December 26, 2023 • 40 mins
NT types, or “rationals”, are problem-solvers known for their ingenious, independent, and strong-willed nature. They prize knowledge and competency and use their abilities to understand and improve our world. NF types, or “idealists”, are naturally drawn to helping improve and inspire people. They are filled with good will and kindness and have a unique talent for helping others work together.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi everyone. Today we are going to focus on two
different temperaments and T and NF. So this is going
to be a quick rundown of our E NTP, E NTJ,
I NTP and I NTJ friends, and then our E
n f J I NFJ, E NFP and I NFP friends.
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So this is half of the Meersbriggs types here. But
these folks are all intuitive types, and believe it or not,
that's only around twenty five percent of the human population.
These are folks who are forward thinking and abstract. They
want to change the world, not just live in it.
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One temperament is all about improving world systems and knowledge,
while the other is all about developing people. They both
use their creativity and innovation to ponder the what ifs
in life. Mark and I will give you a quick
rundown of these eight types. And if you are an
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intuitive tuning in, I think you're going to find some
validation and ideas for you to pursue in your life.
And please, if you like this episode, don't forget to
subscribe and leave us a comment. Thanks for tuning in.
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Welcome to the new Myers Briggs Question Corner. I'm Edith Richards,
and I'm Mark Mappy, and we're here to answer your
questions about all things personality and all things Myers Briggs.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
From college to careers to relationships. Personality is the key
to finding the right fit.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Hey listeners, and hey Mark. So here we are in
our third episode of talking about temperaments. We've talked about
both the SJ and SP types and they make up
the majority of our population, so we wanted to talk
about our intuitive friends in this one episode kind of
to consolidate things. So Mark, how about we get right
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into it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I like it if I think this is something that
can be really again beneficial. We're talking about more than
half of our population has these particular types, and I
think i'd love to really get into it. You know.
One of the things I was thinking about and something
I want to do Before we get into the types,
I just wanted to share a quick story about the
value of knowing your type. Since I've been doing this podcast,
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I've been sharing some of the MBTI information with my
brother who I currently live with. He has a totally
different personality type than I do, so he's an ESFJ.
I can't seem to get rid of the Esfj's in
my life, right. But anytime here, like I'm going to
disagree with him on something, he always preemptively says, I
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know this might sound a little j of me, but
when we are leaving for Jamaica, you don't like to
put things in my planner, So do you have this
stuff available? And my response is normally like, oh, bleep, bleed, bleed,
my bad, I totally forgot to book the flights. His
response is like, my blessed piece. You know, he's always
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gonna He's like, these are my ps always late. So
he understands my personality type and he almost understands me
with that, and if it was something that was important,
he would do it. Like so, for instance, the bills,
he does the bills right because it's important. But a
trip to Jamaica that's not months in the future. I
feel like he can ask me six months in advance
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in order to help that, right, and so that's really
really important. So in turn he'll say stuff like, I
know this might sound a little s of me right
our sensors, but can you tell me what your current
plan is for your vision that you have because I
always have plans. I always have plans, possibilities, what can happen,
And he's always trying to keep me grounded by just
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being like, what exactly are you going to do like tomorrow?
For that right, it just makes me realize how powerful
knowing personality types are, right, and how you can easily
defuse certain interactions just by having the superpower of understanding type.
So I just thought that was funny but very very
helpful for us as we go through this MBTI understanding journey.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, yeah, that is hilarious, Mark, And it's not just
that it's funny, but I'm going to go out on
a limb and take it as a compliment. To me,
there is no bet better compliment than when someone takes
someone else's teaching or insight and applies it to their
own life, especially their personal life. And I like to
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think your brother is learning from your experience too.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah. It's just really helped our relationship. It's something that's
very valuable for us. And we understand that we're different,
we understand that we also have a lot of similarities.
We're both feelers, so we know that we need to
take some time discussions about our life. He knows that
he'll be able to get a fully well thought out,
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empathetic answer to some of the issues that we have,
and so by understanding, it's really really helped us really
have really, really solid relationships. A lot of times we'll
say this, like we'll say we have better relationships than marriages, right,
and I think it's primarily because, like we really understand
each other, we choose to be consider it in those situations.
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So but anyways, enough of the Matthew household, right, I
know we've got a lot to get into. We've got
two more temperaments and eight more personality types left, So
it is why don't we start with the conceptualizers, right,
the E n TJ's, the E and tps, the I ntjs,
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and the I n tps. Let's start with the E ndjs.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Okay, so let's get into it here. I really like
that we are starting with our E n TJ friends.
These folks are natural born leaders. They are confident, they
are often quite charismatic and determined. I read somewhere once
that E n TJ's cannot not lead, and that's certainly
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true for every E NTJ I've ever encountered. They need
to be in charge, and to their credit, they're usually
good at it. They have a long term, often strategic focus,
They get things done, and they get results. They do
need to remember, though, that people are not pawns, so
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they may handle their emotions poorly, and they may come
across as arrogant and pushy or even ruthless in extreme circumstances,
and they may be intolerant of others who are different.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
What are some pieces of advices that you would give
to some of these et njs. What are some things
you think they should be careful with or watch out for.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
So the e andtjs I know are They're not idle people.
They are constantly doing things to achieve their goals, and
they may have too much on their plates and they
may stress themselves out as a result. So I'm thinking
about my cousin, for example, because she's an e NTJ
and she has three jobs. She has a busy, full
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time job on Capitol Hill, she has a part time
job as a tour guide, and she also has a
small culinary business. And somehow she manages to excel at
all of these things. So whatever e ntjs tend to
do to set their minds to, they end up doing.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
These are the individuals I need in my group. I
need these individuals that are willing to multitask and get
things done. I think that's impressive. I love up to them.
I cannot do that, but like, I really look up
to their ability to do those things. And to also
understand like not because they're not me means that there's
something wrong where they can't get that done. Like you said,
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they get it done. So we got to understand that
there are individuals. That's how they are wired, and they're
good at It's why I love it. All Right, let's
talk about our e NTPs.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Okay, so e NTPs. These folks are innovative and clever.
I think those are the two best words to describe
e NTP types. They are great conversationalists. They love to debate,
They're curious about the world around them, and they tend
to get things very quickly, so they're often very quick witted.
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They love a challenge. They will jump right in. They'll
adapt very quickly along the way. One thing about e NTPs,
though they do not like to be boxed in. They
don't naturally follow rules and standard operating procedures. They do
like to push the limits. They're also much more keen
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to focus on exploring a new concept or an idea
than actually doing it and achieving it and making it
a reality. They tend to get bored easily, so these
qualities can make it hard for them to fit into
a lot of corporate type structures. E NTPs therefore, are
often well suited to entrepreneurial work or less conservative work environments.
