Side Piece/The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 4 (01:44):
We have an amazing show lined up for you tonight,
plenty hot topics. Now listen you all. Look look, I'm struggling.
What do you all think?

Speaker 3 (01:55):
Are you all?

Speaker 4 (01:55):
And I'm just gonna touch lightly on this and I'm
just gonna keep it moving.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
Are you Oh y'au?

Speaker 4 (02:00):
What do you feel about this Diddy the Diddy documentary
docuseries that fifty cent has done. Are you guys watching that?
Are you into it? I said, I'm not watching it,
like I'm just I'm personally over the whole Diddy thing
because as long as you got people like all the Listen,
the the Nickelodeon executives, and as long as you have

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all those other people free that have done these file
things towards children.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
And two children, I'm over it.

Speaker 4 (02:33):
I don't want to hear nothing else about what Diddy
did it?

Speaker 3 (02:36):
Did it? Did it? Do it? Did it? Didn't? Did it? Don't?
Did it? Do dinga? Did it? Doom dong?

Speaker 4 (02:42):
I don't want to hear nothing else about Diddy because again,
I feel like there's other people that are still out
there that are just as guilty as they say, get
Diddy is just as guilty that are doing these crimes
against children. So until we put a little bit more
pressure on those people, you know, please and thank you

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and miss me with this ditty stuff, because the stuff
that he was guilty of, you know, with the Cassie
thing and all of this other stuff, that's basically you know,
she settled.

Speaker 3 (03:16):
With him for that.

Speaker 4 (03:17):
So I'm not watching it, but you know, whatever, what
do you all think? Just dropping the comments? Are you?
Are you for watching this docuseries? Have you watched it?
Did you learn something new? Did it change your mind
on how you originally felt about Diddy? Or did it
make you you know, did you get some type of
revelation from watching this docuseries? And I'm just like this,

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I when I saw that it was a fifty cent production,
I'm just like, I don't understand, Like I don't.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
Understand it because fifty cent doing this.

Speaker 4 (03:54):
I just hope that he doesn't have any skeletons in
his closet or any baby oil in his closet. I
just hope that he does not, because, you know, for
you to be throwing stones like that and for you
to be opening up some graves in somebody else's backyard.
I just hope that there's nothing left to be discovered
in his backyard because if it is, woooo. You know so,

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I'm just over the whole Didny thing. But again, am
I the only one? Are you guys watching this? Did
you all learn something? Did this make you say, you
know what, Yeah, Diddy is such a creep or whatever
it is you felt about him?

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Did this change your mind about Diddy?

Speaker 4 (04:34):
Because I'm being urged to watch it, but again, at
this point, I'm just like, mmmm, yeah, it's a strong
no for me because again, it's so many other people
out there that I feel like, you know what, Listen,
it's some justice needs to be done for these kids,

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and until that happens, I'm just like, I'm not interested
in seeing somebody else be I'm not interested in seeing
did he another black man being railroaded? Because again, this
was railroad and stuff, the stuff that people want him
in jail for. That's not what he's in jail for now.
I know some people may feel like, you know what,

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if we couldn't get him on this, well, at least
we got him. It don't matter how you catch a
snake as long as you catch it.

Speaker 3 (05:26):
Being that's all that matters.

Speaker 4 (05:28):
And you know what, I'm not going to give any
pushback for that, because some people have their reasons for
feeling the way that they feel. And again I have
no pushback for that. But as for me, I don't
have no skin in his game. So I'm just like, yeah,
I'm not interested in seeing another black man being taken

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down and exposed by another black man.

Speaker 3 (05:51):
And all I can say is, fifty.

Speaker 4 (05:53):
Cent, please don't have Please don't have no baby or
no freak CapAids and all this other foolishness. Please don't
have that in your in your backyard. Because it's a
it's a gospel song that I love, I love, I
absolutely love it. It's called sweep around your own front
door before you go trying to sweep around mass fifty.

Speaker 3 (06:15):
Cent, sweep around your own front door, before you go
sweeping around ditties.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
Sweep around your own front door and make sure ain't
nothing there for.

Speaker 3 (06:25):
These folks to uncover.

Speaker 4 (06:28):
Because when it's some stuff to be uncovered, you ain't
even safe. So you being the token right now and rightfully.
So here's the thing I mean, I feel like this
with fifty cent, I feel like fifty cent is a genius,
like this man is a very intelligent man.

Speaker 3 (06:49):
I love his business moves.

Speaker 4 (06:51):
I love a lot of things about him, you know,
business wise, but morally no, like you know, his his
his moral compass. It to me and my humble nobody
asks me opinion. I believe that his moral compass is

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a little bit on empty. But outside of that, you know, again,
maybe in Hollywood you don't need morals because if you do,
you not gonna be able to do all of the
things that are required of you, or you're not gonna have,
you know, a cutthroat nature to do a lot of
the things that's needed to be done if you want to,

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you know, make it to certain levels in the industry.
And so I know that he didn't make it there,
you know, being you know, afraid to you know, ruffle
some feathers. But again, I'm just not one for tearing
down a brother, you know, just so that I can
get some cheese. Now listen, speaking of tearing down you all,

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look some of us, ladies. Listen, I'm gonna start with
us today. I love us, and I love us, I
love us to pieces. But this first hot topic, you all,
I struggle. Some of you all are making it very rough,
you know, you it look, I'm struggling because with this

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first hot topic, like literally there's no way I can't
even clean this up. Now you all know I like
to kind of spin things and you know, clean it
up and you know, look at the you know, look
at a different side of the situation. But with this
first hot topic, I just absolutely cannot do that.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
So you all know.

Speaker 4 (08:42):
There are different versions of this show, the Pop the
Balloon show, So this I don't know, this is not
the official version, but on some version of the Pop
the Balloon, you have this young lady and so the
man is there, you know, he's so the man is choosing,
and so the young lady pops her balloon because she

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said so she has five kids, and so she was
asked how many kids does she have? And she stated
that she has five kids, and so then she asked
him how many kids did he have, and he stated
that he has two kids. And once he revealed that

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he had two kids, she popped his balloon. She popped
her balloon, and it was at that point that I
I was baffled. I didn't understand. So I needed to
hear what her reasoning was before jumping off and saying
something crazy. I needed to hear what her reasoning was.

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You all this sugar, this sugar plum. She said that
she popped her balloon because he had too many kids.

Speaker 3 (10:00):
Oh you heard me.

Speaker 4 (10:02):
She said she popped her balloon because he had too
many kids. Now, mind you, let me give you the
count on the kids. He has two kids and she
had five.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
But he has too many. And I said to myself,
and so.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
It was at that point that I said, you know what,
we have to have a conversation. Now, you are entitled
to your preference. You are titled to like what you like.
You are entitled to like what you like, want what
you want.

Speaker 3 (10:40):
You are However, it has to make sense.

Speaker 4 (10:46):
So what I didn't understand was if he has two
kids and you have five. The last time I checked,
five kids was more than two kids.

Speaker 3 (10:58):
Now, maybe she was.

Speaker 4 (11:00):
Saying, you know what if with my five and your two,
that's gonna be seven kids. That's gonna be too many kids.
But ma'am you coming to the table with the bulk
of the kids. So she was asked, well, how many
kids would you prefer that he had? So the host acts, okay,

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if two is too many, okay, well what about one?
And she's like, well, I mean, I guess one might
be okay, but it's it's he just got too many.
It's too many, and he got too many, too many kids.
At this point, it didn't make sense to me. It
didn't make sense to me because you're a woman with

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five kids.

Speaker 3 (11:44):
Not bash and not throwing shade. But if your.

Speaker 4 (11:50):
Expectation, if you're like willingly seeking a dude that does
not have any kids, why I don't understand, Like what
was if that was the only thing I could see
if she was saying, you know what, I didn't feel.
I don't believe that there'll be anything, no chemistry. I
don't think that we would have anything in common. I

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don't think she didn't say any of that.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
She popped the balloon.

Speaker 4 (12:16):
She said because he had too many kids, he had two,
she had five. At this point, do you all is
that a chick that you would put in the delusional category?

Speaker 3 (12:32):
Is she delusional for thinking that?

Speaker 4 (12:35):
Listen, I can proudly come with my five kids, but
I'm going to disqualify your dude that has two kids
because I'm saying his two kids are too much, and
then I'll get in my feelings.

Speaker 3 (12:52):
If a man tells me that.

Speaker 4 (12:54):
Five kids are too much, we gotta kind of make
it make sense, like if we can, you know, big
bad wolfed about oh you know out well, take me
and my kids and we a package because you are
you are. That's that's a definitely a fair statement. It's

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an accurate statement. You are a package deal. But so
is this man with his two kids. And you can't
expect to take your package deal and want to only
target people, target men that don't have any kids. Now,
if a man fail for you and he didn't have

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any kids, then that's fine, but it's like some of
us we gotta you know, we gotta use the same
metrics that we want to be used when it comes
to us, when it pertains to us. So if you
don't want to be discounted because you got five kids,
why would you discount a man because he has two

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kids and you got you got a slot more than
the kids that he has, So he'll be good.

Speaker 3 (14:04):
He's gonna easily find.

Speaker 4 (14:06):
Somebody quicker than you would with five kids, especially if
you are targeting a man that don't have any kids,
because that's what I got out of that because if
two or too many, and she's saying she'll think about
if him having one child is okay, ma'am, you are

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out of your rabbit. Somebody say the cuss word for me. Mind,
she's out of her rabbit. Mind, she's out of it,
because ma'am, look, look, we gotta look at this point.
With five kids, you don't need to be on pop
the balloon because the balloon popped already. That's why you
got five of them. The balloon popped, or you didn't

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use the balloon, So you need to go and stop
worried about trying to find somebody else to have baby
number six.

