February 19, 2025 • 27 mins
Unleash Your Inner Hero to Beat Porn and Anxiety (Part 2)
🎙 Guest: Tenya Eickenberg
Episode Highlights:
âś… The deeper connection between porn addiction and anxiety
âś… Advanced energy healing techniques to break free
âś… How to embody your inner hero in everyday life
âś… Steps to rebuild confidence and self-control
🔥 Powerful Quotes:
🗣 “You don’t just quit porn—you create a new identity.” – Tenya Eickenberg
🗣 “Your mind is your battlefield. Own it, and you win.” – Powerful Eric
🗣 “True healing happens when you step into your power.” – Tenya Eickenberg
About Our Guest:Tenya Eickenberg is an anxiety release coach who helps people let go of emotional baggage and step into their true power. She specializes in energy healing as an alternative to conventional therapy, guiding individuals to regain strength, freedom, and happiness.🌎 Learn more about Tenya: 👉 DesignYourExistence.com
Resources & Links:
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🎙 Guest: Tenya Eickenberg
Episode Highlights:
âś… The deeper connection between porn addiction and anxiety
âś… Advanced energy healing techniques to break free
âś… How to embody your inner hero in everyday life
âś… Steps to rebuild confidence and self-control
🔥 Powerful Quotes:
🗣 “You don’t just quit porn—you create a new identity.” – Tenya Eickenberg
🗣 “Your mind is your battlefield. Own it, and you win.” – Powerful Eric
🗣 “True healing happens when you step into your power.” – Tenya Eickenberg
About Our Guest:Tenya Eickenberg is an anxiety release coach who helps people let go of emotional baggage and step into their true power. She specializes in energy healing as an alternative to conventional therapy, guiding individuals to regain strength, freedom, and happiness.🌎 Learn more about Tenya: 👉 DesignYourExistence.com
Resources & Links:
📲 Book a Free Strategy Call 👉 PowerfulEric.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Are you struggling with porn or sex addiction? Then apply
for a free strategy call with Eric today at Powerfuleric
dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Just rain. Yeah, it just drains you. And then and
then you feel like you need to you need to
go back and refuel. And so that's when you go
back and you watch another movie, or you grab another drink,
or you buy another pack, and it's just a vicious
cycle until until you say I'm I'm done.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
This is porn Talk. Here's your host, Eric Zuzak.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Welcome back to porn Talk. In part two of our
conversation with Tinya Eikenberg, we're diving deeper into how to
unleash your inner superhero and overcome anxiety and porn addiction.
Last time we explored the power of anyse, cartoons and
healing energy, and today we will focus on how Tinya's
(00:59):
approach to address entities and offensive energies. Let's dive in.
Welcome back, Tinya.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Thank you, Thank you. I appreciate being able to kind
of get into the more woo woo stuff of yes of.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
This absolutely so a a friend, not a friend, a
dear close uh my spiritual mentor advisor. She's just been
deceased for a long time now. She was very very intuitive.
Psychic okay, and for those of you that's a.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Psychic stuff that's coming from the devil.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Then you you can look at that instead. It's called
I have a friend who's a Catholic priest and he's psychic,
but they don't call it that. He calls it he
has the gift of discernment.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Yeah, it's funny how religious changes. So if you have.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
This person has the gift of discernment. And anyway, she
told me, she said, if you could see what is
on the astral plane, you could save spirit world the
other side. And if you could see what was there
when you walked into a bar, she said, you would
(02:26):
never go in because what she said is there are
say things waiting to attach to you to get that
high from whatever it is that you're going to do.
So this is your world here, Tinya tell us more.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Yeah, So you know, these these disembodied spirits, these entities,
these things that we can't see, their their energy bodies,
and you know, some of them might have been human
at some point. Some of them might be from you know,
other places and they've just you know, come to come
to earth. To feed off of these low vibration feelings
(03:07):
and energies that we're holding on too. And some of
them have had addictions in the past and they're not
ready to move on because they still want to feed
off of that that energy. They still get that high.
Even though they are unseen, they still want to get
that high, and they will attach themselves to people who
(03:30):
are going through those same addictions. So alcoholics are going
to have these these unseen beings. And I always stress
to my to my clients, do not have fear when
it comes to these things. I don't want to talk
to people and instill fear because these these I see
(03:52):
these beings as like our neighbors down the street that
are just they're not sociable, they don't want to talk
to anybody. They are just, you know, they're just doing
their own thing, and they're not very nice people. But
it's just how they are. Right, these entities, these spirit attachments,
these offensive energies, it is their job to make us uncomfortable,
(04:18):
to harm us in some way, and it's the only
job they've ever known. And until we seek them out
and have a little chat with them, they may not
realize how much better it is if they go the
other direction, if they start to become more positive beings.