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Most work environments and most like types of corporate settings
are much too stifling for the e NTP creativity.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Yeah, I feel like I have some friends that are
like this, and I love as you're explaining this, I'm
thinking about like the people that I know that tend
to fit in this general area, not typecasting, but again
giving me a little bit more self awareness of why
they might be acting that way, like the quick witted
and not want to be tied down into different structures.
I can see that's a P right, not necessarily a
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JAY right, And so I think that's really really important
to understand. Like sometimes I feel like these individuals like
they feel like they need to be the smartest person
in the room, like a little bit, right, and then
and then have the nerve that when I make a
smart comment, they come back with a like a sarcastic comment.
I don't appreciate that, right, but that's my f I
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understand why that's the case. But yeah, like, what are
some things that they need to look into or some
things maybe some like particular jobs.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
That yeah, you know, the entrepreneurial spirit. Again. I believe
a lot of our great inventors were e NTP types
just because of their unique talents. And also NTPs tend
to be really funny, very funny people, great senses of humor, sarcasm,
as you mentioned, lots of sarcasm and comments that not
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everybody would get straight away, and I think that's all
part of the fun for this personality type.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
That's great. What about those ntjs.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Okay, I ntjs, these are some of the most strategic
people out there. They are not fooled easily, and they
make deep observations very quickly. They are also constantly learning
and learning to improve. So one of their favorite sayings
is how can this be improved? So that's a double
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edged sword, of course, because we want things and pull
to get better, but we don't want it to seem
like there's this you know, this never ending quest or journey.
And that's something I INTJ types need to be careful
of these perfectionist tendencies that nothing is ever good enough.
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On the other hand, iontjs can be incredibly misunderstood. At
their core, they are masterminds and I like to say
puppet masters. They love to full strings without other people
being aware of what they're doing. They are introverts, definitely
not the most social people. In fact, most iontjs i've
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known tend to avoid social settings, especially if there's a
lot of idle chit chat going on. But they do
form deep relationships with a small select number of people,
and usually these are people they find intellectually stimulating and
they're going to show their emotions only to those select few.
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Another thing about i NTJ is they crave autonomy and
competence in everything. They want a world that's logical and orderly,
and they may use some possibly manipulative strategies to get
what they want. They can be seen as callous and insensitive,
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but also wicked smart, and they are also one of
the rarest personality type.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
They also come with the Boston accent to with the
wicked smart.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Hey probably no doubt.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I love that really really good description. And again one
of the things that I'm doing as I'm learning more
about MBTI is picking out what are the particular preferences
that are coming out there, right, like the intuition about
the whole idea of like how can things be improved? Right,
but also maybe the master mining might be a little
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bit of that tea speaking because they may not really
necessarily you know, like the most important thing is getting
things done, not necessarily how this person might feel about
it at the end, but we're we able to accomplish things.
So I think it really as you go through these things, audience,
think about like what preferences are these things speaking to,
because I think it can help you in your life
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as you're starting to see what are the things that
what type of preferences is coming through this individual as
you have that conversation, and it really will help you
not only in yourself understanding, but also helping them understand
themselves too. I think that's very very important.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Yeah, and last of conceptualizers, and you could I think
that's a really really good word for what we're explaining. Conceptualizers.
I'm start seeing the common theme we talked about this
being like their area, their country, right, this is the
conceptualizer country and I'm starting to seeing that common theme
in all all of these What about the iontps.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Yeah, so I INTPs. So like our IONTJ types, iontps
are also very autonomous. They don't like feeling like they're
being controlled, so some traditional jobs and work environments it
can be hard for iontps because of this, but they'll
typically do very well in places that respect their independent nature.
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With that said, iontps pride themselves on being different. They
do not care much for rules and social norms, and
they can come across as overly blunt as a result.
They also love to learn. They are apt to go
down all sorts of rabbit holes in pursuit of something
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they're interested in, and in doing so. When they do this,
they tend to become oblivious to the rest of the world.
They spend loads of time thinking about systems or what
it is that fascinates them. They are not really interested
in attaining a goal per se, but they are very
interested in finding the truth, and they take that truth
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very seriously. Knowledge is everything to an ITP. Relationships aren't
usually very easy for this personality type either. They are
not really the best at being emotionally vulnerable and then
talk about being misunderstood. So their inner minds are very
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accurate and complex, but they often struggle to get those
ideas across to other people. Part of them craves building
rapport and feeling and being with others, but they are
often plagued with this self consciousness or shyness. On the
other hand, if you are looking for a creative genius
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or someone to spot an inconsistency, I definitely want to
look for an IONTP type.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Wow, it seems like there's a lot with our iontps.
And you know, as you were speaking, I didn't necessarily
feel like there was a friend of mine or anything
like that that really stuck out to me, Like, do
you have friends that are iontps?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, yeah, I do. I have a few I INTP friends.
And let me just say that all of them are
nerds at heart. And I say that with all the
respect in the world. They all work in different fields,
but they are all masters at whatever it is that
they do.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
That's awesome. Again, get get those individuals in my group.
I think, you know, we talk a lot about you know,
how these opposites complete, right, And I'm good in one thing.
This other personality type is good at other things. We
can come together with both of our strengths and make
something better, right, and reach the potential and that sort
of stuff. And I think sometimes when I look at
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individuals in my group, I kind of don't want the
same individual because I think that can be very unproductive.
I need individuals who are different than me in order
to get that done. And so although we're very different,
meaning the conceptualizers, I'm more of an idealist. Although we're different,
I need them in order to be successful. So I
love that. Yeah. I love how we're getting to that
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through these conversations and your description of these types.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Yeah, yeah, I mean I love all my NTI friends here.
They're great people, and like you're saying here, I love
having them in my group.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
So here's we're going to save the best for last.
Just kidding, guys, but whatever your whatever your particular preferences
were and your types, those were the best two as
you as well. Like, it's not just this, but it
is not ironic that the last one is the idealist, right,
and both Edith and myself share types within this country.
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We're going to really really get into this. Some of
you guys may are ready if you've been following the podcast.
There's a lot of stuff that we've talked about with ourselves,
but we want to also bring in the other two
as well. So so our Idealists, which I feel is
a perfect title for this country of types. We're going
to talk about the E n FJS, the E n FPS,
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the I n FJS, and the I n FP. Okay,
can you tell us more about Let's start work with
the first one, the E n f JS.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Yeah, yeah, So first, if I may, I want to
mention just a key difference between NT and nf types.
So both are focused on possibilities and patterns, but NT's
prioritize objective analysis, logic and truth and f's, on the
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other hand, prioritize possibilities for people focus on connecting with others.
So let's start with our E NFJ friends. So, these
folks tend to have a lot of charisma, great interpersonal skills.
