May 12, 2025 • 29 mins
When comedian Iliza Schlesinger joined me for what was supposed to be a simple crafting session, we quickly discovered that neither of us possesses Martha Stewart-level skills and that's perfectly okay. Between failed paint pours and questionable attempts at "art," our conversation evolved into something far more valuable than the lopsided trivets we created.
Perhaps the most refreshing aspect of our conversation was dismantling the guilt associated with self-care. Iliza's philosophy resonated deeply: "I don't believe in guilt. I think you just do things because you need to do them." This permission to prioritize yourself without apology feels revolutionary in a culture that expects women to put themselves last.
Join us for laughter, surprisingly deep insights, and the liberating reminder that sometimes the most meaningful connections happen when we stop striving for perfection and simply enjoy the creative process, whatever the outcome.
To watch the segment with Iliza Schlesinger and Sabrina, The Sabrina Soto Show:
https://www.sabrinasoto.com/the-sabrina-soto-show/
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to a special edition of Redesigning Life.
Many of you know I have a newshow called the Sabrina Soto
Show Out, and I was able toinvite amazing experts in their
fields just to come in and havea great conversation.
But because it's a show, wehave to edit it down.
Now, these conversations, theywere so good that I wanted to
(00:20):
publish the raw, uneditedversion, and that's what this
episode is.
You're going to hear action andyou may hear a crew in the
background, but I wanted topublish this so you can really
listen to the entire chat.
So here you go, Eliza.
Thank you so much for comingover.
So today's intention is to havefun, I realized.
(00:41):
Let me set my intention.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
What is your intention?
My intention, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I'm ready, I'm ready.
I've said it.
What is it?
Oh, I was supposed to have fun.
Oh no, I thought you were goingto have your own?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Oh no, you don't need one.
Oh, I just was hoping to go tothe bathroom after I have some
coffee.
You could do that that was myintention.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
You know what?
It took me 48 years to figureout that I need to create more
fun and play in my life.
I'm like constantly go, go, gobeing a mom working, and I just
don't do this anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
It's weird that it took you 48 years because you're
only 25.
Thank you, so maybe it was likefrom your past life.
Yep, I do think you do have toI don't this is not the way I
talk, but like set aside timefor joy.
But the older I get which isnot that old and the more I do,
the more I realize like you dohave to carve out, like remember
to like actually have fun.
And I think for women, like wenever remember that Men are like
(01:35):
I'm gonna have fun no matterwhat, and I feel like you have
to actually set time aside tohave sex with your husband to be
with your friends.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Wait, do you?
Speaker 2 (01:39):
schedule that, not schedule it, but like it's kind
of like all right, we know it'sgoing to be around here Around
Monday, at least when I'm intown.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Speaking of.
You're always on the go.
Yeah, how do you do it?
You're on tour.
No, no, please don't drink that.
No, do you want something?
No, later, you're on tour.
You finished your special.
I did which is called.
Which is called A DifferentAnimal.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Amazing.
How was it?
It was great, we shot it inSalt Lake City.
The secret about Mormons isthat they are jacked up and
ready to go Like on a Fridaynight, like they are not drunk,
but they have all had a lot ofsoda and they're in their F-350s
and they're all very goodlooking and like kind of horny
and they are the most incredibleaudience.
(02:25):
That is good to know.
I knew about that energy before.
People fell in love with theSecret Lives of Mormon Wives.
Like I was gunning for havingit at that in that state years
ago, so I was happy to go.
Well, I can't wait to watch it.
It's out soon this month.
Different animal and the bestpart I think, aside from the
jokes, are the pants.
I've got a great pair of pants.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
That was it, pants.
You just check that off the box, pants first, wait.
And so tell me, how is it doing?
A special, like, how do youeven prepare for that, for a
special?
Yeah, like, how do you try outjokes, have you?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
ever come to see me locally.
Yes, okay, I went to theairport and I left because it
was so bad.
No, I went to see you atFlappers.
Yes, I tour, I'm on tour andthen when I'm home, I'm running
it, you know, 15 minutes at atime, 20 minutes at a time,
clubs, alt, venues, wherever,and you sort of cobble together,
like you Frankenstein together,this monster of an hour, and
(03:18):
then you polish it when you'reon the road, road, and then we
have, we back out, we back it upinto the date where we shoot it
.
So it's uh, it's just practice,it's a lot of practice and
you're like trying out jokes asmuch as it seems it's not off
the top of our heads.
So some of the best crowd workis not always off the top of
your head.
Really not, not for everyone,not all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
That's a secret, it's just like a tiny secret, not
always so you are doing thespecials, you're on tour, you've
got two young kids, a husband,a little doggy, I do a little
doggy, how do?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
you do it, which is really why I came here today to
talk about that dog.
Why, no, I didn't bring her.
Why you bring her everywhere?
Because she barks at anyonewith a beard or who's tall.
So this wouldn't have worked.
But what if I pointed to a girl?
She's like I am trying, I don't, I just, you, just do right.
(04:07):
Women only get asked that noone asks my husband, you know,
you're a father and you're alike.
How do you do it all?
And I feel like women are verygood, under painful
circumstances, at just going andjust doing, because what's the
alternative?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
We don't have one Not existing?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
yeah, there isn't, and you just do it.
And women are very good at kindof like being stoic, Like you
know, if you have an animal likeyour dog has like a tooth
problem, he kind of doesn't letyou know for a while, yeah, and
then you're like oh no, we haveto get it pulled.
I feel like that's how womenare, Like decided we're just
(04:49):
going to do it all and it'sgoing to be controlled chaos and
hopefully I have time to likewatch TV at the end of the night
.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
But that's what I'm saying, like, when do you find
time to play in your life?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't, you don't, but I don't, I don't, you don't,
but I don't, I don't, but likewhat is playing this?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
This oh, we haven't done it, so I guess I haven't
Like when do you carve time tofor yourself, for just Eliza?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You know, I think you take it where you can get it.
So, whether it's a workoutwhich I know like people will
roll their eyes and be likethat's not fun, you don't like
eating salads it's like I doenjoy the workout, I do enjoy
that and it is time for myselfand I sneak it in Like I'm often
like I'm going to go get myface massaged and I just go and
I don't feel bad about it.
Yeah, like a buccal facemassage or like when they go in
your jaw.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Oh, I want that so bad.
It's literally down the street,really, I will give you.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I've only got a little bit of paint on my hand,
but I think the biggest thing iswomen always are told to feel
bad.
I don't believe in guilt.
I think you just do thingsbecause you need to do them, and
there are so many times youdon't do things to make yourself
feel better and so you need tomake up for that.
And whether that's a massage ora day off or giving yourself
(06:01):
that permission to just like notcare that you didn't answer
those emails, I think no one'sever going to give you that
permission.
So take it for yourself andnever feel bad for having done
something for yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I do.
I am practicing that now in mylife.
I was, I went to a retreat lastyear and there was one day it
was seven days and one day ofjust play, and I got mad.
I actually was like you guysran out of content because this
is BS, and the counselor waslike no, this is your problem,
because you don't play, youdon't like to play.
What did they give you to playwith, though?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It was silly.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
It was silly.
