Is Divorce a Sin... or a Sacred Call?

Is divorce a sin… or could it actually be a sacred turning point in your life?

In this episode, Christina opens up for the very first time about her spiritual journey through divorce—and the deeply personal question that’s been blowing up in her DMs: “Is divorce a sin?”

With over 300 responses from her Instagram community, this episode dives into the truth behind what sin really means (spoiler: it’s not what you think), the divine call that can come through heartbreak, and how to finally come back home to yourself after a painful breakup.

🎧 In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• What the Bible actually says about sin (hint: it means “missing the mark”)
• Christina’s personal story of filing for divorce after infidelity—and what the Holy Spirit revealed to her
• The difference between surviving divorce and turning it into a sacred initiation
• What alignment really feels like (and why you can’t fake it)
• Real client breakthroughs from the Your Greatest Comeback program
• Why the real sin might not be divorce—but the hardening of your heart after

💡This episode is for you if:

• You’re divorced or considering divorce and feeling spiritual guilt or shame
• You want to heal your relationship with yourself and with God
• You’re ready to turn pain into purpose, but don’t know where to start
• You’re tired of just “getting by” and want to step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence

Episode Transcript

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Welcome back to anotherepisode of Rebuilding You.
I am your host, Christina, as always,we are talking all things divorce
healing, comebacks your purpose, ohmy gosh, I was gonna record this
episode tomorrow, but I have got toget this out of my brain right now.
We are diving into a conversation.

(00:23):
That I have never brought up before onthe Her Heart Heels account, it's
something that has been blowingup in my DM since yesterday.
And the question is, is divorce a sin?
I don't even know why I felt called topost that yesterday in my stories, but
I ended up running a poll on Instagramto see what everybody thought, just

(00:47):
to open it up because my relationshipwith God has been something very
personal and I just never opened it up.
And so I did yesterday and I asked all ofyou, do you think that divorce is a sin?
Oh my goodness.
Over 300 of you voted and theresults well, it is anything

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but black and white because 72%of you said no, it's not a sin.
Not at all.
11% of you said, well, it must bebecause it feels like I'm being punished.
10% of you said, I am wrestling with thatanswer currently, and 7% of you said yes.

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You think divorce is a sin in some ways.
So clearly this one, hits deepand it warrants a conversation.
This episode isn't about givingyou a one size fits all answer.
In fact, I don't want thisto give you an answer at all.
I wanted to come on for the firsttime ever and share my perspectives.

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I wanna offer a little bit of areframe and things that I think are
important to think about and to havea conversation about it, a sacred
one, and inviting you to sit with itand come up with your own conclusion.
Decide for yourself totake this information.

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And let it marinate and havea conversation within you and
get back to me, let me know.
This episode probably won't beany more than 20 minutes long.
And you know, I like to keep thingsshort and sweet and to the point.
And so this is a topic towhere we could spend hours.

(02:39):
In conversation.
In fact, I've had, I've been DMingwith several of you back and forth
that have gone over 24 hours of justfull conversations of back and forth.
So this is not something wherethe end will be finite and you
will get some sort of, answer.
So I'm gonna be throwing.
Some little perspectives at you ondifferent things, and hopefully open

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up your mind sit with this, message meover on Instagram what comes up for you,
because this is gonna be really powerful.
I, I just know it.
I know that this is gonna be huge for you.
So anyway, let's get into it.

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Okay, so let's start with the word itself.
Sin.
Most people hear that word and immediatelyfeel some type of way about it.
Shame.
If you come from a religious upbringing,sin can be a very traumatic word, and

(04:22):
traumatic and dramatic to be honest.
But let's actually look at theoriginal meaning of sin in Greek,
which literally means to miss the mark.
And it's not just about bad behavior, it'sjust about being out of alignment with.

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God with the universe, with yourpurpose and out of sync with the truth,
with love, with your highest self.
So let me ask, is the sin reallythe divorce itself or is sin what
came before divorce or after, whichwe're gonna get into in this episode?

