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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Love is possible when you believe that you're freeze. Love
is possible when you embrace it.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Good evening and welcome to Here's the Life with Zimrine
Edge right here at Intellectual Radio. And I hope you
caught my posts, which was kind of a last minute post.
You know, I said that I was going to share
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with my Facebook friends. And I know, with me being
a vocalist and having a podcast and doing a lot
of the things that I do, that I have really
really got to get in the mindset of making sure
that I do my posts. I don't know what it
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is about me that I just I mean, I guess
something that I've just not I have not yet got
used to. It is amazing. As long as Facebook been around,
as long as I've been doing so many, you know,
so much with my music and so many different things.
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Well that's because you don't have a Facebook. I got
a Facebook, and it's like, I guess, people say, uh
and sometime and then when I do post, you know,
it's almost like where's my fans at? So I don't know,
but that's something that I know that I need to
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to really really work at, you know, because I think
that it is a wonderful way to advertise what you're doing.
And I'm always reading and looking at other people's posts,
and so I got to really try and be more
conscious of that, you know, through the busy time and
busy day. Again, I'm getting ready for my eighth Here's
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the Life concert, which is October eighteenth. It's at South
Suburban College one five eight zero zero South State Street
in South Holland, Illinois, and it is sweetest dag. We
always have been doing this concert since October of twenty eleven.
That was my first one, and this is my eighth concert,
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and I am so elated and so proud of it
and to be able to share that because I in
twenty ten, that's when I discovered the song by Shirley
Horn Here's the Life, And as I always say, it
just stole my heart. And because of that, it is
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taking the heart of so many others that I have
shared that song with because the words are so absolute,
on point, and and the words just spew that perfect
heart and and and the fact that being genuine and
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all the things that I believe, and I think that's why, uh,
that song means so much to me. But again that
my concert, we still are b I p tickets are gone,
but we still have general admission. Yeah, they're gone. People graphicals,
we always get those gone. First, you get you know,
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special seating, you get a wonderful gift bag, and and
then you get a chance to eat before the concert.
So you know, you can always go to my website,
uh and just click and buy your ticket general admission.
That's all that was there anyways, for general admission. I
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am zimarad dot com and I really and truly appreciate
all the support and the love, and it's gonna be
a wonderful show. I'm so happy to have joining me
this year. Is I mean an awesome, awesome guy, Mark
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Alan Felton, better known as Panther. He is one of
the baddest saxophone players. I mean, you're talking about smooth jazz.
This brother is just phenomenal. So you're in for a
real treat. So I want to make sure that you
get a chance to see him because he is phenomenon.
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And I got some great tunes.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
For you too.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I got a couple of surprises. It's gonna be a
wonderful night. Bring your sweetheart out and enjoy a wonderful evening.
On Sweetest Day. I've been a little down the last
couple of week weeks. I lost suddenly a very very
close friend and sister, as I stated on Facebook, Marian Brown.
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We started insurance together back in the nineties, and I
was right there with her that Sunday and we were
laughing and talking, you know. She complained a little bit
about a headache, but she stated that if she ate
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it or something, she'd be cool. And if she did.
And then Dolly, who was with us since part of
our gang, our group, she asked her, you know, did
she feel better, and she said she felt better, And
then about she might have left maybe about thirty maybe
about twenty minutes or so before we did, and maybe
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about nine o'clock that evening, her guy called and said
that she had fell out and that he had her going,
you know, in the ambulance to Little Company of Mary.
So I immediately got myself together, you know, and you know,
ask a guy if he needed us to come get him,
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and we did got Dolly because Ed had a nice
relationship with Marian and he had gotten a little he
had really got a little upset and wind up having
a little heart palpitations. So I just told him to
just you know, be still and relax, and I called
Dolly and she was, you know, got dressed right away.
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When picked her up and we went and picked her
guy up and went to a little company. And it
was just devastating. I mean she winded up having a
brain aneurysm and was unconscious and never came out of it.
And so that has still had me reeling because it
was so sudden. I mean, you're laughing with someone she was.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
She was, she was healthy and the youngest.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
She was the youngest, and uh so it just lets
you know, I mean we talked all the time, laughed
and talked. I mean we just you know, I had
my promo party, not this past Friday because we buried
her this past Friday, but the friday before that she
had gotten you know, had RSVP, you know through we'd
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been bright for for tickets, you know, to come out
from my I mean she never missed my promo parties,
any of my shows. I know she was going to
be there. She was always there, uh you know, just
checked on me regularly. It was a it was a
friendship and a love that you knew there was genuine
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and she was very caring very attentive. Even that day
that we were celebrating Pam and uh Pat's mom's ninety
fifth birthday, that was the celebration that she was at.
She was asking brother, ed you need any ginger ale?
You you know, you need any water? You know?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And she was always helpful. Yeah she did. She did
like any nonsense.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, she was just a wonderful spirit and we just
really really loved her with what you call a perfect love.
So it was you know, so we just wanted to
kind of talk a little bit about knowing how to
navigate when you experience something like that. How do you
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navigate and work through that, because you know, it's it
can be very very difficult to experience where you are
talking with someone you know, one while and then the
next three four hours, you know you're getting word, you
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know that they're that they're basically gone because she you know,
was unconsciousness. Yeah, she never gained consciousness. So you know, prayer,
you know, we already know that prayer changes things. You know,
we've we've you know, prayed about it, and you know,
you know that you love and you you know you
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miss people and uh but when something like that happened,
so suddenly I know one.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Of the.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
One of the ladies, Marie, who is part of our group. Uh,
she said she just had to sit back and just
wonder what job God must have had for her to do,
you know, because it was just you know, we don't
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question God, you know, which which with me I always
say too. You know, God gets blamed all the time
for things like that or bad things that happen. So
you know, I kind of you know, have mixed emotions
on all of that. But you know, God wants life
for us, happiness, joy, peace, all the good stuff. So
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that's why I don't know to blame bad things on God,
because He is all that's good, all that's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
It's not necessarily bad reality. It was just going to
come to all of us eventually. Yes, that bad. It's
just a cycle of life.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
We know that we know not of yes, and then
that's why it's always too we have to make sure
and when we talk about that on our segments too,
to make sure that you take your blood pressure medicine.
Make sure that you take you know, like we do
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all the news, but also we make sure that we
take the prescribed medicine because you have to make sure
that you do that. That's very important that you don't
play with blood pressure medicine. That is very much key
to make sure that you don't do that. If the
doctor's prescribed you with blood pressure medicine, make sure you
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take it. Pick a time where they really say to
take it. Sho take it on the same time every time.
You know, every day you should take it at the
same time. Well, sometimes that can be difficult and then
maybe sometimes not because I have some people, some friends
that make sure they take it. But just to make
sure that you take it. But it is it does
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work better if your body becomes that clock for that
same time each day. That just makes sense. Now that's
the same thing with your vitamins and all of that.
That's what I say. Make sure that you take your prescribe.
Like I said, we do our natural vitamins, but we
also make good sure that we take our blood pressure
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medicine and any other medication that you take that you
make sure that you take that. And always say, you know,
your magnesium is your life force, so it's always good
to take you know, to make sure you take that exactly. Yeah,
So just wanted to kind of share, you know, some
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some of that with you trying to feel better. You know, I've,
like I said, I've been kind of reeling with that,
and but you know, you have to sometimes just find
a way to you know, be prayerful and just work
through it and know that she's definitely she was the
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definitely one that you know that she is definitely in
the arms of God, so that you know, brings you
a lot of you know, solitude and peace as well.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
She was like the Peacekeeper show. You said, can we
don't have no foolishness.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
That was her work.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
We don't do foolishness.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
We don't do no foolishness. We ain't having it, she said.
