September 1, 2025 • 32 mins
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Timestamps:
00:00 "Optimize Online Dating Profiles"
05:54 Personalized Shopping Assistance
08:32 "Expert Photos for Dating Success"
09:46 "Finding a Photographer Solution"
13:08 Creating an Online Dating Profile
15:59 "Social Funnel Dating Method"
20:58 Avoid Posting Crowded Landmarks Photos
23:59 "Mastering Social Media Rules"
27:57 "Crafting a Cohesive Instagram Profile"
31:12 "Building Effective Dating Profiles"
31:44 "Join Our Elite Social Circle"
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(00:00):
When most guys join our community, their Instagram and
dating profiles are, I don't know let's just say not doing
them any favors. No photos, bad lighting, outfits
from 2012 or worse. They just post whatever,
whenever with 0 strategy. And I get it, no one ever taught
you how to look datable online. You've been focused on becoming
a high value man in real life, but your online presence still
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screams low value. That's where this episode comes
in. So whether you just join the IC
community and need to know exactly what to do, or you're a
guy who's been watching from thesidelines wondering if this
program can actually help you. We're going to show you how to
build an Instagram and dating profile that actually attracts
women without blowing money on the wrong photographer or
posting cringe pics that get youghosted.
(00:43):
This is the exact process we give our clients, the same
system we use during our live events and the photo shoot flow
that gets results. My wife Maria, who's joining us
today, and I are going to walk you through how to do it
yourself step by step so you canstart getting wins right now,
whether you're in LA, Lisbon, orjust chilling in your hometown,
let's fix your photos and fix your results.
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round of golf. First tea and the 10th tea.
Exactly. That doesn't make you feel.
Nervous. Free.
Remember my tournament? I careered.
It was first. Actually, it's so funny.
First time me drinking Newbury on the course.
It was my tournament and I was like 100 through 8 and I'm like
10-9 handicaps. Like I was just insane.
(01:49):
I was so nervous. It took all my nerves away.
And it doesn't make you. I don't drink alcohol.
It doesn't make you dizzy or like out of control.
You're the same person. Absolutely you just like.
Just calms you. Calm, yeah.
For me, unfortunately I get kindof like it hits me really hard
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so I can only drink like half of1.
No, yeah, but that's I think. But you actually also build the
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It's no non alcohol. It's a euphoric seltzer.
It's got kratom leaf and Kava root and it tastes good, makes
you feel good. You're listening to the Inner
Confidence podcast. My name is Robbie Kramer, I've
been a coach since 2007 and I'vehelped countless men rapidly
achieve all their social and dating goals.
My mission is simple, to help you position yourself to meet
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stunning women, make awesome friends in route to becoming the
most confident and attractive version you can possibly be.
I'm absolutely obsessed with giving you the most leverage
ways possible to win the game. So stick around, let's go.
Let's be honest, most guys who join the program, they're really
kind of clueless. Either they have no Instagram or
a profile full of old low quality random photos.
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Same thing really with their dating app, all profiles, their
photos suck. Maybe they know it, maybe they
don't know it. So first, why does this even
matter? Well, women stalk your
Instagram. Do you ever stalk my Instagram
baby? No.
You know. Not yours.
I stacked many instagrams. OK, well, it's something that
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all girls do, right? No girl, especially if you,
like, barely know a guy, you're probably, you're going to look
at his Instagram, right? You're going to check.
You're going to Google. You're kidding me, man.
A lot of girls have fake accounts for that.
Yeah, you know, to look this watch the stories because you're
not going to watch the story from your profile.
I I actually, for some reason never have done that.
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But that's more an exception. I actually didn't care.
I was just if I need something Iwould watch it from my profile
because I'm like whatever. But.
Yeah, a lot of girls if, if you,if a girl tells you she's not on
Instagram, I would not believe that, not even for a second,
unless she's over like 40. Even then.
Even then, I you know, it'd be, it'd be very hard to believe.
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Maybe she doesn't have a profile, but she's got a burner
account that she, you know, watches other people with so and
she's probably looked at you from that burner account if she
has any interest. Whatsoever I would say maybe
like 1% of women don't have Instagram like in a dating age.
Obviously you know they're goingto look before they reply to
your texts and your dating profile.
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Of course it's 90% visual. And if your photos don't
instantly signal status and style and confidence, I mean,
you're already done. But here's the good news, you
don't need to be good looking. You need to look put together.
And we're going to show you how to do that, even if you're
broke, clueless or awkward on camera.
So step one is fix your fashion.That's obviously easier said
than done, but before you shoot anything, you got to clean up
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your look. No baggy shirts, no out of date
jeans, no loud flashy branding. You want fitted, timeless,
neutral outfits? You're going to start with
three. Go to look something casual,
something for going out and lifestyle or athletic.
And if you're not sure what looks good, post your outfit
photos in our discord. Maria and I will give you direct
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feedback and you. Have a lot of clients that are
very good at fashion right now. So you have, yeah, you have so
many people who can give you a good advice.
Right. And if you're not in the group,
then just Google like modern fashion and compare your outfits
to what people are wearing. Or pick a celebrity.
Somebody who. You know, but celebrities,
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celebrity a lot of the times wear like such an extravagant
clothes. Some of them do, but some of
them don't. Yeah, yeah, you're right.
Pick someone who matches your. But also what I like, you can go
to like Nordstrom if you're in America, but I bet there is
stores like this in any country.And on the websites you can, you
know, look through clothes and they give you like several
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things that you can match it with for clothes.
And also you can schedule a consultation with a, you know, a
person who works there to help you and just even bring the
pictures that you save and say, I want something like that.
And they'll help you choose, youknow, and you, you can even say
I want something timeless that fits me well and like all those
things, and they're going to help you.
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And it's free. Yeah, and if you don't have a
Nordstrom in your city, move or at least within an hour or two.
I. Didn't expect that answer.
Now here's where most guys go wrong.
They know they need better photos, so they hire one of
those so-called online dating photographers.
Please don't do that. They exist online dating
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photographer. There's so many photographers
that market themselves as that just to get work well, but they
don't know what. The hell they're doing what?
What are they doing? You show up and they just like
take your picture. And exactly, there's no rhyme or
reason. Like they're, they're not actual
photographers who understand online dating and Instagram.
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They're just photographers, right?
So they'll, they'll take like headshots or they'll take, you
know, headshots, glamour shots. But like, I've had so many guys
come to me with like these awfulphotos that are completely
unusable. They're in a suit, right?
Like. Oh, my God.
OK, I see. OK, I see what you're talking
about. Yeah.
