How I Overcame Lust After Battling For Decades

In this episode, we unpack the forgotten health principle known as “like heals like” — the idea that certain foods and natural remedies are designed to strengthen the very organs they resemble. From biblical wisdom to modern holistic practice, we explore how prayer, diet, and faith intersect in the journey of healing. We also share a powerful testimony of a mother who overcame a devastating diagnosis through a mix of natural medicine and spiritual resilience. Subscribe and leave a review!

Episode Transcript

(00:00):
The simple but not easy formula to kill and overcome lust now
now to be clear, this isn't any sort of software, dumb phone or
white knuckle restriction. This is a formula pulling from
ancient scripture that's worked for thousands of years to break
all sorts of addiction. And here's why this is
important. You see, lust is often quietly
destroying marriages, dating relationships, even the

(00:22):
spiritual vitality of believers.Lust promises freedom, but it
delivers slavery. It it looks harmless on the
surface, it even looks alluring and fun and friendly.
But just a click leads to a glance, then a moment, then a
pattern. But what starts as curiosity
often becomes a cage, and millions of us know exactly what

(00:47):
I'm talking about. The question is, why does
something that feels so pleasureful and private leave us
so powerless? And more importantly, how do we
actually get free? But before we get into that,
guys, my name is this is a topicthat's near and dear to my
heart. I grew up experiencing essay was
exposed to adult content very early, actually active early on

(01:10):
all throughout my high school years.
And the allure of lust and adultcontent is something that
followed me way too deep into myadult years.
But the good news is there's hope.
The good news is there is freedom.
The good news is there is not just a possibility, but when
you're walking in the principlesof scripture that we're going to
discussed today, I'd say the probability to free yourself

(01:33):
from all of these patterns that we know are not good for us and
that's why this channel exists is to encourage, empower,
inspire people to live a life that blesses God.
So if you're new here, let me know.
I like peeking into the commentssection.
I'd love to say hello to you. But either way, if you enjoy
this video, if you find it helpful, make sure you hit that
like and subscribe button. We found out a huge percentage

(01:53):
of the regulars that watch this channel, unfortunately, are not
subscribed, and we're on the verge of reaching 800,000 Subs.
I'd love to celebrate that with you.
All right, let's jump into the video.
All right, so in this video, I'mgoing to cover these three
points that are massively going to help you not just overcome
lust, but really any addiction you may be dealing with #1 We
got to understand the root #2 wegot to learn how to kill sin,

(02:14):
and #3 how to permanently defeatthis struggle once and for all.
So let's start with point #1 thewar inside.
In Romans 7, Paul is writing thechurch in Rome and he says that
I do not understand what I do for what I want to do I do not
do, but what I hate I do. Now some scholars say, oh, this

(02:34):
is Paul reminiscing about his past life, but I don't think
that's true. I think the reality is that
Christians, we still face this tension between new desires and
the new person that were createdin old patterns.
The idea that you may be wrestling with something,
struggling with something does not mean that you're not saved.

(02:55):
It means that the fight is real.And how do we know that the
fight is real? Is can you continue doing the
things you used to do before youknow Jesus without any of the
conviction now that you know Jesus, meaning that I believe
you know you're in Christ because you have the desires to
please him and you also hate thethings you used to love.

(03:15):
Let me drive this point home even more.
Paul writes a church in Corinth and in that letter he is
pointing out that they're still dealing with sin and they're
still tolerating sin in their myths, meaning that.
And 1st Corinthians three, he says that there's worldliness
among them. In First Corinthians 5, he says
that there is someone in the church even that is sleeping

(03:37):
with their stepmom. And 1st Corinthian 6, Paul lays
out all of the things that you shouldn't be doing and
practicing as a Christian. And then in First Corinthians 7,
he's telling him to not partake in temple prostate all the crazy
wickedness that is happening in their city.
So it's clear that Corinth was achurch that was dealing with
sin, sin of epic proportions. Yet in the entire book, he

(03:59):
doesn't tell them that they're not saved for wrestling with
sin. He tells them that if you keep
practicing this flippantly, well, you are on a dark path.
Now I think the deeper question is why do some of us stay stuck
in certain patterns and others seem to find breakthrough
faster? I think this is the core in
terms of getting to the root of these issues.

(04:20):
This is what I'm saying. In my life, I knew that because
of some of the issues in my childhood, specifically being
exposed to adult media very young, being essayed, dealing
with losing my virginity at a very early age, that this was a
stronghold that set up decades of habits and patterns that I
didn't really understand were habits and patterns until I

(04:40):
became an adult and discovered Jesus personally, but also
discovered the functional, healthy life that God wants me
to live in. Often times we're approaching
this conversation by just dealing with the fruit of our
sins instead of going to the root of why we are exhibiting
certain sinful patterns in our lives.
Is it because of something that happened to you when you were a

(05:01):
kid? Is it because you were S8?
Is it because you were exposed to something at a very early age
without any oversight? Why and how did you get here?
I think we go to two extremes insociety. 1 extreme is we over
pontificate everything and make everything a mental health thing
and the others we just stuff it down and act like mental health
isn't a reality, that trauma isn't a reality.

