The Jaye Spot Podcast Merry Xms

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Replacing your G spot every Thursday from six to seven,
giving you real relationship talk, real relationship drama with the
best night of your life. Your hosts Jay and simply
E Hold On, Hold on, get ready to enter the

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J Spot, the Jase Spot on Intellectual Radio dot Com.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
Good evening, Good evening, Good evening, and welcome to the
best night of your life. You have entered the J Spot,

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where we are strengthening relationships and families, one conversation at
a time.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
On Intellectual radio dot Com. We are an iHeart station.
I'm your host Jay. You all thank you so much
for allowing me to share a tiny portion of this
evening with you. Guys. Listen, we have an amazing show
lined up for you tonight. This is our last show

(01:15):
of the year two thousand, twenty five. Y'all, we've made
it twenty twenty five. It is December and you all
are still here listening to me. Some of you all
want me to have shut up. I know, you know
sometimes I feel this. You know sometimes I feel the
same way depending on the day, you know, so you know,

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you know, no harm, no foul. Nevertheless, I thank you
all so much for allowing me to share this portion
of the evening with you.

Speaker 4 (01:45):
Listen.

Speaker 3 (01:46):
The kids, they do have homework. Listen, they are still listen. Yeah,
they probably gonna have a lot of homework. Tomorrow's the
last day for a lot of the kids, but today
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Speaker 4 (02:27):
The jay Spot Radio ja Ye Spot Radio. Guess what
you are.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
I'm gonna give you all a little sneak peek of
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Speaker 4 (02:35):
Listen, I have it.

Speaker 3 (02:36):
Listen. I'll be out kicking it in the streets, you know,
out eating breakfast on Saturdays. I have a little Saturday
morning segment where I go out and kick it and
eat breakfast. And guess what all of that ish is
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Go to Facebook like and follow us there, the j
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y e ass, and we have an amazing show lined up. Look,
I woulda start off with this first hot topic that
wasn't really one of my hot topics. But I'm gonna
start off with this ish first because every time I
come in here, you know the producer, mister Winfrey aka
Stand you know you all, I'm gonna tell you i'ma
When I get off, I'm gonna post this picture and

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you all gonna see why I call him stand from Martin.
But baby, when I tell you he charged for everything.
He wanta charge you five dollars for a twenty five
cent bag of chips. He want to charge you twenty
dollars for a bottle of water. He got a cuss
jar over there that's like got five hundred dollars up
in there, and I've been trying to get that five
hundred dollars sist like twelve years. He won't give it

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to me because I'm probably the only one in here
that don't curse. So he said, I can't get it
because I don't contribute to it. I don't think that
that's fair. Nevertheless, he has on this shirt today. You
all wait till I post this shirt. I'm telling you.
When I looked at this shirt, I told him that
his shirt looks like a rash on somebody's butt.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
That's the pattern of this shirt that.

Speaker 3 (04:03):
He has on. But I'll show you all that. I'm
gonna post that after the show. But listen, our first
hot topic, he asked me. He said, listen, let's talk
about this. So this is for the producer. If a
woman and a man they're dating and first date and

(04:23):
she decides to tell him that she is celibate. Not
she not selling a bit. She's celibate and she is
saving herself for marriage. She doesn't want to do She
don't want to do the uci houchi no more. She
don't want to do the horizontal mumbo anymore. So she

(04:43):
decides she not gonna juice him. She wants to wait
until marriage. And so he wants to know if a
man is told this, should he continue with this woman.

Speaker 4 (04:57):
Or should he say, deuce is because.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
She's decided not to give up that tangerine, and she
decided not to give him none of that sweet thing.
And now he wants to know should he stop? You know,
should a man in that position? Should you not go
forward with this woman says? She says that she wants
to save her Georgia Peach for marriage. She wanta sweet,

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she wanna like Rick James said. She want to save
that good good. She wanna save that nasty thing for marriage.
What do you all think? So he says that a
dude should save deuces because he's spending money on this chick.
And she decides that she don't want to give it
up to him, so he should no longer pursue her,

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or he should not. There should be no more dates
because she don't want to give it up. She wants
to be celibate and save herself for marriage. Now I
can already hear the I can already hear the Internet
thugs right now, I can already hear you the somebody listen,
I'm gonna not all you dudes, but you the dudes
that's right now dropping them real sassy comments. I already know. Listen,

(06:11):
I can hear these, sassy sweet, I can hear them. Yeah, duces,
what I'm gonna be? Wait for what you want to
save it? She want to save it for marriage? Now
she ben gave it or she note gave it to
all these other dudes, but now when she get to me,
now she wont to save it. Well, sir, she could
have decided to save it before she met you, So
now she met you.

Speaker 4 (06:32):
And now she's letting you know that.

Speaker 3 (06:34):
Listen, this is not something that I'm looking forward to
pursuing right now.

Speaker 4 (06:39):
So should you go forward with it? My thing is this, if.

Speaker 3 (06:43):
You can't as a man, if you choose not to
respect her decision to be celibate, then yes, you should
definitely move around. You should definitely move around if you
feel less though going out on a date with her.
Because he's saying, well, what else is there to do?
Let's think about it. How much time in the average relationship,

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How much time do a couple actually spend? What percentage
of the relationship makes up doing the horizontal mambo? So
you gonna throw away a whole good relationship. This could
be potentially your person, and you wanna throw it away
because she don't want to do the nastiness. She don't

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want to do the nasty with you. She don't want
to juice you right now. She said, you know what, Listen,
I wanna wait. I've decided I'm gonna wait until marriage.
So I'm not going to do it with anybody else.
I don't want to do I don't wanna do it
with nobody else until I get married. Now, some of
these fellas are, you know, getting upset about that. And

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here's the thing, ladies, I'll say this, if that's your
stance on being celibate, and you're out here in these
data streets, because I can promise you this these data
streets is not for the week, baby. It is treacherous
out here, So proceed with caution. Now, if you are

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celibate and you are waiting to marry, to marriage, you
are more than entitled and more than welcome to do that.

Speaker 4 (08:21):
But what I'm gonna say this, ladies, I would.

Speaker 3 (08:24):
Say, don't go telling these brothers that you are not
doing it and you're celibate until marriage. I don't advise
disclosing that information. Oh so, Jay, you're gonna tell them
to lie and play games. I'm not telling nobody to
lie and play games about nothing. I'm not telling them,
but you can admit. You can say that you're not

(08:46):
ready to do it right now. That sounds a little
easier to accept, and you know, just each time, I'm
just not ready right now.

Speaker 4 (08:54):
I think that some.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
Men are more prone to accept that I'm not right
now opposed to you telling them that you're celibate. Because see,
here's what when you say that you celebate ladies, here's
what some of the men equate that she not doing
it to me, but I promise you she doing it

(09:15):
to somebody else. That's what these guys, a lot of
them equate that with. So we gotta be very very
very mindful with that. You know, will I'm not doing
it it too. Oh, I'm gonna listen, y'all. Look let me.
Can I need somebody to drop some curse words from you, okay,
because I feel some curse fellas. We don't give up

(09:39):
about your money, like we we really don't. I can
I just say most of us we don't because we
got our own coins like, so we're not. I just
need you all to know that we're not pressed like that.
Most of us are not pressed like that. Now I'm
sorry for those of you all that have that are

(10:00):
running into these press chicks. Okay, oh she needs your
money to do this. She need oh I well, she
want me to take it out here to take sir,
we done already been there. We go to girls' nights,
we do girls trips, We go on our own So we, sir,
you are we we really. I keep trying to tell y'all,
y'all get on here and get the blasting, because you

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all have picked the chick that need. You knew she
needed some stuff. You pick the needy chicks, and then
y'all complain and try to make it seem like all
women are out with y'all just to get something to eat.
We don't care. Again, it takes a lot of time
for those of us that got something going on in
our lives. If we're not interested in you, I'm gonna

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tell you we're not going. It takes a long time
to put the right hair on, It take a long
time to put the right bro on. By the big
and by the bank. Have to be secure most of
the time. Fellas cannot tell y'all something. We just want
boy the being and bought a bang to be free.
We wanna walk around our house with bottle being and

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bought a Bang free. We don't want to have to
put them in this contraption and put them like this.
We want them to be free. But we decide to
go out on a date with you all.

Speaker 4 (11:18):
So guess what. We gotta put bottle Being and bot
a Bang up, and we.

Speaker 3 (11:21):
Gotta make them sit real nice, and we gotta you know,
we have to be presentable. We have to put the
good draws on, you know. We have, you know, cause
some of our booties eat dumb panties up like the
cookie Monster. Some of us. I'm not talking about what
that BBL do. I'm talking about what these real natural
corn bread and green booties do out here. Okay, those
the booties I'm talking about. It's a lot. It's so

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it's a lot to get up and get ready to
go on these dates. Especially listen, when you in the
thirty plus plus plus age range.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
Let me tell y'all something.

Speaker 3 (11:56):
It's just because when you get up, it's just something
something gonna be hurting, some gonna be swollen, something gonna
have been and got twisted. It's just a lot of
changes that we have to go through. So we not
like we'll be like, man, I don't even feel like going.
I hope he called me and say he can't make it. Therefore,

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guess what as soon as you say you can't make it,
or we you rescheduling, We up in the room doing this,
taking it, taking this off. Listens shooting that broad across
the room like a sling shot. Baby we like whoa child? Lord,
high mercy, Thank you Lord. I can sit up here
and I can finish doing what I was doing. I
can let these bad boys they be saying give us

(12:39):
free get like like now you see my shirt saying
give us free, give us free. Baby boy a bang
and by the bang, they don't be playing no games.
And y'all sitting up here thinking just won'ta be thinking?
She all with me for she she she all with
me for my money.

Speaker 4 (12:57):
She go digging.

Speaker 3 (12:59):
Listen for those that think that she out trying to
dig for your goal. You can't even found your own goal,
So what the heck is she digging? What is she
digging for? You? Trying to find your own goal? And
you out here saying she digging for your goal? Okay,
bro okay, so again, so my take on it, ladies,

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if you are celibate. I would say, keep that bit
of information, keep that celibate.

Speaker 4 (13:30):
Do not utter that word.

Speaker 3 (13:32):
Do not utter that celibate word, because again I believe
that brothers and some men have some and you know,
some men have some undealt with trauma from dealing with
women that have said that they are celibate and then
only to turn found out that she celebate with him,
but she over here knocking it back somebody else listen,

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rearranging her service and knocking her knocking her eyeball sockets
out because it's somebody over there.