No, it was like they had topretend Santa come and they'll
get a lot of games with likeadults playing games.
But I was looking around and Isaw all these adults having fun.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
and I wasn't having fun because I'm like constant
having fun and I wasn't havingfun because I'm like constant, I
need to like check things off abox.
I think I'm that way Like I justtook a vacation and I need a
vacation to get ready for thevacation, because it takes me
three full days to like loosenmy grip and like relax my jaw.
The truth is, things need toget done and when you're a woman
, you have to do so many morethings, not just professionally
(07:03):
but personally, and we're alwayschecking up on other people and
you wake up thinking, oh my God, did I say the wrong thing or
do the wrong thing?
So we just need those breaks.
We work harder, wecompartmentalize more things,
we're juggling so many thingsand so I just I don't know, at
41, like I just don't feel badabout doing anything good for
myself Really why my kids aretoo young to know that I'm doing
(07:24):
it.
Like I say, mommy's got to goto work, but mommy's just going
to the spa, but I let her.
I want my daughter to thinklike she's working so hard.
I'm like totally.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I know it's this thing.
I talked to my sister aboutthis.
You and I have never talkedabout this, but I feel like
we're talking about this,equality and all this, but it's
not because we.
I feel like there are days thatI'm just failing.
(07:52):
I just can't be great at all ofthem.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
That's silly.
I never feel that way.
Tell me, I never feel that waybecause there's no such thing as
perfection.
There's literally no otherwoman who's doing it without
help, in a flawless way and orexpecting you to do it.
Like there's no there there.
Like there's no woman who'scrushing it and not feeling like
(08:15):
she's failing.
And so if every woman isfeeling that way, that means we
all must be doing okay, sincethere's no such thing as
perfection.
Yeah, I know, and like, byvirtue of the fact that you own
your own home and you have thisshow, which is so hard to get a
show made, I know, so don't skippast the commercials.
Like don't just buy everything.
It's a lot of like mortgagerate commercials.
(08:37):
Or you just do a GoFundMe?
It's a lot of like yeah, or doa GoFundMe, but like there's
nobody's expecting you to doanything, and by virtue of the
fact that you've done anythingis incredible.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Yeah, truly, I'm trying to let go.
I feel like that's.
I'm in the era of my life ofletting go, of letting go of
having to be perfect.
I think for all of my career Iwas this like homemaker, they
like, I'm saying they.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Secret?
She's not.
This is a scam.
I haven't even painted anything.
She's given me no instructionand I'm so cold.
It's true, this is nothing.
I've been stirring this cup for15 minutes and I don't even
know what's in it, but it tastesawful.
We'll get to it.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I feel like for my whole career I have been placed
in this bubble of being thislike Susie, homemaker, and my
friends are like this is such BS.
Like we know you have the mouthof a truck driver, we know that
you do curse a lot.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
I was shocked because , having only spoken to you in
person maybe three times, I washorrified.
How many times.
When I arrived at your home andall the weird sexual art you
have in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
They're going to blur it out, so you'll see it.
But seriously, like I feel likenow as I get older, I'm just
going to be who I am and if youlike it, you like it, if you
don't, you don't.
I feel like now as I get older.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
I'm just going to be who I am and if you like it, you
like it.
If you don't, you don't.
I feel like you are who you areOff camera.
I feel like you have a lot offriends that are awful to you
Really, because you're talkingabout like someone who judged
you for this or that.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
No, that wasn't a mommy group, that wasn't my
friend.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
No, yeah, we can.
I don't know what womanactually has the time to put
another woman down.
No, I have time for that.
But to genuinely care, or likejudge, like we're all just doing
, aside from like, if you'refeeding your kids cigarettes,
like maybe I'll say somethingOther than that, like I have,
like two kids, a career, andlike social causes I care about,
(10:29):
like I don't have the time tocare, like who breastfed best or
at all.
Right, we did a little bit, itwas really hard for both of us.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Yes, um, we know.
Nobody ever talks about howhard breastfeeding is.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I mean, we can talk about that.
Is that what you want?
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, this is why I wanted to do this show, because
I wanted to sort of show adifferent side of myself, the
real side of myself, my friends,the people that I look up to I
look up to you so much Really, Ido.
I mean you really make me laughall the time, especially on an
airplane with the music Likethat's.
It never gets old to me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Well, I will just tell you, I don't believe in
having people in my life that I,that I don't look up to in some
respect, like I always want tobe surrounded by people that are
say better than me or do thingsthat I don't do.
So I always like looking atyour Instagram and you're always
, you're so motivated, youalways are doing something
beautiful or something.
I hate the word crafty.
I love a craft, I love it,every woman loves a craft but
(11:23):
you're always and you alwayslook great, thank you.
And you always look chic andyou always look pretty, thanks.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
But another thing about, too.
I've watched you now have twochildren, beautiful children.
And then you also are honestabout your fitness journey and
you doing, you know, likePilates and your body's amazing,
but like how long it took.
You're honest about that, you,you're.
You're so honest about yourreal life.
(11:51):
And another thing my bestfriend, trish, which you know,
trish, sir, told me that youlike, that you have always been
so kind to her and that, likeyou, inspired her too to be a
woman in this, in this business.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's crazy Cause she inspired me and I told her
that, um, when I first saw her.
But I will just say this like Ithink there's a big part of of
womanhood and feminism thattalks the talk about supporting
women that are in business, thatwomen that try, and then
there's the part that actuallylike walks the walk.
But you're okay, look it,you're here and I just believe
you cannot support every womanand every person for their
(12:27):
choices, but I am genuinelydrawn to women who do things
well and who are genuinely goodat what they do and genuinely
shine Like.
It really does motivate me.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
But you are here, like you're here at my house,
you're supporting me now, likethis obviously shows your true
heart and your soul that youtook the time and you're doing
your special with your children,with your family, doing you
know, being on tour and you tookthe time out to be here to
support me.
I did, you did, I got up at7.30.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I didn't ask you to do that Like no one's impressed,
they're like that's a normaltime.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
By the way, it's like 1 o'clock in the afternoon
right now.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
So I don't know I had to put.
I had to, like, do my hairbefore I got here so that they
could make it even more normallooking, and I really believe in
supporting people who aretrying.
I know how hard it is to bookone of these shows and I love
that you're doing this, and evenwhen you told me about it, I
was like, yes, she deserves adaytime show.
(13:22):
So many people don't.
I think that what's stressfulis this mandate that all women
support each other all the time.
No, pick the girls that youthink are doing something
incredible, that you actuallycare about and that sparks
something in you and you, likeyour people.
Yeah, we don't ask men to loveall men.
That's true All the time.
That's true, even though they,like, naturally support each
other.
And so I don't know, you'repretty, you're a mom like I am,
(13:43):
and you do something that Ican't and don't do Same, and so
I can't do that, what you do,and I look I can't, I can't.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
But I also support how hard you work.
I support the mother.
I love that you're so presentwith the kids and then you're so
present at work.
You juggle it all and you lookgood doing it.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
We don't film the parts where you don't look good.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
No, you always, we don't show.
I've seen your hair, yournatural hair.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Oh boy, I like your curly hair.
