Here's To Life Guest Dr. Stephanie Coleman

How to stay positive and move past fear

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Good evening and welcome to Here's the Life with Zimra
and Ed right here at Intellectual Radio dot com. We
hope you have gathered up your friends and family for
like I promised last week, for our wonderful, phenomenal doctor
Stephanie Coleman joining us this evening that always brings great

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you can go to Zimra one at yahoo dot com
if you have any questions as well. So, doctor Coleman,
as always, we are so happy to have you join
us because we know that it's gonna always be some
great information uh that will carry us the rest of
the week and going forward looking forward to some of

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the information that we can carry into twenty twenty six.
So how have you been doing? And then share with
us all the good stuff you've been doing since you
were here before, I mean we've seen you since then
because her and her husband joined us for Ed's eightieth
birthday celebration. Yeah, that's right.

Speaker 2 (01:32):
Yeah, yeah, congratulations, Yes, it is a big It was.

Speaker 3 (01:38):
A great party too, a great person.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
Yeah. So what do you have? What's been going on?

Speaker 2 (01:45):
So just regular things have been going on. So I
decided that I needed to get all fit physical physically.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
Now that's what I want us to talk about too,
if that's gonna Yes.

Speaker 3 (02:00):
I got really serious about my hiking this year.

Speaker 4 (02:04):
So I'm up to seven miles a week now, Ray
sweet snow cold. What Ever, I have learned that when
you are committed to something, you will find a way
to get it done.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
And that's really the truth on that. That just makes
sense too.

Speaker 2 (02:22):
And when I decided I was going to do that,
and so I took off all the weight that I
needed to take. You you look so good and eating right,
and and I'm excited about it.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
You should because you look wonderful. You really really do.

Speaker 3 (02:42):
Feel bad. And the thing that I do don't.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
The thing I learned is something that we've been taught
all our life, and that is to start small, okay,
and I think we don't understand just what that means
and how valuable that is. So right now today I
do seven eight miles a day, okay, But I didn't
start off doing.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
Seven eight miles okay.

Speaker 2 (03:09):
What I started off doing was literally walking around the
block in the neighborhood, not at a fast pace, just
walking the block in the neighborhood.

Speaker 3 (03:21):
I'd go down to the end of the corner, I'd
make a return.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Go to that end, come up the other side, and
then come back on that block, and then just called
it success, and.

Speaker 3 (03:31):
Then did whatever else I wanted to do.

Speaker 2 (03:33):
And what I discovered is once you finally start to
do that, your body will tell you when you need
to do more so and so you don't have to
push yourself. Just start and then you'll find yourself saying, oh, yeah,
this time, I want to go way down that way,
and then you'll go down that way and just go

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down that way, just let your body tell you, and
before you know it telling you.

Speaker 3 (04:01):
You will be looking.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
For ice cleats for you for your boots, hand warmers
for your hand when it's fifteen below zero, and you
will be looking for a path because you can't.

Speaker 3 (04:12):
Let it go, you can't miss it anymore.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
So sometimes when we start things and exercises, we just
need to allow the process to take take place. Just
like if you're when you eat, if you're eating, if
you're eating right, sit but we say I'm gonna eat right, well,
don't eliminate every food that you like to eat. Just
pick one, okay, and then what will happen then is

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your body will let you know exactly what it needs
next and you just obey your body.

Speaker 5 (04:43):
So you're saying, start small.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
Start small, start small. We underestimate that one percent of
action that will get us to our goal. We think
that we have to do one hundred percent one And
so it happens in your physical life, it happens in
your in your in your environment, and it happens even

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in your profession, whatever it is.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
It's like so it's like, if.

Speaker 2 (05:13):
You're trying to do something and you have a project,
don't do one always start doing one percent and ask
yourself what one percent can I do to move toward
my goal? And you will be surprised how it will answer,

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and you will be surprised how soon you get to
the end of your goal because you're not trying to
cram it all in today.

Speaker 1 (05:47):
That makes a lot of sense. So you're saying that
even when so when it's been really freezing cold. You
still was out there.

Speaker 3 (05:58):
Oh yeah, they may close for that. I noticed.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
I learned about ice cleaves, I learned about hand warmers,
foot warmers, I've learned about everything. I can go out
in any weather and be safe.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
Wow, the material was there for you.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah. And it's all about a mindset, like we always say,
a mindset.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
And when you start looking forward and you want to
do that, you'll be surprised how the universe will.

Speaker 3 (06:28):
Lead you on the way to that.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
And then you'll discover hand warmers that you didn't even
know that the people had that you just plug up
and then you put them inside your gloves.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
Yeah. Yeah, I'm familiar with those.

Speaker 5 (06:40):
Start small, Start first, start small, be consistent, right, And
you were kind of growing its.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
Own and it will grow, not kind of grow, it
will grow.

Speaker 1 (06:51):
And that was a good way to put it too.
That that consistency, right, we know that consistency is important with.

Speaker 5 (06:58):
All things to do, whether you go anywhere or not,
Just go out the door.

Speaker 3 (07:03):
Just go out the door.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Now for women, for women with knee problems, tell me
about that. That's something said.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
So I guess I had the pleasure of being hiking
in Washington d c and decided that I was going
to go in the neighborhood I didn't know nothing about
and fail and hurt.

Speaker 3 (07:27):
Both knees on the concrete. Both knees. Okay, both knees
right now.

Speaker 2 (07:34):
Long aer was that that was two years, that was
last year. So then I, I says, okay, so I
got to get.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
Up from here.

Speaker 2 (07:43):
I managed to get up from there, got to the hotel,
and then I started researching things that I could do
for the knees. So I bought and there's a bunch
of stuff on the market for people who walk or
hike for knees.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
So I had I have these compressions things that I
still wear it today.

Speaker 2 (08:01):
I don't need them, but I still wear it just
in case because in some of the terrain, you don't
know when you're gonna trip and fall, so I try
to be prepared for tripping and falling. Now, so you
buy those, you put those on, you just keep.

Speaker 1 (08:14):
Doing and that's when you're hiking.

Speaker 3 (08:16):
And that's when I'm hiking.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Okay, wow, Because because they say because I thought that, no,
I think this is awesome, because I thought when you
the way they say that when you do too much walking,
that the concrete wears on your knees. So as far

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as shoes, proper shoes and all, what do you suggest
for that?

Speaker 3 (08:46):
So you have to have proper shoes.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Okay, that's key.

Speaker 3 (08:50):
That's key. So and you change your shoes often.

Speaker 1 (08:55):
Okay, there it is. There's another one because.

Speaker 2 (08:57):
They wear down. So I have several pairs of boots
that I like for winter. Okay, some of them are
for snow and ice, so they're built a little differently,
and then some of them are just for a spring.
So then then they're built they're they're built a little
differently also, So you have to start to be you
have to start investing in that. Now, a lot of

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times people aren't successful because it is quite an investment.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
So you but you do have to invest in it.

Speaker 1 (09:27):
But that's investing into your own health too, right.

Speaker 3 (09:30):
So I was I needed to lose a lot of weight.

Speaker 2 (09:32):
I lost all of the weight, right, so I have
great vitals and everything, and I can literally eat anything
I want to eat because.

