December 6, 2023 • 37 mins
Have you ever wanted to get insights directly from a woman who has broken barriers in the medical field? Look no further! We're bringing you a candid discussion with Dr. Simone from Bravo TV's Married to Medicine. She spills the tea on her journey as a black woman in medicine and shares precious advice for women of color who are seeking an OBGYN who listens and cares. If you're a woman over 50, you'll find her insights on health concerns and life changes invaluable.
Health and wellness are crucial at every stage of life, and this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for women over 40. Dr. Simone shares her experiences with regular check-ups, screenings, and the importance of safeguarding against sexually transmitted infections. We'll also discuss personal experiences around hot flashes during menopause and how to navigate parenting adult children. If you're seeking a balance in your relationships and health, you'll find our tips helpful.
As a bonus, we'll pull back the curtain on the reality TV show Married to Medicine. Get to know what goes on behind the scenes, Dr. Simone's relationship with her castmates, and her advice on navigating friendships. We're also going to chat about the show's dynamics, and her own personal growth. Don't miss out on this enlightening and exciting episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
This is not a video.
When I was coming out, we hadto go outside the city.
We had to go travel, go out oftown, beat down doors.
This was the first time Billhas ever gone on this set.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
He said here comes the token.
This is not a video.
And out of my mouth I said Fyou, my friends, are asking for
positive women and you know,with family and business, it's
like you know that's what webring to the show and yet still,
it's like, oh, she's boring.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
It's my real story.
This is really who I am.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I build myself off a dollar and a dream, without a
man's help, without a basketballplayer, particularly the
patriarchal box says whitecisgender males have defined for
us should be how we defineourselves.
I didn't say it, that's whatwe're saying.
It's free to have you and thebulletin.
(01:00):
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
You are now tuned into anotheramazing edition of Sonya on Air.
I'm your host, sonyaHudson-Pain, and how do I start
off each and every singleepisode?
You guessed it.
I have another great show foryou coming up in just a few
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short moments.
I have the super talented andsuper smart Dr Simone, a Bravo
TV's, married to medicine.
Now, if you're a fan, like me,you've been tuned in from season
one.
But if you're just learning whoDr Simone is, trust me, after
this conversation you'll betuned in every single week.
So the focus of ourconversation will be why, as a
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black woman, did she decide toenter into the medical field as
an OBGYN doctor, especially whenwe don't see too many doctors,
black doctors, when black womenwalk into those rooms?
And we're also going to talkabout her presence on married to
medicine, as well as herco-stars.
(02:03):
So make sure that you staytuned in.
But before we bring Dr Simoneinto this conversation, do me a
quick favor.
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celebrity interview and packingtheir pivotal moments and
milestones, guess who'll be thefirst ones to know?
Guess you, you'll be the firstones to know.
So why don't we do this?
Why don't we just jump right oninto the conversation with Dr
Simone, a Bravo TV's married tomedicine?
Because I'm excited and youshould be excited to do it.
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So let's go Paging, dr Simone.
Paging Dr Simone.
How are you today?
How are you?
You have such a busy day andyou're still here.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, it is amazing.
I'm like that would be my luck.
I would have a patient in laboron a Friday.
I like to have my Fridays tomyself.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Me too.
I try to call it low stakesFriday, but sometimes it doesn't
happen that way.
It doesn't work out, does itNot at all?
But you know, I'm so excited tohave you in the sign you on
your studio.
But the first thing that Ireally want to talk about is you
being a black woman in themedical field, something that we
rarely see, and so many studiesare coming out about the
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disparaging treatment that womenof color are receiving when
they go see the doctor.
I want to ask you for someadvice for women of color.
What should they be looking forwhen they go see an OBGYN
doctor?
What are some red flags thatindicate this may not be the
right doctor for me?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I think the main thing when you go see an OBGYN
or any doctor in any specialtyfor that matter is making sure
that you have a doctor thatseems like they're not in a rush
, that you have a doctor who'sanswering your questions.
Be prepared when you go to thevisit.
If you're having a concern or aproblem, google it so that you
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can come in with a list ofquestions.
Have those questions writtendown.
We take our cell phoneseverywhere.
There are notes in the cellphones.
But just be prepared, beengaging.
Don't be texting on socialmedia doing your appointments,
and if you have a doctor that isnot listening to you, that
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doesn't want to take the time,it's time to look for a new
provider.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Those are good talking points and advice for my
listeners, because sometimes welook at you doctors, as the
gurus, as the gods, and you'regoing to lead us in the right
direction and, like I mentioned,studies are coming out that
women of color just aren'treceiving the treatment that
they deserve.
So I'm a seasoned woman of aparticular age I am 51 years old
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and I'm older than you and youlook good, girl, you look good,
Thank you.
So what should women who are intheir fifties?
What type of life changesshould we be on the lookout for?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
My favorite subject women over 50.
So first of all, we want tomake sure that we are getting in
to see a primary care provideras well as our OBGYN.
If you have a history of normalpap smears, you can do pap
smears every three to five years.
