September 29, 2025 • 54 mins
📍 Live on Facebook, YouTube (@warriorstalk1) & IntellectualRadio.com ✨ This week’s guest: Elissa Ann Boudreaux ✨ A courageous mother, veteran, advocate, minister, educator, author of 25+ books, and CEO of Lotus Worldwide Consulting, LLC. 💜 Topic: I Danced My Way Through Death Elissa is a 24-year victim, 10-year survivor, and 7-year overcomer of domestic violence. Her powerful testimony of resilience, faith, and transformation will inspire you to recognize red flags, raise awareness, and take action. She uses her voice to educate, empower, and bring healing to communities worldwide. 📚 Hear about her recent releases including I Danced My Way Through Death, The Freckle Fairy, and Forbidden Love: Domestic Violence Outloud. 👉 Don’t miss this life-changing conversation. 💡 Listen. Learn. Share. Together we’re moving from awareness to action. #WarriorsTalk #LadyReShell #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SurvivorStrong #MovingTowardAction 🎙️ New to streaming or looking to level up? Check out StreamYard and get $10 discount! 😍 https://streamyard.com/pal/d/58913759...
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My special guest today is a courageous mother, veteran minister, educator,
and the author of more than twenty five books. A
twenty four year victim, ten year survivor, and seven year
overcomer of domestic violence, she has transformed her pain into
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purpose as the CEO of Lotus Worldwide Consultant, LLC. Through
her writing advocacy and worldwide mission. She is a powerful
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move from awareness towards taking action. Welcome to Warriors Talk
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Elisa Boudreaux. Now, hey, how are you today? And I
cannot hear you for some reason, you went silent on me.
Are you able to hear You can hear me though, fine? Right, okay,
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are you near a phone where you can dial in?
But stay on camera. You're not.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Okay, she's not. I'm not sure what happened.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
So if I take her out for a second, I'm
gonna drop you and I'm gonna bring you right back up,
just to see if that will solve the technical difficulty.
To give me one second, just bear with us. If
you are tuning in, we're talking about the topic I
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Dance my Way through death, and we have the very
author here you're on the show that we'll be.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
Sharing her journey. All right, what about now? Yep?
Speaker 6 (06:14):
All right?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
If I were to oh, Lisa said, I could hear
you both. You could hear us both, Lisa, But for
some reason, I'm not able to hear her. She's able
to hear me, but I cannot hear her, but thank
you for letting me know that I appreciate it. That's
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weird if I remove the chord because she's not able
to she's not buy a phone to where she can down.
Are you able to hear me? Now? It's not he
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it's not that. All right, all right, I'm a positive
for one second to spar with me for one moment.
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I'm just gonna put up my new book that's out,
which is a journal that you can get on Amazon
where I try to work through this issue really quickly.
I have that one. That's it, the journal commercial. Oh
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I don't, Oh, I don't I have my opening. Let
me see give me one second, okay, all right, let.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Me see if this will work. Elisa, can you hear me?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Now?
Speaker 5 (08:24):
Mm hmmm? What about now? She can? She can hear me.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I just cannot hear her, and and the audience can
hear her too, Yes, because because Lisa said that she
can hear all right, hold tight, Elisa, can you go
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out this and then sign back in?
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Awesome? So this is the book that she has written.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Again, she has over twenty five books that she has written,
and this is the one that we're talking about.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Today.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
I met her at a breast cancer walk over a
couple of weeks ago, and I saw her and I
heard her talking. I was like, wow, this she has
a powerful story that I would like for her to
share on Warriors Talk. So this is what we're going
to be talking about today. And Lisa said, yes, I
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can stare hear you both perfectly. That's so weird. All right,
let me bring her back up. All right, what about now?
Speaker 5 (09:57):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Now, mm hmmm, nope, either way with or without, Okay,
hold on, give me one second, Melissa. What you can
do is, since let me say, since Lisa said that
she is able to hear you, I cannot. But I'm
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gonna do this. I'm going to go ahead and start
because since the audience can hear you, it doesn't make
sense to stop. Your audience can so YouTube cannot, Oh, okay,
so Facebook can hear her? Hmmm, Alyssa, Lisa, do me
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a favor, give me some feedback if you are able
to hear so Alyssa. While I worked this out, my
first question to you is, can you take us back
to the beginning and share what life looks like growing
up and how those early experiences have shaped your path.
Speaker 6 (12:05):
Because they can make you do things and say things
and get into things that you don't you shouldn't.
Speaker 7 (12:15):
After that, my mom and dad.
Speaker 6 (12:17):
Split up, and it was just a lot of help.
Speaker 7 (12:22):
Looking for love and all the wrong places.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
They split up around maybe I was nine or ten,
and I lost my virginity at fourteen. So that was
the beginning of something that turned into a lot.
Speaker 7 (12:39):
But feel I'm finding my purpose.
Speaker 5 (12:44):
Okay. I was able to hear the majority of that,
so that's great.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
So you have endured so much twenty four years as
a victim of domestic violence.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
What was the turning.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Point that shifted you from victim to survivor.
Speaker 6 (13:07):
I was forced to retire from the military, and I
needed a backbone. I needed somebody that was going to
stand up for me. I needed somebody that was gonna
say that I mattered and I didn't.
Speaker 7 (13:20):
I didn't matter. My entire marriage. It was it was turmoil,
my entire marriage.
Speaker 6 (13:25):
And before then, like I said, I started at fourteen
years old with a man. It wasn't a child.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
He was nineteen when I was fourteen. So they get
into your mind and that's it.
Speaker 6 (13:39):
And so from fourteen years of age until thirty eight
years old.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
I didn't get an epiphany.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
I didn't get this.
Speaker 7 (13:47):
Yeah, I got things like I want to leave, But it.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Was still the same because my mindset had not changed.
I was still that girl from they called it the Island,
but Scottland, will Man.
Speaker 7 (14:00):
I was still that girl stuck there but wanting to
go here, you know.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
And so I did make conscious decisions to you know,
further my life and go to the military. And I'm
a two time more veteran.
Speaker 7 (14:16):
And I had I.
Speaker 6 (14:17):
Was forced to retire due to domestic violence and a
lot of things that went on in that and.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
So I had to learn how to.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
Be better and not better because they could have really
turned really, really bad, because right now I would probably still.
Speaker 7 (14:33):
Be in the military there.
Speaker 6 (14:35):
It had not been for that turning point of you know,
you're literally you literally lost your career behind a man
and domestic violence.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Wow, And your story reminds me of this heartbreaking reality
that on average, more than three women are murdered every
day by a current or former intimate party in the US.
And that's why sharing stories like yours is so critical
because silence can be deadly and it's very unfortunate that
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you lost your career to this. I think people don't
understand that it doesn't just affect the body, but it
affects everything around you, your mental, your spirituality, emotionally, financially
like you. It affects everything. And when one thing is
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out of balance, everything is out of balance.
Speaker 7 (15:33):
Yes, and I've.
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Been homeless about four times, five times, but God has
just always given in that resilience. I am just at
the point of I know I'm resilient. Now let me
seek some wisdom so I don't have to continue to
keep being resilient, keep bouncing back, you know, and that
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I had to really get that mind renewed. And I'm
still a work in progress. Got a lot going on
right now. I am a mother of a teenager at
fifty five years old. That is like you already have
no nerves, and then they get on the no nerves.
So it's like this society has taught me a lot.
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It's kept me young, learning because I have a grown
daughter that's thirty one, so that the age gap is
really big.
Speaker 7 (16:31):
And I literally raised one.
Speaker 6 (16:34):
Got one out of the house and began to raise
another one, so they're fourteen years apart. One was going
to kindergarten one was going to college at the same time,
and I was graduating from college at that time with
my bathe so it was a lot going on at
that time.
Speaker 7 (16:54):
My ex husband, who.
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Was my last perpetrator, he had a mental breakdown at
my in my third month of pregnancy was my last daughter,
So that was very challenging and we went through that
for about ten years until his death. He died in
twenty eighteen from a fentanyl overdose. So that was a
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lot between I guess two thousand and eight into twenty eighteen.
Speaker 7 (17:25):
It was a lot of turmoil in my life.
Speaker 6 (17:27):
There was a lot of grief, There was a lot
of protective orders, It was a lot, lot of lot
of stuff.
Speaker 5 (17:35):
Wow. So you describe yourself as a seven year overcomer,
What does that mean to you? Beyond survival.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
Us Surviving is just surviving. But when you overcome something,
you can thrive. You can you know, I can't say
that I don't Triggers don't hit me. Triggers hit me.
I still have triggers. There's still things that I've suppresed
and they're coming back in, you know, little spurts sometimes
and they hurt a little bit. But I just believe
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That thriving is when you can overcome those survival moments
and literally hit the hit the the.
Speaker 7 (18:23):
The ground running. You know, every time something comes your.
Speaker 6 (18:26):
Way, you know you feel it, you go through it,
and you and you go through it, you know, you
don't stay there. And I stood there for years. I
stood in my mess for years.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
I had that repetitive cycle for years. I'm a victim.