Speaker 1 (09:42):
You steadily moving. That is wonderful and.

Speaker 2 (09:47):
So that but looking at what it is you want
to do, start small, Okay, it's important that you started
that little one percent thing.

Speaker 3 (10:01):
Don't try to do ten miles if.

Speaker 2 (10:03):
You've never walked ten miles, don't do ten miles today. Okay,
don't even do one mile. Let's just get around the block.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Like you say it, right, Just get around the block.

Speaker 2 (10:15):
And what will happen is you'll go around that block
and then eventually your mind will say.

Speaker 3 (10:19):
Well, let's see what's down there, and then you'll go
down there, okay.

Speaker 2 (10:23):
And then it'll say let's see what's over there, and
then you'll go over there.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (10:28):
So the body will will will move you when it's time.

Speaker 3 (10:32):
It knows when it's time.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
It's just like it knows when you eat too much, okay,
it knows when you need to when you need to sleep.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
So it knows when it's time, and then you will
get in a position.

Speaker 2 (10:44):
As both of us were talking about before we started,
is that all of a sudden, you crave the outdoors,
and you crave the sun, the wind, the snow, whatever
it brings you. You crave getting out there in that nature.
And what I have found as being in nature it

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clears my head for things. It helps me work out problems,
or at least I know that they're not problems.

Speaker 3 (11:14):
I just thought they were, they weren't problems.

Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah, and then.

Speaker 2 (11:18):
There is this symphony that I find along with my
movement and the universal presence of God.

Speaker 3 (11:24):
So I do a lot of talking to God.

Speaker 2 (11:27):
I listen to things better because there's no one around
me hardly, and then that way I get the greatest ideas.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
When I do that.

Speaker 2 (11:37):
So you have to find some place to be alone
to where you can listen to that inner voice inside
of you. And a lot of people say, oh, let's
stay in and prayer, but that.

Speaker 3 (11:49):
Doesn't work for everybody.

Speaker 2 (11:50):
Okay, But when I'm out looking at all of the nature,
looking at the sun, looking at the rain, looking at
the snow, because I'm out no matter what, Okay, looking
at the animal was, looking at how nature beautiful? It
is absolutely beautiful, like you said it is. So you
begin to realize that the life that you are living

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is absolutely fantastic.

Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yes, it's complete.

Speaker 5 (12:15):
It's complete because you like to look at asy.

Speaker 2 (12:20):
Yes, right, especially in the trees that we don't pay
attention to, or in the bushes that we don't pay
attention to, and even grass is different. So and then
you and you literally then become really grateful.

Speaker 1 (12:39):
Really, that's what I was feeling just with the way,
just with the excitement and the expression that you have.
You can tell that it is just it brings you,
brings you joy.

Speaker 3 (12:49):
It does. It brings you joy. And then the other
side to that.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
As we were talking earlier, is you meet everybody in
the neighborhood. You know what everybody is doing in the neighborhood.
You know all the dogs, all the cats, everyone. So
you're the safest being in the world because everybody knows you.
Everybody and everything, yes knows you.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
Because they know when they there should go. They go
Doctor Coleman and.

Speaker 2 (13:16):
The dogs of bark when they come, and a lot
of them now or jump the fence and come over
and we'll talk, and then I make them go back home.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
It's amazing. It is just amazing. Get home.

Speaker 2 (13:29):
And there's a problem you need to solve. It seems
like it solves itself.

Speaker 3 (13:36):
Because you weren't. You weren't worried about that.

Speaker 2 (13:40):
You were just outside enjoying nature, freedom. And when you
do that, then that presence of God can help work
that problem out and without telling you to sit down
and stop stop interfering with what I'm doing.

Speaker 5 (13:58):
So being outside exactly do you look outside, you're all
kind of asked because.

Speaker 3 (14:04):
You're right, because you got room.

Speaker 2 (14:06):
You get surprised the answers that you get to things,
and the ideas that come to you when you're.

Speaker 3 (14:13):
In there that you didn't even ask for.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
You just I'm just out trying to look at the
different kind of flowers and stuff and say hi to
the animals and the people I see. And then you
get ideas that you didn't even think of.

Speaker 5 (14:26):
Well, you thought of it. You asked the.

Speaker 3 (14:28):
Question exactly exactly, that's the question.

Speaker 5 (14:32):
Last today, and all of sudden answer.

Speaker 3 (14:36):
Right.

Speaker 2 (14:37):
And so I use it as a form of meditation. See,
and I do meditate at night. But what I find
about this is every answer is a nature and it
comes really fast.

Speaker 1 (14:50):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
You know.

Speaker 2 (14:52):
And people are afraid that things bother them, but no,
there are those people aren't bothering you.

Speaker 3 (14:58):
Nothing will bother you.

Speaker 2 (14:59):
You will be so prized because when you connect with
the presence of God in that.

Speaker 1 (15:04):
Nature, that's your protection too. Yeah, that makes sense. I
know that I used to walk around, Remember, I used
to walk around all the time and kind of dance
around too, all in all in my area. Uh, and
that's how I would learn a lot of my music,
learn a lot of my lyrics and all, and just
walk in and singing with my earphones on and just

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and it would be just I would catch on so
fast because it would just be so free and so yeah.
But I think that when I was doing all that,
I didn't have on the right shoes, to be honest.
And they started working, the concrete started working, and your shoes.

Speaker 3 (15:46):
Were fairly fast fast.

Speaker 2 (15:49):
So you have to be willing to but find a
shoe that fits your foot because feet are different, right
and everybody. And then so I have boots for the winter,
and then I have sneaker like for a spring.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
And now what is your best shoe for your your
best shoe that you suggest?

Speaker 3 (16:07):
I like to I like to walk in timberlands.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
And he says, no, don't do that.

Speaker 3 (16:17):
That's so ugly. I get out of my shoe, like,
get out.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
Of my shoe like like my shoes like, so I
like to do that now.

Speaker 3 (16:29):
And timberlands, for one, I can get my size in it.
I have.

Speaker 2 (16:33):
I have feet that are hard to fit, so they
always will have my size.

Speaker 1 (16:38):
Plus that really gives you ground.

Speaker 2 (16:40):
Gives me ground, So I'm not worried about stepping in water.
I'm manure whatever's out there, not worried about it. And
then my ice cleaves will fit those on the bottom
when I'm in this in the summer. But so I
have a pair that I wear in the summer and
then the spring, because you have to.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
You should change your shoes.

Speaker 1 (16:59):
Now, she just walking?

Speaker 3 (17:00):
No, I just walk. I walk now, I walk seven
miles a day, okay, No, I I don't like running.
I tried.

Speaker 2 (17:14):
My son tried to teach me how because he ran.
I don't like running.

Speaker 1 (17:17):
They said running it is not good for women, and
I just don't like it, and just the walk is
really cool. Walk fast though, So see now I walk fast, period.
I've always done that. My past has always been fast.
But you know, the knee, my knees have absolutely slowed

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me down though.

Speaker 2 (17:40):
So I wear, like I said, I wear compression things
on my knees. Yeah, because sometimes you sometimes I fall, so.

