September 22, 2025 • 35 mins
MaryAnn DiMarco, psychic medium and best-selling author, returns to Redesigning Life for a profound conversation about connecting with spirit guides and accessing our own inner wisdom. She brings fresh insights from her latest book, explaining that spirit guides aren't mysterious external entities but rather our "universal team" helping highlight what we already know to be true.
If you've ever wondered whether you have spirit guides, or felt a little skeptical about the whole concept, MaryAnn's perspective will surprise you. She explains that these aren't mysterious beings floating around us, but rather our "universal team" that helps us recognize what we already know deep down to be true.
Her advice that stayed with me: Take just five minutes each day to be quiet and receive instead of constantly reaching outward. The wisdom you're looking for might already be within you, and sometimes we just need a little help accessing it.
This conversation will leave you feeling both grounded and inspired, whether you're a longtime believer or just beginning to explore what inner guidance might look like in your own life.
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Sabrina Soto (00:00):
Welcome to Redesigning Life.
I'm your host, sabrina Soto,and this is the space where we
have honest conversations aboutpersonal growth, mindset shifts
and creating a life that feelstruly aligned.
In each episode, I'll talk toexperts in their fields who
share their insights to help youstep into your higher self.
Let's redesign your life fromthe inside out.
Welcome to another episode ofRedesigning Life.
(00:24):
Today I have Maryann DiMarco,who's been of Redesigning Life.
Today I have Marianne DiMarco,who's been on Redesigning Life
before.
If she sounds familiar, and Iam so excited because I feel
very blessed that I get to callyou my friend and I got to hang
out with you last week and yougave me your book, which I love
so much.
Look, I'm even using your pen.
Maryann DiMarco (00:46):
Oh, I'm so glad .
Sabrina Soto (00:47):
Marianne.
If you've listened to herpodcast before, if you know who
she is, you know who she is, butif you don't, you're a psychic
medium a best-selling author,may I add.
You're an amazing woman.
You're super powerful.
You teach people to tune intotheir own wisdom, but they're
also their spirit guides, whichis what this book is about.
(01:08):
I just adore you.
I love who you are, I love whatyou teach, so, of course, I'm
excited.
But first of all, just thankyou for being here.
Maryann DiMarco (01:19):
Oh no, Thank you for having me.
I love you.
You're my beautiful soul sister.
I know I'm so glad we got toconnect, too, in person.
We never get to see each otherin person, so that was so
special and I'm just reallythrilled to be here.
I love these conversations withyou and thrilled to share it.
Sabrina Soto (01:35):
This book is fantastic.
I had it on my nightstand soyou sent me one and you gave me
one when I saw you.
I saw you, but then you sent meone, so I have two.
But Gabby Bernstein, who's afriend of yours, wrote the
foreword and she spoke aboutpeople craving wisdom.
How did this book for peoplewho haven't gotten it yet, like,
(01:57):
how did this book come to be atthat point in your life, which
was you were going through a lotof stuff?
So can you tell readers alittle bit about what this book
is about?
Maryann DiMarco (02:04):
This book is about not only connecting with
guides but understanding whatthose spirit guides are here to
do, and they're here to helphighlight our higher self, the
story that we came here knowing,and when I was coming up with
the idea to write this bookalong with my guides, I myself
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was relying very heavily ontheir own guidance, and so we
collaborated, just like I alwaysdo with my guides, to come up
with information that not only Iwas learning in real time, but
that's something that I can giveover and teach, and that's what
I hope this book lends over toreaders is that there's
information in here that's goingto help you hear those voices
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within that higher self and thesurrounding love that the
universe is here to give you.
Sabrina Soto (02:52):
So I think I've told you I talk to my spirit
guides and I feel like I have mywhole life and but I think,
after I did a plant medicinejourney and now I meditate a lot
, that I feel like I'm tapped inimmediately.
But I think probably somepeople who are listening to this
probably think we're witches.
(03:14):
I'm okay with that, or they'llbe like what are you talking
about?
So if somebody is listening tothis and they maybe think, like
there's no such thing as spiritguides or they've never talked
to their spirit guides, like canwe make this a little like?
I don't want to say dumb itdown, because my listeners are
(03:35):
not no, we can dial it back.
I said, we dial it back just alittle bit Okay, so let's dial
it back a little bit for peoplewho are new to this whole.
Spirit guides, shenanigans yeah, let's do that.
Maryann DiMarco (03:47):
Spirit guides are our universal team on the
other side that are here to helpus navigate our lives.
They're here to highlight ourhigher voice, what we already
know to be true, and it's notsomething that, yes, they are
outside of ourselves in thatthey are energies and entities
on the other side.
(04:07):
However, they are part of whowe are, in our own self.
They're just helping usunderstand our story and what we
came here to do.
They're comprised of angels,higher energies, spirit guides
and, yes, our loved ones too,but they all have different
voices and something differentto offer.
Sabrina Soto (04:28):
Are they this?
Okay, are this?
Do you have the same spiritguides your whole life?
You have the way.
Maryann DiMarco (04:34):
I have read it is that I have.
We have one spirit guide thatushers us in and ushers us out.
I talk about mine in the book.
I name him Joe, don't ask mewhy, but I explain it in the
book.
And then there are guides thatare assigned to us, and they can
come for various reasons.
Some of them are helping uswith our communication.
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Some of them are helping uswith our own spiritual
connection.
They're helping us with thechallenges and the soul
contracts of our lives Doubt,fear, all kinds of things that
we came here to learn,celebrations too, I mean we want
to remember all the good things, too that we came here to
experience.
And our guides are there tohelp us co-create and manifest
the most ultimate and wonderfultimelines that we're trying to
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achieve in this space.
Sabrina Soto (05:17):
Yeah, so that's why I was asking and I know you
touch on this but if you havethis one like I don't know
personal spirit assistant withyou at all times, like there are
people, there are other expertsor whatever that are coming in
at different times of the lifeDuring the, in the book you
frame it sort of as a road trip.
(05:39):
You know the packed bags, thedetours, everything that you
were going on in your life.
Would you consider or would youdescribe that same journey that
you have with your spiritguides, everything that's going
on in my life?
Yeah, because you were talkingabout, like, not only the moving
to Florida.
Maryann DiMarco (05:54):
Oh yeah.
Sabrina Soto (05:55):
Yeah, you losing Phoenix, menopause, all the
stuff that you're going throughyour own road trip.
Do you go through that same why?
I guess the question is, whywas that the way that you
imagine that road trip, the sameway you describe your journey
with the spirit guides?
Maryann DiMarco (06:12):
I started to think about how we are the
co-creators of our universe.
And sometimes we hear, like youknow, god take the wheel, or
universe take the wheel.
And I started to think, no, no,they're kind of the backseat
drivers, we are actually takingthe wheel.
And I started to think, no, no,they're kind of the backseat
drivers, we are actually takingthe wheel.
And so, as I was starting tocome up with how I wanted to lay
this out in a very relatableway, I thought, well, we're all
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on this road trip and everybodyis so caught up in the
destination we're a very instantgratification type of society
and I thought, well, we'remissing the scenery, we're
missing everything that's aroundus.
And that's how the road tripcame into play, because I
thought, as we're driving, let'stake a look around at each exit
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and see what we're supposed tobe learning here.
And the ultimate destination isreally when we transition, that
we are forever on this kind ofcool road trip, and why not
pause and learn and understandwhat our soul came here to?
Sabrina Soto (07:10):
experience.
So you're talking about whatyour soul came to experience and
you talk about all of the stuffthat you were dealing with in
your own personal life.
But I think people who are like, well, you're a psychic medium,
shouldn't you know?
And you should be happy all thetime because you know All the
time.
Maryann DiMarco (07:29):
I should be floating on my meditation cloud
and I should just be likechilling with my loved ones and
feeling all this wonderfulself-gratification.
It is so far from the truth andI think it's an incredible
misconception that we're kind ofseeing out there that you know,
spiritual people are somehowfinding this ultimate balance
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and utopia in life, and the factof the matter is is that
spiritual awakenings and deeperunderstanding of self can be
quite unraveling.
I was literally beingchallenged by having to move and
going on road trips andunderstanding this part of my
life that was causing me to beso unnerved in many areas, and
(08:11):
it also made me stop and reflecton things that I had been
through in life that I didn'teven realize.