I'm a victim. I'm not a victim. I'm not a
survivor anymore.
Speaker 6 (18:44):
I survived at all, Yes I did survive at all,
but I'm victorious over that survival mode. You know, I'm
at that thriving.
Speaker 7 (18:53):
I'm ready to.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
You know, just go further. Worldwide. That's what Lotus Worldwide is,
Lotus worldwide.
Speaker 7 (19:00):
That means that I'm global.
Speaker 6 (19:01):
I want people to hear my voice globally say you
can get out.
Speaker 7 (19:07):
It's not easy, and it takes sacrifice.
Speaker 6 (19:10):
It takes hard work, it takes dedication, it takes perseverance,
it takes perfect it takes disappointment, it takes disrespect, it
takes betrayal, it takes all of that mix into one.
Like they say, all things work together, they all work
together to push you, to make you go further to
keep you from falling, to keep you from looking back,
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to keep.
Speaker 7 (19:32):
You from giving up.
Speaker 6 (19:34):
That's what I do, and that's what I do to
every person that comes in front of me. I give
them life, I give them, I give them, I give
them motivation, I give them an inspiration because somebody didn't
do it for me.
Speaker 5 (20:00):
Wow, that was powerful.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
You mentioned that you are a veteran, so you served
our country as a two time war veteran, and you
also battle challenges at home. How did your faith and
resilience carry you through all of that?
Speaker 7 (20:21):
Uh, there were times when I wanted to give up
because my faith waivered.
Speaker 6 (20:26):
I've had challenges with They don't say that there's church
heard it's just people hurt. But I've had challenges with churches,
and you know, things like that where I had to
almost go into seclusion and find myself for myself through God.
And I think that that was his purpose for me,
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you know, because sitting in rituals as I would call
it sometimes and you know, I'm going there because it's Sunday,
I'm going there because it's church. I'm going there because No.
You gotta have a calls with inside of you to
say I am the.
Speaker 7 (21:03):
Church, and I'm gonna carry them everywhere I go.
Speaker 6 (21:06):
So I had to be pulled back for a long time.
I dibbled and dabbled with speaking and going to different
things and watching things on TV because it triggered my soul.
When I tell you, I will get up and speak
and get home and be sick for days trying to
recover from all of that trauma that I had to
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speak on in front of people I didn't even know.
Speaker 7 (21:34):
It was real.
Speaker 6 (21:36):
Eye opening that I had to take a step.
Speaker 7 (21:38):
Back and feel some more and grow.
Speaker 6 (21:42):
Some more because you know, people will say, girl, you
got a powerful story.
Speaker 7 (21:46):
You need to be speaking.
Speaker 6 (21:48):
When God tells you to speak when it's time to speak,
when it's your turn to speak, then back when you
open up your mouth. Until then, allow him to cultivate
those gifts in me, because sometimes we can prematurely walk
out things that people have told us. We look like
I look like a million bucks, I look like a
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first lady. I look like a corporate lady. I look
like a lot of things. But what do I possess
and how it has it manifested or how has it
grown in me enough to bring.
Speaker 7 (22:26):
It to the forefront. Those are the things I look at.
Speaker 6 (22:31):
I'm not going to step out until I know for
sure I heard what God said, not what somebody else
told you they see, because I have to.
Speaker 7 (22:39):
See it within myself.
Speaker 6 (22:40):
If I don't see it within myself, then how can
I get up and be confident in knowing that I'm
doing it the right way or that I feel that
I am giving or relaying my message the way that
I need to effectively relate it.
Speaker 5 (22:55):
That is so powerful.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I went to a women's workshop this weekend and she
was touching on what you were just saying. She talked
about your assignment lining up with your purpose. And sometimes
people can call you to do things and ask you
to do things and it has nothing to do with
your purpose, and sometimes it distracts you from your purpose
to where you're doing those things, and then you don't
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have the energy to do what your purpose to do.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
So that I love that. I love that.
Speaker 6 (23:23):
Yeah, I've learned that it has to not only be
your turn, but it has to be your time. It
not only has to be your time, but it has
to be your turn. They were because timing is everything,
but being in the right place at the right time
in the right position, knowing what you're supposed to know,
saying what you're supposed to say, line.
Speaker 7 (23:43):
By line, PRINCEP by PRINCEP.
Speaker 6 (23:44):
If you can't effectively give out your communicate effectively and
give out or relay your message effectively, nobody's gonna understand it.
Speaker 7 (23:54):
It's almost like battling.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Wow, that's power. So faith and resilience they're both that powerful.
But so is support. I always say support a support
system is crucial, and studies showed that survivors who connect
with advocacy or support services are sixty to seventy percent
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more likely to live free from abuse. And so that's
why conversations like this is a life saving. What was
your support system like when it came to the domestic violence,
just pushing you to be the best you in life?
Speaker 5 (24:43):
Like? What was that like?
Speaker 7 (24:46):
That was my mother? And God.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
I did not have a support system until today. I
still don't have a big supporting system other than outside
of my I would say, my immediate circle within other cities.
I'm more.
Speaker 7 (25:07):
No, I'm more. I mean I'm very own home. But
of course they say that you're not welcoming.
Speaker 6 (25:12):
Your own hometown sometimes, and you know, sometimes you have
to leave and go where you're needed, and so I'm
working on that as well. But my support system left
when my mom passed, but her words still stick with
me on I share them with everywhere, everybody and everywhere
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I go.
Speaker 7 (25:37):
I watched my mom about.
Speaker 6 (25:41):
A week after my kids lost their father, which was
my ex husband at the time.
Speaker 7 (25:46):
But still I had a major loss because.
Speaker 6 (25:48):
When they lost their dad, I saw some of my
children's soul gone. And so with that being said, as
a mother, I had to stand up and do what
was right.
Speaker 7 (26:00):
And I had to stand up.
Speaker 6 (26:01):
And be the mother that God had called and chosen
me to be, and that was to show integrity and
show that I loved my kids so unconditionally, that I
loved their dad, even in his ugliness, even in everything
that we went through, I loved.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
Him till death. We bury him.
Speaker 6 (26:21):
I had to bury my ex husband, and that was
one of another hardest things that I had to do.
But I did it, and I did it with dignity.
I did it with respect, I did it with honor.
I did it because my kids matter. I did it
because my kids are a part of me just as
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well as it's a part of him.
Speaker 7 (26:43):
And we made them.
Speaker 6 (26:44):
Both together, and I would dare not allow him or
them to have a part of me and him. That
would be so selfish of me. What if I would
have passed first, what if he would have had to
make the decision. I don't know whether he would have
buried me. I didn't know if he were to buried
me the way I bury him, because I gave him.
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I was called and asks, do you still have your
policy on your husband? Well, he wasn't my husband, but
I kept a policy because I knew I had kids
for him, and I said I do. I can tell
you that it was so ironic the way he passed,
because a week maybe a week and a half, two
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weeks prior, we had gotten this letter in the mail
about his insurance, and because he had had a mental
breakdown in two thousand and eight, I knew I couldn't
drop that insurance. I couldn't lose that insurance. And so
I was having a hard time at that time. Money
was really really tight. We had kind of consolidated to
one home, me and my daughter just to eat and
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everything else. And so walking to her house and I'm like,
why didn't you open this? This is from Primerica, and
she was like, I never opened him. Well, I opened
it and it said you have until Friday, March to
twenty ninth at no March to thirtieth at five pm
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to have this premium paid up.
Speaker 7 (28:14):
Girl, I forgot. I had people in the screech.
Speaker 6 (28:19):
I said my mother, my mother in law, that it
was at four fifty seven when I called in to
pay that note on that On that Friday, that Saturday
was my mother in law's birthday. We went to a
party with her twenty eighteen. She had a little dinner.
He showed up. I want to be with my family.
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I want to hang with my family. He sat with us.
We ate party over the next day was Easter. We
shared Easter with his family because we were going back
to Houston the next day. Got to Houston on Monday.
Tuesday morning, I got the call, are you sitting down,
I'm thinking my mom passed. Your ex husband was found
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deceased in his mother's backyard.
Speaker 7 (29:16):
I looked at my kids and I melted.
Speaker 6 (29:24):
And as I told each of them because he had
called them the night before, and he had been calling.
Speaker 7 (29:29):
My oldest for her entire college.
Speaker 6 (29:32):
Years every day as a mental real person still telling
her get up and go to school, Get up and
go to school. If she was late in the outside outside,
he would be like, it's time for you to go home.
You got you got school in the morning. And he
passed two months before she graduated from college. My daughter was,
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my youngest was night. It was nine years old, and
he had called both of them the night before and.
Speaker 7 (30:02):
Both of them missed it. Call the oldest.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
Call back, but his mom said, I'm not getting out
of my bed to go get it, so you want
to talk to him in the morning and keep bound.
And deceased in the backyard the next morning. And so
that was hard for me, and it still is because
my girls are still.
Speaker 7 (30:21):
Grieving, and that's been since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 6 (30:24):
But we get through the best way we can because
we're our only family. We don't really have anybody that
can pick us up if we fall.