It's like it looks so stage it. Looks like a photo shoot.
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It looks like a photo shoot in abad way.
You know, there are photo shoot that like oh, I want I want a
photo shoot like this, but it's like a bad way, like a stage
pictures and it's like try hard because the girl sees online a
guy like OK, this this creep hire a photographer to take his
pictures in a suit so he can pose them.
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That's an ick. Totally.
Yeah. But you know, that's where the
mind goes of a logical guy, especially a guy who maybe
spends too much time behind a computer, right?
Like, well, I need professional,high quality photos, so I'm just
going to hire somebody off Fiverr or whatever.
And, you know, unfortunately those people aren't versed in
what works. So you're going to spend a few
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100 bucks, you're going to get stiff, awkward photos in clothes
that don't fit, poses that look forced and lighting that doesn't
flatter you. These people, they don't know
fashion, they don't know how to direct your vibe, and they don't
understand what actually works for dating apps or IG.
So the result is you look like atry hard Tinder bro.
So you're better off waiting. And here's what to do instead.
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Come to one of our live events or travel to us for a one-on-one
shoot. We're going to handle
everything. We're going to style you.
We're going to pick the locations, pose you, coach your
expressions and shoot you all day.
Throw your clothes away. Burden them if we have to, and
you're going to leave with at least 6 high level folks photos
that crush on dating apps and enough base level content to
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build a working high status Instagram.
No guessing, no cringey results,just photos that make you look
like the man you're becoming. If you can't travel yet, no
problem. Here's how to do it yourself the
right way. So the next step is get someone
to shoot you. You know you cannot do this with
selfies or a tripod in your kitchen, so don't even try.
Red flag when you see someone just post the picture picture of
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them as a selfie every single time.
I cannot even explain how bad that looks.
Well, yeah, it shows that they probably.
It shows that you have 0 social skills because you don't even
have anybody to take your picture.
It's super weird and kind of scary.
Yeah, it's a no go. So find a friend hopefully who
has a decent eye. Ask a girlfriend friend who
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knows how to take clean photos. Find another guy in the IC
community who needs photos and shoot each other.
Usually when guys join, you knowyou can find another guy who
just joined that month and he doesn't have photos yet.
So you guys like go link up and shoot each other you know and
use this as a guide. Or hire a student photographer
in your area. They'll be basically cheap or
free, and the key is directing them correctly.
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Send them a few examples first, show them what you're going for.
No posing like an influencer, nofilters, just natural, confident
candid shots with clean composition.
So that was Step 2. Step 3 is pick the right
locations. Use natural light only daytime
good options or rooftops, stylish cafes in front of a
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brick wall or another cool sort of art wall, or maybe flower
like a flowery wall. We'll show you some examples in
a second. Golf courses.
Clean parks. I was just want to say there are
going to be filters, but not like, you know, tacky filters
like a cholera correction, yes, but not like a tacky Instagram
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filters that make your quality of your pictures go downhill.
Well, we edit a lot of the guys photos in the group, no?
I edit everything in the professional editor.
So don't don't worry about editing, you'll screw it up.
And don't just throw filters on there, you'll choose the wrong
ones if. You, if you do it yourself,
don't just don't do any filters and post it on Instagram because
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yeah. No, don't.
You're saying don't post it? Don't.
Don't do anything without our permission.
No, but I'm just saying people who are not clients or and I
just want to do it themselves. Don't use.
So just don't use filters, especially Instagram filters.
Oh God. OK, so the bad options are
bathrooms, bedrooms, messy living rooms, gyms, or crowded
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bars. You know your background really
matters. It communicates lifestyle.
I mean, if it's a nice gym and there is no 15 people on the on
the background, if it's an emptybackground in a nice gym, I
think it's actually a good photo.
But it's like, you know, it's not easy to get to have.
Yeah, that. And if it's a nice gym, oh, it
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signals that you are, you know, into fitness, you're having a
healthy lifestyle. And I think it's a good
obviously if you're like trying to ooh my 6 puck, you know, like
those type of pictures, unless you're a fitness coach, it's
yeah. Right, so Step 4, learn how to
pose. This doesn't mean standing stiff
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and trying to flex, as you just mentioned, it means moving
between shots. Adjust your jacket, walk towards
the camera, look to the side. You don't need to be smiling and
looking at the camera in every picture.
In fact, data shows that women are more attracted to photos
where you're not actually looking at the camera.
So you want to mix. Don't press your arms to your
sides, you want to take up space.
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Your posture matters more than you think.
And whatever you do, do not fakesmile or over smolder.
Real charisma looks relaxed and effortless.
So Step 5 is use the Discord to get feedback before posting.
This is obviously for the guys in the group.
You're not allowed to post new photos until you get feedback in
the group. So here's how to do it.
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So the first thing you're going to do, you're going to find the
online dating channel like this and you're going to start a
thread. Very simple.
You hit the plus, you hit createthread and you're going to call
it Robbies profile review. For example, here's another
example that a guy just posted. This is Bobbye dating profiles.
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You'll upload your photos and then we'll be able to give you
feedback. So what you're going to do is
you're going to go under online dating, you're going to start a
new thread just like this one Bobbye dating profile and you'll
post your photos in here and we'll give you feedback on
whether or not they're good. The next thing you're going to
do for Instagram, almost the identical is you go into social
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media and you do the same thing.You start a new thread and you
say Billy Bob's Instagram. The only difference on
Instagram, which is pretty cool and here's examples of other
people's. I don't want to give away
anyone's identity, but what you can do on Instagram is you can
use an app called in preview. Is it called preview or in
preview? In Preview In Preview I want to
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show on yours how it works you download in preview and what it
allows you to do. It shows you a grid of what your
Instagram will look like so you can organize the photos in
sequential order. Yeah, you can pull those
pictures like switch the directions, let's say, right?
I can. How can I right can put it
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anywhere I want So they're not like an Instagram.
There's you can still switch in between them so you can even
upload, let's say 9 pictures andlike look in which sequence you
like yeah. I usually recommend not to post
like group pictures to a group close to a group pictures.
They're like selfie close to a selfie and like.
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You want to stagger them like. Solo group like.
Landscape you don't want to havelike 3 in a row and then three
in a row and we'll help you do do that in in the discord
because you can simply post a screenshot of your in preview
and we'll say move this photo tothis slot that one to to this
slot because once you post a. Lot of them side I even if I do
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the photo shoot, you know, do itfor you and I just tell you post
from this one to this one in a sequence.