If you're changing sexualpartners, going through a
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divorce, going through a breakup, getting a new sexual partner,
you need to protect yourselfagainst HIV, syphilis, hepatitis
B, hepatitis C, goddaria,chlamydia, human papillomavirus.
Those are just some of thethings you need to be protecting
yourself.
But you need to be activelywith him, using condoms for 60
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to 12 months before you allowthat condom to come off.
But making sure that yourcholesterol is good, your body
mass index and your weight isgood, your EKG is normal, your
blood pressure is normal, yourblood sugar and hemoglobin A1C
are normal.
You want to make sure that, asyou are headed into menopause or
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through menopause which meansno more periods that you're
having a talk with yourgynecologist about, you know,
should you get a bone scan,taking calcium every day to make
sure that you don't developbone loss?
Those are some of those type ofconversations.
Over 40, you need yourmammogram every year.
Breast cancer is one in eightin this country, whether it runs
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in your family or not, and youjust want to make sure that
mentally, you're in the bestplace you could be, whether or
not you need to increase yourexercise, need to be on a
multivitamin, you need to beeating healthier as we're aging.
Sometimes you just might needto sit down with a therapist
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because work is too stressfuland you need to figure out how
to de-stress from work.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, you know, you ran a long list of things that
we should be looking out for,and I am already extremely tired
because it's hot no, no, butthis is information that we need
to know.
But there is one topic that myfriends and I are always
discussing, trying to find tipsand remedies and solutions for,
and it's these doggone hotflashes.
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Yeah about those.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
I love talking about hot flashes, so you're in the
right place.
But first of all, you want todecrease your caffeine intake.
You want to decrease youralcoholic beverages, because
those are helping to make hotflashes more aggressive.
You want to make sure againthat you're exercising and
you're eating healthy.
You want to decrease thosecomplex carbohydrates like bread
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, sweets, pasta, rice.
Those are all things that makehot flashes worse.
You can consider gettingsupplements like black cohosh to
see if they will help your hotflashes.
Soy supplements if you don'thave soy in your diet will help
your hot flashes.
Drinking more cold water willhelp your hot flashes.
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Keeping a little mini fanaround will help you in your
personal summer.
And then, if none of thosethings are working, sit down,
have a conversation with yourgynecologist about whether or
not you need more aggressivetherapy with actual medication
to help the hot flashes.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Those are all great tips, because I thought that I
had it figured out with the hotflashes, but those things that
you mentioned that I should notbe doing, I'm doing everything
that you said not to do.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yes, you have to cut back on that, you do.
You know that if you're goingto be at a holiday party and
you're going to have a cocktail,you also need to have some ice
water nearby.
Those are just some of thethings you need to do.
Great tip and dress cooler,sexier.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Yeah, yeah, you say, have a little pank top.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Lending is excellent, but they have all kind of
cooling sheets and coolingblankets now for your bed.
And I say go to bed in yourbirthday suit, so that you don't
have to wake up with a nicelittle sweater, right?
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
So these are all great tips, tools, resources,
because I'm finding that thisconversation for women over 50,
we're not really having them ina transparent and candid way.
So I really rely upon yourexpertise, because I'm a super,
super fan of you, dr Simone,thank you, thank you so much.
So thank you for the tips andthe solutions.
So we're going to just jumpright into it, because I know
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that so many of my listeners aretuned in to marry, to medicine
every single week.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Some days at 9 pm Eastern Standard.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Time and I am tuned in, let's say, about 8.40, just
sitting there waiting for 20minutes.
Let's go, every single thing,thank you.
So, oh, no problem.
Season 10 just started andwe're seeing you and your
husband, cecil, in kind of aconundrum with your young adult
children.
(10:31):
You feel as if they should moveout.
He feels as if they should stayhome.
Now I have an adult daughter aswell and we're going through
the same thing.
How are you and Cecilnavigating parenting with two
different types of opinions andapproaches?
Speaker 1 (10:49):
We have totally different parenting styles, but
because he's a male and becausehis mother spoiled him, he's
relating to them and he'swanting to continue to spoil
them.
I'm more the mean mom, tryingto get them to understand that
we're not gonna always be hereand they need to be prepared for
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this thing we call life and beable to financially support
themselves.
And the sooner they're able tofinancially support themselves,
the better right that I'll befeeling and off their backs.
But I have finally come to thatplace in my life where I'm
allowing Cecil to parent howeverhe wants to parent.
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I'm gonna parent however I wantto parent, and I try to do it
in a way where we're not at eachother's necks.
It's hard cause I wanna chokehim out sometimes.
Why?
Because how many years have youtwo been married?
27 years, wow, yes, wow, 27years.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
It isn't easy, it isn't easy.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The other thing is it's just taking this generation
longer to get it figured outfor the majority of them, and I
just have to let them be ontheir journey and just have
patience and not try tooverthink everything and not try
to control their every move.
But I'm gonna tell you like mytherapist told me one day honey,
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let them be on their ownjourney.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Anything you don't wanna pay for, just say no,
exactly, and that's the phase oflife that I'm in as a mother to
a young adult daughter.
I might just go right ahead.
I'm choosing my arguments, mybattles, focusing on my mental
health and my pH balance too,yeah, yeah.