I was using my guides tounderstand, and some of those
things that I chose to getcurious about included bringing
in these energies and havingthem highlight what it was that
I need to be working on.
(08:32):
Our soul contracts are veryimportant, and that's what
brought me to all the differentthemes, too, in the book of what
I found to be part of my soulcontract, and most of them are
pretty relatable be part of mysoul contract, and most of them
are pretty relatable.
Sabrina Soto (08:47):
Okay, so soul contracts.
Maryann DiMarco (08:48):
So what does that mean?
We all come here and we sign upfor something to learn and we
have soul contracts and thecontracts can be feelings and
experiences that can come up.
Well, I shouldn't sayexperiences.
I always want to say I think wecan sign up for things like
doubt and fear and my rightabout imposter syndrome and
comparison and self-worth andscarcity, everything that I was
(09:10):
being challenged with, how thosethings come into fruition.
The experiences, I think, are atthe good grace of the universe
because honestly, I don't knowwho would come back.
So I just want to be clear onthat that I think we sign up for
sort of what it is.
Our soul came here to learn andthe experiences are kind of
given to us and when I realizedthat I was having these
repetitive patterns in my life,that I kept sort of choosing the
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same thing that didn't serve me, that every time my story
started to annoy me and my ownvoice started to annoy me, that
this was probably a soulcontract that was being
reflected to me, Instead ofgetting annoyed with it, I
decided to get to work with itand I used my guides to do that.
Sabrina Soto (09:51):
What does that look like?
Maryann DiMarco (09:52):
Okay, using your guides, so tap us in what
it looks like for me and how Iteach it in the book is first,
we want to find a belief system.
We want to be secure in thefact that and the truth and the
knowledge of having within youthat this is something that
we're all capable of doing, thateach and every one of us can
make a connection to our spiritguides to source whatever that
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looks like for you to our lovedones.
You do not have to be a psychicmedium to do it.
You also don't have to be likesuper heightened and spiritual
that.
This is just something that youcan incorporate intuitively
into your everyday life, and Iwant people to really know that,
because I think that it bringsan authenticity to any type of
practice that resonates with youmost.
It's who you are.
We're not trying to reinventthe wheel.
(10:35):
These are suggestions that youcan use and feel free to modify
to make it work for yourself.
And then I started to when Ifirst started doing readings.
I mean, I started seeing guidesaround people, so I was very
used to reading them for others,and then I started to really go
within and understand who myguides were and what it is that
I was ready to work on.
And so when these repetitivethemes started coming up, I
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started to understand how couldI asked my guides, how could I
work with this, what is this?
And I realized I was asking who, what, where, when, why.
I got really curious aboutwhere did some of these
situations start?
When did these feelings startfor myself?
And I was being brought toyounger ages, different times in
my life, different experiences,and I was seeing how it didn't
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serve me, how it did serve me,and instead of repeating the
pattern over and over again, Ichose to learn and I chose to
see what it was my guides weretrying to teach me, and then it
all became very productive Good,bad or indifferent.
I was learning and I decided toapply it to any situation that
was going on into my life now.
(11:42):
So, really, what it is to yourpoint is it's not that I have
some magical answers.
I just am choosing to answerdifferently.
I'm using the tools that I havelearned through spirituality
and being a psychic medium.
Yes, and applying that to mylife.
Sabrina Soto (11:59):
In the beginning of the book you were talking
about how the whole idea of thisbook came to you, of just your
spirit.
Guides were telling you towrite this book.
Right.
They always do.
Maryann DiMarco (12:08):
They're very fresh.
They love to just kind of makeme work on a project that I.
That your books aren't easy forme, I don't know.
I think, but they keep makingme write them.
Sabrina Soto (12:22):
It's really funny.
It starts with write a book.
I always hear that.
Walk me through what itactually feels like, or list
like how does it so when?
Maryann DiMarco (12:27):
I connect with spirit.
I use all of my Claire's, myClaire audience.
So I'm hearing, I am seeing, Iam feeling.
And Claire's the senses.
You use all of my Claire's, myClaire audience.
So I'm hearing, I am seeing, Iam feeling.
And Claire's the senses.
You use all of your senses whenyou're looking to make
connection.
How does it feel in your body?
What do you think they'retelling you?
Use your imagination, becausethey're using your imagination,
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your stories, your life as frameof reference in order to get
your attention.
What are the repetitive signsyou're seeing?
We want to pay attention to allof this.
So when I wrote my first book,second book and now this one, it
was always the same I heard myguide say to me it's time to
write a book.
And then another person wouldsay to me you know, you should
write a book about what you'retalking about right now.
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And then I would feel the need,or the pull in my
claircognizance, on my knowing,to jot down an idea.
And then, in the middle of thenight which was what happened
with the guide's book I heardthe title of the book is the
guide's book, okay, great.
And so then I write that downand it's my process.
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It's been my process with everysingle one of my books.
And then I sit with spirit andI download the information and I
help put it all together.
They help me put it alltogether and they bring me the
people honestly to help me putit all together.
I wrote with a wonderful womannamed Shandika and I put it all
together and that's how I writebooks.
It's always been the processfor all of them.
Sabrina Soto (13:49):
So when I did my plant medicine journey, the
process for all of them.
So when I did my plant medicinejourney, I kept calling it
downloads and I've realized alot of people call it the same
way, because it just feels likea knowing and you don't hear,
like I don't hear a voice beinglike hey, sabrina.
Maryann DiMarco (14:01):
Well, yeah, it's not a disembodied voice.
I always tell people yeah, it'snot like hello you know, If it
is, get some sage out and figureout what's going on, because I
don't want to hear disembodiedvoices, right?
Sabrina Soto (14:13):
So I don't want people to listen to this and be
like, oh my gosh, she'slistening to voices.
It feels just like a knowing,like a, it's like a message in
your head, right Spirit?
Maryann DiMarco (14:22):
comes in your own voice and sometimes it could
feel different.
It absolutely can does for mesometimes, but for the most part
, spirit, for the most partspirit is coming in and they are
putting that idea in your mindand they're highlighting it.
I always say to people if yousay to yourself, you know, I
think I want to write a book,and it keeps coming up, if you
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turn that around and put it asif someone's speaking to you,
you know you should write a book.
You could start to hear it, youcould start to make that switch
and then you're starting tohear someone speaking to you.
So I always tell people whenyou're writing, when you're
journaling or automatic writing,direct download from Spirit and
putting it down on paper, actas if someone's speaking to you.
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Right, as if someone's speakingto you, and then you'll start
to be able to discern thedifference between your own mind
and what it is that they'rehighlighting with you.
There is a difference.
Sabrina Soto (15:19):
So for some, like beginners, like never done
anything like this, like whatcan you share one practice that
you would recommend to somebodywho's just beginning, like hey,
this sounds like interesting.
I'd love to get you know, likein touch with my spirit guide,
what is, like the best startingpoint for beginners?
Maryann DiMarco (15:38):
I think the best starting point for
beginners is to I like to write,and you can write a question at
the top of the page Get a paperand a pen.
Don't do this on your phone,don't do it on your computer.
We want to go old school, wewant a pen, a nice piece of
paper or a nice journal,something.
And I want you to write what isit that you want me to know at
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the top of the page.
Or you can write who are youand you want to cue to your
guides.
I'm ready to listen.
Now I am saying yes, I amwelcoming you into my space and
then from there, I want you topay attention to again all of
your senses.
What are you feeling?
What do you think you'rehearing?
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What are you seeing?
Are you seeing your guide andwhat they may look like, and jot
it down, even if it's just adescription.
If you're a list maker, make alist, it doesn't matter.
Do this for like maybe fiveminutes and then lead into a
space of acceptance that this istruth, that this is what's
happening.
And what we're starting to dohere, sabrina, is we are
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exercising a muscle, just likeanything else.
It's going to take some time.
So be a little patient,especially if you're just
starting out.
Guided meditations are also agreat way to do this.
I have meditations in the book.
It is also on Audible so youcan listen to some guided
meditations and that way someoneis sort of helping you along.
They're helping you with theidea and the visualization of
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what it could look like to meetyour guides.
I love meeting my guides inmeditation in a temple.