And I have helped many become more positive and let
(04:43):
go of the people that they were hanging on to,
because really the high on the positive side of the
other side is so much better than the low. But
they just don't see it. Just like when we're in
our grips of addiction, we don't see how much better
happiness and joy feels because we just we just can't
(05:06):
see it. But these entities, in these disembodied spirits, they
cord themselves to us, and I call it like a
sucking straw, and they just they just take and take
and take whatever it is that they want. And those
things that we're doing to make us feel good, they're
taking it. Well, then we need more because they've taken
(05:26):
it all.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah, And you know you're bringing up a good point
with porn addiction or alcohol whatever, Like, how do you
feel afterwards? Like I can honestly say, after viewing porniography, I.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Never once ever felt like, oh wow, now I feel
so great.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I'm so proud of myself.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
You know, I'm mascerbating to the worst born I could
possibly find, and I just want to go out, and
I want to go tell everybody. I'm just so excited
about it. I'm gonna tell my neighbors. Oh man, you
should have seen The Poor and I was watching I
was on it all day or last night.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I you know, I just got so smashed. I can't
remember anything. Yeah, and it's quite the opposite, right, Like
we feel completely drained, not proud of ourselves, a lot
of shame, guilt, and that shame and guilt in negative
energy is what they're.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Feeding on, right, Just drained. Yeah, it just drains you.
And then and then you feel like you need to
you need to go back and refuel. And so that's
when you go back and you watch another movie, or
you grab another drink, or you buy another pack, and
it's just a vicious cycle until until you say I'm
(06:51):
I'm done. And you know, in the first you know,
they say the first step to recovery is admitting that
you have a problem, and it absolutely is in any thing,
the first step to recovering from anxiety depression is saying
I have anxiety depression. It does not have to be
diagnosed by a doctor. Mine was not clinical, but I
(07:13):
knew what I had. I knew that I was sad
a lot of the time. I knew that I was
worried a lot of the time. I knew that I
held my emotions in. I knew that I used cigarettes
and alcohol to cover them up, and I did not
feel good, like I physically did not feel good. Pay
(07:34):
attention to how your body feels when you think about
your addiction. Right whenever you think about pushing play on
the next video, pay attention to where in your body
you're feeling discomfort.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
I really like what you're saying there. To pay attention
to your body and where that discomfort may be. If
it's before you're acting out, you know what's going on there,
and then afterwards, how are you feeling?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah, yeah, if you're feeling shame afterwards, there's something really
that you need to look at, like why, where's that
shame coming from? And typically that shame is not coming
really coming from watching the porn. That shame is going
to be coming from something that happened to you during childhood,
(08:32):
or it could be something that was passed down from
your parents. You know, when I was going through when
I was healing my anxiety depression, a lot of the
stuff that I had to clear out and get rid
of were inherited energies from my dad's dad, who was
an alcoholic and died at a very young age, and
they were just passed down through my dad to me.
(08:56):
And as I healed my anxiety depression, and I could
see the shifts in my dad because whatever I cleared
from me cleared from him as well. But I didn't
know that that's what was at the root of my
mental illness. I thought it was other stuff on my ego.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, generational healing, generational healing. I know on both sides
of my family. You have addiction on both sides of
my family, and so that of course plays a big part.
But let's talk about solutions. So we know we have
all these challenges, anxiety, depression, addiction entities attaching to us.
(09:47):
So what are we going to do about it?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Well, you can always call me of course, fine, fine.
You know, for me, I had to do the energetic
work before or I could do the conscious work, because
whenever I tried to do the conscious work before finding
energy healing, it was so difficult. But mindset work does work.
(10:12):
Changing your mindset absolutely works. Shifting your belief systems. You know,
if you find that you can't you can't do the
conscious work, seek out an energy healer. Seek out someone
who can help to move that negative energy out to
leave more space to bring more positive things in. If
(10:36):
energy healing is not your thing, then do the mindset work.
Start with journaling, journal about what your beliefs are. Do
you have so you know there are a lot of
different beliefs and I'll pull these up real quick that
you can have that might that you might need to address.
(10:57):
It might be like I'm unworthy of love, right, Why
would you be unworthy of love as a human being?
None of us are unworthy of love, but we often
feel that way. I hate myself, I feel lost, I
don't deserve happiness. I'm only happy when I'm in my addiction.