Why don't you?
Speaker 1 (14:12):
like your curly hair.
Why don't you like your curly?
Speaker 2 (14:14):
hair.
I don't have enough of it.
You sure I'm positive, I don'thave enough.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
What are we doing today?
So this is paint pouring.
Have you ever seen it Likewhere it looks like slowly.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
And then the artist is like I did that.
You're like, did gravity do itor did you do it?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Well, you're going to do it.
You're going to do it, allright, what do I do?
So you could pick any colors,any colors together, and you
just put a little bit and youkind of it's called the dirty
pour.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Okay, so just color, dirty pour, just any colors
Usually involves more olivesthan that.
But okay, oh, you just do it.
Okay, all into.
Okay, all into.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, well, and really there's just no rhyme or
reason to which colors work.
Okay, and then you just pour itonto the canvas and then you're
going to be able to take thishome and you can put this in
your living room.
Oh, I can take this home.
Oh, cool, Okay, okay, okay,I'll wait until it dries and
I'll deliver it to your house.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
So what is under this ?
Is this a suit?
Okay, this is like an AnnTaylor business suit.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Why are you putting so much in there?
I don't know.
Oh, my god, oh no, oh, no.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
What are you doing, oh?
Speaker 1 (15:22):
no, are you crafty?
I was, I thought I was, andthen I got here and you cup
shamed me.
It really doesn't matter whenyou pour it.
Just a little bit, though.
It'll be swirly on the canvashere.
I'll do mine first, so you pour, and then all the colors once
it dries.
You could make it like a littlewait, wait.
(15:45):
She's a homemaker, acraftsperson this isn't supposed
to look like this.
Wait, no, this is going to lookgood.
Wait, is it no?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
no, it's not, it's not going to look good.
And there are women that wouldbe like, oh my God, that looks
so good.
And if you sold it, peoplewould be like, yeah, I guess
this is what it's supposed tolook like Wait.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
You wouldn't buy this .
I wouldn't steal that.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Oh my god, I wouldn't give that away.
Let me try.
Okay, you shamed my full cupmethod.
What you said, wait, you saidyou wanted people to see playful
side look at that real big.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Come on, dries.
It's going to look so muchbetter.
It wasn't supposed to look likethis.
I've done this before.
You know what.
I don't know what happened.
I think, no, look at that.
Look at, look how pretty thatlooks.
No, you're not.
You're not wrong.
It looks like an agate, right?
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Agate, that's really good.
No, it's women supporting women.
That looks great.
Mama Bear, you go.
Girl, look at all the oh look.
It's writing a message.
It's saying throw me away.
It's revealing itself.
I can't.
It's revealing, okay, no, whathappened?
All the silicone CLA?
Don't overdo the silicone, Iswear.
(17:12):
When it dries it's going tolook different.
Even the paint is running awayfrom the canvas.
That's how bad this looks.
The paint is like call my agent, you cannot be seen here.
Okay, let me try.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I have a better one after this.
You know, the thing about artis like Tell me.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Please educate me.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
It's like it doesn't.
It's not about perfection, it'sabout you know.
It's just about you coming overand doing a craft Totally.
But I think you know art reallyis it's in the eye, like beauty
is in the eye of the beholder.
I'm holding two of them.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
And you know what it's, the destination, you try
it, you try it, you try it.
Okay, to be fair, you know what?
I'm not a fair person, just putthat other piece back.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I don't think we should do two more.
No, I'm not going to.
Can I get a white one?
Just put that one back.
Okay, we get a wet rag.
A wet rag.
Okay, just leave that.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Okay, just leave that .
Okay, you don't have to touchit.
Okay, can I just say somethingabout it?
Sure, on your side, in smallpeople, like I, I get, like I
get it.
What if I just like put thatpiece out?
You did like a little mouseportrait, I get it's like a very
like um geode, yeah, surface,yeah try yours.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Okay, here we oh that was so.
Oh okay, that was a lot.
That's a lot.
Oh okay, okay, but look howpretty that is, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
I just think it's funny that, like you're giving
me notes.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I think you know what this is just about also having
fun and making you know it's notabout perfection.
We were just talking about this.
Yeah, it's not about perfection.
It's about the joy of playing,and that's why I invited you
over is to play.
That's why I invited you overis to play.
It's also about the joy ofcleaning up.
Yeah well, that's why theplastic's here Right.
(19:06):
Look at that.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Look how pretty that is.
Now is the idea to move itaround on the canvas or to it
looked better.
I feel like you keep promisingthat, like anyone's, You're
really wow, oh okay, sorry,sorry, sorry, sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
All right, we're going to let these dry and I
have one more project I want toshow you.
This one's a lot easier.
I feel like this, this one,this craft, I'm going to get
your, your like, I'm going toget my confidence back and
you're going to trust me again.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
No, I'm proud of you, like, for actually attempting
something else you like, foractually attempting something
else.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Something else, no, but watch, we're like, let's do
it again.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
So I know Noah is obviously a chef.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Who your husband is a chef, and so I have all these
leftover tiles from otherprojects and clients.
Oh yeah, so we're going to maketrivets.
Do you know what that is?
Yeah, okay, so all we dothey're like, aren't?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
these cute.
Wait, a trivet is the thingthat goes under the hot thing.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, so if he makes like a really nice, what happens
to a trivet?
A nice plate and it's like a.
Did you just call yourself atop?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Nope, okay, I mean, look what I do for a living.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
No, that's awful.
That's awful.
So you just get felt pads,because these are concrete.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
You downgraded us to this.
This is not a craft, this islike maintenance.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
No, Look at here.
This is all you do.
You just felt pads.
They're already likeself-adhesive.
This is like remedial.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
This is for like, oh, like you've had some trauma, so
let's have something soothingin the craft room on the Lido
deck.
You don't like this craft.
I can't win with you.
I would bring this to likeinmates and be like okay, we
couldn't bring anything sharp,but you could do this for my
line.
Okay, all right, all right, allright.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Look at how cute that is.
I'm looking.
It's so cute.
Come on, you don't think Noahwould like this.
This is how do you?
It's about repurposing old likethings that you might have
around the house, like tilesamples my husband no, I, yeah
why.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But like also like, why not like?
Why go buy something else whenyou could do this?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
are you being honest?
I'm actually being dead serious.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I don't know if you're effing with me no, I
think that we waste too muchstuff in our society, and
getting to repurpose materialsthat you already have, I think,
is a huge step towardssustainability and also to not
going broke buying garbage.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
I can't tell if you're being serious.
I need a code word.
When you're being serious,what's the code word?
I don't know.
We just need one.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
I'm being serious.
Okay, I like this.
I talk about this kind of stuffon my Instagram, just like not
wasting, not buying stuff, and Ithink that it's easier said
than done.
Yeah, because we don't, youknow, but just so.
Is this Eliza approved?
Yeah, this is totally Elizaapproved.
Okay, as the homemaker that weall know I am Famous for.
Wait, do you want to take thesehome?
Yep.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Okay, all right, want to do that last one I'm dying
to, I'm doing it and they'relike nice and hardy, yeah, they
are.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
It's a hardy piece of tile you want to use the.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
You know he's the big one or the little one, doesn't
matter, he's the big one, okay,and then I'm going to set up for
last craft, last craft.