(05:22):
And the truth is we shouldn't over hyper fixate on the issues
for my childhood or the times we've been sin against but we
also shouldn't ignore them. That hey man oftentimes the
things that have happened to us,the times we've been sinned
against can have a lasting effect in our day-to-day life.
There may be also times where perhaps nothing did happen to

(05:42):
you, but you started dabbling insome weird occult like
tendencies, maybe playing Ouija boards, opening yourself up to
the spirit realm in a way that is forbidden in scripture.
And maybe there is a spiritual layer to which you're dabbling
in that it's not just in the physical, that perhaps there's
something in the spiritual that you need prayer for, you need
deliverance prayer for. So we can't go to 1 extreme or

(06:05):
the other. It's not just that, well, I'm a
Sinner. Yes, we're all sinners, but some
of us exhibit sin in different ways and some of us stay stuck
in patterns longer than we need to.
And it's because we didn't address the root of the issue.
We never examined How did we come this way, but here's the
cool part Scripture and the apostle Paul doesn't leave us
stuck in the struggle. He actually points to a way out.

(06:27):
We see this in the very next chapter, Romans 8, where Paul
points out in verse one that therefore, there is now no
condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus because through
Christ Jesus, the law of the Spirit who gives life has set
you free from the law of sin anddeath.
Meaning that because we're in Jesus, we don't have to stay
condemned. We don't have to stay in the

(06:48):
cycle of shame. That there is a pathway forward
that Jesus died for our sins past, present and future.
And now through that death, through that atoning work,
through the gospel, there is a pathway forward that just starts
with a mindset shift. I think so many of us have
bought in the lie that hey, thisis who I'm always going to be.
This is what I'm always going tostruggle with.
And the truth is, no, you don't.You don't have to stay stuck in

(07:11):
that cycle. Now here Paul gives us some
practical wisdom in verse 13 where he says if you live
according to the flesh, you willdie.
But if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body,
you will live. So here he is saying, hey, you
got to put to death the misdeedsof the body through the Spirit.

(07:33):
So the reality is none of us just drift out of sin magically.
We either kill it or it kills us.
Jesus also drove home this pointin a bit of a hyperbolic sense,
but I think it holds true for many of us today.
Matthew chapter 5 verse 28 He says.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has
already committed adultery with her in his heart.
If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw

(07:55):
it away. It is better for you to lose one
part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into
hell. And if your right hand causes
you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away.
It is better for you to lose onepart of your body than for your
whole body to go into hell. Jesus is saying that there's
consequences to our actions. And then Jesus is also saying,
hey, you have to wage war on this right now.

(08:16):
Again, I don't think Jesus is literally telling us to pluck
out our eyes and cut off our hands.
But what I think he is saying iswe need to be intentional on
waging war on our sin because ifwe don't kill our sin, our sin
will kill us. That may happen.
Literally. I know folks that have dabbled
in sexual oral behavior only to catch a disease that they will

(08:37):
never be able to get rid of. So the goal is to eliminate
those patterns before they grow deeper roots and bigger trees in
our lives. Now, how does that practically
look? Well, there's all sorts of ways
that we can wage war on our sin.For some of you, yeah, that
might require, like, getting ridof your smartphone for a while.
For others of us, that may look like deleting apps using the

(08:57):
screen time feature on your iPhone to eliminate the amount
of access you have to certain social media apps that may also
look like setting a passcode that only your friends or family
members have. That will limit the amount of
access you have on apps like Safari apps like Instagram,
TikTok, if you even need those apps to begin with, meaning that

(09:19):
if you are like super engulfed in lust inflaming with lust,
maybe you should take a break from Instagram and TikTok as a
whole. Maybe you should delete those
apps completely or if you can manage them and you've created a
healthy experience for itself byprimarily following Christian
sources and hitting not recommended.
When something is put before youthat essential, maybe you limit

(09:41):
the amount of time you spend consuming it.
So for me, I have approximately 30 minutes a day on Instagram
and then the only other way I can access it is if I'm on a
laptop or browser or a way bigger device, right?
So I limit my time on social media.
You could also set this up in the screen time feature where
you completely don't even have access to it.
Once that time limit runs out. Another thing that I've been

(10:02):
doing lately is just kind of building a better relationship
with my phone is limiting my phone so that it's not lit up
all day. And I got this big old shiny
brick that if I tap the action button three times and my phone
goes to grayscale, which makes it less pleasing to my eyes to
keep going back to my phone. And so oddly enough, it actually
makes me more productive and spend less time on my phone.