They are natural leaders, especially in terms of motivating and
fostering growth in others. They prioritize group harmony and their
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initial reaction is to harmonize with everybody around them, so
much so oftentimes that they may absorb the emotions of
everyone around them in real time now. As judging types,
they're going to function at their best if they have
a solid plan in place, and as feeling types, they're
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going to base their decisions primarily on how it will
affect other people. Specifically, they're going to want to avoid
impacting other people in a negative way, so as a result,
they are often the peacemakers in their families or their teams.
They also will tend to get angry about a lack
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of empathy or inconsiderate behavior, and they may very quickly
jump to the defense of a friend or a coworker
who's on, for example, the receiving end of some aggressive
or demeaning behavior, and they may yell at the perpetrator.
I've seen this happen, and then almost immediately they're going
to feel guilty, and they may use their communication skills
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to try to smooth things over. They also put a
lot of thought into their appearance. They're very conscious about
how others see them. They can be proud and also perfectionists,
and so on the outside they may look like they
have it all, but they may be struggling internally. They
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are apt to excel at one thing. If they're excelling
in one area, they may be disappointed in other areas
of their lives, and due to their focus on everyone else,
they may forget to take care of themselves. But overall,
ENFJs are people you can count on. They have genuine
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interest in other people. They tend to make great politicians
and social workers and even executives.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I'm thinking that this sounds like an individual that I'm
doing a podcast with. Is there a possibility that this
is your type?
Speaker 1 (22:17):
You know? It's funny that you say that, because I
think some people have typed me either as an e
n FJ or an e NTJ at work, And I'm
definitely when I'm doing this podcast, I am honing my
work persona. But no, I mean, most naturally, at my core,
I am an e n FP type.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
That's awesome. That's awesome. What are some tips, especially since
you're talking about yourself, right, like, what are some tips
that you would give our fellow ian fps.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah, so if we get into the E NFPs here,
and we might as well just jump right into it too.
So this is actually great fun for me because I
get to talk about my own type. So we E
NFPs put our hearts into everything we do. If and
that's the caveat here. If it's something that interests us.
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We are naturally optimistic. We may look like we're happy,
go lucky to the external world, but that doesn't mean
that we're immune to depression or stress. We can get
very stressed by negative people, mean people, and we can
get depressed if we're alone too much, or if we're
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boxed into a job or a relationship with very little
autonomy and we feel like we're stuck, or if we're
forced to work in an overly systemic or repetitive work environment.
These are some of the things that kind of stress
us out or get us down. We gravitate towards possibilities,
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and the more out of the box the possibility, the
more exciting it is for us. We do not want
to be stuck doing the same thing day after day.
Monotony is one of the worst things that you can
do to an NFP type. We also gravitate towards work
and tasks that make a difference in people's lives. I'd
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say that it is our I'd say that in our
day to day lives, we need to motivate or inspire people.
We tend to be the ones who lift others up
and make people happy, and we're usually very successful at
this because of our natural interpersonal skills. And we need
a creative outlet. We need to be able to come
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up with some clever new solutions to problems. And this
was most important to me. I think it's true for
a lot of other NFP types. We need to be
our authentic, true selves. And yeah, I think this is
the hallmark for most ENFP types, perhaps more than any
other type. We need to be interested in a topic
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to feel authentic and there for satisfied. If we are,
there is really no stopping us. We will surpass any
goal that's set. But if it's some arbitrary goal or
someone else's special project, yeah we'll check the box, but
we won't really be invested. We need to be generating
new ideas. We need to function with freedom and flexibility,
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and we need to have fun. We need to connect
with other people regularly, so things like planning and mundane tasks. Yes,
of course these have to be done, but these aren't
our areas of strength. We are prone to boredom if
we're not living our own authentic lives.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
I love that, I think you know, I feel like
you guys, are you lean towards feeling or living a
more authentic life and being more yourselves? And this is
something that we're trying to get accomplished through this podcast,
is by providing this self understanding. How can you live
your true authentic self? And it seems like if you're
not living your true authentic self that you would have
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an issue, like you would have a problem, you wouldn't
feel not whole. Would I be correcting that?
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Yeah, I definitely, But you know it's and it's not
to say that we can't do it. We can do it,
but I think we would feel very much like we're
sacrificing some part of ourselves. And you know, I guess
anybody can do that for a short amount of time,
but then you think about doing it over and over
again every day, and I think that that could really
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get to us more than a lot of other personality types.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
And I think you've mentioned too it if how sometimes
you struggle in your work task because they're so inauthentic
to who you are. And I think that although you've
done a tremendous job, like you've done great work, I
feel at times because you're not really living out your
true authentic self. That's maybe why outside of work you
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want to do these podcasts or you want to do
coaching and that sort of stuff, because that allows you
to live your authentic life even more so, even though
you may not be get to get at work, you're
going to try to finally get it somewhere else, right.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, bingo, And I mean it's definitely not to say
that I don't get it at work. I mean, I'm
very fortunate in my job. I do get to bring
some of these skills to work, and those are great
days when I can do that and connect with other
people make a difference to other people too. But yeah,
I mean, I think I'm not the only NFP to
say this that we do need a creative outlet, especially
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if you know there's we're working in more of a
corporate setting or more traditional work environment, no.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Doubt, no doubt. Let's go on to our next one.
I and fj's tell us a little bit more about them.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Yeah. So infjs are the rarest of the sixteen Myers
Briggs types, and because they are so rare, other types
may have difficulty relating to them. Many infj's feel misunderstood
and may have felt lonely, and as a result, they
may isolate themselves or feel down in the dumps because
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they feel so different this type these folks are visionaries.
They have original ways of looking at the world, and
they're innovative, and they're quickly able to size people and
situations up accurately. They have this internal picture of how
they want their work to contribute to the greater good,
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and they can be excellent motivators to others on their teams.
They are naturally caring, empathetic people, but they may have
difficulty expressing these emotions, especially at large social gatherings with strangers.
Infjs take time to get to know people and to
trust them, so mindless banter and small talk are exhausting
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to INFJ types and they'll probably go to great lengths
to avoid it. They are also very good at strategic
planning and seeing future implications. They will do best working
in non competitive work environments where they can use their
skills to create new programs that address current challenges, especially
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if these programs will benefit other people. They are not
going to do too well in overly political or noisy
or chaotic work environments, for example, or if they're forced
to speak publicly in front of people with little to
no preparation. Most INFJ types I know also have a
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deeply spiritual side and this is a huge part of
who they are. On the downside, they are perfectionists and
they may easily get burned out in this quest for perfection.
This may show up in interpersonal or professional squabbles with
other people. For example, most infjs can handle most people
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up to a point, but if you get on their
wrong side, watch out. They will cut you out of
their lives without hesitation, or if things are really bad,
they'll blow up and that'll be the end of things.
