Relationships Let's Talk About It!

In this solocast I talk about probably the most important decision you will make in your life, choosing a partner. A strong match can amplify happiness, health and success for decades; where a poor one can drain energy, create chaos and affect children adversely. In the beginning when dating, date with intention rather than desperation or just entertainment. Know yourself well so you are clearer in what you are experiencing that is...

Phoebe Klaus, L.Ac, MTOM is a practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine specializing in pediatric and teen wellness. A joyful devotee of Mother Earth, she explores the deep relationships between people, plants, and the spirit that connects all living things. From her off-grid home in the Appalachian forest, Phoebe spends her days growing and processing herbs, tending her homestead, and learning from the wisdom of both nature and...

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny.

In this episode, Derek and I have a conversation about the importa...

In this solocast I talk about how love is a verb, it is in our actions. Possessiveness is usually guised in what people believe love is or in their ways they love. So we need to choose loving action over control. The idea that love is a verb emphasizes that love isn't primarily a passive feeling, emotion, or static "thing" you fall into or possess. Instead it's an active practice; a series of deliberate actions, choices, and behavi...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.

In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about a common but damaging pattern blame shifting and deflection. This repeated pattern creates a "blame game" or a criticize-defend cycle, where real issues never ...

Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, attorney, and author who helps individuals heal from infidelity and relationship betrayal on emotional, legal, and spiritual levels. A former attorney turned coach, she blends trauma-informed guidance, somatic attachment therapy, hypnotherapy, and intuitive insight to support both betrayed and betraying partners in rebuilding self-trust, repairing relationships, and living wi...

Dan Hadley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with over 36 years of clinical experience. Throughout his career, he has worked with a variety of therapeutic approaches, including Gestalt, psychodynamic, and systems-based therapies. He has practiced in diverse settings and worked with clients ranging from adolescents to adults. Dan's primary focus has always been on relationships—how we navigate both the challen...

Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops, and she co-facilitates couples retr...

When was the last time you said 'I'm sorry' and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feel sorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say 'I am sorry' when we feel embarrassed about mistakes or trying to appease another person.

The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must learn in order to build deep, meanin...

In this solocast I talk about allowing and accepting influence from your partner is one of the most powerful yet underappreciated ingredients in building a strong, lasting committed relationship. Couples who practice accepting influence experience; less gridlock, fewer escalating conflicts, greater emotional safety and trust, better co-parenting, and higher overall happiness and relationship satisfaction to name a few the positive ...

Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestalt Institute in Asheville.

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In this episode, Chris Ehardt and I discuss his experience of going through a home remodel for 4 years with his wife. Chris discusses the many factors that enabled he and his wife to navigate through trial and error to stay connected, respectful and loving through their home remodel. We identify and discuss such areas as communication, shared goals, negotiating and compromising skills, patience, celebration and realistic expectatio...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.

In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about the fear of confrontation. Most people aren't comfortable confronting others. That's normal. But if you avoid speaking up about your own needs that can lead to self judgeme...

In this solocast I talk about the desire to change our partner and how well that works (tongue and cheek). It is reasonable to expect personal growth and evolution within a relationship, but this should be a shared journey of self-reflection and mutual support, not a one-sided demand. People can change, and that is when they truly want to!

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Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny.

In this episode, Derek and I discuss how emotional immaturity isn'...

Phoebe Klaus, L.Ac, MTOM is a practitioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine specializing in pediatric and teen wellness. A joyful devotee of Mother Earth, she explores the deep relationships between people, plants, and the spirit that connects all living things. From her off-grid home in the Appalachian forest, Phoebe spends her days growing and processing herbs, tending her homestead, and learning from the wisdom of both nature and...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend.

In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about rejection. Rejection in relationships can be a deeply painful experience, often triggering intense emotional responses such as shame, anxiety, grief, and sadness. Individua...

Miriam Katz is an LA-based actor, writer, and public speaking coach. She performs improv comedy live regularly and has acted on camera and done voice over for film, TV, commercials, video games, and more. Katz has written about comedy for Artforum and the LA Times and also ghostwrites memoirs. She teaches comedic acting to teens and coaches professional adults in public speaking. Her show interviewing every one of her exes, The Ex ...

Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestalt Institute in Asheville.

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