(11:17):
Those are beliefs that that you can address on a
conscious level and really kind of journal about why you
have them. The other things are meditation, which brings you
into the moment. You know. Anxiety is worrying about the future,
worrying about the what ifs. Depression is being sad about
(11:41):
what was or what could have been. So depression is
the past. Anxiety is the future.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
But when you bring when you can be in the moment,
and everybody's like, what do you mean by being in
the moment, Like I'm right here. It's like no. But
when you're sitting there in silence, where does your mind go?
Does it go to the past, does it go to
the future, or is it just right now? Are you
paying attention to how the muscles your muscles are twitching
(12:15):
as you're just sitting there? Can you feel your toes
on the carpet or on the hardwood floor. That is
being in the moment. It's not being on your phone,
it's not listening to music, it's just sitting there. And
this is where meditation starts. Start with one minute a
day of sitting in silence. And I swear that minute
(12:39):
was going to feel like a half an hour the
first few times that you do it, because people do
not know how to sit with themselves.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Absolutely, You're right. People do not know how to sit
with themselves because there's usually a screen in front them.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
A.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Television, a computer, monitor, a tablet, a phone, and now
even a watch.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, And you know, there's self care is
such a huge thing that we need to start doing.
You know, self care really didn't start to become a
thing until like the nineteen fifties, nineteen sixties, and it
(13:32):
was something that women were typically women were sent away
to do when they were having emotional breakdowns. It was
something that they that the medical the medical teams did
for the mentally ill. It was they sent them away.
(13:53):
Then you'd come back and you'd, you know, typically you'd
be on something because it made you feel better. I mean,
that's where that's where the opiode crisis probably started. But
you know, we have to fill our cup first before
we can take care of others, before we can help
fill their cups. And we don't do that. And when
(14:17):
we give and give and give and get and then
we give more, we try to you know, scrape the
bottom of our barrel to keep giving. We then start
to find the things that are going to make us
feel good short term. Yeah, and that's where the addictions
usually start.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
Meditation and journaling are to tried and true things that
are absolute, in my opinion, must if you want to
overcome an addiction. And there was a study done on
journaling and they found that journaling was as an effect,
(14:55):
was as effective as going to a therapist. Not that
you shouldn't go to a therapist. Not that you should
go to a coach, but that that's how powerful journaling is. Yeah,
all my clients I recommend journaling, and all my clients
I recommend meditation as well.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Yeah, and I'll tell you know if you have if
you're scared to journal. I know a lot of women
are scared to journal because their diaries were read when
they were kids. And I'm guessing I haven't worked with
a whole lot of men, but I'm guessing for men
to journal, it's more about I'm a man. I don't
(15:33):
have feelings. I shouldn't feel them, so why would I
write them down? Right? It? For you know, for men,
it might seem like a weakness to write down your
thoughts and your feelings, but there might be that underneath
layer of what if somebody reads it? And with that
(15:53):
I get get something with a lock on it, put
it on your phone, right Apple? I don't know if
Android does, but Apple has a journaling app now, and
there are tons of journaling apps out there that you
can choose from now. Handwriting is always going to be better.
You don't have to pay attention to your spelling or
(16:15):
your grant anything like that, right, You just don't worry
because if somebody reads it bad on them.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah. There's also another form of journaling called expressive writing
or expressive journaling, where you don't put it in a journal.
You just put it on like a yellowpad. You get
it all out, and then immediately when you're done, you
destroy it.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Right.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
That's very effective.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah. Yeah, And if you're worried about someone going through
your trash, get a burn barrel burn it. You can
also do voice messaging. I've had I've had clients. I've
told clients to start your own Facebook page, not page,
but your own Facebook group. Make it private, makes your
people can't find it. But go in and post your
(17:03):
own journaling into your Facebook group. Hm. You know, you
can go back and re listen to yourself. There's so
many different ways to journal, and there are so many
different ways to meditate. You can sit in silence to meditate.
You can go for a walk. You know, you can
meditate while you're you're washing dishes.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Tenia, there's someone listening right now and they're like, really
like meditation and journaling. Really Like, you know, I'm trying
to break an addiction and you're telling me to meditate
and journal.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yeah, because it will help you to find out why
you have the addiction. It may take it may take time.
I promise you this is not going to be an overnight.
You know, you're not going to journal for a week,
or you might, but most people are not going to
journal for a week and have an epiphany and go, oh,
this is where my addiction started. This is what I
(18:03):
need to work on.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Where does so I'm doing the dreeneraling, I'm doing the meditation,
where does the energy healing come in. So someone is struggling,
maybe they have some attachments that they're trying to get
rid of or whatever, like like, what what is energy healing?
(18:29):
What do you do with that?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
So energy healing at the most simplest form is to
me energy balls. These energy balls trapped emotions, believes, trauma energies.