Speaker 3 (17:47):
It's like I gotta protect the knees.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
So I have that on there, and then I I
have generally in the winter, I'll have like a couple
pairs of fleeceline leggings which are really fam but really warm,
and then I'll put on sweatpants there so I'm warm
and then so I have enough stuff so.

Speaker 1 (18:05):
If I fall, you're good. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (18:08):
So this philosophy applies to all phases of life. Right,
think about what it is you want to isolate what
you want to do. Start say what you want to
start with, Start small, and be consistent.

Speaker 2 (18:25):
Right when you're When you have a goal, you need
to take one action a day toward that goal.

Speaker 3 (18:35):
So think about this.

Speaker 2 (18:37):
So so, but what we have is we have this
huge goal, but we want to do everything today.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
Now do one today. Okay. So if you are whatever you're.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
Doing, okay, and let's say you need to be on
social media, okay, don't try to do all the social
media today, right.

Speaker 3 (18:55):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (18:56):
They have systems now where you can schedule your social
media like I do, and then you can sit down
whenever you want to sit down, and then you log
up your social media and then it'll it will send
the messages out for you every day that you put
in that where you put them.

Speaker 3 (19:15):
So that works very good.

Speaker 2 (19:18):
So what I do now, though, is I used to
have to do everything all the time and get it
done because I just needed to do that.

Speaker 3 (19:25):
I don't know why Okay. So now what I do
is I have a schedule. Okay, So if.

Speaker 2 (19:31):
I'm going to do social media, because I have a
presence in social media, what I find is I take
time for that.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
I will take a week for social media.

Speaker 1 (19:46):
And do all of your scheduling, do all.

Speaker 3 (19:48):
My scheduling, because I for that month.

Speaker 2 (19:51):
So this first, so I'll decide what it is my
thing's going to be.

Speaker 5 (19:56):
So it's a predetermined session of time for that exactly.

Speaker 3 (20:01):
So I decide what my theme's going to be. Okay.

Speaker 2 (20:05):
Then I work with all of the tools that I
have to figure out how.

Speaker 3 (20:09):
I'm what I you know, what I wanted to look like.
And then I work on what the post's gonna be.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
Okay, So I get a month of worth of post
and then I'll start entering that into social media because
I use a system where I can schedule.

Speaker 3 (20:28):
My social media and then it will send it out
on the times I tell it to send out automatically.

Speaker 2 (20:33):
Automatically, Okay, I do that, and that takes me about
a week to create thirty days work for social media contact.
But I use every everything I can use to help
me with that contact, and then I put it in
there okay, and then I just tell it to go

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do its thing.

Speaker 3 (20:56):
I don't even look at it anymore. Okay.

Speaker 2 (20:58):
But see, I have to do that for me because
I'm a perfectionist. So I would go back and make
changes all the time, and then nothing gets done. So
I had to come to the point that it doesn't
have to be perfect.

Speaker 3 (21:11):
You just have to put it out. So stop trying.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
That's what I have to remember too, Stop.

Speaker 3 (21:16):
Trying to be perfect. So I do that, and then.

Speaker 2 (21:21):
I schedule my hikes. Nothing infear with the hikes, okay.
So I schedule the hikes, and then I do something
called hiking chronicles.

Speaker 3 (21:33):
That I started a long time ago.

Speaker 2 (21:35):
A media coach told me to start doing that off
the spot. So sometimes I'll be outside and then I'll
do my hiking chronicles and then I put those up.
And so I have schedules for this. Okay, I don't
break the schedule. I don't speed up the schedule because
I'll speed everything up and try to do everything this week.
And so I had to teach myself that, so I

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do find one percent today, What can I do? What
one percent that would get me one percent closer to
my goal. I'm not trying to get to my goal
to one hundred percent today, right, it is just too
much for you to do. So what can move you
one percent closer to your goal?

Speaker 1 (22:19):
That's what you do, and that's what you have to
remember out there, she's saying. Doctor Coleman is saying one
percent of your goal is really better than no percent,
but it helps you to get it.

Speaker 2 (22:31):
Start you do one percentthing, one percent closer to your
goal every single day, or schedule it.

Speaker 3 (22:39):
So maybe you want to take you need to take
some time for yourself. Yes, so maybe you want to
work Monday through Thursday.

Speaker 2 (22:46):
Okay, So you find something you can do one percent
of your goal for each one of those days. Write
it down, okay, because once you start to actually look
at what you want to do, great ideas are going
to come to you, but you're not gonna remember them
if you don't write them down. Just write them down, okay, right,
and then start doing those things, just one what will

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bring you one percent.

Speaker 3 (23:11):
Closer to your goal? So the one thing that we
tend to do, and I bought.

Speaker 2 (23:16):
Some notes because I wanted not to forget something.

Speaker 1 (23:19):
Oh that's fine.

Speaker 3 (23:20):
That we tend to do is.

Speaker 2 (23:22):
We'll do this we'll get everything put up, and then
we'll get these ants that doctor Adam talks about. Negative
is an automatic negative.

Speaker 3 (23:34):
Thoughts.

Speaker 2 (23:34):
Okay, so we sit there and we'll say, oh, that's
not very good, or no one's going to read that,
or nobody likes that.

Speaker 3 (23:42):
You don't have a clues to what girls came to you.
It was meant for you.

Speaker 2 (23:50):
To do it, and so presented as it came. Because
we forget we're in this huge universe and we don't
necessarily just only have God talking to us. There are
angels out there, there's guardian angels out there, there's everything
out there trying to get us on our path.

Speaker 1 (24:10):
We just have to listen, to tune in.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
And make sure that you do what it is you're
supposed to do. So instead of saying, oh, I want
to get up today and I'm gonna do one hundred
percent of everything. No, get up today, and what action
can you do today that will move you one percent
closer to your goal?

Speaker 5 (24:31):
Do you hear?

Speaker 3 (24:33):
Yeah, you hear that voice.

Speaker 5 (24:35):
You can do only one push up, that's all you need.
Come on, let's do twenty.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
You can do you can do twenty now, it's one.
I love that Yeah, want something one percent that will
get you closer to your goal. Do that and then
leave it alone and trust it. Okay, that's right. That's
you leave it alone and you trust it.

Speaker 3 (25:04):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (25:04):
Now, when something comes out to you and say, oh,
this is not gonna work and you start having these
negative thoughts, sometimes we do that because we don't think
it's going to work. We don't have faith in it.
So that's us talking to ourselves.

Speaker 3 (25:21):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (25:22):
So when that happens to me, I tell that voice
to go sit down.

Speaker 3 (25:28):
Okay, I'll talk.

Speaker 2 (25:29):
To you later, yes, okay, but I'm gonna do this
right now, okay. And that's what you do. Just tell
that to have a seed. It's not going nowhere and
be back again. Okay, but put that one percent down
whatever it is.

Speaker 3 (25:44):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (25:45):
So then when you do that and that thoughts, those
thoughts come, what I do is I ask myself, is
this true? Whatever that voice is saying?

Speaker 3 (25:59):
Is it true?

Speaker 2 (26:00):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (26:01):
Good or bad? Is it good or bad? Is it true?
Is it right? What's you know? So you find out that.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
You're right, it's that's not that's that's not a good voice,
that's not you know, and then you just leave it
alone back there. You just say, we'll go sit down. Now,
you can go sit down. But see, when I start
working on my stuff, I tell my I tell all
of them people in my head that's taking up space.