That's how to do it in in there.If you're not in the group, then
obviously you won't be able to do that, but you can ask a
friend or someone you trust. So grab in preview, we'll put
the link to that in the show notes too.
And we don't get any sort of cutfrom that.
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It's just a good. App.
But there are different apps. I think it's it's only for
iPhone also but I'm not sure. No, I think some of the guys
that use it for. Yeah, any app that can help you
organize your Instagram grid. Right.
Yeah, there's others out there too.
I actually was lucky, I downloaded it when it was free
and I still have it with no charge.
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Oh really nice. So remember, this helps you look
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way. So now listen closely.
These are the official inner confidence photo rules.
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Burn these into your brain and Maria is going to go through
them. These are straight from the
course material, so let me sharethe screen.
Here I, I I made those rules. Yeah.
OK. All right, rule #1 don't post
photos in poor quality and we have examples here.
Which is obvious, right? Yeah, this is a shadow on his
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face. No, I'm just saying it's obvious
to not post pictures in the poorquality.
But guys don't know what poor quality is or isn't.
That's the thing. Just like how I posted on our
golf page the other day, right? Like they need to know why
because like, there's a shadow on half your face.
It's kind of blurry, see? The face, it's obviously like
zoomed in or something, right? It just looks bad.
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So don't post photos that were taken in low light or a bad
location. Let's find an example of that.
So here we go, low light. No, but that's you're against
the light against the light should be directed at you to
have a good quality of pictures and here it just such a bad
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picture. It's like it hurts you more than
that helps. Yeah, even though it's a cute
girls, Yeah, cool looking thing.Awful photo.
Yeah, can't use it. No, sorry.
Nice try. Maybe like, you know, if you
really want to post it, at leastpost it to the story, you know?
Yeah, we're only talking about. Grief you want to like have some
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social proof that you went out and obviously like it's the only
picture I have, I want to post it that's fine.
But. Well, let's not confuse them,
because we're only talking aboutyour grid here.
Yeah, we're not talking about stories.
That's a different episode. Yeah, totally different.
Everything about it. All right, rule #3 don't cut off
people's limbs in the photo or the top of a head.
This one. Guys, Guys break this rule all
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the time. So here we go.
We got the arm cut off there. We got the top of the head cut
off, we got the hands. No, I think this one is a better
example because at least here I just used it as an example.
But it like, you know, if you'rea fitness coach and you're just
showing your back muscles, that's fine actually.
But if it's this type of picture, this is just so bad and
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unnatural. Just to not be confusing,
sometimes you can cut the legs at a certain place, like just
above the knees right? Like if I'm standing up and you
just don't want to like obviously chop off a hand or a
foot. Yeah, exactly.
It's it's it's fine to cut it ina in a good place when you like
zoom in and you do like a portrait or you do more like,
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you know, half body shot. But exactly if it's hands and
and feet, that just looks weird.Just looks weird.
So yeah. So don't cut off hands.
And yeah, rule #4 do not press your arms tightly to the body.
Don't be standing like this. Don't stand in a military pose
for you guys who have served, you know, don't stand at
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attention. You want to look relaxed and at
ease. Yeah, I mean, it's fine for
girls usually to pose like this,but for guys it just makes you
more feminine than musculine. Because if you're musculine, you
want to like, yeah, take some room and just be.
Be chill, relax, yeah yeah #5 don't post too many photos with
other people. Your page should be primarily
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about you and your specific theme.
The subject of your photography or art for example.
The main thing is just people would understand whose account
it is. The best proportion is 65%
photos of you and 35% photos of you with friends and girls etc.
Or less. It's just a lot of the times you
know, someone joins your group and I go to their profile, you
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send it to me and I'm like, but who is an actual guy?
Because he has like 7 pictures and in all of those pictures at
least group of three, right? So it's like, I'm not going to
spend like 30 minutes of my lifetry to figure out whose profile
is that and. Rule #6 Avoid having extra
people in the frame in the background, only as a last
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resort if you can't completely remove them, but the photo looks
great. This applies to people who are
not supposed to be in the frame initially, random people,
friends who did not know they were taking a photo, etc.
Because they look bad in the frame, they can be blurry and in
ugly poses, which really spoils the whole picture.
And obviously there are exceptions we're not talking
about. Like never ever in your life
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post a picture like this. Just really try to avoid it.
Obviously if it's dream of your life, go to, you know, I
actually was even able to go to Eiffel Tower and get the picture
with 0 people you like. It's crazy.
But obviously if I wouldn't be able to do this, you know, it
was a dream of my life, I would still post it.
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But for all other scenarios I tried to avoid it.
It just doesn't look clean. It looks whatever.
Yeah, and people kind of know these days, like, remember we're
in Tulum at the How hotel and they had that big art
installation. There's like a line for people
to take photos and that way there's there's no one behind
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each person gets whatever. Yeah, but you're waiting for two
hours in the line. We actually, it was insane.
We actually didn't waited. So in that scenario, I would not
be upset with you. There would be people in the
line. So #7 if you're in the photo and
it's not a landscape photo, you should be visible.
So I broke this rule on this one.
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That's me wakeboarding in the background and I'm obviously
not, you know, can't, can't really see.
Me let me explain why, because alot of people won't understand
it just when you post this picture, it's even for people
who follow you. They they will they won't even
understand that it's you They they will be like oh wait, who's
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this girl or whatever I I have not followed her and you're like
oh unfollow and after you will go to the profile.
I was like, oh, that's Robbie that, you know, that's a weird
picture, just like a confusion because, you know.
OK. Yeah, that was helpful.
I was even confused before you explained that.
I know, I knew that. All right, rule #8 despite the
fact that the photo is fine-tuned, the emotion should
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always be sincere, especially the smile.
Meaning we're going to help you edit those, but you need to have
sincere emotions on the photos and #9 you need to understand
what can be published in storiesand what can go in the main
profile. Your main profile, your grid is
for flawless photos that follow the other rules in this list.
Any other interesting and cool photos and videos that describe
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your day? Those should really be posted as
a story. Yeah, so you have pictures and
there is 15,000 people behind you, but you are standing in
front of Sacrika in Paris. You can post it on your stories
and all others you know, It's that's totally fine.
Another thing is it's fine to not follow the rules all the
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time because you don't understand them.
Robbie still doesn't. But it takes time to learn.
Sometimes it takes a very long time.
Even if you have a good coach, or maybe you're not such a good
coach. Thanks.
All right. Last one rule #10 don't post
photos with bad body language orhygiene like having stuff in
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your teeth. Like right before we started
this podcast. Yeah, for me.