I create the temple.
I like to create a seating areawith them.
You can make it look likewhatever you want it to.
You could design it however youlike.
Sabrina, make it look gorgeous,right?
Because as you do all thingsand just put it all together and
then create a seating area andthen invite your guide to come
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in and sit with you and again becurious who are you, what is it
that you want me to know?
And just allow yourself to sitand receive the messages.
Try not to chase theinformation, try not to struggle
through it.
Just sit and receive.
That's why I always recommendmaybe five minutes tops to start
this way it doesn't feel likesuch hard work.
Sabrina Soto (17:52):
You talked about losing Phoenix in the book and
we were talking about it earlier.
So Phoenix was your goldenretriever the best.
And I lost Harper last year.
Tomorrow it'll be a year.
We talked about it when we metfor coffee.
The pain that I felt losingHarper was.
That grief was unlike any otherpain I've been through in my
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life.
I cried about her yesterday.
I felt foolish about cryingover a dog that I, like, lost a
year ago.
How did that change you as ahuman and even just like
spiritually?
How did that grief change yoursoul, phoenix?
Maryann DiMarco (18:33):
and I went through a lot together.
Phoenix came into my life whenI was in a huge transition.
I was in the middle of adivorce and it was just a really
tough time.
When dogs come in from theother side and I see tears in
their ears as if they werehelping us wipe the tears with
their ears, I know that theycame in at a very therapeutic
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moment and that was Phoenix.
For me, losing him was I talkabout having to make the
decision to let him go, and howthat came to be and all the
signs that I got, which I was sograteful from the universe.
Did it help my grief?
I got, which I was so gratefulfrom the universe.
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Did it help my grief?
No, I was deeply so sad and soheartbroken and I cried my eyes
out when I lost my phoenix.
And, to your point, I said toyou when we got on, I just got
upset about him yesterday andit's been almost a year and a
half I guess almost two yearsmaybe that I've lost him and
it's just difficult.
It's like any other grief.
There's something about animalsthat give us such unconditional
love.
There's no question in whatthey give us.
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They're not judging us.
We're sort of walking throughthe door and they're like I love
you.
There's just this wonderful wayabout them and I had a huge
attachment to my sweet boy andit's just like losing a loved
one in a very different way.
I have people who come to mefor medium readings who cry
really hard over their animals,sometimes more than loved ones
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that have passed.
I think the relationship.
Sabrina Soto (20:02):
yes, I wasn't even like.
It wasn't normal the way I wasacting, it was though.
Maryann DiMarco (20:07):
It was.
You don't see, honey, I canassure you, you know, I mean, I
sobbed and sobbed, and sobbed,and I again, I think it has
something to do with thatbeautiful, unconditional love.
You know, they just don'tquestion us, they just love us,
no matter what, and that's areally safe space to be around.
Sabrina Soto (20:26):
Do you ever okay?
So, when it comes to mediumship, do you feel obviously you
connect with humans?
Do you connect with pets aswell?
Oh all the time.
Maryann DiMarco (20:35):
Yeah, absolutely, I remember one of my
first readings I was doing.
I used to read in likerestaurants and bars and stuff.
When I first started out and Isaid to this woman, your dog
said.
Your dog said she said what doyou mean?
My dog said you know kind ofwhat are you talking about?
And yeah, they've always comein through readings and I find
it pretty incredible.
Sabrina Soto (20:56):
I think it's really neat and I think I asked
you this the first time that youwere on the podcast.
When it comes to crossing overand reincarnation, can we dumb
this down again for me, becauseI am not the best student.
So here's my question.
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You know, uncle Bob dies.
Okay, I am heartbroken.
I call you, talk to uncle bob.
Uncle bob's up in wherever inthat other zone, and then uncle.
And then if uncle bob now wantsto come back as beatrice in
wisconsin, how do you still talkto uncle bob when now he's
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beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco (21:41):
I love that.
He's beatrice in Wisconsin.
It's very interesting.
Here's how I see it.
I usually see up togreat-grandparents, depending on
who I'm reading and their age.
I don't normally see past that.
One thing we have to rememberabout the other side is that
time is very different.
There is no time.
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Is it's not the same?
There is no time.
What does that mean?
There is no time, is it's notthe same?
There's, there is no time.
So it means that there'ssomething to be said about it
being, you know, much more fluid.
What we see as time here is notthe same as there, and I think
that might have something to dowith what you're talking about.
Of course, you know these aretheories.
It's not something that Imyself could sit here and tell
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you I've experienced, but I canonly say that through readings
and what I have heard justthrough my guides and in my own
experience and learning, is thatit has something to do with the
fact that there is no time onthat other side.
And so when we talk aboutreincarnation, what might seem
like a quick turnaround heremight be very much longer there,
but I usually I wondersometimes about how quick
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somebody can come back.
I think it's very contractual.
I think it depends on a soul'schoice sometimes and what
they're experiencing.
I also believe that we havesoul packs so that we travel
together, the same souls, good,bad or indifferent.
We will run into each otheragain.
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So I don't know if how Bobwould be Beatrice at some point,
but it could happen.
Sabrina Soto (23:11):
Will you still talk to Bob if he's here on
earth as Beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco (23:18):
This is like going to sound really wooey, but
this is how I see it.
It's funny, interesting.
Somebody else just asked methis question.
It doesn't normally come up theway I see it is.
Do I think that I am speakingto loved ones and souls on the
other side?
Absolutely, can it be both, inthat sometimes I may be reading
the story of a soul and who theywere, yes, but for me it would
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not come in like the loved oneis standing there.
In other words, I would bespeaking about Bob instead of
from.
Bob Got it, and that might befrom another person on the other
side.
So, let's say, bob's sister waspassed, she might be talking
about Bob, and that's how we'remaking the connection there.
It doesn't happen often, thoughI have to tell you, very rarely.
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I have a grandmother that'spassed and I'm pretty sure she
has ascended.
I don't think she has returnedto this space and I don't feel
like she has reincarnated, but Ialso don't think that she is on
the plane from which I readfrom.
I think she has ascended ontodifferent parts of her soul's
existence and when other peopleread her from me, I don't know
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that they're necessarily readingher energy in its existence,
like on the other side.
I think they are reading herstory.
I could feel it in myclaircognizance, in my gut, the
difference it's very particularto being a medium and how you
read and how you discern thedifference.
But I can tell you it does nothappen often for me at all.
I'm usually reading right fromthat loved one or someone else.
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Another loved one is talkingabout someone else who has
passed.
Sabrina Soto (24:52):
I don't know why I didn't call you when Harper
passed.
I ended up.
A friend of mine, kristaWilliams, set me up with her pet
psychic or medium and she saidlike I had to wait two weeks
after Harper passed Okay.
And she said like I had to waittwo weeks after Harper passed,
okay.
And I'm like I wonder why thatis Maybe because I was in such
grief and despair.
Maryann DiMarco (25:11):
Sure, I mean, sometimes it's just a style in
which a medium reads.
You know, it's not necessarilysomething that is about energy.
I have read people and energythat died the day before day of
I've even read.
But I do believe that there is atime for life review.
We can feel a disconnection tothat energy.
Yes, grief absolutely plays afactor.
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I actually love that thatperson told you to just wait a
couple of weeks, because itallows your energy to readjust
just a tad.
When we are in grief, and deepgrief, our vibration is very,
very low and what we're doingwith our loved ones is we're
kind of raising and they'relowering.
We're raising and we're sort ofmeeting them in the middle, and
sometimes grief can be a littletough to read from when it's
(25:55):
that deep.
Sabrina Soto (25:56):
So yeah, that's very, very helpful.
I was very angry during thattime.
Maryann DiMarco (26:00):
Yeah, that's another lower vibration.
Yeah, so it's smart to kind oflet somebody just have a hot
minute and then go in and withthe read.
Sabrina Soto (26:08):
Yeah, yeah, I don't even want to tell you the
story, because I'm going tosound like a really horrible
person, but I was just.
I was angry at anybody, anybodywho made eye contact with me
during that time.
I'm sorry, that's grief.
Oh, it was the worst.
Maryann DiMarco (26:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's grief.
Sabrina Soto (26:25):
I wish you were seeing Harper now, but I also
had another friend that passednot too three months ago, the
other day from and like do yousee them here or do you feel
them?