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So, okay, we talked about theparenting and we kind of
broached upon your relationshipwith your husband and we saw the
ups and downs of a marriageevery season, a marriage to
medicine, and at one point intime in the season, you two were
going to write a book and thenyou stopped.
Can you please tell mylisteners what was the reason
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for you holding the book?
Because we were excited to readit.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, Ciso and I came up with this bright idea about
writing a couple's book andsharing with other couples about
our journey and some of thetools that we've used to make it
.
But, as you can see, we stillhave struggles that we have not
been able to get over.
Like our parenting styles,they're different and we're not
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ever able to come to anagreement, and I made a decision
last year that I didn't want towrite a book or do anything
that might actually tear usapart.
We just needed to continue tostrive to come together and work
on our marriage, and we reallydidn't need to be adding any
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stress or strain, and whenyou're working on a project
together, they're stressedbecause we have more
disagreements, even as simple aswhat the title of the book was
going to be, and so I just Ithrew the towel in and was like
I don't need another thing forus to disagree over?
Yes, we'll be fine without it.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
So being on the show and hearing the audience's
reactions or feedback, was thatanother reason why you two
decided not to write the book,because it was an additional
stressor?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
The audience is really not a stressor for us.
The audience is so supportiveof our relationship and they
give their feedback and I amalways open to constructive
feedback.
I often hear from the fans thatthey don't like the way I talk
to Cecil honey, but I'm likelittle, do you know?
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He deserves the way I'm talking.
But we have so much love andsupport from our fans,
especially our day ones, who'vebeen watching us from day one I
really wish we could have giventhem a book.
I felt like the fans were eagerfor us to write a book.
I just I didn't want to put mymarriage through another
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stressful thing of trying to getthis book out and I'm busy,
busy as an OBGYN wife, as abusiness owner.
Honey, I didn't have time and hewas stressing me about it.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
So, if your time frees up, do you think UNC Seoul
will revisit the conversationof this book?
And I'll ask you.
I'll tell you why I'm askingthis question Because, like I
said, we don't hear from toomany seasoned women talking
about the challenges and how tonavigate through those
challenges so that you can besuccessful in any space.
So, because we rely and wetrust and we love you, we kind
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of look at UNC Seoul like, ok,they have it together.
What are the ingredients totheir success?
So, if time frees up, will youto revisit the conversation?
I?
Speaker 1 (15:55):
think we can revisit the conversation.
But again, I think people justneed to understand that a lot of
what we go through, how we feel, how we navigate, is normal and
that feeling of wanting to filefor a divorce is normal.
But like you saw my breakdown,I didn't have enough sense,
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enough self-discipline to not gothrough with filing for a
divorce.
That's where you want to be ableto stop yourself.
And again, we will get to aplace one of these days where I
think we will be able to shareeither in couples conferences or
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even a couples book.
And we talk about doingpodcasts and doing couples
conferences.
I just don't have time.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I understand Because your relationship with your
husband, Cecil, like it,resonated with me.
My parents were married for 51years and I would always compare
their relationship if they weremarried to Fred Sanford and on
Esther.
But from the outside, lookingin, people would think like, oh,
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that's a toxic relationship andI'm just like no honey they've
been married.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
No, they make it work .
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Exactly so.
We need to see those nuancesbecause it's OK.
So, thank you, it is OK Withyour marriage on married to
medicine.
Now let's talk about some ofyour cast mates, because this is
like a smorgasbord of differenttype of personalities, but it
works so so, so, so good.
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So let's talk about Dr Heavenlyfirst.
Let's do it so.
Before, like last season,season nine, the cast had really
got on Dr Heavenly about heronline vitriol and she promised
that she was going to do better.
But now that we are in season10, I'm still seeing the
gossiping on the show, on socialmedia, on different podcasts.
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Where do you two stand in yourrelationship?
Because she said some hurtfulthings about you in the past.
Have you two been able to kindof come together and resolve the
deficits in your friendship?
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Heavenly and I are doing much, much better, but I
think part of it is justunderstanding.
She loves being on social media, her fans love for her to be on
social media and she's givingher unfiltered thoughts and
opinions on social media Right,and the thing is I try not to
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tune in when she's on there andshe's being negative, especially
when she's being negativetowards me.
But I try not to tune in onthat and focus on that Deep down
.
Heavenly is a good person.
She just so darn messy.
She's so messy.
I have a friend but you know,every now and again I call her
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up, like I heard you said, youknow, or somebody will send me a
clip or something she said.
But you have to let people bewho they are, accept them for
who they are and we all have ourgood and bad traits.
If I were a perfect person, shewould have nothing to talk
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about, about me right.
So we all have to accept eachother for our good and bad
traits, and we have to do thatall year round in every
relationship in our lives.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
That's true, accepting your friends or
associates for who they are, whothey are If.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
I called Heavenly right now and was like, girl, I
need you.
My child has said could youhelp me?
She would help me out.
If you need her and need afavor, she has a good heart.
She's there for you.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You just got that old messy mouth child, I know, but
I'm sorry you mentioned thatbecause sometimes television we
get the snippets of therelationship, the toxicity of it
all, and I'm glad that youcleared it up that you two are
two friends, no matter what youmay see on television.
