From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff Steurer

From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff Steurer

The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.

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September 16, 2021 55 min

I was invited to be a guest on Tony Overbay's podcast, The Virtual Couch, to talk about rebuilding broken trust in marriage. I had a great time connecting with Tony, sharing a bit about my journey, and diving into the intricacies of what it takes to rebuild trust when a marriage has been betrayed. 

Download Geoff’s FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-ma...

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Todd Sylvester spent years in the grip of multiple addictions. A significant part of his journey to sobriety and long-term recovery was the realization that the way he saw himself impacted his drive to numb out and escape. In this episode he shares his hard-earned wisdom of how we can improve our self-talk to accelerate and deepen our healing. We discuss:

  • The most common self-talk he hears with people in addiction
  • Why our self-talk ...
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    I had the privilege of interviewing one of my favorite thought leaders, Jacob Hess. We talked about one of his specialities, mindfulness, and how we can apply these principles to addiction and trauma. It's a fascinating discussion full of great insights. Specifically, we discuss:

  • His definition of mindfulness
  • How he sees mindfulness improving people's lives
  • How mindfulness can help with addiction, mental health, sexuality, an...
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    I continue my discussion with Thomas from episode 106 where we discuss what it means to sponsor someone in the 12-step program. These principles apply to supporting others as well. Thomas shares what it's been like to be sponsored and what he's doing to support the men he sponsors. This is a great episode if you're wondering how to best support anyone who asks for you help. Specifically, we discuss: 

  • The importance of t...
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    After 30 years of addiction to pornography and lust, Thomas began a recovery journey that began five years and continues to this day. In this episode, he shares his story and the recovery principles that are creating healing for himself and his marriage. We discuss: 

  • An overview of his personal recovery and marital healing.
  • What has helped his wife in her healing from betrayal trauma
  • How they are helping others along the way, especia...
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    I invited Richard "Papa" Ostler, host of this podcast "Listen, Learn, and Love" to join me on this podcast to talk about how we can stay connected to our LGBTQ friends and family. We discuss: 

  • What we can specifically do to better support our LGBTQ friends/family
  • What he's learned from listening to so many unique voices/experiences on his podcast
  • What does it mean to be an "ally"
  • How we can view someon...
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    I had a great interview with Connor Beaton, the founder of Man Talks, to talk about how men can build solid friendships with other men. I also invited one of my sons to join me for this interview. Connor challenged both of us and opened up a great dialogue about how to improve our friendships with other men. In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why men need friendships with other men
  • How male friendships are protective for men's emotion...
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    Join me as I chat with best selling author, world-renowned business coach, entrepreneur, and all-around happy guy, Richie Norton, about how we can choose faith over fear. Richie's life may seem like it's good vibes all the time (I mean, he does live in Hawaii, after all!), but you'll hear that he has deliberately chosen faith over fear after tragedy and betrayal countless times in his life. We talk about our tendency to...

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    Join me and fellow therapist, Valerie Hamaker, as we riff about all things enabling. This episode is a replay of an episode we recorded for her podcast, "Voice About Living" and is the follow up to a previous episode where she interviews a former client about her enabling patterns. In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why do we enable harmful behaviors in our loved ones? 
  • How does this happen? 
  • How can we know that we are enabling? 
  • H...
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    In this episode I interview Dr. Stefanie Carnes, an internationally recognized expert on treating sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. We talk about the difficult subject of responding to sexual offenses. Even though sexual addiction is a serious issue, sexual offending directly violates another person and involves illegal activities. Sexual offenses can include behaviors such as eroticized rage, voyeurism of family members, reven...

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    From Crisis to Connection has reached it's 100th episode! Join me as I share a few things I've learned over the past 99 episodes. 


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    www.facebook.com/GeoffSteurerMFT

    Visit www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

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    In this episode I interview author of the new book, The Secret Keepers, Heidi Tucker. The Secret Keepers is the true story of a woman, Margi, whose childhood mind captured scenes from her unthinkable abuse, then kept them deep inside as secrets. As Margi searches for answers to frightening memories, we witness her relentless perseverance in uncovering protected secrets to seek understanding and truth.

    The Secret Keepers will take y...

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    We talk about individual mindfulness on a regular basis and my guest on this episode says that it's just as important to extend that mindfulness to our intimate relationships. My guest is Liz Higgins, licensed marriage and family therapist and the host of the Millennial Life Podcast. In this episode, we discuss:

  • The increase in relational anxiety or relational FOMO
  • Why some couples don't feel settled in their relationship
  • The...
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    One of the biggest factors in healing from an addiction is community. Emi Bass is a student at Brigham Young University and wanted to do something to support those struggling with pornography addiction after being directly impacted by it in a former relationship. So, she decided to start a club. COVID hit and the club went to Zoom and has stayed there, as it became a safe place for those who are struggling to find community. Listen...

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    Couples healing is a long-term process and not only requires individual effort, but also solid guidance on the nuances of how to rebuild trust. My guests are Melanie and Seth Studley, a couple in recovery and podcasters/coaches who help couples find connection in the aftermath of betrayal. In this episodes, we discuss:

  • What a growth mindset in a recovering marriage looks like
  • How to get out our of comfort zones
  • One of the best tools ...
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    If we want our children to learn from us, they have to trust us. I interview Emily Christensen, a Certified Life Coach, on how we can improve trust with our children to increase our influence in their lives. In this episode, we discuss: 

  • Why trust from our children matters
  • Examples of trust and mistrust with a parent
  • Areas in parenting where having trust really matters
  • Things we do as parents that inadvertently undermine our children&...
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    This is the continuation of my interview with therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss:

  • How to t...
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    I'm joined by therapist and fellow podcaster, Tony Overbay, to talk about how couples can stay connected to each other when one partner leaves their shared faith. This is often a transition that is difficult for most couples to navigate, as a departure from the beliefs and values that brought them together can introduce new questions and fears about their future. In this episode, we discuss: 

  • Why it's called a faith crisis
  • W...
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    What can someone who appears to have "arrived" teach us about living intentionally in the face of opposition? My guest on this episode is Kristin Andrus and she says that when we get focused on the destination as our source of happiness, we miss out on the gifts that journey offers us every single day. In this episode we discuss:

  • Why the journey is actually the destination
  • How doing the next right thing is more importa...
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    Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to stay with the person who betrayed you? Do you sometimes feel insecure and clingy in your relationships? This is a struggle for many adults who believe they shouldn't need other people when they're feeling insecure. In this episode, I'm joined by Michelle Mays, LPC, CSAT-S for a discussion on why our attachment needs are not only normal, but essential for our emotional, mental, and ...

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