The Energy of Love: Aligning for the Right Relationship

#30 In this reflective solo episode, Cass explores the connection between energy alignment and attracting the right partner. She shares lessons from her four-year single journey, unpacking how past versions of herself looked confident on the outside but operated at a frequency that invited relationships misaligned with her worth.

Cass dives into evolving preferences in partners, from chasing high-achieving entrepreneurs to considering those who bring out her softer, more authentic self. She challenges societal expectations around singlehood, opening up about her genuine desire for partnership, motherhood, and a life that extends beyond self-focus.

Whether you're navigating dating, self-worth, or energetic shifts, this episode offers clarity and insight into calling in love that truly aligns with your highest self. Tune in for an honest conversation about attraction, intention, and stepping into the energy of the relationship you deserve.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey you guys, I am so hesitant to even record an
episode because I went on afriend of mine's podcast last
week Mike On Bound Livingpodcast.
We talked so much about likedating and like masculine men

(00:22):
and the feminine and I was soinspired after recording that
episode with him so I went andrecorded a solo episode, you
know, just kind of like goinginto depth on all of the things
that we covered.
And it's weird, having had apodcast where you like go into a

(00:45):
studio, you have a producer andthey take care of everything
for you.
It's so different from doing itwhere I'm the producer setting
up my mic, and so I totallydidn't have my mic on y'all.
I like looked so pretty, I hadall of my makeup on, I recorded

(01:09):
what I thought was like the mostbomb-ass fire episode and then
it had no audio and I feel likefor me that was a really good
reminder.
That was a really good reminder.
You know, I have a full-time joband I keep trying to pursue my

(01:30):
podcast dreams and noteverything's always going to go
as planned.
It's not always going to beperfect, and that is part of the
journey of following yourdreams in general.
And so today I'm sitting hereI'm wearing I love being

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dramatic t-shirt very fittingdrinking a glass of wine.
I really don't drink veryheavily at all these days.
You guys, it's Valentine's Day.
When I'm recording this, I waslike let me sit, let me have a
glass of wine and let me poursome love into my listeners, my
few listeners, who hopefully noteven hopefully I'm going to put

(02:18):
more emphasis on my word.
We're going to make it happenthis year for the podcast.
I'm doing everything I can tomake that happen for myself.
I'm like one to be able to usemy space and create.
And so if you are alone, likeme, on Valentine's Day, and you

(02:58):
are trying to call in yourperson person or calling your
king, my advice to you is toplace your love back on self.
I think sometimes we have to bein the right timeline to meet
someone If you're vibrationallyfunctioning in a very low

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timeline.
I know previous versions ofmyself.
There were times where I lookedgreat on the outside, I looked
beautiful, I looked skinny, Iwas well-dressed, I had hair
extensions, I had my makeup done, but I was just numbing so
deeply with other substances anddrinking and going out on the

(03:44):
weekends and you know, I wassingle during that time and the
reason for that is like I wasvibrationally operating at such
a low level and I just even feelmy own energy now, like I feel
this brightness in my eyes andlike this vitality.

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And people are even asking melike what are you doing?
Like your face looks thinner,you look happier.
And I'm telling you guys, mybody specifically is so energy
sensitive, so when I'm not doingwell internally, I feel like it
shows up so much more thanother people For me externally,

(04:30):
I feel like my body is veryattuned to the shifts in my
energy and I think, when youeven think about like
manifesting and manifesting apartner, in my opinion what that
really is is a feeling um, youknow it's.

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You can sit there and dream allday long, but if you're not
showing up as the best versionof you and vibrating at like a
very high level, you're notgoing to call in the caliber of
a partner that you want to callin, and not only that, but

(05:15):
you're going to accept love frompeople who aren't even
deserving of your light.
Let me say for me, like just,you know I still, I still feel
like for myself, I'm not quiteat the point where I'm ready to
call in, to call in my partner,because there's so much I want

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to do and want to accomplishwith my businesses and my goals
that are kind of like my firstlove and priority right now.
But I also feel like this yearis the year for love for me
specifically.
I just think it's going tohappen for me later in the year.
I just think I'm meant to callmy partner in later this year.