Speaker 7 (30:34):
So it's all us and all God.
Speaker 5 (30:38):
Oh that was heavy.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
That was heavy, But that was nothing but God that
had you to open that up and pay it up.
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Wow. Wow, yes wow.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
If you are tuned in right now on Intellectual Radio
to Warriors Toime, I'm talking to Alissa Boudreau and she's
talking about the title of the book. Is I Dance
my Way through Grief? But she's talking about so much more? Yes, Lisa, Yes,
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but God, by God.
Speaker 6 (31:21):
But God.
Speaker 5 (31:23):
Now you titled this book I Dance my Way through Grief.
Speaker 7 (31:28):
Yeah, I have my.
Speaker 5 (31:32):
Yes, such a pretty cover, I know, I know. And
I love this color. I love the dress like very
just very classy. I love it.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I love it, And I like how you put it together.
Speaker 5 (31:50):
I like how.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
It's like you just took your time to drop some
gems to someone who may be going through and you
have a special way of putting it together. Because sometimes
grief for one person may look one way and for
another person it may look totally different. And the world
expects for us to grieve a certain way, and when
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you're not grieving that way, they figure like, oh, what's
wrong with you? Or get over it? It's been this long.
Whatever you know, share with us. I Dance my Way
through Death. What is the first of all, how did
you come up with this title? I mean, I know
because I was reading the book as you was talking
about the different the way you know, you had to
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dance sometimes there was the dances were different dances. It
wasn't all the same dances, But what was the mess?
How did you come up with the title? And then
what's the message that you hope readers walk away with?
Speaker 6 (32:48):
Okay, so this title is so real to me because
of course being.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
A domestic violence victim.
Speaker 6 (32:57):
Are you still go through the press stages go through
I'm have pt where I was diagnosed with PTSD due
to the war. I have anxiety a lot, I really do.
I have panic attacks. I look like nothing's wrong, but
I do have challenges that I go through my own self.
But I just keep striving for better, and I keep
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saying by his stripes, I am healed, and so I
get this confidence and I get this s on my
chest that says that I'm victorious at all costs, and
so dancing my way through death. After my ex husband passed,
I got my mom in hospice and I saw.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
Her go through a job.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
Experience and in her last days, we really bonded, and
she called me into her room to pray with me
because she said that she knew I would need her
prayers to get through everything that I had already endured
and to have to watch her past and the way
my mom passed. My mom had blisters all over her
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body that were about an inch to an inch and
a half high full of liquids, and when she passed,
they had to bust those and wrap her in plastic
and put her in her suit to go into the casket.
And so I watched my mom. I took care of
my mom her entire sickness until death. And a week
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before she stopped us voice speaking, she brought me in
her room and she talked to me, and she told
me everything that I needed to survive was on the
inside of.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
And that.
Speaker 7 (34:48):
She gave me everything that she could.
Speaker 6 (34:52):
From her errand what she failed in corrected. She wanted
the generational cycles to stop.
Speaker 7 (35:06):
She told me that.
Speaker 6 (35:07):
I had everything I needed on the inside of me,
as she said, and even in my death, even in
my sorrows, even in my pain, I still trust God.
And at that moment, I said, if my mama can
trust God and her death, dying my ugly death, I
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can trust it with my life. And I began to fight,
and I bought me a house. We were looking at
a house and trying to buy.
Speaker 7 (35:41):
A house.
Speaker 6 (35:45):
When she passed, and I bought me a house with
my VA loan, and that was two thousand and nineteen.
My mom passed in July and my house was ready
December twenty third, brand new built. Never thought the little
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girl from Stalinville could ever be in a house as
message as my home is.
Speaker 7 (36:14):
And I get sick. Back backtrack.
Speaker 6 (36:18):
In twenty thirteen, I was beside twenty two. In two
thousand and sixteen, I was a size sixteen eighteen, and
I kind of dropped down to a size twelve, and I.
Speaker 7 (36:36):
Stayed there until everybody was sick.
Speaker 6 (36:40):
And I would feel sick, but I would just kind
of push it under the rug.
Speaker 7 (36:44):
Well, when my mom passed and the.
Speaker 6 (36:46):
Grief got there, and not taking care of myself, it
all fell on me and so I got real sick.
And for nineteen months, well before I got I got sick,
I had to have a corrected surgery. The first surgery
was a gaspert sleep. They had to do a revision bypass,
which means they had to revise the twenty percent of
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summer that I had left, and it took me into
a malnutrition malabsorption state. I lost down ninety eight pounds
and I fought for my life for nineteen months. All
I did was throw up.
Speaker 7 (37:28):
And defecate profusely. For nineteen months.
Speaker 6 (37:32):
I could not hold anything on my stomach, I could
not smell anything. I could not get up out my bed.
I could not give myself a bath. I could not
feed myself. I could not do anything for myself but pray.
And at one minute I wanted to give up. But
I went to the doctor and he gave me a
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wake up call. He said, you gotta go home and eat, because.
Speaker 7 (37:59):
To night you can go home and die.
Speaker 6 (38:02):
You're just that sick. I couldn't eat. But that's when
God kicked in and said, you're right. He said, man
said you shall die, but I said that you shall
live and not die.
Speaker 7 (38:17):
To the class what I said, that's what it is.
And so he.
Speaker 6 (38:23):
Told me, in the middle of me sick, get up
and dance.
Speaker 7 (38:29):
God.
Speaker 6 (38:29):
I can't get up in dairs. No, no, go home.
I'm like the man at the pool of a desk.
Speaker 7 (38:33):
I can't.
Speaker 6 (38:34):
I can't kick it up. I can't get up now fast.
My daughters they took care of me. They did what
they were supposed to do. My oldest daughter came home,
stopped her entire life. Uh. Someone told her to anoint
the house with all we had just moved to your
brand new walls. When I did come to girl, they
had fingerprints all over my walls. I mean sneered all
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the way down. He had the door seals everything. And
so I started getting better. In about six months, I
felt good, and then my godchild gets killed and it
took me down a refreshed spiral, and I started not
eating again, and I.
Speaker 7 (39:17):
Went back down to ninety eight pounds. That was last year.
Speaker 6 (39:26):
Fo a year before last, And so last year I
was able to start getting myself back up because me
and him made a promise to each other that one
of us had to make it out. One of us
had to make it out, one of us had to
go and tell somebody because he got killed.
Speaker 7 (39:44):
In the streets. He got killed, he got murdered.
Speaker 6 (39:46):
So I have to be the one to make it
out and tell the story of how I made it over,
of how God brought me out of a mess, how
I danced my way through death by getting up when
I heard the voice of God and Bet said, dance,
and he said he gave me the song after Mistic
by Sounds of Blackness.
Speaker 7 (40:08):
You got to be Afterimistic. You got to see it
before you see it.
Speaker 6 (40:12):
You got to understand that it's going to happen if
you believe it.
Speaker 7 (40:16):
But you gotta have faith, and you.
Speaker 6 (40:17):
Gotta work your faith, because work faith without works is dead.
You gotta put your hands to the flower. You gotta
get up when you don't feel like it. You gotta
move when I when, even when you.
Speaker 7 (40:27):
Nobody say you can't.
Speaker 6 (40:28):
You got to be able to renew your mind to
say I can do all things through fight who christens me?
Speaker 7 (40:35):
And you get up and you fight.
Speaker 6 (40:37):
I cry, but I get up and I go fall.
I cry, and I still go get up and still smile.
After this, I shaped it off, I walk it out.
I do what I gotta do because I know what's
on the inside of me. I know I have purpose
that I know it's destiny for somebody else, because he
wouldn't have allowed me to go through the hell, the
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miss and answer my way through death without it and them.
I wrote these books in January. After writing those books,
I've been in a couple of magazines.
Speaker 7 (41:13):
I wrote a child's book in Mark. I have freckles in.
Speaker 6 (41:18):
Real life, real time. I cover them when I put
my makeup on. But most times I'm now that I'm
learning to love myself.
Speaker 7 (41:27):
I walk around without my freckles.
Speaker 6 (41:29):
But this one is the very of freckle fairy, of
magical lesson and loving yourself. And this is for kids
to teach them self awareness and self love, and that's
where it begins.
Speaker 7 (41:39):
We don't have to teach.
Speaker 6 (41:40):
Domestic violence if we teach our children how to love themselves.
And so with that being said, one question I've always
asked is in the Bible, it says love your neighbor
as you love yourself.
Speaker 7 (41:54):
Well, we have to back it up. We have to
love ourselves.
Speaker 6 (41:57):
Because the only thing we can do for our neighbors
we give to us.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
She was preaching, and the devil want to come in
and cut off the communication.
Speaker 5 (42:12):
Oh my goodness, yes, Lisa.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Lisa said, you have to be obedient to God's word
and move in faith. I think we lost connection with Lissa.