They look like those little birds that you get on
your socks when you walk through a field. And so
what I do as an energy healer is I tap
into your energy through muscle testing and it's just using
(18:55):
my body as a conduit of sorts to ask your
subconscious questions like what is it that is at the
root cause of this addiction? And it might be a belief,
right and then we need to find out that we
need to know more about this belief, where it comes from,
is it inherited? And then we go deeper and we go, Okay,
(19:16):
what's underneath of this belief that we need to energetically
deal with so that we can clear it or we
can shift it. And so it might be trapped emotions
that you developed when you were in high school or
you know in your twenties that were just like trapped
(19:37):
emotion of grief when you went through a breakup, and
you've just trapped it because you just you were just like,
you know what, screw them, I'm not even going to
deal with the I'm not going to give them the energy.
And you've been holding on to it.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
So what method of energy healing do you like to use?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So mine is rooted in the foundation of the emotion code,
which is using muscle testing. So muscle testing or kinesiology
is using your body to tap into your subconscious So
I'll bring my camera down so you guys can see
a little bit. So I use the ring to ring method,
which is just kind of you know, putting your fingers
(20:18):
together like this, and when I get a yes answer,
it's strong when I get a no answer, it'll pull apart.
And so if I ask myself, Okay, is my name tenya?
So it holds lock? Is my name Eric? No? Right?
So is my name Fred?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
No?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Is my name tenya?
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (20:35):
So it just locks, and it's just it's just automatic
for me. Now. I muscle test foods. I muscle test
all kinds of things, like, you know, is there anything
in a certain book that might benefit me? And if no,
then I don't need to read the book. It saves
me a lot of time.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
Yeah, what bless you. One of the methods that I
like to use is the Emotional freedom technique or you FT.
That's found very effective. But let's talk about some of
the other things, like what about you know, if somebody's
in a really dark place, maybe they're watching some really
(21:18):
dark porn or into some serious drugs or whatever, and
there might be something, you know, on their shoulders. So
to say, what do you do with somebody like.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
That, Well, they definitely need to seek out support. You know.
I'm not a therapist, and so I encourage a lot
of my clients to work with therapists or go to
support groups, find somebody that they can talk to as well.
Because working towards Like I said, you know, we've talked
about a lot about feeling feelings and setting boundaries. That
(21:51):
is that conscious work that we still need to learn
to do, and so we need to seek out someone
who's going to help us to do that. But when
you when you're when you're feeling so low, having a
support system is key. And shifting what you are consciously
(22:13):
doing as hard as it will be, is also key.
So if you are watching dark movies or you're listening
to dark music, you need to shift to lighter things,
or turn the TV off all together, stop watching the news,
(22:33):
find out find a gratitude practice. You know, I with
my clients, that's one of the first pieces of homework
that I have them do is start a gratitude practice.
And if you can't find one thing throughout your day
(22:54):
to have gratitude for, you definitely need to find a
support system. You have to because because you know, I
tell my clients one thing, what's one thing you can
be thankful for? And they're like, I don't know. I'm like,
what about two ply two paper? Toilet paper? Like, hey,
have you ever had to wipe with one ply or
(23:17):
been out of toilet paper and had to I don't know,
use a leaf when you're camping, And I try to
bring humor into my into my session because you know,
healing is a very hard thing to do. It's a
very lonely thing to do. You know. People think that
just because you have all this support around you that
(23:40):
you're not lonely, but nobody, nobody. I don't even really
understand totally what my clients are going through because I'm
not them, and healing is a very lonely process. So
you need to find people who are going to be
compassionate and are going to be empathetic, and as a
(24:03):
support group, I would encourage them to when this friend
or this family member comes to you and they need help,
ask them do they want to be hugged, do they
want to be helped? Or do they just want to
be heard?
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Yeah, the opposite of addiction is connection and turning off
the news that device will allow you to connect with
another human being, and journaling your thoughts will allow you
to connect with yourself and your thoughts and feelings. And
let's leave with one blessing here with a superhero? So,
(24:48):
how can the eighties superheroes help with us?
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You know, be your own superhero. Yes, create your own
eighties superhero avatar. And you know that that is where
it all starts, is with you. Nobody outside of you
can heal you. They can help you, we can give
(25:19):
you tools, we can give you suggestions, but it's up
to you to take action. And that is one thing
that every superhero has ever done, is they took action.
That's right, So take action. Be your own superhero and
create your own create your own existence.
Speaker 4 (25:42):
Oh love it, love it, be your own superhero. If
it's to me, it's.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Up to me. Absolutely, yep, Tina.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Thanks for being with us today. So if someone wants
to reach out to you and would like your help
or services, how do they do that?