Speaker 3 (26:30):
I says, Okay, y'all, I'm gonna be busy for four hours.

Speaker 2 (26:33):
Okay, so y'all gonna have to find something else to
do while I'm busy.

Speaker 3 (26:36):
I'll get back to you. Okay, that's right. I talk
to myself.

Speaker 2 (26:41):
So then when I've gotten everything posted and everything up
there like it is, I know I'm not changing it,
so I can tell them.

Speaker 3 (26:48):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (26:48):
So I don't know what you got to say, but
we're not changing nothing.

Speaker 1 (26:50):
Okay, it is what it is. I got it already,
that's already.

Speaker 2 (26:55):
So but you know, but sometimes we don't have faith
in our abilities, so we listen.

Speaker 3 (27:03):
To those thoughts. Yes, okay.

Speaker 2 (27:06):
You don't know who is reading your stuff, who's listening
to you, who turned tunes into your stuff because you
make their day. You don't know, okay, so just know
that somebody it's gonna hit. Somebody needed to hear what

(27:26):
you had to say.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
It helped them.

Speaker 1 (27:30):
Just know that because I want to say this that
and I think, uh, well, I think Wanda be our producers.
I think we've we've kind of talked about that before.
Is that how you can put You can post things
that uh that you feel that are great significant and
that you know, but you might not get as many

(27:55):
as you thought might respond. But what you're saying is
that don't even worry about any of that because if
it touches one person, that's a good thing.

Speaker 3 (28:08):
That's right.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
And what I have learned too is because I do
leadership stock, so all of my stuff online is for
is for leadership stock.

Speaker 3 (28:19):
Okay. So you don't get a.

Speaker 2 (28:21):
Lot of stuff on leadership okay, not on social media.

Speaker 3 (28:24):
I don't worry about that because I get.

Speaker 2 (28:26):
The phone calls where if people want to pay me
fifteen twenty thousand dollars to come in and straighten up
their problem hello.

Speaker 3 (28:33):
That they don't put on social media.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
See Okay, So don't worry about what the people say
on social media. I don't even bother to respond to
the people who are negative.

Speaker 3 (28:44):
Okay, I don't have time for that. I'm busy. That's right,
and that's just.

Speaker 1 (28:49):
And you can show them better than tell them that's right.

Speaker 2 (28:52):
So I can show them better, and I can tell
them that's right. I don't do that, and if I have,
I did have one person that was just oh my god,
it was just became annoying.

Speaker 3 (29:02):
So I so you can block people and they don't know.
So I blocked him and he did not, So that's
just annoying. I can't take that. God, I can't take
that guy. I want to go strangle him. So we're
gonna stop playing with him right now.

Speaker 2 (29:16):
So some people you just have to stop playing with,
just stop playing with it.

Speaker 1 (29:19):
And sometimes that that is really and truly has nothing
to do with you. It's their own insecurities, of their
own jealousies.

Speaker 2 (29:28):
That's said has it never has anything to do with you.
It has everything to do with that person that is
making those comments.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
Yeah, because that's that's their own issues and their own problems.
They wish that they could do and have the forethought
that you have. That's really what it is. A lot
of times I believe that.

Speaker 5 (29:47):
They need to have the ability to discern who that
person is.

Speaker 1 (29:53):
And I like what doctor Coma said, and then it's
just tell them that, you know, take a hate.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
I mean, you know, if they if they really get
tired of you you really get tied to them, you
can block them. They don't even know, okay, so there's
ways to get rid of them if you want to.

Speaker 3 (30:06):
But it just doesn't bother me. I had to remember.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
See when I grew up, I remember I couldn't grow
any hair, so it was all couldn't grown the hair.
I was always picked on, always picked on it. My
grandmother used to tell me that that's all right, because
you can't pay any bills with hair, baby, Okay.

Speaker 3 (30:26):
That's the truth. Yeah, so I just forget.

Speaker 1 (30:32):
Yeah, And she.

Speaker 2 (30:33):
Says, some people just like to be up, not just
and don't keep them from being up, not just that's
probably the best thing they can do. So now you
just don't worry about that, because the people who were
serious looking to solve a problem, they're not looking at
those people either.

Speaker 3 (30:52):
They're looking at the person. They're looking for, the person
who can help them solve their problem. So be sure
that you remember that.

Speaker 2 (30:59):
So when you and but when when you have a brand,
you got to know who you really are too.

Speaker 3 (31:08):
So when you know who.

Speaker 2 (31:09):
You really are and what you really bring, you are
not worried about what those other people think. That's right, okay,
because you've already working with the people that you're supposed
to be working with.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
That's right.

Speaker 2 (31:24):
So but we forget sometimes that, we forget our own
strengths and we forget our own resources. So I say
that maybe quarterly that you need to sit down and
make a list for yourself. What your you know, how
good are you?

Speaker 3 (31:41):
What are your resources? What do you do really well?
Because we all do something really really well.

Speaker 2 (31:46):
Yeah, okay, and it's like what do you really really like?
And keep that someplace where you can see just how
good that you are. We all have excellent things that
we can do. And then just because somebody in the
back seat said they didn't like it.

Speaker 3 (32:07):
We want to put it under the covers. We don't
do that. We are all here for the creator's use
to help people get.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
Where they're supposed to be, right, and that's why we're here,
and we need to remember that. Yeah, So whatever you do,
make sure you have some movement in whatever you're working
on every single day. But you don't have to like
build a house, you know, you just do one percent

(32:39):
just every single day.

Speaker 1 (32:40):
Just want and keep that in mind one to start out,
I remember that because you do have a purpose. Yeah,
And you just have to find what it is, you know, and.

Speaker 2 (32:52):
Sometimes we have to ask ourselves, like what's my energy?
Like am I working in fear possibility?

Speaker 3 (33:01):
Where am I? What am I doing? You have to
add these too, so I have those in the mirror.

Speaker 2 (33:07):
I go to a mirror, and what I do is
I trick myself. So I Louise Hay has this thing
where you take a you go to the mirror and
you say I love you.

Speaker 3 (33:17):
Right.

Speaker 2 (33:18):
So I go to the mirror and say I love me,
and then I wait to see how I really feel
about that, okay, because sometimes I don't love me right,
And then I say, oh, I don't love me.

Speaker 3 (33:30):
Then I say, okay, so what's wrong? So then I
work through that. Okay, what is it I need to change?
Or do I need to change?

Speaker 2 (33:37):
Or I'm just too hard on myself because most of
us are just too hard on ourself. Right. So, because
you know, most of us got up this morning and
had thirty dollars in thought by the end.

Speaker 3 (33:45):
Of the day, we should have a million and don't
work like that. But that's what a lot of us think.

Speaker 2 (33:49):
So look at who you think you are and find
the good things in that.

Speaker 3 (33:56):
So, right, down.

Speaker 2 (33:59):
I call it a break, y'all, things that you have accomplished,
and keep it with you, because we forget. We get
so busy in this world that we forget that we've
done some great things and we're capable of still doing
great things.