So a little remark for a lot of people who are thinking why
should I follow all the stupid rules like trying to do it and
you know, they just want to do it and be authentic and all
those things. The main reason it's because the
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competition is so big on online social media that if you're not
doing it good, you're going to be unnoticeable whatsoever.
So you, you're going to put workanyway.
No matter how you're doing it, you're it's still putting the
work in and you will have absolutely 0 recognition from
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anybody. So that will make you really
frustrated and you know it's notgoing to help.
But if you already decide to do it, do it well.
Yeah, now no offense, but this is a profile that screams chaos.
So this is a buddy of ours. Honestly, if he saw this video,
he probably wouldn't give a shitbecause that's the type of guy
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he is. So Mickey, if you're watching,
we love you and we're going to roast your profile.
I did not agree for that. He just put me on the spot, so.
So you as a girl like if Mickey was able to get your your phone
number, for example from an online.
Dating he wouldn't be able. If he was able, if you were
single and you guys exchanged phone numbers right on and then
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you saw his Instagram, what would be your first impression
of this? Not the good thing about him
that he loves dogs and I love dogs.
So that would be a definitely A+.
OK, if if you love animals, it'salways a good plus.
But it definitely screams like here exactly what we were
talking about. You see selfie, selfie, head cut
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selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie.
It's all selfies, right? So just looking by his profile
and you know, I we actually selfie selfie or this is not a.
Selfie. But yeah, this is selfie, so we
know the guy really well. He's very nice, amazing person.
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But I will never know that because by his Instagram
profile, he looks to me weird. I'm like, who is this person?
He doesn't have anybody to even make a picture of him.
He's always alone. OK, he's with his dogs.
This is nice, but it's just like, it's so weird.
It's it tells me that this person doesn't have any type of
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social circle whatsoever. Which isn't even true, because
he does. He does.
He has. But that's what you're showing.
Yeah, but that's what you're showing.
It's unfortunately a lot of people cannot represent them
well because Mickey is actually he has amazing social circle.
We met so many good people. You know he is amazing donor
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for. Well, that's why we're doing
this whole episode because like,there's a difference between a
good product and good marketing.Mickey is a good product, but
his marketing on Instagram anyways is very bad.
So, you know, super bad. He's not going to be able to use
Instagram to to date the girls he wants, right?
This is going to hinder him morethan it's going to help him.
Yeah, and it's hard to pass thatpoint.
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As soon as I get his Instagram, you know, it's, it's not even
the immediate no, like a lot of guys think that like what I
would think, look, Oh no, he's not good enough for me or, or
something like that. You know, it's actually not what
I think. I I just think this is weird.
It's kind of weird. This guy, I don't see any of his
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friends is like, is he even likereal?
Maybe he is a creep. I don't want to put my life at
the risk to go meet someone who I have like a weird feeling
about. So.
So it's not even about oh he's not good looking enough or he's
not tall enough. I mean for some girls
unfortunately that's a big no. But for normal girls the height
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it's never a problem. So it just like you should not
target yourself as a weirdo. Well, if you follow these rules
and you don't post stuff with low res images and cluttered
vibes and no cohesion, no story,they're like, you know, you want
your profile to tell like a story about you.
It should show who you are in the best possible light.
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And a bunch of memes, a bunch ofselfies, a bunch of low quality
stuff. You're telling the world like, I
don't give a shit about this. And that's that's not a good
look in 2025. So now we're going to show you a
good example. So Orion had basically no
Instagram before he came to us. He had like 2 photos in like a
Hurley shirt from 2008 and some,you know, terrible body language
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he had, he had nothing. So we built this from the ground
up. Maria took all six of these
photos. You can see you're actually in
this photo. Some of our other friends, I'm
in this photo here. And we basically built his whole
profile for him like these thesenine photos.
The new ones. Right.
This one we took at a party together, but like, he had
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nothing. And now this is what Profile
looks like. And then we basically like now
he kind of fills in the blank atthe top.
Yeah, like this is his. This is mine also.
I'm here too. This is a cute picture, yeah.
So you can see what a good one looks like and a bad.
One Orion broke the rule. Bad group, group, group picture.
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I already gave him shit about this.
Don't worry guys, you know you, you will do mistakes.
Good call he could have. You will make mistake or you
will do mistakes. You'll make mistakes, you'll
make mistakes yeah, that was bad, but I told him I'm not so
mad at you because you have hot girls in this pictures in this
picture and you have hot girls in this picture.
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So I was not that mad. You can break a group rule if
you have hot girls in your pictures.
Otherwise, if you have Bros on your pictures, do not break the
rule. So make sure guys to show your
hobbies if you're doing something cool like here, it
tells so much about him as a person right here.
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It wasn't a top golf. Obviously you need to you
actually don't need to know how to go for anything like that
right. So he smiles.
He has good fashion here right him and his friends they're like
doing something fun. You don't think that this guy is
a creep, right? You see him having friends
they're having fun right here isoh, it's actually me.
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Orion is our friend, right? He's showing like we're smiling.
Like you will never think that guy like, this is creepy or
anything. He's actually, yeah, hitting the
shot very good. So this one post that tells you
so much about the person and makes you immediately feel some
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sort of. I don't even know how to say it.
Like an attraction A. Good feeling good, Yeah.
A good feeling about this person.
You don't feel like sketchy or anything thing to go.
If Orion would say, Maria, let'sgo drink coffee and I'll be
like, Oh yeah, why not? Because I know this guy's has
this cool friends, they're doingcool things.
He looks very natural in what he's doing.
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So yeah, you have a good vibe. So that's what we want to help
you guys build. Final thoughts.
If you're already in the icy community, start your threads
now. Post your photos, get feedback.
That's your first mission. And if you're listening to this
from the outside, watching on YouTube or tuning in on Spotify,
that's what we do. We help men build a dating
presence that actually works fortheir photos, fix their fashion,
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and finally attract the women they want.
We do this through our live events, private shoots, and
one-on-one coaching inside the IC community.
If you're tired of winging it orwasting money on the wrong help,
apply to join us. Links are in the show notes and
we'll see you inside. Out of all the guys I know, the
only ones who managed to consistently win the game are
those who built and invested in a high status social circle.
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You can certainly approach womenand try your luck on the apps if
you're a chef bad, but those strategies simply don't work
consistently to attract top tierwomen and awesome friends in
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So they continue to hunt for women in their usual ways and
end up settling for a girl they were never really that excited
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in the description.