Speaker 4 (14:00):
So some of these dudes have been through that.

Speaker 3 (14:03):
So I can understand, you know, if you know, I
can understand the skepticism in that, so I can tell
I'm fellas, I'm a rock with you all on that.
I can understand you all being skeptical about that. But
I will say this, there are some women out there
that are truly on a celibate journey.

Speaker 4 (14:23):
And here's the thing.

Speaker 3 (14:24):
If you know that issu ain't for you, keep it moving,
Keep it moving, because the last thing, I feel like,
that's so unfair if you try to stick around with
a woman, because now you want to be the one
to push that's just like messing with somebody and that's
a recovering alcoholic or a drug addic, you gonna be

(14:47):
the one to push them off the wagon. How fair
is that? Like, if you know that you are not
about this life, or you don't believe in the celibacy journey,
you don't believe in that for whatever reason, you have
a right. So I'm saying, if that's not something that
you want to be involved with, or that's not something

(15:09):
that you choose to align yourself with, I'm not mad
at that. I'm not mad at that. You listen, move around.
You have to move in whatever works for you. You
have to do what is best for you. So if
a woman is with you and she's saying that she's celibate,
and if that doesn't line up with what you want,

(15:32):
then yes, move around, Ladies. Again, I wouldn't use the
word celibate, but again, at the end of the day,
you have to respect this man. He says, Listen, I'm
not gonna be with nobody that I'm spending my money
on and I'm not getting nothing in return.

Speaker 4 (15:53):
Now for me, I don't listen.

Speaker 3 (15:56):
If you wanna almost said the word oh listen, I
had to look over that saying this is kid friendly.
But if you want you a certified street walker, then
go get you a certain five street walker, because anytime
money and doing the horizontal mumbo comes into the same sentence,
you know, I'm just automatically thinking, you know other ways.

Speaker 4 (16:19):
Now I know.

Speaker 3 (16:20):
Listen again, here go these sassy these sassy dudes on here,
I can, I can already hear you. Listen, My spidery
senses are going on. Oh but yeah, but y'all want
dues to pay y'all bills, and y'all wont does to
do all this to take y'all out, y'all want them
to pay for y'all meal.

Speaker 4 (16:39):
Can somebody please let me know?

Speaker 3 (16:42):
Please let me know in the comments what the cuts
word does paying for a woman's date, taking her out
on a date? How does that mean you get to
invade her space and her body and become one with
her body because you pay for a meal? Please help
me understand.

Speaker 4 (17:03):
Oh oh well, then why don't you pay for.

Speaker 3 (17:05):
Your own meal? I will by myself. What do I
need to sit in your face? If you asked me out,
if you're courting me and now you want me to
pay for my own meal.

Speaker 4 (17:17):
Okay, look, I'm.

Speaker 3 (17:19):
Not gonna sit up here and argue back and forth
with you. I look, well, then I think that you
should pay with pay for your meal. Sir. You're right,
you are absolutely right. Bring check, please check, please, So
when we're going, we're not. This is done or what
you mean is done. I don't have, sir. Tricks are
for kids. Tricks are for kids. I need to deal

(17:42):
with a man that's on some man ish if you decide,
let's okay, you know what, Listen, I respect your celibacy journey.
But you know we were just dating. We just going
out on a date. So guess what when you saying that, ladies,
guess what he's doing. He's he's banging somebody else. He's
breaking somebody else off. So here's the thing. That's why

(18:05):
I say, don't be so quick to give up your
celibacy journey, because whether he getting it from you or not,
he's gonna be getting it from you and somebody else.
So now you've given up your celibacy journey for somebody
that's still out there looking for his person. So keep
doing what you're doing if you're on that celibacy journey

(18:25):
for yourself keep on that. Again, I don't think that
it's wise to tell a man that you're celibate. I
don't think that that I would not be uttering that word,
but I would say to say, you know, I'm not
ready right now.

Speaker 4 (18:41):
I'm not ready.

Speaker 3 (18:41):
You know, I'm not ready to take this to that
level right now. And if he can't respect that, then
that's fine. So you both need to move around. So
if she's telling you she's not ready right now and
that's not something that's aligning up with you as a man,
that's not the type of relationship that you want to
be a part of, then I definitely say rock out,

(19:02):
you know, go do your thing. Do not stay in
a situation that does not work for you. So both people,
it's a preference for both people. If those things don't
line up with each other for both people, both people
are free to go their separate way. So again, man,
what do you tell a man to do. If that's

(19:25):
not something that you see yourself are respecting, then move around, ladies.
If he's not receptive to that, then move around. Like
there it is, case closed. So it's like there's nobody
is wrong. He's not wrong for not wanting to be
in that type of situation. He's not wrong for that.
She's not wrong for wanting to be celible. She's not

(19:47):
wrong for being on a celibacy journey. But we get
so mad and the audacity. How dare she be celibate?
I mean, she already did it before. It ain't like
she It ain't like the V word. She done did
it before. How you gonna put something up that's been
How you gonna try to make it new again? It's
already being used? Listen, that's I can hear it. Listen,

(20:09):
I can hear the sassy dudes down. I can hear
them now. It's already being used. So so why now,
why can't I get my turn? Really, ladies, I just say,
look at some of these comments on some of these posts.
Look at some of the things that some of these
dudes say. This lets you know who to stay clear clear,

(20:33):
and I mean clear clear away from, cause some of
these dudes ain't worth Listen, some of these dudes ain't
worth you getting your underwear all in the bunch, for
they really are not because of the way that they behave.
And again, fellas I understand, I can respect the fact

(20:55):
that you would be skeptical about a woman saying that,
you know what, I'm celibate. I can understand that. I
can understand your skepticism, and I support that. I totally,
one hundred percent support that because again, people be out
here playing games. So yes, Jay, every chick, so so

(21:17):
we're supposed to believe that for every check Listen, I'm
gonna tell you every chick that says she's celibate, she
ain't celibate. But what I will say is, who are
you to challenge it? Who are you to challenge whether
she's celibate or not. That's the thing. So if she
say she celibate, what that does? That puts the ball
in your hand. That puts the ball in your court.

(21:38):
Now you get to proceed how you see fit for you.
So each of us have the right to determine what
works for us. But I don't think that it's necessary
to bash a woman that says that she's celibate or
throw up. Okay, well, if if she's celibate, then I mean,

(21:58):
what am I doing. I'm not finna, I'm fin date
nobody that's celibate. What do I get out of it? Nothing?

Speaker 4 (22:05):
Absolutely nothing?

Speaker 3 (22:06):
So you mean to tell me so if she's not celibate,
what more value do you get? Also, because you're doing it,
you getting some of that Georgia peach. So does that equate?
Does that make you feel better about fellas? Does that
make you all feel better about spending y'all money because
you getting some Georgia peach?

Speaker 4 (22:25):
Do that make you feel better?

Speaker 3 (22:26):
I'm aa swipe this card and my heart is gonna
be at ease because I know I'm getting some of
that Georgia peach. I mean, I don't like does that
because why are you? I want to know some of
y'all may not say it on but inbox may let
me know. If you don't want to say it on
on on in the comments, but see of the comments.
Let me know. Does getting the Georgia peach may make

(22:49):
you feel better about swiping your credit card on a date?
I mean the thing? Does that make you feel better?
Does that seem like a worthwhile invent? Now you know
that you're getting the Georgia peach, now you can be
okay with spending your money. Because my thing is this,
whether you got the Georgia peach or not, you still

(23:11):
was gonna be about the.

Speaker 4 (23:11):
Same amount of money.

Speaker 3 (23:13):
So I don't understand how is that making or breaking you.
You're still swiping your card, whether you got the Georgia
Peach or not. At the end of the day when
you go home, your bank account is still gonna be
short whatever it is that you pay for that date.
But I guess the part that makes you sleep well
is you like, m yep, yeah, she dropped man a way,

(23:35):
she dropped that thing down on me. Yeah, I swiped
this card again. I mean, if that's the way it is,
I'm like, look, I can respect that. But again to
each of all, if she's saying that she's waiting or
she is not.

Speaker 4 (23:54):
Open to, you know, physical.

Speaker 3 (23:57):
Relationships, she's not trying to be on that, then you know,
respect that. But ladies, at the same time, you have
to know that this comes.

Speaker 4 (24:06):
At you know, this could cost.

Speaker 3 (24:08):
You because again, some of these dudes are just not
up for that. They're not up for you telling them
that you're celibate and then expecting them to spend their money.
And here's the thing. I use the word expecting. I
use that lightly because again I don't think that grown

(24:29):
women are expecting or feel like they obligated to anything
that belongs to you. If you ask me out, then
I'm expecting you to pay. If you decide not to
pay for whatever reason. Oh listen, we're not gonna We're
not gonna get all bent up out of shape about

(24:50):
it like I'm not. I'm gonna pay for it, and
I'm gonna go ahead on it. I'm gonna keep it moving.
That's That's just how it's gonna be. Oh can I
take you out again where you never took me out
the first time? If I pay for my own stuff,
you didn't take me out. We just so happened to
meet up at the same place. And you know that's
what it is. And if that's how you live and

(25:13):
you do things, okay, get no pushback. This is this
is what I want people to know, God to know
we're not giving you pushback on your preference in how
you do things. Just let that ish be known so
that we can decide if we're gonna put bada bing

(25:34):
and botta bang up, if we're gonna put the good
hair on, we're gonna put the good draws on, if
we're gonna do any of that, if we're gonna come
out with you, because your conversation may be just that
good that you'd be, Like, you know, a man, I
want to get to know more about him. But if
a man, I'm gonna be, but I will be. I
will be honest. If a man tells me that he

(25:59):
only he goes Dutch, the first day will be Dutch.
I'm not going. I'm not going. I'm just oh here, Alessa,
hic oh. I can't wait for the hit of the
sassy dudes. I'm not going. I am not going. Oh
so you just going out with him for his meal?

Speaker 2 (26:16):
For him.

Speaker 3 (26:17):
We've already discussed that. We've already discussed that. Here's the thing, Jay,
why you not going? So? You said, because you're not
spending You don't feel like you should spend no money
on a first date. So that's that's. That's as far
as your creativity goes, Like there's nothing else that don't

(26:39):
cost a lot of money, you just don't. There's nothing
you can't think of, nothing to do, nothing exciting to do. Nothing,
you can't think of, nothing interesting to do. You instantly
went to going to a restaurant and all this and that.
Can I see those are boring first dates? Okay, those
are boring first dates going out to eat like come on.

