The Jaye Spot Podcast

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Thank you all, so so so much for tuning in.
We have a great show lined up. Listen our first
hot topic. Now, let me know what you all think
about this and what would you do in a situation
like this. You're getting married, okay, and you're to be.

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You're at the wedding, getting ready to say your vows.
You have not even listened. The pastor has not pronounced
you all, man and wife and your husband to be
looks up and notices your ex. That's right, your ex

(02:38):
in the audience witnessing you get married. He finds out
why you all are there in the process of going
through your nuptials, that you invited him, your ex, to
your wedding. So he calls the wedding off. He's like, listen,
uh uh uh uh no, we're not going through with this.

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What do you all think about that? Is he wrong
for calling the wedding off? Is he wrong for saying?
You know what? This no, no, no, no. If it
was that important for you to have dude here, listen,
you can miss me with that. Because once he looked
up and he saw oh boy there, he was like,
uh uh nah na, no, no, no, no, big dog,

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nah to the knall, to the knall, to the knall.
We ain't doing that. What do you all think about?

Speaker 1 (03:31):
That?

Speaker 2 (03:31):
Was the husband? Was this guy? Was he wrong for
calling his wedding off right there in front of the preacher,
the passing everybody. He said, not so not today, won't
be me. Do you all think that he overreacted with that?
Or do you all think that you know what? Listen,

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he did right, He did what he should be doing.
He called the wedding off. How dare you have enough
your ex? Your ex up in here is a side button?
How dare you have your ex up in here at
our wedding? And did not tell me anything? Thank you?

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It didn't tell me anything? You have? He looks up
and he sees her ex sitting out in the audience
as they about to get married, and he says, you
know what, listen, no I'm not nope, nope, nope, I'm not.
I'm not going. You can miss me with that, and
he called the wedding gow. What's he wrong for that?

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So it's a few ways to look at it. First
of all, he's he's not wrong. Okay, here's why, Because
if the wife, if she would have had a conversation
with this man beforehand to let him know that she
intended on inviting her ex, then she would be she
would be married because he would have told you flat,

(04:58):
He would have told her flat in her face. No,
you cannot invite this dude over here. We will not
be playing those type of games. No, you cannot invite
your ex to the wedding. Furthermore, what person in their
right mind would want to invite their ex to their

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wedding unless they have become like really good friends. And
still even that, I don't see how people would be
comfortable with that, Like an ex is an ex is
an ex and I don't think that in good taste,
in good you know, in good conscience, that should even

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be taking place. Like No, so what's he wrong for
calling it off? I don't believe he was wrong. I
would have acted the same way. And he's Listen, to
be honest, I think he's a little better than me,
because baby, I would have told that whole reception. I
would have been throwing cake and flowers and garden belts

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and all this other stuff. I would have been throwing
everything up in there. Let me look up and find
out he has his ex out there, because it's just
like we wanna We would like to say, oh, well, no,
he did too much. He could at least talk to her.
But think about it. If the roll, if the shoe
was on the other foot, and if he invited his ex,

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If he invited Big Booty Judy to the wedding, you
know your mama and the whole bridesmaid's party would have
been jumped. Big Booty Judy, listen, you wouldn't have had
to call it off because it'd been so much commotion
from you jumping over. You'd have jumped over the broom,
over the pasta, over the ring girl, over the flower girl,

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just to get over that to Big Booty Judy. So
was he wrong for calling the wedding off? No, we
just have to move better. Now. Listen, you are't speaking
of moving better. And wives and husbands listen every now
and then you all know that I have to teetery
in a little celebrity celebrity news, a little celebrity gossip.

(07:10):
Now you are, let me say this. I love me
some Tyrese. Okay, I'm I'm gonna start off by saying
I'm gonna start off by saying that I love me
some Tyrese. God dog go on it, God darn it.
I love me some Tyrese. But you know what, Tyrese.
You know, Tyree stresses me out. You all every time

(07:32):
Tyrese is in the news, and every time Tyrese just
makes my blood pressure rise. And here's the latest of
Tyree's making my blood pressure rise. Now, what do you
all think about this? Tyrese is saying. He says I need,
and his words I need. He says he needs a wife.

(07:54):
He needs a wife, He needs a woman that is
going to him when he's broken. He said, I don't
just need a wife, I need a woman who can
cover me when I'm broken. Tyrese. You know, Tyrese doesn't listen.

(08:15):
You know, if I could, Tyre's, let me just talk
to you, heart to heart. If I could, just if
I could get Tyrese to listen to anything that I say. Tyree's,
with all due love and respect, I just from what
you show us. Because I don't know him personally, but
just from what you display, I don't know if you

(08:39):
need a wife, you need, you know, a little bit
more therapy and a little bit more counseling, with all
due respect, because you are Tyree's is a character like
I never know when he is serious and when he
is just putting on the show. But I would tell
you onet Tyrese cannot cry. I need Tyrese to stop crying.

(09:05):
Tyree'se cannot cry at all anymore. Now let me make
this disclaimer. I'm not saying that men cannot cry. I'm
saying tyree'se cannot cry. I am sick of Tyree's crying
because Tyree's for me, to me, it seems as though,
and this is just me just looking at you know,

(09:26):
some of the stuff that you know Tyrese is involved with.
You know, Tyrese creates, you know, these situations and he
puts himself in these you know, these delicate situations, and
then he want to cry there you want to get
a live and cry and then I think we're supposed

(09:47):
to have. Look, I don't have any sympathy for that.
I'm tired, like Tyrese stop crying. Any other man, you
can cry. Feel free to cry any other man besides Tyre's. Tyree's,
his crying privileges have been revoked, okay, because he's like
the dude that cries wolf every time you turn around,

(10:09):
Tyree's crying, but then he cutting up talking crazy somewhere
out the side of he's talking crazy. Tyree's. With all
due respect, you don't need a wife, you he needs
a really good therapist, and he needs some good friends.
That's gonna pull him to the side and be like, yo, dog,
look look you tripping it like you tripping again? Like seriously, dog,

(10:33):
like you need to chill out. He needs some friends.
That's gonna tell him that because sometimes listen, people get
all this money and then you can't You can't tell
them nothing. Can't nobody tell them nothing because because they
Tyree's and you got all this money, and please I
can replace him, I can buy you, I can do this,
I can do That's why you're crazy, see that that

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right there, Because people are scared to tell you something
because don't nobody want to rough for your feathers? You
know why don't nobody want to roof for your feathers?
And they walking on eggs shells because you're crazy. See
when people walk around on egg shells and they scared
to say something that it's you, they're scared because they
know you are a loose cannon. So right now I'm

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gonna say this, probably a good year or two he
listened first. He needs to start off. This is what
I would say. He should start off with probably a
sixty to ninety day in patience. Stay somewhere where they
could just take real good care of them, you know,
maybe give them a listen, twenty four hour care. Talk

(11:39):
to him, you know, help him sort out what his
problem is because it's it's evidence and its apparent that
it's some stuff going on. Like it all don't just
you know, it don't really connect everything. You don't really
connect as it should. When we're talking about Tyrese so honestly, insincerely,

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you know, I think that he needs to talk to,
you know, somebody that's professional, somebody that you're not gonna
threaten they you know, threaten their credentials. And you know
he should talk to doctor Umar Johnson. That's who he
should talk to. Please, Tyree's let doctor Umar Johnson be
your life coach. Can't nobody say nothing bad about doctor

(12:22):
Umar Johnson. Can't nobody say nothing bad to me about
doctor Umar Johnson. You better say something bad about your
grandmama Wig or somebody else, but you can't say nothing
bad about doctor Umar Johnson. Tyrese get with doctor Umar Johnson.
He will help you get yourself together. He gonna tell
you like it is because you need to talk to
a strong black man that's gonna help you to unravel

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all of this stuff that's going on here and all
of this stuff that's going on here because he's dealing
with a lot. And I don't take it lightly, and
I'm not making fun of what he's going through emotionally,
but I laughed when I saw he said that he
need a wife. Brother, No you don't, No, you don't.
You don't need to damage not another woman. No you

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do not, honey, You do not need a wife. You
need the Lord, therapy and a prescription. You do not
need a wife right now. You do not need a
woman right now. You need to just chill and just
work on this and work on this, and then once
all of that starts to come together, then what's your

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hole and healed? Then you know, start looking for a partner.
But just again, this is just from the stuff that
is being displayed on social media, because again I don't
know tyree'se personally. I just know what he's showing us,
just like you don't know me personally. You may say, oh,
she talked too much or she may have been well,

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you know, I do talk too much. I have a
tendency to talk too much. But that's what I'm displaying
on these here tubes. So that's all you have to
go on. So all we have to go on is
a trail of damaged women that he's left behind, and
you know, a whole bunch of tears. So Tyres with

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all due respect, and I love him as an artist.
I love him as an actor. He's very talented. But
do I think that he needs to be looking for
a wife all right now? You better find you some
impatient facility, some dog on web, but a wife is
not where you need to be looking right now. So
that's just my non professional, unwarranted, unsolicited opinion. That's just

