Tend Your Garden, But Don’t Forget the Gate

In this episode, Alex reads his essay, “Tend Your Garden, But Don’t Forget the Gate,” originally published on his Substack, All The Fits That’s News. The piece explores the limits of the old Stoic maxim, “Don’t complain, don’t explain,” and how silence, when taken too far, becomes a form of avoidance rather than strength.

Alex reflects on a difficult period in his professional life, when keeping everything bottled up nearly broke him. He discusses the value of choosing the right people to confide in, why venting is not weakness, and how discernment, not emotional shutdown, was the point the Stoics were getting at all along.

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