(27:02):
Can we do something else? Challenge me, scare me, you know,
do list can we do something different? I'm tired. Listen
because sitting down eating, I don't think that you get
to really know a person as well as you can.
Like I want to see how competitive you are. I
want you to see how competitive I am. When you're

(27:24):
sitting and having dinner. That forces you to sit and
put the representative on. But I promise you, if you
go somewhere and you're doing something interactive, listen, I'm gonna
tell y'all a good first date, a really good first date.
Go ASX throwing. Go to the gun range and show
them how good you can cock that that that that

(27:45):
nine milimeter, Go show them how you can load and
cock that rifle. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (27:50):
Listen, leave a little something on a brother's mind.

Speaker 3 (27:53):
You know what I'm saying. But listen, you all go
with these little Oh she won't she want to get
all listens, she want to get all No, go through that.
Go go ax throwing and see how many times she
can hit that bulls eye.

Speaker 4 (28:06):
That means, don't play with her.

Speaker 3 (28:07):
Okay. Those are the type of chicks that you do
not want to play with. If she you could go
take her to the gun range and they bring that thing,
that paperback up and she donna hit all the marks.

Speaker 4 (28:18):
On that target. She's not the chick to be playing with.

Speaker 3 (28:21):
Okay, but you all think that it's all listen, let's
do something. Let's go to do something you can go to,
you know, run the track, take her to your favorite
nature spots. See, you all don't even be thinking of
good dates to do that don't cost money. A lot

(28:43):
of you all think that these dates have to be
about the money, but it's really not about the money.
What type of foresight are what type of thought? What
type of energy are you putting in these dates? So
the dudes that say, oh, well she's celibate or I
don't pay for the first day, Okay, we'll plan something
that does not require your money, you gonna stop. You

(29:03):
gonna not go out if you feel like, okay, well
she gonna be celibate, I don't want to see her.
So you mean that there are not So if she's
let's say three months, so you mean to tell me
there are not three months worth of free to cheap
things that you all could do if you one of

(29:26):
them dudes that feel like, well, I don't feel comfortable
with taking a woman out and paying for to date
if she's not giving me either nasty, if she's not
slobbing on Bob, if she's not tossing that thing up
on me, I don't feel comfortable with taking her out
on a date. If you're one of those dudes, okay,
so plan something, put some thought into a different type

(29:49):
of date.

Speaker 4 (29:50):
But no, most of you dudes.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
And I listen again, I know the keyboard assassins. They
just would just the sassiness. Listen, I can smell the
Victoria secret question. Okay, okay, God may not mind waiting
two months, three months, four months, five months, not more year,
but to marriage you may not even be made material.

Speaker 4 (30:13):
Then why are you sticking around for a year.

Speaker 3 (30:15):
He said that if you're waiting all of that time,
she may not be marriage material. And guess what, that
is a great point. So in the process of you
dating her, if you find out that she's not marriage material,
no harm, no foul, break it off and go your
separate way. That was her point. She doesn't want to

(30:39):
keep doing it only for dudes to find out she
not marriage material.

Speaker 4 (30:44):
There is very quiet there is.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
Listen, Honestly, it could be the chick that is the problem.
So I'm not saying it's the dude. I'm not saying
it's the chick. All I'm saying is, ladies, do not
say celibate. Stop telling these dudes you celibate, even if
they even if you are, stop telling these brothers that
you are celibate.

Speaker 4 (31:06):
Keep that word to yourself.

Speaker 3 (31:09):
Fellas. I'm not telling her to lie to you or
deceive you. I'm just telling her to use another word,
because it's not what you say is how you say it.
So again, when you get to that point and she
tells you she's not ready, then guess what that means

(31:29):
were not doing it today? That mean we not doing
it today. But ladies, if you tell me and that
you are celibate and you are not doing it until
you get married, you are killing your chances on relationships
because me and they don't think. They don't think structured
in all the good reasons. They don't think about celibacy

(31:50):
like that. A lot of them don't. A lot of
them when you say you're celibate, that put a red
This is what they see I'm gonna do Like this
when you say you celibate.

Speaker 4 (32:01):
This is what they see. This, This is that they like.

Speaker 3 (32:05):
We ain't getting no mouth action, We ain't getting nothing, ma'am, bump.

Speaker 4 (32:10):
This ish, I'm not finna. That's what they see.

Speaker 3 (32:12):
Ladies. You take all the hope and the dreams out
the dudes like you deflate them in wanting to You
just take away everything that's in them.

Speaker 4 (32:24):
You take away the whole goal. It's like you.

Speaker 3 (32:27):
They know they not gonna win the race, so they
stop trying because you're killing them with that word celibate.
So stop using that. Even if you are and you
are proud of yourself, pat yourself on the back. But
I can assure you this, these fellas are not proud
of you for being celibate. They are not. They don't

(32:49):
want to hear about your celibacy journey. They don't want
to hear how your baby daddy or your ex husband
did you. They don't want to hear any of that.
They don't they don't care about why you're celibate.

Speaker 4 (33:02):
All they know and all they heard.

Speaker 3 (33:05):
Was they not gonna be getting none of that sweet thing.
They're not gonna get that, Georgia Peach. That's the only
thing they heard. They haven't heard your tearful confession to them.
They haven't heard your heart feel story. They have not
heard any of that. You said it, but they didn't

(33:25):
hear it. They stopped listening once you said celibate.

Speaker 4 (33:29):
They checked out.

Speaker 3 (33:31):
So if you don't want these brothers to check out,
let's stop saying you know that celibate because again, it's
just not going to end well. Am I saying, don't
be celibate? No, continue with your journey? You should you date?
Why celibate? Yes, just don't use the word celibate. And again,

(33:54):
fellas if you come across a woman and you feel like,
you know what, listen, I don't wait. I'm a grown man.
I got needs. I need my needs to be met.
Guess what, Whether she came up off for celibacy journeys,
let's keep let's keep it a buck. Whether she doing
it to you or not, you gonna be doing it
to her and somebody else. So stop pressing these ladies

(34:16):
on on they celibacy journalsy. Just like she may be
doing it to somebody else, you gonna be doing it
to somebody else too, So y'all both even so let's
just you know get up off of that. So if
she celibate, ladies, keep being celibate, cause guess what, you
come up off your celibacy journey. He's still doing it
with somebody else. He gonna be doing it to you
and somebody else. So just don't even waste your time.

(34:39):
He's gonna break up with me. If I don't do
it to he's gonna break up with me. He's still
gonna break up with you. He gonna do it to you.
He gonna do it to you a few times. You
gonna have your celibacy journey ruined, and then he gonna
break up with you, and then then you're gonna have
to start over. He is celibate, So just stick to
your celibacy. Gun, Just stick to it us again. Keeping

(35:01):
somebody doing the Horrizon told mambo ain't gonna keep no dude.

Speaker 4 (35:06):
I'm just if he don't want to be there with you.

Speaker 3 (35:08):
Celibacy is not gonna keep a man from being away
from you if he really want to be with you.

Speaker 4 (35:13):
It's not what I will.

Speaker 3 (35:15):
Say, Ladies, is if you are celibate, please be keep
it real with your celibacy and be celibate. Don't be
playing with these because this again, this is why a
lot of these dudes hate to hear women say they're celibate,
because they find out that you're not really celibate. I
think that men will respect women more if women said

(35:35):
that they were celibate and then they actually, you know, men,
she really is celibate, Like he don't see you sneaking
around with no other dudes. Because that's what a lot
of these dudes have been faced with. They've been met
with women saying that they're celibate and then only to
find out that she's celibate for him, but she not

(35:56):
still celibate for the dude that she letting smash. And
so so now this man feels used, and rightfully so,
because he's taking you out and you're leading him to
believe that you're living this you know, this good wholesome life.

Speaker 4 (36:11):
When you really living this good wholesome life.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
You about that whole throw And now he mad because
he done found out that you ain't who you say
you gonna be who you said that you are, which
is celibate. Fellas, stop questioning why she's doing it again,
it's her body. If you don't if that's not something
that you down with then don't be down with it.

(36:35):
Don't be down with it, just don't. But ladies, you can't.
You can't be celibate for this dude and then he
catch you slobbing on bob over on somebody else's because again,
that's gonna leave these dudes with a sour taste in
their mouth. And that's why they don't trust when women
say that they are celibate, because they know the tricks

(36:57):
in the games that come with it. But fellas, can
I reassure you there are really some women out here
that really do participate in that celibacy lifestyle again, and you'll.

Speaker 4 (37:09):
You'll you'll know who she is.

Speaker 3 (37:11):
You'll know, you'll be like, dang, you know, man, she
really she really serious. So I just say this, watch people,
Just watch and see what they do. You gonna you're
gonna find out. You gonna find out if she really
celibate or if she just keeping it all lock from you.
She don't want to do it to you, but she's
still out here doing it to somebody else. So again, ladies,

(37:33):
were not gonna do that part. If you not rocking,
then were not rolling. But listen, speaking of rocking and
speaking of rolling, look What do you all think about this?
You know I have to squeeze in a little celebrity news.
What are you all? What are your feelings on this
Michigan coach and this whole situation where this brother has listen,

(37:58):
he risked it, he threw it all away over some tail.
Oh when I say, oh, listen, my spirit hurts just
thinking about what he's gone lost over this chick.

Speaker 4 (38:14):
What do you all think?

Speaker 3 (38:15):
Do y'all think that they will honor firing him. Do
y'all think that he should be fired? What do you
all think? Do you think he should be fine? Do
you think that he should serve some jail time? What
do you all think about that? Because it's like fellas brothers,
And let me say this, brothers, this is specifically for

(38:37):
the brothers. Come on, y'all taking too many al's over here,
too many al's with these other chicks. Y'all taking too
many l's with these pink chicks. I don't understand y'all
crying over a chick being celibate, but you gonna go,
Shannon Sharp. You gave this chick fifty million dollars. She

(39:00):
won fifty million dollars because of your crazy reckless behavior.
But you crying about Oh, I don't take women out
to do that, and they're not for to be getting up.

Speaker 4 (39:09):
I'm noting to be paying.

Speaker 3 (39:12):
Shining you paying, You ended up paying out the wahoo.
You could have just got you a good grown woman
and just bought her a couple of meals. It would
have been cheaper than what you ended up having to
pay this girl. When are y'all gonna leave these pink
chicks alone? Losing everything? Everything? I mean six point one

(39:35):
million dollars over some tail? I listen, I don't care
if the tail was bronzed, if it was platinum.

