
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along my life that have earned that respect, but but
because you're my dad, because you're my elder, I need
to honor you. And I've failed at that, Dad, I've
failed in listening and unders standing your side of the
story I I I have. I've disrespected you and dishonored
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you in many ways, and I want to know how
I could fix that with you. I want to know
how I could make this better and data. I know
things aren't going to be great, and I know we
both got to work on some things, but I'm not
I'm not worried about what you need to do for us.
I need you to tell me how you want me
to act towards you, now, Kiln. These are expressions of
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the heart, These are expressions of humility and submission. And
and you're gonna come under his authority in this way.
But this this doesn't mean that you're gonna be weak.
It doesn't mean you're you're you're gonna have to trust
everything that this man says. You don't have to trust him.
You don't have to fulfill promises that he wants you
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to make to him. This is this is just an
act of falling under uh a way to honor him
as your biological father. And if he says, son, I
need you to do this and this and this and this,
and he just comes after you with just ridiculous things,
you say, Wow, okay, that's a lot of stuff, Dad,
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And I want to be able to honor you in
these ways, and so let's be let's be reasonable about
where I could start, because I want to start small.
But I want to do this right. Okay. So you
notice that there's no right or wrong answer to what
you say. Besides, your posture is just a posture of
forgiveness and love towards your dad. This is irrelevant to
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how he responds to it. So he might say, I
forget you kid, you're a punk, you're a punk kid,
I've never liked you, blah blah blah blah blah blah.
You know, he could be as mean as possible, And
you go, Man, it hurts to hear you say that, Dad,
But I want to tell you that that still doesn't
make that doesn't change that I'm your son and you're
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my dad, and I forgive you. It'd be very difficult
for him to continue on in the path if you
keep that up. It would be very difficult for him
to be upset with you if you keep that up.
You hear what I'm saying, Yes, sir Kieling, It's not easy, man.
I'm sorry you're in this kind of situation. But fighting him,
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ignoring him, regretting him, wishing he wasn't your father, hating him,
envying him, being jealous of it, whatever, is not the
right way You could try those things. It will only
end up back in my inbox again, I promise you.
(09:45):
All right, Come on, guys, let's get a good one here,
just like we're riding in the truck. How about this one?
Subdecline says, please please help me. Hey, Grandrid like to
stay anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. I'm a woman
who's been single for three years waiting for a godly man.
I feel like I could marry. I believe I found him,
and we have talked about marriage. We align on everything
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except one thing, drinking alcohol. He doesn't drink and I
do occasionally. I've asked if we can compromise and I
could drink but not ever get drunk. This feels borderline
toxic and controlling to me. The bottom line is alcoholism
runs in my family, and he fears I might prey
on him like that in the feure. Okay, I'm gonna
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stop right there. I'm not even gonna read the arrest
of the email. Okay, alcoholism runs in your family. You're
the man that you love hopes that you don't drink.
Don't drink, don't drink. I'm not there's no need to
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read the the rest of the email. And I could
talk about this for fifteen minutes. Don't drink. It's hereditary
for you. The man that you love, that you want
to marry, that's his hang up. Can you sacrifice that
to him? Can you give him that? Can you say yeah,
if you are that serious about it, and you're right
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it runs in my family, then yeah, you are worth it.
You're worth it. Don't drink. Next question, subject line says
how do I move on from him? Hey, Grande, I'm
eighteen years old. I'm a young man from a small
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town in Colorado. I work sixty hours a week. I'm
a part time student attending an online college taking a
business class in entrepreneurship. Church is still somewhat new to me,
along with living a spiritual life. My parents divorced for
twelve years. Family is not religious at all, which could
be one of the many struggles of mine. Recently, I've
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put all the focus on myself and pushed myself to
achieve the many dreams I have in life. This has
led me to losing good friends. However, my dad, a
lifelong alcoholic, has quite the opposite mindset from me. My
dad blacks out each night from drinking and still has
not learned his lesson from the numerous DUIs in jail time.
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He often tries to bring me down and shut my
dreams of being the owner of my own business. I
struggle to keep my head up in this environment. I
call home and him always disrespecting me. And then in
caps are in bold letters. You then typed I want
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to earn his respect, but it may not be possible.
How should I keep the focus on myself instead of
his negativity? Okay, this letter comes from Tristan. I'm gonna
recap for myself since this is new to me. You're eighteen, Colorado, Tristan,
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you are a very diligent worker and an online college student.
You got an alcoholic dad who has just tore you
down mentally, and you just want to earn his respect,
and you feel like you can't move on until you
get your father's respect. This is a natural psychologic thing, right.
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You have deep wounds from your parents being divorced. I
got I'm not I'm not a therapist here. I'm just
reading like a friend. Brother, reading like a friend here.
Let me read the part about churching and you said
church is still somewhat new to me along with living
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a spiritual life. I'm not into any of that stuff, Tristan.
I'm not into living a spiritual life. I'm not into
checking out church. That's not for me. I think if
you're going to be if you're going to try to
live a spiritual life or try to check out church
and stuff, I think there's better things you could do
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on a Sunday. I think like watching the Dallas Cowboys
play the Broncos on a Sunday is a better use
of your time than checking out a spiritual life. That's
my opinion. But if you want to know your creator,
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if you want to know the God of the universe,
that demands that you respond to his son, whom he
sent on to this earth, who suffered, died on the cross,
became a substitution for your sins in a way that
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you could never repay, and a death that you could
never owe in a sentence, a judgment that only means
death for you, with no way out and no form
of bail. If you want to know him as he
was resurrected from this death and a substitution for your sin.