True friends and truesisterhood.
We work it out and we acceptour friends for who they are.
So now accepting another castmember for who they are.
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A latest and newest addition tothe show is what's her name?
Leticia or Sweet Tea.
She's been sharing the nuancesof her relationship with Dr
Gregg.
What advice do you have forwomen who talk about the ups and
downs of their relationshipwith other women and other women
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they don't even know?
What advice do you?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
have.
So that would have been my keypoint of advice to Leticia,
which is girl you don't know DrHeavenly that well, and Heavenly
is going to run on down to theYouTube channel and dog you out.
Don't do it.
Don't give her any informationuntil you get to know her and
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you can honestly decide what youwant to share about yourself to
Heavenly.
And I think that Sweet Tea wasjust too naive, too naive.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Has she learned her lesson so far, though?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
She has, but she's mad about the lesson that she
learned.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
And what?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I'm trying to talk to her about is so much is just
understand the lesson, acceptyour part that you played in the
lesson and then understandHeavenly is who she is.
It ain't that deep move on.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Yeah, yeah.
So in the upcoming episode andI'm super, super excited for it,
Like I told you, I'm a true DieHard fan, my daughter and I
she's 28 years old I have hertuned into Married to Medicine.
I love that.
Every full Sunday at 9 PM onBravo.
Thank you so much.
Oh, no problem, good TV isundeniable, so you don't have to
thank me, like I should bethanking you for giving me good
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TV.
So on the upcoming episode,sweet Tea, she's going to talk
about the disconnect between herand Toya.
I'm surprised.
What is she going to reveal?
Can you share that with myaudience?
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Well, you know Toya Basi, she's Basi and Toya is
like a big sister to Tea andshe's my little sister, but
Toya's so Basi and the way thatshe tries to help you sometimes
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if you don't know her, it can beharsh.
And so, again, Sweet Tea isstill learning all of us and
that's where the disconnect isis understanding people's
intention and then justunderstanding that we got
baseline personality traits thatyou got to work around.
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I just think that Sweetie isstill learning the different
nuances in terms of ourpersonalities and how we roll
and once she gets that down, shewill understand Toya's heart,
Toya's intention and they'regoing to be fine.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
You got it.
Yeah, you know, friendships arehard to come through Exactly, I
think when people first meet meI'm straight cookie chaser,
like straight chaser.
You know it is what it is.
It is hard for people toacclimate to my personality, but
once they know who I am, theyfall in love with me.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Though that's so cool , you know, but ultimately just
be yourself and the people whoshould migrate and gravitate to
you, they will.
Everybody else can keep itmoving.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Exactly, show up authentically.
So that's another test.
Yes, let's talk about Ms Quad,ms Quad, ms Quad, why did Ms
Quad show up to thatbachelorette party?
She knew she was dead wrong fordoing that.
Did you talk to her about whydid she make that decision being
led by Phaedra Park?
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She should have known betterwhy.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Well, here is the thing.
She should have known better,but I think Quad was hurting
disappointed that we, as hergroup of friends, were even
allowing Letitia in the mix, andso she wanted to make a
statement, and I'll be done shemade an appearance that made a
statement.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Yeah, because I'll be honest, Dr Simone, if I was
your friend and you're buildingrelationships with my ex's new
boo, we have a problem.
Houston.
We have a problem, yes.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Well, make sure, if you're my friend and you don't
want me building relationshipswith your ex's new boo, that you
come around and you don't putme on ice, because when you put
me on ice, girl, I got you onice and I'm out here doing other
things.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Rolling on.
I know that Ms Quad had you onice for a few seasons.
Has the ice melted where youall able to sit together and
just drink some fine champagne?
Has the ice melted Well, I?
Speaker 1 (25:06):
need for you to continue to tune in, because you
will get to see where Quad andI, how, where we arrived to and
what place that is.
You have to treat people likeyou want to be treated, and I
love being a mirror to people.
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Ok, I'm going to give you thevideo and Quad would be no
exception.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
I get it.
I get it.
I'm reading between the lines,Mm-hmm.
So let's talk about because webriefly mentioned her name
Phaedra Parks, who is a newaddition to Married to Medicine.
We saw her on Real Housewivesof Atlanta.
Do you think her joining thecast of Married to Medicine is
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good for the sisterhood and therelationships amongst the women,
or do you think they justbrought her on because she's
just great?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
TV.
I think Phaedra superficiallyknew all of us.
Anyway, it was an easytransition and she's a
professional in this communityin Atlanta.
We all knew her, she knew of us, and so I think it was an easy
transition.
And Phaedra has a doctorboyfriend and so naturally, hey,
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if I were on the outsidelooking in, I'd want to be a
part of this group too.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Me too.
I want to be a part of thegroup.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
I mean, honey, as a doctor boyfriend, we can shoot,
I'm a fine one.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
I'm a fine one, I'm a fine one.
So I just have a few morequestions, like one or two.
I want to talk about MariahHuck.
Is that how you pronounce herlast name, huck Huck?