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what I feel about the situation. But you know what,
I'm saying it to you in love though for real,
Tyree's I'm standing it in love like I think that
you need to you know, somebody need to help you.
You need to talk to somebody. And it ain't about
getting no wife. Don't go over there going to now
one of these yanky bootleg past us, which would bring
us to our next hot topic. Keep bootlegged pastors. Now, listen,

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you are I'm gonna say it because it needs to
be said, and I'm gonna say it because I'm from
the church, and I'm gonna say it because people are
afraid to say what I'm gonna say because they think
that they're offending the Lord. But I'm so sick of
these boot legged pastors. I am sick of these boot

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leg pastors. And the next listen the latest bootleg pastor
that goes under the title pastor Marvin Winings. Listen with this. Lord.
If you don't help, Lord, help your people, because this
I'm gonna tell you. If you've been brought up in church,

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and you've been brought up in real church, you'll know
that this foolishness that they're doing, this is not church.
That is not God. That's these people out here playing
with God and playing and acting they have God like complexes.
This is not God. Jay, How you gonna say that?
What are you talking about, Pastor Marvin Wining? And I'm

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gonna use that title lightly, very lightly, because I respect
the title, I respect the position, and I respect you know,
I respect pastors, I respect the cloth, I respect the faith.
But you have to be able to call out a sheep,
and you have to be able to call out a

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fraud and a phony when you see one, so that
people don't get discouraged. Because when people see stuff like this,
the first thing they'll say is, see, that's why I
don't go to church. We just had some foolish nights,
some foolishness like this at the beginning of the year
with who is it? Marvin Sapp the same foolishness with

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this money? What is this? What is it with these
people that's asking for these ridiculous amounts of money from
people in the church. You're asking two thousand God told
me to get your two thousand dollars, us, sir, go
in your bank and you listen, give every member two

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thousand dollars. Why y'all got your hands out for these people?
They ask for the most ridiculous, absurd amount of money
from these people, and you know they don't have it.
And then you lie to them and get their hopes
up high, making them think that the Lord is gonna

(17:34):
bless them if they give you their last that's not
the Lord. You not doing the Lord's work, That is
not the Lord. The Lord know what you can do.
You're supposed to pay your ten percent tithes and offering.
You're supposed to do that the Lord. Why do the
Lord only tell the so called the so called pastors.

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Why is the Lord only telling you that you're supposed
to give two thousand dollars or whatever absurd amount that
they're asking for. Why if listen, the Lord work like this,
if you got it, your thousand dollars could be only
ten dollars, because that's all you can do, and you

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sacrifice to give that. It's not how much you give,
it's the sacrifice that counts. So please, you all stop
falling for this stuff. And it was just so sad
because they brought the lady up that Marvin sap He
I'm sorry not mar Marvis Sapp was a few months ago,

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Pastor Marvin Winings. He listens to these Marvins. Pastor Marvin Winings.
He checked because she said he didn't. They said's go,
I'm gonna say, check, because that's exactly what it looked
like to me. So I'm gonna say, according to my
perceptive perception, and where I proceed it. He checked this
woman in the church. She brought a twelve hundred dollar check,

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and he told her, He's like, this ain't what I
asked for. And she was like, past, I know that passage,
just as humble as she wanna be. He was like,
you didn't follow what I told you to do. I
said two thousand. She was like, well, you know, trying
to say it, you know, humbly. You know, I'm a
little you know, I'm a little light. I'm gonna work

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on the other eight hundred. So he goes into this
tangent about see y'all not listening, y'all not listening to
what I said, and going into all of this. I
would have said, you know what, well, all due respect, passing,
you know what, You're right, you didn't ask for twelve hundred.
I would took my twelve hundred dollar check, took my
grand baby, and we would have rolled right on up

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out of there. But she did it. She walked away humbly,
and that's why she gonna be blessed but ma'am, miss
Roberto or whatever your name is, please get from up
under that type of teaching, because that's not God. I mean,
these people, they have people so captivated because they got
all these riches and all of this other stuff. But

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you're not even helping the people of God. They're using
you all. They're using you, they're lying to you, they're
taking the money. I'm looking at Listen, all these building funds,
all of this. If I see another building fund, listen,
I know passes they paid off, churches on the on

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the back of the old the mother's boards, and this
and that. And I always thought like this, I said, Okay,
if you can get these people to raise all of
these tens of thousands of dollars every Sunday, every every
every Sunday, thousands and thousands of dollars are coming through

(20:53):
the church doors. Why is your congregation still pop broken, starving?
Why do you have to give out Easter baskets and
Thanksgiving baskets? If your house is blessed, then why are
your people not blessed? Why are you not sewing that

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money back into the church like people like Listen, I've
seen with my own eyes mothers give their last money
for things, but then be so sad because they couldn't
buy afore their medication because it was the mother's Sunday

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and they had to give one hundred dollars and they
didn't want to They didn't want to look bad, you know,
so they gave their last hundred dollars and they can't
go and buy the medicine. And I'm just like, ma'am,
you do know that that's not the Lord. You do
know that the Lord know that you ain't got it.

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You know that's the thing that people gotta understand. God
knows exactly where you are. It's the man that is
putting that pressure on you. You're supposed to do your
ten percent. And guess what if you don't have it
this week, God will forgive you. And guess what, you
can make it up when you get it the next time,

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because God knows your heart. Whereas these false shepherds and
these wolves and sheep clothing, how they're leading people on.
I just think that it's unfair. But what I will
say is do not let that keep you from going

(22:38):
to church. A hay sparkle, you're saying, remember kreflow, these
crooked Yes, I remember leftlow kreflow. Yeah, leftlow kreftflow. All
of these people, these big churches like that, it's just
like I don't even know, Like I don't really feel
comfortable even calling them churches because then it's like I

(22:59):
feel like I'm doing a disservice to real churches, to
real pastors. So what I'm saying is not in an
attack on real pastors and real churches. This is an
attack and a call and a call out to these
businessmen that are pimping from the pool pit. This is

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what this is about. This is the businessmen and the
business women that are pimping from the pool pit. You
pimping these poor people out their money. And you know, listen,
I'm gonna tell y'all, these services, a lot of these
services in these big churches are orchestra or are orchestrated.
This stuff is orchestrated so dog one bead that it

(23:47):
just makes me so sick when I see it, because
it's just like when you attend or when you come
from a real church. You know the difference between the
real service versus an orchestrated service. An orchestrated service is
everything that's done for show. An orchestrated service. Listen, God,

(24:08):
and God and God and the Lord told me listen, look, look, look, look, okay,
look now, unless the spirit of God is in there, listen, God,
ain't stop trying to do that. Though lean on people emotions,
it be so much. Choose wisely who you follow. It's

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your responsibility. You have to pray that the Lord reveals
the spirit of discerning to you on who you should
be sitting up under. And that's how I'm gonna say
about this. I'm gonna get up out of it because
I don't want people to be getting offended to think
at no shape, form or fashion, am I bashing a
real church. I listen, I'm gonna take it back to

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bonthus in harmony. We not against rap. I'm not against pastors,
but I am against some thugs, thugs, thugs them thugs
in a pool pit, pippines people. I'm definitely against them
because they are giving real churches and real pastors a
bad name. Now, with that being said, do not let

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the foolishness that Pastor Marvin Winings was doing. Don't let
that be the reason where you be one of those.
See that's why I don't see, that's why I don't
go to church. That's why I don't go to church. Listen,
we're gonna stop. I'm gonna stop you right there. Okay,
I'm gonna stop you right there. Now, here's why I'm
gonna stop you. That man you went done cheated on

(25:38):
you five times and you done forgave him. Okay, the
man before that cheated on you, but you didn't give
up on men. You win and you found you another one. Okay,
hopefully this man do right by you. Okay. So if
you didn't give up on men, don't give up on God.
This chick she done creaked off with your best friend,

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your dumb tie, and you got you another one. If
you didn't give up on these chicks, do not give
up on God. Just because you don'e came across a
bad one or too, it does not justify you saying
oh well see see see now now I'm justified and
not going to church. No you're not. No, you're not.

