New Life LIVE

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1. Becky shares how the apostle Paul wrote Philippians while imprisoned, reminding believers to focus on God even in difficult circumstances. In Philippians 4:8, Paul writes, “Fix your thoughts on what is true…” Becky asks listeners an important question: What is imprisoning you?
2. We went to visit my daughter’s new baby and tried to respect their strict boundaries. For ex...

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1. Dr. Jacqui discusses how we often wait for other people to make us feel valued, important, and cared for. If you’re waiting for someone else to give you a sense of priority or feeling frustrated because you think someone should have considered your needs, ask yourself: When was the last time you considered you?
2. I’ve been estranged from my adult daughter for two-and-a-half years. W...

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1. Dr. Jim discusses how building walls through defensiveness, denial, isolation, and passive-aggressive behavior can damage our relationships. If you’ve been putting up walls, it may be time to start tearing them down. Boundaries shouldn’t build up walls; they should build structure.
2. My wife is struggling with severe nerve pain, and we feel like we’re not being seen or heard b...

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1. Chris discusses Proverbs 3:5-6 and Psalm 37:3. The principles in these passages have helped Chris guide his boys. When we curate God’s goodness, it helps us see the things that truly matter. Trust God, and do good.
2. I’ve had some hurts, habits, and hang-ups over the years. I don’t want to think about the past or return to it because I’ve struggled with drug abuse and to...

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1. JJ shares how he recently came home from a trip and discovered an ominous smell in his fridge coming from old food. He reflects on how, so often in life, things are rotting. Sometimes we have habits that grow stale; other times we have relationships that are developing unhealthy patterns.
2. My 33-year-old daughter is isolated and deeply focused on her desire to marry and have children, often to...

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1. Marc shares about some of the challenges he faced growing up in London during his childhood in government housing, where he experienced violence. He asks: What’s the part of your life you’ve been hoping would be left behind, but you know you’re still carrying with you today?
2. I’m divorced from my husband, who was abusive and is a pastor. Since I covered up the abuse, no...

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1. Dr. Sheri explains how co-regulation is experienced as we share our story or become a safe place for others to share. When we share what’s really going on, we regulate our nervous system, reduce isolation, build emotional intimacy, and discover our feelings.
2. I’ve struggled with anxiety and fear for six years after I started having intense dreams. When I tried pastoral counseling a...

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1. Dr. Jill discusses how a bench she had was worn down by water dripping over time. Unfortunately, her dad sat on it and fell. She asks, “What pours into your life? What’s the constant drip in the back of your mind? Are they negative thoughts?”
2. I’ve suffered with depression for 14 years and have tried to commit suicide 11 times.
3. What can we do to help my 11-year-old daug...

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1. Dr. Jim discusses a conversation he had with Dr. Neil Clark Warren, founder of eHarmony, who said that if he could give one gift to every couple on their wedding day, he’d give them the gift of “adaptability” because you have to adapt to your spouse’s differences. Ask yourself if the difference really matters.
2. Should I step back and ignore it when my husband of 30 year...

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1. Chris discusses how fear can drive us in the wrong direction. It moves us away from facing the reality of the uncomfortable life we experience here on earth. Suffering is one way God uses to form us.
2. My 6-year-old grandson might have ADHD; yesterday, he threw a brick at the dog. What should my daughter and son-in-law do?
3. Our 18-year-old son was brought up as a Christian and taught to honor Is...

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1. Dr. Lee Warren, a neurosurgeon, shares how he served in the Iraq War, came home with PTSD, and lost his 19-year-old son to a crime that was never solved. He later saw a live brain scan of a woman who was asked to think different things, and he could see her brain react. He was able to make a shift in his own thoughts to heal his brain from trauma.
2. What’s the difference between the mind ...

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1. Marc shares some things that couples can do to make a simple shift to transform their marriage. For every negative, you need at least five positive comments or interactions to balance it out. Pray every night, even if it’s a simple prayer.
2. How can I represent Christ well as a female business owner? I run a business out of my home, and I always practice evangelism. As a female designer, ...

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1. Dr. John Townsend discusses the three programs at Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling, which are designed for people who work full time.
2. My 12-step group has been studying Boundaries for 6 years; what is the best book for our next group study?
3. Last night my 18-year-old son confessed that he’s addicted to porn and contacted a prostitute and I don’t know how to help him...

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1. Becky shares that many of us aren’t truly free, but there are steps we can take to declare our independence and move toward freedom spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.
2. How can I help my adult children reconcile with each other? My daughter told my daughter-in-law every hurt she’d ever caused, and my daughter-in-law called me and yelled at me.
3. I’m in ministry and find mys...

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1. Dr. Jill shares the story of a wedding she went to over the weekend of a couple who had wandered away from their faith and families. If you’re a parent, remember that God is still at work in your child’s life.
2. What can I do if I have a hard time making medical and dental appointments? Feelings from my past sexual assault keep coming up.
3. My husband went on a train trip for four day...

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1. Dr. Alice shares three effective ways parents can help children develop self-control, especially with technology.
2. “My 34-year-old son is a Christian, but he is in a relationship with a girl who is Jewish and is not a believer.”
3. “I just had a baby and we’ve started setting healthier boundaries with my husband’s parents. We told them not to come to the hospital for...

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1. Dr. Jim discusses relationships that derail because of conflict. The conflict dance starts with tension, and can spiral downward with defensiveness, or it can be positive by going to “we” and leading to connection.
2. Do you think it would be helpful if callers asking for advice would start with repentance?
3. My brother is a bully and I set boundaries at a family gathering. How long do...

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1. Dr. Jim talks about creating a media-safe home. Is technology use, especially social media, bringing your family closer together or farther apart?
2. I have two estranged adult kids. I set some boundaries and now I can’t see my grandkids. Should I try to make amends with them?
3. My fiancée’s brother is a drug and alcohol abuser, he is in and out of rehab and won’t get help for hi...

Caller Questions & Discussion:

1. Dr. Jacqui encourages us that it’s not too late to start over again when you’re older.
2. Some of the teachings in our new church make me uneasy and anxious; my 20-year-old daughter is dating the pastor’s son. Is my issue with the church or with me letting go of my daughter?
3. How does one move from shame and guilt over past mistakes?
4. How do I accept my 5-month separation that ma...