(10:22):
So I think limiting our interactions with these devices
is huge because sometimes you'rejust on a device, not thinking
about it late at night, you're tired, you're hungry, something
stressful happened and you slideinto to these sorts of things
not even initially intending to.So be intentional with how you
do this. Now, the second way to do this
is being in communities and in groups where you have a way to

(10:45):
properly confess your sin and tobe held accountable to the
restrictions that you're puttingon yourself.
This may look like joining a small accountability group, but
basically being in a place whereyou get to practice confessing
of sin. Because here's the deal.
The more you can confess those sins before they're full on
adult content and lust, the better you're going to be at

(11:07):
eliminating these things. Meaning you have someone in your
life that you can confess to thedesires of lust or confess to,
hey, I saw an attractive person out in public and I looked
longer than I should have and I thought a lustful thought like
having the space to confess thatwill often eliminate you.
Going deeper. You see someone in public,

(11:28):
they're attractive, then you go on Instagram and then before you
know it you've completely bingedand are completely checked out
and then go OFT and controlled by your sin.
Now .1 and two I think are superduper helpful, but all of this
is not going to get you fully free because you're really just
white knuckling it and you couldonly do that for so long.
So just stopping sin isn't enough.
You can uproot those weeds, but what happens if you don't plant

(11:51):
anything better? This is where we get into Romans
chapter 12 verse one and two, which I believe is the actual
blueprint on how to move forwardin this area.
Romans 12/1 and two says this. Therefore, I urge you, brothers
and sisters, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as a
living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God.
This is your true and proper worship.

(12:11):
Do not conform to the pattern ofthis world, but be transformed
by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test
and approve what God's will is, His good, pleasing and perfect
will. So yes, we need to understand
the root of our sin. Yes, we need to remove the sin,
pull the weeds out of our life. But if we don't do this next

(12:31):
step, which is to replace our sin with something better, we
will stay stuck and coming back to that same cycle.
And so in Romans 12, it says that we are to offer our bodies
as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God.
And this is a true and proper worship, which by the way, those
are guys that are like, what does it mean to bless God?
That's what this means. That's where it comes from, the

(12:53):
idea of living a life that blesses God, meaning this is our
true and proper worship. To bless God means to praise
God. That's all that language means.
Do not conform to the pattern ofthis world, but be formed by the
renewing of our mind. If we go to our Logos Trustee
Bible software, we hit study. This will take us to the
original Greek, which actually the word we discover is
Metamorpho, to be changed, be transformed.

(13:16):
This is where we get the root word of metamorphosis.
And so the Greek is telling us that to be transformed is to be
transfigured to be changed to besomething new than we were
before. The word metamorphosis is where
you see a butterfly becoming a butterfly after it's been a
Caterpillar. We see that same word used when

(13:37):
Jesus was transfigured in Matthew chapter 17 verse 12.
It says there he was transfigured before for them.
His face shone like the sun and his clothes became as white as
like this is the mountain of transfiguration where Jesus
takes as close as disciples and they see a transfiguration that
happens. By the way, not sure if you guys
know this, but Logos is also offering every single one of you

(13:58):
guys a free 60 day trial to their software, which I use
every single day. I use it on my iPhone.
I use it on the desktop, sometimes the iPad.
And so if you don't have logos, hit the link in the pin comment.
Get your 63 day trial. There's all kinds of other perks
involved. OK, so let's get back to the law
of replacement. And so the fresh part for me is
I think in Christian circles, weoften just emphasize the removal

(14:21):
of sin, the removal of devices. We do not emphasize enough the
replacing of the vices with better virtues.
And those virtues are foundationally, sometimes talked
about specifically. Hey, read your Bible, get
plugged into a local church, serve, give, be in a community
where you can confess your sins.But I actually think it has to
go deeper than that. I don't think we just stop

(14:42):
there. I think we got to go deeper and
replace plays, the unhelpful habits with purpose and service.
We have to replace isolation with healthy community.
We have to replace our aimlessness and our apathy with
godly ambition. Let me be even more specific.
What I'm going to say next is probably going to offend some of
you guys, especially those of you guys that are so heavily

(15:03):
minded you have no earthly good.Let me be even more specific.
Some of you just need to start going to bed earlier.
Some of you need to wake up earlier and get your butt to the
gym. Some of you you need to go
outside and touch grass. Some of you need to develop some
useful skills where you can be abigger asset to your current
employer. Some of you may need a new job.

(15:24):
Some of you may need a bit more education.
It can't just all be, I'm removing sin.
I know this is bad. I'm removing sin, I know this is
bad, but what are you replacing it with?
How are you going deeper? How are you aiming for God's
purpose, His assignment, and Hiscalling for your life if you're
just purging out the weeds but not plants and gardens?
I'm going to speak to the young men here right now.