When most guys join our community, their Instagram and
dating profiles are, I don't know let's just say not doing
them any favors. No photos, bad lighting, outfits
from 2012 or worse. They just post whatever,
whenever with 0 strategy. And I get it, no one ever taught
you how to look datable online. You've been focused on becoming
a high value man in real life, but your online presence still
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screams low value. That's where this episode comes
in. So whether you just join the IC
community and need to know exactly what to do, or you're a
guy who's been watching from thesidelines wondering if this
program can actually help you. We're going to show you how to
build an Instagram and dating profile that actually attracts
women without blowing money on the wrong photographer or
posting cringe pics that get youghosted.
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This is the exact process we give our clients, the same
system we use during our live events and the photo shoot flow
that gets results. My wife Maria, who's joining us
today, and I are going to walk you through how to do it
yourself step by step so you canstart getting wins right now,
whether you're in LA, Lisbon, orjust chilling in your hometown,
let's fix your photos and fix your results.
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And before we do that, let's crack open a new brew here.
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And my favorite taste guava so. That's the best you got your
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round of golf. First tea and the 10th tea.
Exactly. That doesn't make you feel.
Nervous. Free.
Remember my tournament? I careered.
It was first. Actually, it's so funny.
First time me drinking Newbury on the course.
It was my tournament and I was like 100 through 8 and I'm like
10-9 handicaps. Like I was just insane.
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I was so nervous. It took all my nerves away.
And it doesn't make you. I don't drink alcohol.
It doesn't make you dizzy or like out of control.
You're the same person. Absolutely you just like.
Just calms you. Calm, yeah.
For me, unfortunately I get kindof like it hits me really hard
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so I can only drink like half of1.
No, yeah, but that's I think. But you actually also build the
tolerance with time. So if you will drink it more
often, like 1/2 a half a can, itafter it will get, you know,
Yeah. Well, our friends Justin and
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It's no non alcohol. It's a euphoric seltzer.
It's got kratom leaf and Kava root and it tastes good, makes
you feel good. You're listening to the Inner
Confidence podcast. My name is Robbie Kramer, I've
been a coach since 2007 and I'vehelped countless men rapidly
achieve all their social and dating goals.
My mission is simple, to help you position yourself to meet
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stunning women, make awesome friends in route to becoming the
most confident and attractive version you can possibly be.
I'm absolutely obsessed with giving you the most leverage
ways possible to win the game. So stick around, let's go.
Let's be honest, most guys who join the program, they're really
kind of clueless. Either they have no Instagram or
a profile full of old low quality random photos.
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Same thing really with their dating app, all profiles, their
photos suck. Maybe they know it, maybe they
don't know it. So first, why does this even
matter? Well, women stalk your
Instagram. Do you ever stalk my Instagram
baby? No.
You know. Not yours.
I stacked many instagrams. OK, well, it's something that
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all girls do, right? No girl, especially if you,
like, barely know a guy, you're probably, you're going to look
at his Instagram, right? You're going to check.
You're going to Google. You're kidding me, man.
A lot of girls have fake accounts for that.
Yeah, you know, to look this watch the stories because you're
not going to watch the story from your profile.
I I actually, for some reason never have done that.
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But that's more an exception. I actually didn't care.
I was just if I need something Iwould watch it from my profile
because I'm like whatever. But.
Yeah, a lot of girls if, if you,if a girl tells you she's not on
Instagram, I would not believe that, not even for a second,
unless she's over like 40. Even then.
Even then, I you know, it'd be, it'd be very hard to believe.
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Maybe she doesn't have a profile, but she's got a burner
account that she, you know, watches other people with so and
she's probably looked at you from that burner account if she
has any interest. Whatsoever I would say maybe
like 1% of women don't have Instagram like in a dating age.
Obviously you know they're goingto look before they reply to
your texts and your dating profile.
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Of course it's 90% visual. And if your photos don't
instantly signal status and style and confidence, I mean,
you're already done. But here's the good news, you
don't need to be good looking. You need to look put together.
And we're going to show you how to do that, even if you're
broke, clueless or awkward on camera.
So step one is fix your fashion.That's obviously easier said
than done, but before you shoot anything, you got to clean up
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your look. No baggy shirts, no out of date
jeans, no loud flashy branding. You want fitted, timeless,
neutral outfits? You're going to start with
three. Go to look something casual,
something for going out and lifestyle or athletic.
And if you're not sure what looks good, post your outfit
photos in our discord. Maria and I will give you direct
(05:25):
feedback and you. Have a lot of clients that are
very good at fashion right now. So you have, yeah, you have so
many people who can give you a good advice.
Right. And if you're not in the group,
then just Google like modern fashion and compare your outfits
to what people are wearing. Or pick a celebrity.
Somebody who. You know, but celebrities,
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celebrity a lot of the times wear like such an extravagant
clothes. Some of them do, but some of
them don't. Yeah, yeah, you're right.
Pick someone who matches your. But also what I like, you can go
to like Nordstrom if you're in America, but I bet there is
stores like this in any country.And on the websites you can, you
know, look through clothes and they give you like several
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things that you can match it with for clothes.
And also you can schedule a consultation with a, you know, a
person who works there to help you and just even bring the
pictures that you save and say, I want something like that.
And they'll help you choose, youknow, and you, you can even say
I want something timeless that fits me well and like all those
things, and they're going to help you.
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And it's free. Yeah, and if you don't have a
Nordstrom in your city, move or at least within an hour or two.
I. Didn't expect that answer.
Now here's where most guys go wrong.
They know they need better photos, so they hire one of
those so-called online dating photographers.
Please don't do that. They exist online dating
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photographer. There's so many photographers
that market themselves as that just to get work well, but they
don't know what. The hell they're doing what?
What are they doing? You show up and they just like
take your picture. And exactly, there's no rhyme or
reason. Like they're, they're not actual
photographers who understand online dating and Instagram.
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They're just photographers, right?
So they'll, they'll take like headshots or they'll take, you
know, headshots, glamour shots. But like, I've had so many guys
come to me with like these awfulphotos that are completely
unusable. They're in a suit, right?
Like. Oh, my God.
OK, I see. OK, I see what you're talking
about. Yeah.
It's like it looks so stage it. Looks like a photo shoot.
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It looks like a photo shoot in abad way.
You know, there are photo shoot that like oh, I want I want a
photo shoot like this, but it's like a bad way, like a stage
pictures and it's like try hard because the girl sees online a
guy like OK, this this creep hire a photographer to take his
pictures in a suit so he can pose them.
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That's an ick. Totally.
Yeah. But you know, that's where the
mind goes of a logical guy, especially a guy who maybe
spends too much time behind a computer, right?