But it really takes a lot to get them to
that point, and they'll give you a lot of cues
before that happens, but it's up to you to decipher
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those cues, and they may not be easy to decipher
for some other personality types.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Wow, that's interesting, And you know, like, like I've been
mentioning in this podcast, I'm sensing and I'm seeing some
of these different preferences jump out. Right. The j's their
need for organization structure, that's very important. The environment in
which they interact and where they work is very very
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important for them. Right, So the Jay's talking coming out
of that. When we talked about the feelers, one of
the things you mentioned was if you wrong a feeler,
they will let you know, right, And so you hear
a lot of that coming out of this type description.
So I love that. And again, being able to see
how these preferences are jumping out as we explain the
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types is really really cool to see two as well.
It helps you become better at spotting different personality types
by understanding the preferences really well. So I think that's good.
So as we say in Jamaica, and we want to
give a little Jamaican accent here Jamaica, it's gonna sound
terrible because it's going to sound very American Jamaica, fimmy
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time now, fimmy.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Time, now, give me time now.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Fimmy time now. Those individuals who are struggling with that,
that means it's my turn now.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Oh I got you, Okay, that's my turn.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
So the sixteenth type through fifteen, the sixteenth type is
my type.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Nice. So that's a little patois there? Right?
Speaker 2 (32:08):
Yeah, it's potswa but pot.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Okay, it's fun.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
But it's great. But and again, like I just love
it because again, it's for me time now, and that's
something that we always do when it's somebody's turn. For
me time now. So you guys get to listen to
Mark Matthew's type. Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Edit all right, So last, but certainly not least, and
this is this is for you Mark. This is the
I NFP. So I n fps have an inner set
of core values that guide everything they do, from their
decisions to how they interact with other people to work.
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I NFP types prioritize living true to whatever their values are,
and as a result, work for the sake of work
meaningless routine is one of the worst things for an
INFP type. Being stuck in a work environment like this
can cause them to be apathetic at their best and
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rebellious at their worst. This can also cause INFP types
to devalue themselves, and this is why we don't see
many INFP types in traditional or corporate work environments. These
tend to be very impersonal and overly political, and it's
hard for IFPs to do what they love when they
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have to adhere to someone else's guidelines. They're going to
see this as pointless or trivial. IFPs are creative people,
and if their creativity is encouraged and they're allowed to
work autonomously. They're going to do great things. They are
naturally devoted to the people and things they care deeply about.
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They are loyal friends and partners, and like our if
J friends, INFPs also tend to have these perfection tendencies.
But this is going to show up differently. INFPs may
spend so much time focusing inward and relying on their
own inner resources, trying to get whatever it is they're
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working on to be perfect, and they as a result,
sent these impossibly high standards to themselves, and then their
projects might go unfinished or they may be just unable
to complete them for whatever reason. And then inside their heads,
INFPs get frustrated and start questioning their abilities. Now, to
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the outside world, this may look like a lot of
procrastination or you know, just not given a crap, But
it's a very different story inside the head of an INFP.
But when they are at their natural best, INFPs are
great empathetic listeners. They are natural counselors, and they love
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to help others. Every INFP I have ever met has
some sort of creative or artistic talent or interest interest
in the arts or music or something creative.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
So well said perfectly describes who I am. Man For
those individuals who think that I just procrastinate, just take
a journey in my brain. Right, let's just go. It's
a different story that's inside my head. Right. And I
think that's I think it's actually really really important, not
just for the IFPs, right, but for everybody. What you
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see is not always what you get, right, and what
person might show and we might judge an individual step
inside their shoes. I know we call it empathy, right,
step inside their shoes, but I even like what you said,
Walk in their head, see what their thoughts are, gain
a level of understanding, right. And when you get a
level of understanding, you realize, oh, it's not procrastination, and
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it's this, right. It's not that that person is short tempered,
it's this. It's not because that person is a perfectionist.
It's this. And I think it's really really important for
us to understand. So it brings up kind of a
greater point to how we interact in life in general.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Mm hmm, yeah for sure. Yeah, And it goes back
to just not being careful of the assumptions that you make.
Just use that as a way to have a conversation
with somebody and show curiosity rather than judgment.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
I love it. I love it. So yay we got
through all sixteen. It took us three episodes, but we
got through all sixteen of them, and I'm really I
feel really good that everyone was able to get a
brief explanation of their personality type and see kind of
where they fit. I've even had fun looking at the
very well mined website on the psychology personality types and
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also the sixteen personalities dot com to really gain some
additional self awareness on my personality type. And if I
know that these pop type kind of websites that are
fun to look at, kind of cool to observe and
that sort of stuff. But what are some other validated
resources our audience can look at to get a deeper
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dive into their personality types beyond just the brief descriptions
we gave them.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
So shameless plug here for myself. For the mid career
folks who are tuning in, I'd love for you to
check out my other podcast series, Myers Briggs for midlife
career changers, and this series focuses on career paths for
each of the sixteen Myers Briggs type and there's one
episode for each type. So a couple of other sites
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that I like aretruity dot Com and personality Max. Also,
if you're very knowledgeable about or interested in the science
behind the MBTI, check out personality Junkie. The writers go
into great depths talking about the cognitive functions.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
Oh, I love it. So again, guys, don't depend on
it because we don't have a lot of time, right,
and so we're giving you brief descriptions. I think this
would be a good family activity, a good couple activity,
just to kind of go through some of these websites
and kind of go through that and as you're reading
something that might describe you, your significant other might say, Yep,
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that's you, or you or your mom might be like, yeah,
that's you. Like these things are really cool to be
able to do that sort of stuff. So I think
that's one thing for you to look at. And I
think it if you know, I'm a teacher, right, and
I think I'm gonna give you guys another homework assignment
and it's twofold. Okay, now that you know your personality type,
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be intentional in sharing your personality gifts. And strengths to
your environment. So every day, can you do one thing
to intentionally share your gift to the world. Intentional about that,
Now that you know what your gifts are, how can
you share your gifts to the world because they're needed?
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How can you share these personality strengths to the world.
That's homework assignment against number two? Right? Okay, Number three
is with this knowledge we've shared about personality type, help
those who you are close to find their personality type
and then give them what they need. They live out
the Platinum rule. So these are two specific homework assignments
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that I feel like if you use them how much
it is so valuable and it can be such a
blessing not just to yourself but to others and also
the world.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Yeah, for sure, and I love that, Mark. I love
the homework assignment. And also what a great way to
wrap up this episode. So folks, as you are tuning in,
please think about how you can bring your gifts to
the world and how you can help others do the same.
And with that, I have one more favor to ask
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you all, and that's to please give us a share,
follow us on your favorite podcast platform and leave us
a comment so that we can continue bringing you great content.