Speaker 3 (14:58):
And maybe, maybe, just maybe that's her strategy.

Speaker 4 (15:03):
Maybe she's getting these dudes that don't have any kids,
and now they gotta be stuck with you because you
know that you gonna put it on them, and now
they gonna have another baby with you. They gonna have
a baby with you, so he gonna be baby dead
at number six and then hopefully you can stress him
out so that he'll take care of all of the kids,

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when that originally was not his intentions. So I'm saying, ladies,
not all ladies, but you know who you are. The
ones that move like this, we gotta do better. We
absolutely positively have to do better, because if you're saying

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that two kids are too many, we gotta we gotta
be okay when dudes sit up here and when they
when they when they pounce back and say, oh, five
kids too much, we gotta be okay with that. And
if we got women out here disqualifying dudes that have
two kids. So all I'm saying is what's good for

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you to put out needs to be good for you
to be able.

Speaker 3 (16:13):
To take that back.

Speaker 4 (16:14):
You have to be able to accept what you put
in out there. So don't dish it out if you
can't take it. Because a lot of times, listen, we
get we're good, baby, we good at dishing some ish out,
and then we cry and cry when that same ish
is dish back on us. So let's just be fair

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about this ish. And I'm saying, listen for women, if
you are a woman that does this, I'm not saying everybody.
Whenever I say something, it is not applied towards everybody,
because there are exceptions that all women are not like that.
So this particular statement is an exception. It's a few
select it's a handful of chicks that operate in this category,

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A handful of them, not everybody, but it's a handful
of them that are out there that does this.

Speaker 3 (17:06):
So if that's you, you know.

Speaker 4 (17:07):
Again, you can't pull up to the situation, pull up
to a dude and oh we're here's me and me
and my kids. We're a package deal. Yes, that's a
big guy. That's a big dang one package. You gotta
let him get adjusted to you. You gotta understand. Listen,

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you're bringing six to his one.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
That is a lot.

Speaker 4 (17:35):
That is a big responsibility. It's a huge financial responsibility.
And let's be honest, a lot of people, a lot
of dudes are not willing to take that on because
it's a lot.

Speaker 3 (17:52):
So we can't sit up here, Oh well, if you broke,
just say something. No, ma'am, ma'am, you got a lot,
You got a lot going on.

Speaker 4 (18:02):
See, we try to reverse it and try to play
with their manhood and play with their ego because they
can't afford or they're not willing to sacrifice their lifestyle
and give up their money to take care of you.
In everything that you bring to his life, you're supposed

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to be able to compliment each other. And I'm not
saying that a woman with six five kids cannot compliment
a man.

Speaker 3 (18:34):
That does not have any kids.

Speaker 4 (18:37):
Now, I know, listen, I know I can feel I
can feel you all typing.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
Let me explain what I mean.

Speaker 4 (18:44):
If she has five kids, okay, and she is taking
care of her children, her and the fathers and whoever
or the ex husband, whoever it is, whoever is responsible
for those, if.

Speaker 3 (19:01):
She got that in order, then okay.

Speaker 4 (19:09):
At the same time, if you all were to get
together and it would be.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
Something permanentent permanent, then of.

Speaker 4 (19:16):
Course his money is gonna be divvied up six ways.
I just don't see how would you be with a man.
You getting with a man, you're marrying him, and you
all are living in the same household, and none of
his money is going towards your kids.

Speaker 3 (19:32):
I don't understand how that's done.

Speaker 4 (19:34):
If people do that, please explain to me the logistics
behind you, know, you having five kids.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
He ain't gotta do nothing for my kids.

Speaker 4 (19:43):
Well, ma'am, if y'all married and y'all live in the
same household, to me, I think that that's a ridiculous
statement to say but listen, different strokes for different folks.

Speaker 3 (19:52):
But when you coming together.

Speaker 4 (19:58):
If your stuff is in order and you are truly
legitly taking care of your kids by yourself, and you
can stand ten toes down with your chest out, listen, yo,
I don't need you to do nothing for me.

Speaker 3 (20:12):
And my kids. I got this on lock.

Speaker 4 (20:15):
Okay, you got you got some wiggle room because you
got it together. But if you the chick that got
the kids and you ain't got your financial issue together,
I think that it's a little premature to expect a
dude that has no responsibility but himself to come in

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and pick up that type of slack.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
I do think that that's a lot to ask.

Speaker 4 (20:47):
For, and you're not bringing anything that would contribute, which
would lead to our next hot topic and bringing to
the table. What do you all feel like this, because
this keeps coming up? What do you all feel about

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a man asking you what do you bring to the table?
When you hear that question, Ladies, what do you what
do you bring to the table when a man asks
that question? How do you all receive that? And do
are you intimidated by that question? And then ladies drop

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some of the answers that you have given. If you've
ever been asked that question, what do you.

Speaker 3 (21:42):
Bring to the table? What do you all?

Speaker 4 (21:46):
First of all, what do you feel about that question?
What do you bring to the table? Are you offended
by that? And fellas drop in the comments if you
ask that question? What type of responses are you all
looking for? When you ask that question? What do you

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bring to the table? What are you expecting to hear
a woman say? What are you expecting to hear a
woman say? When you say what do you bring to
the table? Hey, Nikki, how you doing? What do you
expect to hear?

Speaker 3 (22:23):
Oh?

Speaker 4 (22:24):
Well, what do you bring to the table? What do
you bring to the table? What do you what do
you expect to hear? Ladies, if you've been asked this,
what do you bring to the table? How do you
respond to that question? How do you respond? What do
you bring to the table? Because to me, that's a

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that's a question that a lot of you know, it's
that's just a common question now that a lot of
you know some dudes are starting to ask. And I say,
that's a new question in my opinion, because like talking
to men, I can honestly say I've only been asked
that question.

Speaker 3 (23:08):
One time, one time.

Speaker 4 (23:11):
In all of the time that I have been out
talking to me, just being good and grown, I've only
been asked that one time.

Speaker 3 (23:21):
And guess what that was? That was not too long.

Speaker 4 (23:24):
That was in recent years, within the last four years,
five years, I've been asked that question. And it's only
I've only been asked that question once? What do I
bring to the table? And so I look because I
was taken first of all, I was taken by surprise

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when I was asked that question. So I was just like,
what do I bring to the table? Okay, So before
I give my answer again, I want to know what
do you all say when or if you've been asked
that question? And fellas, let me know, what are you
expecting to hear when you hear when you ask a

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woman what does she bring to the table?

Speaker 3 (24:13):
What are you expecting to hear?

Speaker 4 (24:15):
What answer? What is the answer? What are you expecting
to hear? Because I know a lot of women would say, oh, well,
I'm gonna cook for him, and this man he's I'm
gonna cook for him, I'm gonna clean for him, I'm
gonna do you know, I'm gonna cook for him?

Speaker 3 (24:29):
I'm gonna clean for him? Well, what else?

Speaker 4 (24:33):
Like if this man, if he's single, and he's been
single for quite a while, he should already have that
part taken care of. So when he says what can
you do? Or what can you what do you bring
to the table? How are you gonna respond if he says, well,

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you got and you gotta say something outside of cooking
and cleaning because I already got that online. I don't
need you to cook and clean for me. What else
do you bring to the table? What else can you do?
First of all, I think that when a man asks that,
I don't think a man is genuinely asking that question.

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I don't think that that's a genuine question.

Speaker 3 (25:20):
I think that only dudes that.

Speaker 4 (25:27):
Their moral compass is a little shaky, Dudes, narcissistic dudes.
I think that's starting to be one of those questions.
I think it's starting to be the dudes that bash women,
the dudes that really don't rock with women like that
and they still haven't, you know, came out and accepted who.

Speaker 3 (25:51):
They really want to be with.

Speaker 4 (25:53):
I think that those are the questions, that's the question
that that type of dude would ask, because in my opinion,
and fellas, I gave y'all chance to tell me, what
are you all expecting?

Speaker 3 (26:06):
And do you ask this question?

Speaker 4 (26:09):
But I just don't think that a man that he
finds a woman that he's interested in, I don't think
he's asking her that question. So, ladies, if a man
is asking you what do you bring to the table,
just take a step back, because I don't really think
that he's checking for you like that.

Speaker 3 (26:31):
I really don't like if he's pressing on for that
like hmmm. Now, don't get me wrong, fellas. I'm not
saying that she should not show up with anything.

Speaker 4 (26:46):
But I'm always confused when I see these posts or
I see these videos, and I'm just like, if you
have to ask what does she bring to the table,
why did you approach her?

Speaker 3 (26:59):
If you didn't see something in her.

Speaker 4 (27:02):
That you felt like could be of some value to you,
why did you approach her? Like, keep it moving until
you find or until you see somebody that you feel
like could compliment you. That's that's what I think about it.

(27:23):
I think that when a dude asks that he's not
really feeling you, he's not I really don't think that
a man that is asking a woman, what do you
bring to the table. I don't think that he's feeling you,
because the woman that he's interested in, he sees what

(27:44):
she's bringing to the table. So my question, my my,
what do you bring to the table? I bring my
own making table. That's what I bring. I bring my table.
That's my response to what do you bring to the
my own and table?

Speaker 3 (28:02):
That's what I bring. But see, I don't want to
ever be in position to have to.

