The 4 Phases of Divorce Healing. Which one are you in?

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Ever feel like your healing after divorce is taking forever? Or maybe you’re stuck in an emotional loop, bouncing between moving on and feeling like you're back at square one? You're not alone—and there's a reason for it.

In today’s episode, I’m breaking down The 4 Phases of Divorce Healing so you can finally understand where you are in your journey and what it takes to move forward without frustration.

Plus, I’m sharing a wild story about how a random middle school memory unlocked during meditation—something I had blocked out for years—and what it taught me about healing past wounds. 🧠💡

By the end of this episode, you’ll:

✅ Know which healing phase you’re in after divorce

✅ Understand why healing isn’t linear (and why that’s actually a good thing!)

✅ Learn how your subconscious mind may be holding onto pain without you realizing it

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Episode Transcript

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You ever had a memorythat just like unlocks?
Like one moment it's buried deep in thevault of your brain and the next it just
pops in your mind like it never leftand you're like, I haven't thought about
that since the time that it happened.
That happened to me recentlyduring a meditation.
I randomly remembered the name of a girlthat I went to middle school with and her

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full name is something that I have beentrying to recall for years and it hit me.
I had blocked out so much of mychildhood without really realizing it.
And over time I've just started tounlock all of these little nuggets.
Now I know you might be wondering like,okay, what the hell does this even

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have to do with healing after divorce?
But hear me out.
Our minds work.
So crazy.
And the way that we suppress andprocess pain applies directly to
the healing journey after divorce.
And if you've ever felt stuck like yourhealing is taking too long or like you

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don't even know what step to take next,this episode is going to be for you.
Today we're breaking down the fourphases of divorce healing, what they
are, how to recognize which one you'rein, And most importantly, how to move
through them with less frustration,AKA helping you up level and move out

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of that phase that much faster so thatyou can step into your comeback era.
Plus I've got something for you.
Also a free quiz that'll show youexactly what's keeping you stuck and
give you a personalized action planto get your comeback era in motion.
So stick around until the endbecause you do not want to miss that.

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Let's get started.
You're listening to HerHeart Heals Divorce Radio.
Hi, I'm Christina Cuevas.
Seven years ago, I went througha divorce and it completely
turned my world upside down.
And I'm so glad it did.
I documented my healing to shareinformation with other women going

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through their own divorce journey.
And now, With thousands of downloadsaround the world from divorced women
just like you, I'm here to show youhow to ditch the shame around divorce
and finally heal so that you canregain the confidence to create your
most abundant and joyful future.
I'm so glad you're here.
This is Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.

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Okay.
So let's go back to my random memoryunlock moment for just a second.
I was in the middle of ameditation, totally relaxed, just
letting my thoughts come and go.
And out of nowhere, this name dropsinto my brain and it wasn't just a name.
It was a whole wave of childhoodmemories that I had completely forgotten.

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And it made me just realizehow much our minds out when we
aren't ready to deal with them.
And this happens aftersomething like divorce as well.
Sometimes we suppress pain becausewe don't have the emotional
capacity to deal with it yet.
I've been talking all about expansionover on Instagram and my journey of like

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reaching new levels and having to expand.
And so capacity is a big thing.
And sometimes we think we've moved ononly for something and an old photo, a
song, a smell to hit us like a truck.
And that's because healingisn't a straight line.
It's not a checklist.

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It's a spiral, and you move throughit, and you circle back, and you
process deeper, and you keep going.
And this is why I want to break down thevery important four phases of healing
after divorce, because When you understandwhere you are, you can stop fighting the
process and actually start to make realprogress so that you're not bouncing in

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and out of these phases for very long.
And you're able to just likemove through them and like take
the wisdom from the experience.
So let's just dive right in.
Shall we?
Phase one, Is healing fromthe actual shock of divorce.
So this is survival mode.
It's the phase where everything feels likea blur, like you're watching your life

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happen, but you don't feel fully present.
You might feel numb.
You might feel like you can'tfocus on anything except
just getting through the day.
And if you're in this phase, justknow it's normal and it's okay.
Your nervous system is literallyprotecting you by keeping

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you in fight or flight mode.
And the goal here isn't tofix everything overnight.
I know we all wish that it could, but it'sto stabilize taking care of yourself in
the smallest micro ways and to breathe.
And healing starts whenyou feel safe again.