Yes, so she was previously onthe cast.
We saw the relationshipsbetween her and the woman kind
of dissolve on television.
I don't know what it's like inreal life, but she is still an
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executive producer With theexecutive producer title.
Is she's still connected to youas women in a positive way?
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I would say that she's not connected to us by her
choice and by ours.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Oh so it's just strictly the relationship
between what happens behind thescene bringing the show together
but not with the cast Correct?
So do you two have a friendshipor no?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
We do not have a friendship any longer.
I am not harboring any illfeelings towards her.
I haven't heard that she'sharboring any ill feelings
toward me.
Her daughter entered Spelmanthis year for college.
I continue to follow her onsocial media.
She continues to follow me.
We just don't have any contact.
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Sometimes you have.
You know there's a season wherepeople in your life and when
they're gone they're gone youdon't reconnect and we have not
reconnected.
But I'm not harboring any illfeelings towards Mariah.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Got it, but that's you know, another grown woman
ish.
Just because we have toseparate as friends, it doesn't
mean that there's any animosity.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
It doesn't mean that I mentioned it just going into,
our time has passed, our roadended.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Exactly.
The church service has ended.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Can we just say amen and move on Amen.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
So you know, I believe, that whatever
experience that you embark upon,you're supposed to grow in some
capacity.
What type of growth have youseen in yourself being a cast
member of Bravo TV's Married toMedicine?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
I'm so glad you asked that question.
I have learned how not to holdgrudges with my friendships and
in my marriage, to let some ofthat stuff go and to be a less
petty person.
I am so petty and I had no ideahow petty I am until I watch
myself on national TV and juststill trying to be a good
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steward of friendships and tonurture and honor the
friendships that are good to me.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
I love it and you know I didn't mention her before
.
But since you talked aboutnurturing the friendships, I am
so happy as a viewer to see therelationship and friendship
between you and Dr JackieAbsolutely Lunches that you have
where you're carving out timejust to talk.
That serves us so well.
So, dr Simone Paige and DrSimone, keep doing what you are
(29:30):
doing because you are soinspiring I mean personally,
professionally.
We're watching and we'rerooting you on.
So for those who are tuned into Married to Medicine every
single Sunday at 9 pm Eastern,why should they be tuned in?
Speaker 1 (29:47):
They need to tune in because we have real
relationships, the OGs.
We've been together for 10years and we're showing you how
to navigate in your relationshipor with your marriage.
We also sharing our challengeswith these kids.
We can learn from each other,so just tune in, get on social
media and let us know yourthoughts and comments.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
We will continue to support, we will continue to
cheer you all on.
Dr Simone, thank you so muchfor blessing and gracing the
sign on your space.
Like I said, I'll be tuned inevery single Sunday.
But, like I said, even thoughthe show starts at 9, I'm
sitting there at about 845, justpatiently waiting for the
(30:30):
amazingness.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
We appreciate you and thank you for interviewing me
today, truly appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Dr Hevlin.
You go back to ooh, not in,call you Dr Hevlin, it's okay
For today.
It's okay, dr Simone, you goback to being amazing and I know
you have a baby to deliver.
So because you carved out time,once again, I am truly grateful
.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Have a good holiday season, youtoo.
(30:58):
Take care, continue blessings,all righty, bye-bye.
So there you have it, dr Simone.
I can't believe I called her DrHevlin.
She's chat.
It's been a long day.
It's been a long day.
There you have it, dr Simone.
So we talked about so manythings.
We talked about if you are awoman over 50, let me tell you
(31:22):
something.
Our parents I'm talking to thewomen who are in their 50s Our
parents didn't talk about thehot flashes that will come.
They didn't talk about makingsure that your pH balance was
okay.
So if you are sexually activeexcuse me shout out, I'm burping
on If you're sexually activeand you have another partner
(31:47):
wait, what did she say?
Six to nine months before youtake off that condom, because
some of y'all just beraw-dogging it you meet him and
he tells you everything that youwant to hear, and then it's
just like no, protect, protect,protect yourself Because, like I
said, like Dr Simone said,changing sexual partners it can
(32:10):
interrupt your pH balance.
And I didn't even talk aboutthese diseases out there.
You could just walk by a personnowadays and it just seemed
like you're infected withsomething, if it's not COVID-19.
We talked about women of acertain age parenting young
adult kids.
It's not easy.
(32:31):
Like I mentioned before, I havea daughter who is 28 years old
and this level of parenting isso different, but what I've
learned to do, I truly pick mybattles Because at that age and
Dr Simone's two boys, they arein college, but I believe
they're like either in theirearly 20s.
I will say that theconversations are different.
(32:53):
Let them figure it out.
Parents, you've done your job.
The only thing that we arethere to do is support and
sometimes there will be somecorrections or feedback, advice.
Don't you do that moment butfor the most part, let them fly.
We've done so many years of theparenting, even though the
(33:14):
parenting doesn't stop, but wehave to start to decrease the
level of parenting but stillmaking sure that we are there.
She mentioned also about some ofher cast members and exploring
relationships, navigating therelationships and also
understanding that allow thepeople that you call friends to
(33:35):
be their authentic selves.