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You just justified and not going back to that church
where you found out there with some foolery going on.
You justified for not going back there. Let you not
justified for not going back to church. So get yourself
together and let these people listen. If you see this
type of foolishness and you know, you know, you know

(26:44):
they not right, let it go and find somewhere else.
Find somewhere else. A lot of these churches that these
good time churches see when you know, I'm gonna tell
you how you know you're on the right church because
you're gonna actually learn something. You gonna learn how to
live right. You're gonna learn how to do things the

(27:05):
right way. Now I'm gonna say this, you may listen
coming from me. When you in a real church, you
I'm gonna tell you, nine times out of ten, if
you in a church that teaches you, not gonna always
walk out the church feeling happy. You know why because
nine times out of ten, the pastor gonna say something

(27:26):
that is gonna the shoe is gonna fit you. It's
gonna fit you. The pastor will be saying something like,
you know, the Lord is calling you out of hort
them and you up and there with the same clothes
on that you done had on last night at the club.
They specifically said your name, but they gonna have They

(27:47):
gonna be preaching a sermon that's going to make you
get a little uncomfortable in your chair. You gonna you know,
you're gonna be antsy, and you know the Lord told listen,
the Lord has called you out of wearing them hooker clothes.
The Lord has called you. See, they'll be saying something
a little bit like that. They not gonna point to

(28:09):
you directly, They're not gonna say, but the word is
gonna start. It's gonna start messing with you because you're
guilty of what they're saying. That's called teaching you all. Listen,
how do you Jay, how do you know? Listen? I
can tell you I've been in the pastor's office a

(28:29):
time of two for hot Listen. Now, I've been listen,
I and I never got mad, and I always because
I know, Listen, I know when I'm wrong. I've been
called to the pastor's office too many times, too many times? Why, Jay,
tell us a few reasons why. And I've been called
to the pastor's office. Well, okay, so one time I

(28:50):
had got called to the pastor's office because I had
on a hooker reer a hook a reer wig. Yeah, baby,
I wore that whole wig up to church, Baby, And yes,
I was called since the vance I'm like, and all
I could do was sit up there and think, what
I'm trying to figure out? What the heck am I

(29:10):
getting called to the office foss. I had to go.
I had to go back down. I had to go
to the thinking thinking, I have to say, Okay, I
ain't said nothing to I ain't said nothing because okay,
because I'm tell y'all, listen. I was known for saying
the I'm just gonna I don't feel like it was
the wrong thing, but the pastor and I told me that,
you know, I probably shouldn't be talking to the brothers
like that, but it was somebody else's husband. So I

(29:32):
was just kindly sending the deacon back over there to
his wife. Okay, but I didn't say it nicely, you know,
but I I redirected the deacons traffic a time or two,
and you know, they you know the word. I didn't cuss,
didn't cuss, but you know, I could have probably said
it in another way. But I felt like I was

(29:53):
keeping a home together, because you know, what, are you
over here sniffing around somebody that's not your wife? So
that's all I was saying, is listen, it's look, you
can you sniffing in the wrong area. I don't play that, sir, Okay,
I don't play all of that. So take that over
there to where they need your little fact, take that

(30:14):
over there to them. I'm not hurt. So you know,
I've said at a time or two, and you know
they they people get caught up in these titles. So
you know, sister, can you come come to the office, pastor,
the office deacon such and such, an elder such and such.
I said, oh, pastor, yes, I did it. Whatever they said, yes,

(30:38):
I said, yes, I said it. Can you can you
tell them to stay over there where they supposed to see?
You should have them in here, not me. I'm the
wrong person. I'm the victim in this. When you have
a these married men, you know, trying to slither behind
you know me, you look one guy. I have to

(31:02):
tell them, I said, sir, with all due respect, you
don't make enough money. You don't make enough money to
take care of your wife, your kids, and then give
me money. You don't make enough. You don't make enough
money to be over here trying to do all of this.
You don't make enough money. I'm sorry, So stay over

(31:23):
there with your mediocre wife. And your mediocre kids stay
over there where. That's where you say that, that's where
you should be. Now, should I have said it like that,
Probably not. Would I say it again, absolutely absolutely so.
I have no problem with that. But yet then I
got called, like I say, for when this red wig

(31:43):
the church. Oh it was so cute too. I thought
it was the cutest thing. And the pastor come, you know,
talking to me, you know, sister Joe, I said. Every time,
I'm like, every time they start off with my name
like that, I'm just like, oh God, this is gonna
be and I just sit back and I just listen.
I just be like, you know, Pastor, you right, you

(32:05):
are absolutely right. I definitely apologize for wearing this wig
up in here. You know what, now that you brought
that to my attention, you know what, you are absolutely right.
I apologize for that. You won't see this wig again.
And guess what. I didn't wear the wig to church again,
but baby, listen, I was hot to try it outside. Listen,

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Gen said, listen, you look Monday through Saturday. Listen me
and that hooking red wig. Baby whoo. We had some
times up and there, but come time to go to chat.
Then't go back up in that with that wig gone.
You know why because the pastor asks me not to.

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And again, I respect pastors, I respect the position, I
respect the church. Like I said, I try to respect
these some of these other people, but don't. If you
come across cross aided, then I'm gonna get cross sided
with it too. But as long as you stay on
a straight and narrow then I'm on a straight and
narrow too. But please do not let this marvel wining

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situation stop you from go into church and stop you
from supporting a real church, because again, all churches are
not like that. And how you know you're in a
good church and you're in a real church is because
you're gonna learn something. You're going to learn something that

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you will be able to apply to your life so
that you can grow each time. If you going to
church every Sunday and you ain't made no changes in
your life, are you really going to the right church? Like,
are you really going to church? Or are you just
go into just you know, show off your Sunday's best.

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Because again, if you are in a real church, a
real church, say what you mean a real church? Which
me all churches know. If you are in a real church,
a church that teaches, a church that don't care about
the word hurting your feelings because guess what, that's what
it's there to do, is there to correct. And again,

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most of these churches, especially a lot of these big churches,
they don't teach. They just tell you about prosperity. You
know why. They want to make you happy, keep you happy,
so you could just be giving all your money, cash shopping,
all of this. Yeah, the Lord gonna bless you. And
you know they got you all excited. Baby, you don't transfer,
You're gonna zeld your mortgage over them. You're gonna cashed

(34:38):
up your car. No, all of that because they teaching
you all of this prosperity stuff every Sunday, Every Sunday.
It's about prosperity, prosperity, prosperity, and I get it, God
will prosper you. But it's also some things that you
you need to tell me, teach me how to live
in this corrupt world, and not teach me. But I

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need to see you doing it, because you can't be
sitting up here telling us not the fornicate and you fornificating, fornicating,
kate feigning and all Kansas. Listen, you got all kas
of loose women. That's what these called him in the
back in the day. Got all these loose women running

(35:24):
up and through, sniffing all up behind you, got all
these loose women up here. You can't be up in
the pool pit and then think I'm gonna sit up
under that. I'm personally not gonna be able to sit
up under nothing like that. Oh well, you know, he's
just a man. He's just a man. God, God forgive him,
God forgive him. Yes, he has to sit down though,

(35:47):
until he get his stuff together. You cannot be sitting
up there having all these babies with these women in
the church, and then y'all sitting up here. Yeah the Lord,
but God, who are we to judge? We can't. Only
God can judge him. No, no, I'm not judging him.
I'm pointing out this bull junkie and you, sir, are

(36:08):
fauts that I've got nothing to do with judging. You
know why, because it's the truth. You Listen, people like
to say judging everything is judging me me listen, some
stuff ain't about being judging. It's just not here's how
you know it's not judging, sir, do you have a

(36:28):
beg Are you married? Yes? Do you have two kids
with two choir members? Yes, that's not judging, that's a fact.
That's a fact. And you, sir, you need to sit
down and you need the Lord to work on you
because you spread your seed through the church instead of

(36:50):
spreading a message in the world of the Lord. You
spread your seed, sir, through the church, and the Lord
don't like that. And again, somebody need to say it.
We're gonna stop being afraid to call these people out.
You know why, because they are putting God to an
open shame, and they are causing people to not want

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to go and be saved and live right because they
live in jack legged and bootlegged and people scared to
say something. Well, guess what, I'm not scared to say
anything because I have my own relationship with the Lord
and I know right teaching. I've been brought up and
right teaching, so I know that a lot of this
stuff that they doing. You're not scaring me with this

(37:31):
because you asking for all these people money. I'm not
scared for that because I know the word and I
know that you are out of order. With all the
respect sir, so please do not let this foolishness that
these people be doing with all of this this prosperity stuff.
You all don't let don't don't don't don't don't don't,
don't don't fall for you are because again it's like

(37:53):
it's so much that is going on and people are just,
you know, just doing all kinds of crooked stuff. You
are just all kinds of crooked stuff. So you just
have to be so mindful. But again, when you are
going to church and you're picking a church, one of
the first things that you should look for. When you're

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in a church and you're looking for a church and
you have a church a church and you going consistently,
you're gonna learn something from being in church. And guess what,
it don't always feel good. Understand that if every listen,
if you go to church every week and you ain't

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every week you come out church and you just feeling good,
like yeah, you know, we gonna we gonna get this,
I'm gonna get this, calm, i'ma get this, and they
ain't the pastor ain't preached nothing that don't ticked you
off or don't hand you feeling uncomfortable. You might not
be in the right church, you probably not in the

(38:56):
right place. Because when a pastor is preaching and they
hitting that word and they teaching like I said it
that it is, don't be feeling good. I ain't gonna
sit that fans. Listen, like I said, y'all, like, listen,
you are getting this firsthand again from somebody that stays

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the pastor know my name, phone on but look and
I and I don't be blocked. I don't block it.
I don't ignore the call. When they call, I answer,
I answer. I'm like, this ain't my first time being
called in a pastor and listen, bad thing is. It's
been a couple of passes. I done, got called in
a couple of offices. So I know guess who the

(39:40):
guess who the problem is? Bingo, But I know this.
I tell him, look, pastor, and I tell them what
some of my known problems are. I tell them beforehand,
just so that we can be on one accord. Listen,
let me set up. Let me go ahead on and
set up a meeting with this with the new past

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and so I could just introduce myself to the past
and so the pastor can already know who I am
and what some of the things that I'm gonna probably
be getting called into the office about. I'm gonna go ahead.
I wanta introduce myself because I don't need nobody trying
to tell on me. I can tell on myself. So
I'm gonna introduce myself to the past and listen, pastuff, yes, listen. Now,
let me tell you some of the things that I

(40:21):
struggle with. So you're gonna have to keep me lifted
up if you got I got to come here, be
with the mother's board, go to the mother's Sunday school,
and all this other stuff. I have to do that,
but it's a few things that I know I need
to work on. So I'm gonna tell you right now.
So if somebody said you already know you know what,
Yeah she done, Yeah she done. She not came she do,

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She don came and told me. And one of my
biggest pet peeves used to be when they trying to
marry you off, Lord, I said, I stopped visiting other
churches because that's cause y'all know that's what they do
when they want to go to fellowship. It's supposed to
be fellowship. And you know what half of that the

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agenda bee to. That's your singles mingle. See that's the
single mingle. When you go to congregating, you going to
fellowship with these other churches. Why am I spending all
the church bes is like this because I want people
to know, that's why. But when you go to fellowship
with these other churches again, that'd be like the singles
mingle and stuff like that. They be sending you over there.

