Today I'm joined by my brilliant friend, fashion-and-wedding photographer Sandra Åberg, for a real talk we've both been having off-mic for years: does being "published" (Vogue, Harper's, Martha) actually mean you've arrived—or is it another industry illusion that keeps creatives chasing validation? We swap origin stories (Milan fashion sets, Sports Illustrated mayhem, and stumbling into weddings), talk integrity lines, and share the unseen mechanics behind advertorials, vendor lists, and "top" roundups—what's paid, what's earned, and what actually moves the needle in a creative business. We also dig into the soul of the work: why connection with your couples matters more than a logo, and how to protect your creative magic in a content-driven world.
If you've ever wondered whether you should pay to play, whether that "Vogue cover" on Instagram was an ad, or how to define success on your own terms—this one's for you.
The myth of arrival: Why "as seen in…" is social proof—not a finish line.
Paid vs. earned press: Advertorials, vendor lists, and "Top Photographer" roundups—how they really work and what they're good for.
Integrity lines: Finding your yes/no around paying for placements, ads, and algorithms.
From fashion to weddings: Sandra's Milan years, mentorship, and the moment that shifted her values.
When the dream feels empty: Sandra's Vogue Japan cover—and the unexpected loneliness on the other side.
What books/awards/followers really signal: The strategy behind best-seller lists and big platforms.
Connection over clout: Why knowing (and liking!) your couples changes the images—and the experience.
Working with planners: How to keep creative chemistry when gatekeepers run the process.
Creator vs. content creator: Guardrails for protecting your artistry in a metrics world.
Defining success: Visibility, vulnerability, and being seen for who you are—not what you've published.
Part two lands soon: "Be a Creator, Not Just a Content Creator"—plus details on our intimate Italy experience designed to rekindle your artistry (and yes, we'll talk smart, values-aligned pathways to publication).
Question for you: Where's your line between integrity and appearances—and what does "playing it brave" look like in your visibility strategy right now?
Meet Sandra
Sandra Åberg is an internationally acclaimed photographer known for her ethereal style, poetic storytelling, and deeply emotional imagery. With over 15 years of experience, she has photographed for Vogue, captured celebrity weddings, and built a reputation as one of Europe's leading names in luxury destination wedding photography. Founder of both Atelier Åberg and her namesake brand, Sandra is not only a visual artist but also an educator and mentor, inspiring photographers and creatives worldwide to dream big and build a life they love.
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