Speaker 4 (39:44):
I don't care if that thing had automatics?

Speaker 3 (39:47):
Was it worth six point one million dollars? Sir? Do
I feel bad you outlook? I don't. I mean cause
I'm just like not to be like that. Listen, fellas,
do not go in. But I don't like how much
sympathy are we? So that's just like you all saying

(40:08):
when she picked her baby daddy, So no, no, no,
don't feel bad for he picked these pink chicks? So
why should we feel bad for them? How many examples
do you all have to see before you learn you
know what this ain't for me. I'm not you know what,

(40:30):
I'm gonna stay clear. I'm gonna stay over here on
on this, on on this, on this, on this, this
side of the track, because it ain't it's not worth it.
So I definitely wish him the best. I truly do,
I truly do. Do I think that he should lose
it all. Absolutely not. I don't think that he should

(40:53):
lose it all because of you know, a consensual a
consensual relationship. And she is now doing everything that she can.
She's rolling the dice and she not listen. She done
flipped on them. So she rolling the dice and doing
everything in her power so that she can keep her job. So,

(41:16):
as Chris Brown said, these hs ain't loyal. That chick
wont loyal from the get go. She wont to loyal
from jump. Now she about to say whatever she gotta
say to use him as a scapegoat so she don't
lose nothing, and he's gonna lose everything. That's the choice
that he made. I hope that he all well, that

(41:38):
ends well. I hope that he does not lose his
livelihood over an affair.

Speaker 4 (41:45):
I really hope that he don't.

Speaker 3 (41:47):
But that just kind of goes back and reminds me
of the situation a couple of months ago with the
couple the CEO at the Coldplay concert.

Speaker 4 (41:56):
Now, listen, there's been a change in that story.

Speaker 3 (41:58):
You are listen miss miss the side chick from the
married side chick from the Coldplay incident that happened a
couple of months ago. And that was the story where
the CEO and his assistant or a human resource lady,
they were caught on the cam on the dash cam

(42:19):
at a Coldplay concert. Well, the lady and they both
were married and they were having you know, this whole
little trish. Well, there's a new development in that situation.
The lady comes out. Now she's saying it was alcohol involved.
So she that's why she was there. And that's ma'am.

(42:41):
She gonna blame it on an actually gonna blame it
on an alcohol You all, ma'am, we're not going for that.
You've had an affair with this man, Fess up to
a stop. You play these Tom and Jerry type game. See,
this is what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (42:58):
They not loyal.

Speaker 3 (42:59):
They gonna do whatever what they can do to get
out of to mitigate whatever damage that they or and
whatever punishment that may.

Speaker 4 (43:07):
Be coming their way.

Speaker 3 (43:09):
They're gonna do everything they can do to mitigate those
damages and responsibility on their behalf.

Speaker 4 (43:15):
But this shit, she's like, I'm gonna blame it on
the alcohol.

Speaker 3 (43:20):
So, ma'am, you mean to tell me so each time
you was at home getting dressed, you was cleaning that thing,
making sure you was ready because you knew what was
going down, And you're gonna blame that on alcohol, No, ma'am, No, ma'am.
Go this way with that bull junkie. Go this way
with that bull junkie. Fess up. Just say, listen, you

(43:41):
know I'm a hooker at heart. Just go ahead. Your
husband know you a hooker, your kids know you're a hooker.
Just go ahead on and just say you know what. Listen,
I got loose, I got loose drawls. My husband can't
trust me. The man I was having an affair, he
can't trust me. Look how you're trying to roll the
dice on him and trying to make it seem like

(44:03):
it was at home.

Speaker 4 (44:07):
The moral of the story, you are.

Speaker 3 (44:10):
Listen, listen. It doesn't pay to this. It's too much
technology is out there, Like I don't know I would
be afraid to cheat because it's so many cameras everywhere.

Speaker 4 (44:25):
Like, it's so much going on, you don't know.

Speaker 3 (44:29):
Listen, people got tracking devices, they're installing this on your phone,
that on your social It's just so much going on,
so many ways to get caught. So to me, it's
not worth it. Should this coach from Michigan lose his job.

Speaker 4 (44:47):
Over this affair? No, I don't think now.

Speaker 3 (44:51):
Listen him pulling a knife and all of that other foolishness,
Now that foolishness that spas out that he had, can
we just say that it was just he was it
was just temporary insanity. Can we just say that We
gonna just say that it was temporary insanity, and we
just gonna leave it at that, and we just gonna

(45:11):
let him go and put him at I don't think
he shouldn't even have to leave that school, to be honest.
Slap him a fine, or give him a suspension, a
five day, ten day suspension, a ten game suspension.

Speaker 4 (45:24):
And bring him on back. I don't think that, Listen,
that was a.

Speaker 3 (45:27):
Consensual grown folk. You you you firing him for slapping
cheeks with a chick that willingly showed up to get
her crunchberries, you know, mashed up. She went to get
them potatoes mashed. Why are you firing him? So? I
don't think that he should be fired. Cedric get saying

(45:49):
he lost seventy five percent of his company and she
got all her marital assets removed. That's a lot. That's
a lot for some tail. That's that's that's a lot
because when when when you bought, when you think about it,
when it's all said and done, you lost all of

(46:09):
that over some tale, over some tales. See it don't it. Listen,
it don't pay it. It does not pay to step
out like that. It does not like they losing people
losing careers, You losing stocks and bonds and options and
all of this other you losing all kinds of ish.

(46:31):
We have to get better. Listen, you all listen. That's
why some listen. Some people need to engage in a
little celibacy so you can challenge yourself to not be
making these type of decisions and stay out. That got
dog on porn hub. See that's what got think that
coach and Trump. I know he looked like he's a

(46:53):
busty becky subscriber on porn club. He looked like he
got him a Busty Becky chown on poorn hub. Stay
off that gap. Now you may say, Jay, now, how
you know the channels on a porn hub? Man, your business.
I'm just saying, I'm we're not talking about why do
I know that there's a Busty Becky channel out that?

Speaker 4 (47:15):
Man, your business.

Speaker 3 (47:16):
We're talking about the coach from Michigan having the Busty
Becky channel. Okay, that's who we're talking about.

Speaker 4 (47:23):
Okay, Busty Becky.

Speaker 3 (47:25):
So stay off of listen, stay off that porn hub,
Stay off that porn hub, Stay off out these people dms,
stay off these people. Fans only, super fan super freak
fan pages, y'all, stay listen. You gotta govern yourself accordingly, see,
because that's what the problem is. Enough people are not

(47:45):
governing themselves accordingly, and then you find yourself over here
in these type of situations. Now listen, you are speaking
of situations. Let me know what, because I don't know
the game must have change. But listen, this lady, her
and her husband, I'm saying, like her husband because that's

(48:09):
in her video. She let it be known my husband
in the way she looked my husband. So this lady
and her husband. She says that they were at the
store and her husband is a tall he's a taller brother,
and so she said that there was these two women

(48:30):
at the store and her and her husband were together,
and the women asked the man, her husband, if he
could grab something off the shelf and give it to
them because they could not reach up to giddy because
they were too short and it was too high up.
And she said that her husband looked at her to

(48:53):
get permission to grab the items off the shelf, and
in her video, she's bregged. She's like, he already he
already know he knew to look back, he knew to
ask me, could he help these women out by grabbing
some stuff off the shelf for them?

Speaker 4 (49:16):
And it said, what is this is?

Speaker 3 (49:21):
Was that insecure of this wife? Was all of that necessary?
Or fellas? Did she do right?

Speaker 4 (49:28):
Would you have to get your spouse's permission.

Speaker 3 (49:32):
To assist somebody assist a woman? Would a husband have
to get permission from his wife if she's there with
him at the store to grab an item off of
a shelf in a store that may be too high
up for another customer? Or should the women have asked

(49:52):
the woman, excuse me, can your husband grab this off
the shelf?

Speaker 4 (50:00):
What's the right? What's the protra? I mean, did she
do too much?

Speaker 3 (50:04):
Because I'm like watching her video, I felt like, mm,
misdoing too much vibes, That's what I felt.

Speaker 4 (50:13):
However, you know, I will be honest about this.

Speaker 3 (50:19):
Going to the store.

Speaker 4 (50:21):
If I can't reach something, I don't want no.

Speaker 3 (50:26):
Smoke because our lord, I don't want to have to
say nothing. I want this mouth to speak life and
to speak good things. But I know that this mouth
can be full of venom if provoked in the wrong space.
So I definitely make sure that I numb yet ol

(50:46):
raiki before I go out so that I can just
be in tune with me. So I know that for me,
had it been me, would I have asked this man
to grab something off the top shelf?

Speaker 4 (51:02):
For me?

Speaker 3 (51:03):
I would not have because I don't want no smoke.
I don't want to have to disrespect your wife. I
don't want to have to dis I don't want I
don't want to so I personally because I'm definitely not
gonna ask. You're a woman, can your husband when he
right there?

Speaker 2 (51:19):
Like?

Speaker 3 (51:19):
Cause I don't feel like for me if my husband
is there and I see them, I'm like, Bay, get
this for Hu. That's what I would say, or if
they felt like they wanted to ask him directly, like
I didn't feel like for me personally, I don't feel
like that's you. Don't you wouldn't have to ask me
because I'm secure in what we got. Like if a

(51:42):
random chick at the store can take you, then you
wu wasn't you. Wasn't you wasn't mine in the first place.
That's just how I am. I'm like, I don't walk
around with the I'm not a barrel of misinsecurity.

Speaker 4 (51:56):
I'm just like, it's not that deep for me.

Speaker 3 (51:59):
How Whoever, I respect people's marriages and I respect people relationships,
so I would not have asked.

Speaker 4 (52:09):
I listen, and I'm gonna tell you listen.

Speaker 3 (52:10):
I'm gonna promise you'll if you ever see me at
Walmart somewhere, and if I can't reach it, I'm.

Speaker 4 (52:16):
Gonna tell y'all. Listen.

Speaker 3 (52:17):
I'm gonna tell y'all exactly what I do. If I
don't see an associate, I'm gonna tell y'all what I do.
If it's not glass or something breakable, then I go
to the broom, I go over to the broom owl,
or I'll go and grab something that's tall and I'll
stick it up there and I'll just I'll let everything

(52:39):
fall down and then I'll just get the one I want.
That's what I do if I see what I prefer
to see, an associate, because I'd be tired of making
a mess at these stores and then you all have
to come and clean it up.