Like, well, I need professional,high quality photos, so I'm just
going to hire somebody off Fiverr or whatever.
And, you know, unfortunately those people aren't versed in
what works. So you're going to spend a few
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100 bucks, you're going to get stiff, awkward photos in clothes
that don't fit, poses that look forced and lighting that doesn't
flatter you. These people, they don't know
fashion, they don't know how to direct your vibe, and they don't
understand what actually works for dating apps or IG.
So the result is you look like atry hard Tinder bro.
So you're better off waiting. And here's what to do instead.
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Come to one of our live events or travel to us for a one-on-one
shoot. We're going to handle
everything. We're going to style you.
We're going to pick the locations, pose you, coach your
expressions and shoot you all day.
Throw your clothes away. Burden them if we have to, and
you're going to leave with at least 6 high level folks photos
that crush on dating apps and enough base level content to
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build a working high status Instagram.
No guessing, no cringey results,just photos that make you look
like the man you're becoming. If you can't travel yet, no
problem. Here's how to do it yourself the
right way. So the next step is get someone
to shoot you. You know you cannot do this with
selfies or a tripod in your kitchen, so don't even try.
Red flag when you see someone just post the picture picture of
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them as a selfie every single time.
I cannot even explain how bad that looks.
Well, yeah, it shows that they probably.
It shows that you have 0 social skills because you don't even
have anybody to take your picture.
It's super weird and kind of scary.
Yeah, it's a no go. So find a friend hopefully who
has a decent eye. Ask a girlfriend friend who
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knows how to take clean photos. Find another guy in the IC
community who needs photos and shoot each other.
Usually when guys join, you knowyou can find another guy who
just joined that month and he doesn't have photos yet.
So you guys like go link up and shoot each other you know and
use this as a guide. Or hire a student photographer
in your area. They'll be basically cheap or
free, and the key is directing them correctly.
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Send them a few examples first, show them what you're going for.
No posing like an influencer, nofilters, just natural, confident
candid shots with clean composition.
So that was Step 2. Step 3 is pick the right
locations. Use natural light only daytime
good options or rooftops, stylish cafes in front of a
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brick wall or another cool sort of art wall, or maybe flower
like a flowery wall. We'll show you some examples in
a second. Golf courses.
Clean parks. I was just want to say there are
going to be filters, but not like, you know, tacky filters
like a cholera correction, yes, but not like a tacky Instagram
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filters that make your quality of your pictures go downhill.
Well, we edit a lot of the guys photos in the group, no?
I edit everything in the professional editor.
So don't don't worry about editing, you'll screw it up.
And don't just throw filters on there, you'll choose the wrong
ones if. You, if you do it yourself,
don't just don't do any filters and post it on Instagram because
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yeah. No, don't.
You're saying don't post it? Don't.
Don't do anything without our permission.
No, but I'm just saying people who are not clients or and I
just want to do it themselves. Don't use.
So just don't use filters, especially Instagram filters.
Oh God. OK, so the bad options are
bathrooms, bedrooms, messy living rooms, gyms, or crowded
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bars. You know your background really
matters. It communicates lifestyle.
I mean, if it's a nice gym and there is no 15 people on the on
the background, if it's an emptybackground in a nice gym, I
think it's actually a good photo.
But it's like, you know, it's not easy to get to have.
Yeah, that. And if it's a nice gym, oh, it
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signals that you are, you know, into fitness, you're having a
healthy lifestyle. And I think it's a good
obviously if you're like trying to ooh my 6 puck, you know, like
those type of pictures, unless you're a fitness coach, it's
yeah. Right, so Step 4, learn how to
pose. This doesn't mean standing stiff
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and trying to flex, as you just mentioned, it means moving
between shots. Adjust your jacket, walk towards
the camera, look to the side. You don't need to be smiling and
looking at the camera in every picture.
In fact, data shows that women are more attracted to photos
where you're not actually looking at the camera.
So you want to mix. Don't press your arms to your
sides, you want to take up space.
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Your posture matters more than you think.
And whatever you do, do not fakesmile or over smolder.
Real charisma looks relaxed and effortless.
So Step 5 is use the Discord to get feedback before posting.
This is obviously for the guys in the group.
You're not allowed to post new photos until you get feedback in
the group. So here's how to do it.
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So the first thing you're going to do, you're going to find the
online dating channel like this and you're going to start a
thread. Very simple.
You hit the plus, you hit createthread and you're going to call
it Robbies profile review. For example, here's another
example that a guy just posted. This is Bobbye dating profiles.
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You'll upload your photos and then we'll be able to give you
feedback. So what you're going to do is
you're going to go under online dating, you're going to start a
new thread just like this one Bobbye dating profile and you'll
post your photos in here and we'll give you feedback on
whether or not they're good. The next thing you're going to
do for Instagram, almost the identical is you go into social
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media and you do the same thing.You start a new thread and you
say Billy Bob's Instagram. The only difference on
Instagram, which is pretty cool and here's examples of other
people's. I don't want to give away
anyone's identity, but what you can do on Instagram is you can
use an app called in preview. Is it called preview or in
preview? In Preview In Preview I want to
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show on yours how it works you download in preview and what it
allows you to do. It shows you a grid of what your
Instagram will look like so you can organize the photos in
sequential order. Yeah, you can pull those
pictures like switch the directions, let's say, right?
I can. How can I right can put it
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anywhere I want So they're not like an Instagram.
There's you can still switch in between them so you can even
upload, let's say 9 pictures andlike look in which sequence you
like yeah. I usually recommend not to post
like group pictures to a group close to a group pictures.
They're like selfie close to a selfie and like.
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You want to stagger them like. Solo group like.
Landscape you don't want to havelike 3 in a row and then three
in a row and we'll help you do do that in in the discord
because you can simply post a screenshot of your in preview
and we'll say move this photo tothis slot that one to to this
slot because once you post a. Lot of them side I even if I do
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the photo shoot, you know, do itfor you and I just tell you post
from this one to this one in a sequence.
That's how to do it in in there.If you're not in the group, then
obviously you won't be able to do that, but you can ask a
friend or someone you trust. So grab in preview, we'll put
the link to that in the show notes too.
And we don't get any sort of cutfrom that.
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It's just a good. App.
But there are different apps. I think it's it's only for
iPhone also but I'm not sure. No, I think some of the guys
that use it for. Yeah, any app that can help you
organize your Instagram grid. Right.
Yeah, there's others out there too.
I actually was lucky, I downloaded it when it was free
and I still have it with no charge.