That was that was her word. No food, I ain't
nobody got time for that foolishness. I would just look
at that. We would just crack up. We had our
own little signals and all. But yeah, that that that
was a precious soul. And and she had a beautiful service.
She had her girlfriend of fifty years, you know, really
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she she she did a beautiful job. She was her
ParvE retorney for her health, Barbara, and she just did,
Oh my god, Barbara just she did. I just knew.
I told her Mirianie smiling down on you, baby, because
she really really did a fantastic job and.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
It was.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Beautiful, beautiful service. Yeah, yeah, they did, and blessed her heart,
the kind of heart she had. She was also donor too,
so she donated some of her you know, or organs.
So on that note, we just want to just you know,
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make sure that we you know, we say, you know,
a lot of times, you know, people talk about love
and you know, we don't have our relationship enthusiasts with
us today, but you know, we talk about uh, we
say we love each other and we care about each other,
and you know, but we have to make sure that
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you know, we always say that, you know, love is
an action word. We know that, but are we absolutely
showing love with actions? Are they just empty words?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
I think we've heard that. Everybody's heard that, but everybody
don't know that here all the time. But they don't
know that.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
But how don't you know that?
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Because they don't they don't really want to do anything.
They want to say it, they don't want to really
do it.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Then that's not love ed exactly, yeah, exactly, And that
that and it doesn't matter who it is. From your
children to your uh I'll say, your maid, to your children,
to your relatives, your uncle and your aunt.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
But that's just a disarmor person. Okay, So you can
go ahead and do what you want to do, but
you don't really show it. Indeed, because he said.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
If you love me, show me absolutely. That's what I
go by, because if you're doing anything, if you're doing
anything other than showings, it's not it's contradictory.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Yeah, but we creak to say it, but we don't
do it. But we don't know what it looks like.
We don't know what to do. It looks like. As
soon as I get my voice back, i'll explain it better.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Well, you can explain it as best you can.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
God knows you, and God loves you. He might not
like you, but he loves you. I might not like you,
but I love you, and love it loves a commitment
to a rule in life to protect your life and
to make sure that you don't sacrifice your life in
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this life because all of the dangers in his life
I got to keep you from even if you know
it or not. So my love would be shown in
a way what I do for you, not what I say,
because sometimes you don't even never never have to say
I love it but once or twice, but you show
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in so many other ways you don't have.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
To say it now, I love that. Yeah, and when
you hear it and it's a feeling I mean, but
by the actions, you absolutely feel. So you definitely know
that when the person says that that it's that it's genuine.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
You know when you when you can check the actions,
not but what they not what they say, but what
they do. If you keep checking that, you can also
find out a lot about a lot of other people too.
But if they're for real, they'll say one thing, but
you following them instance and see where they go and
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what they do, and if they don't do the thing
that shows they love they don't love you.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Now you speak about you know, we've we've talked about
this before, and a lot of times you speak about
expectations and that you don't really expect for people to
to show up and show out. I R I R.
And why why do you deserve I.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Reserve my uh my answer to that question because if
a person says they love you too quickly, they probably don't.
If they say they love you and don't do anything
about it, and every time you aks them do something.
They got an excuse, but they got a reason why
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they're too busys. They got this To say that, then
they don't love you cause it cause what whatever it
is you ask it of me, I it's something that
you need in your soul, and my job is to
make sure you get it. If I love you, it's
not that it's it's said, not that it's it's it's
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something I should gain from it, recognition, notoriety, the tension.
If I'm not getting anything from it, but you are,
then that means I love you enough to do this
for you. You don't have to say take me for
it either. When you do stuff I love, it doesn't
require anything.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
It does require appreciation I.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Require, but it should be shown if it's going to
be returned to you and the person recognizes it. But
if they don't say anything, I still love you because
that's where God is. You look at your little trashy life.
You'll do anything within one minute and do something else
the next, but he still loves you and watch you
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go through all your changes and mistakes in life, making
the wrong decision.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Now you're not talking to me, no, oh okay, Well
you make sure you say general. But you're talking about
your trash yourself. Make that crystal clear.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
I'm not suying.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I want him to be crystal clear that you ain't talking.
You talking about your trashy life. Got the way you
said that that was kind of you know, hey, make
that clear, brother.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
For people. For people, it's because people think they're perfect,
they think they're all right, they think they are good,
and they're not. It's it's it's a thought pattern they
have in their head and everything else. To watch the
action that they do it when they when they don't
think anybody's looking, when somebody's always looking. Oh yeah, I
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was taught a long time ago. No matter where you are,
someone's watching you. If you buy yourself in a closet,
someone is with you all the time.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
And then what is amazing too? I always say that, uh,
you never know. It's a small, small world.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
It's and getting smaller every day.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I mean, it really is.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
It's shrinking. But that's like Adams. They all commingle together
and everything reflects or affects something else, right, because we
all related. Everybody in the world, every item is related
right in the body, I in the in the world,
in the air, and on the planet. Everybody is related.
Everything is related, so you can't get away from yourself.
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You can think you're doing something that nobody else knows about,
but the whole world knows it now and in your
mind you know it. And as you're picking up the
vibration it's coming off of your brain to everybody else
is reading it. So you walk in the room that
people have read you right away, they can pick up
your spirit. It's like it's like radar. You can you
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can't see it, you can't feel it, but it's there.
And everybody has that, but they don't realize they have it.
They really don't think that they're or know that. The
vibrations off of everybody goes to the entire universe and
it meets people before you can get there. Your spirit
would go into a room before you or absolutely and
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you bring those vibrations with you and every now and
then you meet somebody, get the same vibrations you got
and you don't even have to talk.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
You just connect.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Me and Mary we had to do is take a
look at each.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Other, right, right, we don't talk right. That was the
way she was. But I now when you say about expectations,
I think that certain people in your life. You should expect. Yes,
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you should expect.
Speaker 3 (22:30):
You also should understand that you may be disappointed because
they're not gonna do it. You expect them to hold
them acount of before you can do that to you.
Be like Marie fur Free, Marie three miles. She's good
at that, she's getting mother.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
With she does of you, but.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
She doesn't, she doesn't no.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
She don't get angry. She just says, Okay.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
She's just personal, she's just trying to teach you.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
But she also does it expect and if you and
if you do it any other way, then it's how
they also meg because if you say that you love
me and there's and you don't show it, then don't
don't be asking me for nothing, right.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
But you you'll ultimately go to teach that person right,
not not the amount of your life, but to teach right.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
You don't have to exemount your life. But it's still
supposed to be a thing where certain people you are
supposed to expect. I expect certain things from you. I do,
and if I don't, and if I don't get it,
I'm very disappointed and very hurt about it. And I
don't have and I don't have a problem stating that,
and you know that.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
The difference is you and me is that I expect it,
but I don't get hurt by it, right because I
already expected it.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You already didn't expect it.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
I expected to come my way, I think. But if
you don't, I'm not gonna hold you accounted for it.
I might tell you about it and that you how
it made me.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Feel, but way back in your heart you do. And
that's where people come in holding grudges and don't talk
about it.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
But I've got to give you some kind of lead
because I understand your I understand your spirit and say
anybody else's that's not their spirit. I don't expect them
to follow up as they should.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
But people claim that that's their spirit. Right, That's what
That's what I'm talking about when I say we people talk.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
About but I know different. Right, they intend to, But.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
How do you really know that they intend to if
they don't do it, because then if you if you
intend on it, then you should do it. Yeah, that's
where the that's where the genuineness comes in.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
That you shouldn't get too disappointed if they don't do it.