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And he says repent, which means turn away from your
old life, shed yourself, deny yourself, all this stuff that
you have written about me. Me, me, I'm trying to
focus on myself, pushing myself. I want to respect myself.
I want to focus And you said it again in
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the last I want to focus on myself. If you
want to shed yourself and deny yourself and repent and
turn to Christ, to your King, to the one that
died for you, and believe that he died for you,
if that's if that's something that sparks something deep within you,
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then there is no spiritual life, there is no checking
out church. It's then it becomes your family, it becomes
your life. You no longer live for yourself. You no
longer work for yourself, You no longer need respect from
yourself or from your alcoholic father, or you know, no
longer need to earn any kind of big feelings and
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respectful emotions for yourself. You die to yourself and you
turn to Christ. If that sparks your interest, that's what
I'm talking about. Oh, by the way, and he says,
if you don't, you will die in your sins. That's it.
There isn't another way. He says, I am the way.
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He says. No one comes to the Father but by me,
And no one comes to the Father unless you die
to yourself and turn to him and follow him. That's
what he says. That's what the Bible says. And the
Bible's trustworthy. It's twenty twenty three. We could trust the Bible.
So if you want, if you want to dabble in
a spiritual life, I mean, I ain't gonna work. You'd
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be better off watching the Dallas Cowboys and the Denver
Broncos and sitting on the couch eating popcorn. You'd have
a better life doing that. But it's going to be
the best life now because the next one ain't. Maybe
this email caught me at the wrong time. Tristan, hear
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my call, brother, repent and believe in your king. He
is victorious. He sits on the throne right now, and
he demands that everyone turned from their sins, deny themselves,
stop thinking about yourself, stop earning things for yourself, stop it,
and say God, I surrender to you, my creator. You're
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in control your sovereign. I trust you, and you'll be saved.
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All right, back to the podcast. I am recording this
pre recording this at night, and I'm kind of realizing
as I took that break that my answers at night,
late at night are probably gonna be different than earlier
in the morning. With a cup of coffee, I might
be a little sweeter, a little chippier, little a little brighter,
a little quicker in the morning with some coffee, and
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then I might be a little a little less patient
on my nighttime recorded podcast. So episode one three, let
it be known this is nighttime. I might cut you
off in the middle of a question like I've done
already once. Oh, I'm sorry. Both sides of me are true.
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This side is real. The morning the morning version of
me is real, and the evening version is real. You're
just gonna get a different part of the spectrum. Okay,
next question here, subject line is Bible. Hey, Granger recently
started listening to your podcast and I'm hooked. I love
how you're so open about religion and how God has
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helped you and your family and so much in life.
My question is, as someone who's never really read the Bible,
maybe just skimmed through, what version would you recommend for
the first time reader? Thank you. Great question comes from
Nicholas and man Man, what an awesome question. And I'm
happy to walk you through this because I once I
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would see everybody, everybody at one point was new to
the Bible at some point in their life, and most
likely the very beginning of everyone's journey. They were a skimmer.
They just skimmed through it. You kind of look at
it like a dictionary or an encyclopedia or like the
Sourus or something. You just you go, well, I mean,
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surely it doesn't start at the beginning, and so I'll
just kind of skim through. I know people like have
verses written on their t shirts and coffee mugs and
picture frames, and so maybe that's just what you do,
is you kind of flip through and you look for
a subject that you might want to be dealing with here,
and you need an answer from and you just find
it that way, that maybe how it starts for you,
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but that's not how it's going to end. The Bible
is meant to be taken in context, meaning there is
a storyline that starts at the beginning and goes all
the way to the end. And this is a thread
and the redemption story of a people and a God
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that redeemed his people even when they were not worthy
of it. It's essentially a love story. It's the story
of a God. They're created a people and the peace.
People rebelled and God gave them a law and they
rejected it. And he gave them people, which we call prophets,
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to come and tell them the law to reinforce it.
And they killed the prophets. And he sent his son,
the most valuable resource on the planet, to redeem this people,
to gather them. He lived a perfect life, and he
was killed by the people, just like they killed the prophets.
They rebelled from the beginning, and we still rebel today.
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But in his death he resurrected, being the first one
to achieve victory over death. The son of God, the
son of Man, the son of David, Jesus resurrected on
the third Day, and through that sacrifice redeemed the people
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gathered him as a hen gathers her chicks, and saved
them even when they're not worthy of it. Not all
of them, the ones that turn to him in repentance
and belief through faith, he saves them by grace through faith.
That's the story from beginning to end. And it's just
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woven the most beautiful literary stories, woven together for thousands
of years, forty different authors, fifteen hundred years, sixty six
books written by eyewitnesses, and the presence of other eyewitnesses,
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redeeming and fulfilling prophecies for thousands of years. It's the
most widely read and the most widely sold book of
all time. It is the book of all books. There
is nothing ever that has ever come close to it.
And we now have evidence through archaeological digs over twenty
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five five thousand fragments of the original Bibles, pieces of
these scriptures of different books. It's that's the loose story.
It's it's unbelievable. But that's not none of that is
what you asked. You asked, what version would you recommend
the first time readers. That's a great question. It's a
legitimate question. So I told you that there's these we
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have miles mile high, if you stacked them on top
of each other, mile high manuscripts that we have dug up,
we've found and we've put together, so we The Bible
is primarily in Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic. So through those
three languages, a lot of them were translated to Latin,
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and then from Latin to or like from the Hebrew
to Latin, from the Greek to Latin, sometimes from the
Hebrew to Greek, and and so we've usually taken that
Latin and then some people have made into English. We
don't do that anymore. The modern translations now go straight
back to the Greek or straight back to the Hebrew.
