Havilah's Podcast

This week, we’re talking about hitting a relational wall—you know, when you love the people in your life but also kind of can’t stand being around them? Yep, that one. It’s one of the hardest walls to face because we’re only half of the equation, and it can feel messy, exhausting, and honestly, pretty lonely. In this episode, I open up about how I’ve navigated relational shutdown, what Proverbs says about gentle answers (and why ge...

This week, we’re talking about what it feels like when your body hits a wall—when you’re doing all the things, but still feel like you’re dragging yourself through the day. I’ve been there. From chronic exhaustion to physical pain that forced me to stop everything, I’m sharing my own story of burnout and the wake-up call it gave me. If your body is waving the white flag, this is your reminder that it’s not betraying you—it’s beggin...

This week, we’re talking about hitting a mental wall—when your brain feels like it has 67 tabs open and half of them are buffering. You’re doing the things: sleeping, hydrating, showing up... and still, you're exhausted, foggy, and stuck in thought loops that won’t quit. I’ve been there too. In this episode, I share real strategies that help me when my brain taps out, from interrupting the spiral to brain-dumping everything on ...

This week, I’m kicking off a brand new series all about hitting the invisible walls in our lives—you know, the ones that show up out of nowhere and leave us stuck, exhausted, and wondering what just happened. I had a whole different plan for this month, but I hit one of those walls myself and knew we needed to talk about it. Whether it’s mental, spiritual, physical, or even environmental, these walls can sneak up on us and take us ...

This week, I’m talking about what it feels like to think you’ve missed your moment—like maybe God handed your calling to someone with a prettier feed or better timing. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling and spiraling, thinking “I should be further along by now,” you are not alone. I’ve been there. I share a personal story about a big opportunity I turned down, how it looked like I got left behind, and the truth God showed me a...

This week, I’m talking about something we don’t often say out loud—what happens when burnout starts to look spiritual? You know that moment where you’re still called, still committed, but your capacity feels like it got hit by a truck? Yep, we’re going there. I open up about my own experiences with soul fatigue, what Scripture really says about growing weary in well-doing, and how to recognize the signs before you hit that breaking...

Waiting on God can feel like watching water boil—slow, frustrating, and honestly, a little painful. In this episode, I get super real about what it’s like to be in a waiting season and the lies we start to believe when things don’t move fast enough. I share how God used my single years and silent seasons to build something in me that couldn’t be rushed. So if you’ve ever thought, “If God loved me, He’d answer,” or “Everyone else is...

In this episode, I open up about what it feels like when God goes silent—and how that silence can shake our faith to the core. If you've ever felt like your prayers are hitting the ceiling or like you're on “read” with heaven, you’re not alone. I talk about how silence doesn’t mean absence, and how divine delays are often God’s strategy to develop us in hidden places. I also share some honest reflections, practical tools for gettin...

Hey friends! I’m so glad you’re here for this parenting episode—it’s a special one because I’ve got my husband, Ben, joining me, and we’re diving into your top parenting questions. From navigating the dating convo with your kids (yes, even the 6-year-olds asking about boyfriends!) to figuring out when and how to discipline without losing your mind—we’re going there. We're not claiming to have it all figured out, but we’re shari...

Hey friends! This week on the podcast, I get to have a really special guest—my dad! We’re talking all about the power of a praying parent, especially when it feels like you can’t do anything else. If you’ve ever felt heartbroken watching your kids or grandkids wander away from God or unsure how to reach them as they grow, this episode is for you. My dad shares his wild testimony—from atheism to radical salvation—and how his mom’s p...

Hey friends — this episode is one of those raw, real conversations straight out of my own life, and honestly, I think you're going to feel so seen. I sat down with Jason and Lauren Vallotton and what started as a chat on marriage turned into me getting super honest about something I’ve been walking through as a mom of boys. We unpacked the tension of raising strong, healthy men while still holding space for your own heart as a ...

Today we're kicking off a brand new parenting series, and listen — it's not just about raising "good kids" or making sure you don't mess them up (because hello, no pressure, right?!). What if God’s plan for parenting is actually about transforming us just as much as it is about raising them? I’m sharing some real talk from my own life — the mess, the beauty, the discipleship happening inside of me while I'...

You guys—we made it! We’ve hit the fall season, and this one is all about the harvest. But here’s the thing: harvest doesn’t just mean abundance and celebration (though yes, we’re totally dancing on grapes over here 🍇). It also means transition—and that can feel a little unsettling. In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like to truly reap what you've sown and how to celebrate, prepare, and stay grateful without getting ...

You guys—this one is for those of you who feel like you prayed for growth, said yes to the breakthrough, and now you're wondering, “Wait, why does it all feel harder?” In this episode, I’m diving into what summer looks like in your spiritual life. And spoiler: it’s not just sunshine and boat rides. It’s warfare, responsibility, and learning how to keep going when things get tough. I break down how to know if you're in a summer seas...

In this episode, I’m diving into what it really means to be in a spring season spiritually — and trust me, it’s not all butterflies and breakthroughs! I talk about how the very opportunities you’ve been praying for can also become distractions if you’re not careful. Just because a door opens doesn’t mean God’s asking you to walk through it. I’m sharing the PLANT acronym (you’ll love it!) and how to steward the season well, even whe...

In this episode, I’m diving into the spiritual season of winter—yep, that season nobody volunteers for but somehow always shows up. If you’ve ever felt like God’s ghosting you, like your prayers are hitting a wall, or like you’re stuck in a never-ending freeze, this one's for you. I share personal stories (yes, I’ve definitely been there), practical ways to stay rooted, and some survival hacks to help you not just endure but gr...

In this episode, we're kicking off a brand-new series all about spiritual seasons. Have you ever felt like your faith was thriving one moment and lifeless the next? You're not alone—it's totally normal! We’re diving deep into understanding the spiritual seasons of winter, spring, summer, and fall, and how each one has a unique purpose in your journey. I share my own story of navigating through a tough winter season and ...