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And listen, it's always Look, I don't have nothing against
nobody handicap or nothing like that. I don't have nothing
against nobody older. But sir, if you've been married, you
don't buried five wives. And I haven't even had one
husband yet. How did the Lord give me to you?

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He didn't know that. The Lord did not do that.
I'm like, listen, I've seen some young ladies, beautiful young ladies,
and they have ended. I'm like, girl, you could have
just kept on sinning. Why did you put yourself? Why
did you attach yourself to this old foolishness right here?

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What did you get with this? You could have just
kept on sinning and just repent instead of now you
with this old Ooh then they sid then they beating
on them and all this other trying to beat my
uncle used to say, beat the youth out of you.
You he all heat on hair. Seven wives. This your
first husband, he got kids your age, and he done

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told you. The Lord told you told me he was
gonna be be my wife. The Lord told me you
was gonna be my wife. I said. The Lord told
me I was gonna poison you. If you don't get
out of my face, Sir, I will poison you. I
will give you a double dosage of your dialysis medication.
You keep on messing with me, I will listen, give

(42:53):
you two shots to that insolent or I take the
remote control to you an insolent patch, and I scramble
the dog on pass. Keep all messing with me, talking
about some The Lord told me that you was gonna
be my wife. The Lord, sir, the Lord ain't said
no such thing. I don't know what kind of evil
spirits you're talking to. But the Lord didn't tell because

(43:15):
if the Lord told you, he gonna tell me it.
Because I'll be like Lord, mister telephone man, there's something
wrong with my life. Because the Lord ain't told me nothing.
That's all I'm saying. So I'm gonna leave the church
alone because like I said, I love the Church, I
love the Lord, I love all God's people. But you know, listen,

(43:35):
the ones that's not God people, the ones those are
the ones I got a problem with. And those are
the ones that we are lightly exposing. So if you
got something out this message, amen, If you didn't, Amen again,

(43:55):
But listen, guys, our next hot topic. Now look you again.
Y'all know that all the time, every day, it's just
always some foolery going on in these internet streets, and this,
this next hot topic is no exception. So this guy

(44:16):
is saying, and I need fellas, y'all gotta let me
know what do you all think about this? This man
is saying that the only thing that a man can
get from a woman is some nasty hooha. He says,
they just you could just they could just do it
to him, just just the nasty, the filthy, low down

(44:39):
horizontal mambo, the low down houchikuchie. That's all he that's
all a man can get from a woman. That's all
a woman has to offer a man. That's with this guy,
he's a podcaster, and he said this, what do you
all think about that statement? Because when I saw it,

(45:04):
I was just like you know if this guy, if
he likes boys, I mean, sir, just say you like boys.
You don't even have to go through all like. We
don't care who you choose to partake with. We don't care,
you know, we don't care about any of that. We're
trying not to judge you. But what you're not gonna

(45:27):
do is get on this in these in andnet streets
and make it seem as though that's all women are
good for. That's all that's all a woman can offer.
Because to me, what you what I heard you say,
was not even your mama and your grandmama was worth nothing.
So only your mama and your grandmama was worth all

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they work is the hucikuchi too, because you said no woman,
if you've been hurt sir, or you like boys, just
say that, just stop talking about women. Just start talking
about what you like. But anytime I hear men go
this hard on women, in my opinion, and I could

(46:13):
be wrong, but that's why I'm asking you, I'll let
me know if he's saying that, am I like? Am
I wrong for thinking? Like? Listen, dude, if you like boys,
just say you like boys. But the fact that you
can fix your mouth to say that that's the only
thing that men get from women is some nastyhuchi who

(46:38):
then sir, like, I don't know what type of women,
Like what type of people are you? Like? What type
of people are you being exposed to? Like are you
not exposed to? Like you've never met a good woman,
Like you've never not even on a friend level, Like

(46:58):
you don't have a good woman that's a friend like you,
You've never encountered a good woman, even if she's not
with you romantically. Like this, This is the type of
dude that needs a hug from an old school madeir.
He need a hug from a real madir that got

(47:20):
them big. You know, listen that down South rack, the
down South hooters that wear the duster, that got the
cake flour and stuff and the chicken grease stains and stuff.
He need that type of woman. He need that type
of woman in his life. Because when I hear me
and say stuff like that and they talk so aggressively

(47:43):
against women, I'm gonna tell y'all this is exactly this is.
I start thinking like this, and this is what I feel.
I just, you know, want to start breaking out of
saying get out and little mamma, get out and little
mamma get out. I little mamma, get out and little mama.
That's what these dudes sound like. They sound like some
little mamas talking like that. I'm oh, the only thing

(48:06):
a man can't get from a woman is some nasty
hoochie who get out a little mamma. Get out of
a little mamma, get out our little mama. Anytime. Listen,
that's what I'm gonna start putting under they post. Anytime
I see a man going in that aggressively on women,
that's what that's what's gonna happen. Or I'm gonna be like, so,

(48:27):
if you don't like women, because that's all that women
can offer, then when you're gonna come out and tell
everybody that you like boys, can you tell us what
man has tickled your fancy? Because if a man tickled
your fancy, listen, he tickled your fancy, that's listen, that's
what you in. Listen. I don't got nothing to do. Well,

(48:48):
what type of traffic you let it come through your
back door? You feel me? That's his that's this man's
back door. Now, if you got all this traffic, I
ain't look. My name is Jay, I'm not the one
to gossip and you ain't heard that it's from me.
You just have not. But if you like boys, then

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just say you like boys. But it's like, it's we
in a day and time where you can freely like
boys and not have to go aggressively crazy on bashing women.
Like I feel like we're in that place. We're in
a day and time where you can like whatever it
is you like and you don't have to go downing

(49:32):
and bashing women because when we do it, which I
couldn't see myself doing that because I haven't met all men. Now,
are there some men out there that are not worth much? Yes,
there's a handful of them, But I would say this,
there are more good men then there are men that

(49:56):
are out here playing, you know, playing these type of
childish games they are. So I would rather spend my
time giving props and giving kudos to the good men
that are out there, opposed to constantly feeding that energy
and giving life to the negativity that is keeping black

(50:19):
men and black women apart. Because again I can promise
you this little mama that said that about women, you know,
or it ain't no good women and women ain't worth
nothing but this, and that I can promise you he
not the same the way you treat a black woman.
I can promise you when he get with a non
black woman, I can promise you he don't act the

(50:40):
same way. I can promise you nine times out of ten. Again,
and I've said this before. We don't act the same
way when we date outside our race. And when I'm
saying we, I mean y'all, because I don't date outside
my race. So y'all don't act the same way that
y'all act when y'all dating outside y'all race. Nobody on
their best behavior. The men are on that best behavior

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and women, I love us, but we be on our
best behavior too, because listen, when you out there with
this pink man, you ain't out there twerking and wearing
all these hooker clothes that you wearing when you with
your black dude. You not doing that because you're trying
to impress him. You not talking all crazy talking about

(51:25):
some If he want to be with me, he gonna
pay my bills and he got to pay the girl. Shit.
Oh I'm so swool, lord child, I'm so sick of
hearing that he got to pay this and he got
to pay that. Who the time you spend telling these
dudes what they got to pay and what they gotta do,
you could have been up off your behind and head

(51:46):
of job and doing whatever it is that you need
to do so that you can take care of yourself. Listen, Jay,
So you saying that a dude ain't supposed to do
nothing for you, Well, let me just tie that in
and to our next hot topic. And y'all let me
know what y'all think. So our next hot topic. The
guy he's saying, if ladies, he said, ladies, he could.

(52:13):
He specifically said, if you are not physically sexually attracted
to a man, you should not be accepting money or
gifts from him. Ladies, y'all, I'm gonna say that again. Listen.
Hold on. I got the sip on this, yes, hi'ad hmm.