Speaker 4 (52:51):
I'll be tired of doing I'm so sorry to be
doing that.

Speaker 3 (52:54):
But like I need the cheese puffs while y'all had
the cheese the bag of the last bag of cheese
puffs all the way on the top shelf when we
can't reach that, I can't reach that, So now I
got to go to the broom out and go get
the broom. Or if I can't reach the ice cream
at the back, it's just one more back there.

Speaker 4 (53:12):
Now, I gotta go get the.

Speaker 3 (53:13):
Plunger and stick the plunger in there and pull it
to the front. Jay, how you know what? Because this
is what I do in real life. I will go
and get a broom in a minute and knock the
cheese pump down.

Speaker 4 (53:28):
I go get it.

Speaker 3 (53:29):
Listen, I get a plunger and stick it in a
refrigerator thing it because the plunger. Why a plunger, because
you can put it in there and it'll pull the
item forward. See the broom is for poking the bags
and make everything fall down. Then now you get cheese
puffed the plunger. You stick that bad boy in the
freezer and you can just pull everything forward on your own. Now,

(53:51):
if there's a nice customer that's stunting, ma'am, I got it,
I can help you. Thank you so much. I really
appreciate it, because I was on a mess all a
inventory up in here, because they should make sure that
the stuff is down so we can all fit up
there and get it. But that's just me, Cedric. You
is saying, he's a smart brother. Hey, he don't want
to he the one that gotta go home here. I'm

(54:14):
just saying, but do y'all think, Cedric, you don't think
that that's too much? Is that so? Is that the
way it should be done? Because now I'm not have
to have my husband. You better ask me for permission,
you better ask me. Can you help somebody for me? Again?

Speaker 4 (54:29):
It's not that deep. Maybe I don't. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (54:32):
Wives. Let me know, am I thinking or is she
right about that? Was this wife right again, I'm not.
I can't speak for her because I don't like. That's
just the way that they rock and roll in their home.
So I can respect that. I can respect the way
you know that she got that she run that ship
over there. But I will be honest, looking at the

(54:55):
video and the way that she said it, I mean,
it was, it was, it was. It's a little bit
too much for me. It was a little bit too much.
And I'm just like, mmm, it's not that deep. It's
not that deep. It's not that deep. Like you can
fix it, and you can grab the stuff. The time

(55:16):
that it took for her to and look and huff
and puffing all that, sir, you could have got the
stuff and gave it to the ladies and they could
have been all went on about their business. But again,
her reaction as a wife is why I don't. I
would not ask people to do anything. Now, I would say,
on the flip side, I've been in situations. Listen, my

(55:37):
son and I we would be at the store and
women and I know it's my son now, my man,
But again, you don't know what the situation is there's
been women to ask my son, can you get that?
Or if I see or if I see somebody, I'd
be like, go over there, can you go over there
and help her?

Speaker 4 (55:57):
Now I will say this.

Speaker 3 (56:00):
He will often grab my arm because he always liked
to grab me by my arm, and he like, listen,
belove it, come on, come on, see stay out of it.
You always cause he say, I'm always in people business,
So he'll grab me by my elbow. He's like, come on, hey, hey,
come on, come on you.

Speaker 4 (56:16):
All right today?

Speaker 3 (56:16):
So he always checked the because he said, my son say,
I'm crazy. I don't y'all gotta just keep their brother lifted.
But he's like, you know, if you would mind your beasts,
he said, I need to mind my business. If you
mind your business, leave people alone. And so he'll grab
my arm if I'm trying to get him to help somebody.
I listen, we're not going nowhere until you helped this lady.

(56:39):
She didn't ask for no help. But honestly, you see
her struggling. I don't see nothing. You see it, and
if you man your own business, you wouldn't see it.

Speaker 4 (56:49):
So I don't know, but I just you know, I
talk to strangers.

Speaker 3 (56:52):
I like to help strangers, and you know, like I'm
always in somebody's business. I feel like if it's a
chance to be a blessing to somebody or help somebody out,
like no harm, no foul, Like uh did it really
take any Was you gonna lose any sleep off your bag?
Because your husband helped this man setya get saying what
she vindictim. She sounded to me insecure. And that's all

(57:20):
I'll say because I don't want to go I don't
want to bash your sister, but I just it wasn't
that deep for me. But when I saw the video
and looking at her, I can understand why she would.
I can understand that. But as a general rule of thumb,
that's why I said for me, because I don't want
to have to intercount interact with somebody a wife that

(57:41):
feels like that, I would just get the ish myself.
I don't need you helping me. I listen again. I
know where the brooms are, I know where the plungers are,
and if it's something of glass or something that can
be broke, or is it something heavy, then I have
no problem with finding finding an associate. So like cause again,
it's just not that deep. But again, if you gotta

(58:06):
get permission, and I mean, like, let's talk about permission.
Are there things that you need to get your spouse's
permission to do? In my opinion, I do. I think
that there are things. Again, what I say the word
permission because that sounds like we're dealing with kids. But
let's just make sure we're okay. I need to make

(58:29):
sure he okay with this. He should make sure I'm
okay with certain things. Yes, there are things that we
should you know, take our partners, our husbands, our wives,
our spouses, our partners. We should take their feelings into consideration.
So I don't want you all to think that, oh oh,
she's saying that you don't have to No, I'm not
saying that. I'm just saying this particular situation will grabbing

(58:52):
something and giving it to a customer in the store,
and everybody keep on moving as separate ways. I don't
feel like that was something that needed permission. But again,
like Cedric said, this man know who he gotta go
home to, and he don't want to have to have
a breathing dragon because she now, she did look like
she was gonna give him some smoke. Had he got
that stuff for them ladies. Oh, he was never gonna hear.

(59:15):
He was never gonna live that down. And to me,
I don't think that that's a situation that he should
have even have to deal with, you know, taking some
slock over helping somebody out. But that's nevertheless just helping
and just that whole type of foolishness. Again, if we
going out somewhere, If I'm gonna go out of town

(59:35):
or something with my girls and it's gonna be for
the weekend, Babe, I'm gonna go out, you know, like,
is it okay? What you think about me going out
with my girls this weekend?

Speaker 4 (59:46):
We going here?

Speaker 3 (59:46):
We're going at That's that's that's a comment. That's something
that we should talk about. He the same way, littenbe
my boys were getting together, were doing this. What do
you think about that? Is it cool that I go like? What?

Speaker 4 (59:59):
You you got something playing for this?

Speaker 3 (01:00:01):
Again? We checking in with each other. So again, that's
that's definitely Those are definitely conversations and check ins and
getting permission and what however you label it. Those, in
my opinion, are some situations where that type of conversation
needs to take place, but the go in and just

(01:00:21):
helping somebody out. Like, ma'am, you're doing entirely too much. Now,
speaking of doing entirely too much, what do you all
think about this? So this man, he says that his
kid's mother, she got mad at him because he purchased

(01:00:43):
items for his kids, but he didn't give the mother
the cash. So instead of him giving the mom cash,
he went out and bought some stuff. And he's like,
you know, she was very, very very upset. And he's like,
what are you upset for. You don't have a right
to be upset. I mean, I didn't give you no money,

(01:01:05):
but I did buy some stuff for the kids. So
what do you upset about? What do you all think
about that situation? Like he feels like, you know, she's
overreacting in the situation. He feels like, you know, since
I bought the kids something, I bought stuff, I showed up.
I didn't give you any money, but I bought stuff

(01:01:28):
for my kids and I showed up. That should be it.
That's it, that's all. What is your problem. I'm taking
care of my kids. What do you all think about that?
Because it's a couple of different ways.

Speaker 4 (01:01:43):
To look at that. So let's look at.

Speaker 3 (01:01:45):
A couple of possibilities in a couple of scenarios on
how or why the mother could be upset and rightfully
so being upset. Listen, fellas, before y'all get listened, before
y'all become them, them typing assasses.

Speaker 4 (01:02:01):
Just give me a second.

Speaker 3 (01:02:03):
So the first thing is okay, So he bought items
for the kids, and she's upset because he didn't give
her money. So let's ask this, what items did you buy?
If you bought a bunch of useless items for the kids,
she has a right to be upset. Jay, what you mean?

(01:02:25):
He what you mean? He bought some useless stuff for
the kids? Them his kids. He can buy hole fast.
If your kids need school uniforms, and you come and
you bought five bags of grocery and it ain't nothing

(01:02:46):
in that but junk and twinkies and chips and juices
and stuff. She has a right to be upset because
guess what they already have juices, chips and snickers and
all they already have have that they needed school uniforms.
So if you didn't want to give her the money,
then you should have bought the school uniforms. Don't go

(01:03:09):
buy some useless stuff and then say that she is upset,
but you bought useless stuff. Like again, we come on,
we gotta be honest, we gotta make it make sense.
If you are a father, it is the other way around,
and your kid needed something specific, the mother didn't get

(01:03:32):
the specific thing that they needed, or she didn't give
you the money that she was supposed to have gave you,
but she went to the store. If she bought some
useless stuff that the baby did not need and she
brought it to you and expected you to say, Okay, well,
at least he bought something for the kids. Well no,

(01:03:55):
that's not what they needed, like we're not gonna have
to go crazy, and because he out and all of
this other stuff. But if you're asking if they need
book bags and you buying them cookies and milk and
juice and all of this other stuff, come on, it's
not the same. Yes, you're free to buy your kids

(01:04:16):
whatever you need you want them to have, but that
doesn't negate the fact that you still have a responsibility.

Speaker 4 (01:04:24):
They still have stuff that needs to be done.

Speaker 3 (01:04:27):
Because it's like okay, yeah, you've went out and you've
bought all of this grocery and stuff, but that's not
what was needed. That's not what was needed. They need shoes,
they need socks, they need underwear. That's not what was
needed at that time. I could see how the mom
would be upset. I could see how she would be

(01:04:51):
upset about that. Now, if you've bought that, or the
kids are squared away in all areas and she just
wants some money, again, you are luck. It's expensive to
take care of kids, Okay, it truly is expensive. So
it's just like if you are a dude.

Speaker 4 (01:05:13):
And you don't have much money and.