Speaker 2 (26:04):
You can go to my website at design yourexistence dot.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Com Design your Existence dot com. We'll get you in
touch with tinya and uh well Tinya. That wraps up
our conversation and I thank you for being here. It's
been awesome. We've explored how channeling your in our hero,
(26:29):
tackling entities, and addressing offensive energies can empower you to
overcome anxiety and porn addiction. And thank you Juan for
sharing your insights and unique approach to energy healings and
if you found you're welcome. If you found this episode
value valuable, be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for
(26:50):
more powerful discussions. Until next time, remember to.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Harness your inner hero and keep striving for are your
best self.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Be powerful.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Thanks for listening. If you're struggling with porn or sex addiction,
reach out to Eric at powerfuleric dot com
Are you struggling with porn or sex addiction? Then apply
for a free strategy call with Eric today at Powerfuleric
dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Just rain. Yeah, it just drains you. And then and
then you feel like you need to you need to
go back and refuel. And so that's when you go
back and you watch another movie, or you grab another drink,
or you buy another pack, and it's just a vicious
cycle until until you say I'm I'm done.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
This is porn Talk. Here's your host, Eric Zuzak.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Welcome back to porn Talk. In part two of our
conversation with Tinya Eikenberg, we're diving deeper into how to
unleash your inner superhero and overcome anxiety and porn addiction.
Last time we explored the power of anyse, cartoons and
healing energy, and today we will focus on how Tinya's
(00:59):
approach to address entities and offensive energies. Let's dive in.
Welcome back, Tinya.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Thank you, Thank you. I appreciate being able to kind
of get into the more woo woo stuff of yes of.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
This absolutely so a a friend, not a friend, a
dear close uh my spiritual mentor advisor. She's just been
deceased for a long time now. She was very very intuitive.
Psychic okay, and for those of you that's a.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Psychic stuff that's coming from the devil.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Then you you can look at that instead. It's called
I have a friend who's a Catholic priest and he's psychic,
but they don't call it that. He calls it he
has the gift of discernment.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
Yeah, it's funny how religious changes. So if you have.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
This person has the gift of discernment. And anyway, she
told me, she said, if you could see what is
on the astral plane, you could save spirit world the
other side. And if you could see what was there
when you walked into a bar, she said, you would
(02:26):
never go in because what she said is there are
say things waiting to attach to you to get that
high from whatever it is that you're going to do.
So this is your world here, Tinya tell us more.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Yeah, So you know, these these disembodied spirits, these entities,
these things that we can't see, their their energy bodies,
and you know, some of them might have been human
at some point. Some of them might be from you know,
other places and they've just you know, come to come
to earth. To feed off of these low vibration feelings
(03:07):
and energies that we're holding on too. And some of
them have had addictions in the past and they're not
ready to move on because they still want to feed
off of that that energy. They still get that high.
Even though they are unseen, they still want to get
that high, and they will attach themselves to people who
(03:30):
are going through those same addictions. So alcoholics are going
to have these these unseen beings. And I always stress
to my to my clients, do not have fear when
it comes to these things. I don't want to talk
to people and instill fear because these these I see
(03:52):
these beings as like our neighbors down the street that
are just they're not sociable, they don't want to talk
to anybody. They are just, you know, they're just doing
their own thing, and they're not very nice people. But
it's just how they are. Right, these entities, these spirit attachments,
these offensive energies, it is their job to make us uncomfortable,
(04:18):
to harm us in some way, and it's the only
job they've ever known. And until we seek them out
and have a little chat with them, they may not
realize how much better it is if they go the
other direction, if they start to become more positive beings.
And I have helped many become more positive and let
(04:43):
go of the people that they were hanging on to,
because really the high on the positive side of the
other side is so much better than the low. But
they just don't see it. Just like when we're in
our grips of addiction, we don't see how much better
happiness and joy feels because we just we just can't
(05:06):
see it. But these entities, in these disembodied spirits, they
cord themselves to us, and I call it like a
sucking straw, and they just they just take and take
and take whatever it is that they want. And those
things that we're doing to make us feel good, they're
taking it. Well, then we need more because they've taken
(05:26):
it all.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Yeah, And you know you're bringing up a good point
with porn addiction or alcohol whatever, Like, how do you
feel afterwards? Like I can honestly say, after viewing porniography, I.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Never once ever felt like, oh wow, now I feel
so great.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I'm so proud of myself.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
You know, I'm mascerbating to the worst born I could
possibly find, and I just want to go out, and
I want to go tell everybody. I'm just so excited
about it. I'm gonna tell my neighbors. Oh man, you
should have seen The Poor and I was watching I
was on it all day or last night.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I you know, I just got so smashed. I can't
remember anything. Yeah, and it's quite the opposite, right, Like
we feel completely drained, not proud of ourselves, a lot
of shame, guilt, and that shame and guilt in negative
energy is what they're.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Feeding on, right, Just drained. Yeah, it just drains you.