So while she comes back, Lisa says, my Lord and
that she's praying for her complete healing. She has a
powerful story, like I don't even know if most people
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would have made it through half of the things that
she's been through, Like that was a lot, and she
has a message to tell. So I would encourage you
guys to make sure that you pick up her book.
While she comes back in, make sure you pick up
her book. She has the book, she has a journal,
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and then she also has a work book as well.
And you guys can pick up her book. You can
get it to somebody, you can read it yourself. I mean, guys, girl,
you preaching. I said, the devil don't want nobody here
this message preaching.
Speaker 6 (43:14):
Yes, girls, I just said the same thing. Yes, And
I guess as I was saying, I have the Freckle Fairy,
which is for kids. This is literally how it begins.
If we can teach our children the seven Segments of
Self Love, in which I give that class, they would
know what domestic violence is because they loved themselves enough
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to know that this.
Speaker 7 (43:37):
Don't feel like this, don't feel like what I want
to feel.
Speaker 6 (43:42):
So I try to do preventative measures before interventions, because
interventions are hard, and so in May I wrote this
book forbidding loved domestic violence out loud. This book is
literally a book that needs to be and everybody's home,
just like the Bible. And I'm not comparing it to
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the Bible.
Speaker 7 (44:03):
But what I'm saying is this book, if you.
Speaker 6 (44:06):
Know what domestic violence looks like and you can.
Speaker 7 (44:09):
Recognize it and every home.
Speaker 6 (44:12):
I mean, just like you said, one out of three
people around the world, you know, they get twenty two
thousand calls in the day.
Speaker 7 (44:19):
In a minute, we have what like nine.
Speaker 6 (44:23):
I'm not even I.
Speaker 7 (44:24):
Can't even put it to words.
Speaker 6 (44:26):
The statistics here in Louisiana is we are in the
top five.
Speaker 7 (44:33):
Louisiana top five that rules.
Speaker 6 (44:37):
Oh my god, I couldn't even if they were doing
it by cities, we probably would be on the top.
Because there is a very bad spirit going around that
tells people that you can control people, that you can
put fear into people. You know, that you can harm people,
and it's okay, And it's not okay.
Speaker 7 (44:58):
It's not okay.
Speaker 6 (45:00):
It's not okay for us to say, why did you
stay or why you keep going back? Our Our job
is to say what can I do your help you?
Speaker 7 (45:10):
How may I assist you?
Speaker 6 (45:13):
Because if you start demanding stuff, they're gonna start feeling
like you're putting them back in that same position, in
that same box. You have to be more open to
say I don't understand, but I'm here to love you
through it, even when the times get called, even when
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you don't want it even when you want to give up.
I'm here.
Speaker 7 (45:38):
I'm gonna catch you when.
Speaker 6 (45:39):
You fall, says, I got your back. I'm going to
do your voice for the voices. So Forbidding Loved is
a book that everybody needs in their repertoire. And Forbidding
Love Value too is now at the publishing company. And
I wrote that book strictly off of the Ditty trial.
Speaker 7 (45:59):
And all of the alleged.
Speaker 6 (46:00):
Things that went on with him, So all of that
jargon is in that book. That book is so powerful.
Speaker 7 (46:07):
That book is so mind blowing to me.
Speaker 6 (46:11):
I can't wait to see what it looks like and
read it for myself with I would.
Speaker 7 (46:17):
Being on you know, online.
Speaker 6 (46:19):
I want to see it in this book form where
I can open it up and say, the.
Speaker 7 (46:23):
Power of mutual healing.
Speaker 6 (46:25):
Narcissism is narcissism is the illusion of love. This book
right here, it tells you some stuff in here, love bombing,
gas lighting, all of the things that.
Speaker 7 (46:36):
You wouldn't believe that's going on.
Speaker 6 (46:38):
The bad boy image and what we like about the
bad boy image and why we like it, and you know,
and all these things this book tells all For being
Loved out loud, it's telling I am gonna be your boy,
krist a brother.
Speaker 7 (46:54):
Or whoever it may be. In the lgbtq AI two
plus community. I stand with you, will agree with you.
Speaker 6 (47:01):
Because nobody deserves to be abusion. I don't care who
you are. I know who you are. You just got
to line up with that part.
Speaker 7 (47:10):
I'm already in line.
Speaker 6 (47:11):
I'm praying for your soul, Vegas and so with that
being said, I don't care who it is. I'm walking
it out with I'm walking it out, I'm talking it out,
I'm screaming it out.
Speaker 7 (47:22):
I'm bossing it out.
Speaker 6 (47:23):
I am your body. I will make sure that everybody
this whole entire world, there're me in every area ever,
from the north southeast in the West. It might not
happen today, and it might not happen next week, but
I have the faith for knowing that my God will
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do what he said he's going to do in my life,
and I believe what he said.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
Alyssa bootro who thank you so much for your transparency,
your strength, your voice. Tonight we was reminded that domestic
violence isn't just an issue.
Speaker 5 (48:06):
It's a crisis.
Speaker 7 (48:08):
It's a crisis.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
It's a crisis, and one in four women and one
and nine men will experience severe intimate partner violence in
their lifetime. But together with faith, resources and action, we
can break that cycle. Can you tell everybody how to
stay connected with you and how can they obtain copies
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of your book?
Speaker 6 (48:33):
Well, I always have copies on sign copies, and most
people want to sign copies, and so if you want
signed copies, of course you can pay for them through
me and you will pay for your own shipping. But
if you want them and it doesn't matter, you can
go to Amazon and find my books. On Amazon. You
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can find My Way through Depth, the Book, the Workbook.
Speaker 7 (48:59):
And the Dry You can find.
Speaker 6 (49:02):
The Freckle Ferry Magical Lesson and Loving Yourself on Amazon.
You can also find Forbidden Love Domestic Violence out loud
and volume two will be up and running before Christmas.
Speaker 7 (49:14):
Also, if you want.
Speaker 6 (49:16):
Ten Resilion Steps from Paint Purpose, I wrote this book
in twenty sixteen. I wrote a book in two thousand
and seven or eight that was called a Sacred Heart
Poems for the Soul. I wrote that book in one
night Christmas Eve thirty I think it's like thirty six points.
Each point God gave me. I wrote those poems and
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I went into the Bible, and believe it or not,
every poem had a scripture.
Speaker 7 (49:42):
That matched with it.
Speaker 6 (49:44):
That book is powerful in itself. The Ten Resilient Steps
from Pain to Purpose.
Speaker 7 (49:49):
I use this book. It's a self help book.
Speaker 6 (49:51):
It has ten resilient steps, and you can go into
it every time you go through something and you can
find out what steps you're at, says Content. To regenerate.
The first one is to revive. The second is to recover,
The third is to reveal. The fourth is to rediscover.
The fifth is to restore, The sixth is to redefine,
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The seventh is to renew. The eighth is to recreate
and reinvent, the ninth is to reposition, and the tenth
is to reintroduce or reacclaim yourself to the world. And say,
sometimes I might be going through something, so I go
back in this book and I say, ooh, I'm at
the rebuilding stage, which that's where I started at. Okay,
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So I mean I got seven more steps to go.
How fast do I want to get there and how
bad do I want it?
Speaker 7 (50:41):
And I work on it. So I just tell you
that God is.
Speaker 6 (50:44):
God shall, God will and he has grown my mind
just tonight with this podcast, because I'm telling you, He's
putting everything in place at in position, and I'm standing
here in pos.
Speaker 3 (51:02):
Yes, Lisa Adams said, great show tonight. Thank you Lisa
for listening in and offering your input as well. These
are the ways that you can stay connected. Make sure
you reach out to her. Get those books, share the books,
give them to someone. Thank you so much. I am
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just oh my god, you have a powerful story someone.
If you wasn't encouraged tonight, I don't even know what
to tell you.
Speaker 5 (51:34):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (51:35):
You encourage me so I appreciate you sharing, you being
vulnerable and just being obedient to what God has you
to do. Keep soaring, keep sharing your story.
Speaker 5 (51:46):
Yes, I love it. Thank you so much.
Speaker 7 (51:48):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 6 (51:49):
I am grateful, thankful and blessed to be on your show.
And I wish prosperity over everything that you touch, that
you and be blessed beyond measure, That your life and
your house be blessed beyond measure, that the abundance will
overflow every part of your life receives that.
Speaker 3 (52:12):
Yes, I received that. Thank you so much. Bill Warriors
Talk Family Oh my goodness. I know you guys enjoyed
the show tonight. Don't just listen. I need you guys
to take action. If you know someone someone that you
love that may be in danger, reach out for help.
There is healing and there is freedom. You do not
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have to be in silence. So if you know someone
that needs help, reach out to the National Domestic Violence
Hotline one eight hundred seven ninety nine Safe one eight
hundred seven ninety nine seven two three three, or you
can text start to eight eight seven eight eight, or
you can go to the website at www thehotline dot org.