Do you ever do crafts withsierra?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
she's a little, she's almost three, she's just like
it's just, it's just me cleaningup.
Yeah, every time I think it'sgonna be like a special moment.
She's like what if I put ithere and they're like, oh,
that's, that's a sharpie so, butwe will, you know you get
sharpie out.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
No, I actually don't.
Hairspray, oh or uh.
Rubbing alcohol, oh okay, itnever gets on anything on your
skin or just like on, likesomething.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Oh, I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Yeah, there you go now.
I'm glad I came and like crayon.
If it gets on the floor atennis ball, just rub it on the
crayon, it comes right.
I didn't know that, just callme next time okay all right,
look at that.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Look how pretty that is.
Look at that.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I would buy this Look how hardy it is.
That's what you're looking forGive it to me.
Okay, last one, okay, this oneyou're going to want to take
home.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
You keep threatening me with like you're going to
take this home and you're goingto frame it.
Come on, come over.
I see it.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
Look at how pretty these scarves are.
They look like art, don't they?
They look like the trivets.
They look like art.
But we're going to make them art.
Okay, you know what?
Next time I'm just going tocook, I'm just going to cook for
you.
Yeah, I'm ready to see whatwe're going to do.
(23:18):
We're going to make them art.
Well, yeah, so we're going tojust basically hot glue them in
the corners to the frame, thebacking.
So we're going to just use thisbacking that came with the
frame, okay, and we're justgoing to hot glue the silk.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Have you ever looked at your clothes and thought this
would be better behind glass onmy wall?
Speaker 1 (23:37):
But you know, I feel like people.
Art is really hard for peopleand it's expensive.
So I'm just trying to come upwith really creative ways, like
if you have an Hermes scarf,don't you guys have that?
Speaker 2 (23:50):
I actually do.
I made my husband buy me oneand I've never worn it.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
I could not see you.
What are you going to do withit?
That's exactly right.
We should say that, yeah,because I can't see you.
I mean, I wouldn't like.
We're too young for that.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
On the Sopranos he bought his wife an Hermes scarf
and I was like I want one.
And now I have it.
It's just in your closet Now.
It's going to be on my wallsoon, thanks to this, so I flip
this over.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Yeah, we're going to flip it over, okay, and then I'm
just hot gluing.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
No, that's not right.
That's the glass.
What, oh oh, this is going towhat's happening.
Yeah, that's it.
No, this is the glass.
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
The family's going to be there.
Oh no, I know We'll flip itaround.
Oh, got it, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
That's just like a kid poking out the top.
Just some like bearded man.
Okay, can you come over all thetime?
Yeah, I can.
Now that I know how close welive, I'm here all the time.
Maybe our kids can playtogether.
Okay, olivia is a really goodbabysitter, is that true, olivia
?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
How are you?
Where'd she go?
She couldn't stand to see mescrewing up another craft.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
She's like I can't see you.
Like this Mom, I've never seena cordless hot glue gun, Isn't
it cool?
Now I know you're serious aboutthis whole lifestyle.
Look at this Now.
But people should know.
To put the glue on the scarf, Iwould put the glue on the
backing.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
but that's fine.
She's like actually no, do youwant to like?
Do you like this?
Speaker 2 (25:17):
I love it.
Did I do this right?
Yeah, I'm the kind of personwho does not check.
My work does not spell check,and then everything behind glass
has like a crease in it and I'mlike, oh well, that's what it
looks like.
I feel like you have a bettereye for those types of polished
things.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
You know, yeah, I got to get it in there.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Is there any room in your house?
Speaker 1 (25:45):
this could go in.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah, we have like this room where we can buy old
stuff, the shed.
It's not so much a room as ababy you.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
I remember when you were buying that house.
That's when you and I met.
That is actually how we met.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
We were on that show together and I was trying to buy
this house and I was textingthe realtor the number I was
willing to pay and he was likethis is cute, but you actually
have to put in like a real offerwith a bank.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
And I was like, oh, you can't just buy a house via
text message and then I told youI wanted you could use all my
discounts for furniture.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Yes, you were so nice you were so shiny and bubbly.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Oh, and Leslie was on that show with us too.
What, jordan, I can't.
I know Mine was hard too here.
Let me turn around for thereview.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
You don't have a hack for this.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Here Switch.
I'll do yours.
You just close up the littlelatches I did.
Oh wait, you did.
What happened?
No, you got to.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Oh, it didn't go in the.
Okay, let's see.
Look at the toned arms.
She's doing it so hard.
She's got, like Linda Hamilton,arms in like Terminator, like
when you're holding on to thatchain link fence.
She was like get the arm work,do the full extension.
That's how you get long, that'show you get length and your
tricep.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Oh my God, okay, there, there it's in, it's in.
Can I have mine back?
Yeah, go.
Okay.
You ready for the big reveal?
Uh-huh, okay, I'll show you.
You show me yours, I'll showyou mine, okay.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
What do you think?
That looks great, and you knowwhat I was.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Especially if you you know what Next time we should
iron them.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
We should have ironed it, but you know, but that's
okay, I think you went somewhere, you got something, I think,
framing it as like a memory oflike, the time I went to the oh,
mine's not even in the middle.
I went to this Urban Outfittersand I got this scarf Yours
isn't enough.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
I do like that point If it like oh my God Does.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Maybe you were having an imperfect trip when you
bought this scarf from amercantile and so you framed it
your way.
No one's going to come intoyour home and tell you that that
looks bad.
Yes, they will, yeah you met mymother.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
You know what Yours looks better.
I'm really proud of you andlook it matches your outfit.
Yeah, Do you want to actuallytake it out and wear it With the
glue on it?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
And just glue it on.
That way, your scarf neverflies off.
You should just give insanetips like that Drink lead-based
paint.
That way, you always have areason to visit a cute doctor.
I love you so much.
I love you.
This is.
It's very cute and this couldbe anything Like.
It doesn't have to be a scarf,it could be any like memento.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're picking up what I'm
putting down.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I totally.
I mean you'd have to be anidiot not to get the concept.
I don't think anyone at home islike I don't know what we're
going to.
I don't get it.
It's too.
It's too liberal, it's tooCalifornia.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Yours looks great.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
You take that home.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
You're not going to wear something.
Look at infinite dreamer.
Good vibes.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Think of all the things that you maybe purchased
that were keepsakes.
Like I have a lot of t-shirtsthat I buy in places and I can't
wear all of them, but a way tolike memorialize things that you
don't have an actual use forand to decorate your home with
things that you've done andaccomplished.
There you go, when you werelike a little tipsy but you were
like this will be cute.
Do you want to co-host?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
the show with me.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Every episode.
Yeah, you make me look good.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
That's one thing I love, because these crafts, I
love crafts.
You know, I think at the end ofthe day, it's not about the
craft, it's about spending timewith the people that you love.
That's true.
Yeah, and that's it.
Now you can take these home.
Okay, you guys said that wewere going to have lunch.
No, we don't have time forlunch.
I do have pancakes, though.