Speaker 3 (34:12):
So we need to keep that in mind.

Speaker 2 (34:15):
Also, so ask yourself before you do something, what energy
am I working from?

Speaker 3 (34:21):
Fear or possibility?

Speaker 1 (34:24):
Not like that?

Speaker 2 (34:24):
Okay, And if it's fear, don't start yet. Okay, work
on what you are afraid of?

Speaker 4 (34:31):
Now?

Speaker 1 (34:32):
What would be an example of that?

Speaker 3 (34:34):
Like most of us.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
Don't realize that our biggest fear is being successful, so
we do all of this other stuff, but we feel
like if we're successful, then everybody's gonna find every flow
you have and pick pick on it, right, that's what
they think.

Speaker 3 (34:51):
Well, I say, well, let them do it.

Speaker 2 (34:55):
Yeah, that's true, because they're gonna do it anyway.

Speaker 3 (34:59):
Yeah, they're gonna tell you what's wrong with yourself anyway.

Speaker 2 (35:02):
Right, So just don't fear that.

Speaker 3 (35:06):
Hear that, you know?

Speaker 2 (35:07):
So because you just excuse My mother would say, yeah,
well just right, y'all can sit down there and waste
time and go back and forth and what you're afraid
of you can go back and and what you're good
at right up to you, right, so you just you
just roll with it.

Speaker 5 (35:23):
I find that telling the truth is scary sometimes. If
you tell people the truth, you can tell about the
reaction or the reaction you don't get. If you tell
them something that just real that goes against what they leave,
they just get quiet on you and look at you.

Speaker 3 (35:43):
Yeah, but that's not your problem. It's still not your problem.

Speaker 5 (35:48):
That kind of souves people will say, will say anything
anything further than that.

Speaker 3 (35:54):
And it shouldn't stop.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
It should not stop because it shouldn't stop you. You
say what it is you need to say, and you're
done with it.

Speaker 3 (36:06):
That's right, right, And if.

Speaker 2 (36:08):
They say something counter you don't like, it's you can
always you always have the privilege of saying, you know,
well that's not exactly right, or you know, I need
to give you some additional information you don't have, you know,
stuff like that.

Speaker 3 (36:23):
But if it is not going to.

Speaker 2 (36:26):
Add to you achieving your goals, why are you wasting
your time.

Speaker 5 (36:32):
Worry about about other people?

Speaker 3 (36:35):
Right? What do they do? Go back and do what
you were sitting here to do? Well?

Speaker 5 (36:40):
Thinking they didn't get it people to get it.

Speaker 1 (36:44):
But you don't worry about what she's saying. You don't
worry whether they got it or.

Speaker 2 (36:48):
Not because they gonna get something, and some people are
not gonna get anything because some people don't want to
get anything.

Speaker 1 (36:56):
Not. There you go, and.

Speaker 3 (36:57):
You can't make them open in your minds.

Speaker 1 (37:01):
It's the same thing like you can't make people want
what you We can't make them want things that that
they say they want, but they don't do nothing to
go forward what they want. I guess that's why you
can't make more, make people want more for themselves than they.

Speaker 5 (37:19):
I guess that's why I lost patience for people who
say what they want but they talk to me about
all the simple but they never do anything about it.
So I stopped them from talking to me. Okay, I
see you said, because they're trying to see how you're
talking about with the thing that you're gonna do, but
you never do anything about it.

Speaker 1 (37:34):
So so just stop talking now, exactly? Do stop?

Speaker 3 (37:38):
Well?

Speaker 2 (37:38):
I have a little different approach, I say, I'd appreciate
it if you would spend some time trying to figure
out how that can happen, and then we can talk
about that and if you need any help to get
it started, I'll help you.

Speaker 3 (37:57):
So I keep a door.

Speaker 5 (37:59):
You got to do the same.

Speaker 2 (38:03):
So then then then I remind them that they're coming
back with the same problem because they like being stuck there.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
Then I tell them that, I say, you are stuck here, and.

Speaker 2 (38:13):
You obviously like it because you keep doing it, because
we don't do things over and over and over that
we don't like.

Speaker 3 (38:21):
So until you can solve that problem.

Speaker 2 (38:24):
There's no need for us to talk about that anymore.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
And that and I love that, that's the perfect way
to put it.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
Until you can solve that problem, there's no need for
us to talk about it.

Speaker 1 (38:36):
Anymore because evidently you really and truly just talking.

Speaker 2 (38:40):
Sometimes I say, girl, I have given you thirty thirty
ideas about how.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
Thirty ideas by it to solve that problem.

Speaker 2 (38:48):
You have not used one of them, So don't ask
me nothing about that problem to you to use some
of that.

Speaker 1 (38:55):
Sometimes I do it like that, right, Yeah, well that's
honestly right.

Speaker 3 (39:01):
I don't want to hear that no more.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
Girl, You need you need to fix that because I
gave you thirty ideas and try to use.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
I mean, that's that's you know, that's the chan.

Speaker 2 (39:13):
And sometimes I say, you know you like that because
you keep running back over there for that HM.

Speaker 3 (39:19):
So sometimes you just have to be brutally.

Speaker 5 (39:22):
Honest to keep bleeding to me.

Speaker 2 (39:27):
And then I will ask you know, and if they're
serious about like a counseling session, I'll ask you know,
so what fear are you experiencing? Because you're not moving forward?
So what's the fear?

Speaker 3 (39:41):
Okay, so you may not know the answer now, but
go think about that.

Speaker 2 (39:44):
What's the fear? Because you're not moving forward? You keep
talking about it like you want to move.

Speaker 3 (39:48):
Forward, But what are you fearful of? And that's the question.

Speaker 2 (39:53):
You need to answer before you can move forward. Because
we can't help you move forward. All we can do
is cheer you on or whatever, because everybody's got a
job to do.

Speaker 3 (40:04):
So you're gonna have to figure.

Speaker 1 (40:05):
That out, now, can you Can you be? And this
is for everybody, Can you be in the back of
your mind have the insecurity or the fear and don't
realize it? And that can be the whole.

Speaker 3 (40:19):
Back Yeah, and sometimes we get confused too.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
So so and since we don't live in a society
that looks that looks up to people who say I'm
afraid to get started. That's not where we live. So
that's for your friends, okay. So you can't have this
conversation with everybody.

Speaker 3 (40:37):
It's your friends, right, So.

Speaker 2 (40:38):
Sometimes you just have to admit that you are afraid. Now,
when I'm afraid, I get a pencil and paper and say,
dear God, I'm afraid, and.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
Then I write down what I'm afraid of.

Speaker 2 (40:52):
Okay, because until you get it out, you can't fix
it because it's still running around up in here, and
it can keeps growing up in here, up in your head.

Speaker 3 (41:01):
It keeps going. So I write down.

Speaker 2 (41:04):
What I am afraid of, and then I take that list,
and then I put that list in the Bible, and
then I say, God, I have handed this over to you.

Speaker 1 (41:17):
Now I have done that before.

Speaker 2 (41:18):
Okay, and I'm gonna do what I know I can do. Okay,
And that's where I'm going to start. And what begins
to happen is all you needed to do was start.

Speaker 1 (41:32):
Goes right back to that.