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Oh really nice. So remember, this helps you look
high value instead of looking like you just dumped 10 and
photos at once after a photo shoot.
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way. So now listen closely.
These are the official inner confidence photo rules.
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Burn these into your brain and Maria is going to go through
them. These are straight from the
course material, so let me sharethe screen.
Here I, I I made those rules. Yeah.
OK. All right, rule #1 don't post
photos in poor quality and we have examples here.
Which is obvious, right? Yeah, this is a shadow on his
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face. No, I'm just saying it's obvious
to not post pictures in the poorquality.
But guys don't know what poor quality is or isn't.
That's the thing. Just like how I posted on our
golf page the other day, right? Like they need to know why
because like, there's a shadow on half your face.
It's kind of blurry, see? The face, it's obviously like
zoomed in or something, right? It just looks bad.
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So don't post photos that were taken in low light or a bad
location. Let's find an example of that.
So here we go, low light. No, but that's you're against
the light against the light should be directed at you to
have a good quality of pictures and here it just such a bad
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picture. It's like it hurts you more than
that helps. Yeah, even though it's a cute
girls, Yeah, cool looking thing.Awful photo.
Yeah, can't use it. No, sorry.
Nice try. Maybe like, you know, if you
really want to post it, at leastpost it to the story, you know?
Yeah, we're only talking about. Grief you want to like have some
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social proof that you went out and obviously like it's the only
picture I have, I want to post it that's fine.
But. Well, let's not confuse them,
because we're only talking aboutyour grid here.
Yeah, we're not talking about stories.
That's a different episode. Yeah, totally different.
Everything about it. All right, rule #3 don't cut off
people's limbs in the photo or the top of a head.
This one. Guys, Guys break this rule all
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the time. So here we go.
We got the arm cut off there. We got the top of the head cut
off, we got the hands. No, I think this one is a better
example because at least here I just used it as an example.
But it like, you know, if you'rea fitness coach and you're just
showing your back muscles, that's fine actually.
But if it's this type of picture, this is just so bad and
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unnatural. Just to not be confusing,
sometimes you can cut the legs at a certain place, like just
above the knees right? Like if I'm standing up and you
just don't want to like obviously chop off a hand or a
foot. Yeah, exactly.
It's it's it's fine to cut it ina in a good place when you like
zoom in and you do like a portrait or you do more like,
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you know, half body shot. But exactly if it's hands and
and feet, that just looks weird.Just looks weird.
So yeah. So don't cut off hands.
And yeah, rule #4 do not press your arms tightly to the body.
Don't be standing like this. Don't stand in a military pose
for you guys who have served, you know, don't stand at
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attention. You want to look relaxed and at
ease. Yeah, I mean, it's fine for
girls usually to pose like this,but for guys it just makes you
more feminine than musculine. Because if you're musculine, you
want to like, yeah, take some room and just be.
Be chill, relax, yeah yeah #5 don't post too many photos with
other people. Your page should be primarily
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about you and your specific theme.
The subject of your photography or art for example.
The main thing is just people would understand whose account
it is. The best proportion is 65%
photos of you and 35% photos of you with friends and girls etc.
Or less. It's just a lot of the times you
know, someone joins your group and I go to their profile, you
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send it to me and I'm like, but who is an actual guy?
Because he has like 7 pictures and in all of those pictures at
least group of three, right? So it's like, I'm not going to
spend like 30 minutes of my lifetry to figure out whose profile
is that and. Rule #6 Avoid having extra
people in the frame in the background, only as a last
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resort if you can't completely remove them, but the photo looks
great. This applies to people who are
not supposed to be in the frame initially, random people,
friends who did not know they were taking a photo, etc.
Because they look bad in the frame, they can be blurry and in
ugly poses, which really spoils the whole picture.
And obviously there are exceptions we're not talking
about. Like never ever in your life
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post a picture like this. Just really try to avoid it.
Obviously if it's dream of your life, go to, you know, I
actually was even able to go to Eiffel Tower and get the picture
with 0 people you like. It's crazy.
But obviously if I wouldn't be able to do this, you know, it
was a dream of my life, I would still post it.
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But for all other scenarios I tried to avoid it.
It just doesn't look clean. It looks whatever.
Yeah, and people kind of know these days, like, remember we're
in Tulum at the How hotel and they had that big art
installation. There's like a line for people
to take photos and that way there's there's no one behind
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each person gets whatever. Yeah, but you're waiting for two
hours in the line. We actually, it was insane.
We actually didn't waited. So in that scenario, I would not
be upset with you. There would be people in the
line. So #7 if you're in the photo and
it's not a landscape photo, you should be visible.
So I broke this rule on this one.
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That's me wakeboarding in the background and I'm obviously
not, you know, can't, can't really see.
Me let me explain why, because alot of people won't understand
it just when you post this picture, it's even for people
who follow you. They they will they won't even
understand that it's you They they will be like oh wait, who's
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this girl or whatever I I have not followed her and you're like
oh unfollow and after you will go to the profile.
I was like, oh, that's Robbie that, you know, that's a weird
picture, just like a confusion because, you know.
OK. Yeah, that was helpful.
I was even confused before you explained that.
I know, I knew that. All right, rule #8 despite the
fact that the photo is fine-tuned, the emotion should
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always be sincere, especially the smile.
Meaning we're going to help you edit those, but you need to have
sincere emotions on the photos and #9 you need to understand
what can be published in storiesand what can go in the main
profile. Your main profile, your grid is
for flawless photos that follow the other rules in this list.
Any other interesting and cool photos and videos that describe
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your day? Those should really be posted as
a story. Yeah, so you have pictures and
there is 15,000 people behind you, but you are standing in
front of Sacrika in Paris. You can post it on your stories
and all others you know, It's that's totally fine.
Another thing is it's fine to not follow the rules all the
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time because you don't understand them.
Robbie still doesn't. But it takes time to learn.
Sometimes it takes a very long time.
Even if you have a good coach, or maybe you're not such a good
coach. Thanks.
All right. Last one rule #10 don't post
photos with bad body language orhygiene like having stuff in
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your teeth. Like right before we started
this podcast. Yeah, for me.
So a little remark for a lot of people who are thinking why
should I follow all the stupid rules like trying to do it and
you know, they just want to do it and be authentic and all
those things. The main reason it's because the
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competition is so big on online social media that if you're not
doing it good, you're going to be unnoticeable whatsoever.
So you, you're going to put workanyway.
No matter how you're doing it, you're it's still putting the
work in and you will have absolutely 0 recognition from
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anybody. So that will make you really
frustrated and you know it's notgoing to help.