Mark thank you so much for all your insights and folks,
we will see you next time.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
Thanks for tuning in, follow us on social media and
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Speaker 1 (40:30):
And please reach out to me on LinkedIn and on
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Hi everyone. Today we are going to focus on two
different temperaments and T and NF. So this is going
to be a quick rundown of our E NTP, E NTJ,
I NTP and I NTJ friends, and then our E
n f J I NFJ, E NFP and I NFP friends.
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So this is half of the Meersbriggs types here. But
these folks are all intuitive types, and believe it or not,
that's only around twenty five percent of the human population.
These are folks who are forward thinking and abstract. They
want to change the world, not just live in it.
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One temperament is all about improving world systems and knowledge,
while the other is all about developing people. They both
use their creativity and innovation to ponder the what ifs
in life. Mark and I will give you a quick
rundown of these eight types. And if you are an
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intuitive tuning in, I think you're going to find some
validation and ideas for you to pursue in your life.
And please, if you like this episode, don't forget to
subscribe and leave us a comment. Thanks for tuning in.
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Welcome to the new Myers Briggs Question Corner. I'm Edith Richards,
and I'm Mark Mappy, and we're here to answer your
questions about all things personality and all things Myers Briggs.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
From college to careers to relationships. Personality is the key
to finding the right fit.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Hey listeners, and hey Mark. So here we are in
our third episode of talking about temperaments. We've talked about
both the SJ and SP types and they make up
the majority of our population, so we wanted to talk
about our intuitive friends in this one episode kind of
to consolidate things. So Mark, how about we get right
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into it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
I like it if I think this is something that
can be really again beneficial. We're talking about more than
half of our population has these particular types, and I
think i'd love to really get into it. You know.
One of the things I was thinking about and something
I want to do Before we get into the types,
I just wanted to share a quick story about the
value of knowing your type. Since I've been doing this podcast,
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I've been sharing some of the MBTI information with my
brother who I currently live with. He has a totally
different personality type than I do, so he's an ESFJ.
I can't seem to get rid of the Esfj's in
my life, right. But anytime here, like I'm going to
disagree with him on something, he always preemptively says, I
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know this might sound a little j of me, but
when we are leaving for Jamaica, you don't like to
put things in my planner, So do you have this
stuff available? And my response is normally like, oh, bleep, bleed, bleed,
my bad, I totally forgot to book the flights. His
response is like, my blessed piece. You know, he's always
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gonna He's like, these are my ps always late. So
he understands my personality type and he almost understands me
with that, and if it was something that was important,
he would do it. Like so, for instance, the bills,
he does the bills right because it's important. But a
trip to Jamaica that's not months in the future. I
feel like he can ask me six months in advance
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in order to help that, right, and so that's really
really important. So in turn he'll say stuff like, I
know this might sound a little s of me right
our sensors, but can you tell me what your current
plan is for your vision that you have because I
always have plans. I always have plans, possibilities, what can happen,
And he's always trying to keep me grounded by just
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being like, what exactly are you going to do like tomorrow?
For that right, it just makes me realize how powerful
knowing personality types are, right, and how you can easily
defuse certain interactions just by having the superpower of understanding type.
So I just thought that was funny but very very
helpful for us as we go through this MBTI understanding journey.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, yeah, that is hilarious, Mark, And it's not just
that it's funny, but I'm going to go out on
a limb and take it as a compliment. To me,
there is no bet better compliment than when someone takes
someone else's teaching or insight and applies it to their
own life, especially their personal life. And I like to
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think your brother is learning from your experience too.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah. It's just really helped our relationship. It's something that's
very valuable for us. And we understand that we're different,
we understand that we also have a lot of similarities.
We're both feelers, so we know that we need to
take some time discussions about our life. He knows that
he'll be able to get a fully well thought out,
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empathetic answer to some of the issues that we have,
and so by understanding, it's really really helped us really
have really, really solid relationships. A lot of times we'll
say this, like we'll say we have better relationships than marriages, right,
and I think it's primarily because, like we really understand
each other, we choose to be consider it in those situations.
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So but anyways, enough of the Matthew household, right, I
know we've got a lot to get into. We've got
two more temperaments and eight more personality types left, So
it is why don't we start with the conceptualizers, right,
the E n TJ's, the E and tps, the I ntjs,
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and the I n tps. Let's start with the E ndjs.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
Okay, so let's get into it here. I really like
that we are starting with our E n TJ friends.
These folks are natural born leaders. They are confident, they
are often quite charismatic and determined. I read somewhere once
that E n TJ's cannot not lead, and that's certainly
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true for every E NTJ I've ever encountered. They need
to be in charge, and to their credit, they're usually
good at it. They have a long term, often strategic focus,
They get things done, and they get results. They do
need to remember, though, that people are not pawns, so
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they may handle their emotions poorly, and they may come
across as arrogant and pushy or even ruthless in extreme circumstances,
and they may be intolerant of others who are different.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
What are some pieces of advices that you would give
to some of these et njs. What are some things
you think they should be careful with or watch out for.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
So the e andtjs I know are They're not idle people.
They are constantly doing things to achieve their goals, and
they may have too much on their plates and they
may stress themselves out as a result. So I'm thinking
about my cousin, for example, because she's an e NTJ
and she has three jobs. She has a busy, full
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time job on Capitol Hill, she has a part time
job as a tour guide, and she also has a
small culinary business. And somehow she manages to excel at
all of these things. So whatever e ntjs tend to
do to set their minds to, they end up doing.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
These are the individuals I need in my group. I
need these individuals that are willing to multitask and get
things done. I think that's impressive. I love up to them.
I cannot do that, but like, I really look up
to their ability to do those things. And to also
understand like not because they're not me means that there's
something wrong where they can't get that done. Like you said,
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they get it done. So we got to understand that
there are individuals. That's how they are wired, and they're
good at It's why I love it. All Right, let's
talk about our e NTPs.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
Okay, so e NTPs. These folks are innovative and clever.
I think those are the two best words to describe
e NTP types. They are great conversationalists. They love to debate,
They're curious about the world around them, and they tend
to get things very quickly, so they're often very quick witted.
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They love a challenge. They will jump right in. They'll
adapt very quickly along the way. One thing about e NTPs,
though they do not like to be boxed in. They
don't naturally follow rules and standard operating procedures. They do
like to push the limits. They're also much more keen
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to focus on exploring a new concept or an idea
than actually doing it and achieving it and making it
a reality. They tend to get bored easily, so these
qualities can make it hard for them to fit into
a lot of corporate type structures. E NTPs therefore, are
often well suited to entrepreneurial work or less conservative work environments.
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Most work environments and most like types of corporate settings
are much too stifling for the e NTP creativity.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Yeah, I feel like I have some friends that are
like this, and I love as you're explaining this, I'm
thinking about like the people that I know that tend
to fit in this general area, not typecasting, but again
giving me a little bit more self awareness of why
they might be acting that way, like the quick witted
and not want to be tied down into different structures.