Speaker 4 (28:08):
Go go there with you, because if I gotta get
out of a character with you, then I don't even wanna.
I don't even want to be around it. Like I
don't want to be around you. If I have to
get out of character, I don't want to be around it.
I just don't like you for to have me sitting
up here talking smart for what reason? For what reason

(28:32):
am I gonna be talking smart? Because you're asking me
what I bring to the table, and ladies, a response
for what do you bring to the table? It should
not be I'm gonna cook for you, I'm gonna I'm
cleaning for you.

Speaker 3 (28:47):
That's not like it has to be.

Speaker 4 (28:50):
More so, if I wasn't gonna be in my smart
alec way and my smart, my smart alec zone. What
I would answer is is, listen, you're asking me.

Speaker 3 (29:03):
What do I bring to the table.

Speaker 4 (29:06):
Well, I'm a builder, I'm a partner, I'm a confidant,
I'm gonna have your back when we locked in, and
so much more. That's just to scratch the surface. But
if you don't see that in me, I'm never telling, no.

Speaker 3 (29:26):
Dude, Oh I bring to i'ma cook for you.

Speaker 4 (29:29):
I'm gonna I'm never telling Listen, honey, if that's all
you need is somebody to cook for you, you barking
up the wrong tree.

Speaker 3 (29:37):
You need a maid? What the heck? Oh, I'm gonna
cook for you. I'm ana clean for you. Uh what? No,
I work too hard to be sitting up here starting
with that.

Speaker 4 (29:51):
Oh I'm gonna bring, I'm gonna cook, and I'm gonna clean,
and I'm gonna prepare his meals in I'm not making
those type of promises because I'm just as busy as
you are. Not saying that I'm not going to do
those things for him and for us and for our household.
I'm not saying that I won't do it, but I'm

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not leading off with that because I offer much more,
and I bring much more than being able to cook
and clean. Like, come on, we're finna strategize, We're finna build.
We're gonna do some things and go to the next level.
So wherever you are, be prepared to have it doubled

(30:33):
or tripled. Whatever you have, be prepared. Let's let's be
prepared to grow this. That's the type of stuff. Listen
what you're doing. I may have a few stock tips
that you don't know about.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
I may have it.

Speaker 4 (30:47):
I may know this, I may know that I'm an asset.
But it's more than oh well, I'm gonna clean for them.
I'm gonna do this, and I'm gonna rub his.

Speaker 3 (30:58):
Back and.

Speaker 4 (31:00):
Listen, we gonna go to a spot and get our
backs and feet rubbed and all this other stuff.

Speaker 3 (31:05):
I'm don't ask me what am I bringing. Listen, it's too.

Speaker 4 (31:09):
Much going on, too much going on for that's all
that I can bring.

Speaker 3 (31:17):
So, ladies, if a dude, as I said, if a
dude is asking what do you bring.

Speaker 4 (31:26):
To the table, I don't think that he's feeling you
like that. That's just my opinion. I don't think that
he's feeling you. But fellas dropping in line what do
you say, JP, you're saying that's.

Speaker 3 (31:38):
A financial question.

Speaker 4 (31:41):
Being intimate, cooking and cleaning don't have nothing to do
with it. Okay, So we got one guy saying that
it's a financial question, which is a fair question if
you're asking it from that standpoint. But I feel like
if you get to know each other and get to building,
you'll you'll find out right away way what a person

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is bringing to the table. Guys, we're gonna take a
short musical break and when we return, we have more
hot topics to get into.

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Jay spieled Ja why he guys, I want to thank
you all so much for tuning in. Listen if you
just tuneing in. Before the break, we were talking about
men asking women the question what do you bring to

(34:43):
the table? Again, I said that I feel like that's
a sarcastic question. I feel like if a man is
asking a woman that question, I don't believe that he
is genuinely interested in her. If he is asking her
that question again, I believe that a man only ask
that question to a woman that he's not interested in.

(35:03):
And I was also told so a man said that,
you know what, Listen, when a man is asking that question,
he's not asking in regards to it being intimate.

Speaker 3 (35:15):
He's asking financially, what do you bring to the table?

Speaker 4 (35:20):
And if it's a financial question, you know, hmm, you know,
I'm okay with that because I believe that, like when
you are talking and you're getting to know each other. Listen,
I want to know where you are. I want to
know what's going on with you. I want to make
sure that you know your finances are up to part.

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So when I asked that on the first date, probably
you know we can.

Speaker 3 (35:49):
We can.

Speaker 4 (35:49):
We can get to talking about, you know what, the
finances and things of that nature in the first date.

Speaker 3 (35:55):
Because here's the thing.

Speaker 4 (35:57):
If we are not compatible in that area, then I
just want to go ahead and be done with it.

Speaker 3 (36:06):
I truly do.

Speaker 4 (36:07):
If we're not gonna be compatible, if your credit and
again we don't have to get into details on the
first date, but I think it's healthy. I'm okay with
if we start talking about financing. And here's a little
bit how that type of conversation can go without getting

(36:28):
into too many details. You know, what is your credit score? Like,
I mean, what do you think about saving? What do
you think about investing? What do you think about like
do you have any property, do you own any land,
do you have a business? What are your thoughts on
those type of things that can kind of give you
an ideal on what is going on with their financial situation.

(36:53):
On YouTube, it's saying it's giving arrogance. Hey, black Love,
how you doing? You should saying you ask, but not
what you bring to the table, And my mind is saying,
what can you do for me? And again I'm with you,
it's a very arrogant question, and I think that it's narcissistic.

Speaker 3 (37:11):
I mean, I think that it just comes from those some.

Speaker 4 (37:15):
Dudes with you know, like their moral compass is a little,
you know, on the shaky ground. Because again, if it's
if the question is coming from a financial point of
view and frame of mind, and if you're looking at
her and you don't think that she can compliment your lifestyle,
why are you approaching her? That's what I don't understand

(37:38):
unless you're approaching her strictly for physical you know, activities,
And okay, I can understand that. But if that's the case,
then there's no reason to even engage.

Speaker 3 (37:48):
In a well what do you bring to the table?
I agree, it's not what you say, it's how you
say it. I totally agree.

Speaker 4 (37:57):
So we can definitely sit down and have that conversation.
And to be honest, I think that that's a fair conversation. Again,
when it's not what you say, but how you say it.
I believe that that conversation can definitely be had upfront,
because again, if we are not compatible and that I'm
not feeling comfortable with your answers regarding some of the

(38:21):
financial things, then that may be a good time for
both people to pull back and go their separate ways,
because if you're sitting here, you know, you're just trying
to get your stuff together, you're trying to get some
things off the ground, or you know, whatever it is,
whatever makes you not a good match financially for.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
Somebody, then no harm, no foul. First date. It's just like, okay, well,
you know, we ask that.

Speaker 4 (38:52):
But some people say, and I've gotten a lot of
pushback from this, a lot of people say, you know,
have told me, Jay, ain't nobody gonna be sitting up
here asking fun what's your credit scoring?

Speaker 3 (39:03):
And what you think about? Why not?

Speaker 4 (39:05):
I mean, I don't want to know the number, but
can you tell me what neighborhood you're in? Are we
knocking on? Are we in the four hundreds? Are we
in the five.

Speaker 3 (39:14):
Hundreds, six hundred seven? Listen? Okay, where are we? So
I listen? I just want to know, you know, so
we can know.

Speaker 4 (39:23):
And again, Jay is bad credit a deal breaker for you. Well,
it depends on what you're determined is bad. But again,
when you ask, what can you bring to the table,
got you okay? So if you got bad credit, if

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I'm feeling you, I'm gonna show you how to fix it.
I'm gonna hook you up and then you're gonna hire
great credit. And see now you're gonna be out of
that rut. So that would be a benefit to you.
That's something. My knowledge on how to do what needs
to be done to get you right is what I
bring to the table. But again we get so this

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question has become so loaded and so superficial that we
just a lot of people were missing it.

Speaker 3 (40:16):
Now.

Speaker 4 (40:16):
Listen, it's not only for the men, because ladies we
do it too. Some of us are guilty. To Listen,
if you see a man and his car don't look
the way it should look, or he not driving the
type of car that you feel like he should be driving,
a lot of women will write that man off because

(40:39):
of his car. Listen, she won't even have to ask
him what he brings to the table because she'll look
at his car and she'll say, oh h snub him off, please,
that's what he that's what he's driving.

Speaker 3 (40:57):
Hane.

Speaker 4 (40:58):
Listen, a lot of us miss out on your blessing
because you snubing these cars. You do know that these dudes,
they do have work cards, right, You do know that
these men don't drive their real cars during the week
when they're coming to and from work, you know, especially
when they working working, and they got that they got

(41:19):
some ish going on, they not in their real car.
So I say this, stop throwing. Listen, stop throwing you. Listen,
you throwing your blessing away because at least get a
chance to know him and stop, you know, don't get
on that superficial rim so fast because you will miss
out because you saw the little hoopie. But that's just

(41:44):
his work card. He worked with all this different type
of stuff. So when he get off, he don't want
all the stuff from maybe the warehouse that he's a
manager in or.

Speaker 3 (41:54):
He's the construction manager.

Speaker 4 (41:56):
He works, whatever it is that he's doing with his hands,
and he don't want all that ish that he knows
is in his clothes.

Speaker 3 (42:03):
He don't want that to get in his good car.

Speaker 4 (42:05):
So now he in his work card and he trying
to holler at you and you looking him up, and
then you go and see him get in some look
some look contraption and now that baby, they're just gonna
tell your whole understanding up. Now you miss out on
him because he's a good, hard working dude, and you

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missed out on.