And then and then you feel like you need to
you need to go back and refuel. And so that's
when you go back and you watch another movie, or
you grab another drink, or you buy another pack, and
it's just a vicious cycle until until you say I'm
(06:51):
I'm done. And you know, in the first you know,
they say the first step to recovery is admitting that
you have a problem, and it absolutely is in any thing,
the first step to recovering from anxiety depression is saying
I have anxiety depression. It does not have to be
diagnosed by a doctor. Mine was not clinical, but I
(07:13):
knew what I had. I knew that I was sad
a lot of the time. I knew that I was
worried a lot of the time. I knew that I
held my emotions in. I knew that I used cigarettes
and alcohol to cover them up, and I did not
feel good, like I physically did not feel good. Pay
(07:34):
attention to how your body feels when you think about
your addiction. Right whenever you think about pushing play on
the next video, pay attention to where in your body
you're feeling discomfort.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
I really like what you're saying there. To pay attention
to your body and where that discomfort may be. If
it's before you're acting out, you know what's going on there,
and then afterwards, how are you feeling?
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah, yeah, if you're feeling shame afterwards, there's something really
that you need to look at, like why, where's that
shame coming from? And typically that shame is not coming
really coming from watching the porn. That shame is going
to be coming from something that happened to you during childhood,
(08:32):
or it could be something that was passed down from
your parents. You know, when I was going through when
I was healing my anxiety depression, a lot of the
stuff that I had to clear out and get rid
of were inherited energies from my dad's dad, who was
an alcoholic and died at a very young age, and
they were just passed down through my dad to me.
(08:56):
And as I healed my anxiety depression, and I could
see the shifts in my dad because whatever I cleared
from me cleared from him as well. But I didn't
know that that's what was at the root of my
mental illness. I thought it was other stuff on my ego.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Yeah, generational healing, generational healing. I know on both sides
of my family. You have addiction on both sides of
my family, and so that of course plays a big part.
But let's talk about solutions. So we know we have
all these challenges, anxiety, depression, addiction entities attaching to us.
(09:47):
So what are we going to do about it?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Well, you can always call me of course, fine, fine.
You know, for me, I had to do the energetic
work before or I could do the conscious work, because
whenever I tried to do the conscious work before finding
energy healing, it was so difficult. But mindset work does work.
(10:12):
Changing your mindset absolutely works. Shifting your belief systems. You know,
if you find that you can't you can't do the
conscious work, seek out an energy healer. Seek out someone
who can help to move that negative energy out to
leave more space to bring more positive things in. If
(10:36):
energy healing is not your thing, then do the mindset work.
Start with journaling, journal about what your beliefs are. Do
you have so you know there are a lot of
different beliefs and I'll pull these up real quick that
you can have that might that you might need to address.
(10:57):
It might be like I'm unworthy of love, right, Why
would you be unworthy of love as a human being?
None of us are unworthy of love, but we often
feel that way. I hate myself, I feel lost, I
don't deserve happiness. I'm only happy when I'm in my addiction.
(11:17):
Those are beliefs that that you can address on a
conscious level and really kind of journal about why you
have them. The other things are meditation, which brings you
into the moment. You know. Anxiety is worrying about the future,
worrying about the what ifs. Depression is being sad about
(11:41):
what was or what could have been. So depression is
the past. Anxiety is the future.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
But when you bring when you can be in the moment,
and everybody's like, what do you mean by being in
the moment, Like I'm right here. It's like no. But
when you're sitting there in silence, where does your mind go?
Does it go to the past, does it go to
the future, or is it just right now? Are you
paying attention to how the muscles your muscles are twitching
(12:15):
as you're just sitting there? Can you feel your toes
on the carpet or on the hardwood floor. That is
being in the moment. It's not being on your phone,
it's not listening to music, it's just sitting there. And
this is where meditation starts. Start with one minute a
day of sitting in silence. And I swear that minute
(12:39):
was going to feel like a half an hour the
first few times that you do it, because people do
not know how to sit with themselves.
Speaker 3 (12:52):
Absolutely, You're right. People do not know how to sit
with themselves because there's usually a screen in front them.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
A.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
Television, a computer, monitor, a tablet, a phone, and now
even a watch.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, And you know, there's self care is
such a huge thing that we need to start doing.