I can see that's a P right, not necessarily a
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JAY right, And so I think that's really really important
to understand. Like sometimes I feel like these individuals like
they feel like they need to be the smartest person
in the room, like a little bit, right, and then
and then have the nerve that when I make a
smart comment, they come back with a like a sarcastic comment.
I don't appreciate that, right, but that's my f I
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understand why that's the case. But yeah, like, what are
some things that they need to look into or some
things maybe some like particular jobs.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
That yeah, you know, the entrepreneurial spirit. Again. I believe
a lot of our great inventors were e NTP types
just because of their unique talents. And also NTPs tend
to be really funny, very funny people, great senses of humor, sarcasm,
as you mentioned, lots of sarcasm and comments that not
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everybody would get straight away, and I think that's all
part of the fun for this personality type.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
That's great. What about those ntjs.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
Okay, I ntjs, these are some of the most strategic
people out there. They are not fooled easily, and they
make deep observations very quickly. They are also constantly learning
and learning to improve. So one of their favorite sayings
is how can this be improved? So that's a double
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edged sword, of course, because we want things and pull
to get better, but we don't want it to seem
like there's this you know, this never ending quest or journey.
And that's something I INTJ types need to be careful
of these perfectionist tendencies that nothing is ever good enough.
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On the other hand, iontjs can be incredibly misunderstood. At
their core, they are masterminds and I like to say
puppet masters. They love to full strings without other people
being aware of what they're doing. They are introverts, definitely
not the most social people. In fact, most iontjs i've
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known tend to avoid social settings, especially if there's a
lot of idle chit chat going on. But they do
form deep relationships with a small select number of people,
and usually these are people they find intellectually stimulating and
they're going to show their emotions only to those select few.
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Another thing about i NTJ is they crave autonomy and
competence in everything. They want a world that's logical and orderly,
and they may use some possibly manipulative strategies to get
what they want. They can be seen as callous and insensitive,
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but also wicked smart, and they are also one of
the rarest personality type.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
They also come with the Boston accent to with the
wicked smart.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Hey probably no doubt.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I love that really really good description. And again one
of the things that I'm doing as I'm learning more
about MBTI is picking out what are the particular preferences
that are coming out there, right, like the intuition about
the whole idea of like how can things be improved? Right,
but also maybe the master mining might be a little
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bit of that tea speaking because they may not really
necessarily you know, like the most important thing is getting
things done, not necessarily how this person might feel about
it at the end, but we're we able to accomplish things.
So I think it really as you go through these things, audience,
think about like what preferences are these things speaking to,
because I think it can help you in your life
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as you're starting to see what are the things that
what type of preferences is coming through this individual as
you have that conversation, and it really will help you
not only in yourself understanding, but also helping them understand
themselves too. I think that's very very important.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Yeah, and last of conceptualizers, and you could I think
that's a really really good word for what we're explaining. Conceptualizers.
I'm start seeing the common theme we talked about this
being like their area, their country, right, this is the
conceptualizer country and I'm starting to seeing that common theme
in all all of these What about the iontps.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Yeah, so I INTPs. So like our IONTJ types, iontps
are also very autonomous. They don't like feeling like they're
being controlled, so some traditional jobs and work environments it
can be hard for iontps because of this, but they'll
typically do very well in places that respect their independent nature.
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With that said, iontps pride themselves on being different. They
do not care much for rules and social norms, and
they can come across as overly blunt as a result.
They also love to learn. They are apt to go
down all sorts of rabbit holes in pursuit of something
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they're interested in, and in doing so. When they do this,
they tend to become oblivious to the rest of the world.
They spend loads of time thinking about systems or what
it is that fascinates them. They are not really interested
in attaining a goal per se, but they are very
interested in finding the truth, and they take that truth
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very seriously. Knowledge is everything to an ITP. Relationships aren't
usually very easy for this personality type either. They are
not really the best at being emotionally vulnerable and then
talk about being misunderstood. So their inner minds are very
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accurate and complex, but they often struggle to get those
ideas across to other people. Part of them craves building
rapport and feeling and being with others, but they are
often plagued with this self consciousness or shyness. On the
other hand, if you are looking for a creative genius
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or someone to spot an inconsistency, I definitely want to
look for an IONTP type.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
Wow, it seems like there's a lot with our iontps.
And you know, as you were speaking, I didn't necessarily
feel like there was a friend of mine or anything
like that that really stuck out to me, Like, do
you have friends that are iontps?
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Yeah, yeah, I do. I have a few I INTP friends.
And let me just say that all of them are
nerds at heart. And I say that with all the
respect in the world. They all work in different fields,
but they are all masters at whatever it is that
they do.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
That's awesome. Again, get get those individuals in my group.
I think, you know, we talk a lot about you know,
how these opposites complete, right, And I'm good in one thing.
This other personality type is good at other things. We
can come together with both of our strengths and make
something better, right, and reach the potential and that sort
of stuff. And I think sometimes when I look at
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individuals in my group, I kind of don't want the
same individual because I think that can be very unproductive.
I need individuals who are different than me in order
to get that done. And so although we're very different,
meaning the conceptualizers, I'm more of an idealist. Although we're different,
I need them in order to be successful. So I
love that. Yeah. I love how we're getting to that
(18:18):
through these conversations and your description of these types.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Yeah, yeah, I mean I love all my NTI friends here.
They're great people, and like you're saying here, I love
having them in my group.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
So here's we're going to save the best for last.
Just kidding, guys, but whatever your whatever your particular preferences
were and your types, those were the best two as
you as well. Like, it's not just this, but it
is not ironic that the last one is the idealist, right,
and both Edith and myself share types within this country.
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We're going to really really get into this. Some of
you guys may are ready if you've been following the podcast.
There's a lot of stuff that we've talked about with ourselves,
but we want to also bring in the other two
as well. So so our Idealists, which I feel is
a perfect title for this country of types. We're going
to talk about the E n FJS, the E n FPS,
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the I n FJS, and the I n FP. Okay,
can you tell us more about Let's start work with
the first one, the E n f JS.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
Yeah, yeah, So first, if I may, I want to
mention just a key difference between NT and nf types.
So both are focused on possibilities and patterns, but NT's
prioritize objective analysis, logic and truth and f's, on the
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other hand, prioritize possibilities for people focus on connecting with others.
So let's start with our E NFJ friends. So, these
folks tend to have a lot of charisma, great interpersonal skills.
They are natural leaders, especially in terms of motivating and
fostering growth in others. They prioritize group harmony and their
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initial reaction is to harmonize with everybody around them, so
much so oftentimes that they may absorb the emotions of
everyone around them in real time now. As judging types,
they're going to function at their best if they have
a solid plan in place, and as feeling types, they're
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going to base their decisions primarily on how it will
affect other people. Specifically, they're going to want to avoid
impacting other people in a negative way, so as a result,
they are often the peacemakers in their families or their teams.