Speaker 3 (42:26):
Him because you thought that he was supposed.

Speaker 4 (42:28):
To be driving some fancy car, which he got the
fancy car parked at the house that he owned. But
now you miss out on all of that because you
was being super superficial.

Speaker 3 (42:42):
So you missed out on this. So fellas, it's not
just you all with this bringing to the table.

Speaker 4 (42:47):
I'm saying, we have to get back to just the
basics getting to know each other and just leave all
that front frout, all that superficial stuff right there, just
leaving a little you know, listen, just put that little

(43:08):
superficial issh to the side and let's come on, let's
just have a face value conversation and let's see what
we come up with after this conversation. Black Love is saying, Jay,
that is a bit much asking. It's so security number two. Listen,
I look, I just want to know listen, you know why,
black Love, Because here's the thing, this is a sorting

(43:31):
process I just want to sort. Dating is like get
it to know these people is assorting process. I like
the sort because I don't want to waste my time,
and guess what, I don't want to waste his time either.
So if we don't have like a lot of the basics,
you know, compatible, or I know that like ooh, this

(43:51):
will bother me so, and we're not gonna stop talking today,
but I know eventually I'm gonna stop talking to you
because of this reason. Now I'm starting to say, you
know what, if I know deep down that this is
bothering me so and I know from the past that
this bothers me, now I'm saying, you know what, I'm

(44:14):
not even gonna go forward with that because I already
know what's I already know it's gonna bother me. And
there's no purpose in me putting all this mental anguish
on this dude, because it's gonna be some mental anguish
because this is bothering me. And I shouldn't have went
forward with even continuing on with the relationship or continued

(44:34):
on with dating him. Now we done got serious, and
now I pull back because of this issue that I
knew was bothering me. In the beginning, or I knew
it would be an issue for me in the beginning.
I'm learning to stay away from situations like that because
my intent is not to hurt anybody.

Speaker 3 (44:52):
My intent is not to use anybody.

Speaker 4 (44:55):
So now I'm just like, you know what, going forward,
I'm just gonna, you know, I'm gonna to execute a
better version of me. Now, listen, you are speaking of
executing a better version.

Speaker 3 (45:09):
Lord, what do you listening?

Speaker 4 (45:11):
You who sometimes we can be our own worst critic.
What do you all think about this next topic? So
you all know the show that they go they're going
around and they have the large student the studio audience,
and they're they're they're they're interviewing the people. They have

(45:34):
the panel, and then they have the audience and the
audience is able to ask a question. Well, there was
a lady in the audience and she was asked to
describe what her ideal man was. And so she said
that she wanted someone that was masculine, that he was tall,

(45:57):
and he was handsome, and that he you know, he
was he was active, like he took good care of himself.
And so the man from the panel, he asked her,
what made you think that what about me? Says, what
about me is attractive to you? And she told him
because he was handsome, which I don't think he is,

(46:20):
but she said that he's handsome and that she likes
his physique. So there was a woman on the panel
and she decided to ask.

Speaker 3 (46:30):
The lady the audience lady.

Speaker 4 (46:32):
She was like, well, you know, here's the thing I
don't understand if why are you as an overweight woman?

Speaker 3 (46:40):
And I don't know what's the correct term to.

Speaker 4 (46:43):
Say, because I don't want to offend anybody, but so
I'm gonna say overweight or obese. I'm gonna go whichever word.
This is just a conversation. I'm not, you know, trying
to be insensitive, because listen, baby, by the bang and
bata bang, we ain't sure stop him.

Speaker 3 (46:58):
So nevertheless, any hue.

Speaker 4 (47:02):
Obese the woman was, she wasn't she wasn't sloppy with it,
but she was a thick sister. Listen, she was built,
like they say, a brick house, letting it all hang out.

Speaker 3 (47:15):
Baby, she was built. Okay, she was built.

Speaker 4 (47:19):
So the woman on the platform on the platform, she
on the panel, asked her, what makes you think being
obese or overweight that a man that takes care of himself,
that goes to the gym, why would he want you?
So they said that if you are overweight, then you

(47:40):
should only look to date someone that is overweight, date
your weight class. If you're a bigger person, don't look
to date somebody that is physically fit. What do you
all think about that? Is that a fair statement? Is
that a fair statement to say? Listen, if this man's
in the gym, and if he's a health freak, and

(48:03):
you know that you can't stay, baby, you cooking up
all them recipes, and baby, you ain't paid. Listen, baby,
mama gonna get it. Okay, we're gonna get it. Listen,
I'm gonna eat however I wanna eat. But I still
like me a dude that's clean cut, he looked good,

(48:24):
he smelled good, he's in shape. Or are they right
to say, you know what you should only day if
you a big girl, you got no reason. You got
no business looking for a man that's not big. You
need to go get you a big dude. And the
sister that said it to him, baby, she wasn't shortstopping,

(48:44):
she ain't here, she wasn't even hitting the gym like that.
And when I saw that, I'm just like you know that.
It embarrassed the woman that was in the audience because
then she started backtracking because she I'm sure she was
not expecting that to be the response that she got
when she asks, you know, when she was told telling

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what her.

Speaker 3 (49:07):
Ideal man was. Here's the thing.

Speaker 4 (49:12):
If you're a bigger person and you're attracted to people
that are not your same size, if you what they
check it for, why dude, why are we to say?

Speaker 3 (49:24):
Who are we to say? Oh? Where?

Speaker 4 (49:26):
If you're big, then you only need to date bigger people.

Speaker 3 (49:30):
Who are you to say that? Who? I'm not gonna
say on nobody that because.

Speaker 4 (49:38):
You see opposite attractions and opposite you know, couples.

Speaker 3 (49:44):
All the time.

Speaker 4 (49:45):
So if this man sees a BBW and that's what
he won't, what's wrong with that? What's wrong with her
being a BBW and wanting a man that is in shape?
As long as he listen, if he like it, I
love it. Listen some people listen. Some dudes, won't they

(50:07):
face to be squawzed in between? They won't you just
put they face right here? Just smother them. They want
you to smother them. That's look, okay, they want you
to lay. They want to be able to lay they
head on your pillow and smother them. That's what they
want you to do. Smother them brothers, and they love it.

(50:27):
So don't feel ashamed about it. Okay, smother you a
brother or two. You know, Here'll be all right. Trust me,
he's gonna come. They gonna come back for a little
bit more, you know. So don't be sitting up here
listening to these people with a false rhetoric. Okay, because

(50:47):
a lot of people they just say stuff. Child just
to be saying stuff. These folks, listen, be a mess, okay,
a hot mess, a hot mess. So I'm just like, look,
we have got to get it together. What's for me
is for me, what's for you is for you. You

(51:08):
are entitled to like and want what you want and
like what you like as long as it likes you back.
As long as you it likes you back, that's all
that matters. But we have to stop making people feel bad.
And I know some people say, you know what, listen, Jay, no, no, no, no,

(51:32):
See that's what the problem is. People don't want to
be held accountable. Who are you to hold somebody accountable.
Hold your own god dang on self accountable.

Speaker 3 (51:45):
That's who you all. Listen. We got a whole lot
of time to mind.

Speaker 4 (51:50):
A whole lot of other people business, but we don't
have no time to mind our own business.

Speaker 3 (51:56):
Listen, that's what we have to do. That's who we
hold accountable. Hold ourselves accountable.

Speaker 4 (52:02):
But baby girl, if you a BBW and you won't
you a slim brother, you want you an athletic brother.
If those brothers won't you back, who mad? Nobody but
the chick that couldn't get him. That's the only person
that's mad. But we have to stop making people making

(52:25):
all these crazy, blanketed statements and.

Speaker 3 (52:28):
Be so harsh and mean to each other.

Speaker 4 (52:30):
I'm just like I wanted to shrink and disappear for
the one man because she was not expecting that woman
to come out.

Speaker 3 (52:38):
With her claws. She was like, Ram, I'm just like
lim Tay.

Speaker 4 (52:45):
I'd have been calling that lady all kinds and that
I'm telling you, I would have just had to go.

Speaker 3 (52:50):
My phone would have been ringing by the.

Speaker 4 (52:52):
Time I left the studio because I'm telling the pastor
the whole Mother's board, everybody would have been calling me
since the vance, uh the past, the.

Speaker 3 (53:01):
One I'm like, I'm on my way. I'm on my
way because I let this rage have it. I ram
tall a new one.

Speaker 4 (53:10):
Verbally, I'm like, oh, you can't, you can't do people
like that. But the whole everybody would have been.

Speaker 3 (53:16):
The mother's board. As soon as we go to church
on side there, the mother's been in.

Speaker 4 (53:19):
I ain't even gonna go take no seat because I
already know they gonna be waiting for me.

Speaker 3 (53:25):
That's just how bad. I would have told that check off.

Speaker 4 (53:28):
If you sitting up there trying to embarrass me like that,
I would have oh baby, I would have gave listen,
you think you're putting on the show, I would have
put on a show for you up and there.

Speaker 3 (53:39):
Whatever they checking for.

Speaker 4 (53:41):
If a slim dude, a muscular athletic dude is checking
for a big girl, let him check for. If a
small woman is checking for a big dude, let them
check for.

Speaker 3 (53:54):
Now.

Speaker 4 (53:55):
The only thing that I would say is just listen.
And it's not even well's healthwise. Listen if you're vegan,
and listen. When you get into those type of situations, listen. Now,
those can kind of be some complex situations if you

(54:15):
all don't handle it right in the beginning, Like can
a vegan or a prescatarian, can they be with somebody
that just eats meat and all of this other stuff?
A lot of times it's not a And again it's
depending on the individuals. But a lot of times it's

(54:35):
not a good fit because you know you all are unless.