You know, self care really didn't start to become a
thing until like the nineteen fifties, nineteen sixties, and it
(13:32):
was something that women were typically women were sent away
to do when they were having emotional breakdowns. It was
something that they that the medical the medical teams did
for the mentally ill. It was they sent them away.
(13:53):
Then you'd come back and you'd, you know, typically you'd
be on something because it made you feel better. I mean,
that's where that's where the opiode crisis probably started. But
you know, we have to fill our cup first before
we can take care of others, before we can help
fill their cups. And we don't do that. And when
(14:17):
we give and give and give and get and then
we give more, we try to you know, scrape the
bottom of our barrel to keep giving. We then start
to find the things that are going to make us
feel good short term. Yeah, and that's where the addictions
usually start.
Speaker 3 (14:35):
Meditation and journaling are to tried and true things that
are absolute, in my opinion, must if you want to
overcome an addiction. And there was a study done on
journaling and they found that journaling was as an effect,
(14:55):
was as effective as going to a therapist. Not that
you shouldn't go to a therapist. Not that you should
go to a coach, but that that's how powerful journaling is. Yeah,
all my clients I recommend journaling, and all my clients
I recommend meditation as well.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Yeah, and I'll tell you know if you have if
you're scared to journal. I know a lot of women
are scared to journal because their diaries were read when
they were kids. And I'm guessing I haven't worked with
a whole lot of men, but I'm guessing for men
to journal, it's more about I'm a man. I don't
(15:33):
have feelings. I shouldn't feel them, so why would I
write them down? Right? It? For you know, for men,
it might seem like a weakness to write down your
thoughts and your feelings, but there might be that underneath
layer of what if somebody reads it? And with that
(15:53):
I get get something with a lock on it, put
it on your phone, right Apple? I don't know if
Android does, but Apple has a journaling app now, and
there are tons of journaling apps out there that you
can choose from now. Handwriting is always going to be better.
You don't have to pay attention to your spelling or
(16:15):
your grant anything like that, right, You just don't worry
because if somebody reads it bad on them.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
Yeah. There's also another form of journaling called expressive writing
or expressive journaling, where you don't put it in a journal.
You just put it on like a yellowpad. You get
it all out, and then immediately when you're done, you
destroy it.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Right.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
That's very effective.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
Yeah. Yeah, And if you're worried about someone going through
your trash, get a burn barrel burn it. You can
also do voice messaging. I've had I've had clients. I've
told clients to start your own Facebook page, not page,
but your own Facebook group. Make it private, makes your
people can't find it. But go in and post your
(17:03):
own journaling into your Facebook group. Hm. You know, you
can go back and re listen to yourself. There's so
many different ways to journal, and there are so many
different ways to meditate. You can sit in silence to meditate.
You can go for a walk. You know, you can
meditate while you're you're washing dishes.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
Tenia, there's someone listening right now and they're like, really
like meditation and journaling. Really Like, you know, I'm trying
to break an addiction and you're telling me to meditate
and journal.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Yeah, because it will help you to find out why
you have the addiction. It may take it may take time.
I promise you this is not going to be an overnight.
You know, you're not going to journal for a week,
or you might, but most people are not going to
journal for a week and have an epiphany and go, oh,
this is where my addiction started. This is what I
(18:03):
need to work on.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
Where does so I'm doing the dreeneraling, I'm doing the meditation,
where does the energy healing come in. So someone is struggling,
maybe they have some attachments that they're trying to get
rid of or whatever, like like, what what is energy healing?
(18:29):
What do you do with that?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
So energy healing at the most simplest form is to
me energy balls. These energy balls trapped emotions, believes, trauma energies.
They look like those little birds that you get on
your socks when you walk through a field. And so
what I do as an energy healer is I tap
into your energy through muscle testing and it's just using
(18:55):
my body as a conduit of sorts to ask your
subconscious questions like what is it that is at the
root cause of this addiction? And it might be a belief,
right and then we need to find out that we
need to know more about this belief, where it comes from,
is it inherited? And then we go deeper and we go, Okay,
(19:16):
what's underneath of this belief that we need to energetically
deal with so that we can clear it or we
can shift it. And so it might be trapped emotions
that you developed when you were in high school or
you know in your twenties that were just like trapped
(19:37):
emotion of grief when you went through a breakup, and
you've just trapped it because you just you were just like,
you know what, screw them, I'm not even going to
deal with the I'm not going to give them the energy.