Maryann DiMarco (26:36):
I always see spirit around somebody, like a
family tree, like this.
That's how I read mediumshipreadings.
Sabrina Soto (26:44):
But you like see their face.
Maryann DiMarco (26:46):
I see it in my mind's eye, so my third eye can
see it.
Once in a while I'll see thingswith the naked eye, but it's
very rare.
That's a lot of.
It takes a lot of energy forthem to kind of show up in
apparition, and it's not alwaysa favorite of mine, by the way.
I don't really love to seeapparition.
Sometimes it can come in as amist, like a cloudy mist, light
(27:06):
sprigs If you're mediums outthere and you know what I'm
talking about little sprigs oflight, sprites of light sprakes
I don't know what the word is,but a little like that, little
bursts of light.
I can see that.
But usually when I'm readingsomebody I'm not looking for
that because it's a distraction.
Quite honestly.
What I'm looking for is wherethey're drawing to me.
So are they drawing me to yourmother's side of the family?
Are they drawing me to yourfather's side of the family?
(27:27):
Am I above you?
So am I reading someone older?
Am I to your side?
So is it a contemporary?
Is it below you?
Children and pets, things likethat.
The next step is that I wouldstart to feel what information
is coming through.
So, now that I've honed in onan area.
What information is comingthrough?
Am I being?
I've honed in on an area.
What information is comingthrough?
Am I being like?
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So, right now I'm being broughtto an energy that's lower than
you and I'm feeling like lots ofproblems with digestion, lots
of problems in the stomach area,lots of, lots of.
They're kind of making itreally solid.
This might be your dog that I'mstarting to pick up on Right
and you know, talking about notbeing able to eat, talking about
that being really annoying, youknow at that time, and so
(28:10):
that's how I start, and they'lljust sort of put the breadcrumbs
out for me and I just my job isto not orchestrate all of that.
My guides orchestrate that.
My job is to just follow thebreadcrumbs that they give me
and then translate thatinformation over with care,
concern and compassion.
And it is your dog that'scoming up for me as I'm reading.
(28:34):
So, yeah, so you know, becausenow I'm explaining it.
So of course, I open up rightaway.
Right, because I'm starting tojust use my psychic senses, my
mediumship senses and all thethings like senses, my
mediumship senses and all thethings Very, very happy dog, by
the way Like hard tail, likereally like the butt goes back
(28:59):
and forth super, super fast.
And Harper talking about is thisokay that we kind of do this
part?
Okay?
Harper talking about, let herknow I was breathing peacefully,
wants to bring something upabout the breath and having a
peaceful moment, so, even thoughwe might see what the body was
going through, she right, harperreally wants you to know how
peaceful she felt.
(29:20):
And I don't know about you, butI was face-to-face with my dog
as he was passing and so she putyou face-to-face like that and
she said even her paws feelbetter.
There's something about youunderstand?
Sabrina Soto (29:36):
Look what I have right here.
It was I had to put socks onher at the end of her life and I
have, and I smell it still.
Maryann DiMarco (29:42):
Oh, it's so sweet.
So she said even my paws feelbetter.
Even my paws feel better yeah.
She's fine you know the thingabout them is that they're all
fine.
It's us that are sitting heregoing.
Sabrina Soto (29:56):
Oh, honestly, a lot of the grief came from shame
, not shame, guilt, guilt of.
After she passed and she tookher last breath, this guttural
scream came out of my body thatI had never heard before and I
felt bad, like poor thing wasjust passing and I'm like
screaming in her ear.
You know, yeah, those humanthings that we do to ourselves,
(30:19):
that are so silly.
Maryann DiMarco (30:21):
Well, you know, grief is grief and I think that
we have to remember that it'sokay to express that grief
however we like and that it'sincredibly personal that no one
can tell us how to grieve.
What I always want to tellpeople is that, however we have
chosen to do that, know thatyour loved one understands
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there's no judgment.
Know that your loved oneunderstands there's no judgment.
You didn't affect their passingin any way by the way that you
chose to grieve.
Their passing is veryindividual and it is incredibly
personal and it is theirs.
However, the love that you gaveher, that cheek to cheek,
everything you gave her, sheexperienced, I always tell
people, often loved ones willshow me rubbing of the hands or
(31:07):
music playing or the familyaround, and that love, or I give
you now permission to go.
I've heard that a lot.
All the things that we give ourloved one is totally accepted
and absolutely beautiful.
But how we experience it yourguttural cry, the anger I have a
friend whose husband passed soyoung and she's pissed off.
I don't blame her, I'm like go,go be angry, that's okay.
(31:29):
It's okay to be angry, it'sokay to have a guttural scream.
We just want to be able tocoexist with our grief and just
try not to let it overtake youwho you are in the moment.
You know that's really all.
Stay above water as best youcan.
I stayed home.
I stayed home for a few days.
Sabrina Soto (31:44):
You need it too, water as best you can.
I stayed home.
I stayed home for a few days.
You talk about like you sayingthat you caution against using
like a magic eight ball oranything like that, or even like
, well, I say, I'm not yourmagic eight ball, right, right,
yeah, even some psychics too.
So tell me a little bit aboutthat.
Maryann DiMarco (32:04):
I highly encourage people to go to a
psychic medium if they feel socalled to do.
What I don't want, or what Iencourage people to do honestly,
is to not rely on a psychicmedium for your answers.
Why?
Because we have the answerswithin ourselves, because we
ourselves have the ability tofind those answers.
That's the point, if you wantto go to a psychic.
(32:26):
When I first started doingreadings, people would say to me
oh, can I come back next month?
And I'd say, no, I'll see younext year.
I didn't really understand thatand what it felt like was that
they were looking to me throughspirit of course to give them
their next point of action, ofsome sort yeah yeah, your next
step and right out of the gate.
(32:48):
When I started working withSpirit, it was a no for me and
they made me feel that reallyhardcore.
And now I understand.
It's because I teach so much.
You have the answers within you.
You do not need to go to apsychic medium in order to
continue to get those answers.
By all means, go.
Go to someone word of mouth thatsomeone has had a great
experience with.
Have the experience, take inthe messages.
Hopefully you're getting atakeaway where you're learning
(33:10):
something or you're hearingsomething that brought you to a
space of healing in some way.
Whatever it is for you, I hopethe experience is fantastic and
then learn how to do that foryourself.
And then when you go to apsychic, it's validation.
All a psychic medium is doingis well psychic-wise, is
(33:30):
validating what you yourselfalready know.
If I'm giving someone anenergy-type psychic information
from their guides, usually whatthey're saying to me is yeah,
that makes sense, Because theyalready know this is separate
from mediumship, but theyalready know it to be true, they
already have this feeling.
So really, a psychic is comingin and validating what you
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yourself know to be true.
It should sit well in the body.
You should be able to feel itphysically and mentally and
emotionally.
It should just sit well withyou.
That's all it is, and that'swhy I write the books that I
write.
That's why I wrote Media Mentor, it's why I wrote this book.
I want people to have thatempowerment within them.
Sabrina Soto (34:12):
We are the light Right.
We outsource a lot of our ownwisdom.
Maryann DiMarco (34:17):
And not only that, we can get habitual with
it, and that's really that's theconcern for me.
I think when you go to any typeof healer or psychic medium or
you're seeking spirituality inwhatever form works for you,
this is a tool.
This is supposed to be helpingyou build your own abilities,
sharpen your own tools, becomeaware of what your intuitive
(34:40):
self can do, and once you learnhow to do that, you will be
forever empowered.
Yeah, do, and once you learnhow to do that, you will be
forever empowered.
And so I think what I'm tryingto say is I'm just sort of
helping you put the empowermentback in yourself.
Don't ever give your power overto anybody else.
It's so true.
Sabrina Soto (34:56):
It's so true.
Just tap in.
You know what?
If you're listening to this,just be quiet for five minutes
of your day.
Maryann DiMarco (35:03):
Receive instead of reaching.
I always say when can peopleget the book?
They can get the book onamazoncom, barnesandnoble,
adhachetbookscom.
It's all over the place.
Sabrina Soto (35:17):
The guidebook if you're listening to this and
driving walking.
Of course, as always, I put itin the notes how you can get in
touch with Marianne.