Speaker 3 (54:40):
Again it depends on the people.

Speaker 4 (54:42):
But if everything is she eats pork and she's sitting
up there, you all are trying to have a nice dinner.
Now she's fixed ure your vegan stuff, and now she's
made her own her own meal. Now say if she's
sitting up there, she' made you some mushroom, steam mushroom.

(55:02):
And you know, cause listen, you can fix these mushrooms
any type of way and they don't even taste like mushrooms.

Speaker 3 (55:07):
Baby, they got so many good vegan recipes.

Speaker 4 (55:10):
I'm like, if I knew how to cook all that
vegan dish, I'd probably be a vegan. My dog on
stuff as much stuff as you know, as good as
some of this stuff is.

Speaker 3 (55:18):
But she don't fix your dish up, and you don't
fix your dish, and.

Speaker 4 (55:21):
Now she's eating her dish Listen, she got her a
nice drippy cheese burger, and you all are having a
nice dinner and.

Speaker 3 (55:31):
You're like, do you have to eat that? Do you
have to eat that? Eat that swine?

Speaker 4 (55:37):
And you know, because listen, when you dealing with these
vegans and thesees pescatarians, listen to these people that don't
eat that. They don't eat a lot of certain things. Baby,
they would make you feel so bad. They'd be like, so,
how does that cow taste? Oh, so you gonna sit
up there so you Oh, so you're gonna eat that
bull like that? So you're gonna eat so how that pig?

Speaker 3 (55:59):
Listen?

Speaker 4 (55:59):
They could be some of the most disrespectful eaters, Like
I'm not saying nothing to you as you eat that
cardboarder cement or whatever seaweed that you over there eating.

Speaker 3 (56:11):
You eat your seaweed and shut.

Speaker 4 (56:12):
Up and let me eat this baby pig, and I'm
gonna shut up and let us just have whatever it is.

Speaker 3 (56:18):
That we want. Now.

Speaker 4 (56:19):
I've seen relationships like that, and I've often thought that
that was, you know, very interesting.

Speaker 3 (56:27):
But you know what, it makes a It makes.

Speaker 4 (56:30):
A good point because I'm like that, like, dudes, that's
smoking drink.

Speaker 3 (56:37):
It's a no.

Speaker 4 (56:38):
It's a no go for me because I'm like, if
we ever kiss, I don't want I don't want to
taste tobacco. I don't want to taste cigarette. I don't
want you smelling like cigarette. I don't want you to
smell like liquor. I'm hugging you and instead of smelling
like some savage you smelling like Hennessy or something whatever else,

(57:02):
whatever y'all be drinking All that just come through your
pores and your skin. I'm like, that is so unattractive.
So I can understand when it's see the type of
food that you eat vegan versus you know, a person
that doesn't really you know, have a strict diet or
something like that, then I can see you know.

Speaker 3 (57:22):
That can be that can be an issue.

Speaker 4 (57:25):
But and then smoking, Like I say smoking for me,
do you guys have something like can you if you
smoke or if you don't smoke and you don't drink,
can you date somebody that smokes and drinks? Because it's like, again,
when we're hugging, I'm like, you don't smell fresh. You
smell like cigarette, And it's like everything is gonna smell

(57:48):
like cigarette, the house gonna smell like cigarettes, the just everything,
you know, and and I mean some people smoke so
long that it don't the smoke don't even bother them anymore.

Speaker 3 (57:58):
But I'm like, I'd like my lungs to stay.

Speaker 4 (58:02):
You know, I'm not even gonna say fresh and clean,
because the way, the way the government killing.

Speaker 3 (58:07):
Us with this food.

Speaker 4 (58:08):
You know, I don't think none of our lungs are
fresh and clean. But that's a hold up another conversation.
But find what you like, like what you like, rock
with who you rock with. But don't let these don't
let these pea brain people dictate to you.

Speaker 3 (58:25):
Oh well, if you're big, then you shouldn't be you
shouldn't desire to do the small.

Speaker 4 (58:30):
Listen, go go listen, find your own Like I said,
find yourself, Go find yourself and stop trying to embarrass people.

Speaker 3 (58:45):
And but little people.

Speaker 4 (58:46):
Oh, she needs some accountability and she needs this and
she no.

Speaker 3 (58:51):
Let people do what they're gonna do.

Speaker 4 (58:56):
Now, speaking of let people do what they're gonna do,
our next hot topic, listen. I made this. This is
a post that I made, and I'm gonna listen. I'm
about to comph these these sweet Garrett Popcorn, Duncan Hines,

(59:16):
just Betty Sweet Betty Crocker.

Speaker 3 (59:19):
Do I'm listen, Oh, I'm ready Today. I post this post.

Speaker 4 (59:26):
And I said, I can see why women are happier single.

Speaker 3 (59:35):
Okay, the wrong man in your life will drain you emotionally, physically,
and financially.

Speaker 4 (59:50):
Please tell me what's fellas. I want y'all honest assessment.
Please tell me if that is a bitter post. I
can see why women are happy or single.

Speaker 3 (01:00:07):
The wrong.

Speaker 4 (01:00:10):
Man in your life will drain you emotionally, physically, and financially.

Speaker 3 (01:00:20):
Fellas, if you've never and you are not a woman,
if you've never had.

Speaker 4 (01:00:33):
Or been in a situation, been in a relationship. This
particular post was about a man a woman letting go
and breaking free from the wrong man. This post did
not say there are no wrong women. Nobody posted that.
So we were talking about women breaking away from the

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wrong man. And if you've never broken free from the
wrong person, then of course that post goes way over
your head because you don't know how it feels to

(01:01:17):
be free, to finally have yourself again, because you've let
go what was draining you when you get with the
wrong When a woman gets with the wrong man, it
does just that he will drain her up everything good

(01:01:41):
in her, everything everything, And the same is true with
a man getting with the wrong woman.

Speaker 3 (01:01:53):
She will drain you.

Speaker 4 (01:01:57):
Getting what the wrong person will drain the life out
of you. It will drain, it will cut years off
of your life because of the havoc that they bring.
The wrong person.

Speaker 3 (01:02:17):
Brings about stress, brings about chaos, brings about all kinds
of negativity. But baby, when I tell.

Speaker 4 (01:02:30):
You these dunkin highs dudes, oh well, if you want
to be with it, if if if you just bitter,
I'm just like, now you are no. I you know,
I try to practice, you know, not saying too much
on this, you know, I try to keep cool on here.
But I'm gonna be honest. I had the fire off

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on a few people. If you come from me personally,
I don't care about you disagreeing with the post.

Speaker 3 (01:02:57):
Disagree all you want to. I have one person, one dude.

Speaker 4 (01:03:02):
He went so far as to say, he's like, you know,
you're bitter, yeah, and you hate me and probably like
you hate your dad. And I was just like, well,
first of all, sir, my dad is deceased, So for
you to bring my deceased.

Speaker 3 (01:03:20):
Dad into this. Now, I gotta go in on your
mother and find out.

Speaker 4 (01:03:24):
Why she didn't take this her birth control pills, because
how she took up birth control pills. I wouldn't be
having this conversation with you right now because you would
not be here, and you are.

Speaker 3 (01:03:35):
I don't like to talk.

Speaker 4 (01:03:36):
Like that, but some people need to know. Listen, if
you come from me this mouth, I got it. Understand
what I'm saying. Okay, I come from the big family.
I'm about it. I'll try not to be about it
old you know on here. But some people go too far.

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And that dude went too far. Black love you said,
I asked my boyfriend. He said, no, age of maturity
is a thing, he said. It sounds like facts to him.
It does because here's the theme experiencing that Like, I'm.

Speaker 3 (01:04:16):
Like, oh my god, this is really true. The wrong man.

Speaker 4 (01:04:23):
Now here's the thing. We talk about toxic women. But
let me ask you fellas this, how many men are
willing to admit to creating toxic women? See we talk
about all the toxic women and all the ish that

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they do, but how many of you all are going
to be honest about the amount and the number of
toxic women that you create, Jay, what you mean create
all the women that you have dogged out and messed around?
What the do you think you have left behind? I

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know you don't think you left a whole, sane woman
behind you. So the women that you complain about are
the very women that you all.

Speaker 3 (01:05:16):
Are guilty of creating.

Speaker 4 (01:05:19):
So please stop hollering toxic women and stop creating them.
If you don't want to be with somebody, break up
with her like a man and stop leaving a trail
of heartbreak, bitterness and evilness. And then you got the

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nerve to get on here and say, oh, these women
are toxic.

Speaker 3 (01:05:42):
You think you think your dog are out?

Speaker 4 (01:05:48):
You play all these games with her.

Speaker 3 (01:05:51):
What you think she gonna feel, how you think she
gonna feel?

Speaker 4 (01:05:56):
You think she gonna just be Mary Poppins all over
the place. And now she gotta get her emotions back together.
She gotta pick up the rest of the pieces of
our heart because you were trifling. See y'all not gonna
say that were not ready to have that conversation.

Speaker 3 (01:06:14):
Y'all just gonna keep hollering toxic women, toxic women, toxic women.
She dog she toxic. Tell about how many women you've
made toxic? She man, she crazy? Tell how many women
you have made crazy?

Speaker 4 (01:06:30):
You all make these hicks crazy, and then guess what,
you put them back in the dating pool.

Speaker 3 (01:06:38):
So now all.

