Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Are you ready to Talk To Me? Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships). Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone! So if you're ready... Let's talk... Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe

Episodes

August 26, 2025 34 mins
I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Larinda, as we tag-team a question from Lisa from Ohio who asks: I'm an overachiever. I believe it stems from my past and particularly my mother wounds. I never felt "good enough" for my mom, who was a perfectionist. She's no longer alive, but some of these past experiences still impact me today. How do I deal with my deep mother wounds, even though my mom is no longer here? We do a deep dive into her...
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Today I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Bri, as we unpack a question all the way from Stephanie from Guatemala, who is struggling to keep physical boundaries in her relationship with her boyfriend. What do you do when you're struggling with sexual temptation, but you want to honor God in your relationship? I know Stephanie isn't alone in this question, because our episode on Physical Boundaries is one of our most downloaded episodes of...
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I’m joined by DFCN counselor, Sandy, as we take an on-air call from Christy from Alabama, who wonders if it’s possible for trauma NOT to impact someone’s life? Christy has been through significant trauma in her childhood, yet feels like it hasn’t really had a negative impact on her life. Is that even possible? We talk with Christy about this important subject and help her get to the bottom of whether or not it’s possible for trauma...
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Today, I’m joined by DFCN counselor Allison, as we take an on-air call from CJ from Illinois who is struggling with low feelings in his dating relationships. How are you supposed to feel during dating, and what happens if you have “low” to “no feelings” when you’re early on in a dating relationship? Do you keep going, or do you stop? How do you know if the problem is with you or with the relationship? We unpack CJ’s question with h...
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Today I’m joined by DFCN counselor Melissa, as we take an on-air call from Adrienne from Florida who asks: How should I navigate a relationship with my mom who doesn’t invest/participate in a relationship with me and my sisters and hasn’t in a long time. The only time she reaches out is when she needs something. She’s not emotionally available with us and if we didn’t reach out, we probably wouldn’t hear from her at all. I’ve dista...
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Today begins the Ask A Counselor Series! Over the next few weeks I will be joined by counselors from my team as we tag-team questions from callers and listeners all over the country and world! Today, we answer a question from Mark from Washington, wondering how to know the difference between porn addiction and porn struggles, and if it’s possible to actually live free once and for all. Tune in to hear the counselors talk about this...
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Today on the podcast, I’m joined by my friend Toni, in this on-air counseling session focused on the excruciating journey of her marriage coming to an end, and what it looked like to begin healing alone. She opens up about a really meaningful interaction we had, and how God used that conversation to convict her about her consumption of alcohol in the aftermath of her tragedy. We get a front row seat into the journey of healing aft...
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Today is a really special session with a very special person, because today I sit down with my friend, and my “real life client”, Levi Lusko. A few years ago, Pastor Levi Lusko went through a devastating season filled with unexpected anxiety, panic attacks, and “spiraling”, and it hit him hard. We sat down for a raw, real, honest conversation about that difficult season, and processed his experience and what he learned as he navig...
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Today, I sit down for an on-air couples session with my friends Gabe and Rebekah Lyons, as we talk about the strain of feeling emotionally disconnected years into their marriage. What happens when marriage gets worse over the years, and not better? What do you do when you feel something is missing, an emotional disconnect between you and your spouse? Today we go there, and talk about what it meant for them to face the status of the...
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Today I’m having an on-air counseling session with Ian Cron. You may have heard of him from his popular enneagram-focused podcast, but today you’ll get to know him in a new way. In our conversation, today, we unpack his past history with alcoholism, what led him to that destructive place, as well as his journey to the point of relapse and then ultimate recovery. We also discuss where he is today, and what he’s doing to stay healthy...
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I’m having an on-air counseling session with Jinger Duggar, a member of the reality TV show family, the Duggars, whose show chronicled the everyday life of this conservative family of 19 children. She talks about growing up in a strict religious upbringing, how it impacted her life, her faith in God, and her people-pleasing tendencies. We talk about the extent of people pleasing she struggled with, and the combination of nature/nur...
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Justin called in to Talk To Me, because he’s struggling with his self-worth and inner critic. The negative voices are loud, and seem to be controlling his life. He has a hard time tuning them out, and wants to know where they are coming from and what he can do about it. I help him get to the roots of where this strong negative self-worth might be coming from, and how to deal with his inner critic. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the f...
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June 3, 2025 30 mins
Why is it that some people have a harder time saying no, and setting boundaries than others? Today on the podcast, Ashley calls in to talk to me about her struggle with saying no. She has a really hard time, feels guilty, and ends up feeling drained and depleted. I help her dig into the reasons why she struggles to say no, and what to do about it. If you struggle with boundaries, and saying no — this episode is for you.  You can...
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Today on Talk To Me, I’m talking with Haven who has struggled in her life to feel and believe the false narrative that it’s all on her. She has to do it all. She has to save everyone, help everyone, do everything — be all things to all people. It’s all on her. This mindset has caused her to struggle over the years…and she’s having to unlearn some of these unhealthy narratives and get to the root of where they came from to begin wit...
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May 20, 2025 52 mins
Today on Talk To Me, I’m joined by Chris (and his puppy!) who is on a journey to becoming emotionally healthy but needs some direction and help. He wants to take ownership and have insight on his emotional health and he’s looking for some practical next steps on what that actually means. How do you define emotional health and how do you begin the journey? I help him unpack this concept and give him some practical steps to becoming ...
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May 13, 2025 37 mins
Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Russel, a businessman who doesn’t know how to rest. He’s starting to feel the symptoms and effects of burnout in his life, but doesn’t understand why the act of resting seems so difficult for him. What do you do when you don’t know how to rest? I help him get to the bottom of his struggle with rest, and offer him practical next steps to help him get to a healthier place. You can also ⁠⁠⁠watc...
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Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you. Today on Talk To Me, I’m joined by my friend Davey Blackburn. Davey’s story made national headlines when his wife was brutally murdered, and he was left to pick up the pieces of his broken life. Where was God in all of this? How do you navigate ...
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April 29, 2025 33 mins
Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Junior who is struggling with his Anger issues...he finds himself quickly getting angry as his default emotional reaction, and he wants to get to the roots of his anger issues, so he can solve this problem once and for all. If you've struggled with anger outbursts or unexpected rage, and you're hoping to try and get some control of it, this episode is for you. We talk about how to de...
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Today on the show I talk to Stephanie May Wilson, who after having twins, and moving to another country, is processing the fact that life has been harder than she expected it to be…and she’s struggling. What do you do when life feels harder than you expected, and you start to question yourself? Is it supposed to be this hard? And is it this hard for others? What do you do when your personal inadequacies start to creep in, and how d...
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Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you.  Today on the show I talk to Daniel, who is asking how he should know when it’s time to consider depression medication. As Christians, we believe in prayer, we believe that God can heal us, and we believe that He is able to heal…so when do we make...
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