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My special guest today is a courageous mother, veteran minister, educator,
and the author of more than twenty five books. A
twenty four year victim, ten year survivor, and seven year
overcomer of domestic violence, she has transformed her pain into
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purpose as the CEO of Lotus Worldwide Consultant, LLC. Through
her writing advocacy and worldwide mission. She is a powerful
voice for the voiceless, educating, empowering, and inspiring communities to
move from awareness towards taking action. Welcome to Warriors Talk
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Elisa Boudreaux. Now, hey, how are you today? And I
cannot hear you for some reason, you went silent on me.
Are you able to hear You can hear me though, fine? Right, okay,
(05:15):
are you near a phone where you can dial in?
But stay on camera. You're not.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Okay, she's not. I'm not sure what happened.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
So if I take her out for a second, I'm
gonna drop you and I'm gonna bring you right back up,
just to see if that will solve the technical difficulty.
To give me one second, just bear with us. If
you are tuning in, we're talking about the topic I
(05:55):
Dance my Way through death, and we have the very
author here you're on the show that we'll be.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
Sharing her journey. All right, what about now? Yep?
Speaker 6 (06:14):
All right?
Speaker 3 (06:16):
If I were to oh, Lisa said, I could hear
you both. You could hear us both, Lisa, But for
some reason, I'm not able to hear her. She's able
to hear me, but I cannot hear her, but thank
you for letting me know that I appreciate it. That's
(06:37):
weird if I remove the chord because she's not able
to she's not buy a phone to where she can down.
Are you able to hear me? Now? It's not he
(07:00):
it's not that. All right, all right, I'm a positive
for one second to spar with me for one moment.
(07:36):
I'm just gonna put up my new book that's out,
which is a journal that you can get on Amazon
where I try to work through this issue really quickly.
I have that one. That's it, the journal commercial. Oh
(07:58):
I don't, Oh, I don't I have my opening. Let
me see give me one second, okay, all right, let.
Speaker 5 (08:16):
Me see if this will work. Elisa, can you hear me?
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Now?
Speaker 5 (08:24):
Mm hmmm? What about now? She can? She can hear me.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I just cannot hear her, and and the audience can
hear her too, Yes, because because Lisa said that she
can hear all right, hold tight, Elisa, can you go
(08:59):
out this and then sign back in?
Speaker 5 (09:06):
Awesome? So this is the book that she has written.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Again, she has over twenty five books that she has written,
and this is the one that we're talking about.
Speaker 5 (09:17):
Today.
Speaker 3 (09:18):
I met her at a breast cancer walk over a
couple of weeks ago, and I saw her and I
heard her talking. I was like, wow, this she has
a powerful story that I would like for her to
share on Warriors Talk. So this is what we're going
to be talking about today. And Lisa said, yes, I
(09:38):
can stare hear you both perfectly. That's so weird. All right,
let me bring her back up. All right, what about now?
Speaker 5 (09:57):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (09:58):
Now, mm hmmm, nope, either way with or without, Okay,
hold on, give me one second, Melissa. What you can
do is, since let me say, since Lisa said that
she is able to hear you, I cannot. But I'm
(10:22):
gonna do this. I'm going to go ahead and start
because since the audience can hear you, it doesn't make
sense to stop. Your audience can so YouTube cannot, Oh, okay,
so Facebook can hear her? Hmmm, Alyssa, Lisa, do me
(10:50):
a favor, give me some feedback if you are able
to hear so Alyssa. While I worked this out, my
first question to you is, can you take us back
to the beginning and share what life looks like growing
up and how those early experiences have shaped your path.
Speaker 6 (12:05):
Because they can make you do things and say things
and get into things that you don't you shouldn't.
Speaker 7 (12:15):
After that, my mom and dad.
Speaker 6 (12:17):
Split up, and it was just a lot of help.
Speaker 7 (12:22):
Looking for love and all the wrong places.
Speaker 6 (12:25):
They split up around maybe I was nine or ten,
and I lost my virginity at fourteen. So that was
the beginning of something that turned into a lot.
Speaker 7 (12:39):
But feel I'm finding my purpose.
Speaker 5 (12:44):
Okay. I was able to hear the majority of that,
so that's great.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
So you have endured so much twenty four years as
a victim of domestic violence.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
What was the turning.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Point that shifted you from victim to survivor.
Speaker 6 (13:07):
I was forced to retire from the military, and I
needed a backbone. I needed somebody that was going to
stand up for me. I needed somebody that was gonna
say that I mattered and I didn't.
Speaker 7 (13:20):
I didn't matter. My entire marriage. It was it was turmoil,
my entire marriage.
Speaker 6 (13:25):
And before then, like I said, I started at fourteen
years old with a man. It wasn't a child.
Speaker 7 (13:33):
He was nineteen when I was fourteen. So they get
into your mind and that's it.
Speaker 6 (13:39):
And so from fourteen years of age until thirty eight
years old.
Speaker 7 (13:44):
I didn't get an epiphany.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
I didn't get this.
Speaker 7 (13:47):
Yeah, I got things like I want to leave, But it.
Speaker 6 (13:50):
Was still the same because my mindset had not changed.
I was still that girl from they called it the Island,
but Scottland, will Man.
Speaker 7 (14:00):
I was still that girl stuck there but wanting to
go here, you know.
Speaker 6 (14:05):
And so I did make conscious decisions to you know,
further my life and go to the military. And I'm
a two time more veteran.
Speaker 7 (14:16):
And I had I.
Speaker 6 (14:17):
Was forced to retire due to domestic violence and a
lot of things that went on in that and.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
So I had to learn how to.
Speaker 6 (14:26):
Be better and not better because they could have really
turned really, really bad, because right now I would probably still.
Speaker 7 (14:33):
Be in the military there.
Speaker 6 (14:35):
It had not been for that turning point of you know,
you're literally you literally lost your career behind a man
and domestic violence.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Wow, And your story reminds me of this heartbreaking reality
that on average, more than three women are murdered every
day by a current or former intimate party in the US.
And that's why sharing stories like yours is so critical
because silence can be deadly and it's very unfortunate that
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you lost your career to this. I think people don't
understand that it doesn't just affect the body, but it
affects everything around you, your mental, your spirituality, emotionally, financially
like you. It affects everything. And when one thing is
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out of balance, everything is out of balance.
Speaker 7 (15:33):
Yes, and I've.
Speaker 6 (15:35):
Been homeless about four times, five times, but God has
just always given in that resilience. I am just at
the point of I know I'm resilient. Now let me
seek some wisdom so I don't have to continue to
keep being resilient, keep bouncing back, you know, and that
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I had to really get that mind renewed. And I'm
still a work in progress. Got a lot going on
right now. I am a mother of a teenager at
fifty five years old. That is like you already have
no nerves, and then they get on the no nerves.
So it's like this society has taught me a lot.
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It's kept me young, learning because I have a grown
daughter that's thirty one, so that the age gap is
really big.
Speaker 7 (16:31):
And I literally raised one.
Speaker 6 (16:34):
Got one out of the house and began to raise
another one, so they're fourteen years apart. One was going
to kindergarten one was going to college at the same time,
and I was graduating from college at that time with
my bathe so it was a lot going on at
that time.
Speaker 7 (16:54):
My ex husband, who.
Speaker 6 (16:55):
Was my last perpetrator, he had a mental breakdown at
my in my third month of pregnancy was my last daughter,
So that was very challenging and we went through that
for about ten years until his death. He died in
twenty eighteen from a fentanyl overdose. So that was a
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lot between I guess two thousand and eight into twenty eighteen.
Speaker 7 (17:25):
It was a lot of turmoil in my life.
Speaker 6 (17:27):
There was a lot of grief, There was a lot
of protective orders, It was a lot, lot of lot
of stuff.
Speaker 5 (17:35):
Wow. So you describe yourself as a seven year overcomer,
What does that mean to you? Beyond survival.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
Us Surviving is just surviving. But when you overcome something,
you can thrive. You can you know, I can't say
that I don't Triggers don't hit me. Triggers hit me.
I still have triggers. There's still things that I've suppresed
and they're coming back in, you know, little spurts sometimes
and they hurt a little bit. But I just believe
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That thriving is when you can overcome those survival moments
and literally hit the hit the the.
Speaker 7 (18:23):
The ground running. You know, every time something comes your.
Speaker 6 (18:26):
Way, you know you feel it, you go through it,
and you and you go through it, you know, you
don't stay there. And I stood there for years. I
stood in my mess for years.
Speaker 7 (18:37):
I had that repetitive cycle for years. I'm a victim.
I'm a victim. I'm not a victim. I'm not a
survivor anymore.
Speaker 6 (18:44):
I survived at all, Yes I did survive at all,
but I'm victorious over that survival mode. You know, I'm
at that thriving.
Speaker 7 (18:53):
I'm ready to.
Speaker 6 (18:54):
You know, just go further. Worldwide. That's what Lotus Worldwide is,
Lotus worldwide.
Speaker 7 (19:00):
That means that I'm global.
Speaker 6 (19:01):
I want people to hear my voice globally say you
can get out.
Speaker 7 (19:07):
It's not easy, and it takes sacrifice.