I am just lucky that I get totext you if I want to.
That's because we're besties,and until next time, thank you,
Marianne.
Thank you so much for having me.
Maryann DiMarco (35:35):
I love you.
Welcome to Redesigning Life.
I'm your host, sabrina Soto,and this is the space where we
have honest conversations aboutpersonal growth, mindset shifts
and creating a life that feelstruly aligned.
In each episode, I'll talk toexperts in their fields who
share their insights to help youstep into your higher self.
Let's redesign your life fromthe inside out.
Welcome to another episode ofRedesigning Life.
(00:24):
Today I have Maryann DiMarco,who's been of Redesigning Life.
Today I have Marianne DiMarco,who's been on Redesigning Life
before.
If she sounds familiar, and Iam so excited because I feel
very blessed that I get to callyou my friend and I got to hang
out with you last week and yougave me your book, which I love
so much.
Look, I'm even using your pen.
Maryann DiMarco (00:46):
Oh, I'm so glad .
Sabrina Soto (00:47):
Marianne.
If you've listened to herpodcast before, if you know who
she is, you know who she is, butif you don't, you're a psychic
medium a best-selling author,may I add.
You're an amazing woman.
You're super powerful.
You teach people to tune intotheir own wisdom, but they're
also their spirit guides, whichis what this book is about.
(01:08):
I just adore you.
I love who you are, I love whatyou teach, so, of course, I'm
excited.
But first of all, just thankyou for being here.
Maryann DiMarco (01:19):
Oh no, Thank you for having me.
I love you.
You're my beautiful soul sister.
I know I'm so glad we got toconnect, too, in person.
We never get to see each otherin person, so that was so
special and I'm just reallythrilled to be here.
I love these conversations withyou and thrilled to share it.
Sabrina Soto (01:35):
This book is fantastic.
I had it on my nightstand soyou sent me one and you gave me
one when I saw you.
I saw you, but then you sent meone, so I have two.
But Gabby Bernstein, who's afriend of yours, wrote the
foreword and she spoke aboutpeople craving wisdom.
How did this book for peoplewho haven't gotten it yet, like,
(01:57):
how did this book come to be atthat point in your life, which
was you were going through a lotof stuff?
So can you tell readers alittle bit about what this book
is about?
Maryann DiMarco (02:04):
This book is about not only connecting with
guides but understanding whatthose spirit guides are here to
do, and they're here to helphighlight our higher self, the
story that we came here knowing,and when I was coming up with
the idea to write this bookalong with my guides, I myself
(02:25):
was relying very heavily ontheir own guidance, and so we
collaborated, just like I alwaysdo with my guides, to come up
with information that not only Iwas learning in real time, but
that's something that I can giveover and teach, and that's what
I hope this book lends over toreaders is that there's
information in here that's goingto help you hear those voices
(02:46):
within that higher self and thesurrounding love that the
universe is here to give you.
Sabrina Soto (02:52):
So I think I've told you I talk to my spirit
guides and I feel like I have mywhole life and but I think,
after I did a plant medicinejourney and now I meditate a lot
, that I feel like I'm tapped inimmediately.
But I think probably somepeople who are listening to this
probably think we're witches.
(03:14):
I'm okay with that, or they'llbe like what are you talking
about?
So if somebody is listening tothis and they maybe think, like
there's no such thing as spiritguides or they've never talked
to their spirit guides, like canwe make this a little like?
I don't want to say dumb itdown, because my listeners are
(03:35):
not no, we can dial it back.
I said, we dial it back just alittle bit Okay, so let's dial
it back a little bit for peoplewho are new to this whole.
Spirit guides, shenanigans yeah, let's do that.
Maryann DiMarco (03:47):
Spirit guides are our universal team on the
other side that are here to helpus navigate our lives.
They're here to highlight ourhigher voice, what we already
know to be true, and it's notsomething that, yes, they are
outside of ourselves in thatthey are energies and entities
on the other side.
(04:07):
However, they are part of whowe are, in our own self.
They're just helping usunderstand our story and what we
came here to do.
They're comprised of angels,higher energies, spirit guides
and, yes, our loved ones too,but they all have different
voices and something differentto offer.
Sabrina Soto (04:28):
Are they this?
Okay, are this?
Do you have the same spiritguides your whole life?
You have the way.
Maryann DiMarco (04:34):
I have read it is that I have.
We have one spirit guide thatushers us in and ushers us out.
I talk about mine in the book.
I name him Joe, don't ask mewhy, but I explain it in the
book.
And then there are guides thatare assigned to us, and they can
come for various reasons.
Some of them are helping uswith our communication.
(04:54):
Some of them are helping uswith our own spiritual
connection.
They're helping us with thechallenges and the soul
contracts of our lives Doubt,fear, all kinds of things that
we came here to learn,celebrations too, I mean we want
to remember all the good things, too that we came here to
experience.
And our guides are there tohelp us co-create and manifest
the most ultimate and wonderfultimelines that we're trying to
(05:16):
achieve in this space.
Sabrina Soto (05:17):
Yeah, so that's why I was asking and I know you
touch on this but if you havethis one like I don't know
personal spirit assistant withyou at all times, like there are
people, there are other expertsor whatever that are coming in
at different times of the lifeDuring the, in the book you
frame it sort of as a road trip.
(05:39):
You know the packed bags, thedetours, everything that you
were going on in your life.
Would you consider or would youdescribe that same journey that
you have with your spiritguides, everything that's going
on in my life?
Yeah, because you were talkingabout, like, not only the moving
to Florida.
Maryann DiMarco (05:54):
Oh yeah.
Sabrina Soto (05:55):
Yeah, you losing Phoenix, menopause, all the
stuff that you're going throughyour own road trip.
Do you go through that same why?
I guess the question is, whywas that the way that you
imagine that road trip, the sameway you describe your journey
with the spirit guides?
Maryann DiMarco (06:12):
I started to think about how we are the
co-creators of our universe.
And sometimes we hear, like youknow, god take the wheel, or
universe take the wheel.
And I started to think, no, no,they're kind of the backseat
drivers, we are actually takingthe wheel.
And I started to think, no, no,they're kind of the backseat
drivers, we are actually takingthe wheel.
And so, as I was starting tocome up with how I wanted to lay
this out in a very relatableway, I thought, well, we're all
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on this road trip and everybodyis so caught up in the
destination we're a very instantgratification type of society
and I thought, well, we'remissing the scenery, we're
missing everything that's aroundus.
And that's how the road tripcame into play, because I
thought, as we're driving, let'stake a look around at each exit
(06:54):
and see what we're supposed tobe learning here.
And the ultimate destination isreally when we transition, that
we are forever on this kind ofcool road trip, and why not
pause and learn and understandwhat our soul came here to?
Sabrina Soto (07:10):
experience.
So you're talking about whatyour soul came to experience and
you talk about all of the stuffthat you were dealing with in
your own personal life.
But I think people who are like, well, you're a psychic medium,
shouldn't you know?
And you should be happy all thetime because you know All the
time.
Maryann DiMarco (07:29):
I should be floating on my meditation cloud
and I should just be likechilling with my loved ones and
feeling all this wonderfulself-gratification.
It is so far from the truth andI think it's an incredible
misconception that we're kind ofseeing out there that you know,
spiritual people are somehowfinding this ultimate balance
(07:50):
and utopia in life, and the factof the matter is is that
spiritual awakenings and deeperunderstanding of self can be
quite unraveling.
I was literally beingchallenged by having to move and
going on road trips andunderstanding this part of my
life that was causing me to beso unnerved in many areas, and
(08:11):
it also made me stop and reflecton things that I had been
through in life that I didn'teven realize.
I was using my guides tounderstand, and some of those
things that I chose to getcurious about included bringing
in these energies and havingthem highlight what it was that
I need to be working on.
(08:32):
Our soul contracts are veryimportant, and that's what
brought me to all the differentthemes, too, in the book of what
I found to be part of my soulcontract, and most of them are
pretty relatable be part of mysoul contract, and most of them
are pretty relatable.
Sabrina Soto (08:47):
Okay, so soul contracts.
Maryann DiMarco (08:48):
So what does that mean?
We all come here and we sign upfor something to learn and we
have soul contracts and thecontracts can be feelings and
experiences that can come up.