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So there is no middleman. There's no maybe this translation
moved into this one to this one, to this one
to this one, and then it was like in this
game of telephone, where eventually it just is like a
muddled version of what might have happened. No, now we
go straight back to all the way to the Greek.
And they were doing this since the King James. But
you go all the way back to the original manuscripts
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first century, second century, third century and they all line up,
they all match, and if it didn't, then you could
easily find a new manuscript and go, look that part
that's different. So we need to reconcile. This part is
different right here. I love this stuff. You don't need
this for your faith, you don't need to believe it
in this way. But I just like the history of
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the Bible. I just genuinely enjoy this kind of stuff.
And so my point is the ESV, the CSV, n IV,
the NASB, the King James. There's there was many many
different versions. I say many many. There there's seven eight
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nine great versions. And usually on every version you could
you could do a you could do a Wikipedia search
on this. Honestly, you could find a version like the
n i V. Start there. They take the n IV.
I read the ESV, my for my morning read. I
read the CSB. So find one like the n IV
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and wiki it right and you could see that it's
written by a committee of scholars one hundred or so.
And they come together and they study. They study the Greek,
they study how it was originally translated from Greek to Latin.
They see if that was okay, then then they see
how did the Latin, go into English, and then they
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test what they read from the Greek, and then what
they read from the Hebrew, and they go to the
Geneva Bible and they look at the Old KJV, and
so they're cross referencing. I mean, this stuff is accurate.
You can't go wrong, and you're gonna see different words.
Some versions are word by word, some versions are thought
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by thought. You could see all this probably in the
Wikipedia version, and then you could read it, and no
truths throughout these different translations are lost. It's the same thing,
it's a different way of saying the same thing. And
so what I usually recommend for this question is to
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several I use an app called Lagos Lgos, and my
devotional reading in the morning, I'm reading a plan called
the Mixshame Plan. So that gets me through four chapters
every morning. It gets me through the whole Bible, excuse me,
the Old Testament once, the New Testament twice, and the
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Psalms twice in a year. So as I'm reading that,
I switch translations, and if I'm ever studying a part,
especially if I'm studying apart a section of Perickapee of
the Bible of the Gospel. Then else I could quickly
swipe on logos back and forth to different translations. So
it's like, oh, the ESV said that, come to me,
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all you who are weary and heavy laden. I think
it's the ESV, come to me, all you who are
weary and heavy ladened. And then you go to the
NIV and it says, come to me all you who
are weary and burdened. It's like, oh, cool, weary and
heavy ladened versus weary and burdened. And then you can go,
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what does the KJV say? It's so interesting. So then
you just swipe back and forth and you can go
to these different versions and never will you find a
spot ever when a main, major truth is lost in
that kind of different translation. Okay, so that's how you'll
build your own trust. There's there's gonna be people that go,
no way, man, the KJV. This only way, King James,
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is the only way. Well my argument to that is,
I don't speak Old English, do you? I don't, So
I appreciate the KJV. I read the ees V because
it's the same as the KJV, the same without the
these and thousand ye's and those whatever, and if ever
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in doubt. You just swipe back. Do you get my point?
There's not a there's not a right translation. Now, there's
a lot of religions like Jeovah's Witnesses, Jesus Christ, Latter
day Saints, Church of Jesus Christ. They always make me
want to say the whole thing, Church of Jesus Christ,
the latter to say, they're gonna say no, like the
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Jeovah's Witnesses are gonna say no, it's the New World
translation translated by one man and the nineteenth century. The
Mormons are gonna say no, only kjav is the best translation,
because they say, we believe the Bible as long as
it's translated correctly. But it's not all correct, and so
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then they're gonna think that there's a lot there's still
truths that are lost in there. It's twenty twenty three.
That's totally debunked. We've completely debunked that is that argument
is over. It's a nineteenth century argument. We know that
truths are not lost. We could trace ancient writings all
the way back. We through archaeology, through through literature. We
could trace that. Hey, you can't prove that the apostles
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are speaking truth. But you can prove that what the
apostles said still is preserved today and we believe by
faith that it is truth. Okay, but we could prove that, yes,
what the apostle said has still been preserved. Besides, Jesus
said that it would be This is a long this
is a long answer. But welcome to the journey, brother,
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Welcome to the journey. Let's go to this next one
subject line says random breakup. Hey, Grandere'd like to remain anonymous.
My boyfriend of almost five months randomly broke up with
me over FaceTime while we're doing long distance for a
couple months over the summer. He was getting ready to
come back in two weeks when he broke up with me.
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I don't understand why, because everything was so fine between
us and then one day it wasn't. I feel like
I was blindsided. I loved him so much and still do.
He said he was going through some struggles and he
should have told me about this stuff early on, and
he needed time to become a better person, both mentally
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and spiritually. He was such a great example of what
a true Christian guy should be like, and his family
was the best. It's been two months since the breakup,
and I'm still not over him. I'm scared that I
won't find anyone better because I can imagine anyone better
than him. We had the same morals, beliefs, and standards.
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He set my standard so high and it was exactly
what I wanted. I don't know if I should move
on or just wait things out. Okay, Anonymous, your boyfriend,
let's walk through it, just from my own brain. Your
boyfriend of five months randomly broke up with you over FaceTime.