Speaker 6 (19:10):
It takes hard work, it takes dedication, it takes perseverance,
it takes perfect it takes disappointment, it takes disrespect, it
takes betrayal, it takes all of that mix into one.
Like they say, all things work together, they all work
together to push you, to make you go further to
keep you from falling, to keep you from looking back,
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to keep.
Speaker 7 (19:32):
You from giving up.
Speaker 6 (19:34):
That's what I do, and that's what I do to
every person that comes in front of me. I give
them life, I give them, I give them, I give
them motivation, I give them an inspiration because somebody didn't
do it for me.
Speaker 5 (20:00):
Wow, that was powerful.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
You mentioned that you are a veteran, so you served
our country as a two time war veteran, and you
also battle challenges at home. How did your faith and
resilience carry you through all of that?
Speaker 7 (20:21):
Uh, there were times when I wanted to give up
because my faith waivered.
Speaker 6 (20:26):
I've had challenges with They don't say that there's church
heard it's just people hurt. But I've had challenges with churches,
and you know, things like that where I had to
almost go into seclusion and find myself for myself through God.
And I think that that was his purpose for me,
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you know, because sitting in rituals as I would call
it sometimes and you know, I'm going there because it's Sunday,
I'm going there because it's church. I'm going there because No.
You gotta have a calls with inside of you to
say I am the.
Speaker 7 (21:03):
Church, and I'm gonna carry them everywhere I go.
Speaker 6 (21:06):
So I had to be pulled back for a long time.
I dibbled and dabbled with speaking and going to different
things and watching things on TV because it triggered my soul.
When I tell you, I will get up and speak
and get home and be sick for days trying to
recover from all of that trauma that I had to
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speak on in front of people I didn't even know.
Speaker 7 (21:34):
It was real.
Speaker 6 (21:36):
Eye opening that I had to take a step.
Speaker 7 (21:38):
Back and feel some more and grow.
Speaker 6 (21:42):
Some more because you know, people will say, girl, you
got a powerful story.
Speaker 7 (21:46):
You need to be speaking.
Speaker 6 (21:48):
When God tells you to speak when it's time to speak,
when it's your turn to speak, then back when you
open up your mouth. Until then, allow him to cultivate
those gifts in me, because sometimes we can prematurely walk
out things that people have told us. We look like
I look like a million bucks, I look like a
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first lady. I look like a corporate lady. I look
like a lot of things. But what do I possess
and how it has it manifested or how has it
grown in me enough to bring.
Speaker 7 (22:26):
It to the forefront. Those are the things I look at.
Speaker 6 (22:31):
I'm not going to step out until I know for
sure I heard what God said, not what somebody else
told you they see, because I have to.
Speaker 7 (22:39):
See it within myself.
Speaker 6 (22:40):
If I don't see it within myself, then how can
I get up and be confident in knowing that I'm
doing it the right way or that I feel that
I am giving or relaying my message the way that
I need to effectively relate it.
Speaker 5 (22:55):
That is so powerful.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
I went to a women's workshop this weekend and she
was touching on what you were just saying. She talked
about your assignment lining up with your purpose. And sometimes
people can call you to do things and ask you
to do things and it has nothing to do with
your purpose, and sometimes it distracts you from your purpose
to where you're doing those things, and then you don't
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have the energy to do what your purpose to do.
Speaker 5 (23:20):
So that I love that. I love that.
Speaker 6 (23:23):
Yeah, I've learned that it has to not only be
your turn, but it has to be your time. It
not only has to be your time, but it has
to be your turn. They were because timing is everything,
but being in the right place at the right time
in the right position, knowing what you're supposed to know,
saying what you're supposed to say, line.
Speaker 7 (23:43):
By line, PRINCEP by PRINCEP.
Speaker 6 (23:44):
If you can't effectively give out your communicate effectively and
give out or relay your message effectively, nobody's gonna understand it.
Speaker 7 (23:54):
It's almost like battling.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (23:58):
Wow, that's power. So faith and resilience they're both that powerful.
But so is support. I always say support a support
system is crucial, and studies showed that survivors who connect
with advocacy or support services are sixty to seventy percent
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more likely to live free from abuse. And so that's
why conversations like this is a life saving. What was
your support system like when it came to the domestic violence,
just pushing you to be the best you in life?
Speaker 5 (24:43):
Like? What was that like?
Speaker 7 (24:46):
That was my mother? And God.
Speaker 6 (24:51):
I did not have a support system until today. I
still don't have a big supporting system other than outside
of my I would say, my immediate circle within other cities.
I'm more.
Speaker 7 (25:07):
No, I'm more. I mean I'm very own home. But
of course they say that you're not welcoming.
Speaker 6 (25:12):
Your own hometown sometimes, and you know, sometimes you have
to leave and go where you're needed, and so I'm
working on that as well. But my support system left
when my mom passed, but her words still stick with
me on I share them with everywhere, everybody and everywhere
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I go.
Speaker 7 (25:37):
I watched my mom about.
Speaker 6 (25:41):
A week after my kids lost their father, which was
my ex husband at the time.
Speaker 7 (25:46):
But still I had a major loss because.
Speaker 6 (25:48):
When they lost their dad, I saw some of my
children's soul gone. And so with that being said, as
a mother, I had to stand up and do what
was right.
Speaker 7 (26:00):
And I had to stand up.
Speaker 6 (26:01):
And be the mother that God had called and chosen
me to be, and that was to show integrity and
show that I loved my kids so unconditionally, that I
loved their dad, even in his ugliness, even in everything
that we went through, I loved.
Speaker 7 (26:19):
Him till death. We bury him.
Speaker 6 (26:21):
I had to bury my ex husband, and that was
one of another hardest things that I had to do.
But I did it, and I did it with dignity.
I did it with respect, I did it with honor.
I did it because my kids matter. I did it
because my kids are a part of me just as
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well as it's a part of him.
Speaker 7 (26:43):
And we made them.
Speaker 6 (26:44):
Both together, and I would dare not allow him or
them to have a part of me and him. That
would be so selfish of me. What if I would
have passed first, what if he would have had to
make the decision. I don't know whether he would have
buried me. I didn't know if he were to buried
me the way I bury him, because I gave him.
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I was called and asks, do you still have your
policy on your husband? Well, he wasn't my husband, but
I kept a policy because I knew I had kids
for him, and I said I do. I can tell
you that it was so ironic the way he passed,
because a week maybe a week and a half, two
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weeks prior, we had gotten this letter in the mail
about his insurance, and because he had had a mental
breakdown in two thousand and eight, I knew I couldn't
drop that insurance. I couldn't lose that insurance. And so
I was having a hard time at that time. Money
was really really tight. We had kind of consolidated to
one home, me and my daughter just to eat and
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everything else. And so walking to her house and I'm like,
why didn't you open this? This is from Primerica, and
she was like, I never opened him. Well, I opened
it and it said you have until Friday, March to
twenty ninth at no March to thirtieth at five pm
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to have this premium paid up.
Speaker 7 (28:14):
Girl, I forgot. I had people in the screech.
Speaker 6 (28:19):
I said my mother, my mother in law, that it
was at four fifty seven when I called in to
pay that note on that On that Friday, that Saturday
was my mother in law's birthday. We went to a
party with her twenty eighteen. She had a little dinner.
He showed up. I want to be with my family.
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I want to hang with my family. He sat with us.
We ate party over the next day was Easter. We
shared Easter with his family because we were going back
to Houston the next day. Got to Houston on Monday.
Tuesday morning, I got the call, are you sitting down,
I'm thinking my mom passed. Your ex husband was found
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deceased in his mother's backyard.
Speaker 7 (29:16):
I looked at my kids and I melted.
Speaker 6 (29:24):
And as I told each of them because he had
called them the night before, and he had been calling.
Speaker 7 (29:29):
My oldest for her entire college.
Speaker 6 (29:32):
Years every day as a mental real person still telling
her get up and go to school, Get up and
go to school. If she was late in the outside outside,
he would be like, it's time for you to go home.
You got you got school in the morning. And he
passed two months before she graduated from college. My daughter was,
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my youngest was night. It was nine years old, and
he had called both of them the night before and.
Speaker 7 (30:02):
Both of them missed it. Call the oldest.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
Call back, but his mom said, I'm not getting out
of my bed to go get it, so you want
to talk to him in the morning and keep bound.
And deceased in the backyard the next morning. And so
that was hard for me, and it still is because
my girls are still.
Speaker 7 (30:21):
Grieving, and that's been since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 6 (30:24):
But we get through the best way we can because
we're our only family. We don't really have anybody that
can pick us up if we fall.
Speaker 7 (30:34):
So it's all us and all God.
Speaker 5 (30:38):
Oh that was heavy.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
That was heavy, But that was nothing but God that
had you to open that up and pay it up.
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Wow. Wow, yes wow.
Speaker 3 (30:55):
If you are tuned in right now on Intellectual Radio
to Warriors Toime, I'm talking to Alissa Boudreau and she's
talking about the title of the book. Is I Dance
my Way through Grief? But she's talking about so much more? Yes, Lisa, Yes,
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but God, by God.