Well, I shouldn't sayexperiences.
I always want to say I think wecan sign up for things like
doubt and fear and my rightabout imposter syndrome and
comparison and self-worth andscarcity, everything that I was
(09:10):
being challenged with, how thosethings come into fruition.
The experiences, I think, are atthe good grace of the universe
because honestly, I don't knowwho would come back.
So I just want to be clear onthat that I think we sign up for
sort of what it is.
Our soul came here to learn andthe experiences are kind of
given to us and when I realizedthat I was having these
repetitive patterns in my life,that I kept sort of choosing the
(09:33):
same thing that didn't serve me, that every time my story
started to annoy me and my ownvoice started to annoy me, that
this was probably a soulcontract that was being
reflected to me, Instead ofgetting annoyed with it, I
decided to get to work with itand I used my guides to do that.
Sabrina Soto (09:51):
What does that look like?
Maryann DiMarco (09:52):
Okay, using your guides, so tap us in what
it looks like for me and how Iteach it in the book is first,
we want to find a belief system.
We want to be secure in thefact that and the truth and the
knowledge of having within youthat this is something that
we're all capable of doing, thateach and every one of us can
make a connection to our spiritguides to source whatever that
(10:15):
looks like for you to our lovedones.
You do not have to be a psychicmedium to do it.
You also don't have to be likesuper heightened and spiritual
that.
This is just something that youcan incorporate intuitively
into your everyday life, and Iwant people to really know that,
because I think that it bringsan authenticity to any type of
practice that resonates with youmost.
It's who you are.
We're not trying to reinventthe wheel.
(10:35):
These are suggestions that youcan use and feel free to modify
to make it work for yourself.
And then I started to when Ifirst started doing readings.
I mean, I started seeing guidesaround people, so I was very
used to reading them for others,and then I started to really go
within and understand who myguides were and what it is that
I was ready to work on.
And so when these repetitivethemes started coming up, I
(10:58):
started to understand how couldI asked my guides, how could I
work with this, what is this?
And I realized I was asking who, what, where, when, why.
I got really curious aboutwhere did some of these
situations start?
When did these feelings startfor myself?
And I was being brought toyounger ages, different times in
my life, different experiences,and I was seeing how it didn't
(11:21):
serve me, how it did serve me,and instead of repeating the
pattern over and over again, Ichose to learn and I chose to
see what it was my guides weretrying to teach me, and then it
all became very productive Good,bad or indifferent.
I was learning and I decided toapply it to any situation that
was going on into my life now.
(11:42):
So, really, what it is to yourpoint is it's not that I have
some magical answers.
I just am choosing to answerdifferently.
I'm using the tools that I havelearned through spirituality
and being a psychic medium.
Yes, and applying that to mylife.
Sabrina Soto (11:59):
In the beginning of the book you were talking
about how the whole idea of thisbook came to you, of just your
spirit.
Guides were telling you towrite this book.
Right.
They always do.
Maryann DiMarco (12:08):
They're very fresh.
They love to just kind of makeme work on a project that I.
That your books aren't easy forme, I don't know.
I think, but they keep makingme write them.
Sabrina Soto (12:22):
It's really funny.
It starts with write a book.
I always hear that.
Walk me through what itactually feels like, or list
like how does it so when?
Maryann DiMarco (12:27):
I connect with spirit.
I use all of my Claire's, myClaire audience.
So I'm hearing, I am seeing, Iam feeling.
And Claire's the senses.
You use all of my Claire's, myClaire audience.
So I'm hearing, I am seeing, Iam feeling.
And Claire's the senses.
You use all of your senses whenyou're looking to make
connection.
How does it feel in your body?
What do you think they'retelling you?
Use your imagination, becausethey're using your imagination,
(12:47):
your stories, your life as frameof reference in order to get
your attention.
What are the repetitive signsyou're seeing?
We want to pay attention to allof this.
So when I wrote my first book,second book and now this one, it
was always the same I heard myguide say to me it's time to
write a book.
And then another person wouldsay to me you know, you should
write a book about what you'retalking about right now.
(13:08):
And then I would feel the need,or the pull in my
claircognizance, on my knowing,to jot down an idea.
And then, in the middle of thenight which was what happened
with the guide's book I heardthe title of the book is the
guide's book, okay, great.
And so then I write that downand it's my process.
(13:29):
It's been my process with everysingle one of my books.
And then I sit with spirit andI download the information and I
help put it all together.
They help me put it alltogether and they bring me the
people honestly to help me putit all together.
I wrote with a wonderful womannamed Shandika and I put it all
together and that's how I writebooks.
It's always been the processfor all of them.
Sabrina Soto (13:49):
So when I did my plant medicine journey, the
process for all of them.
So when I did my plant medicinejourney, I kept calling it
downloads and I've realized alot of people call it the same
way, because it just feels likea knowing and you don't hear,
like I don't hear a voice beinglike hey, sabrina.
Maryann DiMarco (14:01):
Well, yeah, it's not a disembodied voice.
I always tell people yeah, it'snot like hello you know, If it
is, get some sage out and figureout what's going on, because I
don't want to hear disembodiedvoices, right?
Sabrina Soto (14:13):
So I don't want people to listen to this and be
like, oh my gosh, she'slistening to voices.
It feels just like a knowing,like a, it's like a message in
your head, right Spirit?
Maryann DiMarco (14:22):
comes in your own voice and sometimes it could
feel different.
It absolutely can does for mesometimes, but for the most part
, spirit, for the most partspirit is coming in and they are
putting that idea in your mindand they're highlighting it.
I always say to people if yousay to yourself, you know, I
think I want to write a book,and it keeps coming up, if you
(14:45):
turn that around and put it asif someone's speaking to you,
you know you should write a book.
You could start to hear it, youcould start to make that switch
and then you're starting tohear someone speaking to you.
So I always tell people whenyou're writing, when you're
journaling or automatic writing,direct download from Spirit and
putting it down on paper, actas if someone's speaking to you.
(15:07):
Right, as if someone's speakingto you, and then you'll start
to be able to discern thedifference between your own mind
and what it is that they'rehighlighting with you.
There is a difference.
Sabrina Soto (15:19):
So for some, like beginners, like never done
anything like this, like whatcan you share one practice that
you would recommend to somebodywho's just beginning, like hey,
this sounds like interesting.
I'd love to get you know, likein touch with my spirit guide,
what is, like the best startingpoint for beginners?
Maryann DiMarco (15:38):
I think the best starting point for
beginners is to I like to write,and you can write a question at
the top of the page Get a paperand a pen.
Don't do this on your phone,don't do it on your computer.
We want to go old school, wewant a pen, a nice piece of
paper or a nice journal,something.
And I want you to write what isit that you want me to know at
(16:00):
the top of the page.
Or you can write who are youand you want to cue to your
guides.
I'm ready to listen.
Now I am saying yes, I amwelcoming you into my space and
then from there, I want you topay attention to again all of
your senses.
What are you feeling?
What do you think you'rehearing?
(16:21):
What are you seeing?
Are you seeing your guide andwhat they may look like, and jot
it down, even if it's just adescription.
If you're a list maker, make alist, it doesn't matter.
Do this for like maybe fiveminutes and then lead into a
space of acceptance that this istruth, that this is what's
happening.
And what we're starting to dohere, sabrina, is we are
(16:42):
exercising a muscle, just likeanything else.
It's going to take some time.
So be a little patient,especially if you're just
starting out.
Guided meditations are also agreat way to do this.
I have meditations in the book.
It is also on Audible so youcan listen to some guided
meditations and that way someoneis sort of helping you along.
They're helping you with theidea and the visualization of
(17:06):
what it could look like to meetyour guides.
I love meeting my guides inmeditation in a temple.
I create the temple.
I like to create a seating areawith them.
You can make it look likewhatever you want it to.
You could design it however youlike.
Sabrina, make it look gorgeous,right?
Because as you do all thingsand just put it all together and
then create a seating area andthen invite your guide to come
(17:28):
in and sit with you and again becurious who are you, what is it
that you want me to know?
And just allow yourself to sitand receive the messages.
Try not to chase theinformation, try not to struggle
through it.
Just sit and receive.
That's why I always recommendmaybe five minutes tops to start
this way it doesn't feel likesuch hard work.