Speaker 4 (01:06:39):
These toxic people are back in the dating pool. Guess what,
And you got somebody's toxic ex. But guess what, somebody
got your toxic ex. So until you all stop creating
toxic chicks, then that's all we gonna have our toxic chicks,
because that that's what you guys are doing.

Speaker 3 (01:07:01):
She didn't just wake up and say.

Speaker 4 (01:07:04):
Hmmm, I'm gonna be mentally unstable today, I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be emotionally in balance today, I'm gonna be
I'm gonna be a mental wreck today. She didn't wake
up just feeling like that. You all did that. You
created that, You created that by your foolishness, your games

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in your lives.

Speaker 3 (01:07:31):
But then.

Speaker 4 (01:07:33):
She talksic, She wait, what, you cannot be shocked. You
can't be surprised that she's mentally in state.

Speaker 3 (01:07:46):
She's not stable. You can't be you you cannot be surprised.

Speaker 4 (01:07:54):
But y'all all talk about, oh well, she needed to
take responsibility. Take responsibility for the toxic women that you
helped to create, because she did not become toxic.

Speaker 3 (01:08:08):
On her own. A lot of you guys, I'm not
all of you.

Speaker 4 (01:08:15):
The ones that do this are the ones that's gonna
have a problem with what I'm saying. You all play
all of these games. You all do all this negative stuff.
You tear her down, you dog her out, play all

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these games. Now she's toxic. She's not the same woman
that you met. When you met her, she was together,
but then you came, you lying, and you cheating, and
now you're breaking her up out of her shell. She
could be at peace now. You gotta look it through

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your phone. She wasn't doing that at first. But now
something is off. Something in the relationship is off. But
you're not gonna and you know you out there now,
you dipping around. You gotta little some something on the side.
You got a little something.

Speaker 3 (01:09:10):
Extra going on. Now. She's feeling it because she's changed.

Speaker 4 (01:09:14):
She's seen the change in your your move She's watching
how you're moving different.

Speaker 3 (01:09:22):
You're moving different now, so she sees that.

Speaker 4 (01:09:25):
She's asking you about it instead of manning up and
saying what's going on you're gonna lie and act like
you don't know what's going on all along.

Speaker 3 (01:09:35):
Listen, she's knowing now.

Speaker 4 (01:09:38):
Listen, she's not turning now, and she turning all the
inspector gadget now the craziest being activated because you won't
be honest. So instead of lying and cheating and doing
all of this other stuff, now she popping up on you. Now,
she's making phony profiles on your Facebook and all on
social media, trying to figure out what you're doing, who

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you doing it with, because she know that you're doing something,
but you lying to her and telling her you're not
so got it. So you supposed to be able to
do all of that, and she's supposed to still remain
saying okay, she supposed to still remain sweet, and you
taking her heart and her mind and her emotions through

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the wringer, but you expect her to steal hold it
together as you put her through all of that. Ish okay, okay,
keep thinking that. So you create her. Then when you're
done with her, you're done using her and playing around
with her, then you dump her back out there. Guess what,

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You just put a toxic woman on the market. Yes,
you have, and guess what for all your friends that
go and do women like that. Listen, we running into
each other. You're running into your ex.

Speaker 3 (01:11:01):
So now she gone. Now she's toxic.

Speaker 4 (01:11:05):
She was sweet when she met you. Now she toxic
for this dude because of what you made her. So
now this dude that your toxic X is now with heat.

Speaker 3 (01:11:14):
I made a toxic chick. Now you meet her, Now
she's toxic.

Speaker 4 (01:11:19):
We ain't gonna talk about that though, right, Nope, we
not do these toxic chick We not gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:11:25):
Talk about none of that.

Speaker 4 (01:11:26):
We not gonna talk about you all are not gonna acknowledge. Listen,
I have I have. I have created a crazy chick
or two. I have created a crazy uh, a toxic
chick or two. You're not gonna do that. Some of
you are all wanna sit high and look low. Yeah,

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they need to get theyself together, that's all they do,
bring all this drama.

Speaker 3 (01:11:53):
All. Oh yes, just so you just sit.

Speaker 4 (01:11:56):
So high, so high and look low. But you are
the toxic dude that she dated.

Speaker 3 (01:12:10):
And then.

Speaker 4 (01:12:12):
I'll tie this next hot topic into it. A lot
of men like to say she she likes to, she
does this, she's dating, she dates all these toxic dudes
she dates.

Speaker 3 (01:12:30):
She wanna date all.

Speaker 4 (01:12:31):
These toxic dudes when she's younger, but when she gets older,
she want a good dude. Sir, you're the toxic dude
that she dated when she was younger. You're the toxic
dude that these chicks dated when they were younger. Now
you think that you're a good dude.

Speaker 3 (01:12:50):
No, you're the toxic You are the toxic dude.

Speaker 4 (01:12:55):
App Now that she's damaged, now she want a good dude. No, sir,
you're toxic. You're toxic. You are the toxic dude that
you are referring to. You're the toxic dude.

Speaker 3 (01:13:10):
But y'all don't want to hear that. Though you all
don't want to hear that. I'm not saying women there's
no accountability for women. I am not saying that. But
this right here, this rent right here.

Speaker 4 (01:13:24):
Is specifically for the dudes that they can't see. They
got amnesia, They have selective memory. You out here sliding around,
slithering around, sliding in the streets, jumping from chick to chick,
playing games, not being a single honest dude.

Speaker 3 (01:13:46):
Not no, no, no, no, no, You're not gonna do that.
You gonna lie.

Speaker 4 (01:13:54):
And play games, and then once she turned out crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:13:59):
Now, man, she crazy. I don't even know why she'd
be acting like that. What wait a minute, what you
mean what you talk about willis what you mean? You
don't know why she liked that. You know exactly why
she's like that. But you not gonna sit up there.

Speaker 4 (01:14:20):
And be honest and say, man, you know what, man,
I did lie to her. I was man, I'll admit
I didn't do her right. I didn't treat her right.
I didn't treat her right at all. You know, she
was a good woman, and she didn't deserve that. She
didn't fellas do you all? Have you all ever sat

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back if if you this, dude, or if you've done this,
have you ever sat back and said, you know, man,
she did not even deserve that. I didn't even have
to do her like that. I could have just left.
I could have just left her alone. I could have
just did whatever. I didn't have to put her through
the things that I put her through. I could have

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just left her alone. But instead I didn't leave her alone.
I made sure that I mentally and emotionally dismantled her.

Speaker 3 (01:15:14):
I made her toxic.

Speaker 4 (01:15:17):
And now I want to sit and I want to
beat my chest because now I'm a good dude. Now
I'm not saying people can't change, not saying it. Now
I'm a good dude. Now now I'm older, now I'm mature.
Now I can sit. But now I'm gonna sit and
look and act like I'm not getting back what I

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put out there.

Speaker 3 (01:15:40):
Huh.

Speaker 4 (01:15:42):
You can't go around breaking people's hearts, doing all this
foul stuff and then think what makes you think you
can do.

Speaker 3 (01:15:51):
All of that and then you deserve a whole same person?

Speaker 4 (01:15:57):
What makes you think that you cannot be going out
there using people and just doing all kinds of foul stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:16:07):
But then you want a good woman for what? So
you can break her too? What? No staying with Listen.

Speaker 4 (01:16:20):
Get somebody that's on your toxic level until you are healed,
until you're not contributing and creating toxic damaged women because
you are a lot of you all will damage women
and then call them toxic. But it's what you've done,

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This is what you've created. This is what you have created.
Hey Peterson, how you doing? King music is saying I
can say that in my younger years, not these times.
These women are I've dated recently are horrible. It's easy
to say you can leave when most women don't invest

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as much as a man invest in a relationship not
seeing you, but most women and I can understand that,
and I totally agree with you.

Speaker 3 (01:17:17):
I'm king music, I totally agree with you.

Speaker 4 (01:17:21):
But I'm saying, before that woman got to the toxic stage,
do you think she just woke up and said, hmm,
I'm gonna be toxic? Or did a man turn her
toxic and now put her and then put her back
out in the dating realm? Now you have to deal

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with the toxic shit. You created a slew and I'm
not saying you personally, but some men create a slew
of toxic women.

Speaker 3 (01:17:53):
And now you expect a good woman.

Speaker 4 (01:17:55):
How when you all are creating all of this toxicity Again,
some women are toxic because of.

Speaker 3 (01:18:04):
Things that have happened to them in the past.

Speaker 4 (01:18:09):
Childhood Listen, some women have been through a lot of things,
a lot of things, and before they have even healed,
they done met you and baby you done turn Listen.
She was already in bad shape when she met you,

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but oh boy, she met you, baby you took her from.

Speaker 3 (01:18:34):
Bad to explosive. Because of your antics. Fellas.

Speaker 4 (01:18:40):
I say this, If you meet a woman and you
see that she's been through some things and you not
ready to be that dude, leave her alone.

Speaker 3 (01:18:58):
Why come in damate her even further? Why come and
mess up a woman.

Speaker 4 (01:19:07):
That you know you have no intentions of even being with.

Speaker 3 (01:19:15):
Why come and make things worse for her? Why? Why
do that? Just leave her alone? Black Lover said, as
a woman.

Speaker 4 (01:19:29):
You will have to know, yes I was in a relationship,
that doesn't mean I have to be that person in
my next relationship. Sometimes the foods never learn me and
might invest financially, but I think women invest more emotionally.

Speaker 3 (01:19:43):
I totally agree with what you said.