Speaker 6 (31:21):
But God.
Speaker 5 (31:23):
Now you titled this book I Dance my Way through Grief.
Speaker 7 (31:28):
Yeah, I have my.
Speaker 5 (31:32):
Yes, such a pretty cover, I know, I know. And
I love this color. I love the dress like very
just very classy. I love it.
Speaker 3 (31:46):
I love it, And I like how you put it together.
Speaker 5 (31:50):
I like how.
Speaker 3 (31:53):
It's like you just took your time to drop some
gems to someone who may be going through and you
have a special way of putting it together. Because sometimes
grief for one person may look one way and for
another person it may look totally different. And the world
expects for us to grieve a certain way, and when
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you're not grieving that way, they figure like, oh, what's
wrong with you? Or get over it? It's been this long.
Whatever you know, share with us. I Dance my Way
through Death. What is the first of all, how did
you come up with this title? I mean, I know
because I was reading the book as you was talking
about the different the way you know, you had to
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dance sometimes there was the dances were different dances. It
wasn't all the same dances, But what was the mess?
How did you come up with the title? And then
what's the message that you hope readers walk away with?
Speaker 6 (32:48):
Okay, so this title is so real to me because
of course being.
Speaker 7 (32:55):
A domestic violence victim.
Speaker 6 (32:57):
Are you still go through the press stages go through
I'm have pt where I was diagnosed with PTSD due
to the war. I have anxiety a lot, I really do.
I have panic attacks. I look like nothing's wrong, but
I do have challenges that I go through my own self.
But I just keep striving for better, and I keep
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saying by his stripes, I am healed, and so I
get this confidence and I get this s on my
chest that says that I'm victorious at all costs, and
so dancing my way through death. After my ex husband passed,
I got my mom in hospice and I saw.
Speaker 7 (33:39):
Her go through a job.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
Experience and in her last days, we really bonded, and
she called me into her room to pray with me
because she said that she knew I would need her
prayers to get through everything that I had already endured
and to have to watch her past and the way
my mom passed. My mom had blisters all over her
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body that were about an inch to an inch and
a half high full of liquids, and when she passed,
they had to bust those and wrap her in plastic
and put her in her suit to go into the casket.
And so I watched my mom. I took care of
my mom her entire sickness until death. And a week
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before she stopped us voice speaking, she brought me in
her room and she talked to me, and she told
me everything that I needed to survive was on the
inside of.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
And that.
Speaker 7 (34:48):
She gave me everything that she could.
Speaker 6 (34:52):
From her errand what she failed in corrected. She wanted
the generational cycles to stop.
Speaker 7 (35:06):
She told me that.
Speaker 6 (35:07):
I had everything I needed on the inside of me,
as she said, and even in my death, even in
my sorrows, even in my pain, I still trust God.
And at that moment, I said, if my mama can
trust God and her death, dying my ugly death, I
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can trust it with my life. And I began to fight,
and I bought me a house. We were looking at
a house and trying to buy.
Speaker 7 (35:41):
A house.
Speaker 6 (35:45):
When she passed, and I bought me a house with
my VA loan, and that was two thousand and nineteen.
My mom passed in July and my house was ready
December twenty third, brand new built. Never thought the little
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girl from Stalinville could ever be in a house as
message as my home is.
Speaker 7 (36:14):
And I get sick. Back backtrack.
Speaker 6 (36:18):
In twenty thirteen, I was beside twenty two. In two
thousand and sixteen, I was a size sixteen eighteen, and
I kind of dropped down to a size twelve, and I.
Speaker 7 (36:36):
Stayed there until everybody was sick.
Speaker 6 (36:40):
And I would feel sick, but I would just kind
of push it under the rug.
Speaker 7 (36:44):
Well, when my mom passed and the.
Speaker 6 (36:46):
Grief got there, and not taking care of myself, it
all fell on me and so I got real sick.
And for nineteen months, well before I got I got sick,
I had to have a corrected surgery. The first surgery
was a gaspert sleep. They had to do a revision bypass,
which means they had to revise the twenty percent of
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summer that I had left, and it took me into
a malnutrition malabsorption state. I lost down ninety eight pounds
and I fought for my life for nineteen months. All
I did was throw up.
Speaker 7 (37:28):
And defecate profusely. For nineteen months.
Speaker 6 (37:32):
I could not hold anything on my stomach, I could
not smell anything. I could not get up out my bed.
I could not give myself a bath. I could not
feed myself. I could not do anything for myself but pray.
And at one minute I wanted to give up. But
I went to the doctor and he gave me a
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wake up call. He said, you gotta go home and eat, because.
Speaker 7 (37:59):
To night you can go home and die.
Speaker 6 (38:02):
You're just that sick. I couldn't eat. But that's when
God kicked in and said, you're right. He said, man
said you shall die, but I said that you shall
live and not die.
Speaker 7 (38:17):
To the class what I said, that's what it is.
And so he.
Speaker 6 (38:23):
Told me, in the middle of me sick, get up
and dance.
Speaker 7 (38:29):
God.
Speaker 6 (38:29):
I can't get up in dairs. No, no, go home.
I'm like the man at the pool of a desk.
Speaker 7 (38:33):
I can't.
Speaker 6 (38:34):
I can't kick it up. I can't get up now fast.
My daughters they took care of me. They did what
they were supposed to do. My oldest daughter came home,
stopped her entire life. Uh. Someone told her to anoint
the house with all we had just moved to your
brand new walls. When I did come to girl, they
had fingerprints all over my walls. I mean sneered all
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the way down. He had the door seals everything. And
so I started getting better. In about six months, I
felt good, and then my godchild gets killed and it
took me down a refreshed spiral, and I started not
eating again, and I.
Speaker 7 (39:17):
Went back down to ninety eight pounds. That was last year.
Speaker 6 (39:26):
Fo a year before last, And so last year I
was able to start getting myself back up because me
and him made a promise to each other that one
of us had to make it out. One of us
had to make it out, one of us had to
go and tell somebody because he got killed.
Speaker 7 (39:44):
In the streets. He got killed, he got murdered.
Speaker 6 (39:46):
So I have to be the one to make it
out and tell the story of how I made it over,
of how God brought me out of a mess, how
I danced my way through death by getting up when
I heard the voice of God and Bet said, dance,
and he said he gave me the song after Mistic
by Sounds of Blackness.
Speaker 7 (40:08):
You got to be Afterimistic. You got to see it
before you see it.
Speaker 6 (40:12):
You got to understand that it's going to happen if
you believe it.
Speaker 7 (40:16):
But you gotta have faith, and you.
Speaker 6 (40:17):
Gotta work your faith, because work faith without works is dead.
You gotta put your hands to the flower. You gotta
get up when you don't feel like it. You gotta
move when I when, even when you.
Speaker 7 (40:27):
Nobody say you can't.
Speaker 6 (40:28):
You got to be able to renew your mind to
say I can do all things through fight who christens me?
Speaker 7 (40:35):
And you get up and you fight.
Speaker 6 (40:37):
I cry, but I get up and I go fall.
I cry, and I still go get up and still smile.
After this, I shaped it off, I walk it out.
I do what I gotta do because I know what's
on the inside of me. I know I have purpose
that I know it's destiny for somebody else, because he
wouldn't have allowed me to go through the hell, the
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miss and answer my way through death without it and them.
I wrote these books in January. After writing those books,
I've been in a couple of magazines.
Speaker 7 (41:13):
I wrote a child's book in Mark. I have freckles in.
Speaker 6 (41:18):
Real life, real time. I cover them when I put
my makeup on. But most times I'm now that I'm
learning to love myself.
Speaker 7 (41:27):
I walk around without my freckles.
Speaker 6 (41:29):
But this one is the very of freckle fairy, of
magical lesson and loving yourself. And this is for kids
to teach them self awareness and self love, and that's
where it begins.
Speaker 7 (41:39):
We don't have to teach.
Speaker 6 (41:40):
Domestic violence if we teach our children how to love themselves.
And so with that being said, one question I've always
asked is in the Bible, it says love your neighbor
as you love yourself.
Speaker 7 (41:54):
Well, we have to back it up. We have to
love ourselves.
Speaker 6 (41:57):
Because the only thing we can do for our neighbors
we give to us.
Speaker 3 (42:06):
She was preaching, and the devil want to come in
and cut off the communication.
Speaker 5 (42:12):
Oh my goodness, yes, Lisa.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Lisa said, you have to be obedient to God's word
and move in faith. I think we lost connection with Lissa.
So while she comes back, Lisa says, my Lord and
that she's praying for her complete healing. She has a
powerful story, like I don't even know if most people
(42:37):
would have made it through half of the things that
she's been through, Like that was a lot, and she
has a message to tell. So I would encourage you
guys to make sure that you pick up her book.
While she comes back in, make sure you pick up
her book. She has the book, she has a journal,
(42:57):
and then she also has a work book as well.
And you guys can pick up her book. You can
get it to somebody, you can read it yourself. I mean, guys, girl,
you preaching. I said, the devil don't want nobody here
this message preaching.