You expect I do you get hurt. I do that.
Don't bother me.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Well, but that's because that's what you would expect. But
a person that like me that my word is my bond.
I say what I mean and mean what I say.
Then when it comes a different kind of way from me,
I'm disappointed. I am as you should be exactly. That's
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why I love that song so much. All you give
is all you get.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
I understand it. But I don't hold people to that.
I hold them to that in our relationship and personally
in my heart. I don't because I know where they're
coming from. I know they are wounded, scarred people, all of.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Them, and you will continue to be wounded, hurt and
scarred if you don't make a difference and how you
treat people taught, Yeah, because you have to treat people
the way you want to be treated. I'm a stickler
on that.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It's like it's like it's almost like it's better to give.
And see absolutely, if i'm booth, why is it better
for me to give? Because they don't understand the system
the system of giving is is it? It's about energy?
The system understands like your body does that. If I'm
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always getting, I'm a giver the universes. Make sure that
that's that's your primary directive. Then I'll make sure you
always have something to give.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Yeah, because the closed hand gets nothing.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
But other people might think, well, if I need you time,
why why am I giving it away? Because it's better
to give than me. See, because the universe understands giving.
If you are that type of person, stay the type person,
because the universe is going to reward.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
You, right. And if that's in your soul, if that's
who you are in the depths of your soul, then
you can You can't stop that.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
When people don't say thank you. Got to keep doing.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
It, absolutely, But you still have to sometimes show them
a message and give them a message.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
But that don't mean they're gonna get it.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
If they don't get it, then that's yeah. But if
they don't get it, then that's tough on them. Like
I was reading this book why Can't We Get Along?
And it's a real talk guide to healing the division
between men and women. This is a good book by
Alan Truman, and it's it's shouldn't be thriving relationships. Ah,
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And that's a good point too. Your relationship should not
feel like a battle feel like you're always got to
be in competition with one another, or you've always got
to be debating about one with one another. And so
this is rue.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
It's not sustainable. That's what the sixty divorce rate sixty five.
And something's not working. Why you keep doing it? You
Something needs to change fundamentally about the whole relationship, about
what what expectations are and what relationship you have to
that person and what they have to the society as
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a whole. That has never explained to people when they're
growing up and know it, dunts around to teach them
what your role is, not what you want to do
and what feels good to you? What is your role?
What is your responsibility to life? Nobody tells the kids that,
So they go find somebody who makes them feel good,
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not knowing that they should feel good before that, and
bring something to the relationship. And so here's what I got,
what you have? And can we both get along? And
are are we both traveling in the same direction? They
don't do that. You make me feel good, So they're
fastens of time with you. But I'm not concerned about
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what makes you feel good? How are you doing? I
want to concern about how you make me feel. So
I want to hang out with you and give you
what you want. Who would you keep doing that? The
minutes you stop doing that, I don't care that about
you anymore. So love goes from from love to hate.
And then why do you hurt the people that you
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say you love, which means you do love me in
the first place, You just like them because the way
they mean you feel.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Now when you express how you feel. Why I was
listening to someone's saying that there are five things that
women should not should run run away from a relationship.
If a guy tells you your voicing or saying how
you feel and he wants to say that you are
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too sensitive, well that means or you voice how you
feel and you're being helpful, but he looks at it
as you're being too controlling.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
That that that's just about with anybody.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
This is stated for women when women should if you
hear that, you should know who you're talking to.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
But women have an attitude that that's the fault. I
can fix it.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
But let me ask you that if I'm going through
some type of emotional thing and I'm trying to voice
what it is I'm feeling and I've experienced that, not
with you, but I've experienced that where they said, well,
don't you do you think you're being sensitive about about it?
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Why is that the first thing? Because you're voicing your
emotions or you're voicing how you feel from your soul.
That's the only thing they can quickly determine that you're
being too sensitive.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Because they don't have an answer because they know right
there that they cannot contribute anything because they should ask
you what makes you feel that way? Because if it's
anything they've done to get themselves out of the way
to me, they did. That's why I tell you, don't
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don't don't investigate anything further. You're too sensitive. You should
investigate it because maybe it's coming from you, and if
you're snagging from you, you should create a space safer
than for me to voice that.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
That that that is the very that is the most
important thing, is that that a woman can feel safe
enough to express whatever she needs to express without feeling
like she's being judged or being too sensitive.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
Or that's I think it's too sensitive.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
I don't think so, because if you're sensitive, that means
you're in tune.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
You in tune to everything it's good.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I think so so that and you are supposed to
be able to voice what it is that you feel.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
Right, But the person it's trying to take these sales
because they think they want to make sure nothing they did.
They're trying to keep them sales eues away because I
don't want you to blame me for it because he
may be something they don't want. They don't see that,
but you have to.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
They don't want to see that it's them.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
But when you're trying to be honest in your daily
life and relationships, you have the sacrificial.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
And that's another sacrific And that's another line that a
man would use. He's putting you down or he's saying something,
and then he comes back.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
With what his issues.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
No, you you're you're expressing, expressing what you're saying, and
he says, well, he's just being the things that he's
saying to you. He considers that he's just being honest
with you and telling you that, but that that does
not necessarily mean that that's really how he's feeling. When
he says, I'm telling you this because I'm being honest
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with you, But yet he's really putting you down.
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Oh, he's his judgment of you. He's trying to.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Right or whatever the situation is. He's expressing. He's letting
you know that he's so called being honest. They said,
that's not a good thing for a man to tell you.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Well, he's supposed to be honest like all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
But is he really being honest? If he's putting you
down and not really addressing emotions or whatever you're feeling,
that means.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
You're about to be disrespected, disrespected.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Like that, that's true.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
That means you're about to hear alive here, just about
to give some life. Okay, So, but he's avoiding the issue.
And issue at hand is how can I make you
feel safe enough to voice your opinion of tell me
how you feel. How can I create that space for
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you that you can do anything you want and I
feel guilty about it or feel that so you're being
judged and that's why you come in. That's why I say.
Everybody has their own stars that they care with her,
and it usually the scars that they had before they
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met you.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
And so that that that seems to be such, that
seems to be so prominent in relationships. I mean, where
you just like this like like like, uh, this book
is saying you know, it should it should not feel
like they say love doesn't hurt. So it's like you
should not have to feel like everything has to be
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up in the air. Everything has to be a battle.
I mean, everything has to be just so an argument
or debate. How do people really and truly get away
from that? You know, life being one thing that with
Marion that has really shown me how fragile life can be.
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I'm trying to find out why is it that so
many people waste so much time on such trivial things
in their relationships instead of embracing each other, embracing and
doing the things that create wholeness and peace of mind
and a settlement within the relationship and happiness. Why is
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it so hard?
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Cause they're not I believe that they're because people are
not taught spirit, they're not taught love, they're not taught
self love, they're not taught who they are. Because you
really can't deal with somebody else until you know yourself.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
And then you have to be careful. Even with that,
even if you're taught that, you still have to be
careful not to be self centered or not to be
so as Pam says, it's all about me. You know.
You have to be mindful of that too, Yes, you do,
because otherwise you begin to act that out.