I was going to say something,but then I'm a thorough friend
of the bus so I won't say it.
First, the moments wherethere's ups and downs in
friendships with females inrelationship, intimate
relationships just allow graceand mercy.
(33:57):
Allow people to be who they are, if it's not too much of an
interruption to who you are.
Allow people to navigatethrough the relationships as
themselves.
And I truly do respect when Isee Dr Simone and Dr Jackie
carving out time during lunch tosit outside and just talk and
catch up.
(34:17):
I'm so glad they are back to abetter place.
But when I tell you this seasonof season 10 of Married to
Medicine, it is truly giving meand I'm sure you as audiences,
everything that we need.
We don't really see what seasonwomen, especially women of
color, on television and hearingthese candid conversations.
(34:41):
So this is why I'm tuned inevery single week and, like I
said, our parents didn't havethe conversations with us as
women who are over 50s.
This is why I introducedMarried to Medicine to my
daughter, because now it fostersthe conversation, it opens the
doors for a conversation so thatwe can have these teachable
(35:01):
moments about child when you getabout 40 something, the private
summers.
So now she, because at firstshe didn't understand why I had
to have one leg out under thecover and the window open and
the AC.
Now she kind of gets it,because now she's able to
(35:21):
witness other women goingthrough the same thing on
television, courtesy of Marriedto Medicine.
So great job.
Now, when it comes to thequestion that I asked her about
Phadra or was it Quart?
I would say Ms Quart, ms Quartand Phadra, you know really
being great additions to thesisterhood, or is it just
(35:43):
because they are great TV?
I think it's a combination ofboth.
Producers know, they know whoto put on the show and who not
to put out the show, because thegoal of every single producer
is to make sure that people aretuned in.
So Phadra and Ms Quart, darling, they are giving everyone what
they need.
They are adding more flair tothe conversations, to the
(36:09):
narratives on Married toMedicine, even though the flair,
you know it isn't always whatwe want to see, you know.
But it is great TV.
So make sure, like I said, thatyou are tuned in to Married to
Medicine each and every singleSunday, 9 pm Eastern on the
Bravo Network.
Also, make sure that yousubscribe.
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So this is what I'm going to do.
Sometimes I, you know, talkabout celebrity news and all
those things, but it's been abusy day and I'm sure you have a
(36:53):
busy day too.
So until next time, my loveSmooches, take care.
This is not a video.
When I was coming out, we hadto go outside the city.
We had to go travel, go out oftown, beat down doors.
This was the first time Billhas ever gone on this set.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
He said here comes the token.
This is not a video.
And out of my mouth I said Fyou, my friends, are asking for
positive women and you know,with family and business, it's
like you know that's what webring to the show and yet still,
it's like, oh, she's boring.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
It's my real story.
This is really who I am.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I build myself off a dollar and a dream, without a
man's help, without a basketballplayer, particularly the
patriarchal box says whitecisgender males have defined for
us should be how we defineourselves.
I didn't say it, that's whatwe're saying.
It's free to have you and thebulletin.
(01:00):
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
You are now tuned into anotheramazing edition of Sonya on Air.
I'm your host, sonyaHudson-Pain, and how do I start
off each and every singleepisode?
You guessed it.
I have another great show foryou coming up in just a few
(01:21):
short moments.
I have the super talented andsuper smart Dr Simone, a Bravo
TV's, married to medicine.
Now, if you're a fan, like me,you've been tuned in from season
one.
But if you're just learning whoDr Simone is, trust me, after
this conversation you'll betuned in every single week.
So the focus of ourconversation will be why, as a
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black woman, did she decide toenter into the medical field as
an OBGYN doctor, especially whenwe don't see too many doctors,
black doctors, when black womenwalk into those rooms?
And we're also going to talkabout her presence on married to
medicine, as well as herco-stars.
(02:03):
So make sure that you staytuned in.
But before we bring Dr Simoneinto this conversation, do me a
quick favor.
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celebrity interview and packingtheir pivotal moments and
milestones, guess who'll be thefirst ones to know?
Guess you, you'll be the firstones to know.
So why don't we do this?
Why don't we just jump right oninto the conversation with Dr
Simone, a Bravo TV's married tomedicine?
Because I'm excited and youshould be excited to do it.
(02:48):
So let's go Paging, dr Simone.
Paging Dr Simone.
How are you today?
How are you?
You have such a busy day andyou're still here.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, it is amazing.
I'm like that would be my luck.
I would have a patient in laboron a Friday.
I like to have my Fridays tomyself.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Me too.
I try to call it low stakesFriday, but sometimes it doesn't
happen that way.
It doesn't work out, does itNot at all?
But you know, I'm so excited tohave you in the sign you on
your studio.
But the first thing that Ireally want to talk about is you
being a black woman in themedical field, something that we
rarely see, and so many studiesare coming out about the
(03:33):
disparaging treatment that womenof color are receiving when
they go see the doctor.
I want to ask you for someadvice for women of color.
What should they be looking forwhen they go see an OBGYN
doctor?