(06:03):
I've already started to like,really like vibrationally, feel
like what that feels like to me,like what my home will feel
like when I have that person inmy life.
It's so interesting for mebecause even as I really think
about what I want in a partnerthis year, it looks so night and

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day from what I used to think Iwanted my partner to look like.
Like in the past, when I wasdating, I would always go for
you guys know this is the jokevery tall, because I'm very tall
, very successful, typicallyentrepreneurs.
I really love a motivated manthat's like so inspiring to me

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and I remember talking to mytherapist at one point and she
was like you're going for thesame type of person over and
over again and your stereotypeof what you're choosing
typically is a little bitnarcissistic, like these
good-looking, very attractiveguys who are entrepreneurs, in

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my opinion, who are doingsomething very admirable for a
man in terms of building andbuilding a business on their own
, but at the same time,sometimes those type of men can
have some of those narcissisticcharacter traits.

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Or it's not even that.
It's like survival of thefittest, like every beautiful
woman is going to want to goafter a tall, successful man,
and so it's like if thepercentage of good looking,
successful men is only you knowso small, then every single bad

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bitch beautiful woman is goingto want that man.
And then it's like you'recompeting.
I'm like you know what thecompeting stuff?
Anyone you're competing for isnot for you Okay, and so my, my,
I don't know what it is.
I don't know if it's like trendsor something, if I just get
brainwashed by society of whatis deemed physically attractive

(08:22):
that year or something like you.
Even think about it for women.
Think back to like 2016, likekylie kardashian era, when you
know everyone was doing like thelip kits and the really thick
eyebrows and like the bbls flashforward today.

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It's like I feel like you'resupposed to be, not, you're not
supposed to be.
It's like the ozempic skinnyand it's like no one really is
getting breast augmentationsanymore.
It's like the standards ofbeauty are so shifting and so,
you know, for me this year it'slike the crunchy granola year,

(09:05):
if you know what I'm talkingabout.
Like I don't know if I wantthis like successful
entrepreneur guy or if I wantsomeone in the middle, because
sometimes some of those likehomestead hippie, really earthy
guys that I feel like you knoware just going to put me in my

(09:27):
feminine and let me sit at homeand milk the cow, you know.
So it's somewhere in the middle.
For me is what I'm telling youokay, based on the trends, and
I've been single.
Now that I think about it, I'vebeen single for four years now
at this point and I, you know, Ireally question that sometimes

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I'm like is something wrong withme?
I started saying that the otherday because I was like four
years seems like a long time tobe single.
But I just sit there and Ithink about how many people go
into relationships so easilywithout looking at the part,
their partner, their charactertraits, like if I go into a

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relationship with someone andthat relationship last two years
and I just like stayed in itand went in it and I wasn't even
looking to see if this personwas even a good match for me
from like step one.
Then I'm like wasting years ofmy life and I'm blocking the
partner that's meant for me.

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And so I think there'ssomething you know very powerful
about being single for a longtime.
There's something that terrifiesme at the same time, because I
don't like the stats aroundwomen in their late 20s and

(10:58):
early 30s that are still singleand like sometimes the narrative
I feel where it's like you knowwomen, just you know.
Sometimes the narrative I feelwhere it's like you know women,
just you know, in their 30s,just work hard at your corporate
job, go shop, go buy things,self-care just all this time for
self-care Like you shouldn'thave, in my opinion.

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All this time for self-care,okay, I don't think any woman
truly, at their core, wants tobe single.
I said this on Mike's podcastas well.
I think we're meant to havepartners like Adam and Eve from

(11:41):
the Bible, and so I personallydon't want to be a 30 year old
single woman with like so muchtime on my hands that I can just
put sheet masks on my face allday long Just saying you know,
it's like I want to be a mother,I want to be a mom, I want to
be a wife, I want to have afamily and I want to have
priorities that are outside ofmyself.

(12:03):
Um, and I feel like that'ssomething, a piece that you're
really missing when you'resingle is having something
outside of yourself, whetherthat's your partner, your child,
whatever.
That is rant, because I reallyfeel like I recorded like such a

(12:32):
bomb fire episode the othernight and then I couldn't use
any of that content becausethere was no sound, and so then
I was like I knew I was going todinner with my sister tonight
for Valentine's Day and so I waslike, if I'm gonna have my
makeup on, this is a good timeto record.
So that's why I sat down mylittle, my little beverage and I

(12:53):
was like I'm just going to geton the camera and say some shit,
whatever.
That shit is so happyValentine's Day.
I promise the next episode isgoing to be way more profound
than this, but love you guys,xoxo.