Speaker 3 (36:37):
But it was it's almost like it's not all about you,
it's all about us. When I think about us, I
don't I don't blame you for being you, cause you're
supposed to be different from me, and I should understand
that difference and a lot for it and that and
not blame you for it or judge you for it,
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because I cannot be a judge because because you need judge,
we will be judged. But we are in the process
of learning who we are. We never spend time to
find out who we are spiritually. So if you don't
know that, then you don't know you. You don't understand
the other person. I try to understand everybody because everybody
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is different, which that they're supposed to be. But nobody's
better than anybody else. They're just not as better as that.
There's not a word to use. They're just different. They
evolve differently, they understand differently, and everybody's has all the
same information available.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
To them, but they don't use it.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
No, they don't because they still looking for themselves. If
you're still looking for yourself, then then you looking at
anybody else too, trying to judge them, trying to find
out where do you fit into their life when your
whole life should be complete as an individual, as a
human being. Everything that you need, you are already have.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
Yeah, we always say that it's with them.
Speaker 3 (38:02):
You don't need anything else. You don't need anybody else.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
I don't agree with that that you don't need anybody.
Everybody needs someone.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
That's what you messed while you made together. But I'm
saying that at first you have to be you before
you can be us. You can't, that's true. You can't
have a family until you have two people come together
to make it and have a good understanding in that
relationship with our roles are one is always respectful because
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I know who made you, and then I also know
who made me, and the booth cames in the same place.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
And that's why you should be treasured because we all
come from God. We're created by God.
Speaker 3 (38:45):
That's not taught either, so.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
We should treasure that. I just can't famine, you know
the way a lot of times men, well you know,
I can't imagine. I mean, it's just so hard to
imagine why people treat each other the way they do.
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And that's relationships with friends, with with you know, men
and women, women and women. I mean, it's just children.
You know, your children debate and go back and forth
with you and cause you so much disappointment and so
much havoc.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Well I'm very old school.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Well you know I know that.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
Yeah, so huh. I was taught you raise a child
up to the way it should be, and when they
get older and on their own, they won't divert from it.
But you have to study.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Two well, really in the wound, if you're smart.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
We used to do it, sing and talk to in
the womb, yes, before they came out. We don't do
that anymore. Real, Let kids do what they want to
do until they're five, six, eighteen years old. They would
call ourselves and try to raise them too late, already adopted.
They don't spirit their own attitude, they don't carry it
their own personality, and you had nothing to do with
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that because you did not train them from the beginning.
When you get to that age, you can't you can't now,
you can't go out and public with them because they clown, right,
But you should have set that up years ago. I agree,
like some of the one young lady told me, well,
you know she's three, she's just a baby. Say she's
clowning and crying to get her get her way. I said,
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that's not teaching her anything because she's gonna grow up
and nobody would want to spend any time with her
because she's too difficult. And you allowed it, which means
you a fault. You allowed her to be somebody nobody
wants to be around. You shouldn't do that. So when
when you start, I start one or two years old.
(41:04):
She when you when your baby looks in your eyes,
it's not learning. They go from your expressions. They go
for your facial expecions.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Because we got some smart babies are a lean out
the journey, journey gonna be I I thought journey was
older than four. Right now she's currently four and I
always say she's four going on forty. She she is
extremely smart, like because they come in that.
Speaker 3 (41:29):
Way and they'll challenge you. So don't so when they
that's why you have to watch them, because they they
might let the public schools were building the intelligence. It
will slow them down as to go to school. And
you don't watch it.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
Yeah, so well, her mommy and daddy got her in
private school.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
She's understand who she is.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
Yeah, she's excelling very well, exactly.
Speaker 3 (41:53):
And that's where that's the way we used to treat
all our children. Yeah, society tells your children are worsness
to us. We don't need to and that's the message
they get. They don't really need us, so they don't
teach us anything.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
And I know because of the battles, Like you said,
the battles and the scars is what causes so many
so much disruption and then everything that's happening in this
world today, it's just crucial that we just all be
conscious of how we treat one another and that that
it's important that we uh And I'm just I just
(42:28):
believe in my soul you have to treat people the
way you want to be treated. When you do that
and live by that, and when you live by that,
you can't miss it. If you treat people the way.
If you want to be always say you know, if
you want to be loved, then you love. If you
want to be a friend, be a friend.
Speaker 3 (42:50):
If you want to have energy, it exerts them energy. Yeah,
somebody else, do something for somebody else. Yeah, do the
thing that they need, you know, the go out of
your way.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:02):
As long as you're doing that, you always have energy.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Yeah. A lot of people don't you know. They say,
you know, they talk is cheap, they talk with their lips.
But when it comes to producer and it looked like
they just missed missed that. But anyway, you know, it's
getting laid already.
Speaker 3 (43:20):
Time go by so fair.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
But I just wanted to that was on my heart
to talk about again. This book is why can't we
get along? A real talk guy? The healing the divine
between the division between men and women, and uh, it's
a lot of good things in him. And I probably continue.
(43:45):
But we have a great guest next Tuesday joining us,
Miss Bonnie Thompson, and she's got some great, uh spiritual
content that she's going to talk to us about. So
I'm really looking forward to that. It's Bonnie Thompson will
be joining us next week.
Speaker 3 (44:03):
So which is great because the next world coming up
after this one is gone. It's gonna be a spiritual
world and we're going to introduce it. It was this
the world like like right now in this country that
I know holy days none Christmas and Easta not holy days.
(44:25):
So we're going to institute those once this world is
done and we create our homes, it's gonna be holy days,
which which you directly study the spirit.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Yeah, that's what kind of what she talks on.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
And once we get to know who each who each
other are, we'll value each other more.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Well, we're spiritual beings that should be a value anyway. Again,
you treat me like I treat you? Why is that
so hard?
Speaker 3 (44:55):
Well, I treat you like especially like your creative a
created precious stones. Like there's nothing like you in the universe, right,
And that's what God gave every person, another person, the
greatest thing he's given. It's like in prison, that's the
worst thing you can do to person, take away from
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other people, put it in isolation, the worst thing you
can do. They would rather die than to be alone.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
But don't you think this world would be so much
better if we remind ourselves. I'm gonna treat you like
I want to be treated, And I know I want
to be treated like platinum.
Speaker 3 (45:37):
No more than that diamond.
Speaker 2 (45:39):
Diamonds, Well, yeah, diamonds. I want to be treated like
a diamond. So if you want to be treated like
a diamond, that you treat someone else like that, right,
we are afraid that note you're right here at intellectual
radio dot com my heart Radio with zimron Ed. But
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here's the Life, my favorite favorite song, and we hope
you've enjoyed this segment. We spoke from our hearts. Hope
you got something out of it that you can relate
to someone else. Don't forget my concert. Here's the Life.
I am Zimra and this is Here's the Life concert eight.
(46:25):
Can you believe that the concert eight right at South
Suburban College eight hundred South State Street in South Holland, Illinois,
almost at Chicago. We want Chicago folks to come out
and enjoy this. This is gonna be a good show again.
(46:46):
Opening is Mark Alan Felton. Oh, Mark Alan Felton, I'm
all out off the mic and again here's the Life
with zim ryan Ed. Don't forget my concert. General admission
go to im zimad dot com and just click for tickets. Again,
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we hope you enjoyed our segment this evening. You have
a good rest of your evening, and thank you as
always for treating me like I want to be treated.
I love you. Have a good evening.
Speaker 3 (47:21):
Peace, peace,
Love is possible when you believe that you're freeze. Love
is possible when you embrace it.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Good evening and welcome to Here's the Life with Zimrine
Edge right here at Intellectual Radio. And I hope you
caught my posts, which was kind of a last minute post.