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If I could talk and sip at the same time,
I would be dangerous. This man I got the tea
over here. Y'all scowed on up because I got the tea.
This man said, ladies, if you are not attracted to
that man, do not accept no money from him, and

(52:57):
don't accept no gifts from him. Now, I don't know
why he allowed the devil to use his tongue like that.
I don't know, but you know, when I read it,
I instantly started rebuking his foolishness. Okay, I say, listen,
I rebuke this foolishness that you are out here spewing

(53:19):
in these internet streets. I rebuke this foolishness. What are
you talking about? If she's not sexually attracted to him,
she should not be accepted any money or gifts from him. Listen,
If she's not sexually attracted to you, then you shouldn't
be given anything. But don't you dare try to stand

(53:40):
in the way of the things that the rest of
us get. Don't you dare? You know what that's called.
What that's called, sir you, that's called player hating. That's
called cock blocking. He's a player hater and he's cock blocking.
We will allow no such foolishness over here. Okay, we

(54:01):
will not allow that type of talk. Because I rebuke that.
I rebuke that. If he offers, why should I not
accept it? Does that mean that I'm on? So you
guys gotta understand, and y'all gotta listen. You're darned if

(54:21):
you do. You darned if you don't, because for those
that agree with this, then you will be supporting the
Oh well, you know, that's just that's just that's just
a form of that's just a form of perstitution. If
if if you you accepted money for for being with you,
So that's what's so, that's because that's exactly what he's saying.

(54:43):
He's like, listen, if you not gonna hook your hooking
yourself out, then you shouldn't be accepting nothing from this man.
And Sir, again, I rebuke your foolishness. I rebuke everything.
I rebuke you for even letting the devil ritual tongue
like that. I rebuke the devil is a liar, and

(55:06):
so is your tongue, sir, the devil. I rebuke all
of that. If he decides to give money or a gift,
then I have the right to accept that. Now I'm
not gonna go asking you for any money or anything

(55:27):
like that. But if he decides to say, ooh, I
saw this, I want you to have it. Hello, why
can I have it? So I'm obligated to give you something.
I'm obligated to hooker myself out because you gave me
a nice gift. I deserve nice things, So like, what

(55:49):
are you because I deserve it? Yes, I do. Are
you obligated to do anything? No, we're not talking. This
is not obligation. We're not no shape form a fashion.
Is this conversation about obligation. It's about attraction, the poet said.
The guy said that if a woman is not attracted

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to a man, and she's not sexually attracted to this man,
she should not accept any gifts from him or any money.
And I said, the devil is a liar, and I
don't know why he's letting the devil use his tongue
like that. I stand on that. I stand on it.
If a man, if she's single and he's single, and

(56:34):
he decides to buy her a gift, and she's not
sexually attracted to him, why can't she not accept the gift?
Now I would not Again, I'm not going around saying
you gotta buy me this, you gotta do this, you
gotta do that. But if he thought about me, why

(56:55):
can't I accept the gift? Why can't I accept what
he's given? Why can't I go out? Fellas, please enlighten
your girl, because y'all know I can go you know
our respect job, I respect Chid, So y'all gotta help me. Cedric,
tell me, is this a wrong statement? Because I know
I can count on Cedric and Mark. They typically y'all

(57:18):
can keep me on my toes. So let me know.
Am I looking at this wrong again? The brother says
a woman should not accept a gift or any money
from a man that she's not sexually attracted to. And
I said, the devil is a liar. If he's giving it,

(57:40):
then he should be able to accept it. Cedric is
saying that's solely on him. Thank you. It's an individual choice.
It's an individual decision. And my individual decision is if
he decides to individually break me off a little something,
then I'm going to say thank you very much, and listen, now,

(58:03):
I will say this. Let me come on, try to
redeem myself because I know I don't put it. I'm like,
I'm on some I'm trashed to some of you all
right about now? That's okay. We still gonna love each other.
We love each other and we support each other. We
we love and we listen and we don't judge. Okay,
we don't judge. We don't judge. Okay, we're not gonna judge.

(58:27):
You know, I take that back yard. We can judge
because I like the judge. Every time I turn around,
I'm saying some I'm crazy. So you know we can
we can judge. Just let's judge lightly, but just let's
dissect this. Like Cedric said, it's solely up to the god.

(58:49):
If I got stuff, and I listen, I have been
the recipient of some gifts or two you know, I
have from do dudes that I have not been sexually
attracted to, and they were nice things. So it's like,
you give me something, and I will say this, So

(59:12):
there's a difference between somebody giving you something because they
wanted you to have it versus somebody trying to woo
you with their money. And I've been in that situation too,
the woo you with their money type. Like I'm done,
Like there's no like, you can't you can't buy me
because I'm like, if I know that I'm not attracted

(59:34):
to you, and I don't see you like that, Like
I don't care how much stuff you're trying to give me,
it's not it's not gonna change how I feel and
it's not gonna make me want to get close to you,
those type of situations. I do my best to avoid that.
But if I'm not feeling a dude, every dude that
you go out with to me, I don't think that

(59:55):
you're gonna be sexually attracted to I don't think so.
It's like, if we're out, I don't gotta be sexually
attracted to you to go out and have a good time.
What I will say is the flip side is if
you're talking ma'am, this is a good one that they're

(01:00:20):
using today. I date with purpose, I'm dating to Mary.
I'm dating for this. Then you know what. I can
respect that. And guess what If I know that I
don't fit that and you don't fit that for me,
then you know what, we have to go part our
separate ways because I'm not about to be sitting here

(01:00:40):
playing with somebody's emotions, playing and acting like I'm into
you or I'm feeling you, or I'm on that same
wavelength with you. When I know that I'm not with you,
I will cut that off. But if we're just seeing
each other, I don't have to be I don't have
to be sexually attracted to you. And if you're buying

(01:01:00):
me nice things that are doing nice things for me.
I'm gonna accept it until you make your intentions known.
So again, if rich outdating because we're having a good
time and we like each other and we enjoy each
other's company, then I can do that. I can totally
do that. But if you haven't made your intentions known

(01:01:25):
and we're just going out getting to know each other,
run it. Run it. You can run the gifts, you
can run the money, you can run whatever it is
that you want to provide. He can run it. He can.
He can definitely run it, and I will gladly accept that.
I'll be right there with my baseball catches me like yep, boom, yep,

(01:01:46):
catch it, boom, catch it, catch it? Catch it? Am
I wrong? Maybe, but I've kind of got used to that.
So I'm just like, you know again, like to me,
sometime it just I don't want to, you know, look,
some it be the pressed dudes that sometimes this could

(01:02:09):
be an issue for And again, you shouldn't be out
here doing all this dating and trying to spend all
of this money anyway, like ration your pockets say, I'm
not gonna buy gifts or spend money on women that
I'm not attracted to or the women that are not
attracted to me. Let that be your rule. But don't

(01:02:30):
go trying to put that ish out there saying that,
you know, women shouldn't be accepting gifts from men that
they're not sexually attracted to, because again you know that listen.
That really that really disturbed my spirit. When I read that,
I was just like this, this, this, this one, this

(01:02:52):
Bama right here, you know, he got the game. Look, now,
we don't want to be putting this foolishness out there.
It's a lot at the foolishness out there for us
to contend with. But this bull junkie now that look,
you drew the lab right there, baby, you drew the Listen.
I felt like an esther when he said that, watch it, sucker,

(01:03:18):
watch it, sucker. Do not do not be putting that
foolishness out in the air, because again, if he want
to do it, then he should be able to do it. Leo,
you're saying, I must like you to buy you gifts. Well,
if I'm giving and she ain't given, period again, so

(01:03:40):
you gotta you gotta see. So is this is it transactional?
Is it like? Okay? Well, I'm only gonna buy her
gifts or buy things for her because I want something
in return. Or are you the type of dude that say,
you know what, Listen, by, I bought this because I
wanted her to have it. Like, if we get together,

(01:04:02):
that's great. If we don't, I mean that's cool too.
I though this. I wanted her to have it. Maybe
I'm living in La La Land, you guys, Listen, I
told you I reside on Petty Island. So there are
things that happen on Petty Island that may not happen
anywhere else. And I'm okay, that's why, that's why we
are talking about this. But again, I'm just gonna shut

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that down. I wanna rebuke that foolishness. And I want
to rebuke the guy who put that ish out there.
I want to rebuke his tongue and his fingers for
typing his foolishness on his internet. So I'm gonna rebuke
all of that foolishness because we are not We are
not gonna co sign on that foolishness, just like you

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all don't have to co sign on this foolishness with
this next hot topic. Now, fellas, see, this is This
is where I say I can respect this. Now. This
is gonna be outlandish, but you all please let me
help kind of let you see how I see it,

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and then maybe y'all will be able to digest it
a little bit better. This lady says, and it's been
several women that have been saying this, you have to
pay her bills first before you take her out on
a date. That's what she said. You must pay. The
woman says, you must pay my bills before you can

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take me out on a date. That's what she said. Fellas,
what do you think about that? And ladies, what do
you think about that? Do you all feel that this
sister she got the right idea saying that, you know what,
before she will go out with a man, he must
pay her bills. That's just that to take baby, to

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take her on a date, she said, you gotta pay
her bills. Now, Fellas, I would say this, I would say,
appreciate in respect a chick that says this. Here's why
hold on, just follow me. Appreciate these chicks, you know why,

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because it helps you soar through the bull junkie, Like
if she's saying this, and you know you not with
this that saved you time, headache, money and everything, because
she's letting you know what she's about, so you can

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quickly soar through that and you can quickly bypass her
because she's not what you're looking for, opposed to her
not saying it up front, wasting your time because this
is what she really thinks, this is what she really believes,
and this is what she really wants. But now she's wasted.