(15:45):
So many young men that I meet inreal life, different events I
do, are just so defeated. They're so tired.
They they, they, they lack hope and then they wonder why they're
staying stuck. Your body is raging with
testosterone. You're going through hormonal
changes. You're designed to do more than
just doom scroll on Instagram orTikTok and hang out with your

(16:08):
buddies and play video games allday working a Joe job with no
direction. You have to go deeper than just
the surface level of this conversation.
You have to remove the sin and replace it with purpose,
assignment, calling, and virtue.This is why physical fitness is
important for so many of us. But you you refuse it because
you think it's going to make youmore vain.

(16:29):
You think if you're going to go workout, you're going to get too
buff and then you get too much attention from the ladies.
There is a chasm of a differencebetween what you look like at
$1.40 Who soaking wet and looking like The Rock, Dwayne
Johnson. Many of us just need to start
moving our bodies, start puttingon some muscle, start channeling
that testosterone and those hormones to not just stay in the

(16:50):
cycle because you're naturally wired as a young man to build
something, to do something, to work hard.
You get dignity from that. And fitness and health is
honestly just a simple metaphor that you can use to build the
confidence that if you can transform your body, you start
thinking, I could, I could transform anything.
I could start becoming more competent in my purpose.

(17:13):
I can start becoming more competent.
And as an employer, I could actually become a provider for
family someday. And that confidence compounds in
the same way that sin and vice compounds confidence and virtue
compounds when you do the thingsthat are hard because most
people aren't willing to do the things that are hard.
And I get it. We live in a rough time right

(17:33):
now, man. The deck may feel stacked
against you. The the wealth disparity is
increasing. Housing is getting crazy cost.
The living is getting crazier. So here's the deal.
You're in a season of life rightnow where you have the optimal
window before you're married, before you have a career, before
you have kids, where you can optimize your life for the next
decade. Don't squander this season.
Don't squander it. Don't waste it because you just

(17:55):
are stuck and and can't find anybreakthrough.
Start taking a step right now bygetting to the root of your
issue, by creating some parameters to remove the
temptation, and by replacing it with something better.
In the book Power of Habits, they describe this as a keystone
habit or a cornerstone habit. Oddly enough, the scriptures

(18:18):
actually refer to Jesus as the cornerstone as well.
And so for me, I had to discoverwhat that one cornerstone habit
was for me when I was dealing with this stuff.
What did I look like? Well, I was a musician at the
time and I was staying up late working on music until 2345 in
the morning sometimes. So the practical way that I was
able to change something, as I said, you know what, I'm going
to start waking up earlier because if I wake up earlier,

(18:41):
I'm going to be tired and not going to bed late.
And if I wake up earlier, I'm going to be more likely to read
my Bible, more likely to get exercise, more likely to start
my day productively and aiming towards Jesus, then letting it
just fall apart based on what mywhims are and my lack of
willpower. So just to fully circle back,
lust looks like freedom, but we all know it enslaves.

(19:02):
And at this point many of us know the true freedom is not
found in cliques or secret moments, but in Christ.
So don't just tear down the shrines of lust.
No, build altars of purpose. That's where real freedom is.
And and honestly, I'm tired of seeing this issue run ravaged on
so many men. And This is why I wrote my very

(19:23):
first book, Godly Ambition. I know, I know.
Shameless plug. Ruslan's trying to sell us a
book. Yeah, I am.
Because I've traveled enough andI've talked to enough of you to
know that so many of you are staying stuck because you don't
have a framework on how to buildthe life that you know Jesus
wants you to walk in. And I'm not talking about just
material success. I'm talking about a piece, I'm

(19:43):
talking about a joy, I'm talkingabout a fruit of the Spirit
that's only found in living out God's ways.
And so godly ambition gives you the framework on how to walk out
the law of replacement long term.
Because so many people, they tear down their idols, but they
never replace them with purpose.And so in the first few
chapters, I walk you through identity calling, why godly

(20:05):
ambition, the law of replacement.
And if you pre-order it right now, it doesn't come out till
September 9th, but those who pre-order it will get bonus
content. You'll get the 1st 4 chapters in
ebook. You'll get the 1st 4 chapters of
audio and video of me sitting onthis set reading it to you,
giving you some of the back story.
You'll get an exclusive podcast with me and Jonathan precluded.
You'll get 25% off to the Blessed God shop and you'll get

(20:28):
a Discover your Ambition and Calling worksheet that you could
do right on the spot. So hit the link in the pin
comment below, pick it up at your favorite retailer and go to
mygodlyambition.com to redeem those perks.
Alright, I'll see you over there.