You know, I said that I was going to share
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with my Facebook friends. And I know, with me being
a vocalist and having a podcast and doing a lot
of the things that I do, that I have really
really got to get in the mindset of making sure
that I do my posts. I don't know what it
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is about me that I just I mean, I guess
something that I've just not I have not yet got
used to. It is amazing. As long as Facebook been around,
as long as I've been doing so many, you know,
so much with my music and so many different things.
(01:22):
Well that's because you don't have a Facebook. I got
a Facebook, and it's like, I guess, people say, uh
and sometime and then when I do post, you know,
it's almost like where's my fans at? So I don't know,
but that's something that I know that I need to
(01:45):
to really really work at, you know, because I think
that it is a wonderful way to advertise what you're doing.
And I'm always reading and looking at other people's posts,
and so I got to really try and be more
conscious of that, you know, through the busy time and
busy day. Again, I'm getting ready for my eighth Here's
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the Life concert, which is October eighteenth. It's at South
Suburban College one five eight zero zero South State Street
in South Holland, Illinois, and it is sweetest dag. We
always have been doing this concert since October of twenty eleven.
That was my first one, and this is my eighth concert,
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and I am so elated and so proud of it
and to be able to share that because I in
twenty ten, that's when I discovered the song by Shirley
Horn Here's the Life, And as I always say, it
just stole my heart. And because of that, it is
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taking the heart of so many others that I have
shared that song with because the words are so absolute,
on point, and and the words just spew that perfect
heart and and and the fact that being genuine and
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all the things that I believe, and I think that's why, uh,
that song means so much to me. But again that
my concert, we still are b I p tickets are gone,
but we still have general admission. Yeah, they're gone. People graphicals,
we always get those gone. First, you get you know,
(03:38):
special seating, you get a wonderful gift bag, and and
then you get a chance to eat before the concert.
So you know, you can always go to my website,
uh and just click and buy your ticket general admission.
That's all that was there anyways, for general admission. I
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am zimarad dot com and I really and truly appreciate
all the support and the love, and it's gonna be
a wonderful show. I'm so happy to have joining me
this year. Is I mean an awesome, awesome guy, Mark
(04:22):
Alan Felton, better known as Panther. He is one of
the baddest saxophone players. I mean, you're talking about smooth jazz.
This brother is just phenomenal. So you're in for a
real treat. So I want to make sure that you
get a chance to see him because he is phenomenon.
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And I got some great tunes.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
For you too.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I got a couple of surprises. It's gonna be a
wonderful night. Bring your sweetheart out and enjoy a wonderful evening.
On Sweetest Day. I've been a little down the last
couple of week weeks. I lost suddenly a very very
close friend and sister, as I stated on Facebook, Marian Brown.
(05:09):
We started insurance together back in the nineties, and I
was right there with her that Sunday and we were
laughing and talking, you know. She complained a little bit
about a headache, but she stated that if she ate
(05:31):
it or something, she'd be cool. And if she did.
And then Dolly, who was with us since part of
our gang, our group, she asked her, you know, did
she feel better, and she said she felt better, And
then about she might have left maybe about thirty maybe
about twenty minutes or so before we did, and maybe
(05:55):
about nine o'clock that evening, her guy called and said
that she had fell out and that he had her going,
you know, in the ambulance to Little Company of Mary.
So I immediately got myself together, you know, and you know,
ask a guy if he needed us to come get him,
(06:17):
and we did got Dolly because Ed had a nice
relationship with Marian and he had gotten a little he
had really got a little upset and wind up having
a little heart palpitations. So I just told him to
just you know, be still and relax, and I called
Dolly and she was, you know, got dressed right away.
(06:40):
When picked her up and we went and picked her
guy up and went to a little company. And it
was just devastating. I mean she winded up having a
brain aneurysm and was unconscious and never came out of it.
And so that has still had me reeling because it
was so sudden. I mean, you're laughing with someone she was.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
She was, she was healthy and the youngest.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
She was the youngest, and uh so it just lets
you know, I mean we talked all the time, laughed
and talked. I mean we just you know, I had
my promo party, not this past Friday because we buried
her this past Friday, but the friday before that she
had gotten you know, had RSVP, you know through we'd
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been bright for for tickets, you know, to come out
from my I mean she never missed my promo parties,
any of my shows. I know she was going to
be there. She was always there, uh you know, just
checked on me regularly. It was a it was a
friendship and a love that you knew there was genuine
(07:51):
and she was very caring very attentive. Even that day
that we were celebrating Pam and uh Pat's mom's ninety
fifth birthday, that was the celebration that she was at.
She was asking brother, ed you need any ginger ale?
You you know, you need any water? You know?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And she was always helpful. Yeah she did. She did
like any nonsense.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
Yeah, she was just a wonderful spirit and we just
really really loved her with what you call a perfect love.
So it was you know, so we just wanted to
kind of talk a little bit about knowing how to
navigate when you experience something like that. How do you
(08:42):
navigate and work through that, because you know, it's it
can be very very difficult to experience where you are
talking with someone you know, one while and then the
next three four hours, you know you're getting word, you
(09:02):
know that they're that they're basically gone because she you know,
was unconsciousness. Yeah, she never gained consciousness. So you know, prayer,
you know, we already know that prayer changes things. You know,
we've we've you know, prayed about it, and you know,
you know that you love and you you know you
(09:24):
miss people and uh but when something like that happened,
so suddenly I know one.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Of the.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
One of the ladies, Marie, who is part of our group. Uh,
she said she just had to sit back and just
wonder what job God must have had for her to do,
you know, because it was just you know, we don't
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question God, you know, which which with me I always
say too. You know, God gets blamed all the time
for things like that or bad things that happen. So
you know, I kind of you know, have mixed emotions
on all of that. But you know, God wants life
for us, happiness, joy, peace, all the good stuff. So
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that's why I don't know to blame bad things on God,
because He is all that's good, all that's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (10:27):
It's not necessarily bad reality. It was just going to
come to all of us eventually. Yes, that bad. It's
just a cycle of life.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
We know that we know not of yes, and then
that's why it's always too we have to make sure
and when we talk about that on our segments too,
to make sure that you take your blood pressure medicine.
Make sure that you take you know, like we do
(10:59):
all the news, but also we make sure that we
take the prescribed medicine because you have to make sure
that you do that. That's very important that you don't
play with blood pressure medicine. That is very much key
to make sure that you don't do that. If the
doctor's prescribed you with blood pressure medicine, make sure you
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take it. Pick a time where they really say to
take it. Sho take it on the same time every time.
You know, every day you should take it at the
same time. Well, sometimes that can be difficult and then
maybe sometimes not because I have some people, some friends
that make sure they take it. But just to make
sure that you take it. But it is it does
(11:41):
work better if your body becomes that clock for that
same time each day. That just makes sense. Now that's
the same thing with your vitamins and all of that.
That's what I say. Make sure that you take your prescribe.
Like I said, we do our natural vitamins, but we
also make good sure that we take our blood pressure
(12:02):
medicine and any other medication that you take that you
make sure that you take that. And always say, you know,
your magnesium is your life force, so it's always good
to take you know, to make sure you take that exactly. Yeah,
So just wanted to kind of share, you know, some
(12:22):
some of that with you trying to feel better. You know, I've,
like I said, I've been kind of reeling with that,
and but you know, you have to sometimes just find
a way to you know, be prayerful and just work
through it and know that she's definitely she was the
(12:45):
definitely one that you know that she is definitely in
the arms of God, so that you know, brings you
a lot of you know, solitude and peace as well.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
She was like the Peacekeeper show. You said, can we
don't have no foolishness.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
That was her work.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
We don't do foolishness.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
We don't do no foolishness. We ain't having it, she said.