Do you want a?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
pancake For my husband's segment from three
hours ago.
They're cold but they'redelicious.
Watch the Sabrina Soto showevery day.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Thank you so much, Eliza.
This is so fun.
It was so fun Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
I'll see you soon.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
Okay, Bye, Sabrina Wait you forgot your arms, it's
okay.
Welcome to a special edition of Redesigning Life.
Many of you know I have a newshow called the Sabrina Soto
Show Out, and I was able toinvite amazing experts in their
fields just to come in and havea great conversation.
But because it's a show, wehave to edit it down.
Now, these conversations, theywere so good that I wanted to
(00:20):
publish the raw, uneditedversion, and that's what this
episode is.
You're going to hear action andyou may hear a crew in the
background, but I wanted topublish this so you can really
listen to the entire chat.
So here you go, Eliza.
Thank you so much for comingover.
So today's intention is to havefun, I realized.
(00:41):
Let me set my intention.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
What is your intention?
My intention, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
I'm ready, I'm ready.
I've said it.
What is it?
Oh, I was supposed to have fun.
Oh no, I thought you were goingto have your own?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Oh no, you don't need one.
Oh, I just was hoping to go tothe bathroom after I have some
coffee.
You could do that that was myintention.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
You know what?
It took me 48 years to figureout that I need to create more
fun and play in my life.
I'm like constantly go, go, gobeing a mom working, and I just
don't do this anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
It's weird that it took you 48 years because you're
only 25.
Thank you, so maybe it was likefrom your past life.
Yep, I do think you do have toI don't this is not the way I
talk, but like set aside timefor joy.
But the older I get which isnot that old and the more I do,
the more I realize like you dohave to carve out, like remember
to like actually have fun.
And I think for women, like wenever remember that Men are like
(01:35):
I'm gonna have fun no matterwhat, and I feel like you have
to actually set time aside tohave sex with your husband to be
with your friends.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Wait, do you?
Speaker 2 (01:39):
schedule that, not schedule it, but like it's kind
of like all right, we know it'sgoing to be around here Around
Monday, at least when I'm intown.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
Speaking of.
You're always on the go.
Yeah, how do you do it?
You're on tour.
No, no, please don't drink that.
No, do you want something?
No, later, you're on tour.
You finished your special.
I did which is called.
Which is called A DifferentAnimal.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Amazing.
How was it?
It was great, we shot it inSalt Lake City.
The secret about Mormons isthat they are jacked up and
ready to go Like on a Fridaynight, like they are not drunk,
but they have all had a lot ofsoda and they're in their F-350s
and they're all very goodlooking and like kind of horny
and they are the most incredibleaudience.
(02:25):
That is good to know.
I knew about that energy before.
People fell in love with theSecret Lives of Mormon Wives.
Like I was gunning for havingit at that in that state years
ago, so I was happy to go.
Well, I can't wait to watch it.
It's out soon this month.
Different animal and the bestpart I think, aside from the
jokes, are the pants.
I've got a great pair of pants.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
That was it, pants.
You just check that off the box, pants first, wait.
And so tell me, how is it doing?
A special, like, how do youeven prepare for that, for a
special?
Yeah, like, how do you try outjokes, have you?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
ever come to see me locally.
Yes, okay, I went to theairport and I left because it
was so bad.
No, I went to see you atFlappers.
Yes, I tour, I'm on tour andthen when I'm home, I'm running
it, you know, 15 minutes at atime, 20 minutes at a time,
clubs, alt, venues, wherever,and you sort of cobble together,
like you Frankenstein together,this monster of an hour, and
(03:18):
then you polish it when you'reon the road, road, and then we
have, we back out, we back it upinto the date where we shoot it
.
So it's uh, it's just practice,it's a lot of practice and
you're like trying out jokes asmuch as it seems it's not off
the top of our heads.
So some of the best crowd workis not always off the top of
your head.
Really not, not for everyone,not all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
That's a secret, it's just like a tiny secret, not
always so you are doing thespecials, you're on tour, you've
got two young kids, a husband,a little doggy, I do a little
doggy, how do?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
you do it, which is really why I came here today to
talk about that dog.
Why, no, I didn't bring her.
Why you bring her everywhere?
Because she barks at anyonewith a beard or who's tall.
So this wouldn't have worked.
But what if I pointed to a girl?
She's like I am trying, I don't, I just, you, just do right.
(04:07):
Women only get asked that noone asks my husband, you know,
you're a father and you're alike.
How do you do it all?
And I feel like women are verygood, under painful
circumstances, at just going andjust doing, because what's the
alternative?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
We don't have one Not existing?
Speaker 2 (04:21):
yeah, there isn't, and you just do it.
And women are very good at kindof like being stoic, Like you
know, if you have an animal likeyour dog has like a tooth
problem, he kind of doesn't letyou know for a while, yeah, and
then you're like oh no, we haveto get it pulled.
I feel like that's how womenare, Like decided we're just
(04:49):
going to do it all and it'sgoing to be controlled chaos and
hopefully I have time to likewatch TV at the end of the night
.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
But that's what I'm saying, like, when do you find
time to play in your life?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I don't, you don't, but I don't, I don't, you don't,
but I don't, I don't, but likewhat is playing this?
Speaker 1 (05:07):
This oh, we haven't done it, so I guess I haven't
Like when do you carve time tofor yourself, for just Eliza?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You know, I think you take it where you can get it.
So, whether it's a workoutwhich I know like people will
roll their eyes and be likethat's not fun, you don't like
eating salads it's like I doenjoy the workout, I do enjoy
that and it is time for myselfand I sneak it in Like I'm often
like I'm going to go get myface massaged and I just go and
I don't feel bad about it.
Yeah, like a buccal facemassage or like when they go in
your jaw.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Oh, I want that so bad.
It's literally down the street,really, I will give you.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I've only got a little bit of paint on my hand,
but I think the biggest thing iswomen always are told to feel
bad.
I don't believe in guilt.
I think you just do thingsbecause you need to do them, and
there are so many times youdon't do things to make yourself
feel better and so you need tomake up for that.
And whether that's a massage ora day off or giving yourself
(06:01):
that permission to just like notcare that you didn't answer
those emails, I think no one'sever going to give you that
permission.
So take it for yourself andnever feel bad for having done
something for yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I do.
I am practicing that now in mylife.
I was, I went to a retreat lastyear and there was one day it
was seven days and one day ofjust play, and I got mad.
I actually was like you guysran out of content because this
is BS, and the counselor waslike no, this is your problem,
because you don't play, youdon't like to play.
What did they give you to playwith, though?
Speaker 2 (06:30):
It was silly.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
It was silly.
No, it was like they had topretend Santa come and they'll
get a lot of games with likeadults playing games.
But I was looking around and Isaw all these adults having fun.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
and I wasn't having fun because I'm like constant
having fun and I wasn't havingfun because I'm like constant, I
need to like check things off abox.
I think I'm that way Like I justtook a vacation and I need a
vacation to get ready for thevacation, because it takes me
three full days to like loosenmy grip and like relax my jaw.
The truth is, things need toget done and when you're a woman
, you have to do so many morethings, not just professionally
(07:03):
but personally, and we're alwayschecking up on other people and
you wake up thinking, oh my God, did I say the wrong thing or
do the wrong thing?