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And that takes time.
To compliment that.
We move into phase two, which ishealing the relationship with yourself.
Once you start feeling more like afunctioning human, this is really where
the real inner work begins, becausein so many ways, divorce shakes up

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our identity and you go from beingso and so's wife to you by yourself.
Independent, and that can feel liberating.
Or terrifying, or both at the sametime, depends on the day, right?
This phase is all about reconnectingwith yourself, figuring out what
you actually like, what makes youhappy, what you want moving forward.

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You're learning to stop makingdecisions based on your ex, based on
being in a partnership, based on fear,based on what people might think.
You're reclaiming your power here.
You're figuring out who you are.
And let me tell you, This is wherewomen start to feel alive again.
It's actually the first placethat we start inside of my

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course, your greatest comeback.
And I cannot wait forthis course to come out.
It's going to be a game changer.
It actually takes you throughall of the phases and helping you
move right into your comeback era.
So stay tuned for that.
Okay.
Phase three.
Healing from your past.

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Here's the thing.
Divorce doesn't just bringup pain from your marriage.
It brings up everything youhaven't fully healed from.
So old wounds from childhood, pastrelationships, maybe even patterns
that you didn't realize were repeating.
For me, remembering that random namefrom middle school was a reminder that

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we store so much in our subconscious.
Like, I have been trying to think ofthis person's name for decades and
it just popped in, popped into myconsciousness from my subconscious
because the answer I knew the entire time.
So because it had to come from somewhere.
So it's just wild how much information wehold and we store and we just push back.

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We're like a bunch of little thoughthoarders to be honest with you.
A lot of the things that we think we'vemoved past are actually just waiting
for us to be ready to process them.
And this is where it's really, like,this is the most juicy piece of work
that I do inside of my client containersbecause it's where the data is.

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Deepest breakthroughs happen.
It's where you rewrite your oldstories, your old patterns, you heal
childhood wounds, and you finally letgo of what's been weighing you down.
If you're in this phase rightnow, Oof, I am rooting for you.
This is such a special, special time.
I know it probably doesn't feel likeit, but if you play your cards right,

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if you really do the work rightnow in this uncomfortable space.
It will bring you to freedom.
Okay, so let's talk about phasefour and that's Healing as you
expand into your new future.
This is where you gofrom healing to thriving.

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You're no longer definedby what happened to you.
And you're now ready to fullystep into the woman that you were
always meant to be in the lifethat you've always wanted to have.
And I'll be honest, this phase can feela little weird because after spending so
much time processing and working throughstuff, and now suddenly you have all this.

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space for new things.
Like we're expanding and that expansioncan feel really uncomfortable, right?
It's these new experiences,these new dreams, new love.
And that can feel just as scary as healingbecause we've talked about this before.
Someone's, uh, Uh, familiar hell issafer than your unfamiliar heaven, right?

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So like you also have to heal as youconsistently expand in your future.
And that's what we're here for.
This is your comeback era.
The fact that you're even justhere listening means you're well
on your way and I'm here for it.
So Now that we've gone through the fourphases, let me ask you, do you know

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where you're at in your healing journey?
And maybe you feel like you're in betweenlike two different ones and you're kind of
bouncing back and forth and that's okay.
But if you're not quite sure I gotyou, I created a free quiz that helps
you figure out what phase you're in.
What blind spots might be keeping youstuck in that phase and exactly what

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you need to do next so that you can moveout of it and into your comeback era.
It's super quick.
And I've had women tell me thatit was scary, accurate for them.
So if you want a personalizedaction plan for your healing
journey, based on what phase you'rein right now, Go take the quiz.
The link is in the show notesand I promise it'll give you

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some clarity that you have beenlooking for and I cannot wait.
Make sure that you DM me what youranswer is so that we can chat about
it because I am so curious to know.
I know that healing after divorcecan feel like a never ending
process, but here's the truth.
You are so much closer to yourcomeback era than you think.

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Every phase is a step forwardand you're not behind.
You're right on time.
If something from today'sepisode hit home for you, DM me.
I'd love to hear where you'reat in your comeback journey, and
don't forget to take the quiz.
It might just be the thing that givesyou that breakthrough that you need.
So until next time, keep goingbecause, well, your best life

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is already on its way to you.
You just have to meet it.
Okay, I'll talk to you on the next one.
Bye.