Speaker 3 (41:33):
That's right.

Speaker 2 (41:33):
That's all you needed to do was start. But we
build up all these other things because we don't want
to start, because what if I'm successful? Because my friends
may not talk to me anymore. They're gonna think that
I'm this on thinking of that. But see, God gave
everybody these little assignments, and we're supposed to be doing that,

(41:54):
and you're not supposed to be worried about what they're
thinking about. Okay, do what you're supposed to do. They
got there, they got their assignment. Everybody got one, okay,
and everyone should be working on it.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
But we we create these things so we don't have
to get started.

Speaker 2 (42:13):
So I get up in the morning and I ask
myself what energy am I working from?

Speaker 3 (42:19):
Fear or possibility? I ask myself in the morning.

Speaker 2 (42:23):
Okay, so and I have a So if I say
it's fear, that means the walk gonna be longer because
we can't stay in fear, because I can't do anything
in fear.

Speaker 3 (42:34):
So I'm gonna have to work on getting that fear out, okay.

Speaker 2 (42:37):
And then if it's possibility, then oh we will have
great day.

Speaker 3 (42:40):
Okay, So we'll do that.

Speaker 2 (42:42):
But when it's fear, I write down why, and I
keep writing until there's no more to write, and then
I look at it and then I say, okay, well
it's out.

Speaker 3 (42:58):
Here now, so let me take this and put this.
I got a godbox. Put this thing in the God box.
Put it over there in the God box. God. That's
for you. That's ugly for you.

Speaker 1 (43:10):
I love that.

Speaker 3 (43:12):
I gave it to God. That's us for you.

Speaker 2 (43:14):
And I'm gonna go over here and do the possibility thing.
And then what you learn is all of a sudden,
you didn't really do You don't know you did anything,
but you end up solving the problems that you put
in a God box anyway, and you didn't even know
you did it. Right, You lost your fear because I

(43:37):
had to give it to Yeah, it's not man no more.

Speaker 3 (43:40):
Somebody got ad it.

Speaker 1 (43:41):
So so doctor Coleman, you make an actual box to.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
Read take like a like one of those little boxes
that you see those.

Speaker 3 (43:50):
Yes, it's a guidebox.

Speaker 1 (43:51):
Oh I love that.

Speaker 2 (43:52):
And when something bothers me and I don't know how
to fix it or anything, I write this, dear God,
just and whatever I.

Speaker 3 (43:59):
Want to say. I folded up and I put that
thing in that godbox.

Speaker 2 (44:02):
It is no longer on my list, it's no longer
there for me to worry. It is in God's hands.
I'm done.

Speaker 3 (44:09):
And when it when it comes back, I said, I'm
not God. I'm not God. God got that, and I
go do what I gotta do.

Speaker 2 (44:15):
And then you figure out at the end when you
go back through the.

Speaker 1 (44:18):
Box, the resolved.

Speaker 5 (44:23):
What was I afraid of in the first place? Right,
There was another book out by doctor Duane Dire called
Gifts of Vices. And every human emotion was an actual thing,
like anxieties were birds that we invade the town and uh,
and depression was a cloud that came in every now

(44:43):
and then and covered the whole town. Every even human
emotion was was a real, active thing, a tangible thing
that you can get rid of if you wanted to. Said,
that's the greatest analogy.

Speaker 1 (44:59):
I'm gonna do that because I do put. I will write,
write a letter and put in the Bible.

Speaker 3 (45:07):
Okay, you got that, that's God what you do.

Speaker 5 (45:11):
I said, Well, there's certain things I can do, so
I can't anything I can't do. I just give it over,
forget about it. It's just done with that commercial a
b C.

Speaker 1 (45:21):
It is done.

Speaker 3 (45:23):
I write it down. Well that comes up. I said,
that's in the God box. I got to get away
from that. That's not my job.

Speaker 1 (45:37):
I love that. And then when you and then when
you think about it again and then you look at
look at how something has developed and grown, then you
see that that was in my god box. God then
answer that.

Speaker 5 (45:54):
That's how you wake up one day and find everything
you got put in that box. You already got it right.

Speaker 3 (45:59):
Everything happens is like it's already worked out.

Speaker 2 (46:01):
You worked it out, You worked it out, but we
just didn't realize it.

Speaker 3 (46:11):
And I go through and I said, all loads is done. Okay, God,
thank you very much.

Speaker 2 (46:19):
And another thing that I think we need to do
too is like.

Speaker 3 (46:23):
We don't look at our circle often.

Speaker 2 (46:26):
So a lot of us have friends that we value
and we don't even see them much.

Speaker 3 (46:31):
But then other people they just stick.

Speaker 1 (46:34):
Around it ain't have no help or benefit, no help
or benefit.

Speaker 3 (46:41):
So we're gonna have to You're gonna have to.

Speaker 2 (46:42):
Figure out how to reduce your time with people who
drain your energy and limit your imagination.

Speaker 3 (46:51):
Oh okay, you've got to figure that part out.

Speaker 5 (46:54):
Did kill it every.

Speaker 3 (46:57):
Every time?

Speaker 1 (46:58):
Environment?

Speaker 3 (46:59):
Right? Environment?

Speaker 2 (47:01):
And then when you know that these people do that,
stop sharing that stuff with them because they just set
you back because they got a thousand reasons why you
can't do that.

Speaker 1 (47:11):
Okay, I'm back. Well, I say, I'm not. I don't
do that.

Speaker 3 (47:16):
Sometimes we want to get out of doing it. That's why,
that's why, that's why.

Speaker 2 (47:21):
So we really don't want to do that because it
seems hard to us and we don't think we're worthy
of that.

Speaker 3 (47:27):
But so God just made.

Speaker 2 (47:28):
A mistake somehow in our minds. So we talk about
it to them and then here comes all of that stuff.
So then we don't ever get around to it. And
then God got tired of waiting for you, so he
gave an.

Speaker 3 (47:42):
Idea to somebody else and then they doing the idea.
Now you may right last year.

Speaker 1 (47:48):
Right, but you didn't do nothing about it.

Speaker 5 (47:50):
Moves on.

Speaker 1 (47:51):
Yeah, when I when I have an idea of something
that I'm working on, I don't tell anybody. If anybody knows,
it's ed. Otherwise, don't nobody know to my flyers coming
out or whatever I whatever I'm doing is presented. I've
never been one to do that, because you're absolutely right on.
People can be very discouraging.

Speaker 3 (48:12):
Oh yeah they are.

Speaker 1 (48:13):
Now, how you gonna do that or what makes you
think you can do that? Right?

Speaker 5 (48:20):
You need to you.

Speaker 2 (48:21):
Need to relax, right, that's right, that's right, or you
need to be stealed. Right, It's like sleep anyway, you
know how sleep I get right?

Speaker 3 (48:30):
Right? So you look at your circle.

Speaker 2 (48:33):
The people who add fuel you keep, the people who
add fraction you don't, and you will find out that
there's no real conversation. People want to have a conversation
about this, right, you just don't have a conversation about it.

Speaker 3 (48:48):
You just stop calling the people and stop inviting them.
That's just that easy. Okay.