Speaker 6 (43:14):
Yes, girls, I just said the same thing. Yes, And
I guess as I was saying, I have the Freckle Fairy,
which is for kids. This is literally how it begins.
If we can teach our children the seven Segments of
Self Love, in which I give that class, they would
know what domestic violence is because they loved themselves enough
(43:36):
to know that this.
Speaker 7 (43:37):
Don't feel like this, don't feel like what I want
to feel.
Speaker 6 (43:42):
So I try to do preventative measures before interventions, because
interventions are hard, and so in May I wrote this
book forbidding loved domestic violence out loud. This book is
literally a book that needs to be and everybody's home,
just like the Bible. And I'm not comparing it to
(44:02):
the Bible.
Speaker 7 (44:03):
But what I'm saying is this book, if you.
Speaker 6 (44:06):
Know what domestic violence looks like and you can.
Speaker 7 (44:09):
Recognize it and every home.
Speaker 6 (44:12):
I mean, just like you said, one out of three
people around the world, you know, they get twenty two
thousand calls in the day.
Speaker 7 (44:19):
In a minute, we have what like nine.
Speaker 6 (44:23):
I'm not even I.
Speaker 7 (44:24):
Can't even put it to words.
Speaker 6 (44:26):
The statistics here in Louisiana is we are in the
top five.
Speaker 7 (44:33):
Louisiana top five that rules.
Speaker 6 (44:37):
Oh my god, I couldn't even if they were doing
it by cities, we probably would be on the top.
Because there is a very bad spirit going around that
tells people that you can control people, that you can
put fear into people. You know, that you can harm people,
and it's okay, And it's not okay.
Speaker 7 (44:58):
It's not okay.
Speaker 6 (45:00):
It's not okay for us to say, why did you
stay or why you keep going back? Our Our job
is to say what can I do your help you?
Speaker 7 (45:10):
How may I assist you?
Speaker 6 (45:13):
Because if you start demanding stuff, they're gonna start feeling
like you're putting them back in that same position, in
that same box. You have to be more open to
say I don't understand, but I'm here to love you
through it, even when the times get called, even when
(45:33):
you don't want it even when you want to give up.
I'm here.
Speaker 7 (45:38):
I'm gonna catch you when.
Speaker 6 (45:39):
You fall, says, I got your back. I'm going to
do your voice for the voices. So Forbidding Loved is
a book that everybody needs in their repertoire. And Forbidding
Love Value too is now at the publishing company. And
I wrote that book strictly off of the Ditty trial.
Speaker 7 (45:59):
And all of the alleged.
Speaker 6 (46:00):
Things that went on with him, So all of that
jargon is in that book. That book is so powerful.
Speaker 7 (46:07):
That book is so mind blowing to me.
Speaker 6 (46:11):
I can't wait to see what it looks like and
read it for myself with I would.
Speaker 7 (46:17):
Being on you know, online.
Speaker 6 (46:19):
I want to see it in this book form where
I can open it up and say, the.
Speaker 7 (46:23):
Power of mutual healing.
Speaker 6 (46:25):
Narcissism is narcissism is the illusion of love. This book
right here, it tells you some stuff in here, love bombing,
gas lighting, all of the things that.
Speaker 7 (46:36):
You wouldn't believe that's going on.
Speaker 6 (46:38):
The bad boy image and what we like about the
bad boy image and why we like it, and you know,
and all these things this book tells all For being
Loved out loud, it's telling I am gonna be your boy,
krist a brother.
Speaker 7 (46:54):
Or whoever it may be. In the lgbtq AI two
plus community. I stand with you, will agree with you.
Speaker 6 (47:01):
Because nobody deserves to be abusion. I don't care who
you are. I know who you are. You just got
to line up with that part.
Speaker 7 (47:10):
I'm already in line.
Speaker 6 (47:11):
I'm praying for your soul, Vegas and so with that
being said, I don't care who it is. I'm walking
it out with I'm walking it out, I'm talking it out,
I'm screaming it out.
Speaker 7 (47:22):
I'm bossing it out.
Speaker 6 (47:23):
I am your body. I will make sure that everybody
this whole entire world, there're me in every area ever,
from the north southeast in the West. It might not
happen today, and it might not happen next week, but
I have the faith for knowing that my God will
(47:43):
do what he said he's going to do in my life,
and I believe what he said.
Speaker 3 (47:51):
Alyssa bootro who thank you so much for your transparency,
your strength, your voice. Tonight we was reminded that domestic
violence isn't just an issue.
Speaker 5 (48:06):
It's a crisis.
Speaker 7 (48:08):
It's a crisis.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
It's a crisis, and one in four women and one
and nine men will experience severe intimate partner violence in
their lifetime. But together with faith, resources and action, we
can break that cycle. Can you tell everybody how to
stay connected with you and how can they obtain copies
(48:31):
of your book?
Speaker 6 (48:33):
Well, I always have copies on sign copies, and most
people want to sign copies, and so if you want
signed copies, of course you can pay for them through
me and you will pay for your own shipping. But
if you want them and it doesn't matter, you can
go to Amazon and find my books. On Amazon. You
(48:55):
can find My Way through Depth, the Book, the Workbook.
Speaker 7 (48:59):
And the Dry You can find.
Speaker 6 (49:02):
The Freckle Ferry Magical Lesson and Loving Yourself on Amazon.
You can also find Forbidden Love Domestic Violence out loud
and volume two will be up and running before Christmas.
Speaker 7 (49:14):
Also, if you want.
Speaker 6 (49:16):
Ten Resilion Steps from Paint Purpose, I wrote this book
in twenty sixteen. I wrote a book in two thousand
and seven or eight that was called a Sacred Heart
Poems for the Soul. I wrote that book in one
night Christmas Eve thirty I think it's like thirty six points.
Each point God gave me. I wrote those poems and
(49:37):
I went into the Bible, and believe it or not,
every poem had a scripture.
Speaker 7 (49:42):
That matched with it.
Speaker 6 (49:44):
That book is powerful in itself. The Ten Resilient Steps
from Pain to Purpose.
Speaker 7 (49:49):
I use this book. It's a self help book.
Speaker 6 (49:51):
It has ten resilient steps, and you can go into
it every time you go through something and you can
find out what steps you're at, says Content. To regenerate.
The first one is to revive. The second is to recover,
The third is to reveal. The fourth is to rediscover.
The fifth is to restore, The sixth is to redefine,
(50:13):
The seventh is to renew. The eighth is to recreate
and reinvent, the ninth is to reposition, and the tenth
is to reintroduce or reacclaim yourself to the world. And say,
sometimes I might be going through something, so I go
back in this book and I say, ooh, I'm at
the rebuilding stage, which that's where I started at. Okay,
(50:34):
So I mean I got seven more steps to go.
How fast do I want to get there and how
bad do I want it?
Speaker 7 (50:41):
And I work on it. So I just tell you
that God is.
Speaker 6 (50:44):
God shall, God will and he has grown my mind
just tonight with this podcast, because I'm telling you, He's
putting everything in place at in position, and I'm standing
here in pos.
Speaker 3 (51:02):
Yes, Lisa Adams said, great show tonight. Thank you Lisa
for listening in and offering your input as well. These
are the ways that you can stay connected. Make sure
you reach out to her. Get those books, share the books,
give them to someone. Thank you so much. I am
(51:24):
just oh my god, you have a powerful story someone.
If you wasn't encouraged tonight, I don't even know what
to tell you.
Speaker 5 (51:34):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (51:35):
You encourage me so I appreciate you sharing, you being
vulnerable and just being obedient to what God has you
to do. Keep soaring, keep sharing your story.
Speaker 5 (51:46):
Yes, I love it. Thank you so much.
Speaker 7 (51:48):
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 6 (51:49):
I am grateful, thankful and blessed to be on your show.
And I wish prosperity over everything that you touch, that
you and be blessed beyond measure, That your life and
your house be blessed beyond measure, that the abundance will
overflow every part of your life receives that.
Speaker 3 (52:12):
Yes, I received that. Thank you so much. Bill Warriors
Talk Family Oh my goodness. I know you guys enjoyed
the show tonight. Don't just listen. I need you guys
to take action. If you know someone someone that you
love that may be in danger, reach out for help.
There is healing and there is freedom. You do not
(52:36):
have to be in silence. So if you know someone
that needs help, reach out to the National Domestic Violence
Hotline one eight hundred seven ninety nine Safe one eight
hundred seven ninety nine seven two three three, or you
can text start to eight eight seven eight eight, or
you can go to the website at www thehotline dot org.
(53:00):
If you are in immediate danger, then you need to
call nine one one. I want to highlight my sponsor,
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Let her know that Warriors Talk sent you. Warriors Talk
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(53:41):
Join me next Monday right here on Intellectual Radio. I
will leave you with these words of wisdom. Your story
may be someone else's survival guide, so don't be afraid
to share it. Join me next Monday right here on
Intellectual Radio. As always, thank you for tuning in to
(54:02):
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Speaker 2 (54:10):
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