The Fear of Taking Up Space After Divorce – A Love Letter to the Woman Who Knows She’s Meant for More

Have you ever felt like you’re meant for more, but when it comes time to take action—on your career, your goals, your confidence—you hesitate? You overthink, you question yourself, and before you know it, you’re stuck in the same place, waiting for the right moment.

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This episode is different. This is a love letter to you—the woman who has already done so much healing but still finds herself holding back. Because what if the thing you really need isn’t another strategy or mindset hack—but permission to take up space and own your power?

If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, fear of judgment, or wondering if you’re truly ready for your next chapter—this episode is for you.

Listen in as we dive into:

✔️ Why so many women play small after divorce—even when they’re ready for more

✔️ The sneaky ways fear of being seen holds you back from success and confidence

✔️ How to start shifting from waiting to taking action—without feeling overwhelmed

✔️ A powerful journal prompt to help you uncover where you’re holding yourself back

Your comeback starts the moment you decide you deserve one.

Meta Description: Feeling stuck after divorce? You’re ready for more—whether it’s a new career, a side hustle, or simply living boldly—but something keeps holding you back. In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful love letter to remind you why you deserve to take up space and step into your next chapter with confidence.

Keywords: personal growth after divorce, rebuilding life after divorce, overcoming fear, divorce recovery, self-worth, taking up space, mindset shifts, confidence after divorce, thriving after divorce, transformation

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Episode Transcript

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I want you to pause whatever you're doingfor just a second and really hear me
when I say this, you are meant for more.
I know it.
And deep down, you know it too.
But if you've been feeling stuck, likeyou're ready for the next chapter,
but something keeps holding you back.
This episode is for you.
Consider this my love letter toyou, a reminder that everything

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you want is already within reach.
Let's dive in.
You're listening to HerHeart Heals Divorce Radio.
Hi, I'm Christina Cuevas.
Seven years ago, I went througha divorce and it completely
turned my world upside down.
And I'm so glad it did.

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I documented my healing to shareinformation with other women going
through their own divorce journey.
And now, With thousands of downloadsaround the world from divorced women
just like you, I'm here to show youhow to ditch the shame around divorce
and finally heal so that you canregain the confidence to create your
most abundant and joyful future.

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I'm so glad you're here.
This is Her Heart Heals Divorce Radio.
Welcome back.
Happy February.
I had a conversationthis week that hit hard.
One of those moments where yourealize like, wow, this is a thing
that so many women don't evenrealize is holding them back.

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I was in a conversation with a clientand we were talking about their goals
to start a business and they wantedto get to the strategy and we got
into the strategy and they ran into.
All kinds of issues thattriggered their inner world.

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And it made me think of you.
Tell me if this sounds familiar, youknow, that you're meant for more.
You want to start that side hustle,move up in your career, or maybe you
just finally want to feel like you'rethriving instead of just surviving.
You've done the healing and you'removing forward after divorce.

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And you're ready to build somethingnew, but when it's time to actually
put yourself out there, whether it'sspeaking up, charging your worth or
making those bold moves, you hesitate.
Suddenly you overthink, you questionyourself and you tell yourself,
maybe I should wait until I'm moreready before, you know, it another

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day, another week, another yearhas passed without taking action.
on the things that wouldtruly change your life.
Does this sound familiar?
I see this all the timeand trust me, I get it.
Most women think that they needanother strategy, a better plan, more

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motivation, but what do you actually need?
Actually need as someone who workswith women and has developed multiple
strategies, whether that is to launcha business, go into dating, generate
wealth, financial freedom, you name it.
I have clients that have all kindsof different goals and it all comes

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down to kind of the same thing ofwhat the essence is that they truly
need to feel safe taking up space.
Because deep down, there's a partof you that still wonders, is it
okay for me to take up space aftereverything that I've been through?

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What if people judge me?
What if I fail?
What if I succeed and Idon't know how to handle it?
These are all questions,whether you realize it or not,
that are keeping you in limbo.
It's the subconscious programming.
The very, very quiet, faint voicethat you probably can't actually hear.

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One of my clients actually referred tothis the other day, is that they're in the
canyon with walls on either side, and I amlike the guide that's at the top, yelling
and telling them, Okay, go here, go here.
I'm sort of guiding you.
Because when you're in the arena, Whenyou are playing all out and you're

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going after your goals, you haveto have this sort of tunnel vision.
And I see so many women hesitatebecause not because they're not
ready, but because they don't feelsafe stepping into their next level.
And if that's you, I need you toknow there's nothing wrong with you.

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You don't need to be moreconfident or more prepared.
You just need to trust thatyou are allowed to take up
space right now, as you are.
So how do we start getting youto show up for yourself again?

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Let's start here.
I'm going to give you thesequestions that I want you to chew
on, preferably think about them.
And then I want you to actuallygo in and journal because wow,
journaling is such a game changer.
But I want you to think, where inyour life are you playing small
when you actually want more?

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And the next question, what's thestory that you're telling yourself
about why you can't have it?
Oof, honestly, I promise you'reprobably going to get a lot
of juice out of that question.
And the third question is,what would it feel like to To
just let yourself step into it.

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Ooh, scary, scary, not perfect, not ready.
Just you, because here's what I know.
Here's what I know to be true.
Your comeback starts the moment thatyou decide that you deserve one.

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Oof.
I'm dropping bombs onthis podcast episode.
All right.
So if this is resonating with you, andif you feel this in your bones, this
is exactly the work that we do insideyour greatest comeback, which is my
one on one mentorship for ambitiouswomen who are done waiting and ready to

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create a life that they actually love.
And we start seeing results.
As soon as the first call, ifyou're tired of hesitating and
you're ready to step into your nextlevel, I encourage you to apply.
The link is in the show notes, oryou can DM me on Instagram, the word
visible, and let's chat about what'snext for you, because this is your time.

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Take up space.
I see you.
I believe in you.
And I cannot wait to watch you stepinto everything that's meant for you.
Talk soon.