How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

In this episode of How to Get the Girl (formerly known as Ask Women), Kristen and Marni are joined by certified sex therapist Dr. Tina Shermer to tackle one of the biggest silent confidence-killers for men: sexual shame.

Whether it’s shame around performance, desire, past experiences, or just not knowing what’s “normal,” this shame often goes unspoken — but it’s sabotaging your confidence, your connection with women, and your abili...

🎙️ Heads up! We’re playing around with new titles for the show! Right now, we’re rolling with "How to Get the Girl" by Ask Women, but stay tuned for another possible rebrand 👀

This week, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating: jealousy. And no, it’s not always toxic. In fact, if you know how to use it, it can be one of the most powerful tools for increasing attraction, creating sexual tens...

It’s time to STOP sabotaging yourself—and start asking for what you actually want. 

This week, we’re joined by Brad DeMint, host of the How to Win podcast and a powerhouse salesman who knows how to close deals and create clarity.

Brad breaks down the exact mindset shift that will help you stop playing small, speak up, and go after what you truly want—not just in dating, but in life. We also dig into why so many people don’t even know...

This week, Marni is joined by the one and only Susan Bratton, intimacy expert to millions, for a no-holds-barred conversation all about the penis. From performance anxiety to erectile dysfunction, we’re breaking down the most common issues men face in the bedroom—and why it’s not just “in your head.”

Susan shares expert insights on what actually causes ED, how to regain confidence and sensitivity, and why the porn you’re watching mi...

This week, Marni and Kristen break down the jaw-dropping style moments from a men's networking event — where the men weren’t just dressed well... they were dressed like MEN. Smart. Sophisticated. And undeniably sexy.

The ladies dive into:

• HOW to dress in a way that makes her stop mid-sentence

• WHY certain looks make women feel giddy and drawn in

• WHAT it takes to turn the sidewalk into your personal runway

Because here’s the trut...

Kristen and Marni are joined by special guest Kelly Tao, one of Marne’s original wing girls, for a powerful conversation on confidence—how to access the confidence already within you, how to keep it consistent, and how to let it multiply.

They also get real about age gaps in dating—and share their personal preferences about WHY dating older men can be desirable and WHY dating younger/the same age range can also be desirable so you h...

What if changing just a few words could completely shift your confidence and attraction levels? In this powerful episode, we welcome back language and mindset expert Spencer Burnett to dive deep into the concept of precise language—how the words you think and say directly impact your ability to connect, attract, and show up as your most magnetic self.

Spencer breaks down how unconscious language patterns fuel anxiety and resistance—...

Trauma - we all have it. Whether it’s loud and obvious or quiet and buried, your past experiences are shaping your present more than you might realize.

In this powerful episode, we’re joined by trauma expert Tori Helf (Janae), who breaks down exactly how to uncover the hidden traumas holding you back — and more importantly, how to release them so they stop running the show. From small emotional wounds to deep-rooted pain, we explore...

In this episode, we’re joined by Celeste Hirschman, co-creator of the Somatica® Method and co-founder of the Somatica Institute. Celeste is a somatic sex coach who specializes in helping men and women create deeper, more connected, and more satisfying intimate experiences.

We dive into how you can become a detective in the bedroom—not by overanalyzing, but by tuning in. Learn how to pick up on what a woman likes, what she doesn’t, a...

What if your “dark side” was the key to unlocking deeper confidence, attraction, and connection in your relationships?

In this episode, Adam Skoda — host of The Masculine Mindset Show, author of 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mindset, and creator of the Alpha Body Bootcamp Training Program — joins the show to explore the real power behind what psychology calls the “Dark Triad” traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy.

We...

This week, we’re flipping the script on what you think women want.

Yes, your so-called "shortcomings" (the things you’re not proud of) can actually attract women when you know how to use them the right way. And our amazing guest - fiery redhead Yoann Bohbot, Founder of dotsspace.com - is here to explain exactly how to do it.

We also dive into:

• How to find and pursue the right woman for you

• How to build a strategy for attr...

We’re joined by charisma and hypnosis coach Wendy Packer, who shares how you can literally rewire your subconscious to become more confident, magnetic, and successful with women.

Wendy dives into practical, powerful tools to help you erase limiting beliefs and replace them with the mindset and identity of the man you want to be. (Yes - 'fake it till you make it' is real, and she’ll show you how.)

Whether you’re a man ready to level u...

In this juicy and eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the many ways women experience arousal - with a refreshingly honest look at the full spectrum of desire. Joined by sex and intimacy expert Melissa Louise, we explore the concept of arousal maps for both women and men, and how most of us have only scratched the surface of what's possible.

Whether you've been with your partner for years or you're just starting someth...

In this episode, we're joined by a bold, sexy woman in her 50s who’s single, self-aware, and not afraid to speak the truth about dating at this stage of life. We dive deep into what’s actually going on for women in their 50s—physically, emotionally, and romantically.

She shares what men are doing that works, what’s turning women off faster than you can say “hey beautiful,” and the kind of communication that truly feels attractiv...

Dating is challenging enough, so why make it harder by hiding your true self and not asking for what you want? This week, we’re joined by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, coach and therapist at GrowingSelf.com, who shares powerful insights on building self-confidence and showing up authentically in your love life. She also breaks down attachment styles - how to identify yours and what it means for your relationships. If yours isn’t serving yo...

Can your taste in music lead you to love? In this episode, we’re joined by Rachel Van Nortwick, creator of the dating app Vinylly, to dive into the power of music in romantic connections. We explore why sharing playlists might be more telling than answering dating profile prompts and how musical chemistry can spark real-life attraction.

Plus, we break down the transition from working together to dating - when it works, when it doesn...

Confidence isn’t just about what you say - it’s about how you say it. This week, we're joined by speaking empowerment coach Linda Ugelow, who reveals the subtle yet powerful ways you can show confidence to women through your voice, tonality, and presence while eliminating anxiety.

Learn how to make women lean in, listen, and think, Wow, that guy is confident—without trying too hard. We break down the psychology behind vocal authorit...

This week's episode with Dave Stultz from LimitlessBrave.com goes DEEP into what steps to take to EXPAND your world so you can meet more women. We also talk about HOW to meet them as well as masculinity - what's the perfect balance of it, how do you express it and why do women love it so much?

>>>To become the most witty, charming, attractive and polished version of yourself, apply to work with Kristen here: ⁠⁠⁠...

Show Update! We will now be releasing episodes every Tuesdays!

In this throwback episode, we have dating coach and matchmaker Laurel House host of Famously Single. We talk about pre-qualifying, what does it mean, how do you do it and what questions to ask so you don't waste your time and money on the wrong girls.

>>>To become the most witty, charming, attractive and polished version of yourself, apply to work with Kristen ...