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You were a long distance couple, and you're doing that
over the summer. He's getting ready to come back. Okay,
you're blindsided. You say you loved him so much. It's
been two months. That was what I was looking for.
It's been two months since the breakup, and you're still
not over him. This is not hard, Anonymous. I'm sorry
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for your breakup, but this is not hard. Two months
is not long enough, that's it. Five months is not
long enough for you to be having these this crazy
feeling yet. Okay, So so that's gonna make it easier.
You're gonna realize soon that it was only five months.
If it was five years, it would be different. I'm
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not downplaying your your loss. I'm not downplaying your pain.
I'm just saying it's gonna help you, because that's gonna
be make things a little easier. The cut is not
as deep as you might think because it was only
five months. But the problem with your email, the problem
with your question is it's only been two months since
the breakup. Two months is not long enough for you
to be feeling better. It could be, but it's not.
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You loved him, You thought he was the one you
were all in and he wasn't the guy. He dumped you.
He blindsided you. He gave you some lame excuses that
he needed to become a better person mentally and spiritually.
It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie. He
was sincere about it. I'm not saying he's a bad guy.
I'm not saying that he was the wrong answer. He's
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just coming up with stuff it doesn't even make sense.
He wants to be better mentally, in spiritually. And right
after that, you say he was an example of a
true Christian. I don't buy it. Hindsight's twenty twenty. He
wasn't that he came up with a lame excuse to
break up with you. I don't like that excuse. He
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probably found somebody, or he just realized he didn't love you.
This podcast is just I'm never going to be the
kind of guy on this podcast. It's gonna say, oh, sweetheart,
I'm so sorry, you deserve better, or he probably loves
you and you just need to be faithful and he'll
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come back. I'm not not me. I must say he
didn't love you. He came up with the lame excuse.
And it's only been two months. You'll get over him.
It'll get better in the meantime. Block him on social media,
block his number, block his email. I'm serious. It's not
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that you hate him, it's not that you're being rude.
You just you got to protect your heart. Now his
true colors have been shown once again. Not that he's
a bad guy, but he's shown that he doesn't love you.
Clearly he does not love you. He's confused, he might
have found somebody else. So block him to protect yourself
in case there's a rebound, in case this new girl
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he's with doesn't work out and he decides to come
back to you. You have protected yourself because now his
true colors have been revealed. If then he wants to
truly find you. He will. He's going to find you
in another way besides phone and Facebook. He will if
it's right. But in the meantime, protect your heart. You
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need to let time go by. How long? I'm reading
a book right now called how Long, Oh Lord? Reflections
on suffering? But four months, five months, eight months, could
be eight months. That means you got six more, could
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be next week. It's going to depend on how deep
the wound is. But you will get better. You will
get over him if you don't start the cycle over
again by reaching out to him and having coffee, and
then it starts you back at zero. Okay, it just
hasn't been long enough. Let it go by. Love you guys,
See you next Monday. Gee, thanks for joining me on
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This doesn't surprise me. I should say it that way.
When I read this, I'm not surprised by a story
like yours in a fallen world in twenty twenty three,
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what's up, everybody. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast, Episode
one hundred and eighty three. Thank you for being here.
The format of this podcast, if you're new to it,
is I answer your questions, and there's not a certain
subject I ask for. It could be about anything. Email
me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll put
it in the queue. And I've got a lot to read.
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I will never ever get to all of the questions,
but send it in. I'll put it in the queue
and we'll kind of flip through like a vending machine
and see what comes up. The first question here, subject
line says he doesn't want it like I do. Side
note here, I don't read these ahead of time. I'm
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not prepared. I don't have notes. I'm going blind, completely blind.
There's nothing on this table but the phone I'm using
to read the emails themselves. They come straight from you.
Let's get started here, says Hey Granger. My name is
Kaylin Jones, Keelan Jones. Let's say it that way. K
e y Li and Keelan Jones. I'm seventeen from South
Carolina and my whole life, me and my dad have
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not had the best relationship at all. My parents got
divorced when I was about eight years old, and at
first they stayed friends. Then he got married and all
of that changed. He changed. I ended up quitting baseball
because I realized we didn't have a relationship if it
wasn't through that, so I started working. But after about
a month of him being remarried, about six months of
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him knowing her, he stood by and watched his new
wife disrespect his mother. Fast forward seven years and he
still hasn't said a word to them and talks about
about my mom any chance he got. The last time
I spoke to him, we got into it and he
told me to get out of my house and you're
fired from both your jobs. Then I wasn't welcomed back.
(02:09):
I post myself riding bulls, and he recently a few months,
after a few months of not even reaching out at all,
text me and says that I'm starting to get good.
I'm assuming at riding bulls, and he misses me. What
should I do? All right, Kielan, appreciate your emailing brother
and man seventeen years old. I'm so sorry that this
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is your world and that this is your dad and
your relationship with your dad and your family. It just
it feels mixed up for you. I want to tell
you that you're not alone. A lot of people listening
are in a similar situation, similar kind of story. This
is not This doesn't surprise me. I should say it
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that way. When I read this, I'm not surprised by
a story like yours in a fallen world in twenty
twenty three. Okay. That doesn't make it better, that doesn't
make it easier. It just simply allows you to know
that you're not abnormal, you're not different, you're not unlucky
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at all. Okay, so what do you do? That's your question?
