Episodes
Self-sabotage can show up in any relationship: with our partner, boss, friend or, the one that hurts the most, in our relationship with ourselves! When you self-sabotage you’re holding yourself back from the person you want to be. Today I’m going to teach you why you self-sabotage, the surprising ways it can show up that you didn’t even realize and my 4-step process for stopping the sabotage and creating connection and trust in all...
Superman did it, but you can’t. The past is unchangeable. Period. End of story. The could’ve and should’ve clearly doesn’t help, but we do it anyway. What’s up with this destructive pattern and how do we change it? Today, I’m going to walk you through my 3-step process to stop regretting an unhappy past and start living in a happy now.
Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/regret-sucks-the-3-step-process-to-make-it-stop-2/
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Today I’m going to take you through the 5 most common ways caring too much about what other people think shows up in your life and my top 5 strategies for dealing with each type of situation. By the end of this podcast you’ll have real ways to move from caring so much what others think, to caring first and foremost what you think!
Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-caring-so-much-about-what-other-people-think-2/
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Grief and loss aren’t just about someone dying. Sometimes you’ll experience these feelings due to something out of your control like being fired or someone breaking up with you. Other times, you’ll experience these feelings even when you were the one in control. You might have voluntarily moved from your home or state, been the one doing the breaking up, decided to stop drinking and you can still experience these same acute feeling...
You can’t stop thinking about him. She’s on your mind day and night. You’re trying to distract yourself, but all you can think about is them! Trying to move on after a divorce or break up can leave you feeling anxious, frustrated, and even ashamed of yourself. Today I’m going to tell you the surprising real reason it’s so tough to move on (so you can stop being so hard on yourself) and then (as always) the 7 things you can do to fi...
If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years to have great communication in both your business and personal life, it would be what I’m teaching you today. These 3 things are the reason you’ve tried communication tools before and they haven’t worked. It’s because you’ve got to establish these 3 pillars first, and then you can create connection and understanding in all your relationships.
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It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner, friend or a work colleague -- it’s so easy to get defensive and butt-hurt when they’re coming at you with something they’re upset about. When you get into a fear-based emotion yourself, you end up with a conversation that spirals down and you both walk away feeling misunderstood, unhappy and disconnected. What’s the answer? You can listen without getting hurt and have a great outcome if you f...
Self-care is, above all else, paying attention to how you feel! You can exercise all day and get a mani/pedi every week but if you’re not feeling happier or calmer overall, what’s the point? All the physical self-care in the world won’t get you where you’re trying to go if you ignore your emotional self-care. If you’ve been struggling with figuring out how to create effective self-care, today's episode is for you. As always, I&...
Do you know someone who prioritizes their own needs over yours, with no apology? Maybe you feel like you can’t get their attention or feel like a priority? Do you often walk on eggshells around this person because they’re easily offended, and God forbid you give them feedback or criticism because they blow up? Or maybe you know someone who is always acting like the victim and blaming you when things aren’t going the way they want? ...
When you fall in love with someone you get more than just that person because they come with a whole community of friends and family. If you’re lucky, you find that these are all your people too. However, in many cases, you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like and wouldn’t choose to spend time with if it weren’t for your partner. Today I’m coming at you with the top 6 things you want to be doing if you don’t like your ...
I get asked a lot how to deal with judgmental and critical people. This is an issue for just about everyone, so today I’m coming at you with the 2 reasons people act this way and then my top 4 strategies for finding peace and calm, no matter what they say.
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Join me and NY Times Best Selling author, BJ Fogg, who talks about his amazing book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. Today you're going to learn the simple but effective tools to change some small things and get huge results. You won't need to make any New Years' resolutions because you'll already by already practicing great new habits by the time you ring in 2021!
The holidays are a time when many people throw their rules aside and end up with lots of overdoing: too much food, too much booze or drugs, putting money on credit cards for gifts and travel and trying to cram more into your days than the space-time continuum allows. Layer on top of that all the COVID hell and you’ve easily got a recipe for feeling like crap come January 2nd. I’m here to be your cheerleader today and give you an ea...
Figuring out how to deal with someone who’s struggling with drugs and alcohol is a topic for any time of year, but if someone you know seems to have a problem, the upcoming holidays are often a time when it’s going to really be highlighted. As a recovering drug addict myself, this is a topic near and dear to my heart. Today I’m giving you everything you need to know to approach any person who’s struggling with drugs and alcohol fro...
Today I’m talking about the five ways your family is likely going to drive you crazy this holiday season along with my top five tips for battling back so you can have a joyful, sane and connecting holiday season. And the best news? I’m not going to tell you you have to be grateful or appreciate anyone!
Full shownotes (plus "I Feel Exercise"): https://abbymedcalf.com/family-driving-you-crazy-during-holidays/
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Feeling lonely sucks! If you’re listening, it means you’ve likely experienced the pain of feeling lonely or isolated at some point in your life. Social connection is imperative for humans. It improves our mental well-being and our physical health. Studies have even shown that a lack of social connection can be more detrimental to your health than smoking or obesity! Well, today is all about answers. We’re going to dive into the sti...
Here we are in our last week of Goodbye Negative Thinking Month! For the last 2 weeks, I’ve been laying out the pillars of the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity: First, we discussed the importance of starting each day with positive momentum. Then last week I taught you the second pillar which was all about calibrating and being the dominant vibration in the room. Today, we’re going to discuss the last pillar of the Goodbye Negative...
When it comes to positive thinking you’ve likely got two big problems that I’m going to help you solve today: 1) You’re in a negative space too often and that’s affecting your relationships. Maybe your negative thinking has you feeling depressed, anxious, impatient or easily frustrated. This, of course, impacts everything from your communication to your connection in all your relationships. 2) You get into a negative space because ...
Do you have negative thoughts that you just can’t seem to stop thinking? If you’ve tried tools to stop negative thoughts and you haven’t been successful, then this episode is for you. The issue is that you’ve been going about stopping negative thoughts the wrong way. Namely, you wait until you have them, and then you try to stop them. There’s something I call the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity and, when you use it consistently, ...
I’m devoting this whole month to how to be happy now. I'll talk about how to stop negative thinking, how to start positive thinking, how to avoid the mistakes you’ve likely made in the past when you’ve tried affirmations and thinking positive thoughts, what the steps are for living happily in your now and how to make these changes and keep them for the long haul (and, of course, showing you all the research to back it up). Get ...