That was that was her word. No food, I ain't
nobody got time for that foolishness. I would just look
at that. We would just crack up. We had our
own little signals and all. But yeah, that that that
was a precious soul. And and she had a beautiful service.
She had her girlfriend of fifty years, you know, really
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she she she did a beautiful job. She was her
ParvE retorney for her health, Barbara, and she just did,
Oh my god, Barbara just she did. I just knew.
I told her Mirianie smiling down on you, baby, because
she really really did a fantastic job and.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
It was.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
Beautiful, beautiful service. Yeah, yeah, they did, and blessed her heart,
the kind of heart she had. She was also donor too,
so she donated some of her you know, or organs.
So on that note, we just want to just you know,
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make sure that we you know, we say, you know,
a lot of times, you know, people talk about love
and you know, we don't have our relationship enthusiasts with
us today, but you know, we talk about uh, we
say we love each other and we care about each other,
and you know, but we have to make sure that
(14:37):
you know, we always say that, you know, love is
an action word. We know that, but are we absolutely
showing love with actions? Are they just empty words?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
I think we've heard that. Everybody's heard that, but everybody
don't know that here all the time. But they don't
know that.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
But how don't you know that?
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Because they don't they don't really want to do anything.
They want to say it, they don't want to really
do it.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Then that's not love ed exactly, yeah, exactly, And that
that and it doesn't matter who it is. From your
children to your uh I'll say, your maid, to your children,
to your relatives, your uncle and your aunt.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
But that's just a disarmor person. Okay, So you can
go ahead and do what you want to do, but
you don't really show it. Indeed, because he said.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
If you love me, show me absolutely. That's what I
go by, because if you're doing anything, if you're doing
anything other than showings, it's not it's contradictory.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
Yeah, but we creak to say it, but we don't
do it. But we don't know what it looks like.
We don't know what to do. It looks like. As
soon as I get my voice back, i'll explain it better.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Well, you can explain it as best you can.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
God knows you, and God loves you. He might not
like you, but he loves you. I might not like you,
but I love you, and love it loves a commitment
to a rule in life to protect your life and
to make sure that you don't sacrifice your life in
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this life because all of the dangers in his life
I got to keep you from even if you know
it or not. So my love would be shown in
a way what I do for you, not what I say,
because sometimes you don't even never never have to say
I love it but once or twice, but you show
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in so many other ways you don't have.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
To say it now, I love that. Yeah, and when
you hear it and it's a feeling I mean, but
by the actions, you absolutely feel. So you definitely know
that when the person says that that it's that it's genuine.
Speaker 3 (17:15):
You know when you when you can check the actions,
not but what they not what they say, but what
they do. If you keep checking that, you can also
find out a lot about a lot of other people too.
But if they're for real, they'll say one thing, but
you following them instance and see where they go and
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what they do, and if they don't do the thing
that shows they love they don't love you.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Now you speak about you know, we've we've talked about
this before, and a lot of times you speak about
expectations and that you don't really expect for people to
to show up and show out. I R I R.
And why why do you deserve I.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
Reserve my uh my answer to that question because if
a person says they love you too quickly, they probably don't.
If they say they love you and don't do anything
about it, and every time you aks them do something.
They got an excuse, but they got a reason why
(18:25):
they're too busys. They got this To say that, then
they don't love you cause it cause what whatever it
is you ask it of me, I it's something that
you need in your soul, and my job is to
make sure you get it. If I love you, it's
not that it's it's said, not that it's it's it's
(18:45):
something I should gain from it, recognition, notoriety, the tension.
If I'm not getting anything from it, but you are,
then that means I love you enough to do this
for you. You don't have to say take me for
it either. When you do stuff I love, it doesn't
require anything.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
It does require appreciation I.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Require, but it should be shown if it's going to
be returned to you and the person recognizes it. But
if they don't say anything, I still love you because
that's where God is. You look at your little trashy life.
You'll do anything within one minute and do something else
the next, but he still loves you and watch you
(19:33):
go through all your changes and mistakes in life, making
the wrong decision.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Now you're not talking to me, no, oh okay, Well
you make sure you say general. But you're talking about
your trash yourself. Make that crystal clear.
Speaker 3 (19:47):
I'm not suying.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
I want him to be crystal clear that you ain't talking.
You talking about your trashy life. Got the way you
said that that was kind of you know, hey, make
that clear, brother.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
For people. For people, it's because people think they're perfect,
they think they're all right, they think they are good,
and they're not. It's it's it's a thought pattern they
have in their head and everything else. To watch the
action that they do it when they when they don't
think anybody's looking, when somebody's always looking. Oh yeah, I
(20:20):
was taught a long time ago. No matter where you are,
someone's watching you. If you buy yourself in a closet,
someone is with you all the time.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
And then what is amazing too? I always say that, uh,
you never know. It's a small, small world.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
It's and getting smaller every day.
Speaker 2 (20:40):
I mean, it really is.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
It's shrinking. But that's like Adams. They all commingle together
and everything reflects or affects something else, right, because we
all related. Everybody in the world, every item is related
right in the body, I in the in the world,
in the air, and on the planet. Everybody is related.
Everything is related, so you can't get away from yourself.
(21:05):
You can think you're doing something that nobody else knows about,
but the whole world knows it now and in your
mind you know it. And as you're picking up the
vibration it's coming off of your brain to everybody else
is reading it. So you walk in the room that
people have read you right away, they can pick up
your spirit. It's like it's like radar. You can you
(21:27):
can't see it, you can't feel it, but it's there.
And everybody has that, but they don't realize they have it.
They really don't think that they're or know that. The
vibrations off of everybody goes to the entire universe and
it meets people before you can get there. Your spirit
would go into a room before you or absolutely and
(21:51):
you bring those vibrations with you and every now and
then you meet somebody, get the same vibrations you got
and you don't even have to talk.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
You just connect.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
Me and Mary we had to do is take a
look at each.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Other, right, right, we don't talk right. That was the
way she was. But I now when you say about expectations,
I think that certain people in your life. You should expect. Yes,
(22:28):
you should expect.
Speaker 3 (22:30):
You also should understand that you may be disappointed because
they're not gonna do it. You expect them to hold
them acount of before you can do that to you.
Be like Marie fur Free, Marie three miles. She's good
at that, she's getting mother.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
With she does of you, but.
Speaker 3 (22:49):
She doesn't, she doesn't no.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
She don't get angry. She just says, Okay.
Speaker 3 (22:55):
She's just personal, she's just trying to teach you.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
But she also does it expect and if you and
if you do it any other way, then it's how
they also meg because if you say that you love
me and there's and you don't show it, then don't
don't be asking me for nothing, right.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
But you you'll ultimately go to teach that person right,
not not the amount of your life, but to teach right.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
You don't have to exemount your life. But it's still
supposed to be a thing where certain people you are
supposed to expect. I expect certain things from you. I do,
and if I don't, and if I don't get it,
I'm very disappointed and very hurt about it. And I
don't have and I don't have a problem stating that,
and you know that.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
The difference is you and me is that I expect it,
but I don't get hurt by it, right because I
already expected it.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
You already didn't expect it.
Speaker 3 (23:54):
I expected to come my way, I think. But if
you don't, I'm not gonna hold you accounted for it.
I might tell you about it and that you how
it made me.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Feel, but way back in your heart you do. And
that's where people come in holding grudges and don't talk
about it.
Speaker 3 (24:13):
But I've got to give you some kind of lead
because I understand your I understand your spirit and say
anybody else's that's not their spirit. I don't expect them
to follow up as they should.