What do you do? You got this dad, and he
he left you. Looks like when you're eight years old,
your parents got divorced, he got remarried, and it's been
rocky ever since. It was a long time ago, right,
that was nine years ago, and you're trying to figure
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out do you respond to him now because he's hurt
you and he's put you in awkward situations, he's disrespected
your family. Should you reach back out because he saw
you bull riding and said you're getting good and you
message it? Should you just ignore him? I think that's
part of your question, right, Should I just ignore dad?
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He's brought so much pain to my family? Is this
a point when I'm seventeen right now to Is this
a point where I just gonna I'm gonna cut ties
with this? Would it surprised you if I said, no,
don't do that. It's hard. Being seventeen is hard enough.
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Having a man's problem at seventeen is harder. And that's
what this is. Brother. You gotta you gotta see this
for what it is. This is an adult problem and
you're needing to deal with it. So how do you
do it? What would a man do in this kind
of situation? What would a man of integrity do in
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this kind of situation? Those of that have that have
listened to this podcast for a long time, No, probably
you're starting to get to know a little bit. You know,
after one hundred and eighty three episodes, you could probably
recognize similar patterns in what I say. But the right
thing to do, and Keelan is forgive him I think
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it was last episode I said you don't have to
maybe two. You don't have to trust him. There's a
difference between trust and forgiveness. But you gotta forgive him.
You gotta love him, even though you feel like you shouldn't,
even like you feel like you can't forgive him. You
just say, Dad, I miss you too, man. I appreciate
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you reaching out. And that's first of all, that's gonna
surprise him to be like, wow, what And and you say, Dad,
can we talk? And you be honest with you? And
you say, Dad, I'm being honest with you here. I've
been upset the last few years. I haven't appreciated how
you treated the family. I haven't appreciated how you treated
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your mum and my mom. It's been hard on me.
It's you know, I try to I try to have
this teenage life and and try to go through all
these trials, and it's tough without having the approval of
a dad. But this is Kilan, This is that part's easy.
Here's where you become a man. Here's the integrity part.
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But Dad, but I haven't been that. I haven't been
the best either. I've said some things I regret I've
done some things I probably shouldn't. I've disrespected you, Dad,
in a way that I should be honoring to you.
Not because you've earned it or because you've done things
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along my life that have earned that respect, but but
because you're my dad, because you're my elder, I need
to honor you. And I've failed at that, Dad, I've
failed in listening and unders standing your side of the
story I I I have. I've disrespected you and dishonored
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you in many ways, and I want to know how
I could fix that with you. I want to know
how I could make this better and data. I know
things aren't going to be great, and I know we
both got to work on some things, but I'm not
I'm not worried about what you need to do for us.
I need you to tell me how you want me
to act towards you, now, Kiln. These are expressions of
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the heart, These are expressions of humility and submission. And
and you're gonna come under his authority in this way.
But this this doesn't mean that you're gonna be weak.
It doesn't mean you're you're you're gonna have to trust
everything that this man says. You don't have to trust him.
You don't have to fulfill promises that he wants you
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to make to him. This is this is just an
act of falling under uh a way to honor him
as your biological father. And if he says, son, I
need you to do this and this and this and this,
and he just comes after you with just ridiculous things,
you say, Wow, okay, that's a lot of stuff, Dad,
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And I want to be able to honor you in
these ways, and so let's be let's be reasonable about
where I could start, because I want to start small.
But I want to do this right. Okay. So you
notice that there's no right or wrong answer to what
you say. Besides, your posture is just a posture of
forgiveness and love towards your dad. This is irrelevant to
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how he responds to it. So he might say, I
forget you kid, you're a punk, you're a punk kid,
I've never liked you, blah blah blah blah blah blah.
You know, he could be as mean as possible, And
you go, Man, it hurts to hear you say that, Dad,
But I want to tell you that that still doesn't
make that doesn't change that I'm your son and you're
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my dad, and I forgive you. It'd be very difficult
for him to continue on in the path if you
keep that up. It would be very difficult for him
to be upset with you if you keep that up.
You hear what I'm saying, Yes, sir Kieling, It's not easy, man.
I'm sorry you're in this kind of situation. But fighting him,
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ignoring him, regretting him, wishing he wasn't your father, hating him,
envying him, being jealous of it, whatever, is not the
right way You could try those things. It will only
end up back in my inbox again, I promise you.
(09:45):
All right, Come on, guys, let's get a good one here,
just like we're riding in the truck. How about this one?
Subdecline says, please please help me. Hey, Grandrid like to
stay anonymous. I'm twenty four years old. I'm a woman
who's been single for three years waiting for a godly man.
I feel like I could marry. I believe I found him,
and we have talked about marriage. We align on everything
(10:09):
except one thing, drinking alcohol. He doesn't drink and I
do occasionally. I've asked if we can compromise and I
could drink but not ever get drunk. This feels borderline
toxic and controlling to me. The bottom line is alcoholism
runs in my family, and he fears I might prey
on him like that in the feure. Okay, I'm gonna
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stop right there. I'm not even gonna read the arrest
of the email. Okay, alcoholism runs in your family. You're
the man that you love hopes that you don't drink.
Don't drink, don't drink. I'm not there's no need to
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read the the rest of the email. And I could
talk about this for fifteen minutes. Don't drink. It's hereditary
for you. The man that you love, that you want
to marry, that's his hang up. Can you sacrifice that
to him? Can you give him that? Can you say yeah,
if you are that serious about it, and you're right
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it runs in my family, then yeah, you are worth it.
