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December 19, 2019 13 mins

On social media most of us write our captions on our goals, give advice on things we’ve figured out, share fun times and great achievements.

But in private, the conversation often turns to the problems of life. I’m struggling with this thing that happened to me, I’m unhappy at work, I don’t know where I’m going or what I’m doing.

A lot of my writing has been focused on the former, because it seems that most people want to know how to accomplish their wildest dreams.

Looking back through my blog posts, I see that the ones I cared about the most, and the ones that prompted the most interaction from you, were focused on fixing the problems of life.

Stoicism has helped me immensely as a toolkit for when I’m uncomfortable, unhappy, or under fire. Talking about it in this form has resonated with enough of you to really notice that it’s making a difference in your thinking.

Yesterday, I got a DM on Instagram from someone who read my post about employee engagement. He told me all about his work which was highly sought after and hard to get, but now that he is there he’s completely disengaged and uninterested. What do you do then?

Those are the kinds of questions I want to answer. Fixing problems is my thing, I’m good at it. I’m very hands on in helping people that I know, introducing them to potential clients, helping them learn a new skill, helping them get through a rough time. It gives me energy when I know that the advice I gave truly took someone’s pain away. I want to do that for you, too.

Let me leave you with this today:

The answer to most of your problems is going to be self control.

When problems arise in life, they take two forms: things you can affect change on, and things you have zero influence over.

For the things you can change, you need the discipline, foresight, and audacity to act and affect positive change.

For the things you can’t change, you need to learn to compartmentalize your emotions and leave them in the amygdala. Don’t allow your emotions to cloud your higher thinking. If you can learn to embrace the day you’re given, and not compare it to the people around you who look like they have it all together (they don’t) then you’ll be a lot more at peace.

So, you may start to see a shift in my writing. Maybe it’ll stay pretty much the same. Just know I have your best interest at heart, and I’m truly here to help. If you want to write me back with something specific I can talk about for you, I would be thrilled to do what I can.

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