Speaker 3 (01:05:17):
You're doing what you can, this conversation in this statement
is not a dig at you, because if you're getting
your kids, you taking to school, and you making a
way to keep they clothes clean, you're contributing. You're doing
the best that you can for the situation that you're in.
That's cool. If you're that dude, is she asking for

(01:05:40):
some shoes and she asking for all of this and
you're not able to get that, all you're able to
do is get the stuff that you did bring over,
then that's different. But if you're a dude, that's just
you don't want to give her the money because you
just feel like I don't want to give her the money,

(01:06:02):
and you just going and buying some useless, frivolous stuff, like,
of course she's gonna be upset. Ladies on the flip side,
you can't be the chick that every time he give
you money that's supposed to be for the kids, you're
blowing it like the kids don't have nothing, you not
using his money towards buying them nothing, and your dog

(01:06:25):
on shore not using your money towards buying them anything.

Speaker 4 (01:06:29):
He has a right to be upset.

Speaker 3 (01:06:31):
But if she's taking care of the kids, and you
know she's doing right with the money by the kids,
why would you not give her the money if you
know that she's taking care of your kids. And Cedric said,
that's what child support is for, absolutely, And I know
some people feel like, you know, you shouldn't have to

(01:06:52):
go to child support, and I'm like this, if you
can work it out, and they're very few situations that
you know, actually and peacefully in this, but there are
some people, some parents that do co parent then work it.

Speaker 4 (01:07:09):
Out, but you can't look.

Speaker 3 (01:07:12):
Co parenting is very very difficult when both parents are
not on the same page. You gotta be very careful
about that. You know, people, you got this person, I'm
moved on with a new relationship, and so they trying
to you know, incorporate the kid into the new relationship
with the fold and you got the other parent plan

(01:07:34):
tugger war with the kids and stuff. So these co
parenting situations are definitely can be definitely difficult. So fellas,
I'm like this, if you are not able to see
your kids because you know the chick is holding the kids.
Because again, let's be honest, some women hold these kids

(01:07:54):
as and they play them as the queen on that chessboard,
especially when they know that these fathers love them kids,
and you know, they do anything to stick it to
you and your heart, and the best way that they
do it is through your kids. I say this, do
your best to look take them to court.

Speaker 4 (01:08:16):
I know it can be an expensive process.

Speaker 3 (01:08:19):
I know it can be a lengthy process, but you
have to fight for your kid because I often like
to give this example.

Speaker 4 (01:08:25):
If you a man, if you went outside.

Speaker 3 (01:08:29):
And you saw that your car was stolen or whatever
the case is, what are you gonna do. You're gonna
call the law, You're gonna get the law involved and
you're gonna get that situation rectified. So the same with
your kids. Why don't we take the same the same measure,
have that same love that we have for our physical things.

(01:08:50):
That's the same type of fight and drive that we
have to have for our kids. Is it difficult, It's difficult.
I'm never saying that is easy. I'm never gonna say
that because I've seen some good dudes get railroaded by
this system. I definitely have. I'm not saying that this

(01:09:11):
system is fair. It's not just Again, it's just another
tool and my opinion that's designed to keep black families apart.
But that's my opinion and that's my feel on it.
But do whatever you can to have a harmonious situation

(01:09:33):
and co parents in situation. It's like when you have
all that bickering and arguing and somebody still got some feelings.
I'm gonna say that we arguing over what somebody mad
about something. Somebody got some rocks in their jaws about
something that was personal that has nothing to do with

(01:09:53):
the kids. And we gotta kind of check that ish
in the nip that in the bud and focus on
doing what's best for the kids. But fellas, you cannot
come and get some useless stuff for the kids and
then expect the mom to just be okay and say,
you know what, will at least he bought something. No no,

(01:10:17):
no no no no no no no no no. In
these cases again, when they need some clothes and some
shoes and you coming up in there with some chips
and some juice and all this, of course she's gonna
be furious because guess what you bought chips and juice
and your kids still need shoes, coats, book bags and
clothes and all. They still need all of this. But

(01:10:40):
you feel like, Okay, I'm gonna stick it to her.
She can't make me do this. She can't listen. It's
not about making you do anything. You should be looking
at your kids. Here's the thing, this is my thing.

Speaker 4 (01:10:51):
Will say this.

Speaker 3 (01:10:53):
If you don't know what your kids need, you ain't
around them enough. If you don't know that you kids
need some new socks and some newness and new you
not around them enough. You not talking to them often enough.
You know why, because your kids are gonna tell. If
your kids got a relationship with you, your kids are

(01:11:16):
going to tell you what they want and what they need.
They gonna tell you, Daddy, I need some new shoes.
My shoes is your kids gonna tell you? If you
come in and picking your kids up on a regular basis,
you're going to tell you're gonna be able to see
these things.

Speaker 4 (01:11:36):
You're gonna be able to know this.

Speaker 3 (01:11:38):
You're gonna know that man I ain't bought I ain't
bought him no shoes in three months. Let me grab
them a pair of shoes. If you have a relationship.
So it's a lot that goes into these things. And
sometimes a lot of these situations be skins, but let's

(01:11:58):
keep it real. A lot of this is happens in
real life. So the goal, let the goal for twenty
twenty six be if you are co parenting, work on
your communication with each other. You don't have to like
each other, you don't have to be best friends, but

(01:12:18):
it's imperative that there is respect both ways. It's imperative
that a level of respect and communication is, you know, raised,
It's very imperative that those two things get better because

(01:12:39):
if not, it only affects the kids.

Speaker 4 (01:12:44):
It only affects the kids.

Speaker 3 (01:12:46):
Cedric, you're saying, she come be mad then because they
need everything they need at my crib.

Speaker 4 (01:12:53):
And that's another common situation right there.

Speaker 3 (01:12:57):
And again I can understand that because some listen, ladies.
I can understand because there are some mothers out there
that the fathers and they bother kids all of this
nice stuff, and they get tired of sending it home
with you and you trifling. You don't wash the clothes,

(01:13:18):
you don't wash the shoes, you don't keep up with
all of this stuff. They bought these good clothes and
these good shoes, and you got your kid over there
looking like a rug rat, so they keep the good
stuff at they house. Now you mad because when your
kid is with you, you let them walk around looking like
they're homeless. But when they go, when the daddy come

(01:13:41):
pick them up, the daddy already know I read no
shame for to send no clean stuff. I'm not gonna
be dealing with her. So I got all clean clothes
and new clothes and shoes, and they stand over here,
so when I get them, he can be clean. Mothers,
you have to raise your vibration. You have to start

(01:14:03):
washing and taking care of stuff better. That's why you
in that situation. He ain't He not keeping that stuff
just because he want to keep it. He's keeping it
because they tied of you wasting their money. They tired
of sitting the little girl. She's sending them with all
these little cute little dresses and all this other stuff.

(01:14:24):
You not washing it. You letting the kids run around
all in the good stuff and mess the stuff up,
And then you got the nerve to beating. No, ma'am, No, ma'am,
you're not gonna be mad at that. Brother.

Speaker 4 (01:14:34):
You are not gonna be mad.

Speaker 3 (01:14:36):
And rightfully so, fellas if y'all are keeping the good
stuff at the house because this chick is raggedy and
trifling and she ain't taking care of keep keeping this
stuff at the house, because let me tell you, if
you bringing the kids, I'm coming to get your kids
and they looking like don't nobody love them and take
care of them?

Speaker 4 (01:14:57):
They not going with me.

Speaker 3 (01:15:00):
No cannot no no no no no no no no, no,
no no. I refuse to have you sitting up here
looking like feeling lel off the rug right, I refuse, no, no, no, Now,
you will not be looking like the red Tello tubby.
You will not not with me.

Speaker 4 (01:15:21):
You will not.

Speaker 3 (01:15:23):
You will not be looking like curious George got them.
No you're not. If you don't have them clean, they're not.
Come listen, you do that dirty trifling mess. I'm not
doing it. If the kids is not clean. Listen. I'm
telling if your kids those be running, you let their
little those be running. Don't don't look. Look. I will

(01:15:45):
flick your kid like a little raisin across the room.

Speaker 5 (01:15:48):
Don't come hey, no, no, no now, wammy bammy no, no, no,
stay back, stay back, get your.

Speaker 3 (01:15:58):
Get your kids. Because I think that kids that look
like that, I think that they got cooties and stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:16:05):
And I'm like they scare our scare easily.

Speaker 3 (01:16:08):
So I just be like, no, no, no, come give you. Hey, hey, hey,
have y'all ever had a little kid in public that
come and they I'm like, oh shoot, what wait a minute,
get it?

Speaker 4 (01:16:20):
Hey, hey, ma'am, get it. Look it's running towards me.

Speaker 3 (01:16:25):
And then it comes and grab your leg. No. Then
I'm like, now I got to go. I'm like, oh
my god, god, little cootie juice all over my jacket,
and and just.

Speaker 4 (01:16:41):
It's not listening you all. It's not a good day.

Speaker 3 (01:16:44):
That's not a good it's not a good look, So
you cannot look you're not. If you want your kids
to go outside with me, we have to compliment each other.
What you mean, Jay, If I'm looking raggedy, then your
kid can be looking ragged We go out, start looking
raggedy again. But if I'm dressed up in your kid,

(01:17:05):
I'm gonna have to send your kid back.

Speaker 4 (01:17:07):
I'm gonna send your kid back in an Uber Eats vehicle.

Speaker 3 (01:17:09):
Your child is on. Your child is being delivered right
back to you because I rebuke this foolishness right here.
I'm gonna rebuke the foolishness that you just sent over here.
I'm going to have to rebuke it. I'm not gonna
be no, We're not going to deal with this.

Speaker 4 (01:17:26):
So listen.

Speaker 3 (01:17:27):
Governing yourselves accordingly, governing your kids accordingly, Fellas. If you
are buying useless ish, stop taking useless ish over there
to your baby mama for the kids. Stop sending useless
ish ladies. If you ragny, and you not cleaning these clothes,
and you not taking care of this stuff that this
man is bying, stop complaining when he don't give you

(01:17:48):
money or if he don't send the good stuff over
there to the house, start taking care of the stuff
that you got, and then maybe you'll see a change
and him sending this stuff over there. But you can't
get mad because you look raggedy and they look like
little stink bugs when they with you. But when they
with him, he wants them to look a certain way.
He has every right to keep that stuff at the

(01:18:10):
house because he knows that you're not gonna do nothing
but tear it up. Now listen, speaking of tear it up,
Look gods, it is a week exactly before Christmas. See,

(01:18:31):
I want my festive Christmas had whoo just for you all.
A week before Christmas, Christmas shopping. The kids have put
these gifts, these lists out. They want all of this
dope stuff. They just want this. They want everything. You all,

(01:18:55):
do not stress yourself out over these gifts and what
these kids wart. Okay, do not stress yourself out. I
said again, do not stress yourself out, especially when you
know that you have taken you taking care of these

(01:19:15):
kids all through the year and you're doing the best
that you can. Some kids have unrealistic taste, okay, and
sometimes you, as the parent, you have to redirect their taste.