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Don't worry.
For many of us, the sin wasin the staying too long.
Abandoning ourselves or in thechoices that our partner made that
broke the sacred covenant of marriagelong before filing for divorce.
You know, when one persondoesn't stay committed, they're

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doing an act of sin, right?
Which is to miss the mark.
I wanted to start with that becauseI think it's really important to
figure out what we define as sin.
Or maybe we just have a differentword that we use for it.
For example, like in this,it's missing the mark.

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So starting there, going to where the sin.
Launched the divorce.
In my case, my ex committed a lot of sins.
There was cheating, there was moneystuff, and that alone shattered something.

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Like I said, I feel like that wasthe catalyst, but beyond that, I knew
that we were fundamentally misaligned.
And here's what might surprise you.
I believe that the Holy Spirit called meto get divorce because I don't know if you
guys know this, I was the one that filedfor divorce because I knew I had this like

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deep, deep, dark night of the soul momentwhere I knew like it was the clearest
spiritual nudge I have ever received.
And not because it was easy,but because it required me to
finally face how I got there.

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And so the truth, it wasn't justabout him, it was actually about
me because we all have free will.
The patterns that I ignored, thechoices that I made, the ways
that I abandoned myself and.
We all have free will too.

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And I used mine to choose a marriagethat deep down wasn't aligned.
And so therefore I feel like thatwas my own sin to carry, right?
Again, missing the mark.
So sometimes what I feel likedestruction is, is actually divine

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intervention and maybe just maybe.
They did you a favor, like if your exwas the one that said that they didn't
wanna stay in the marriage anymore, ormaybe they cheated and you, you felt
forced to file for a divorce because,let's be honest, like nobody gets,
gets married with the aspiration toget divorced because now you don't have

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to live one more day out of alignment.
So that's one perspective to lookat that alignment isn't some.
Woo woo word.
It is the feeling of being at peace inyour life and in your body of making
decisions from a place of truth, not fear.

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And here's what that looks likeWhen you're in alignment, your
nervous system functions regularly.
You can be calm in situations.
You don't have to secondguess every little move.
Because you fully trust in yourlife and where you're going.

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You stop asking for permission.
You stop looking for validation andoutside things because you have that
alignment that comes from within you.
So you don't compareyourself to other people.
You don't let you know the people thatyou follow on Instagram, take over who
it is that you are and what you wanna do.

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You feel like it more comes from withinyou and you stop asking for permission
and you start feeling like yourself again.
You're not trying or striving to beanybody other than you, and you're
fully okay that your walk in thislife looks different than maybe what

(09:32):
your best friend's life looks like.
So.
Leaving that marriage was the absolutelife shattering, hardest thing that I
have ever done, but it was also the mostaligned decision that I have ever made.
Does that make sense to you?
Like, am I, am I alone on that?

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From that pain, A purpose was born.
If you were to ask me what I wantedto be when I grew up, I wouldn't tell
you that I planned to be a mentor forwomen going through divorce and to
help them heal, I didn't plan to.
Have this podcast I actuallyknew, it's funny, I've been

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thinking about this a lot, but.
When I was little, I actuallywanted to be a pop star.
I wanted to sing and danceon stage and use my voice.
I come from a family of musicians andartists, and so I always aspired to be in
music and using my voice, and now I have.

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This podcast using my voice to help womenheal and find themselves after divorce,
like I did not see this work coming atall, but I knew how to discern the call
and I followed it with all my heart,and now I get to walk women through the
exact path that I took and help them.

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Find themselves, which hasbeen the most rewarding work
of my life through my program.
Your greatest comeback?
I've helped women go frombeing frozen in survival mode.
To fully in motion and feelinglike they're finally on the path
that they're supposed to be on.

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And it's crazy because it's so hard todescribe the feeling of what that feels
like, but it's absolutely the feelingthat we have sort of lost along the way.
Some of you haven't even feltthat since before you got married.
And I've also helped women go fromnumb and bitter to super clear and

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grounded, and to go from self abandoningto learning how to lead a life.
Honoring themselves first, and theneverything starts falling into place.
It's like manifestation on steroids.
One client told me , low key, mytherapist is impressed with you.