What are some red flags thatindicate this may not be the
right doctor for me?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I think the main thing when you go see an OBGYN
or any doctor in any specialtyfor that matter is making sure
that you have a doctor thatseems like they're not in a rush
, that you have a doctor who'sanswering your questions.
Be prepared when you go to thevisit.
If you're having a concern or aproblem, google it so that you
(04:15):
can come in with a list ofquestions.
Have those questions writtendown.
We take our cell phoneseverywhere.
There are notes in the cellphones.
But just be prepared, beengaging.
Don't be texting on socialmedia doing your appointments,
and if you have a doctor that isnot listening to you, that
(04:36):
doesn't want to take the time,it's time to look for a new
provider.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Those are good talking points and advice for my
listeners, because sometimes welook at you doctors, as the
gurus, as the gods, and you'regoing to lead us in the right
direction and, like I mentioned,studies are coming out that
women of color just aren'treceiving the treatment that
they deserve.
So I'm a seasoned woman of aparticular age I am 51 years old
(05:02):
and I'm older than you and youlook good, girl, you look good,
Thank you.
So what should women who are intheir fifties?
What type of life changesshould we be on the lookout for?
Speaker 1 (05:19):
My favorite subject women over 50.
So first of all, we want tomake sure that we are getting in
to see a primary care provideras well as our OBGYN.
If you have a history of normalpap smears, you can do pap
smears every three to five years.
If you're changing sexualpartners, going through a
(05:40):
divorce, going through a breakup, getting a new sexual partner,
you need to protect yourselfagainst HIV, syphilis, hepatitis
B, hepatitis C, goddaria,chlamydia, human papillomavirus.
Those are just some of thethings you need to be protecting
yourself.
But you need to be activelywith him, using condoms for 60
(06:02):
to 12 months before you allowthat condom to come off.
But making sure that yourcholesterol is good, your body
mass index and your weight isgood, your EKG is normal, your
blood pressure is normal, yourblood sugar and hemoglobin A1C
are normal.
You want to make sure that, asyou are headed into menopause or
(06:28):
through menopause which meansno more periods that you're
having a talk with yourgynecologist about, you know,
should you get a bone scan,taking calcium every day to make
sure that you don't developbone loss?
Those are some of those type ofconversations.
Over 40, you need yourmammogram every year.
Breast cancer is one in eightin this country, whether it runs
(06:52):
in your family or not, and youjust want to make sure that
mentally, you're in the bestplace you could be, whether or
not you need to increase yourexercise, need to be on a
multivitamin, you need to beeating healthier as we're aging.
Sometimes you just might needto sit down with a therapist
(07:13):
because work is too stressfuland you need to figure out how
to de-stress from work.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, you know, you ran a long list of things that
we should be looking out for,and I am already extremely tired
because it's hot no, no, butthis is information that we need
to know.
But there is one topic that myfriends and I are always
discussing, trying to find tipsand remedies and solutions for,
and it's these doggone hotflashes.
(07:39):
Yeah about those.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
I love talking about hot flashes, so you're in the
right place.
But first of all, you want todecrease your caffeine intake.
You want to decrease youralcoholic beverages, because
those are helping to make hotflashes more aggressive.
You want to make sure againthat you're exercising and
you're eating healthy.
You want to decrease thosecomplex carbohydrates like bread
(08:06):
, sweets, pasta, rice.
Those are all things that makehot flashes worse.
You can consider gettingsupplements like black cohosh to
see if they will help your hotflashes.
Soy supplements if you don'thave soy in your diet will help
your hot flashes.
Drinking more cold water willhelp your hot flashes.
(08:31):
Keeping a little mini fanaround will help you in your
personal summer.
And then, if none of thosethings are working, sit down,
have a conversation with yourgynecologist about whether or
not you need more aggressivetherapy with actual medication
to help the hot flashes.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Those are all great tips, because I thought that I
had it figured out with the hotflashes, but those things that
you mentioned that I should notbe doing, I'm doing everything
that you said not to do.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Yes, you have to cut back on that, you do.
You know that if you're goingto be at a holiday party and
you're going to have a cocktail,you also need to have some ice
water nearby.
Those are just some of thethings you need to do.
Great tip and dress cooler,sexier.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Yeah, yeah, you say, have a little pank top.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Lending is excellent, but they have all kind of
cooling sheets and coolingblankets now for your bed.
And I say go to bed in yourbirthday suit, so that you don't
have to wake up with a nicelittle sweater, right?
Yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
So these are all great tips, tools, resources,
because I'm finding that thisconversation for women over 50,
we're not really having them ina transparent and candid way.
So I really rely upon yourexpertise, because I'm a super,
super fan of you, dr Simone,thank you, thank you so much.
So thank you for the tips andthe solutions.
So we're going to just jumpright into it, because I know
(10:00):
that so many of my listeners aretuned in to marry, to medicine
every single week.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Some days at 9 pm Eastern Standard.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Time and I am tuned in, let's say, about 8.40, just
sitting there waiting for 20minutes.
Let's go, every single thing,thank you.
So, oh, no problem.
Season 10 just started andwe're seeing you and your
husband, cecil, in kind of aconundrum with your young adult
children.