Sabrina Soto (17:52):
You talked about losing Phoenix in the book and
we were talking about it earlier.
So Phoenix was your goldenretriever the best.
And I lost Harper last year.
Tomorrow it'll be a year.
We talked about it when we metfor coffee.
The pain that I felt losingHarper was.
That grief was unlike any otherpain I've been through in my
(18:13):
life.
I cried about her yesterday.
I felt foolish about cryingover a dog that I, like, lost a
year ago.
How did that change you as ahuman and even just like
spiritually?
How did that grief change yoursoul, phoenix?
Maryann DiMarco (18:33):
and I went through a lot together.
Phoenix came into my life whenI was in a huge transition.
I was in the middle of adivorce and it was just a really
tough time.
When dogs come in from theother side and I see tears in
their ears as if they werehelping us wipe the tears with
their ears, I know that theycame in at a very therapeutic
(18:55):
moment and that was Phoenix.
For me, losing him was I talkabout having to make the
decision to let him go, and howthat came to be and all the
signs that I got, which I was sograteful from the universe.
Did it help my grief?
I got, which I was so gratefulfrom the universe.
(19:18):
Did it help my grief?
No, I was deeply so sad and soheartbroken and I cried my eyes
out when I lost my phoenix.
And, to your point, I said toyou when we got on, I just got
upset about him yesterday andit's been almost a year and a
half I guess almost two yearsmaybe that I've lost him and
it's just difficult.
It's like any other grief.
There's something about animalsthat give us such unconditional
love.
There's no question in whatthey give us.
(19:39):
They're not judging us.
We're sort of walking throughthe door and they're like I love
you.
There's just this wonderful wayabout them and I had a huge
attachment to my sweet boy andit's just like losing a loved
one in a very different way.
I have people who come to mefor medium readings who cry
really hard over their animals,sometimes more than loved ones
(20:00):
that have passed.
I think the relationship.
Sabrina Soto (20:02):
yes, I wasn't even like.
It wasn't normal the way I wasacting, it was though.
Maryann DiMarco (20:07):
It was.
You don't see, honey, I canassure you, you know, I mean, I
sobbed and sobbed, and sobbed,and I again, I think it has
something to do with thatbeautiful, unconditional love.
You know, they just don'tquestion us, they just love us,
no matter what, and that's areally safe space to be around.
Sabrina Soto (20:26):
Do you ever okay?
So, when it comes to mediumship, do you feel obviously you
connect with humans?
Do you connect with pets aswell?
Oh all the time.
Maryann DiMarco (20:35):
Yeah, absolutely, I remember one of my
first readings I was doing.
I used to read in likerestaurants and bars and stuff.
When I first started out and Isaid to this woman, your dog
said.
Your dog said she said what doyou mean?
My dog said you know kind ofwhat are you talking about?
And yeah, they've always comein through readings and I find
it pretty incredible.
Sabrina Soto (20:56):
I think it's really neat and I think I asked
you this the first time that youwere on the podcast.
When it comes to crossing overand reincarnation, can we dumb
this down again for me, becauseI am not the best student.
So here's my question.
(21:17):
You know, uncle Bob dies.
Okay, I am heartbroken.
I call you, talk to uncle bob.
Uncle bob's up in wherever inthat other zone, and then uncle.
And then if uncle bob now wantsto come back as beatrice in
wisconsin, how do you still talkto uncle bob when now he's
(21:40):
beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco (21:41):
I love that.
He's beatrice in Wisconsin.
It's very interesting.
Here's how I see it.
I usually see up togreat-grandparents, depending on
who I'm reading and their age.
I don't normally see past that.
One thing we have to rememberabout the other side is that
time is very different.
There is no time.
(22:02):
Is it's not the same?
There is no time.
What does that mean?
There is no time, is it's notthe same?
There's, there is no time.
So it means that there'ssomething to be said about it
being, you know, much more fluid.
What we see as time here is notthe same as there, and I think
that might have something to dowith what you're talking about.
Of course, you know these aretheories.
It's not something that Imyself could sit here and tell
(22:23):
you I've experienced, but I canonly say that through readings
and what I have heard justthrough my guides and in my own
experience and learning, is thatit has something to do with the
fact that there is no time onthat other side.
And so when we talk aboutreincarnation, what might seem
like a quick turnaround heremight be very much longer there,
but I usually I wondersometimes about how quick
(22:45):
somebody can come back.
I think it's very contractual.
I think it depends on a soul'schoice sometimes and what
they're experiencing.
I also believe that we havesoul packs so that we travel
together, the same souls, good,bad or indifferent.
We will run into each otheragain.
(23:06):
So I don't know if how Bobwould be Beatrice at some point,
but it could happen.
Sabrina Soto (23:11):
Will you still talk to Bob if he's here on
earth as Beatrice?
Maryann DiMarco (23:18):
This is like going to sound really wooey, but
this is how I see it.
It's funny, interesting.
Somebody else just asked methis question.
It doesn't normally come up theway I see it is.
Do I think that I am speakingto loved ones and souls on the
other side?
Absolutely, can it be both, inthat sometimes I may be reading
the story of a soul and who theywere, yes, but for me it would
(23:40):
not come in like the loved oneis standing there.
In other words, I would bespeaking about Bob instead of
from.
Bob Got it, and that might befrom another person on the other
side.
So, let's say, bob's sister waspassed, she might be talking
about Bob, and that's how we'remaking the connection there.
It doesn't happen often, thoughI have to tell you, very rarely.
(24:01):
I have a grandmother that'spassed and I'm pretty sure she
has ascended.
I don't think she has returnedto this space and I don't feel
like she has reincarnated, but Ialso don't think that she is on
the plane from which I readfrom.
I think she has ascended ontodifferent parts of her soul's
existence and when other peopleread her from me, I don't know
(24:24):
that they're necessarily readingher energy in its existence,
like on the other side.
I think they are reading herstory.
I could feel it in myclaircognizance, in my gut, the
difference it's very particularto being a medium and how you
read and how you discern thedifference.
But I can tell you it does nothappen often for me at all.
I'm usually reading right fromthat loved one or someone else.
(24:48):
Another loved one is talkingabout someone else who has
passed.
Sabrina Soto (24:52):
I don't know why I didn't call you when Harper
passed.
I ended up.
A friend of mine, kristaWilliams, set me up with her pet
psychic or medium and she saidlike I had to wait two weeks
after Harper passed Okay.
And she said like I had to waittwo weeks after Harper passed,
okay.
And I'm like I wonder why thatis Maybe because I was in such
grief and despair.
Maryann DiMarco (25:11):
Sure, I mean, sometimes it's just a style in
which a medium reads.
You know, it's not necessarilysomething that is about energy.
I have read people and energythat died the day before day of
I've even read.
But I do believe that there is atime for life review.
We can feel a disconnection tothat energy.
Yes, grief absolutely plays afactor.
(25:33):
I actually love that thatperson told you to just wait a
couple of weeks, because itallows your energy to readjust
just a tad.
When we are in grief, and deepgrief, our vibration is very,
very low and what we're doingwith our loved ones is we're
kind of raising and they'relowering.
We're raising and we're sort ofmeeting them in the middle, and
sometimes grief can be a littletough to read from when it's
(25:55):
that deep.
Sabrina Soto (25:56):
So yeah, that's very, very helpful.
I was very angry during thattime.
Maryann DiMarco (26:00):
Yeah, that's another lower vibration.
Yeah, so it's smart to kind oflet somebody just have a hot
minute and then go in and withthe read.
Sabrina Soto (26:08):
Yeah, yeah, I don't even want to tell you the
story, because I'm going tosound like a really horrible
person, but I was just.
I was angry at anybody, anybodywho made eye contact with me
during that time.
I'm sorry, that's grief.
Oh, it was the worst.
Maryann DiMarco (26:22):
Yeah, yeah, that's grief.
Sabrina Soto (26:25):
I wish you were seeing Harper now, but I also
had another friend that passednot too three months ago, the
other day from and like do yousee them here or do you feel
them?
Maryann DiMarco (26:36):
I always see spirit around somebody, like a
family tree, like this.
That's how I read mediumshipreadings.
Sabrina Soto (26:44):
But you like see their face.