You're worth it. Don't drink. Next question, subject line says
how do I move on from him? Hey, Grande, I'm
eighteen years old. I'm a young man from a small
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town in Colorado. I work sixty hours a week. I'm
a part time student attending an online college taking a
business class in entrepreneurship. Church is still somewhat new to me,
along with living a spiritual life. My parents divorced for
twelve years. Family is not religious at all, which could
be one of the many struggles of mine. Recently, I've
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put all the focus on myself and pushed myself to
achieve the many dreams I have in life. This has
led me to losing good friends. However, my dad, a
lifelong alcoholic, has quite the opposite mindset from me. My
dad blacks out each night from drinking and still has
not learned his lesson from the numerous DUIs in jail time.
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He often tries to bring me down and shut my
dreams of being the owner of my own business. I
struggle to keep my head up in this environment. I
call home and him always disrespecting me. And then in
caps are in bold letters. You then typed I want
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to earn his respect, but it may not be possible.
How should I keep the focus on myself instead of
his negativity? Okay, this letter comes from Tristan. I'm gonna
recap for myself since this is new to me. You're eighteen, Colorado, Tristan,
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you are a very diligent worker and an online college student.
You got an alcoholic dad who has just tore you
down mentally, and you just want to earn his respect,
and you feel like you can't move on until you
get your father's respect. This is a natural psychologic thing, right.
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You have deep wounds from your parents being divorced. I
got I'm not I'm not a therapist here. I'm just
reading like a friend. Brother, reading like a friend here.
Let me read the part about churching and you said
church is still somewhat new to me along with living
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a spiritual life. I'm not into any of that stuff, Tristan.
I'm not into living a spiritual life. I'm not into
checking out church. That's not for me. I think if
you're going to be if you're going to try to
live a spiritual life or try to check out church
and stuff, I think there's better things you could do
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on a Sunday. I think like watching the Dallas Cowboys
play the Broncos on a Sunday is a better use
of your time than checking out a spiritual life. That's
my opinion. But if you want to know your creator,
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if you want to know the God of the universe,
that demands that you respond to his son, whom he
sent on to this earth, who suffered, died on the cross,
became a substitution for your sins in a way that
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you could never repay, and a death that you could
never owe in a sentence, a judgment that only means
death for you, with no way out and no form
of bail. If you want to know him as he
was resurrected from this death and a substitution for your sin.
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And he says repent, which means turn away from your
old life, shed yourself, deny yourself, all this stuff that
you have written about me. Me, me, I'm trying to
focus on myself, pushing myself. I want to respect myself.
I want to focus And you said it again in
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the last I want to focus on myself. If you
want to shed yourself and deny yourself and repent and
turn to Christ, to your King, to the one that
died for you, and believe that he died for you,
if that's if that's something that sparks something deep within you,
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then there is no spiritual life, there is no checking
out church. It's then it becomes your family, it becomes
your life. You no longer live for yourself. You no
longer work for yourself, You no longer need respect from
yourself or from your alcoholic father, or you know, no
longer need to earn any kind of big feelings and
(16:29):
respectful emotions for yourself. You die to yourself and you
turn to Christ. If that sparks your interest, that's what
I'm talking about. Oh, by the way, and he says,
if you don't, you will die in your sins. That's it.
There isn't another way. He says, I am the way.
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He says. No one comes to the Father but by me,
And no one comes to the Father unless you die
to yourself and turn to him and follow him. That's
what he says. That's what the Bible says. And the
Bible's trustworthy. It's twenty twenty three. We could trust the Bible.
So if you want, if you want to dabble in
a spiritual life, I mean, I ain't gonna work. You'd
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be better off watching the Dallas Cowboys and the Denver
Broncos and sitting on the couch eating popcorn. You'd have
a better life doing that. But it's going to be
the best life now because the next one ain't. Maybe
this email caught me at the wrong time. Tristan, hear
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my call, brother, repent and believe in your king. He
is victorious. He sits on the throne right now, and
he demands that everyone turned from their sins, deny themselves,
stop thinking about yourself, stop earning things for yourself, stop it,
and say God, I surrender to you, my creator. You're
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in control your sovereign. I trust you, and you'll be saved.
Let's take a break be read back. Thanks for listening
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(18:44):
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All right, back to the podcast. I am recording this
pre recording this at night, and I'm kind of realizing
as I took that break that my answers at night,
late at night are probably gonna be different than earlier
in the morning. With a cup of coffee, I might
be a little sweeter, a little chippier, little a little brighter,
a little quicker in the morning with some coffee, and
(19:31):
then I might be a little a little less patient
on my nighttime recorded podcast. So episode one three, let
it be known this is nighttime. I might cut you
off in the middle of a question like I've done
already once. Oh, I'm sorry. Both sides of me are true.
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This side is real. The morning the morning version of
me is real, and the evening version is real. You're
just gonna get a different part of the spectrum. Okay,
next question here, subject line is Bible. Hey, Granger recently
started listening to your podcast and I'm hooked. I love
how you're so open about religion and how God has
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helped you and your family and so much in life.
My question is, as someone who's never really read the Bible,
maybe just skimmed through, what version would you recommend for
the first time reader? Thank you. Great question comes from
Nicholas and man Man, what an awesome question. And I'm
happy to walk you through this because I once I
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would see everybody, everybody at one point was new to
the Bible at some point in their life, and most
likely the very beginning of everyone's journey. They were a skimmer.
