Love At Home

When we think in terms of percentages we end up creating a mindset of score keeping and tallying. When we think, "I'm spent. I'm only operating at 60% capacity, and my spouse needs to pick up the slack and give the other 40%," we inadvertently create a checklist and a quick way to disappointment. This is not to say that your spouse won't pick up the slack - it's the idea that you think they "should." These "shoulds" are wreaking ha...

It might sound nice that marriage should be 50/50, where each partner gives an equal amount, but in reality, it becomes quite problematic. The idea of "equal" means that one or both parties are doing a bit of score keeping and tallying who is doing what or doing more and noticing the other isn't "keeping up". This kind of mindset is a recipe for RESENTMENT. In this episode, I introduce the resentment cycle and how it's so poisonous...

There is some misguided marriage advice about needing your spouse to fill all your needs. You've probably heard some like, write out a list of what you need from your spouse and give it to them. And on one hand, the list isn't a bad idea - it can be helpful and productive understanding and being aware of what your needs actually are but it's problematic asking your spouse to fill them. On one hand, it puts you in a risky position -...

Marriage is a unique relationship. The quality of your marriage impacts everything and everyone around you. It is the biggest source of so much joy and happiness in life and can also be the source of so much loneliness, pain, and sorrow. I want to help you create genuine LOVE at HOME by working on the core relationship first - your marriage. So whether you come solo or with your spouse, you will walk away from today's episode with ...