Havilah's Podcast

Today we're kicking off a brand new parenting series, and listen — it's not just about raising "good kids" or making sure you don't mess them up (because hello, no pressure, right?!). What if God’s plan for parenting is actually about transforming us just as much as it is about raising them? I’m sharing some real talk from my own life — the mess, the beauty, the discipleship happening inside of me while I'...

You guys—we made it! We’ve hit the fall season, and this one is all about the harvest. But here’s the thing: harvest doesn’t just mean abundance and celebration (though yes, we’re totally dancing on grapes over here 🍇). It also means transition—and that can feel a little unsettling. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like to truly reap what you've sown and how to celebrate, prepare, and stay grateful without getting ...

You guys—this one is for those of you who feel like you prayed for growth, said yes to the breakthrough, and now you're wondering, “Wait, why does it all feel harder?” In this episode, I’m diving into what summer looks like in your spiritual life. And spoiler: it’s not just sunshine and boat rides. It’s warfare, responsibility, and learning how to keep going when things get tough. I break down how to know if you're in a summer seas...

In this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to be in a spring season spiritually — and trust me, it’s not all butterflies and breakthroughs! I talk about how the very opportunities you’ve been praying for can also become distractions if you’re not careful. Just because a door opens doesn’t mean God’s asking you to walk through it. I’m sharing the PLANT acronym (you’ll love it!) and how to steward the season well, even whe...

In this episode, I’m diving into the spiritual season of winter—yep, that season nobody volunteers for but somehow always shows up. If you’ve ever felt like God’s ghosting you, like your prayers are hitting a wall, or like you’re stuck in a never-ending freeze, this one's for you. I share personal stories (yes, I’ve definitely been there), practical ways to stay rooted, and some survival hacks to help you not just endure but gr...

In this episode, we're kicking off a brand-new series all about spiritual seasons. Have you ever felt like your faith was thriving one moment and lifeless the next? You're not alone—it's totally normal! We’re diving deep into understanding the spiritual seasons of winter, spring, summer, and fall, and how each one has a unique purpose in your journey. I share my own story of navigating through a tough winter season and ...

Hey friends! In this episode, I’m sitting down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton to talk all about marriage—the real, raw, and sometimes messy journey of doing life together. We’re diving into what it looks like to build a strong foundation, navigate conflict with grace, and keep intimacy alive even in the busiest seasons. Jason and Lauren bring so much wisdom and honesty to the conversation, sharing their own experiences and practic...

In this episode, we're diving deep into the heart of marriage with Barry and Lori Byrne, the powerhouse couple behind Love After Marriage and Nothing Hidden Ministries. We’re talking about the real struggles, the tools for breakthrough, and why transparency is the key to a thriving marriage. Whether you’re married, engaged, or hoping to be, this conversation is packed with wisdom on intimacy, connection, and spiritual warfare i...

Hey friends! This week, we're diving deep into marriage—what makes it healthy, what challenges come up, and how to keep growing together. And I’m not doing it alone—Ben’s here! We’re getting real about our own journey, from the early struggles to the tools that transformed our relationship. We talk communication, intimacy, and the mindset shifts that made all the difference. Whether you're newly married, deep in the trenches, or ju...

Hey friends! Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that doesn’t get enough real talk in the church—dating, sex, and singleness. Yep, we’re going there! I’m sitting down with my friend Elles Maddry, who, along with her husband, leads Moral Revolution, an organization dedicated to helping people navigate healthy sexuality within faith. We’re unpacking everything from dating apps to setting boundaries, from purity culture to how to kn...

Wow, this episode was a deep one! I sat down with my friend Aaron to talk about a topic that so many struggle with but rarely discuss—porn. We unpacked why it’s not just about self-control but about deeper needs, how shame keeps people stuck, and what real freedom looks like. Aaron shared his personal journey, the science behind addiction, and practical steps for breaking free. Whether you’re dealing with this yourself, walking alo...

Today we’re diving deep into a topic that honestly, we don’t talk about enough—the science of sex. Last time, we covered the basics of healthy sexuality, and today, we’re taking it further. Did you know that sex isn’t just about the physical? There’s a biological, emotional, and even spiritual design behind it. We’re talking hormones, bonding, God’s intention, and why culture often gets it completely wrong. Plus, I break down the t...

Wow, this episode is going to be a powerful one! We're diving into a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—sex and sexuality. I know, I know, it’s not always an easy conversation, but that’s exactly why we need to have it. This month, we're unpacking what healthy sexuality looks like through a faith-filled lens, tackling big questions like intimacy, marriage, and even the tricky subjects like porn and shame. My goal? T...

In this episode, we dive into the power of attention and how it shapes our productivity and outcomes. I share personal insights and practical strategies for staying focused, avoiding distractions, and prioritizing what truly matters. Whether it’s tackling the one task you've been procrastinating on or learning how to set boundaries to protect your mental energy, these tips are game-changers. Plus, I reflect on how my journey of...

Are your assumptions secretly running the show? In this episode, we’re diving into how assumptions shape our decisions and relationships—often without us even realizing it. I share personal stories, like my old red convertible days, and explore how our minds love shortcuts (hello, confirmation bias!). Together, we’ll unpack practical ways to identify and challenge those sneaky thoughts holding you back, so you can reframe your pers...

This week on the podcast, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between our minds and bodies, exploring how intentional living can unlock your full potential. I’m sharing some of my favorite insights, practical tips, and even personal stories to show how things like sleep, exercise, and mindfulness can profoundly impact not just your mental clarity but your whole life. Plus, I’ll let you in on how tiny habits can lead to big...

Welcome back to the podcast! This week, we’re diving into an essential concept for the new year: moving from defense mode to discovery mode in our brains. I share insights from one of my favorite books, How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb, breaking down how our automatic and deliberate systems influence our responses to stress. We’ll explore practical ways to shift out of the fight, flight, or freeze mindset and into a space of...

Hey friends, welcome to a brand-new year and an exciting new series on Intentional Living! This month, we're diving into how to live with purpose by understanding how our brains work and how that impacts our choices, behaviors, and faith journey. I'll be sharing practical, actionable steps to help you align your thoughts with God's design and set priorities that actually stick. So, whether you're here to grow personally or as a lea...