They just skimmed through it. You kind of look at
it like a dictionary or an encyclopedia or like the
Sourus or something. You just you go, well, I mean,
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surely it doesn't start at the beginning, and so I'll
just kind of skim through. I know people like have
verses written on their t shirts and coffee mugs and
picture frames, and so maybe that's just what you do,
is you kind of flip through and you look for
a subject that you might want to be dealing with here,
and you need an answer from and you just find
it that way, that maybe how it starts for you,
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but that's not how it's going to end. The Bible
is meant to be taken in context, meaning there is
a storyline that starts at the beginning and goes all
the way to the end. And this is a thread
and the redemption story of a people and a God
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that redeemed his people even when they were not worthy
of it. It's essentially a love story. It's the story
of a God. They're created a people and the peace.
People rebelled and God gave them a law and they
rejected it. And he gave them people, which we call prophets,
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to come and tell them the law to reinforce it.
And they killed the prophets. And he sent his son,
the most valuable resource on the planet, to redeem this people,
to gather them. He lived a perfect life, and he
was killed by the people, just like they killed the prophets.
They rebelled from the beginning, and we still rebel today.
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But in his death he resurrected, being the first one
to achieve victory over death. The son of God, the
son of Man, the son of David, Jesus resurrected on
the third Day, and through that sacrifice redeemed the people
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gathered him as a hen gathers her chicks, and saved
them even when they're not worthy of it. Not all
of them, the ones that turn to him in repentance
and belief through faith, he saves them by grace through faith.
That's the story from beginning to end. And it's just
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woven the most beautiful literary stories, woven together for thousands
of years, forty different authors, fifteen hundred years, sixty six
books written by eyewitnesses, and the presence of other eyewitnesses,
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redeeming and fulfilling prophecies for thousands of years. It's the
most widely read and the most widely sold book of
all time. It is the book of all books. There
is nothing ever that has ever come close to it.
And we now have evidence through archaeological digs over twenty
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five five thousand fragments of the original Bibles, pieces of
these scriptures of different books. It's that's the loose story.
It's it's unbelievable. But that's not none of that is
what you asked. You asked, what version would you recommend
the first time readers. That's a great question. It's a
legitimate question. So I told you that there's these we
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have miles mile high, if you stacked them on top
of each other, mile high manuscripts that we have dug up,
we've found and we've put together, so we The Bible
is primarily in Greek, Hebrew and Aramaic. So through those
three languages, a lot of them were translated to Latin,
(24:45):
and then from Latin to or like from the Hebrew
to Latin, from the Greek to Latin, sometimes from the
Hebrew to Greek, and and so we've usually taken that
Latin and then some people have made into English. We
don't do that anymore. The modern translations now go straight
back to the Greek or straight back to the Hebrew.
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So there is no middleman. There's no maybe this translation
moved into this one to this one, to this one
to this one, and then it was like in this
game of telephone, where eventually it just is like a
muddled version of what might have happened. No, now we
go straight back to all the way to the Greek.
And they were doing this since the King James. But
you go all the way back to the original manuscripts
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first century, second century, third century and they all line up,
they all match, and if it didn't, then you could
easily find a new manuscript and go, look that part
that's different. So we need to reconcile. This part is
different right here. I love this stuff. You don't need
this for your faith, you don't need to believe it
in this way. But I just like the history of
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the Bible. I just genuinely enjoy this kind of stuff.
And so my point is the ESV, the CSV, n IV,
the NASB, the King James. There's there was many many
different versions. I say many many. There there's seven eight
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nine great versions. And usually on every version you could
you could do a you could do a Wikipedia search
on this. Honestly, you could find a version like the
n i V. Start there. They take the n IV.
I read the ESV, my for my morning read. I
read the CSB. So find one like the n IV
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and wiki it right and you could see that it's
written by a committee of scholars one hundred or so.
And they come together and they study. They study the Greek,
they study how it was originally translated from Greek to Latin.
They see if that was okay, then then they see
how did the Latin, go into English, and then they
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test what they read from the Greek, and then what
they read from the Hebrew, and they go to the
Geneva Bible and they look at the Old KJV, and
so they're cross referencing. I mean, this stuff is accurate.
You can't go wrong, and you're gonna see different words.
Some versions are word by word, some versions are thought
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by thought. You could see all this probably in the
Wikipedia version, and then you could read it, and no
truths throughout these different translations are lost. It's the same thing,
it's a different way of saying the same thing. And
so what I usually recommend for this question is to
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several I use an app called Lagos Lgos, and my
devotional reading in the morning, I'm reading a plan called
the Mixshame Plan. So that gets me through four chapters
every morning. It gets me through the whole Bible, excuse me,
the Old Testament once, the New Testament twice, and the
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Psalms twice in a year. So as I'm reading that,
I switch translations, and if I'm ever studying a part,
especially if I'm studying apart a section of Perickapee of
the Bible of the Gospel. Then else I could quickly
swipe on logos back and forth to different translations. So
it's like, oh, the ESV said that, come to me,
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all you who are weary and heavy laden. I think
it's the ESV, come to me, all you who are
weary and heavy ladened. And then you go to the
NIV and it says, come to me all you who
are weary and burdened. It's like, oh, cool, weary and
heavy ladened versus weary and burdened. And then you can go,
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what does the KJV say? It's so interesting. So then
you just swipe back and forth and you can go
to these different versions and never will you find a
spot ever when a main, major truth is lost in
that kind of different translation. Okay, so that's how you'll
build your own trust. There's there's gonna be people that go,
no way, man, the KJV. This only way, King James,
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is the only way. Well my argument to that is,
I don't speak Old English, do you? I don't, So
I appreciate the KJV. I read the ees V because
it's the same as the KJV, the same without the
these and thousand ye's and those whatever, and if ever
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in doubt. You just swipe back. Do you get my point?
