The One Question That Changes Everything in Therapy | ft. Elliott Connie HTS w/ DrG #408

THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Visit https://jaspr.co/DRG and use code DRG for $200 OFF for a limited time Go to birchliving.com/healthyself to get 20% OFF your Birch mattress, plus 2 free pillows. Sign up for our newsletter! https://drchristiangonzalez.com/newsletter/ Transformational healing happens when we stop rehashing past problems and start focusing intensely on what we want to become. Solution-focused therapy flips conventional approaches by asking "What do you want?" instead of "What's wrong?" creating immediate forward momentum toward desired change rather than endless analysis of trauma and dysfunction. In this groundbreaking episode, therapist Elliott Connie reveals how one revolutionary question transforms lives: "What are your best hopes from talking to me?" This instantly directs attention toward desired outcomes rather than problems. Human beings are programmed to move toward whatever they focus on - where you look, your life follows, just like drivers unconsciously steering toward accidents they're observing. We explore his approach on why problem-focused therapy keeps people stuck while solution-focused methods create exponential transformation.Hope isn't wishful thinking; it's the most practical tool that rewrites your entire life story. Be sure to like and subscribe to #HealThySelf Hosted by Doctor Christian Gonzalez N.D. Follow Doctor G on Instagram @doctor.gonzalez https://www.instagram.com/doctor.gonzalez/ About Our Guest: Elliott Connie, MA, LPC is a Texas-based psychotherapist and world-renowned expert in Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT). With over 15 years of clinical experience, he's the founder of The Solution Focused Universe and author of multiple books including "The Solution Focused Brief Therapy Diamond." Website: https://elliottconnie.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elliottspeaks/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliott-connie-852b787/ Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:04 - Elliott's Mental Health Superpowers and Core Philosophy 6:04 - The Breakfast Club Controversy: Reframing Child "Disrespect" 12:26 - From People Pleasing to Speaking Your Truth 16:04 - Why Traditional Therapy Keeps You Stuck in Problems 23:21 - The Power of "What Do You Want?" vs "What's Wrong?" 28:10 - Future-Focused Couples Therapy That Actually Works 35:39 - The 2020 Breakdown: When Hope Saved Everything 43:01 - Finding Hope in Dark Moments 46:00 - Facing Racism in the Mental Health Field 52:08 - Change Your Questions, Change Your Life