(12:07):
The work that we've beendoing is doing what Years of
therapy sessions couldn't do.
No, no shame to therapy though.
'cause a lot of myclients actually do both.
Um, another said, I didn't even realizehow much I had dimmed my light until
I started actually shining again.

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This is that feeling that I'm talkingabout, about knowing what it feels like.
If you even have a hope that that feelingis possible for you, think about how
good it actually feels when you actuallyfeel it and you're like, holy moly.
This is, this is what I've been searchingfor, and it's been so rewarding to hear

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my clients actually feel the feeling thatthey didn't know was possible for them.
This isn't just about divorce, it'sactually about taking this journey
and making that be sacred for you, andI've been talking about this a lot on
Instagram, we don't just get married.

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Willy-nilly.
I think I had a couple conversationswith some of you where you got married
because of circumstances, which Idon't fully align with that belief.
I got married because I thought thatthere was a sacredness to it, right?
Like obviously people get married and youcommit to two becoming one that is sacred.

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And so when you go through adivorce, I feel like that journey
is equally as sacred, if not more.
To be honest with you, my journeyof divorce was more sacred than my
marriage, which is wild, but I thinkit's the real sin, if you will, and

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again, using it from the perspectivethat sin means missing the mark.
The real sin is not using your divorceas the opportunity to really answer
the call of living out your purposeof being like I am ready to just.
Fully go all in on myself and mylife and like do this for real,

(14:20):
like build happiness for real.
A lot of you that I've been talkingto have been sharing about how you got
divorced to be happy, but you strugglewith actually still feeling happy that
you feel some peace and some reliefbecause you don't have this like other
person that you have to worry about.

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But you're still searching.
So is divorce a sin?
That's not for me to decide for you,
but here's what I believe.
The real sin isn't the divorce.
It's hardening your heart afterward.

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It's refusing the call that you feel deepinside and just not taking action on it.
It's staying small because you'rescared to start over again, and
maybe this is your divine disruption.
Maybe this is the call, and again, I don'tknow why I even felt called to share or

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ask this question online or even make thisepisode, but maybe this is it, and if it
is, I invite you to answer it to take.
The next step to go all in onyourself because you are valuable.
You are worth it.
You deserve true happiness and true peace.
And if you don't quite feel that yet,man, I think that this is your time

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to make a decision right here, rightnow with inside of you and say, I'm
gonna, I'm gonna go all in on me.
So if this episode spoke to you, Iwanna personally invite you to join your
greatest comeback as a founding member.
Here's what that means.
You'll get early bird pricing, foundingmember perks, which means one-on-one

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access and free coaching from me,and full access to the step-by-step.
Foundation framework that is changingwomen's lives for the better.
So if you feel called and you wannaknow what that looks like, DM me.
The word sacred on Instagram.

(16:35):
Let's have a no pressureconversation to see if this
would even be a good fit for you.
The reason why I wanna havethe conversation is because this
early bird pricing is ridonculous.
I don't even know how much longer it'sgonna be there for, but it's the lowest
price that you will be able to get this.
And it's because I haven't fully launchedthis program yet because I am still

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in the program with all of my clients.
They're all getting one-on-one,uh, support from me.
So that is going to beending very, very soon.
So if you want to takeadvantage of this opportunity.
I highly, highly encourage you to do so.
Your comeback isn't just possible.
This is the holy work that youwill do that will change your life.

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So I hope that this perspectivewas helpful for you and it will
leave you with something to chewon with something to think about.
And as you get some of these thoughtsor perspectives, whether you agree with
me or you don't and you wanna offeryour perspective, I welcome all of it.
I respect every single person's journey.

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There's no judgment from me.
I am no one to judge, so I'll meetyou over in my dms over on Instagram.
I hope again that you loved this episode.
Leave me a review if this was helpful.
It really means the world, and it helpsto spread this message to other women who
are going through divorce as well, andthat's a way to pay it forward, right?

(18:08):
Thanks for your time.
Love you guys and I'll talkto you on the next one.