Speaker 2 (24:25):
But people claim that that's their spirit. Right, That's what
That's what I'm talking about when I say we people talk.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
About but I know different. Right, they intend to, But.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
How do you really know that they intend to if
they don't do it, because then if you if you
intend on it, then you should do it. Yeah, that's
where the that's where the genuineness comes in.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
That you shouldn't get too disappointed if they don't do it.
You expect I do you get hurt. I do that.
Don't bother me.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Well, but that's because that's what you would expect. But
a person that like me that my word is my bond.
I say what I mean and mean what I say.
Then when it comes a different kind of way from me,
I'm disappointed. I am as you should be exactly. That's
(25:20):
why I love that song so much. All you give
is all you get.
Speaker 3 (25:24):
I understand it. But I don't hold people to that.
I hold them to that in our relationship and personally
in my heart. I don't because I know where they're
coming from. I know they are wounded, scarred people, all of.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Them, and you will continue to be wounded, hurt and
scarred if you don't make a difference and how you
treat people taught, Yeah, because you have to treat people
the way you want to be treated. I'm a stickler
on that.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
It's like it's like it's almost like it's better to give.
And see absolutely, if i'm booth, why is it better
for me to give? Because they don't understand the system
the system of giving is is it? It's about energy?
The system understands like your body does that. If I'm
(26:17):
always getting, I'm a giver the universes. Make sure that
that's that's your primary directive. Then I'll make sure you
always have something to give.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Yeah, because the closed hand gets nothing.
Speaker 3 (26:28):
But other people might think, well, if I need you time,
why why am I giving it away? Because it's better
to give than me. See, because the universe understands giving.
If you are that type of person, stay the type person,
because the universe is going to reward.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
You, right. And if that's in your soul, if that's
who you are in the depths of your soul, then
you can You can't stop that.
Speaker 3 (26:50):
When people don't say thank you. Got to keep doing.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
It, absolutely, But you still have to sometimes show them
a message and give them a message.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
But that don't mean they're gonna get it.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
If they don't get it, then that's yeah. But if
they don't get it, then that's tough on them. Like
I was reading this book why Can't We Get Along?
And it's a real talk guide to healing the division
between men and women. This is a good book by
Alan Truman, and it's it's shouldn't be thriving relationships. Ah,
(27:29):
And that's a good point too. Your relationship should not
feel like a battle feel like you're always got to
be in competition with one another, or you've always got
to be debating about one with one another. And so
this is rue.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
It's not sustainable. That's what the sixty divorce rate sixty five.
And something's not working. Why you keep doing it? You
Something needs to change fundamentally about the whole relationship, about
what what expectations are and what relationship you have to
that person and what they have to the society as
(28:13):
a whole. That has never explained to people when they're
growing up and know it, dunts around to teach them
what your role is, not what you want to do
and what feels good to you? What is your role?
What is your responsibility to life? Nobody tells the kids that,
So they go find somebody who makes them feel good,
(28:36):
not knowing that they should feel good before that, and
bring something to the relationship. And so here's what I got,
what you have? And can we both get along? And
are are we both traveling in the same direction? They
don't do that. You make me feel good, So they're
fastens of time with you. But I'm not concerned about
(28:57):
what makes you feel good? How are you doing? I
want to concern about how you make me feel. So
I want to hang out with you and give you
what you want. Who would you keep doing that? The
minutes you stop doing that, I don't care that about
you anymore. So love goes from from love to hate.
And then why do you hurt the people that you
(29:18):
say you love, which means you do love me in
the first place, You just like them because the way
they mean you feel.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
Now when you express how you feel. Why I was
listening to someone's saying that there are five things that
women should not should run run away from a relationship.
If a guy tells you your voicing or saying how
you feel and he wants to say that you are
(29:47):
too sensitive, well that means or you voice how you
feel and you're being helpful, but he looks at it
as you're being too controlling.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
That that that's just about with anybody.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
This is stated for women when women should if you
hear that, you should know who you're talking to.
Speaker 3 (30:08):
But women have an attitude that that's the fault. I
can fix it.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
But let me ask you that if I'm going through
some type of emotional thing and I'm trying to voice
what it is I'm feeling and I've experienced that, not
with you, but I've experienced that where they said, well,
don't you do you think you're being sensitive about about it?
(30:39):
Why is that the first thing? Because you're voicing your
emotions or you're voicing how you feel from your soul.
That's the only thing they can quickly determine that you're
being too sensitive.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
Because they don't have an answer because they know right
there that they cannot contribute anything because they should ask
you what makes you feel that way? Because if it's
anything they've done to get themselves out of the way
to me, they did. That's why I tell you, don't
(31:15):
don't don't investigate anything further. You're too sensitive. You should
investigate it because maybe it's coming from you, and if
you're snagging from you, you should create a space safer
than for me to voice that.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
That that that is the very that is the most
important thing, is that that a woman can feel safe
enough to express whatever she needs to express without feeling
like she's being judged or being too sensitive.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
Or that's I think it's too sensitive.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
I don't think so, because if you're sensitive, that means
you're in tune.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
You in tune to everything it's good.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I think so so that and you are supposed to
be able to voice what it is that you feel.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
Right, But the person it's trying to take these sales
because they think they want to make sure nothing they did.
They're trying to keep them sales eues away because I
don't want you to blame me for it because he
may be something they don't want. They don't see that,
but you have to.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
They don't want to see that it's them.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
But when you're trying to be honest in your daily
life and relationships, you have the sacrificial.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
And that's another sacrific And that's another line that a
man would use. He's putting you down or he's saying something,
and then he comes back.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
With what his issues.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
No, you you're you're expressing, expressing what you're saying, and
he says, well, he's just being the things that he's
saying to you. He considers that he's just being honest
with you and telling you that, but that that does
not necessarily mean that that's really how he's feeling. When
he says, I'm telling you this because I'm being honest
(33:14):
with you, But yet he's really putting you down.
Speaker 3 (33:19):
Oh, he's his judgment of you. He's trying to.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
Right or whatever the situation is. He's expressing. He's letting
you know that he's so called being honest. They said,
that's not a good thing for a man to tell you.
Speaker 3 (33:37):
Well, he's supposed to be honest like all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
But is he really being honest? If he's putting you
down and not really addressing emotions or whatever you're feeling,
that means.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
You're about to be disrespected, disrespected.
Speaker 2 (33:52):
Like that, that's true.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
That means you're about to hear alive here, just about
to give some life. Okay, So, but he's avoiding the issue.
And issue at hand is how can I make you
feel safe enough to voice your opinion of tell me
how you feel. How can I create that space for
(34:18):
you that you can do anything you want and I
feel guilty about it or feel that so you're being
judged and that's why you come in. That's why I say.
Everybody has their own stars that they care with her,
and it usually the scars that they had before they
(34:40):
met you.
Speaker 2 (34:42):
And so that that that seems to be such, that
seems to be so prominent in relationships. I mean, where
you just like this like like like, uh, this book
is saying you know, it should it should not feel
like they say love doesn't hurt. So it's like you
should not have to feel like everything has to be
(35:07):
up in the air. Everything has to be a battle.
I mean, everything has to be just so an argument
or debate. How do people really and truly get away
from that? You know, life being one thing that with
Marion that has really shown me how fragile life can be.
(35:33):
I'm trying to find out why is it that so
many people waste so much time on such trivial things
in their relationships instead of embracing each other, embracing and
doing the things that create wholeness and peace of mind
and a settlement within the relationship and happiness. Why is
(35:58):
it so hard?