Maryann DiMarco (26:46):
I see it in my mind's eye, so my third eye can
see it.
Once in a while I'll see thingswith the naked eye, but it's
very rare.
That's a lot of.
It takes a lot of energy forthem to kind of show up in
apparition, and it's not alwaysa favorite of mine, by the way.
I don't really love to seeapparition.
Sometimes it can come in as amist, like a cloudy mist, light
(27:06):
sprigs If you're mediums outthere and you know what I'm
talking about little sprigs oflight, sprites of light sprakes
I don't know what the word is,but a little like that, little
bursts of light.
I can see that.
But usually when I'm readingsomebody I'm not looking for
that because it's a distraction.
Quite honestly.
What I'm looking for is wherethey're drawing to me.
So are they drawing me to yourmother's side of the family?
Are they drawing me to yourfather's side of the family?
(27:27):
Am I above you?
So am I reading someone older?
Am I to your side?
So is it a contemporary?
Is it below you?
Children and pets, things likethat.
The next step is that I wouldstart to feel what information
is coming through.
So, now that I've honed in onan area.
What information is comingthrough?
Am I being?
I've honed in on an area.
What information is comingthrough?
Am I being like?
(27:48):
So, right now I'm being broughtto an energy that's lower than
you and I'm feeling like lots ofproblems with digestion, lots
of problems in the stomach area,lots of, lots of.
They're kind of making itreally solid.
This might be your dog that I'mstarting to pick up on Right
and you know, talking about notbeing able to eat, talking about
that being really annoying, youknow at that time, and so
(28:10):
that's how I start, and they'lljust sort of put the breadcrumbs
out for me and I just my job isto not orchestrate all of that.
My guides orchestrate that.
My job is to just follow thebreadcrumbs that they give me
and then translate thatinformation over with care,
concern and compassion.
And it is your dog that'scoming up for me as I'm reading.
(28:34):
So, yeah, so you know, becausenow I'm explaining it.
So of course, I open up rightaway.
Right, because I'm starting tojust use my psychic senses, my
mediumship senses and all thethings like senses, my
mediumship senses and all thethings Very, very happy dog, by
the way Like hard tail, likereally like the butt goes back
(28:59):
and forth super, super fast.
And Harper talking about is thisokay that we kind of do this
part?
Okay?
Harper talking about, let herknow I was breathing peacefully,
wants to bring something upabout the breath and having a
peaceful moment, so, even thoughwe might see what the body was
going through, she right, harperreally wants you to know how
peaceful she felt.
(29:20):
And I don't know about you, butI was face-to-face with my dog
as he was passing and so she putyou face-to-face like that and
she said even her paws feelbetter.
There's something about youunderstand?
Sabrina Soto (29:36):
Look what I have right here.
It was I had to put socks onher at the end of her life and I
have, and I smell it still.
Maryann DiMarco (29:42):
Oh, it's so sweet.
So she said even my paws feelbetter.
Even my paws feel better yeah.
She's fine you know the thingabout them is that they're all
fine.
It's us that are sitting heregoing.
Sabrina Soto (29:56):
Oh, honestly, a lot of the grief came from shame
, not shame, guilt, guilt of.
After she passed and she tookher last breath, this guttural
scream came out of my body thatI had never heard before and I
felt bad, like poor thing wasjust passing and I'm like
screaming in her ear.
You know, yeah, those humanthings that we do to ourselves,
(30:19):
that are so silly.
Maryann DiMarco (30:21):
Well, you know, grief is grief and I think that
we have to remember that it'sokay to express that grief
however we like and that it'sincredibly personal that no one
can tell us how to grieve.
What I always want to tellpeople is that, however we have
chosen to do that, know thatyour loved one understands
(30:44):
there's no judgment.
Know that your loved oneunderstands there's no judgment.
You didn't affect their passingin any way by the way that you
chose to grieve.
Their passing is veryindividual and it is incredibly
personal and it is theirs.
However, the love that you gaveher, that cheek to cheek,
everything you gave her, sheexperienced, I always tell
people, often loved ones willshow me rubbing of the hands or
(31:07):
music playing or the familyaround, and that love, or I give
you now permission to go.
I've heard that a lot.
All the things that we give ourloved one is totally accepted
and absolutely beautiful.
But how we experience it yourguttural cry, the anger I have a
friend whose husband passed soyoung and she's pissed off.
I don't blame her, I'm like go,go be angry, that's okay.
(31:29):
It's okay to be angry, it'sokay to have a guttural scream.
We just want to be able tocoexist with our grief and just
try not to let it overtake youwho you are in the moment.
You know that's really all.
Stay above water as best youcan.
I stayed home.
I stayed home for a few days.
Sabrina Soto (31:44):
You need it too, water as best you can.
I stayed home.
I stayed home for a few days.
You talk about like you sayingthat you caution against using
like a magic eight ball oranything like that, or even like
, well, I say, I'm not yourmagic eight ball, right, right,
yeah, even some psychics too.
So tell me a little bit aboutthat.
Maryann DiMarco (32:04):
I highly encourage people to go to a
psychic medium if they feel socalled to do.
What I don't want, or what Iencourage people to do honestly,
is to not rely on a psychicmedium for your answers.
Why?
Because we have the answerswithin ourselves, because we
ourselves have the ability tofind those answers.
That's the point, if you wantto go to a psychic.
(32:26):
When I first started doingreadings, people would say to me
oh, can I come back next month?
And I'd say, no, I'll see younext year.
I didn't really understand thatand what it felt like was that
they were looking to me throughspirit of course to give them
their next point of action, ofsome sort yeah yeah, your next
step and right out of the gate.
(32:48):
When I started working withSpirit, it was a no for me and
they made me feel that reallyhardcore.
And now I understand.
It's because I teach so much.
You have the answers within you.
You do not need to go to apsychic medium in order to
continue to get those answers.
By all means, go.
Go to someone word of mouth thatsomeone has had a great
experience with.
Have the experience, take inthe messages.
Hopefully you're getting atakeaway where you're learning
(33:10):
something or you're hearingsomething that brought you to a
space of healing in some way.
Whatever it is for you, I hopethe experience is fantastic and
then learn how to do that foryourself.
And then when you go to apsychic, it's validation.
All a psychic medium is doingis well psychic-wise, is
(33:30):
validating what you yourselfalready know.
If I'm giving someone anenergy-type psychic information
from their guides, usually whatthey're saying to me is yeah,
that makes sense, Because theyalready know this is separate
from mediumship, but theyalready know it to be true, they
already have this feeling.
So really, a psychic is comingin and validating what you
(33:53):
yourself know to be true.
It should sit well in the body.
You should be able to feel itphysically and mentally and
emotionally.
It should just sit well withyou.
That's all it is, and that'swhy I write the books that I
write.
That's why I wrote Media Mentor, it's why I wrote this book.
I want people to have thatempowerment within them.
Sabrina Soto (34:12):
We are the light Right.
We outsource a lot of our ownwisdom.
Maryann DiMarco (34:17):
And not only that, we can get habitual with
it, and that's really that's theconcern for me.
I think when you go to any typeof healer or psychic medium or
you're seeking spirituality inwhatever form works for you,
this is a tool.
This is supposed to be helpingyou build your own abilities,
sharpen your own tools, becomeaware of what your intuitive
(34:40):
self can do, and once you learnhow to do that, you will be
forever empowered.
Yeah, do, and once you learnhow to do that, you will be
forever empowered.
And so I think what I'm tryingto say is I'm just sort of
helping you put the empowermentback in yourself.
Don't ever give your power overto anybody else.
It's so true.
Sabrina Soto (34:56):
It's so true.
Just tap in.
You know what?
If you're listening to this,just be quiet for five minutes
of your day.
Maryann DiMarco (35:03):
Receive instead of reaching.
I always say when can peopleget the book?
They can get the book onamazoncom, barnesandnoble,
adhachetbookscom.
It's all over the place.
Sabrina Soto (35:17):
The guidebook if you're listening to this and
driving walking.
Of course, as always, I put itin the notes how you can get in
touch with Marianne.
I am just lucky that I get totext you if I want to.
That's because we're besties,and until next time, thank you,
Marianne.
Thank you so much for having me.
Maryann DiMarco (35:35):
I love you.
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