Speaker 2 (48:53):
Now, if you think you need to have a conversation
about it, you need to be prepared with it because
they're gonna have a thousand questions and they're gonna have
a thousand things to say to try to make you
think you.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
Don't know what you're talking about it.

Speaker 1 (49:03):
I want to make it look czy.

Speaker 2 (49:04):
But you just need to change yourself. Just start doing
different things with different people. And then when you have
challenges in your life or in your business, don't look
at them as obstacles. They are assignments. There's things for
you to do. Yes's work out equipment, That's what it is.

Speaker 3 (49:27):
There's something you need to learn, something.

Speaker 2 (49:30):
Else you need to do, and that is how it
comes to you. It doesn't come in a nice, cute
little package. It comes in something that looks like, oh my.

Speaker 3 (49:39):
God, I don't want to do that, but you have
to do that. You have to do that.

Speaker 2 (49:44):
And when you're looking, when you're looking to things and
things are so easy, don't always do the easy stuff.
I have found that when I do the hard stuff first,
the easy stuff takes commis else.

Speaker 5 (50:00):
Yeah, give it the hard part, get it over.

Speaker 3 (50:03):
And get over here, and then the easy parts.

Speaker 1 (50:09):
That makes a lot of sense too.

Speaker 2 (50:11):
Because you're sitting there doing all the stuff for the
easy stuff, and then the hard stuff is.

Speaker 3 (50:16):
Growing and growing and growing.

Speaker 2 (50:18):
And then you look up and someone else is stolen
your idea and made it theirs because you didn't want
to do the hard stuff. So do the hard stuff first.
And remember that life is not always easy.

Speaker 3 (50:36):
So stop quitting on yourself.

Speaker 1 (50:40):
Yes, I say fail more right, because that means you're
doing something.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
You're doing something, you're learning something, you're doing something. And
remember that everything you do is not going to be
a success because everything you do is.

Speaker 3 (50:58):
Made to teach you.

Speaker 2 (50:59):
How to be successful, and a lot of us have
to learn how to be successful. Yes, make mistakes, So
when you get up in the morning time.

Speaker 3 (51:12):
You should do your prayer first and then you should
look over your goals. Do not allow people to call
you early in the morning. Okay, you will get off
of your You'll get you'll.

Speaker 2 (51:25):
Get off of your grind because you've got their problems.
Don't call And I tell all my friends, don't call
me early in the morning with no problem.

Speaker 3 (51:33):
You better give me the noontime.

Speaker 1 (51:36):
And I like that.

Speaker 3 (51:37):
Yeah, So I get up in the morning.

Speaker 1 (51:40):
I do get early morning calls.

Speaker 3 (51:41):
I have prayer calls. I do.

Speaker 2 (51:44):
We I go through that like then then I go
through what I need to do for myself that day
and set up a schedule that day, and then we
can talk about that of the part later because if
as like I told a friend of mine child and
nothing I can do about that right now.

Speaker 3 (52:04):
I got to get my prayerents even first.

Speaker 1 (52:08):
To get my day started.

Speaker 2 (52:10):
My day started first, So get your day started first,
not to.

Speaker 1 (52:15):
Our audience, and I hope that you're really too. And
then listening like what time do you generally go to
settle down at night?

Speaker 3 (52:26):
So people have all different kinds of schedules.

Speaker 2 (52:29):
I have a I have an odd schedule because you
cannot talk to me in the morning, So don't try.

Speaker 3 (52:36):
Okay, I'm not that person, all right, just don't track.

Speaker 2 (52:40):
I got prayer to do, I got a Masterman call
to make, I got a hike to do, and.

Speaker 3 (52:46):
Then we can talk.

Speaker 2 (52:47):
So I genuinely I settle down literally, So in the
morning times, I'll do some things that I need to do,
and then I have a period during the midday that
I'll do some things that I need to do.

Speaker 3 (53:01):
But my mostly.

Speaker 2 (53:02):
Grind time is coming in when it somehow I'm just
most imaginative and have a great vision about seven o'clock.

Speaker 3 (53:11):
So that's when I start doing.

Speaker 2 (53:13):
All all of my thinking about what I want to
do next and what new thing I want to do,
and how to watch seven in the morning, and then
I will then I'll pick it back up at night
and then if I'm not careful, and this is the
one problem I have, so I will like do what
I want to do, and then at ten o'clock I'll say,

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oh yeah, I can go and put a schedule to
that now, right.

Speaker 3 (53:38):
Because I'm excited.

Speaker 2 (53:39):
So then I look up and it's four o'clock in
the morning. It's like I get on sleep, so.

Speaker 1 (53:46):
I have to watch I can see that because I
get busy and start doing it. Yeah, you're right. But
another good thing is it's it's because pray. I'm gonna
have talked about that too. It's like at three o'clock
in the morning, and that's what things really come to you,
and your mind is open to receive. And so I
can see how that can happen, especially in your in

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your profession.

Speaker 5 (54:09):
Because the world steps and.

Speaker 2 (54:13):
I normally wake up at three, see okay, so generally,
so now that I wake up at three and understand
how valuable that time is, it is I use a.

Speaker 3 (54:24):
Lot of that for prayer time. Yeah, and then anything.

Speaker 1 (54:27):
Ideas and everything, that's what they.

Speaker 3 (54:29):
Start to come.

Speaker 2 (54:31):
I have a piece of paper by I had to
put a piece of paper and pencil by my knight
staying so I could write it down because I used
to think I was gonna remember all that stuff. But
that don't work. So I'm telling y'all, just don't work.
So just get a pencil and write it down.

Speaker 1 (54:46):
That's right.

Speaker 3 (54:46):
So I write that down.

Speaker 2 (54:48):
But people have different times of the day, But I say,
protect your mornings, you know, don't let anybody send unlet's
it's unless it's.

Speaker 1 (54:57):
Serious, yes, and you can do something to help.

Speaker 2 (55:00):
And you can do something to help, but don't don't
let people call you with their issues in the morning time.
That's when you're supposed to be up getting everything that
you need to be done for the day so that
you can have a good day yourself. Okay, So mornings
are for you to look at you, you know, look

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at what you need to do, what you need to accomplish,
what you haven't accomplished, and all of that, and get
a plan for the day and all of that kind
of stuff, and just trying to protect your mornings.

Speaker 5 (55:31):
So if you do that, you want to put a schedule,
tell people about your schedule, which means you're gonna change
your time. Like if you custom to call you every morning,
I gotta call you back, and don't call me to
that at eleven o'clock, call me after twelve and they
go what they call your name.

Speaker 3 (55:50):
Well, you know, I don't think I have to tell
people what my schedule is, so I'm not going to
answer the I protect my mornings. I do not answer
the phone now.

Speaker 2 (56:04):
If it's an emergency, they will send me a text message.

Speaker 3 (56:07):
Okay.

Speaker 5 (56:08):
And every morning, a couple of cold every morning you
finally answer.

Speaker 3 (56:17):
What happened to you?

Speaker 5 (56:17):
Were you're something wrong? I tried to call you the phone.

Speaker 3 (56:20):
Then I say, I protect my morning.

Speaker 2 (56:23):
So if you want to call me, you need to talk,
you need to call me during this.

Speaker 3 (56:26):
Time in that time.