(01:19:36):
See some of these kids have iPhone taste. Say amen,
Oh amen, they have iPhone seventeen taste. Hm. But they
got they got prime code flip phone behavior. Amen again, listen,
if you know that that joke had been cutting up

(01:19:59):
in school and then he wants to fix his mouth
to want an iPhone, the only iPhone that you will
see is the eye on my phone. That's the only
eye you will see. Okay, let's go. Let's go there.

(01:20:22):
Some of you all, I need a sip for this one,
Rada min Hold on. Some of you are a couple
of days ago. Amen, had y'all crazy behind standing outside
in that line for those Jordan jym shoes. A man,

(01:20:44):
somebody helped me. Now, oh my lord, you out there
standing outside and that and below their own weather. Whoo
for some Jordan's. When just two to three weeks prior,
we were out here trying to get some food because
they had cut the food stamp program. Oh my god,

(01:21:08):
and we found a way to be in the line
against some Jordan's. Somebody please help me understand, Amen, what
is going on with this foolishness? Y'all gotta help me.
We was just up here. Listen, I'm going hard like listen,

(01:21:29):
y'all need to be giving the food. Then y'all turn
around and end up in that god dang on Jordan line.
Come on, y'all, we gotta do better, like seriously, that
freaking Jordan line was we gonna we have you all,

(01:21:55):
we have to do better. I'm not I'm not trying
to tell nobody how to spend their money, but you
all you have to learn. No, it's just it's not
gonna happen. Okay, it's just not. You all are stressing
out over stuff that physical, all this materialistic stuff for

(01:22:18):
the holidays. It has got to stop. Okay, it has
got to stop. We have to look you stressing out
over all of this stuff.

Speaker 4 (01:22:30):
For what reason? Why are we stressing out.

Speaker 3 (01:22:34):
Over phones and shoes and all.

Speaker 4 (01:22:36):
Of this unnecessary stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:22:38):
Listen, some of us have to have realistic conversations with
these kids. You gotta even have realistic conversations with your
maid and your spouse. Ma'am. If you live in a
two bedroom apartment and y'all got five kids, he's not

(01:23:01):
He cannot afford you a Gucci bag. He can't afford
you a Louis Vautime bag. He can't. You don't even
have any business asking for those type of things because
you don't live a Louis Vauton lifestyle. How do you
have a Louis Vauton purse and your shoes are from Discovery.

(01:23:28):
It doesn't make sense your outfit is from Discovery. Now.
I don't have a problem with Marshalls, Tartan, Discover. I
don't listen my drones. I got look Mabroun, let me
seweze Mabroun. Probably from Marshalls. They ain't from Discovery. They

(01:23:49):
don't have the big no size to fit these these
things up and now. But I don't there's no shade
on those stores. I like those stores. Yeah, outfit from
sin and Fashion Over. But you on a Gucci purse?
Huh No, get you a nice purse now. Now, once

(01:24:12):
you're done a click and got you your outfit off
she Now go to the perse section and get you
a nice purse that match the outfit that you got
off of she in. But stop asking for all lists
unrealistic stuff. You are not a housewife, not the ones
that's on TV shoot They can barely afford it. Let's

(01:24:34):
stop having unrealistic expectations because it stresses us out. And
you know what it causes us to have holiday blues.
We stressed out over gifts on these lists and things
that people are expecting us to do. Listen, this season

(01:24:56):
is hard enough for a lot of people, as if
it is, a lot of people really get depressed around
this time. Some people may experience brief moments.

Speaker 4 (01:25:11):
Of feeling a little bit more.

Speaker 3 (01:25:13):
Upbeat during the season, but then you got other people
that experience moderate to severe feelings of depression that often
lasts throughout the entire holiday season. According to a mental
health research, more than half adults report increased stress, sadness,

(01:25:39):
or loneliness during the holidays, even when they're surrounded by
family and friends. And a lot of this can again
can happen because of stress, not having enough money to
buy the gifts that people are expecting. A lot of

(01:26:00):
people may not have the type of relationship that they
want to have, a lot of people have lost loved
ones through the years, a lot of things, some people
have taken just a lot of ls and it's just
like life and the day to day pressure. It just.

Speaker 4 (01:26:20):
Falls down on a lot.

Speaker 3 (01:26:21):
Of people at this time, a lot of people, and
it is this is serious. We have to take this seriously.
Because it's real. Depression is real. Listen, the people are
dismissing themselves from this world at an all time high,

(01:26:45):
Like young people are just throwing their throwing in the
towel on life because distress is so it's so grave.
In a lot of times, it's a lot of material things,

(01:27:09):
trying to keep up with this one or feeling that
you don't have enough of this and enough look a
simple life and just kind of tuning out all of
the noise around you can sometimes be the most peaceful
place to be at. Cedric, you saying, I acknowledge that

(01:27:33):
Hallmark holiday and bought my babies with gifts, but having
personally celebrated it since two thousand and five when my
son passed away in my hands. While sorry that you
that you experience something like that, Cedric, and I totally
understand because it's just like when you look around, man,

(01:27:55):
the families have gotten some families have gotten thinner and
thinner when family members passing away. So I'm just like,
I love this time of year simply because it's a
time to reflect and to be thankful on how far
we've come through the year, especially if you've taken a

(01:28:17):
lot of ls and just to still be here at
this point.

Speaker 4 (01:28:23):
You have a whole year full of things to be
thankful for.

Speaker 3 (01:28:28):
So it's just like I like to just focus on
family and togetherness, focus on what is going right, because
if we focus on what's going wrong, baby, let me
tell you, we can find everything that's going wrong. Like
everybody under the sound of my voice, almost everybody has

(01:28:51):
something in their life, some type of situation.

Speaker 4 (01:28:55):
It's not always money. Money is not the only.

Speaker 3 (01:28:58):
Situation that has people stressing. There's so many other things
that causes people to stress out. According to an online source,
the holiday blues and feeling sad and depressed that our
feelings of sadness, loneliness, stress, or emotional heaviness that last

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throughout again the holiday season, and people typically start feeling
that like the end of October or the beginning of November.

Speaker 4 (01:29:28):
As we get into this season.

Speaker 3 (01:29:31):
And they suffer from something that's called This is referred
to as the holiday blues. Now the most common symptoms
of the holiday blues is a persistent or reoccurring feeling
of sadness again typically starting in the holiday season, and

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these feelings may vary in intensity and duration. Some people
feel down periodic where other people just listen, they feel.

Speaker 4 (01:30:03):
Bad throughout the whole entire season.

Speaker 3 (01:30:06):
That's why have you ever noticed some people like I
hate Christmas, I don't do Christmas, I don't like Christmas,
I don't like New Year's They have that bun hubbug
because of holiday blues.

Speaker 4 (01:30:19):
Depending on what they've been through.

Speaker 3 (01:30:21):
Some people, as we just saw, you know, have experienced
tremendous losses around this time, and it makes it difficult
to want to celebrate this time of year. And again
we've gotten in a place where the celebration has become
so commercialized. We're just like, oh my freaking god, it's

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not about the biggest, this, the biggest, that, the most.

Speaker 4 (01:30:48):
Expensive, it's not. It truly is not.

Speaker 3 (01:30:55):
Family health, those things that money cannot buy. Those are
things that we should be focusing on for this time
of year. Now, some signs that you might be dealing
with holiday blues, because again a lot of people are

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depressed around this time. Listen, check on your loved ones,
Check on your family and your friends. Check on those
strong people. Check on them, okay, check on them. Check
on those people that you don't think, oh well, they
don't need anybody. They got it together. Check on those people.
Check on those people. Some signs of the holiday blues

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may include listen, they feeling tired all the time. They
sleep much more than normal or much less. They can't sleep.
They either sleeping too much or they not sleeping enough.
They lose interest in activities that they typically enjoyed. They
have trouble making the simplest decisions because their mind is

(01:32:06):
on some other things. They have difficulty concentrating. They don't
want to be around family and friends. All they want
to do is be alone, keep to themselves. They're often irritable,
or they often are angry, or they experience severe feelings
of loneliness. And here's the thing, even when they are

(01:32:28):
participating in things that they would typically enjoy, they find
themselves struggling to have a good time because they're really
not having a good time because they're facing all of
this heavy ish. But they're trying to put on a
face and put on a facade for those around them,

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but deep inside, they're not happy. They are sad, and
they're dealing with all of this ish.

Speaker 4 (01:32:59):
That's why I say they definitely check on your people.

Speaker 3 (01:33:03):
According to an online source, roughly forty to sixty percent
of adults a meant to feeling lonely or emotionally low
during the holidays for various reasons, such as some people
are not able to make it home to be with
their family and friends. Some people it's you know, it's

(01:33:26):
rough because of the loss of a family member.

Speaker 4 (01:33:31):
Some people it's a loss of a job, or.

Speaker 3 (01:33:35):
Financial stress or relationship changes, are broke breaking up.

Speaker 4 (01:33:41):
Listen, all of these things.

Speaker 3 (01:33:43):
That I just mentioned are enough to have anybody down
in the dumps.

Speaker 4 (01:33:49):
Just listen, woe is me?

Speaker 3 (01:33:52):
Look, look, look, look, look it can have you down there. Listen,
your job you got let go, or you're not making
an money, or you know in the new year you
won't be there, or you know anything. You just broke
up with this person back in October. It's gonna be
your first Christmas alone. That's stressful for people. You wanted

(01:34:14):
to be in a relationship, you wanted to you know, Listen,
I wanted to have my matching pajamas on and take
my matching pajama.

Speaker 4 (01:34:23):
Pictures and stuff like that.

Speaker 3 (01:34:24):
Listen. Social media will have listen if you let it.
Looking at these pictures and looking at oh my god,
everybody's seem so happy and so in love, and and
then when they turn the camera off, they cussing and
fussing each other out. I'm not saying that everybody is,

(01:34:45):
but just be mindful of the things that you think
are real that's being posted on social media.

Speaker 4 (01:34:52):
That's all I'm gonna say about that. But I'm not hated.
I love love.

Speaker 3 (01:34:55):
I love to see couples just ooh. Black families are
just love it to pieces the family just taking these
family pictures and they pajamaed up and the kids and
just I love it.