They also will tend to get angry about a lack
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of empathy or inconsiderate behavior, and they may very quickly
jump to the defense of a friend or a coworker
who's on, for example, the receiving end of some aggressive
or demeaning behavior, and they may yell at the perpetrator.
I've seen this happen, and then almost immediately they're going
to feel guilty, and they may use their communication skills
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to try to smooth things over. They also put a
lot of thought into their appearance. They're very conscious about
how others see them. They can be proud and also perfectionists,
and so on the outside they may look like they
have it all, but they may be struggling internally. They
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are apt to excel at one thing. If they're excelling
in one area, they may be disappointed in other areas
of their lives, and due to their focus on everyone else,
they may forget to take care of themselves. But overall,
ENFJs are people you can count on. They have genuine
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interest in other people. They tend to make great politicians
and social workers and even executives.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
I'm thinking that this sounds like an individual that I'm
doing a podcast with. Is there a possibility that this
is your type?
Speaker 1 (22:17):
You know? It's funny that you say that, because I
think some people have typed me either as an e
n FJ or an e NTJ at work, And I'm
definitely when I'm doing this podcast, I am honing my
work persona. But no, I mean, most naturally, at my core,
I am an e n FP type.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
That's awesome. That's awesome. What are some tips, especially since
you're talking about yourself, right, like, what are some tips
that you would give our fellow ian fps.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Yeah, so if we get into the E NFPs here,
and we might as well just jump right into it too.
So this is actually great fun for me because I
get to talk about my own type. So we E
NFPs put our hearts into everything we do. If and
that's the caveat here. If it's something that interests us.
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We are naturally optimistic. We may look like we're happy,
go lucky to the external world, but that doesn't mean
that we're immune to depression or stress. We can get
very stressed by negative people, mean people, and we can
get depressed if we're alone too much, or if we're
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boxed into a job or a relationship with very little
autonomy and we feel like we're stuck, or if we're
forced to work in an overly systemic or repetitive work environment.
These are some of the things that kind of stress
us out or get us down. We gravitate towards possibilities,
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and the more out of the box the possibility, the
more exciting it is for us. We do not want
to be stuck doing the same thing day after day.
Monotony is one of the worst things that you can
do to an NFP type. We also gravitate towards work
and tasks that make a difference in people's lives. I'd
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say that it is our I'd say that in our
day to day lives, we need to motivate or inspire people.
We tend to be the ones who lift others up
and make people happy, and we're usually very successful at
this because of our natural interpersonal skills. And we need
a creative outlet. We need to be able to come
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up with some clever new solutions to problems. And this
was most important to me. I think it's true for
a lot of other NFP types. We need to be
our authentic, true selves. And yeah, I think this is
the hallmark for most ENFP types, perhaps more than any
other type. We need to be interested in a topic
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to feel authentic and there for satisfied. If we are,
there is really no stopping us. We will surpass any
goal that's set. But if it's some arbitrary goal or
someone else's special project, yeah we'll check the box, but
we won't really be invested. We need to be generating
new ideas. We need to function with freedom and flexibility,
(25:22):
and we need to have fun. We need to connect
with other people regularly, so things like planning and mundane tasks. Yes,
of course these have to be done, but these aren't
our areas of strength. We are prone to boredom if
we're not living our own authentic lives.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
I love that, I think you know, I feel like
you guys, are you lean towards feeling or living a
more authentic life and being more yourselves? And this is
something that we're trying to get accomplished through this podcast,
is by providing this self understanding. How can you live
your true authentic self? And it seems like if you're
not living your true authentic self that you would have
(26:04):
an issue, like you would have a problem, you wouldn't
feel not whole. Would I be correcting that?
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Yeah, I definitely, But you know it's and it's not
to say that we can't do it. We can do it,
but I think we would feel very much like we're
sacrificing some part of ourselves. And you know, I guess
anybody can do that for a short amount of time,
but then you think about doing it over and over
again every day, and I think that that could really
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get to us more than a lot of other personality types.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
And I think you've mentioned too it if how sometimes
you struggle in your work task because they're so inauthentic
to who you are. And I think that although you've
done a tremendous job, like you've done great work, I
feel at times because you're not really living out your
true authentic self. That's maybe why outside of work you
(26:55):
want to do these podcasts or you want to do
coaching and that sort of stuff, because that allows you
to live your authentic life even more so, even though
you may not be get to get at work, you're
going to try to finally get it somewhere else, right.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Yeah, bingo, And I mean it's definitely not to say
that I don't get it at work. I mean, I'm
very fortunate in my job. I do get to bring
some of these skills to work, and those are great
days when I can do that and connect with other
people make a difference to other people too. But yeah,
I mean, I think I'm not the only NFP to
say this that we do need a creative outlet, especially
(27:33):
if you know there's we're working in more of a
corporate setting or more traditional work environment, no.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Doubt, no doubt. Let's go on to our next one.
I and fj's tell us a little bit more about them.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Yeah. So infjs are the rarest of the sixteen Myers
Briggs types, and because they are so rare, other types
may have difficulty relating to them. Many infj's feel misunderstood
and may have felt lonely, and as a result, they
may isolate themselves or feel down in the dumps because
(28:08):
they feel so different this type these folks are visionaries.
They have original ways of looking at the world, and
they're innovative, and they're quickly able to size people and
situations up accurately. They have this internal picture of how
they want their work to contribute to the greater good,
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and they can be excellent motivators to others on their teams.
They are naturally caring, empathetic people, but they may have
difficulty expressing these emotions, especially at large social gatherings with strangers.
Infjs take time to get to know people and to
trust them, so mindless banter and small talk are exhausting
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to INFJ types and they'll probably go to great lengths
to avoid it. They are also very good at strategic
planning and seeing future implications. They will do best working
in non competitive work environments where they can use their
skills to create new programs that address current challenges, especially
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if these programs will benefit other people. They are not
going to do too well in overly political or noisy
or chaotic work environments, for example, or if they're forced
to speak publicly in front of people with little to
no preparation. Most INFJ types I know also have a
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deeply spiritual side and this is a huge part of
who they are. On the downside, they are perfectionists and
they may easily get burned out in this quest for perfection.
This may show up in interpersonal or professional squabbles with
other people. For example, most infjs can handle most people
(30:06):
up to a point, but if you get on their
wrong side, watch out. They will cut you out of
their lives without hesitation, or if things are really bad,
they'll blow up and that'll be the end of things.
But it really takes a lot to get them to
that point, and they'll give you a lot of cues
before that happens, but it's up to you to decipher
(30:31):
those cues, and they may not be easy to decipher
for some other personality types.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Wow, that's interesting, And you know, like, like I've been
mentioning in this podcast, I'm sensing and I'm seeing some
of these different preferences jump out. Right. The j's their
need for organization structure, that's very important. The environment in
which they interact and where they work is very very
(30:57):
important for them. Right, So the Jay's talking coming out
of that. When we talked about the feelers, one of
the things you mentioned was if you wrong a feeler,
they will let you know, right, And so you hear
a lot of that coming out of this type description.