There's not a there's not a right translation. Now, there's
a lot of religions like Jeovah's Witnesses, Jesus Christ, Latter
day Saints, Church of Jesus Christ. They always make me
want to say the whole thing, Church of Jesus Christ,
the latter to say, they're gonna say no, like the
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Jeovah's Witnesses are gonna say no, it's the New World
translation translated by one man and the nineteenth century. The
Mormons are gonna say no, only kjav is the best translation,
because they say, we believe the Bible as long as
it's translated correctly. But it's not all correct, and so
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then they're gonna think that there's a lot there's still
truths that are lost in there. It's twenty twenty three.
That's totally debunked. We've completely debunked that is that argument
is over. It's a nineteenth century argument. We know that
truths are not lost. We could trace ancient writings all
the way back. We through archaeology, through through literature. We
could trace that. Hey, you can't prove that the apostles
(30:38):
are speaking truth. But you can prove that what the
apostles said still is preserved today and we believe by
faith that it is truth. Okay, but we could prove that, yes,
what the apostle said has still been preserved. Besides, Jesus
said that it would be This is a long this
is a long answer. But welcome to the journey, brother,
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Welcome to the journey. Let's go to this next one
subject line says random breakup. Hey, Grandere'd like to remain anonymous.
My boyfriend of almost five months randomly broke up with
me over FaceTime while we're doing long distance for a
couple months over the summer. He was getting ready to
come back in two weeks when he broke up with me.
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I don't understand why, because everything was so fine between
us and then one day it wasn't. I feel like
I was blindsided. I loved him so much and still do.
He said he was going through some struggles and he
should have told me about this stuff early on, and
he needed time to become a better person, both mentally
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and spiritually. He was such a great example of what
a true Christian guy should be like, and his family
was the best. It's been two months since the breakup,
and I'm still not over him. I'm scared that I
won't find anyone better because I can imagine anyone better
than him. We had the same morals, beliefs, and standards.
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He set my standard so high and it was exactly
what I wanted. I don't know if I should move
on or just wait things out. Okay, Anonymous, your boyfriend,
let's walk through it, just from my own brain. Your
boyfriend of five months randomly broke up with you over FaceTime.
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You were a long distance couple, and you're doing that
over the summer. He's getting ready to come back. Okay,
you're blindsided. You say you loved him so much. It's
been two months. That was what I was looking for.
It's been two months since the breakup, and you're still
not over him. This is not hard, Anonymous. I'm sorry
(32:48):
for your breakup, but this is not hard. Two months
is not long enough, that's it. Five months is not
long enough for you to be having these this crazy
feeling yet. Okay, So so that's gonna make it easier.
You're gonna realize soon that it was only five months.
If it was five years, it would be different. I'm
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not downplaying your your loss. I'm not downplaying your pain.
I'm just saying it's gonna help you, because that's gonna
be make things a little easier. The cut is not
as deep as you might think because it was only
five months. But the problem with your email, the problem
with your question is it's only been two months since
the breakup. Two months is not long enough for you
to be feeling better. It could be, but it's not.
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You loved him, You thought he was the one you
were all in and he wasn't the guy. He dumped you.
He blindsided you. He gave you some lame excuses that
he needed to become a better person mentally and spiritually.
It's a lie. It's a lie. It's a lie. He
was sincere about it. I'm not saying he's a bad guy.
I'm not saying that he was the wrong answer. He's
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just coming up with stuff it doesn't even make sense.
He wants to be better mentally, in spiritually. And right
after that, you say he was an example of a
true Christian. I don't buy it. Hindsight's twenty twenty. He
wasn't that he came up with a lame excuse to
break up with you. I don't like that excuse. He
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probably found somebody, or he just realized he didn't love you.
This podcast is just I'm never going to be the
kind of guy on this podcast. It's gonna say, oh, sweetheart,
I'm so sorry, you deserve better, or he probably loves
you and you just need to be faithful and he'll
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come back. I'm not not me. I must say he
didn't love you. He came up with the lame excuse.
And it's only been two months. You'll get over him.
It'll get better in the meantime. Block him on social media,
block his number, block his email. I'm serious. It's not
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that you hate him, it's not that you're being rude.
You just you got to protect your heart. Now his
true colors have been shown once again. Not that he's
a bad guy, but he's shown that he doesn't love you.
Clearly he does not love you. He's confused, he might
have found somebody else. So block him to protect yourself
in case there's a rebound, in case this new girl
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he's with doesn't work out and he decides to come
back to you. You have protected yourself because now his
true colors have been revealed. If then he wants to
truly find you. He will. He's going to find you
in another way besides phone and Facebook. He will if
it's right. But in the meantime, protect your heart. You
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need to let time go by. How long? I'm reading
a book right now called how Long, Oh Lord? Reflections
on suffering? But four months, five months, eight months, could
be eight months. That means you got six more, could
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be next week. It's going to depend on how deep
the wound is. But you will get better. You will
get over him if you don't start the cycle over
again by reaching out to him and having coffee, and
then it starts you back at zero. Okay, it just
hasn't been long enough. Let it go by. Love you guys,
See you next Monday. Gee, thanks for joining me on
the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You
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