Speaker 4 (01:35:07):
I absolutely love it.

Speaker 3 (01:35:10):
But for some people it's too much. It's too much.
Somebody under the sound of my voice wishes that they
had kids. Somebody under the sound of my voice wishes
they had a wife. Somebody under the sound of my
voice wish they had a husband. Some of my somebody

(01:35:31):
under the sound of my voice may be wishing that
they had a good wife. Some of them may be
wishing that they had a good husband, they had some
good kids.

Speaker 4 (01:35:39):
That you know, it's so much.

Speaker 3 (01:35:42):
If you look at what other people have and you're comparing,
there's gonna always be something that you feel like somebody
has better than you. If you're not looking at things
through a grateful lens. If you're not looking at things
through a grateful leans, then you know it can you

(01:36:05):
know it can be a little challenging. So I say
some of those things.

Speaker 4 (01:36:12):
To help you.

Speaker 3 (01:36:14):
Deal with the holiday blues and to help you to
not get stuck in a run. Listen. There are some
things that you can do to help yourself.

Speaker 4 (01:36:26):
So a few things.

Speaker 3 (01:36:27):
According to an online source, here are a few things
that can be done, and they really work. First thing
to avoid the holiday blues. First thing, keep active. Get out,
even though it's cold. Where a lot of us are.
You gotta get out? Listen, get out, keep yourself busy,
just keep active.

Speaker 4 (01:36:48):
Listen. If you don't have nothing to do.

Speaker 3 (01:36:51):
There are plenty of nursing homes and there are plenty
of listen home listen. Feed the homeless.

Speaker 4 (01:36:57):
Now.

Speaker 3 (01:36:57):
I'm gonna make a little disclaimer about feeding the home. Now.

Speaker 4 (01:37:00):
You have to look.

Speaker 3 (01:37:02):
You gotta be a special You have to have a
special heart, because some of them homeless people, they will
try you. To the good Lord above come send for you.
They will push your button. Some of them homeless people
will they will try you. They will try everything that's

(01:37:22):
good in your heart. You out there. You took money
out your pockets to go out there and help. But
some of them homeless people will try you. Listen, I
promise you say. Now, that's not right to say. I'm
gonna say it because I've experienced it. I've experienced being
tried by some homeless people I have, so I'm gonna

(01:37:44):
just say and I didn't say all of them.

Speaker 4 (01:37:46):
I just said.

Speaker 3 (01:37:47):
Some some will try you. But I will say this,
it is a very humbling and gratifying experience to be
able to bless somebody. I'm gonna say that's all of
them and say bless somebody. So you gotta stay active.
The next thing is find new ways to keep yourself

(01:38:07):
occupied so you don't dwell on your loneliness. Again, I'm
gonna put that one in with be an actor. You
find you something to do. If you got time to
sit there and think about what you don't have, you
not be busy enough, you you it's some other stuff
that can be done. Create new traditions. Listen, you might

(01:38:28):
have to get out this, you know, thinking about you know,
wearing matchural pajamas until you get.

Speaker 4 (01:38:34):
Your boot and it's your time to wear magic pajamas.

Speaker 3 (01:38:36):
But until then, you may have to create you another
tradition so that you can have that looking forward to
and before you know it, you no longer.

Speaker 4 (01:38:45):
Focusing on pajama wearing pajamas.

Speaker 3 (01:38:48):
Together and then guess what the next Christmas you boot
you on matchic pajamas. So find another, create a tradition,
create another tradition until it's your pajama's time the next thing. Listen. Now,
this might be hard for those that are dealing with
it heavily. You are single and you're desiring to be

(01:39:12):
in a relationship and you're desiring to be married, or
you're like, man, I didn't want to be single again
this year, around this time, whatever it is, you might
want to load.

Speaker 4 (01:39:23):
You may want to log off.

Speaker 3 (01:39:24):
Social media until the holiday season is overwet I promise you.
You may want to just log off until after the
new year because you know that your timeline is being
bombarded with it and some people can't separate it. Some
people can't just look and be happy for other people

(01:39:45):
without wallowing and focusing on what they don't have. And
this might be hard, but again that's another suggestion.

Speaker 4 (01:39:54):
You may want to just log off.

Speaker 3 (01:39:56):
Listen and just find something else. To do. You may
have to find find something else to do. Also, spend
time with family and friends. Listen, but make make a
fun people. You can't just spend time with any family
if listen, if they're not fun, and if they just
as down in the dumps as you are, you're not

(01:40:18):
gonna know. Do not allow them to suck and drain
your energy. You have to leave them. Move this way.
You gotta direct them, move this way. I will not
have you this. We're not gonna do this foolishness. We're
not going to do this foolishness at all. But find
the fun family members and the fun friends and find

(01:40:39):
some stuff to get into with them. Listen, leave the
negative people alone. You gotta leave raggedy Reggie alone. If
you already on the edge, listen, don't, don't. Don't. Don't
get involved with Reggedy Reggie or negative now, because honey,

(01:41:01):
they will, they will fit it.

Speaker 4 (01:41:02):
They will push you over the edge.

Speaker 3 (01:41:04):
You already listen, don't push me because I'm close to
the edge. I'm trying yet not to loose my head.
Y'all finish it for me. Some of y'all already there.
You don't need these negative people to push you over.

(01:41:24):
You do not. So again, you gotta watch your circle
at this particular time because again some people listen, it's
just not it's not gonna work. Stay away from those
negative people. Do something that you've always wanted to do.
Go somewhere where you have always wanted to go, do
something new. Listen. I will say this again, because it's

(01:41:49):
the holiday season. You're going. You're gonna find a lot
of romantic things, but it's so much other stuff out
here again that you can get in to that has
nothing to do with holiday thieves. So you just gotta
be creative. Listen, go on groupon and all this other ish.

(01:42:11):
It's so many different things to do that can help
you escape the holiday festivities. If that's what you're looking
to do, try beating new people. Go out, do something.
Go out and do something different. Go somewhere that you
haven't done before. Go somewhere where you haven't been before.

(01:42:31):
A lot of people don't meet people because you don't
go nowhere. You don't go nowhere. Going to the club
is not considered going anywhere. Going to the bar is
not considered going anywhere. Going to the lounge is not
going anywhere. That's why you ain't meet nobody because you
don't be going outside. You gotta get dressed and go outside.

(01:42:53):
Go outside. Just have a purpose on going to meet people.
Not even meet a relationship. You know no person, but
go somewhere to network. You never know who you're gonna
run into. You never know what kind of project that
you can pick up, what kind of ideal. Get out
and do something, meet new fun people. Always put yourself

(01:43:15):
in position to meet new people. Find people again, go
somewhere and do something that you have not done before.

Speaker 4 (01:43:21):
Now that was the online source.

Speaker 3 (01:43:25):
But here are a few of my tips, a few
of Jay's tips to avoid the holiday blues. The first
and foremost, if you are a person that desires to
be in a relationship and you looking for love, you
ready for love, You ready to do it to him,

(01:43:47):
You want him to do it till you want how
to do it, till you ready for all of that.

Speaker 4 (01:43:52):
But it ain't quite there yet.

Speaker 3 (01:43:54):
It ain't show season yet, Kay, You're in the season
of oneness.

Speaker 4 (01:43:57):
Kay, it ain't your time.

Speaker 3 (01:44:01):
Stop. Please stop listening to all of these sappy Christmas songs?
Stop it. What do the lonely do for Christmas? All
I want for Christmas. Is you beat my baby tonight? No,
stop listening, listen, stop listening. If you listen these lonely listen,

(01:44:26):
it's taking you further down. What do the lonely dode? No, No,
that ain't gonna do nothing but foster to that lonely spirit.

Speaker 4 (01:44:39):
Leave that ish along.

Speaker 3 (01:44:41):
Stop watching those listen, Stop watching Christmas movies. Most of
these Christmas movies are just about love and being proposed
to and family. Stop watching that.

Speaker 4 (01:44:55):
If you are.

Speaker 3 (01:44:56):
Dealing with bouts of loneliness and that, stop listen it
to listen. Just go ahead, all and just put you
some thug music in, because maybe I'm telling you.

Speaker 4 (01:45:08):
You put you some you pop, you some Tupac and
some Biggie. You gonna be all right.

Speaker 3 (01:45:14):
Just bypass all the Christmas movies and music this year, Okay,
don't do all that.

Speaker 4 (01:45:19):
Avoid spending money that you don't have.

Speaker 3 (01:45:23):
It's okay to say no, they wrote them Christmas list
cross it out and say no. Just cross it on out,
cross it on out. Avoid spending so much time alone again.
You gotta get out your comfort zone. Do something different,
do something different. Stop thinking about what you don't have,

(01:45:44):
and start thinking about what you do have. But again,
a lot of this, you're gonna have to just detach
from all holiday festivities. That's I'm just gonna keep it
real with you. You may have to do. You just
gonna have to act like it ain't even Christmas time.
You put you some Fourth of July festivities, shoot you
some fireworks or something. But listen, you may have to

(01:46:06):
detach totally from Christmas if you are dealing with holiday depression,
emotional distress, or thoughs of suicide, or if you simply
need somebody to talk to, call or text nine eight
eight suicide or the Crisis Lifeline, and they're available twenty

(01:46:29):
four hours a day, and just know that you are
not alone. You are not alone in the way that
you are feeling. It's not your fault that you're feeling
that way. And it will get better. It definitely will
get better. So ask yourself this, Listen, as we get
ready to wrap up for the year, what do you

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hope to accomplish spiritually, mentally, financially, and emotionally in twenty
and twenty six? You all, I just want to say
thank you so much for rocking with me through this
entire year.

Speaker 4 (01:47:08):
I appreciated the highs, the lows.

Speaker 3 (01:47:11):
We have had some laughs, you know, and got cussed
out of time or two, you know, but you know,
we still family and I still rock with y'all, and
I thank you all for rocking with me. I hope
that you all have an amazing Christmas. I hope that
you have a merry Christmas. I hope that you all
have a happy New Year. This is the last show

(01:47:32):
for the season, so listen. I want you all to
take care of yourselves and each other. Thank you for
your support. Much love, much respect to you all.

Speaker 4 (01:47:42):
Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Speaker 3 (01:47:44):
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Until twenty twenty six,
the Good Lord Boss Lady Sabe, Merry Christmas, take care
of yourself.

Speaker 4 (01:47:56):
God Good God Bye God.

Speaker 3 (01:48:01):
Ja Jas