So we just need those breaks.
We work harder, wecompartmentalize more things,
we're juggling so many thingsand so I just I don't know, at
41, like I just don't feel badabout doing anything good for
myself Really why my kids aretoo young to know that I'm doing
(07:24):
it.
Like I say, mommy's got to goto work, but mommy's just going
to the spa, but I let her.
I want my daughter to thinklike she's working so hard.
I'm like totally.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I know it's this thing.
I talked to my sister aboutthis.
You and I have never talkedabout this, but I feel like
we're talking about this,equality and all this, but it's
not because we.
I feel like there are days thatI'm just failing.
(07:52):
I just can't be great at all ofthem.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
That's silly.
I never feel that way.
Tell me, I never feel that waybecause there's no such thing as
perfection.
There's literally no otherwoman who's doing it without
help, in a flawless way and orexpecting you to do it.
Like there's no there there.
Like there's no woman who'scrushing it and not feeling like
(08:15):
she's failing.
And so if every woman isfeeling that way, that means we
all must be doing okay, sincethere's no such thing as
perfection.
Yeah, I know, and like, byvirtue of the fact that you own
your own home and you have thisshow, which is so hard to get a
show made, I know, so don't skippast the commercials.
Like don't just buy everything.
It's a lot of like mortgagerate commercials.
(08:37):
Or you just do a GoFundMe?
It's a lot of like yeah, or doa GoFundMe, but like there's
nobody's expecting you to doanything, and by virtue of the
fact that you've done anythingis incredible.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Yeah, truly, I'm trying to let go.
I feel like that's.
I'm in the era of my life ofletting go, of letting go of
having to be perfect.
I think for all of my career Iwas this like homemaker, they
like, I'm saying they.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Secret?
She's not.
This is a scam.
I haven't even painted anything.
She's given me no instructionand I'm so cold.
It's true, this is nothing.
I've been stirring this cup for15 minutes and I don't even
know what's in it, but it tastesawful.
We'll get to it.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I feel like for my whole career I have been placed
in this bubble of being thislike Susie, homemaker, and my
friends are like this is such BS.
Like we know you have the mouthof a truck driver, we know that
you do curse a lot.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
I was shocked because , having only spoken to you in
person maybe three times, I washorrified.
How many times.
When I arrived at your home andall the weird sexual art you
have in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
They're going to blur it out, so you'll see it.
But seriously, like I feel likenow as I get older, I'm just
going to be who I am and if youlike it, you like it, if you
don't, you don't.
I feel like now as I get older.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
I'm just going to be who I am and if you like it, you
like it.
If you don't, you don't.
I feel like you are who you areOff camera.
I feel like you have a lot offriends that are awful to you
Really, because you're talkingabout like someone who judged
you for this or that.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
No, that wasn't a mommy group, that wasn't my
friend.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
No, yeah, we can.
I don't know what womanactually has the time to put
another woman down.
No, I have time for that.
But to genuinely care, or likejudge, like we're all just doing
, aside from like, if you'refeeding your kids cigarettes,
like maybe I'll say somethingOther than that, like I have,
like two kids, a career, andlike social causes I care about,
(10:29):
like I don't have the time tocare, like who breastfed best or
at all.
Right, we did a little bit, itwas really hard for both of us.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
Yes, um, we know.
Nobody ever talks about howhard breastfeeding is.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, I mean, we can talk about that.
Is that what you want?
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, this is why I wanted to do this show, because
I wanted to sort of show adifferent side of myself, the
real side of myself, my friends,the people that I look up to I
look up to you so much Really, Ido.
I mean you really make me laughall the time, especially on an
airplane with the music Likethat's.
It never gets old to me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
Well, I will just tell you, I don't believe in
having people in my life that I,that I don't look up to in some
respect, like I always want tobe surrounded by people that are
say better than me or do thingsthat I don't do.
So I always like looking atyour Instagram and you're always
, you're so motivated, youalways are doing something
beautiful or something.
I hate the word crafty.
I love a craft, I love it,every woman loves a craft but
(11:23):
you're always and you alwayslook great, thank you.
And you always look chic andyou always look pretty, thanks.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
But another thing about, too.
I've watched you now have twochildren, beautiful children.
And then you also are honestabout your fitness journey and
you doing, you know, likePilates and your body's amazing,
but like how long it took.
You're honest about that, you,you're.
You're so honest about yourreal life.
(11:51):
And another thing my bestfriend, trish, which you know,
trish, sir, told me that youlike, that you have always been
so kind to her and that, likeyou, inspired her too to be a
woman in this, in this business.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
That's crazy Cause she inspired me and I told her
that, um, when I first saw her.
But I will just say this like Ithink there's a big part of of
womanhood and feminism thattalks the talk about supporting
women that are in business, thatwomen that try, and then
there's the part that actuallylike walks the walk.
But you're okay, look it,you're here and I just believe
you cannot support every womanand every person for their
(12:27):
choices, but I am genuinelydrawn to women who do things
well and who are genuinely goodat what they do and genuinely
shine Like.
It really does motivate me.
Speaker 1 (12:36):
But you are here, like you're here at my house,
you're supporting me now, likethis obviously shows your true
heart and your soul that youtook the time and you're doing
your special with your children,with your family, doing you
know, being on tour and you tookthe time out to be here to
support me.
I did, you did, I got up at7.30.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I didn't ask you to do that Like no one's impressed,
they're like that's a normaltime.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
By the way, it's like 1 o'clock in the afternoon
right now.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
So I don't know I had to put.
I had to, like, do my hairbefore I got here so that they
could make it even more normallooking, and I really believe in
supporting people who aretrying.
I know how hard it is to bookone of these shows and I love
that you're doing this, and evenwhen you told me about it, I
was like, yes, she deserves adaytime show.
(13:22):
So many people don't.
I think that what's stressfulis this mandate that all women
support each other all the time.
No, pick the girls that youthink are doing something
incredible, that you actuallycare about and that sparks
something in you and you, likeyour people.
Yeah, we don't ask men to loveall men.
That's true All the time.
That's true, even though they,like, naturally support each
other.
And so I don't know, you'repretty, you're a mom like I am,
(13:43):
and you do something that Ican't and don't do Same, and so
I can't do that, what you do,and I look I can't, I can't.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
But I also support how hard you work.
I support the mother.
I love that you're so presentwith the kids and then you're so
present at work.
You juggle it all and you lookgood doing it.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
We don't film the parts where you don't look good.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
No, you always, we don't show.
I've seen your hair, yournatural hair.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Oh boy, I like your curly hair.
Why don't you?
Speaker 1 (14:12):
like your curly hair.
Why don't you like your curly?
Speaker 2 (14:14):
hair.
I don't have enough of it.
You sure I'm positive, I don'thave enough.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
What are we doing today?
So this is paint pouring.
Have you ever seen it Likewhere it looks like slowly.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
And then the artist is like I did that.
You're like, did gravity do itor did you do it?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Well, you're going to do it.
You're going to do it, allright, what do I do?
