009: Making Single Motherhood an Empowered Choice

Signe Fjord is a single-mother-by-choice who has used her experience of building a family to counsel women considering alternatives paths to motherhood and to write children books. Signe’s books celebrate family in all of its forms. Signe grew up hearing fairy tales and wishing for her life to be a fairy tale. As an adult, Sign feels that promoting fairy tales is harmful to children and grown-ups alike.

Signe tells me about her decision to become a single-mother-by-choice and the long process that lead to her beautiful seven-year-old daughter. She tells me how she picked her sperm donor, and she stresses that the donor was just a small detail.

Signe has written three books, Who is Picking Me Up?, Mommy and the Love Child, and Solo Mom to a Donor Child. She also continues to write to help her daughter and the other children in their life understand that families come in many shapes and sizes.

Signe has given the single-motherhood-by-choice community some wonderful resources. She has some excellent points about living in the reality of family. Signe feels that many women need to change their mindset toward single motherhood. Donor-aided births are not failures or a plan B, all families should be celebrated. This a wonderful point that many women on an unconventional path to motherhood need to hear.

Some highlights of today’s conversation:

• Signe’s early life and love of fairy tales.
• How fairy tales colored her view of family.
• Signe’s decision to be a single-mother-by-choice and the death of her “dream.”
• How she chose her sperm donor.
• The 4 IUI (Intrauterine insemination) treatments and the change in sperm donor.
• Why it’s okay to be picky about a sperm donor (and why it really doesn’t matter.)
• How Signe counsels other single mothers.
• The change in mindset Signe thinks all women need before choosing single motherhood.
• Having a life vs. creating a life
• The importance of asking for help.
• How you can be a resource to other moms and help each other.
• Signe’s daughter’s reaction to her conception.
• Signe’s definition of family.
• How to celebrate the family you are given.

Resources

Happy Solo Mom

Motherhood Reimagined Website

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