Speaker 1 (56:29):
But if they don't, But if they I don't care
if they change, Okay, I have no sympathy for that.

Speaker 2 (56:37):
I don't think about that. This is my life, my morning.

Speaker 1 (56:41):
Yeah, okay.

Speaker 2 (56:42):
And when I get out of here or when I
can't do anything, I'm gonna be.

Speaker 3 (56:46):
The one sitting there saying I could have, should have
would and I'm.

Speaker 1 (56:48):
Not going now okay, But and then, and then, if
you know a person and you know that's how they
regulate their schedule, you should be respectful of that anyway.

Speaker 3 (57:00):
So now if it's an emergency, they know to send.

Speaker 2 (57:03):
A text message, okay, because most of my family doesn't
live here, so it ain't a whole lot I can do.

Speaker 3 (57:13):
In Florida and Georgia, right even if you call me.

Speaker 2 (57:17):
Oh I do okay, So they know I protect my mornings. Okay,
So I do that, and then I start looking at
what were my goals for this week? And what have
I accomplished, and why haven't I accomplished some things?

Speaker 3 (57:35):
And then what can I do to get back on schedule.

Speaker 2 (57:40):
Because no one's gonna do my stuff with me, and
I don't want to be I don't want to live
leave here without trying to be what I tried to be.

Speaker 3 (57:54):
So I do that.

Speaker 2 (57:56):
I look at my weekly goals, I look at what
I accomplished. I looked at what I've met stup, and
I look at how I can fix it and all
that kind of stuff. And then I set a calendar
for the day and I do and I sort of
do it twice a day too, because at the end
of the day, I can review what I did, and
then if there's something I need to do the next day,
I make sure that gets on the calendar what.

Speaker 3 (58:15):
Time and then we didn't do it? Then then you
can call and we can talk all night.

Speaker 1 (58:20):
I got my scheduled for tomorrow, but let me get
done what needs to be done, right, let me get.

Speaker 2 (58:26):
Done what needs to be done. So I give myself
ten to fifteen minutes to put together the schedule. And
now that I so once you get into the habit,
so I have a paper next to my desk where
I put down what I know I gotta do, so
now I'm planning as I go, so then I have
I know what I need to do when I get up.

Speaker 3 (58:46):
See, when you don't know what you need to do
when you wake up.

Speaker 2 (58:48):
In the morning, you waste a lot of time. And
that makes and you don't need to waste time. So
you need to know what you need to do.

Speaker 3 (58:57):
So, especially in the business.

Speaker 2 (58:58):
So I oh, okay, so tomorrow is this day to
send out this? Okay, I know, And if I don't
have it on the schedule, then I'm sending it out
at three or four in the afternoon and it.

Speaker 1 (59:11):
Doesn't and what a lot of people can miss it.

Speaker 3 (59:16):
So you have to know what it is that you
need to do.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
And our time is winding down already. Man, the time
goes by so fast. But just give us one last.

Speaker 2 (59:29):
One last thing I want to say, is is something
I wrote down that I wanted to talk about a
lot of us And I get a lot of people
who call me for this is they ask why is
this happening to me? Stop asking that question. Nobody knows
but you, Okay, so just stop asking the question, why
is this happening to me? Nobody cares, and I'm not

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trying to be mean because people got stuff happening to them.

Speaker 3 (59:52):
They don't know how it's happening.

Speaker 2 (59:53):
So stop asking that question, okay, start asking yourself what.

Speaker 3 (59:58):
Is this teaching me?

Speaker 1 (01:00:01):
I love that.

Speaker 3 (01:00:02):
Okay, that's what you ask.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
That's the question that you ask, what is this teaching me?
And write that down, yes, because that's a question you
can answer.

Speaker 3 (01:00:16):
We never know why things are happening to us.

Speaker 2 (01:00:18):
But everything comes to teach you, so ask what it
is trying to teach you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:24):
So that's the question.

Speaker 1 (01:00:25):
Oh, I love that.

Speaker 2 (01:00:26):
Okay, And remember you don't have to be perfect. Okay,
you can do it imperfectly and get it done. So
just get it done done, get it done with you
know how that you have today because we're sitting up
here waiting to know how to do something.

Speaker 3 (01:00:44):
Perfectly when you may not know that till next year.

Speaker 2 (01:00:47):
So do what you can do today, yes, okay, And
just say yes to one opportunity that scares you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:58):
Stop saying no to everything.

Speaker 2 (01:01:00):
One opportunity that scares you, say yes to it.

Speaker 1 (01:01:04):
I love that. I love that. So just make sure
that you remember stop asking why is this happening to
me and understand that and realize that it comes to
teach you. So what is it trying to teach you? Yeah?

(01:01:27):
Something Yeah, And then the other one reiterate.

Speaker 2 (01:01:34):
The other thing is make sure that you say yeses
an opportunity that scares you.

Speaker 1 (01:01:39):
Yes, I love that. An opportunity that scares you.

Speaker 3 (01:01:47):
But say yes to something that scares you.

Speaker 2 (01:01:51):
It's taking a different job or moving someplace, or something
that scares you, say yes.

Speaker 1 (01:01:55):
To it and see what the outcome can bring.

Speaker 2 (01:01:58):
And see what the outcome because that's where you cause
all of that good stuff that we want, we can't
get any more good stuff in the circle that we're
just in in our house right now. We got to
reach out to other people, cause yes, it happens.

Speaker 3 (01:02:11):
You get to know people. So say yes, it's something
that scares you.

Speaker 1 (01:02:16):
I love that, So say yes, it's something that scares you.
That's that's that's some great information. And it's always we
really want to say thank you for you coming out
and sharing. It's always some great information. I know, even
for me. Uh, I'm I'm taking away a lot this

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evening and I oh man, I'm gonna go home and
get my do my god box and uh, and I'm
go'a work on something. I'm'a really work on.

Speaker 6 (01:02:46):
That child, right, and yeah, well not trash.

Speaker 1 (01:02:56):
Can you don't wanna say trash. It's not trash. That's
that's the guy box to take care of what whatever
it might be, what you feel that you can't take
care of. Oh well yeah, well no, you don't want
it to be trashed. You wanted to be something that manifests,
that made it happen good.

Speaker 3 (01:03:14):
Something will happen once you turned it over.

Speaker 1 (01:03:18):
Yeah, and that won't be. You don't want it to
be trashed. You wanted to be a miracle or be
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and take these lessons, and take these teachings and really
work with them. You know, we're coming into a new
year and about one another three weeks, and that's coming fast,
so you want to make sure that you take that.
Make it worth your while and let's make it happen
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this evening again, doctor Coleman, Thanks for being so patient
and coming to be with us this evening. I am
Zimra this ed. As always, we thank our producers for
giving us this platform to be able to have doctors
like doctor Coleman to come and give us some great,
great advice. You have a good rest of your very

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evening and keep having goodnes because the holidays my day and.

Speaker 5 (01:05:02):
As we say, the dreams don't scare you and Gods.

Speaker 1 (01:05:07):
You have a good rest of your evening. Thank you
for joining us. Thank you, young es. Possible when you
know let it is, when you feel like things, don't
hope on love, you can make your dreams come true.