So I love that. And again, being able to see
how these preferences are jumping out as we explain the
(31:19):
types is really really cool to see two as well.
It helps you become better at spotting different personality types
by understanding the preferences really well. So I think that's good.
So as we say in Jamaica, and we want to
give a little Jamaican accent here Jamaica, it's gonna sound
terrible because it's going to sound very American Jamaica, fimmy
(31:40):
time now, fimmy.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
Time, now, give me time now.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Fimmy time now. Those individuals who are struggling with that,
that means it's my turn now.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Oh I got you, Okay, that's my turn.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
So the sixteenth type through fifteen, the sixteenth type is
my type.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Nice. So that's a little patois there? Right?
Speaker 2 (32:08):
Yeah, it's potswa but pot.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Okay, it's fun.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
But it's great. But and again, like I just love
it because again, it's for me time now, and that's
something that we always do when it's somebody's turn. For
me time now. So you guys get to listen to
Mark Matthew's type. Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
Edit all right, So last, but certainly not least, and
this is this is for you Mark. This is the
I NFP. So I n fps have an inner set
of core values that guide everything they do, from their
decisions to how they interact with other people to work.
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I NFP types prioritize living true to whatever their values are,
and as a result, work for the sake of work
meaningless routine is one of the worst things for an
INFP type. Being stuck in a work environment like this
can cause them to be apathetic at their best and
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rebellious at their worst. This can also cause INFP types
to devalue themselves, and this is why we don't see
many INFP types in traditional or corporate work environments. These
tend to be very impersonal and overly political, and it's
hard for IFPs to do what they love when they
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have to adhere to someone else's guidelines. They're going to
see this as pointless or trivial. IFPs are creative people,
and if their creativity is encouraged and they're allowed to
work autonomously. They're going to do great things. They are
naturally devoted to the people and things they care deeply about.
(33:56):
They are loyal friends and partners, and like our if
J friends, INFPs also tend to have these perfection tendencies.
But this is going to show up differently. INFPs may
spend so much time focusing inward and relying on their
own inner resources, trying to get whatever it is they're
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working on to be perfect, and they as a result,
sent these impossibly high standards to themselves, and then their
projects might go unfinished or they may be just unable
to complete them for whatever reason. And then inside their heads,
INFPs get frustrated and start questioning their abilities. Now, to
(34:39):
the outside world, this may look like a lot of
procrastination or you know, just not given a crap, But
it's a very different story inside the head of an INFP.
But when they are at their natural best, INFPs are
great empathetic listeners. They are natural counselors, and they love
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to help others. Every INFP I have ever met has
some sort of creative or artistic talent or interest interest
in the arts or music or something creative.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
So well said perfectly describes who I am. Man For
those individuals who think that I just procrastinate, just take
a journey in my brain. Right, let's just go. It's
a different story that's inside my head. Right. And I
think that's I think it's actually really really important, not
just for the IFPs, right, but for everybody. What you
(35:37):
see is not always what you get, right, and what
person might show and we might judge an individual step
inside their shoes. I know we call it empathy, right,
step inside their shoes, but I even like what you said,
Walk in their head, see what their thoughts are, gain
a level of understanding, right. And when you get a
level of understanding, you realize, oh, it's not procrastination, and
(36:00):
it's this, right. It's not that that person is short tempered,
it's this. It's not because that person is a perfectionist.
It's this. And I think it's really really important for
us to understand. So it brings up kind of a
greater point to how we interact in life in general.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Mm hmm, yeah for sure. Yeah, And it goes back
to just not being careful of the assumptions that you make.
Just use that as a way to have a conversation
with somebody and show curiosity rather than judgment.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
I love it. I love it. So yay we got
through all sixteen. It took us three episodes, but we
got through all sixteen of them, and I'm really I
feel really good that everyone was able to get a
brief explanation of their personality type and see kind of
where they fit. I've even had fun looking at the
very well mined website on the psychology personality types and
(36:56):
also the sixteen personalities dot com to really gain some
additional self awareness on my personality type. And if I
know that these pop type kind of websites that are
fun to look at, kind of cool to observe and
that sort of stuff. But what are some other validated
resources our audience can look at to get a deeper
(37:17):
dive into their personality types beyond just the brief descriptions
we gave them.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
So shameless plug here for myself. For the mid career
folks who are tuning in, I'd love for you to
check out my other podcast series, Myers Briggs for midlife
career changers, and this series focuses on career paths for
each of the sixteen Myers Briggs type and there's one
episode for each type. So a couple of other sites
(37:45):
that I like aretruity dot Com and personality Max. Also,
if you're very knowledgeable about or interested in the science
behind the MBTI, check out personality Junkie. The writers go
into great depths talking about the cognitive functions.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
Oh, I love it. So again, guys, don't depend on
it because we don't have a lot of time, right,
and so we're giving you brief descriptions. I think this
would be a good family activity, a good couple activity,
just to kind of go through some of these websites
and kind of go through that and as you're reading
something that might describe you, your significant other might say, Yep,
(38:28):
that's you, or you or your mom might be like, yeah,
that's you. Like these things are really cool to be
able to do that sort of stuff. So I think
that's one thing for you to look at. And I
think it if you know, I'm a teacher, right, and
I think I'm gonna give you guys another homework assignment
and it's twofold. Okay, now that you know your personality type,
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be intentional in sharing your personality gifts. And strengths to
your environment. So every day, can you do one thing
to intentionally share your gift to the world. Intentional about that,
Now that you know what your gifts are, how can
you share your gifts to the world because they're needed?
(39:08):
How can you share these personality strengths to the world.
That's homework assignment against number two? Right? Okay, Number three
is with this knowledge we've shared about personality type, help
those who you are close to find their personality type
and then give them what they need. They live out
the Platinum rule. So these are two specific homework assignments
(39:29):
that I feel like if you use them how much
it is so valuable and it can be such a
blessing not just to yourself but to others and also
the world.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Yeah, for sure, and I love that, Mark. I love
the homework assignment. And also what a great way to
wrap up this episode. So folks, as you are tuning in,
please think about how you can bring your gifts to
the world and how you can help others do the same.
And with that, I have one more favor to ask
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you all, and that's to please give us a share,
follow us on your favorite podcast platform and leave us
a comment so that we can continue bringing you great content.
Mark thank you so much for all your insights and folks,
we will see you next time.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
Thanks for tuning in, follow us on social media and
your favorite podcast platform.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
And please reach out to me on LinkedIn and on
my website at topcreer dot com for more updated content.
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