How Married Are You?

What do you do when your marriage feels like your biggest regret? 😔

This week, we hear from a husband who’s at his breaking point.
He says he can’t be himself around his wife.
He loves her, but he doesn’t like her—and after years of deception, emotional distance, and barely any intimacy, he’s not sure there’s anything left to fight for.

She's told some big time lies about about finances and debt.

They have major dif...

What if your family background feels like something you’ve had to escape—like you came from bad cloth—and now you’re trying to build a life from something new? 🧵

That’s the story behind this week’s email—from a man who cut ties with his manipulative, chaotic family and is now dating a woman whose family seems to have it all together.

Respectable. Traditional. “Good cloth.”

But the longer he’s around them, the more he noti...

This week’s email hits deep. A wife writes in, asking for advice on how to encourage her husband to go to therapy to address childhood trauma. But he’s resistant—and it’s not just personal… it’s cultural. 🌍🧠

Glen & Yvette open up about the stigma around therapy in Caribbean communities and how that resistance can impact marriages, healing, and connection. 🇯🇲💬

They also get real about their own journey with therapy—what helpe...

Sisters. Podcasts. Beef. And… a flying water bottle?! 🥴💥

This week, we’re diving into a wild email from a listener caught in some serious sister drama. Two sisters started a podcast together, but when one decided she was done, things got messy.

👉🏾 One sister wanted control.

👉🏾 The other was tired of being told what to do.

👉🏾 Then came the accusations—flaky, bossy, better-than-you vibes.

👉🏾 And yes, a water bottle got thrown (m...

Are all the husbands out here flopping… or are we just not hearing the whole story? 🤔💭

In this episode, we read another email from a wife who’s had it. Her man’s doing the bare minimum, communication is a mess, and she’s at her breaking point. But after reading a bunch of emails like this lately, we had to pause and ask: Is it really always the man? Or are we missing something?

We talk about how easy it is to misjudge a whole situa...

Sometimes you gotta move to find your peace. 🏡✨

Last year? Whew. It was a whole lot.

We moved out to the farm thinking it was gonna be this beautiful new chapter for our family… and listen — some of it was. 🌻 But some of it? Straight up survival mode. 💀Fast forward to now — we’re in Fallbrook.

And it finally feels like home. 🖤🌴

We’re breathing different. Living different. Smiling different.

God really knows how to set you up when y...

“My man only brushes his teeth once a week… and still wanna kiss me in the mouth?!” 😩🪥

This listener wrote in with a situation that had us both shook—and honestly?

Sis, you’re not asking for too much.

She’s pregnant 🤰🏾, in PJs most days, not feeling her cutest—and her husband is still calling her beautiful and trying to love on her real close.

The only problem? His breath is breathin’. 💨👃🏽

She’s brought it up, but he says brushin...

He gave up his best friend for love… but was it worth it? 💍💔And what do you do when marriage hits hard just four months in? 😬

In this episode, we’re diving into two real-life relationship updates that had us both nodding... and hollering. 😭😂

First up: remember the fiancé who asked her man to choose between her and his female best friend? 👀 Well—he called back with an update.Spoiler: there's a wedding date on the books 💒... but...

What do you do when God is the one exposing the truth in your marriage? 😳💔

In Episode 237, we’re diving into one of the wildest calls we’ve received yet. A woman finds out her husband has a hidden child, a secret past, and no desire to tell the truth—so God starts revealing it in her dreams. 👀

We talk trust, spiritual red flags, emotional safety, and the power of redemption—even when it feels impossible. Plus, what do you do when ...

Feeling like you’re always the bigger person in your relationship? The optimist, the problem solver, the one carrying all the weight? 😮‍💨

In this episode, we’re talking about how to handle that dynamic—how to keep going without burning out, set boundaries without resentment, and create balance in your relationship. Because love shouldn’t feel one-sided.

Tap in and let’s talk about it. 💬

Ever felt like you’re carrying more of the re...

Is he marriage material? 💍

In today’s episode, we tackle the question of whether emotional connection is enough to build a future. Her man is her best friend, they vibe as artists, but he’s a hermit who won’t make an effort for her social life, family, or future plans. 🧐

Yvette and Glen break down what she should be asking herself and him—and share how misalignment showed up in their own relationship.

🎤 How do you know when...

Worried your wedding night might be whack? 😩

One listener wrote in with a big concern—she’s marrying a virgin and is nervous about what that means for their intimacy. So we’re diving ALL the way in on what it really looks like to navigate intimacy when experience levels don’t match.

Yvette shares what it was like being a virgin bride—not just the emotions, but the mechanics (or lack thereof 😭). We get real about our awkward first ...

In this episode, we’re diving into the real-life dilemmas y’all are facing—like when to make sacrifices for your partner, how to balance your career with your relationship, and when to put dreams on hold (or go for it all). 💭💍

Some of the questions we’re tackling:

“Should I give up my grad school dreams for my partner?” 🤔

“Can you really have a career and a successful marriage without losing yourself?” 💼💖

“How do you know when it’...

What do you do when trust is broken, expectations aren’t met, and life just keeps piling on—loss, grief, addiction, betrayal, finances, job stress—like, can we catch a break?! 😩💸

We’re getting real in this episode:

💭 When is it time to walk away—from a marriage, a career, or any situation that is no longer honoring or beneficial?

💭 What does leadership & responsibility really look like when the pressure is on?Marriage, career,...

Is being in love necessary for a marriage that lasts? Or is love as a choice enough? In this episode, we’re breaking down emotional attraction, physical chemistry, and what happens when life gets real—bills, kids, family drama, and overstimulation included. 😮‍💨

We’re talking about:

✅ Can love as a verb create attraction?

✅ What to do when the spark fades.

✅ How to stay connected when life is overwhelming.

✅ The role of emotional and p...

Episode 228 of #howmarriedareyou discusses listener's voicemail message, where a young man is struggling with his fiancée's demand that he cut ties with his long-time best friend, who is a woman.  @yvetteunplugged  and  @BeleafInFatherhood  provide their perspectives on navigating relationships and boundaries in marriage. They also share personal anecdotes about their own marriage, including instances where they had to esta...

Unplugged Retreat is sold out! please join Yvette's Email list at https://YvetteHenry.com 50% OFF of our E-Course, The Premarital Advantage!! View it here: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 The Website: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/ The Email list: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/join-the-list/ Contact Us: hello@howmarriedareyoupodcast.com Leave Us a Voicemail: +1 727-619-4629 Leave a Rev...

50% OFF of our E-Course, The Premarital Advantage!! View it here: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2 The Website: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/ The Email list: https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/join-the-list/ Contact Us: hello@howmarriedareyoupodcast.com Leave Us a Voicemail: +1 727-619-4629 Leave a Review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-married-are-you/id1405158204 Every week we shar...