Speaker 3 (36:01):
Cause they're not I believe that they're because people are
not taught spirit, they're not taught love, they're not taught
self love, they're not taught who they are. Because you
really can't deal with somebody else until you know yourself.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
And then you have to be careful. Even with that,
even if you're taught that, you still have to be
careful not to be self centered or not to be
so as Pam says, it's all about me. You know.
You have to be mindful of that too, Yes, you do,
because otherwise you begin to act that out.
Speaker 3 (36:37):
But it was it's almost like it's not all about you,
it's all about us. When I think about us, I
don't I don't blame you for being you, cause you're
supposed to be different from me, and I should understand
that difference and a lot for it and that and
not blame you for it or judge you for it,
(36:58):
because I cannot be a judge because because you need judge,
we will be judged. But we are in the process
of learning who we are. We never spend time to
find out who we are spiritually. So if you don't
know that, then you don't know you. You don't understand
the other person. I try to understand everybody because everybody
(37:19):
is different, which that they're supposed to be. But nobody's
better than anybody else. They're just not as better as that.
There's not a word to use. They're just different. They
evolve differently, they understand differently, and everybody's has all the
same information available.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
To them, but they don't use it.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
No, they don't because they still looking for themselves. If
you're still looking for yourself, then then you looking at
anybody else too, trying to judge them, trying to find
out where do you fit into their life when your
whole life should be complete as an individual, as a
human being. Everything that you need, you are already have.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
Yeah, we always say that it's with them.
Speaker 3 (38:02):
You don't need anything else. You don't need anybody else.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
I don't agree with that that you don't need anybody.
Everybody needs someone.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
That's what you messed while you made together. But I'm
saying that at first you have to be you before
you can be us. You can't, that's true. You can't
have a family until you have two people come together
to make it and have a good understanding in that
relationship with our roles are one is always respectful because
(38:32):
I know who made you, and then I also know
who made me, and the booth cames in the same place.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
And that's why you should be treasured because we all
come from God. We're created by God.
Speaker 3 (38:45):
That's not taught either, so.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
We should treasure that. I just can't famine, you know
the way a lot of times men, well you know,
I can't imagine. I mean, it's just so hard to
imagine why people treat each other the way they do.
(39:10):
And that's relationships with friends, with with you know, men
and women, women and women. I mean, it's just children.
You know, your children debate and go back and forth
with you and cause you so much disappointment and so
much havoc.
Speaker 3 (39:31):
Well I'm very old school.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Well you know I know that.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
Yeah, so huh. I was taught you raise a child
up to the way it should be, and when they
get older and on their own, they won't divert from it.
But you have to study.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
Two well, really in the wound, if you're smart.
Speaker 3 (39:57):
We used to do it, sing and talk to in
the womb, yes, before they came out. We don't do
that anymore. Real, Let kids do what they want to
do until they're five, six, eighteen years old. They would
call ourselves and try to raise them too late, already adopted.
They don't spirit their own attitude, they don't carry it
their own personality, and you had nothing to do with
(40:19):
that because you did not train them from the beginning.
When you get to that age, you can't you can't now,
you can't go out and public with them because they clown, right,
But you should have set that up years ago. I agree,
like some of the one young lady told me, well,
you know she's three, she's just a baby. Say she's
clowning and crying to get her get her way. I said,
(40:42):
that's not teaching her anything because she's gonna grow up
and nobody would want to spend any time with her
because she's too difficult. And you allowed it, which means
you a fault. You allowed her to be somebody nobody
wants to be around. You shouldn't do that. So when
when you start, I start one or two years old.
(41:04):
She when you when your baby looks in your eyes,
it's not learning. They go from your expressions. They go
for your facial expecions.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Because we got some smart babies are a lean out
the journey, journey gonna be I I thought journey was
older than four. Right now she's currently four and I
always say she's four going on forty. She she is
extremely smart, like because they come in that.
Speaker 3 (41:29):
Way and they'll challenge you. So don't so when they
that's why you have to watch them, because they they
might let the public schools were building the intelligence. It
will slow them down as to go to school. And
you don't watch it.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
Yeah, so well, her mommy and daddy got her in
private school.
Speaker 3 (41:47):
She's understand who she is.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
Yeah, she's excelling very well, exactly.
Speaker 3 (41:53):
And that's where that's the way we used to treat
all our children. Yeah, society tells your children are worsness
to us. We don't need to and that's the message
they get. They don't really need us, so they don't
teach us anything.
Speaker 2 (42:06):
And I know because of the battles, Like you said,
the battles and the scars is what causes so many
so much disruption and then everything that's happening in this
world today, it's just crucial that we just all be
conscious of how we treat one another and that that
it's important that we uh And I'm just I just
(42:28):
believe in my soul you have to treat people the
way you want to be treated. When you do that
and live by that, and when you live by that,
you can't miss it. If you treat people the way.
If you want to be always say you know, if
you want to be loved, then you love. If you
want to be a friend, be a friend.
Speaker 3 (42:50):
If you want to have energy, it exerts them energy. Yeah,
somebody else, do something for somebody else. Yeah, do the
thing that they need, you know, the go out of
your way.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:02):
As long as you're doing that, you always have energy.
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Yeah. A lot of people don't you know. They say,
you know, they talk is cheap, they talk with their lips.
But when it comes to producer and it looked like
they just missed missed that. But anyway, you know, it's
getting laid already.
Speaker 3 (43:20):
Time go by so fair.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
But I just wanted to that was on my heart
to talk about again. This book is why can't we
get along? A real talk guy? The healing the divine
between the division between men and women, and uh, it's
a lot of good things in him. And I probably continue.
(43:45):
But we have a great guest next Tuesday joining us,
Miss Bonnie Thompson, and she's got some great, uh spiritual
content that she's going to talk to us about. So
I'm really looking forward to that. It's Bonnie Thompson will
be joining us next week.
Speaker 3 (44:03):
So which is great because the next world coming up
after this one is gone. It's gonna be a spiritual
world and we're going to introduce it. It was this
the world like like right now in this country that
I know holy days none Christmas and Easta not holy days.
(44:25):
So we're going to institute those once this world is
done and we create our homes, it's gonna be holy days,
which which you directly study the spirit.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Yeah, that's what kind of what she talks on.
Speaker 3 (44:38):
And once we get to know who each who each
other are, we'll value each other more.
Speaker 2 (44:44):
Well, we're spiritual beings that should be a value anyway. Again,
you treat me like I treat you? Why is that
so hard?
Speaker 3 (44:55):
Well, I treat you like especially like your creative a
created precious stones. Like there's nothing like you in the universe, right,
And that's what God gave every person, another person, the
greatest thing he's given. It's like in prison, that's the
worst thing you can do to person, take away from
(45:16):
other people, put it in isolation, the worst thing you
can do. They would rather die than to be alone.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
But don't you think this world would be so much
better if we remind ourselves. I'm gonna treat you like
I want to be treated, And I know I want
to be treated like platinum.
Speaker 3 (45:37):
No more than that diamond.
Speaker 2 (45:39):
Diamonds, Well, yeah, diamonds. I want to be treated like
a diamond. So if you want to be treated like
a diamond, that you treat someone else like that, right,
we are afraid that note you're right here at intellectual
radio dot com my heart Radio with zimron Ed. But
(46:03):
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you've enjoyed this segment. We spoke from our hearts. Hope
you got something out of it that you can relate
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(47:08):
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I love you. Have a good evening.
Speaker 3 (47:21):
Peace, peace,
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