So you could pick any colors,any colors together, and you
just put a little bit and youkind of it's called the dirty
pour.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Okay, so just color, dirty pour, just any colors
Usually involves more olivesthan that.
But okay, oh, you just do it.
Okay, all into.
Okay, all into.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, well, and really there's just no rhyme or
reason to which colors work.
Okay, and then you just pour itonto the canvas and then you're
going to be able to take thishome and you can put this in
your living room.
Oh, I can take this home.
Oh, cool, Okay, okay, okay,I'll wait until it dries and
I'll deliver it to your house.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
So what is under this ?
Is this a suit?
Okay, this is like an AnnTaylor business suit.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Why are you putting so much in there?
I don't know.
Oh, my god, oh no, oh, no.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
What are you doing, oh?
Speaker 1 (15:22):
no, are you crafty?
I was, I thought I was, andthen I got here and you cup
shamed me.
It really doesn't matter whenyou pour it.
Just a little bit, though.
It'll be swirly on the canvashere.
I'll do mine first, so you pour, and then all the colors once
it dries.
You could make it like a littlewait, wait.
(15:45):
She's a homemaker, acraftsperson this isn't supposed
to look like this.
Wait, no, this is going to lookgood.
Wait, is it no?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
no, it's not, it's not going to look good.
And there are women that wouldbe like, oh my God, that looks
so good.
And if you sold it, peoplewould be like, yeah, I guess
this is what it's supposed tolook like Wait.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
You wouldn't buy this .
I wouldn't steal that.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
Oh my god, I wouldn't give that away.
Let me try.
Okay, you shamed my full cupmethod.
What you said, wait, you saidyou wanted people to see playful
side look at that real big.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
Come on, dries.
It's going to look so muchbetter.
It wasn't supposed to look likethis.
I've done this before.
You know what.
I don't know what happened.
I think, no, look at that.
Look at, look how pretty thatlooks.
No, you're not.
You're not wrong.
It looks like an agate, right?
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Agate, that's really good.
No, it's women supporting women.
That looks great.
Mama Bear, you go.
Girl, look at all the oh look.
It's writing a message.
It's saying throw me away.
It's revealing itself.
I can't.
It's revealing, okay, no, whathappened?
All the silicone CLA?
Don't overdo the silicone, Iswear.
(17:12):
When it dries it's going tolook different.
Even the paint is running awayfrom the canvas.
That's how bad this looks.
The paint is like call my agent, you cannot be seen here.
Okay, let me try.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
I have a better one after this.
You know, the thing about artis like Tell me.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
Please educate me.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
It's like it doesn't.
It's not about perfection, it'sabout you know.
It's just about you coming overand doing a craft Totally.
But I think you know art reallyis it's in the eye, like beauty
is in the eye of the beholder.
I'm holding two of them.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
And you know what it's, the destination, you try
it, you try it, you try it.
Okay, to be fair, you know what?
I'm not a fair person, just putthat other piece back.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I don't think we should do two more.
No, I'm not going to.
Can I get a white one?
Just put that one back.
Okay, we get a wet rag.
A wet rag.
Okay, just leave that.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Okay, just leave that .
Okay, you don't have to touchit.
Okay, can I just say somethingabout it?
Sure, on your side, in smallpeople, like I, I get, like I
get it.
What if I just like put thatpiece out?
You did like a little mouseportrait, I get it's like a very
like um geode, yeah, surface,yeah try yours.
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Okay, here we oh that was so.
Oh okay, that was a lot.
That's a lot.
Oh okay, okay, but look howpretty that is, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
I just think it's funny that, like you're giving
me notes.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I think you know what this is just about also having
fun and making you know it's notabout perfection.
We were just talking about this.
Yeah, it's not about perfection.
It's about the joy of playing,and that's why I invited you
over is to play.
That's why I invited you overis to play.
It's also about the joy ofcleaning up.
Yeah well, that's why theplastic's here Right.
(19:06):
Look at that.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Look how pretty that is.
Now is the idea to move itaround on the canvas or to it
looked better.
I feel like you keep promisingthat, like anyone's, You're
really wow, oh okay, sorry,sorry, sorry, sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
All right, we're going to let these dry and I
have one more project I want toshow you.
This one's a lot easier.
I feel like this, this one,this craft, I'm going to get
your, your like, I'm going toget my confidence back and
you're going to trust me again.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
No, I'm proud of you, like, for actually attempting
something else you like, foractually attempting something
else.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Something else, no, but watch, we're like, let's do
it again.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
So I know Noah is obviously a chef.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
Who your husband is a chef, and so I have all these
leftover tiles from otherprojects and clients.
Oh yeah, so we're going to maketrivets.
Do you know what that is?
Yeah, okay, so all we dothey're like, aren't?
Speaker 2 (19:57):
these cute.
Wait, a trivet is the thingthat goes under the hot thing.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
Yeah, so if he makes like a really nice, what happens
to a trivet?
A nice plate and it's like a.
Did you just call yourself atop?
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Nope, okay, I mean, look what I do for a living.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
No, that's awful.
That's awful.
So you just get felt pads,because these are concrete.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
You downgraded us to this.
This is not a craft, this islike maintenance.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
No, Look at here.
This is all you do.
You just felt pads.
They're already likeself-adhesive.
This is like remedial.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
This is for like, oh, like you've had some trauma, so
let's have something soothingin the craft room on the Lido
deck.
You don't like this craft.
I can't win with you.
I would bring this to likeinmates and be like okay, we
couldn't bring anything sharp,but you could do this for my
line.
Okay, all right, all right, allright.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Look at how cute that is.
I'm looking.
It's so cute.
Come on, you don't think Noahwould like this.
This is how do you?
It's about repurposing old likethings that you might have
around the house, like tilesamples my husband no, I, yeah
why.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
But like also like, why not like?
Why go buy something else whenyou could do this?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
are you being honest?
I'm actually being dead serious.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I don't know if you're effing with me no, I
think that we waste too muchstuff in our society, and
getting to repurpose materialsthat you already have, I think,
is a huge step towardssustainability and also to not
going broke buying garbage.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
I can't tell if you're being serious.
I need a code word.
When you're being serious,what's the code word?
I don't know.
We just need one.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
I'm being serious.
Okay, I like this.
I talk about this kind of stuffon my Instagram, just like not
wasting, not buying stuff, and Ithink that it's easier said
than done.
Yeah, because we don't, youknow, but just so.
Is this Eliza approved?
Yeah, this is totally Elizaapproved.
Okay, as the homemaker that weall know I am Famous for.
Wait, do you want to take thesehome?
Yep.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Okay, all right, want to do that last one I'm dying
to, I'm doing it and they'relike nice and hardy, yeah, they
are.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
It's a hardy piece of tile you want to use the.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
You know he's the big one or the little one, doesn't
matter, he's the big one, okay,and then I'm going to set up for
last craft, last craft.
Do you ever do crafts withsierra?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
she's a little, she's almost three, she's just like
it's just, it's just me cleaningup.
Yeah, every time I think it'sgonna be like a special moment.
She's like what if I put ithere and they're like, oh,
that's, that's a sharpie so, butwe will, you know you get
sharpie out.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
No, I actually don't.