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She's wasted your time. You've taken her out and you've done.
Now you're starting a quarter and whatever it is, and
then boom she hits you with the Oh, if a
man want to be with me and spend time with me,
he gotta do this. Da da da da da d
X Y and Z. See now you don't waste it
all your time. See you don't waste your time. But

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if they tell you this up front, you win because
you get to just go right on past that stupid ish.
I'd be like baby, sorry to hear that stupid ish
and keep it moving. No harm, no foul, no harm,
no foul. But y'all gotta understand, fellas. And I know

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y'all don't want to hear me say this, but I'm
gonna say it anyway because I've seen it. If it's
not for you, and this is why women are doing it,
it may not be for you, but I promise you
if some dude, and it's more than one dude that
will do just this, they will do just that. So

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you gotta understand that's who they're talking to. When you
start hearing and seeing stuff like that, you gotta just
be like, oh, okay, sheen talng. She ain't talk to
me like a lot of this stuff that they say
on the inter andnet about women. I'm like, oh, I
don't get bent up out of shape about it, because listen,
if it don't stick, listen, keep let it fly. It

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don't if it don't stick. People are seeing so much
crazy stuff. You have to stop letting everything take you out.
She said, this is what she listen. Maybe it's just
in her dream, Like you know, some of these little
kids still believe in Santa Claus. And I'm sorry, I
don't want to be hurting no little kids, So let

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me scratch their kids because I don't want to steal
your your innocence. Let your parents talk to you about that.
But some people look like they believe in the tooth
Fairy and the Easter Bunny and all this, and that
she believes that this will happen. She believes that a
man will definitely have to pay her bills before he

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takes her out. And when she finds that, then you know,
miss it, I'm not a player hater. I'm gonna ask him, girl,
what are you finding he did? What you just said?
It like that? I just you know, see listen, I
try to be a student of the game. You know,
I'm not a player hater. I just try to try
to be a student of the game because you know,

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I believe you shouldn't have to reinvent the wheel. So
I will sit in your class and figure out what
are you doing and how can I perfect that craft? Okay,
I'm just you know, I'm just saying, now, Cedric, you're
saying she can kick rocks. She ain't worth a Maxwell
cheeseburger to me, Max, Cedric, not even a Maxwell chance burger.

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Now that's you know, Now, that's low right there. She
ain't even worth a Max, So she can't get it.
She can't get you to get her a Maxwell cheeseburger
before she takes before you take her out on a date.
He's saying, Cedric is saying, enjoy your life and be
blessed as it should be. Like, so that's why I say,

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I don't see why the fellas are getting upset when
some women say stuff like this. Let them say, listen,
this is their dream, this is what they're dreaming, this
is what they want. Leo, you're saying, if I don't
fit was, we must exit quick. Lol. Again, this is

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for me, Like I like when dudes say the most
outlandish things and say who they really are. I like
getting that up front. I like getting the real U
up front so that I don't have to waste my time.
I don't have to waste my time putting on the
good draws and the good brawl and the good girl.

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I don't gotta waste my time with doing all that
because we see, when I can, I'm gonna go out.
But then you know, when I go out, listen, go out,
my friend. Listen, we put the hook of clothes on
and do what you know, walk like all hookers up
the you know, listen, walk the stroll, because that's what
you do. We say, do that. But when you're going
out on a date, you gotta fix all you gotta

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fix this up and put this up and tape this
up and make sure this is you know, it's just
too much. But when you're going out with your girls,
anything goes, anything goes. So again, don't get mad when fellas.
Don't get mad when the ladies are saying this, because
you gotta look at it too. It's only a certain

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type of chick that's saying this. It's only a certain
type of chick that's saying this, and you know, so
when you see that, it's like, is that the chick
you Is that the type of chick you was even
checking for anyway? Like were you even checking for that
type of chicken anyway? So it's like, what do we
get our blood pressure all up hout for for people

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that we know? Good dog on, Well we want checking
for you? No way, like you could keep saying all
this bull junkie that you won't like, you know, only
in your dreams, only in your freaking dreams, would you
get somebody to sit there and do all of this.

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Pay your bills before taking you out. He has to
pay your bills in order to take you out, child.
It just it don't get no better than that. Now, listen,
speaking of getting no better than that. This man says that,

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you know, see if y'all notice it, Notice what Notice
the theme this week? It ain't been us talking crazy? Okay,
Notice the theme for tonight. The fellas are just you know,
some of these fellas are just talking completely out the
side of their necks. But I want to know what

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the fellas that really does, my real fellas. I want
to know what you all think, because then that's gonna
help change my perception. So what do you all think
about this? Is there any truth to this statement? This
man says, women give their best selves and prime years
to toxic men, then want a good man when they're

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damaged goods on the clearance rack? O, child, he said
a mouthful with this bull jockey. Ah, let me repeat
this ish. He says, women give their best selves and
prime years to the toxic men, then want a good

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man win their damaged goods on the clearance rack. Ladies,
what do you all think about that foolishness? Fellas, what
do you think about that statement? Let me know? Is
there some truth to that statement? Y'all know? Listen, I
could listen. I want to know so I can help
the sisters. So maybe I can translate this so that

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it can better be received. Is there any truth to
that bitter dude statement? And I'm gonna call it bitter
dude until one of you fellas help me understand. You
know what, jay Nah, that ain't bitter dude ish? Yeah, yeah, bro,
he gotta he gotta, he gotta. He got a point
because I was gonna put him over there and uh,
get out, look mama, get out, look, mama, get out,

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little mama. I was gonna put him in a get out,
little mama category. But before I put him in the
get out a little mama category, fellas, I need y'all
to let me know does this man have Is there
some truth to this statement that women give their best
selves and prime years to the toxic men then want

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a good man whin their damaged goods on the clearance rack?
First of all, okay, so first, let let's let let
me just break down a few things because I need
to separate a few things. First of all, what is
who's on the clearance rack? Is it a certain type

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of woman? Like? What puts a woman? First of all,
what puts a woman on the clearance rack? Is it
her age? Is it her body count? Is it because
she had kids or she had kids out of wedlock?
Is it a divorced woman? What? Who? Who's on the
clearance rack? So that's what I want to know? Who
is on the clearance rack? How do we determine who's

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on the clearance rack? Leo, you're saying, yes, it is
some truth to that, and I'm not a bitter dude, Okay,
So LEO, explain to me, what what? How? What part
of this is true? And how do you like give
me some background. You gotta help me connect the dots. Leo,
help me connect the dots on that, because you're saying
that it's some truth to that, and I can respect that.

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What is? But what constitutes who's who's on the clearance rack? Cedric,
you're saying that's cold blooded, but it's actually some truth
to it. Okay. So now y'all saying it some truth?
Tell me what like who's the clearance right? So how
do we determine a woman like what puts her on
the clearance rack? And what makes her damage goods? Or

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if she say, if she's single by a certain point,
does that mean that she's dealt with toxic mean and
now she's ready to settle down what what constitutes the
clearance rack, what constitutes the damage good Because here's the thing. First,
let's just acknowledge there's more women than there are men,

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especially now that you got all of these alternative lifestyles
going on. So you're gonna have a lot of good
women that are not on the clearance rack. They just
haven't had a good man because it's so much a
good man is a hot commodity. Like It's like, it's

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a lot of good women, and finding a good man
is like finding a good hairdresser. And you gotta you
gotta keep you gotta keep them. Hope they'll move, Hope
they don't get sick, Hope don't nothing happen to them.
That's just how hard it is to find a good man,
depending on where you are. So I want to know

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what puts her on the clear rack, what puts her
what makes her damage goods, and what constitutes her giving away,
you know, or given her best years to toxic dudes,
Because what if she's just meeting the wrong dude, don't
mean that she wasted her years giving herself to taxic

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I want to be I want us to be able
to identify these women that have given themselves, you know,
to the toxic men, and then now they want a
good man after they've been placed on the clearance rack.
That's the part that I need to understand, Cedric. You're
saying her attitude and overall demeanor, So that's what would

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put her on the clearance rack? Her over her her
attitude and her demeanor. Is that the only thing that
puts her on the clearance rack? Or are we talking
about again? Are we talking about single mothers? Are we
talking about women over thirty five, thirty thirty? I don't know,
women with a certain amount of kids, women with a

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certain amount of baby daddies. Women, Cedric said, attitude and
demeanor is that the only thing that we're talking about
that will put them on a clearance rack? So, Leo,
you're saying some women do give their best years to
dudes that treat them boguish and then want a good man,

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straight clearance rack. Jay, So wait, so let me get
let me just dissect what you're saying, Leo. So just
because the dude is not good because he treat her boguish,
but she love him, So she chose to love the
wrong men, and she chose to hold on to him,

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So she's to blame for that. So she chose to
give ten years to this man that treat our boguish,
that don't give do her right because she love them.
She finally gets tired of it. Now she thirty thirty five,
Now she's single, she's she's she's Clearance Rag because she

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made the decision to stay with this man for as
long as he she did, and he dogged her out.
I don't know, so is that? So? Is that what
we're saying? Clearance Rag? Women that are loving and staying
with these men for too long and they know that
the dude ain't no good? How easy? But how easy
is it for you to leave somebody that you love.

