Summary
In this episode of the Right Side Up podcast, hosts Danielle Strickland and James Sholl engage in a profound conversation with Karissa Sovdi about the complexities of singleness within the church. They explore the societal and theological implications of viewing singleness as a problem to be solved rather than a valid and fulfilling life choice. The discussion touches on the idolatry of marriage and family, the importance of celebrating life milestones beyond traditional markers, and the need for genuine community and friendship. Karissa shares her personal journey of dismantling the ‘future wife’ identity and embracing the gift of singleness, while also addressing the burdens and misconceptions surrounding it. The episode concludes with practical advice for living a fulfilling single life and the importance of inclusivity in church communities.
Check out more from Karissa at Surviving Christianity Unmarried
‘I never really identified as a person; I identified as a future wife’
Takeaways
* Singleness is often viewed as a problem rather than a valid life choice.
* The nuclear family is idolized in North American Christianity.
* Celebrating milestones beyond marriage is essential for community.
* Eternal life and fulfilment can start now, not just in marriage.
* Celibacy and singleness can be gifts that allow for deeper connections with God.
* Friendship is crucial and often overlooked in discussions about singleness.
* Comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.
* The church needs to create inclusive spaces for singles.
* Marriage should not be seen as the ultimate goal or solution to loneliness.
* Practical steps can help individuals embrace and celebrate their singleness.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Karissa Sovdi
01:32 Exploring Singleness in the Church
03:50 Dismantling the Future Wife Identity
07:43 The Idolatry of Family and Marriage
11:02 Celebrating Life Beyond Marriage
14:41 The Gift of Singleness and Celibacy
18:50 Understanding Celibacy and Singleness
21:15 The Role of Friendship in Singleness
24:54 The Burden of Singleness in Church
29:37 Reimagining Community and Connection
32:11 Jesus’ Example of Singleness
35:17 The Crisis of Loneliness and Friendship
38:29 Practical Steps for Living Singleness Well
42:52 Conclusion and Resources
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