Have you ever had a blow-up with your partner and then sat in that heavy silence wondering what to do next? This episode is your guide to how to make up after a fight—and the real skill that keeps love strong: repair. Happy couples don’t avoid conflict; they learn how to come back to each other with intention, humility, and care.
We’ll look at why “never go to bed angry” is a myth (your brain actually needs space to calm down), how self-reflection helps you share your feelings without blame, and why small repair bids—like saying, “Yesterday was rough, can we talk tomorrow?”—can open the door to understanding. I’ll also share ways to use your couple strengths, whether it’s touch, shared rituals, or humor, to restore warmth and connection.
Repair takes practice, and each attempt adds another layer of strength to your relationship.
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Introduction: How to Make Up After a Fight
02:00 Why Relationship Repair Matters
06:07 The Anatomy of a Repair Attempt
12:07 Repairing After a Bad Fight
21:05 Communicating Effectively With Your Partner
28:07 Using Strengths to Reconnect
37:12 Humility, Growth, and Mindset Shifts
41:08 Free Resources & Next Steps
Reflect with me:
🌱 When do you know it’s time to pause instead of pushing through?
🌱 What do you wish your partner understood about your feelings in that moment?
🌱 Which strengths could you lean on to reconnect after hard moments?
Want more support as you practice these skills? My Free Communication That Connects Masterclass gives you tools to shift out of conflict loops and into conversations that bring you closer, along with a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear picture of what’s working and what needs care.
I’d love to stay connected beyond the podcast. Join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share more tools to help you grow together. And if this episode sparked a question or idea you’d like me to explore in the future, I’d love to hear from you—let’s talk!
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Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self