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That's that's what I don't I don't get, And I'm
just playing Devil's advocate because it's just like a lot
of times we slap these labels and say oh, well,
good good years, and they then they want to go
with a good man. But I'm like, well, I look
at her like this, How are you? How how are

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you different? If you're single and you're the same age
as the woman, couldn't the same.

Speaker 1 (01:21:08):
Thing be said for you?

Speaker 2 (01:21:11):
So you've wasted all your good years. You've you've slang,
you've slung that dog around all of these years, and
now it don't work right. So is your don't gonna?
Are you on the clearance rack with your dog? Is
you and your dog going the clear as wat? Or
is it just the women? Or can we say people

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waste their good years on toxic relationships and then expect
somebody good. But I to be honest, I don't believe
either one of those statements. I just don't. I don't
believe that people waste years on toxic stuff. I don't

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believe it. I believe that you go through people hoping
that you find this. Now listen, I will say some
people hold on and stay in some ish longer than
they longer than they should. You have to learn when
to let go, especially for women, Like a lot of women,

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we have to learn when to let go because some
of us will hold on to it just a no,
it ain't like it ain't just no turning back. You
hold on to a dude that ain't trying to hold
on to you, and you gotta know when to let

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that ish go. Now, I will tell you now, I
know quite a few good women that have been in
relationships that are in relationships that want marriage, and they
still holding on. Ben in the game for a long

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time with the same dude, same dude, missing your child
bearing years, giving all of that up because you holding
on hoping that he had changed his mind, hoping he
had changed. When you say that, that's a toxic dude,

(01:23:22):
or would you say that? Man? You know what, Listen,
snap out of it. So I don't believe this. I
believe that a lot of women get caught up in
the fairy tale, the fairy tale of these dudes' foolishness. Okay,
I'm gonna put it like this. Listen, a lot of
you dudes sell a lot of this bull junkie. You

(01:23:44):
all sell a lot of these dreams to these women.
Keep these women holding on tall this bull junkie knowing
good dog on. Well, you don't want her, but you're
not gonna let it go until you find the next
best thing your right. Cedric is definitely a two way street.
But we addressing the foolishness. What they said, what the

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women do, trying to make it seem like the women
are holding on to toxic dudes. No, A lot of times, yes,
this do happen but a lot of times, let's be honest,
let's talk about the dudes that hold on to these women,
that dangle, that dangle that relationship, that dangle that ring
and ish, that dangle the possibilities around because for most women,

(01:24:33):
a lot of women, if you all keep dangling, they
gonna keep holding on. We gonna keep holding on as
long as you keep It's just like when you if
you ever went to Florida when they go to the
what do you have the crocodile pits and you put
the little thing, the little the little whatever it is,
the little bait on the crocodile thing, and then you

(01:24:56):
stick it down in there and then they have to
come up and snap up for it, and you put
it up in there and they snap up. That's what
a lot of dudes do to women in these relationships.
And then you try to make it seem like she
did something wrong because she holding on to your trifling behind,

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But you really are holding on. So when are me
and gonna start saying that part? When are me and
gonna start accepting responsibility? And I know I'm gonna get
a lot of pushback from this that you all, when
are some of the dudes that do this, and it's
not all men when you do this, Do you all

(01:25:41):
ever take responsibility for stringing women alone? Hold on, y'all
got to get up for a second. This thing went off.
Do you all ever take responsibility for stringing women alone?
The men that do string women along? Do you all
ever take responsibility for that? Or are we just gonna
keep making these blanket statements and making it seem like

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a lot of women are out here wasting their talksic gifts.
I will say this, I'm gonna be honest with you all. Yes,
there are some women that are out here that are
of gonna live my best life and I'm gonna live
my best ratchet life. But that's a small percent I
believe that that's a small percent I know more women
that have held on to the wrong dude than women

(01:26:26):
that have said that that has been their mission. I'm
gonna live my ratchet best life. I'm gonna do this,
I'm gonna do that. There's a small percentage. The biggest
percentage for me has been that I've seen and I
know a lot of women, and I know a lot
of women that I know women that fall in a
lot of these categories, But I've seen most of the

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behavior come from women holding on, And yes, they do
waste their best years with the wrong dude because the
dude is hanging, dangling, dangling that possibility in front of them.
They're dangling and it's like, unfortunately, you would say, now
at some point, listen, baby girl. If he has not

(01:27:12):
put a ring on, if he ain't said nothing about
getting married, what are you still holding off for? Okay?
Why are you still letting him sell you a dream?
And that's gonna lead right into what we're talking about tonight,
you guys, should you live together before marriage? And the

(01:27:35):
reason that that ties right into it is because again,
when you know what it is that you want, and
you go into a situation and you alter what it

(01:27:56):
is that you want, hoping that it'll lead you to
the eventual, the finish line. But that's not always the case.
So when we're talking about should you live together before marriage?

(01:28:18):
I like listening you all. Can I use this term?
Can I use the old school term? Can I just
call it what the old folks used to call it?
Can I call it shacking? You know, living today, living
together it feels so modern, It don't feel you know,
old schoolish enough for me, you know, So can can

(01:28:41):
I say shocking? Cause you know, I really I really
like shocking. I really like the word shocking because I
just like the way it sounds shocking, like I found
like shacking, just like it like it. I don't know
what's happening with my live streams, you all, My connection
is going out up and here. But we have a

(01:29:04):
lot of things to talk about. When you're talking about
getting married and wanting to be married and and living together,
we got a lot to deal with. Okay, we have
to talk about first of all, again, we're gonna talk

(01:29:25):
about shocking. Okay, shocking. Let me, y'all hold on, I'm
having some my streams are going down. Hold on, hold on,
Sorry kind of reconnect. Okay, sorry about that. I had

(01:29:50):
a little interruption you all. But when we're talking about shocking, though,
shocking again, that's what it feels good to say shocking. Okay,
feels good. So what is shocking? According to an online source,
shocking refers to a couple who lives together often while

(01:30:13):
doing who was not told mom ball our baby baby,
and they're not married. It also says that nearly seventy
percent of couples shock up or cohabitate before they get married.

(01:30:37):
And that's fine. But here's here's the part that it
gets a little iffy because and we're gonna go through
the pros and the cons of this shocking up thing.
So first the pros, A few three pros to shocking

(01:31:01):
up or living together. The first thing is you discover
whether your living habits are compatible. The next thing is
you can see what marriage will really be like with
that person. The third thing is you can feed one's appetite.

(01:31:27):
That means you can get all the horizontal mambo that
you can handle. You can get all that and then
some You can get that if you shack up or
live together prior to getting married. Now does living together
and shocking up? Does that? One with one? And the Okay,

(01:31:50):
so listen, I'm doing all of this, they get all
this freaky stuff. We're just doing everything. We don'na combined everything.
Does that increase the chances of our relationship transpire into
the next level of getting married? So does shocking increase

(01:32:13):
your chances of being married? Him? Again, you're doing all
this beforehand. So one, while it would be like, okay,
well why would I change it? Now? This is where
that well, marriage is just a piece of paper. That's
when this that's when that bull junkie starts to come

(01:32:33):
to play. Marriage is just a piece of paper. We
don't need, you know, we don't need no piece of
paper to prove that we're in love or that we
want to be together. And you know, I don't need
no piece of pap. You know, that's when all this. Boys, listen,
when you start hearing at bull junkie, listen, just pack
your bags and go ahead and just move on. Just

(01:32:55):
live your best life, because that is a good indication
that you're about to be strong alone. If you get that,
that bull jernkye that again, you get that we're just
we're we we we just we Why why why do
all that when we already together? I don't know. I

(01:33:16):
wouldn't be too quick to put too much stock in
that one cedric. You're saying, I've done it confirmed, I've
done it. It confirmed our spiritual not just physical bond
and solidifyed my commitment to the relationship. And I get it.
There are exceptions, definitely to the rule, but I would

(01:33:38):
want to say, for the most part, you gotta be listen.
This to me it's a gamble. It is definitely a
gamble because you you really don't you really don't know,
like you they got you there. So now it's like
you're doing everything and everybody is comfortable. We're both comfortable

(01:34:00):
with the setup, and it's just like, okay, well it's
if it's working for us, why are we gonna change it?
So a few cons now, Listen, there are more cons
to getting married then there are to shocking up than
there are to uh the pros to it, So listen.

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According to an online source, here are a few things
that people need to consider prior to making the decision
to shock up. So the first thing is is you
gotta make sure that you're on the same page with
that person and that you guys are looking to accomplish
the same thing. Talk about that ish before moving in.