But if you already decide to do it, do it well.
Yeah, now no offense, but this is a profile that screams chaos.
So this is a buddy of ours. Honestly, if he saw this video,
he probably wouldn't give a shitbecause that's the type of guy
(24:59):
he is. So Mickey, if you're watching,
we love you and we're going to roast your profile.
I did not agree for that. He just put me on the spot, so.
So you as a girl like if Mickey was able to get your your phone
number, for example from an online.
Dating he wouldn't be able. If he was able, if you were
single and you guys exchanged phone numbers right on and then
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you saw his Instagram, what would be your first impression
of this? Not the good thing about him
that he loves dogs and I love dogs.
So that would be a definitely A+.
OK, if if you love animals, it'salways a good plus.
But it definitely screams like here exactly what we were
talking about. You see selfie, selfie, head cut
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selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie, selfie.
It's all selfies, right? So just looking by his profile
and you know, I we actually selfie selfie or this is not a.
Selfie. But yeah, this is selfie, so we
know the guy really well. He's very nice, amazing person.
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But I will never know that because by his Instagram
profile, he looks to me weird. I'm like, who is this person?
He doesn't have anybody to even make a picture of him.
He's always alone. OK, he's with his dogs.
This is nice, but it's just like, it's so weird.
It's it tells me that this person doesn't have any type of
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social circle whatsoever. Which isn't even true, because
he does. He does.
He has. But that's what you're showing.
Yeah, but that's what you're showing.
It's unfortunately a lot of people cannot represent them
well because Mickey is actually he has amazing social circle.
We met so many good people. You know he is amazing donor
(26:47):
for. Well, that's why we're doing
this whole episode because like,there's a difference between a
good product and good marketing.Mickey is a good product, but
his marketing on Instagram anyways is very bad.
So, you know, super bad. He's not going to be able to use
Instagram to to date the girls he wants, right?
This is going to hinder him morethan it's going to help him.
Yeah, and it's hard to pass thatpoint.
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As soon as I get his Instagram, you know, it's, it's not even
the immediate no, like a lot of guys think that like what I
would think, look, Oh no, he's not good enough for me or, or
something like that. You know, it's actually not what
I think. I I just think this is weird.
It's kind of weird. This guy, I don't see any of his
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friends is like, is he even likereal?
Maybe he is a creep. I don't want to put my life at
the risk to go meet someone who I have like a weird feeling
about. So.
So it's not even about oh he's not good looking enough or he's
not tall enough. I mean for some girls
unfortunately that's a big no. But for normal girls the height
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it's never a problem. So it just like you should not
target yourself as a weirdo. Well, if you follow these rules
and you don't post stuff with low res images and cluttered
vibes and no cohesion, no story,they're like, you know, you want
your profile to tell like a story about you.
It should show who you are in the best possible light.
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And a bunch of memes, a bunch ofselfies, a bunch of low quality
stuff. You're telling the world like, I
don't give a shit about this. And that's that's not a good
look in 2025. So now we're going to show you a
good example. So Orion had basically no
Instagram before he came to us. He had like 2 photos in like a
Hurley shirt from 2008 and some,you know, terrible body language
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he had, he had nothing. So we built this from the ground
up. Maria took all six of these
photos. You can see you're actually in
this photo. Some of our other friends, I'm
in this photo here. And we basically built his whole
profile for him like these thesenine photos.
The new ones. Right.
This one we took at a party together, but like, he had
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nothing. And now this is what Profile
looks like. And then we basically like now
he kind of fills in the blank atthe top.
Yeah, like this is his. This is mine also.
I'm here too. This is a cute picture, yeah.
So you can see what a good one looks like and a bad.
One Orion broke the rule. Bad group, group, group picture.
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I already gave him shit about this.
Don't worry guys, you know you, you will do mistakes.
Good call he could have. You will make mistake or you
will do mistakes. You'll make mistakes, you'll
make mistakes yeah, that was bad, but I told him I'm not so
mad at you because you have hot girls in this pictures in this
picture and you have hot girls in this picture.
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So I was not that mad. You can break a group rule if
you have hot girls in your pictures.
Otherwise, if you have Bros on your pictures, do not break the
rule. So make sure guys to show your
hobbies if you're doing something cool like here, it
tells so much about him as a person right here.
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It wasn't a top golf. Obviously you need to you
actually don't need to know how to go for anything like that
right. So he smiles.
He has good fashion here right him and his friends they're like
doing something fun. You don't think that this guy is
a creep, right? You see him having friends
they're having fun right here isoh, it's actually me.
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Orion is our friend, right? He's showing like we're smiling.
Like you will never think that guy like, this is creepy or
anything. He's actually, yeah, hitting the
shot very good. So this one post that tells you
so much about the person and makes you immediately feel some
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sort of. I don't even know how to say it.
Like an attraction A. Good feeling good, Yeah.
A good feeling about this person.
You don't feel like sketchy or anything thing to go.
If Orion would say, Maria, let'sgo drink coffee and I'll be
like, Oh yeah, why not? Because I know this guy's has
this cool friends, they're doingcool things.
He looks very natural in what he's doing.
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So yeah, you have a good vibe. So that's what we want to help
you guys build. Final thoughts.
If you're already in the icy community, start your threads
now. Post your photos, get feedback.
That's your first mission. And if you're listening to this
from the outside, watching on YouTube or tuning in on Spotify,
that's what we do. We help men build a dating
presence that actually works fortheir photos, fix their fashion,
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and finally attract the women they want.
We do this through our live events, private shoots, and
one-on-one coaching inside the IC community.
If you're tired of winging it orwasting money on the wrong help,
apply to join us. Links are in the show notes and
we'll see you inside. Out of all the guys I know, the
only ones who managed to consistently win the game are
those who built and invested in a high status social circle.
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You can certainly approach womenand try your luck on the apps if
you're a chef bad, but those strategies simply don't work
consistently to attract top tierwomen and awesome friends in
your life. But for most guys, the idea of
building a social circle can feel overwhelming.
So they continue to hunt for women in their usual ways and
end up settling for a girl they were never really that excited
about in the 1st place. To avoid this fate, join our
community and instantly plug into a highly vetted social
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circle of cool dudes to network and navigate your journey with.
You already know it's hard to find wing men because the good
ones don't stay in the game verylong.
Many of our members travel together, end up living
together, build amazing circles and businesses together both in
the West and in many of the bestlocations around the globe with
gorgeous women and low cost of living.
I'm extremely careful who I let into this community, but if you
feel like you make a good fit, you can apply to join the links
(32:40):
in the description.
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