How Triggers Can Transform Your Life After Divorce

💩 “Do you want me to pick up his poop with my bare hands?” Yep, that’s how my morning went, and it had me SO triggered. But what if I told you that triggers—whether they come from a stranger, your ex, or even your own thoughts—can actually be one of the biggest tools for growth after divorce?

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In this episode, I’m sharing:

✅ How a small moment with my dog spiraled into a major realization about myself

✅ A client’s powerful transformation after working through their own triggers post-divorce

✅ Why understanding your triggers is the key to rebuilding confidence and creating a life you love

✅ Practical tips to stop letting triggers hold you back and instead use them to propel you forward

If you’ve ever felt stuck, judged, or unsure of your identity after divorce, this episode is for YOU. Triggers aren’t here to stop you—they’re here to wake you up. Let’s dive into how you can use them to take back your power and build your greatest comeback.

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Keywords:

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Episode Transcript

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And so I said to her, do you want meto pick up his poop with my bare hands?

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That's exactly how mymorning went the other day.
And honestly, I was so triggered.
By what happened.
But before I tell you all about that,what if I told you that triggers
like these, whether they come from astranger, your ex, or even your own
thoughts can actually be one of thebiggest tools for growth after divorce.

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In today's episode, I'm sharing how thisridiculous crazy moment with my dog got
me spiraling Plus a client's incrediblebreakthrough that came after we worked
through their own triggers and whyunderstanding your triggers after divorce
is one of the most powerful things thatyou can do to take back your power.
Plus stay till the end and Iwill give you practical steps and

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reflection tips to help you use yourtriggers to start working for you.
Now let's dive in.
You're listening to HerHeart Heals Divorce Radio.
Hi, I'm Christina Cuevas.
Seven years ago, I went througha divorce and it completely

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turned my world upside down.
And I'm so glad it did.
I documented my healing to shareinformation with other women going
through their own divorce journey.
And now, With thousands of downloadsaround the world from divorced women
just like you, I'm here to show youhow to ditch the shame around divorce
and finally heal so that you canregain the confidence to create your

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most abundant and joyful future.
I'm so glad you're here.
This is Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.
All right.
So there I am walking my dogRuxin and he's doing his business.
He's going number, you know what, andthese people I see all the time who
never say hi back, by the way, walk by.

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I see them all the time on our trail.
When you go walking, you start toget to know the people that have
roughly the same routine as you.
And so I said, hello again, like always.
And instead of saying hi back, thewoman looks at me and asks, like,
aren't you going to pick up his poop?
I was like, I mean, seriously?

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I responded like, of course I'm going to.
I just have to go grab a bag down by thepoop station, which is down, down below.
But that moment caught me so off guardthat I blurted out, like, do you just
want me to pick it up with my bare hands?
And you guys, I was so triggered.
That made me questionhow I felt about myself.

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This is the kind of stuff that hits somuch harder when you're rebuilding your
life after divorce, because you're alreadyquestioning Who you are, how people
see you, whether you're doing enough.
And so one little comment can reallyfeel like the whole world's judging you.
Even when people don't evenmake the comment, we're

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always super self conscious.
At least I was.
But before I tell you how I workedthrough my trigger, I wanted to share
a story from one of my clients as well.
His transformation is the perfectexample of what's possible when you
lean into this work, especially whenyou're rebuilding after divorce.
So this client we'vebeen working together.

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Around building his business.
And he's been avoiding a lotof his triggers for years.
And like many of us after divorce, he wastrying to avoid the pain, the discomfort,
and honestly, the fear of facing himself,like allowing himself to be seen.
And that avoidance was holdinghim back from the business

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that he's trying to create.
So a lot of times when I work witha client around business strategy.
We can't really get to the strategy pieceuntil we work on the inner piece that's
holding you back because it doesn'tmatter what kind of strategy I give you,
I can, give you a whole plan that'sgoing to make anyone tons of money.

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But none of it's going to workbecause a lot of it is mindset.
It's actually 90 percentmindset, 10 percent action.
So these things that are holdingus back in our life, it has really
nothing to do with the action thathas to be done, but everything about
how we feel about ourselves and howwe take the action, which is trigger.

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So these triggers kept him fromstarting a new business where he
could share his passion for musicwith others and help them heal.
This is a dream that he's had for years.
It stopped him from holding space toleap into something that was scary,
even though it was something good.
And after divorce, that kind ofisolation can feel especially heavy.

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Because it's not just about losing yourpartner, but it's also about losing the
life that you thought that you'd have.
And that brings in a wholeother set of triggers.
It's actually what Icall the divorce effect.
And that's triggers that welearn just from going through
the experience of divorce.
So it has really nothingto do with your partner.

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Everything to do about how youprocessed the divorce experience as a
whole and through our work together,he realized that the avoidance wasn't
serving him anymore, and once he madethat shift, he launched his business.
He finally began creating a life thatfeels aligned with who he truly is.

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And that's the thing with triggers isthat it's all an opportunity for you
to get back to who you really are.
And that's why it's so triggeringbecause, it's on a soul level.
So this is what's possible whenyou stop avoiding your triggers
and you start working with them.

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You don't have to let thesemoments keep you stuck.
And there's a great sciencethat you can do that you can use
you don't have to let your triggerskeep you stuck, but instead be smart
about it and use them to your advantageand let them propel you forward.
So back to my poop incident,why did it trigger me so much?

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Right?
Wasn't about her.
Wasn't this person because a lotof times the triggers that come,
it doesn't matter who it's from,
it's triggering something that oftenthese people don't know anything about.
And deep down, I really value beinga good dog mom and her comment really
poked at this subconscious fearof not being enough in that role.

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And if you've been through a divorce, youknow how easy it is to question yourself.
Your worth, your decisions, and evenyour identity triggers, shine a light
on those insecurities, and that's whyworking through them is so important.
It's how you rebuild confidence andstep into who you're meant to become.

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And this is real confidence,not fake confidence, which
there's totally a difference.
Triggers reveal whatmatters the most to us.
And when you take the time to understandthem, they can help you grow in ways
that you never imagined possible.
And if we don't work throughthem, they can keep us stuck.

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That's why in your greatest comeback,my program, we spend an entire
week on this because when you learnhow to transform your triggers,
they become tools, not obstacles.
And my clients all learn how to use theseto where they actually look forward to the
triggers because they're opportunities.

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It sounds crazy.
I know.
So I want you to think about it.
When was the last timethat you got triggered?
Maybe it was your ex's comment aboutyour parenting or someone questioning
a decision that you made in yourlife as you rebuilt after divorce.
Ask yourself, what was it really about?

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Take a moment and sit with it,journal it out and reflect on it.
Because every single trigger is a chanceto wake up and live life on purpose.
And if you're ready to master this foryourself, my program is where it's at.
And you can check out all the details.
I've got applications open now.
So if it's something that you feelaligned and you want to explore

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that, I encourage you to apply.
It's free.
It takes two minutes.
It's time to make yourcomeback last forever.
Oh, and in case you're wonderingwhat happened with that woman, I
picked up Ruxin's poop, obviously.
But more importantly, I usedthat moment to nurture the
part of me that got triggered.
And honestly, I'm so grateful forher comment, because it really just

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reminded me to give myself the grace.
That I like to give to otherpeople that sometimes we need those
reminders to give them to ourselves.
And I truly needed that momentto really realize that and
put things into perspective.
So whether it's about poop or yourpost divorce journey, the next time
something sets you off, ask yourself,what is this moment here to teach me?

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Because that's where the real magic is.
I hope you guys loved thisshort podcast episode.
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Until next time