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And I'm not saying it should be an ultimatum. What
I'm saying is you all should have a game plan.
So like, if you're moving in, Okay, listen, we're gonna
live together for a year and then we're gonna get
married within two years. That should that should be a given.
So we should be on the same page with that.

(01:35:10):
So it's like it shouldn't be any uncomfortable situations and
things like that unless when you live together, you both
start discovering some things about each other that you didn't
know prior to living together. And now you're thinking, like, man,
you know, I didn't know that they would like this,
or I didn't know. It's a whole bunch of stuff

(01:35:31):
that you find out that you were not privy to
prior to living together. So it's like now that that
time has given you some time to say, you know what, yeah,
I don't really think that. You know, marriage is going
to be the ear result for us, and that should

(01:35:53):
be communicated. It's like, the moment you realize that that's
not gonna be the goal for you, you should communicated.
But I'm gonna tell you what happens. It's not communicated.
You know why, because you got a good thing, even
though you decided you're not going to marry that person,

(01:36:13):
because of something that you discovered in the process of
you all living together. We're gonna just go with that.
You decide that you don't want to get married, But
how many people are going to actually come back to
the table and tell their partner, you know what I've

(01:36:34):
discovered some things in the midst of us living together
that you know what, I don't, you know, really feel
comfortable with going forward in a marriage with you know,
going forward getting married right now based upon some of
the things that I have learned since living together. How

(01:36:56):
many people are gonna really come back to the table
and tell the person their mate that now, I don't
think that getting married is a good ideal. You know what.
A lot of people are not. They're gonna sit on
it and sit on it for as long as they can.
They're gonna drag it out, drag it out for as

(01:37:17):
long as they can, until they get to the point where,
you know what, it's inevitable. We have to have this conversation.
I have to let them know that I don't see
myself getting married to them. And then by that time
somebody mad and ain't big mad the person that was
expecting to get married, they're big mad. Nine times out then,

(01:37:40):
you know, ladies, Okay, I'm gonna say eight times no,
i'm'na keep with ing nine times out of ten, ladies,
it's us. We up and mad. We got rocks and
the jaws. Because you don't set up there, you donna
live with this man two years, three years expecting to
get married, and he already decided in the process that

(01:38:01):
you all living together. He's like, he saw some things
that you know what, he don't feel make you a wife.
It's some other things that he's looking for in a
wife and he didn't see that in you. So is
he gonna tell you and mess up his good thing.
He's still like the horizontal tommbo. He's still like you
cooking and taking care of him and all this other stuff.

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But whatever it is that he's conjured up in his mind,
that's gonna keep him from wanting to marry you. He's
gonna stand firm on that. But he's gonna continue to
sleep with you. He's gonna continue to keep you around,
and he's gonna drag out that conversation of him having

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to tell you that he doesn't see marriage with you.
He's going to drag that out as long as he
possibly can. He's gonna drag it out. The next thing
is when you are living together, you when you break up,

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the coun is like, when you break up, it could
get messy because it's just like, now you've built a
life together, how do you separate that. It's just like
you're not married, who gets what? Like do we like?
You've built a life together, So just be mindful when

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making the decision because a lot of this stuff, it's
like when you break up, especially she find out that
you know you leading her on now because you're leading
her on? Now, Jay, how am I leading her on?
Because you've already determined that she was not going to
be your wife, but you did not let her know that,

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and you not gonna let her know until she starts
putting that pressure on you where you have no choice
but to let her know because you're comfortable. You are
comfortable with her, You're content with things being just the
way they are, if it's good enough, if this is
working out, Like why do we have to change anything?

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Why do we need this piece of paper? Why are
we trying? That's the type of conversation that a lot
of times starts to happen. So when you get that
type of situation, it's just like, Okay, what are we doing?
Like just tell her? So now she's mad, her feelings
is hurt. Now y'all gonna have a nasty, bad breakup

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because you like the benefits of her being there, but
you knew and you've already determined at that point and
you guys living together that she was not gonna be
your wife. So yes, there are some benefits if people
are going to set a plan and then honestly stick

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with the plan. And if man is the goal for
both people and marriage to each let me say this,
let me rephrase it. If marriage to each other is
the benefit for both people, then living together shocking up
could work. However, I personally wouldn't advise it if you

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want to get married, because again, people get comfortable and
they get stuck in their ways, and so it's just
like we create a habit. So I would rather be
living separately and break up with you than be living
with you and then have to break up and move
and go through all this the trauma of you know,
having to find somewhere else to live and all this

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and that because we were not married, so nobody owes
you anything. He doesn't owe you anything. And furthermore, listen,
in some states, it's actually illegal to shot up. Now.
I know some people may not know that, but yes,
in some states. Here are a few of the states

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that it is illegal to shack up with ed. As
it currently stands, it's illegal to shack up in that
sip that Mississippi, that good old day Mississippi. Big it's
illegal to shack up or cohabitate Michigan. It's illegal to

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cohabitate in Florida and Virginia. These are a few of
the states that currently have laws on the books banning cohabitation.
So yes, you can probably I believe it's probably a misdemeanor,
but it's actually illegal in these states to get married.

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But it's like, I mean to live, to cohabitate, but
it's like when you cohabitate and there's no like there's
no protection, like who gets what in the event again
that this even together a situation, in the event that
it does not lead to marriage, then what. So it's

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like I think that when you deciding whether or not
to cohabitate, if that's the best route for you and
your relationship, I believe like this, like you have to
do what works for you, but go in with a plan,
a realistic plan. So it's just like if you go
in and say, you know what, we're gonna give this
thing two years, and if we're not married the two years,

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it's for us to save, you know, because again, it
could help you living together. It can cut down on expenses,
like you get to save more money and things like that,
so you can get to save and get to your
destination financially quicker when you have two incomes, you know,
working together, but have a plan for that. If things

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doesn't work out, then you should have a plan. So
let's say a like you know, when people have these
pre nup conversations, you have to have a conversation about Okay, listen, okay,
So what if this if in two years, if in
the midst of us living together, we decide that, you

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know what, this is not for us. Marriage is actually
not for us? How do we split up? How do
how do we how do we do this? I would
say it would be better in my opinion, to talk
about that before you get feelings involved, negative feelings involved.
You can think about that and start planning that, like

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just as a precaution, like just have a way out.
And it's not that you're planning on breaking up or
somebody that's planning on going somewhere. It's just like, listen,
I need some guarantees. He needs some guarantees. We need
some guarantees. It's like relationships and marriage is business. This
is business. So it's like, you can't just you know,

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I think a lot of times we are emotions and
we just get really laxed days ago with a lot
of things, and we don't want to think about or
have the hard conversation about the business part of relationships.
We gotta be honest. All relationships do not and will
not end in marriage. That's just plain and simple. It

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will not end in marriage. So what do you do
if you are living with somebody. I like what you said, Cedric,
you said, keep your own crib. I'm just saying you
have to because it's like, if we break up, I'm
not trying to start over from scratch. I need to
have again. Relationships they end all the time, especially with

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you not being married. You should always be covering your
behind because there are no guarantees this thing could end.
We're not playing fault on anybody. It could just die out.
It could doubt of natural causes. And you guys get
together and you're living under one roof, and you could
both mutually agree like oh babe, yeah, no, babe, look,

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oh I love you, but yeah, I can't like this.
This this is not called. This ain't gonna work. You
could say that how do you get out? How do
you legally separate things? Now that you've started to live
together and you're starting to build as one. The courts

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and the judges don't know what to do with this
is because where's the contract, what's the paper? Who like
what's So it's a big best legally and financially if
you all are not able to come together on one
accord and just mutually and fairly decide how do we

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split this? How do we how do we split you know,
without having to go to court. So that's why I
was saying that if you come up with a game
plan before you guys move in together, and maybe have
something written, you know, just so that you can vote,
because again, let's be honest. Look, I'm like this, we

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can change our mind about a lot of stuff, and
we can forget what we said two years down the
last six months, nine months, you know, you've been n
forgot what you said on that nice cozy win tonight
when y'all was snuggled up talking about it. But if
you document it and date it now, it means you know, now,
it kind of means a little some you know, So listen,

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some promisary notes and you know, some things get some
ish notarized, and I know you may be saying, oh Jay,
oh my god, that is so much. You have to
protect yourself. You have to protect yourself in all things.
So when you ask should you live together before marriage? Well,

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I mean different folks, different drugs for different folks. If
it works for you, knock yourself out. For me, I
wouldn't want to run the risk, especially at this point
in my life. I'm not gonna run the risk of
sitting up there just being having commitment and marriage dangling
in front of me, and you know we're sitting here

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all of this time, and then you decide, oh, well,
I don't want to get married. You know, I don't
believe in marriage or whatever it is. You wake up
and you don't believe in something today like you did yesterday,
whatever it is. It's just like, I am not willing
to run the risk on that. But you know what,
if you do think that that's a good ideal for

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you and your relationship and your situation, think about what
I said, go in with a way to get out
that's gonna be comfortable and feasible for you both. But
should you shock up before marriage, that's between you and
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