Speaker 4 (01:19:48):
Women definitely invest more emotionally and men invest financially, and
somehow the financial investment, you know, that can always be repaid.

Speaker 5 (01:20:08):
But if she's investing emotionally and that's being taken for
granted or it's being toyed with, look at what you're
leaving behind.

Speaker 3 (01:20:25):
So you can't create a slew of toxic.

Speaker 4 (01:20:31):
Women and then you expect a whole, sane woman. Why
do you deserve a good woman when you keep destroying them.
That's what I'm saying, not everybody, not every man. But
this is for the men that sit high and look

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low on the so called toxic women.

Speaker 3 (01:20:58):
How do you expect a good Why do you deserve
a good woman when all you do is break them?

Speaker 4 (01:21:06):
You don't need a good woman. You need to go
get an exorcism. You need an exorcism to be performed
on you before you get involved with another woman, because
you have an eyebreak women's spirit. Ladies, you all have
to understand and recognize when a brother has an eyebreak

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women's spirit.

Speaker 3 (01:21:30):
Jay, what do you mean by eyebreak women?

Speaker 4 (01:21:33):
Listen to look at how he's talking, look at how
he moves. We have to be responsible for. Listen, stop
getting caught up on all the schlong dog listen see
because that listen you all fellas, I'm gonna tell y'all
some of you all know y'all knock the understanding right

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out right listen, knock the understanding right on up out
of it. And now see you don't hit the you
don't hit the jackpot. Now you you donna knocked the
understanding out of her. You donna knock the common sense
up out of her. Now she can't see straight. Now
she can't see straight. You gonna put that slong dog
on it right now. Listen, you don't we rewriot her brain.

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Now she can't focus. Now you're stuck with her. Now
you done knocked the crazy. You done knocked the crazy
right on up out of her.

Speaker 3 (01:22:24):
You turned that on.

Speaker 4 (01:22:26):
I told you I stopped trying to put on your
best Stop putting on your best moves. You know for
these people that you know you don't plan on being
there with.

Speaker 3 (01:22:35):
If you know.

Speaker 4 (01:22:38):
That you not gonna stay, stop listen, put you back
into it all it. Stop doing all that, cause y'all
turn it on the crazy cycle.

Speaker 3 (01:22:48):
That's all I'm saying is y'all turn it on the crazy.

Speaker 4 (01:22:51):
Cycle, and you turn it on so that you all
got these chicks out here saying, I don't care if
I can't have him, I just want to be his side.

Speaker 3 (01:23:01):
Chick. Wait what y'alla be putting? Some of you all
done knock the common.

Speaker 4 (01:23:08):
Sense out of some of these women that they don't
care what position they play in your life. You could
keep them a secret. You could keep them a secret
and they wouldn't care. As long as you get to
knock the common sense you keep knocking the common sense
up out of them. That's all that matters. And that's

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gonna lead us into tonight's topic, the truth about side pieces.
These side Listen, you are this girl. What is this
girl's name? She's a new chick, summer walker that's out here, baby,
No shame at all saying that she don't mind being

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this man's side chick. She don't mind. She's like, listen,
I know he may, baby, I don't care. As long
as I get my turn, that's all that matters. I
don't care about nothing else. He can be married, he
can have four five wives. As long as I get

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my turn with him, that's all that badness. I don't
care who he goes home with. I don't need him
to stay here.

Speaker 3 (01:24:23):
I just need him to come and knock my understanding out.
And I'm good. And as I saw that post and
I heard her talking, I'm just like, Wow, who raged you?

Speaker 4 (01:24:39):
First of all? And then who hurt you? We are
living in a day and age where there's no more respect.
People are not respecting people's marriages, relationships. There's no respect nowadays.

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You got people, I mean, listen, there was always cheating.
Don't get me wrong. I understand that that's always been
there's always been cheating, but.

Speaker 3 (01:25:17):
The level of pride that some.

Speaker 4 (01:25:21):
Of these chicks are taking as being side chicks and
just being used and tossed around, and I'm just like, okay,
wait a minute, it has to be something.

Speaker 3 (01:25:39):
Something is something is there, Something is going on.

Speaker 4 (01:25:44):
And I truly mean we are really living in a
day and time whether there's absolutely no respect for marriage
or relationships, there's.

Speaker 3 (01:25:54):
Always some.

Speaker 4 (01:25:57):
Thing lurking for the side from the sideline, looking for
a way to get in, looking for a listen, They
looking for a crack to slide through, waiting for the
opportunity to get a piece of your pop. But again,

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they don't see it like that. They don't see it
as lurking. They see like, hmm, I see something. I like,
I'm gonna get it. Wait, ma'am, wait, how you gonna
get somebody else's husband.

Speaker 3 (01:26:30):
I don't understand that you have these chicks. They're out there.

Speaker 4 (01:26:37):
And they would get on these dates with these men
knowing these men I'm married. We're gonna talk about them.
We're gonna talk about the married men. We're gonna talk
about the married person in a second. But you'll get
these chicks out here, because I've seen it's mainly seems
to be the chicks that can't wait to expose the

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dodd Like, why would you get in a situation you
put yourself?

Speaker 3 (01:27:04):
He told you he was married.

Speaker 4 (01:27:06):
Yes, he's going to do every nasty, filthy thing to
you that he can because he doesn't have any respect
for you. I don't care how you want to dress
it up.

Speaker 3 (01:27:19):
Oh he he putting that money down on it.

Speaker 4 (01:27:23):
Listen, of course me and don't mind paying to do
dirty things to you.

Speaker 3 (01:27:30):
They don't care you think money, money is nothing to them.

Speaker 4 (01:27:35):
If you letting them slutch you out and listen, they
doing things to you that they wouldn't even think about
doing to their wife.

Speaker 3 (01:27:44):
You know why because some of the.

Speaker 4 (01:27:47):
Things that they're doing that they desire to do to you,
they respect their wives too much to do that to them.

Speaker 3 (01:27:56):
Why to their wives?

Speaker 4 (01:27:57):
So me, But meanwhile you think, yeah, she ain't doing,
she ain't doing what she needs to do to keep
her mind.

Speaker 3 (01:28:06):
She ain't doing, she ain't doing.

Speaker 4 (01:28:09):
So you call letting him t t all in your
ear and yo, you call that doing. She's you call
her so she's supposed to be a human toilet for
this man, and you call that that's what she's supposed
to be doing. She ain't doing what she's supposed to
be doing as his wife, and you are. So you're

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allowing a man to relieve himself one and two on you,
and you proud of that. That's something that you think.
You think he want to do that to his wife. No,
he wants to do that to something that he feels
is nothing, which is you. So he'll come over there

(01:28:54):
and relieve himself, just like what they do in the bathroom.
When you're done using the bathroom, you flush the toilet
and then you get up out of there. That's what
some of these men are doing to use side chicks.
They flush the toilet and then they get out of there. Oh,
he keep coming back, Well, don't people use the bathroom
every day. People use the bathroom every dog on day.

(01:29:18):
So I don't understand.

Speaker 3 (01:29:20):
What do you mean, Well, he's he keeps coming back.

Speaker 4 (01:29:26):
Yeah, I would too if I get the If I
got to relieve myself, I'm gonna do it too.

Speaker 3 (01:29:32):
Being a side chick or a side dude.

Speaker 4 (01:29:37):
Is not a badge of honor. Now, for those that
are saying what Jay I don't understand.

Speaker 3 (01:29:48):
What do you mean?

Speaker 4 (01:29:48):
Side piece, side chick, side dude. Let me just break
down what is a side piece and a side dude.
According to an online source, a side piece is your
partner's other relationship. You have the side check, which, according
to an online source, is the other woman she's always

(01:30:09):
been there, also known as the mistress, a woman that
is neither a man's wife or girlfriend, but has relationship
with the man while he is in another relationship. Then
you have the side dude, which, according to the online
source is a woman's side person, her plan B. Now

(01:30:34):
they're saying, now listen, fellas, listen you all, what do
you all think about this? Because this online source is
saying a side dude he is never an alpha male.
An alpha male will automatically be given the place of
a boyfriend once met. What do you all think about
that this online statement is saying. This online source is

(01:30:56):
saying side dudes are never alpha dudes, they are always beta,
beta male simp dudes. That's what the online source is saying.
I don't know what do you all think about that?
Dropping the comments? Is that true?

Speaker 3 (01:31:13):
Our side dudes always beta dudes? I don't know.

Speaker 4 (01:31:20):
I don't know now, because you know, listen, I know, listen,
there's a plenty of dudes that listen. I don't I
don't know if I don't know if I had the
I don't know if I agree with that online source.
But I just have to tell you all what the
online source said. But I'm gonna disagree with my own
online source because, yeah, listen, I think I think it's

(01:31:43):
actually the opposite in today's society, the.

Speaker 3 (01:31:49):
Alpha dudes, because it's the arrogance.

Speaker 4 (01:31:52):
It's that that that conceit that. So mm yeah, no,
I don't know, because he's like, he know, he can
see there, hit your woman, listen, knock her understanding out,
and then send it back on over there to you,
send it back over that to you, rearrange cervix and all,

(01:32:13):
you know, because y'all listen, y'all know that that's some
of these dudes had. Baby, they'll rearrange your cervix real quick.
How you up in the er, you'd be like, what
in the That's what I'm saying. You all do not
be falling for this foolishness out here, because if we
just living in a different day in time. But I
want to know if anybody is willing to be honest.

(01:32:36):
Have you ever been a side chick or a side dude?

Speaker 3 (01:32:41):
Have you?