Hairspray, oh or uh.
Rubbing alcohol, oh okay, itnever gets on anything on your
skin or just like on, likesomething.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Oh, I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (22:29):
Yeah, there you go now.
I'm glad I came and like crayon.
If it gets on the floor atennis ball, just rub it on the
crayon, it comes right.
I didn't know that, just callme next time okay all right,
look at that.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Look how pretty that is.
Look at that.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I would buy this Look how hardy it is.
That's what you're looking forGive it to me.
Okay, last one, okay, this oneyou're going to want to take
home.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
You keep threatening me with like you're going to
take this home and you're goingto frame it.
Come on, come over.
I see it.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
Look at how pretty these scarves are.
They look like art, don't they?
They look like the trivets.
They look like art.
But we're going to make them art.
Okay, you know what?
Next time I'm just going tocook, I'm just going to cook for
you.
Yeah, I'm ready to see whatwe're going to do.
(23:18):
We're going to make them art.
Well, yeah, so we're going tojust basically hot glue them in
the corners to the frame, thebacking.
So we're going to just use thisbacking that came with the
frame, okay, and we're justgoing to hot glue the silk.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Have you ever looked at your clothes and thought this
would be better behind glass onmy wall?
Speaker 1 (23:37):
But you know, I feel like people.
Art is really hard for peopleand it's expensive.
So I'm just trying to come upwith really creative ways, like
if you have an Hermes scarf,don't you guys have that?
Speaker 2 (23:50):
I actually do.
I made my husband buy me oneand I've never worn it.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
I could not see you.
What are you going to do withit?
That's exactly right.
We should say that, yeah,because I can't see you.
I mean, I wouldn't like.
We're too young for that.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
On the Sopranos he bought his wife an Hermes scarf
and I was like I want one.
And now I have it.
It's just in your closet Now.
It's going to be on my wallsoon, thanks to this, so I flip
this over.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
Yeah, we're going to flip it over, okay, and then I'm
just hot gluing.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
No, that's not right.
That's the glass.
What, oh oh, this is going towhat's happening.
Yeah, that's it.
No, this is the glass.
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
The family's going to be there.
Oh no, I know We'll flip itaround.
Oh, got it, okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
That's just like a kid poking out the top.
Just some like bearded man.
Okay, can you come over all thetime?
Yeah, I can.
Now that I know how close welive, I'm here all the time.
Maybe our kids can playtogether.
Okay, olivia is a really goodbabysitter, is that true, olivia
?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
How are you?
Where'd she go?
She couldn't stand to see mescrewing up another craft.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
She's like I can't see you.
Like this Mom, I've never seena cordless hot glue gun, Isn't
it cool?
Now I know you're serious aboutthis whole lifestyle.
Look at this Now.
But people should know.
To put the glue on the scarf, Iwould put the glue on the
backing.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
but that's fine.
She's like actually no, do youwant to like?
Do you like this?
Speaker 2 (25:17):
I love it.
Did I do this right?
Yeah, I'm the kind of personwho does not check.
My work does not spell check,and then everything behind glass
has like a crease in it and I'mlike, oh well, that's what it
looks like.
I feel like you have a bettereye for those types of polished
things.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
You know, yeah, I got to get it in there.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Is there any room in your house?
Speaker 1 (25:45):
this could go in.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah, we have like this room where we can buy old
stuff, the shed.
It's not so much a room as ababy you.
Speaker 1 (25:53):
I remember when you were buying that house.
That's when you and I met.
That is actually how we met.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
We were on that show together and I was trying to buy
this house and I was textingthe realtor the number I was
willing to pay and he was likethis is cute, but you actually
have to put in like a real offerwith a bank.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
And I was like, oh, you can't just buy a house via
text message and then I told youI wanted you could use all my
discounts for furniture.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Yes, you were so nice you were so shiny and bubbly.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Oh, and Leslie was on that show with us too.
What, jordan, I can't.
I know Mine was hard too here.
Let me turn around for thereview.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
You don't have a hack for this.
Speaker 1 (26:26):
Here Switch.
I'll do yours.
You just close up the littlelatches I did.
Oh wait, you did.
What happened?
No, you got to.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
Oh, it didn't go in the.
Okay, let's see.
Look at the toned arms.
She's doing it so hard.
She's got, like Linda Hamilton,arms in like Terminator, like
when you're holding on to thatchain link fence.
She was like get the arm work,do the full extension.
That's how you get long, that'show you get length and your
tricep.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Oh my God, okay, there, there it's in, it's in.
Can I have mine back?
Yeah, go.
Okay.
You ready for the big reveal?
Uh-huh, okay, I'll show you.
You show me yours, I'll showyou mine, okay.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
What do you think?
That looks great, and you knowwhat I was.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
Especially if you you know what Next time we should
iron them.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
We should have ironed it, but you know, but that's
okay, I think you went somewhere, you got something, I think,
framing it as like a memory oflike, the time I went to the oh,
mine's not even in the middle.
I went to this Urban Outfittersand I got this scarf Yours
isn't enough.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
I do like that point If it like oh my God Does.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Maybe you were having an imperfect trip when you
bought this scarf from amercantile and so you framed it
your way.
No one's going to come intoyour home and tell you that that
looks bad.
Yes, they will, yeah you met mymother.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
You know what Yours looks better.
I'm really proud of you andlook it matches your outfit.
Yeah, Do you want to actuallytake it out and wear it With the
glue on it?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
And just glue it on.
That way, your scarf neverflies off.
You should just give insanetips like that Drink lead-based
paint.
That way, you always have areason to visit a cute doctor.
I love you so much.
I love you.
This is.
It's very cute and this couldbe anything Like.
It doesn't have to be a scarf,it could be any like memento.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're picking up what I'm
putting down.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I totally.
I mean you'd have to be anidiot not to get the concept.
I don't think anyone at home islike I don't know what we're
going to.
I don't get it.
It's too.
It's too liberal, it's tooCalifornia.
Speaker 1 (28:35):
Yours looks great.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
You take that home.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
You're not going to wear something.
Look at infinite dreamer.
Good vibes.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Think of all the things that you maybe purchased
that were keepsakes.
Like I have a lot of t-shirtsthat I buy in places and I can't
wear all of them, but a way tolike memorialize things that you
don't have an actual use forand to decorate your home with
things that you've done andaccomplished.
There you go, when you werelike a little tipsy but you were
like this will be cute.
Do you want to co-host?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
the show with me.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
Every episode.
Yeah, you make me look good.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
That's one thing I love, because these crafts, I
love crafts.
You know, I think at the end ofthe day, it's not about the
craft, it's about spending timewith the people that you love.
That's true.
Yeah, and that's it.
Now you can take these home.
Okay, you guys said that wewere going to have lunch.
No, we don't have time forlunch.
I do have pancakes, though.
Do you want a?
Speaker 2 (29:22):
pancake For my husband's segment from three
hours ago.
They're cold but they'redelicious.
Watch the Sabrina Soto showevery day.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Thank you so much, Eliza.
This is so fun.
It was so fun Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
I'll see you soon.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
Okay, Bye, Sabrina Wait you forgot your arms, it's
okay.
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