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July 19, 2024 11 mins
The Self Improvement Paradox: When Growth Makes You Feel Worse. Hello and welcome to the "In The Moment" podcast with me, Alex Manzi. I'm a coach who has transformed his life from depression to fulfillment and today I'm going to talk about one of my favorite topics...  the paradox of self-improvement.

How can you feel worse if you started your growth journey, and if you're actually making the changes that you need in order to change your life?

This is more common than it seems and... yes, it happened to myself as well. That's why we talked about this in depth at my recent retreat "Free Your Mind" in France, with my clients there. And from that discussion here's my reflection for the podcast and all of you here.

I'm talking about the "when-then" mindset (e.g., "When I have more money, then I'll be happier"), and the frustration that goes along with it. I talk about settling into a phase where they you may feel complete. While this brings contentment, it can also lead to complacency and a lack of further progress.

In general, I've found there are 3 main stages of this process to overcome the self-improvement paradox. Here's some timestamps for you.

00:00 Intro
01.40 Stage 1 - Are you falling into this trap?
04:35 Stage 2 - Where most people settle
07:32 Stage 3 - Overcoming the Paradox
10:39 Join the community!


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