Speaker 4 (01:32:43):
If so, how was it? And if so, did you
Were you a side chick or a side dude knowingly
or unknowingly. Now listen, I've been a side chicken. I
didn't even know. I'm just like this dude living up.
I'm telling you. That's why I tell you. Some of
these guys are so flipping good. You're like, you see

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them all the time talking to it, like when I listen,
it's I'm gonna just sell you like that. Some of
these dudes got some good game out here. They got
some good flipping game out here, and it's easy to
be a you know, unknowingly.

Speaker 3 (01:33:29):
So it's like when you start.

Speaker 4 (01:33:33):
Catching on like wait a minute, okay, wait, wait wait
wait wait, some ish ain't right. And then you put
your inspector gadget hat on and you find out you, like, yo, man,
you and a whole flipping relationship or you whole flipping cow.

Speaker 3 (01:33:51):
First of all, I'm like, how were you.

Speaker 4 (01:33:54):
In a relationship like this? And all the times we've
spent together, all the like.

Speaker 3 (01:34:02):
That's a lot.

Speaker 4 (01:34:03):
How are you explaining that on the other side. So
it's possible.

Speaker 3 (01:34:13):
To be a side piece and not even know it.

Speaker 4 (01:34:18):
Okay, Now once you find out, now that's what, that's what.
That's where the problem comes. What are you gonna do
once you find out? Because some people be like, well,
I'm too I'm too a lot, I'm too involved in it.
To let him go.

Speaker 3 (01:34:37):
Girl, Let that man's let that woman's husband go. He
don't belonged to you. And now I'm turned off.

Speaker 4 (01:34:46):
I'm like, I don't even wanna deal with you because
you discussed it. So it's like, unfortunately, if you got
any couth, in any respect for yourself, you let the
basket go, or you let the chick go. But some
of them, like I said, you have some of them
and say, you know what, I'm too invested in this

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to let him go. If he really cared about his
wife like that, he wouldn't be over here with me. Oh,
you you trifling chicks. Make me so sick with that
dog on attitude. If he really loves her, he wouldn't
be over here with me.

Speaker 3 (01:35:25):
Wage let that. Let that Let that man go.

Speaker 4 (01:35:28):
You know he married, Let him go, whatever issues he
got with his wife.

Speaker 3 (01:35:33):
Send him back over there to work.

Speaker 4 (01:35:36):
Out whatever issues he got with his wife, because he
can't fix nothing over there with you.

Speaker 3 (01:35:41):
Now he know and you know that you decide.

Speaker 4 (01:35:46):
Oh oh, all all levels of disrespect is for the
open up. Now see now he don't have to pretend
anymore because now you know that you ain't the only one,
and you ain't his you ain't even his main. Oh,
that's when the disrespect will start if you stick around.

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It's crazy, it's crazy. But if you want to listen,
I want to hear some stories. I want to read
a few of y'all stories. If you've ever been a
side check or a side dude and you didn't know drop,
how you found out that you was a side check
on side dude? And did you be honest, because I
know some of y'all ain't gonna tell the truth. Did

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you stick around once you found out she was a
side check or side dude?

Speaker 3 (01:36:34):
Did you stick around? Cedric?

Speaker 4 (01:36:36):
You said, yes, I have, both knowingly and not knowingly.
Once I found out, I went my own direction. Tell
me about the time that you knew that you was
a side dude. That's the one I want to hear about, Cedric,
you knew, That's the one I wanted to hear about.

Speaker 3 (01:36:49):
Don't give me the good guy version.

Speaker 4 (01:36:51):
Give me the one that you knew about. That's the
one I want to hear about. Give me that one,
Pretty Tasha. You're saying, I'm not finn be no man
ding go side piece. He can get the own I listen.
Tell them I'm pretty Tasha. Tell them, tell them now
we got over here. On YouTube, black Love is saying

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I was. I didn't last long, maybe two or three
months until she called me at one in the morning.
Wool Child, listen, Black Love, listen. Let me tell you
I found out one was married. Okay, I'm just like, oh, father,
what kind of foolishness.

Speaker 3 (01:37:31):
Has the enemy got me over here involved with?

Speaker 4 (01:37:35):
But in today's society, you guys, why do you think
like it's like I said, it's always been cheating, but
today society glamorizes infidelity and cheating. But back in the
back in the day, you used to have basement Bargain

(01:37:58):
Basement Betty and Missus Jones, They've always been there. But
today you got Summer Walker, and you got all of
these people that like they're up close and personal and
they're not in the background anymore. So it leads me

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to believe like when they come out and they have
all of these different outbursts and they have all this
just all this smoke for the wife. Do you all
think that side pieces do they intend on staying the

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side or do you all think that they eventually want
that main spot?

Speaker 3 (01:38:48):
Do you all think that they want that number one spot?

Speaker 4 (01:38:52):
Or do you all think that they're okay side pieces
are okay with being the side Because again, for women
a lot and some of them, listen, there are some
I'm gonna say this, there are some special women out
there that can totally detach emotionally from a man when

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they are intimate.

Speaker 3 (01:39:25):
There are some, I.

Speaker 4 (01:39:26):
Mean they usually they they usually they used to call
them the ladies of the night. But there are some
women out there that can totally detach from these men.
There are when men cheat. Men often cheat for the physical,

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but women.

Speaker 3 (01:39:50):
Often cheat because of the emotional.

Speaker 4 (01:39:53):
So I find it hard to believe, like, you start
off as a side chick, and that's true. However, I
don't believe that side chicks that they desire to remain
side chicks when they come out and expose the relationship.

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Because here's the thing. If you were happy with being
a side chick, then you would play your role. Your
role is to be a secret. Nobody needs to know
about you. S'ma walker.

Speaker 3 (01:40:29):
But when you come out and you put.

Speaker 4 (01:40:32):
Your business out like that, and you put the relationship
out like that, you step into a new territory. You
stepped in to trying to take the main spot. That's
why you say something. So I totally believe that if
a woman is coming out about her side relationship, she's

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coming out because she wants the number one spot. Men typically,
men typically stay the course and they play the role.

Speaker 3 (01:41:07):
Men are typically good, unless again.

Speaker 4 (01:41:11):
If you suck his soul and you take his soul
from him and you have him seeing Casper, this friendly ghost,
and you have him sounding like Michael Jackson, I'm gonna
samms Simon, I'm gonna sam Simon.

Speaker 3 (01:41:26):
If you have him sounding like that, he's gonna come out.

Speaker 4 (01:41:31):
But typically men keep the side ish under raps. They
keep it under wraps because they're not trying to get
exposed and they're not trying a gun.

Speaker 3 (01:41:46):
For the position. Because here's the thing.

Speaker 4 (01:41:49):
Men will cheat with you, but they're not gonna be
too quick to put you in that spot, put you
in the number one spot because they already knew and
they know what you're capable of doing. When you are
in the number one spot, they know what you'll do
because they see what you're doing with them. So me

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and again, they'll cheat with you and they want to
do all that discuss the stuff with you. But a
lot of times, now there are some exceptions to this,
but for the most part, these men are not gonna
scoop you up if you the side person and you
done did all this discuss the stuff with them, because

(01:42:33):
guess what, he don't trust you, Jay, what you mean,
he don't trust you because he's know that he knows
that you're willing to lie, sneak and slither around because
you liing sneaking and sliding around with him, So he

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knows that if you're doing that with him, that you
will do that to him. And so they're not too
quick to give you a promotion to the main spot.
They'll keep you at the side chick level. But as

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far as them trusting you to make you number one,
they'll go and get a whole new relationship that will
have nothing to do with you. And that's how a
lot of times these dudes do, they'll have a side chick.

Speaker 3 (01:43:32):
They'll hire a wife.

Speaker 4 (01:43:33):
He'll leave both of you all and go get him
a whole new chick.

Speaker 3 (01:43:37):
The wife because he was already out of that.

Speaker 4 (01:43:40):
The side chick you was just something for him to do,
and you made it easy for him to do it,
so he was able to do it. But now he'll
go get a whole new chick and he'll drop both
of you all. Don't think that being a side chick
or because you glorify it. I love being a side chick.
Baby girl, Please go get you some self respect. Someone Walker, Auntie,

(01:44:03):
Mamas and Grandma's them. Please pull that girl to the
side and talk to her and tell you are putting
our family to a open shame if you don't cut
this huzzy type.

Speaker 3 (01:44:13):
Behavior'all, because I'd be telling I don't care how you are.
I'm not Auntie, I'm not Look.

Speaker 4 (01:44:18):
If you don't quit with this trickish type behavior out here,
you making us look bad. We not all Like that
make them think the whole family like that, make them
think the whole family ain't much.

Speaker 3 (01:44:32):
The truth about being a side piece.

Speaker 4 (01:44:38):
Is that they're unfulfilled. They look on the outside and
they often want what you have, but when you're coveting
what somebody else has, you have to always remember this.
Just because the relationship between two people are sweet, that's

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because that's their mix up. But when you add a
different ingredient to it, you may not get the same
man or the same woman that you're desiring when you
see a good relationship. So be mindful before you go
jeopardizing people's relationships and just jumping in to some craziness

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and destroying somebody's home.

Speaker 3 (01:45:25):
You reap what you saw.

Speaker 4 (01:45:27):
What goes around comes around, and there is no there's
no benefit, and there is no there's no plus, and
there's no award or no good deed. There's no good
recognition for being a side piece. You just an easy
receptacle for somebody to use. Stop letting people use you

(01:45:50):
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Speaker 3 (01:46:18):
Good night you guys, Thank you so much