And you've been holding on to it.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
So what method of energy healing do you like to use?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
So mine is rooted in the foundation of the emotion code,
which is using muscle testing. So muscle testing or kinesiology
is using your body to tap into your subconscious So
I'll bring my camera down so you guys can see
a little bit. So I use the ring to ring method,
which is just kind of you know, putting your fingers
(20:18):
together like this, and when I get a yes answer,
it's strong when I get a no answer, it'll pull apart.
And so if I ask myself, Okay, is my name tenya?
So it holds lock? Is my name Eric? No? Right?
So is my name Fred?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
No?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Is my name tenya?
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (20:35):
So it just locks, and it's just it's just automatic
for me. Now. I muscle test foods. I muscle test
all kinds of things, like, you know, is there anything
in a certain book that might benefit me? And if no,
then I don't need to read the book. It saves
me a lot of time.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
Yeah, what bless you. One of the methods that I
like to use is the Emotional freedom technique or you FT.
That's found very effective. But let's talk about some of
the other things, like what about you know, if somebody's
in a really dark place, maybe they're watching some really
(21:18):
dark porn or into some serious drugs or whatever, and
there might be something, you know, on their shoulders. So
to say, what do you do with somebody like.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
That, Well, they definitely need to seek out support. You know.
I'm not a therapist, and so I encourage a lot
of my clients to work with therapists or go to
support groups, find somebody that they can talk to as well.
Because working towards Like I said, you know, we've talked
about a lot about feeling feelings and setting boundaries. That
(21:51):
is that conscious work that we still need to learn
to do, and so we need to seek out someone
who's going to help us to do that. But when
you when you're when you're feeling so low, having a
support system is key. And shifting what you are consciously
(22:13):
doing as hard as it will be, is also key.
So if you are watching dark movies or you're listening
to dark music, you need to shift to lighter things,
or turn the TV off all together, stop watching the news,
(22:33):
find out find a gratitude practice. You know, I with
my clients, that's one of the first pieces of homework
that I have them do is start a gratitude practice.
And if you can't find one thing throughout your day
(22:54):
to have gratitude for, you definitely need to find a
support system. You have to because because you know, I
tell my clients one thing, what's one thing you can
be thankful for? And they're like, I don't know. I'm like,
what about two ply two paper? Toilet paper? Like, hey,
have you ever had to wipe with one ply or
(23:17):
been out of toilet paper and had to I don't know,
use a leaf when you're camping, And I try to
bring humor into my into my session because you know,
healing is a very hard thing to do. It's a
very lonely thing to do. You know. People think that
just because you have all this support around you that
(23:40):
you're not lonely, but nobody, nobody. I don't even really
understand totally what my clients are going through because I'm
not them, and healing is a very lonely process. So
you need to find people who are going to be
compassionate and are going to be empathetic, and as a
(24:03):
support group, I would encourage them to when this friend
or this family member comes to you and they need help,
ask them do they want to be hugged, do they
want to be helped? Or do they just want to
be heard?
Speaker 3 (24:21):
Yeah, the opposite of addiction is connection and turning off
the news that device will allow you to connect with
another human being, and journaling your thoughts will allow you
to connect with yourself and your thoughts and feelings. And
let's leave with one blessing here with a superhero? So,
(24:48):
how can the eighties superheroes help with us?
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You know, be your own superhero. Yes, create your own
eighties superhero avatar. And you know that that is where
it all starts, is with you. Nobody outside of you
can heal you. They can help you, we can give
(25:19):
you tools, we can give you suggestions, but it's up
to you to take action. And that is one thing
that every superhero has ever done, is they took action.
That's right, So take action. Be your own superhero and
create your own create your own existence.
Speaker 4 (25:42):
Oh love it, love it, be your own superhero. If
it's to me, it's.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
Up to me. Absolutely, yep, Tina.
Speaker 3 (25:54):
Thanks for being with us today. So if someone wants
to reach out to you and would like your help
or services, how do they do that?
Speaker 2 (26:04):
You can go to my website at design yourexistence dot.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Com Design your Existence dot com. We'll get you in
touch with tinya and uh well Tinya. That wraps up
our conversation and I thank you for being here. It's
been awesome. We've explored how channeling your in our hero,
(26:29):
tackling entities, and addressing offensive energies can empower you to
overcome anxiety and porn addiction. And thank you Juan for
sharing your insights and unique approach to energy healings and
if you found you're welcome. If you found this episode
value valuable, be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for
(26:50):
more powerful discussions. Until next time, remember to.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Harness your inner hero and keep striving for are your
best self.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
Be powerful.
Speaker 1 (27:05):
Thanks for listening. If you're struggling with porn or sex addiction,
reach out to Eric at powerfuleric dot com
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