(10:31):
You feel as if they should moveout.
He feels as if they should stayhome.
Now I have an adult daughter aswell and we're going through
the same thing.
How are you and Cecilnavigating parenting with two
different types of opinions andapproaches?
Speaker 1 (10:49):
We have totally different parenting styles, but
because he's a male and becausehis mother spoiled him, he's
relating to them and he'swanting to continue to spoil
them.
I'm more the mean mom, tryingto get them to understand that
we're not gonna always be hereand they need to be prepared for
(11:12):
this thing we call life and beable to financially support
themselves.
And the sooner they're able tofinancially support themselves,
the better right that I'll befeeling and off their backs.
But I have finally come to thatplace in my life where I'm
allowing Cecil to parent howeverhe wants to parent.
(11:33):
I'm gonna parent however I wantto parent, and I try to do it
in a way where we're not at eachother's necks.
It's hard cause I wanna chokehim out sometimes.
Why?
Because how many years have youtwo been married?
27 years, wow, yes, wow, 27years.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
It isn't easy, it isn't easy.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
The other thing is it's just taking this generation
longer to get it figured outfor the majority of them, and I
just have to let them be ontheir journey and just have
patience and not try tooverthink everything and not try
to control their every move.
But I'm gonna tell you like mytherapist told me one day honey,
(12:18):
let them be on their ownjourney.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Anything you don't wanna pay for, just say no,
exactly, and that's the phase oflife that I'm in as a mother to
a young adult daughter.
I might just go right ahead.
I'm choosing my arguments, mybattles, focusing on my mental
health and my pH balance too,yeah, yeah.
(12:42):
So, okay, we talked about theparenting and we kind of
broached upon your relationshipwith your husband and we saw the
ups and downs of a marriageevery season, a marriage to
medicine, and at one point intime in the season, you two were
going to write a book and thenyou stopped.
Can you please tell mylisteners what was the reason
(13:03):
for you holding the book?
Because we were excited to readit.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, Ciso and I came up with this bright idea about
writing a couple's book andsharing with other couples about
our journey and some of thetools that we've used to make it
.
But, as you can see, we stillhave struggles that we have not
been able to get over.
Like our parenting styles,they're different and we're not
(13:27):
ever able to come to anagreement, and I made a decision
last year that I didn't want towrite a book or do anything
that might actually tear usapart.
We just needed to continue tostrive to come together and work
on our marriage, and we reallydidn't need to be adding any
(13:50):
stress or strain, and whenyou're working on a project
together, they're stressedbecause we have more
disagreements, even as simple aswhat the title of the book was
going to be, and so I just Ithrew the towel in and was like
I don't need another thing forus to disagree over?
Yes, we'll be fine without it.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
So being on the show and hearing the audience's
reactions or feedback, was thatanother reason why you two
decided not to write the book,because it was an additional
stressor?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
The audience is really not a stressor for us.
The audience is so supportiveof our relationship and they
give their feedback and I amalways open to constructive
feedback.
I often hear from the fans thatthey don't like the way I talk
to Cecil honey, but I'm likelittle, do you know?
(14:46):
He deserves the way I'm talking.
But we have so much love andsupport from our fans,
especially our day ones, who'vebeen watching us from day one I
really wish we could have giventhem a book.
I felt like the fans were eagerfor us to write a book.
I just I didn't want to put mymarriage through another
(15:09):
stressful thing of trying to getthis book out and I'm busy,
busy as an OBGYN wife, as abusiness owner.
Honey, I didn't have time and hewas stressing me about it.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
So, if your time frees up, do you think UNC Seoul
will revisit the conversationof this book?
And I'll ask you.
I'll tell you why I'm askingthis question Because, like I
said, we don't hear from toomany seasoned women talking
about the challenges and how tonavigate through those
challenges so that you can besuccessful in any space.
So, because we rely and wetrust and we love you, we kind
(15:45):
of look at UNC Seoul like, ok,they have it together.
What are the ingredients totheir success?
So, if time frees up, will youto revisit the conversation?
I?
Speaker 1 (15:55):
think we can revisit the conversation.
But again, I think people justneed to understand that a lot of
what we go through, how we feel, how we navigate, is normal and
that feeling of wanting to filefor a divorce is normal.
But like you saw my breakdown,I didn't have enough sense,
(16:17):
enough self-discipline to not gothrough with filing for a
divorce.
That's where you want to be ableto stop yourself.
And again, we will get to aplace one of these days where I
think we will be able to shareeither in couples conferences or
(16:40):
even a couples book.
And we talk about doingpodcasts and doing couples
conferences.
I just don't have time.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
I understand Because your relationship with your
husband, Cecil, like it,resonated with me.
My parents were married for 51years and I would always compare
their relationship if they weremarried to Fred Sanford and on
Esther.
But from the outside, lookingin, people would think like, oh,
(17:11):
that's a toxic relationship andI'm just like no honey they've
been married.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
No, they make it work .
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Exactly so.
We need to see those nuancesbecause it's OK.
So, thank you, it is OK Withyour marriage on married to
medicine.
Now let's talk about some ofyour cast mates, because this is
like a smorgasbord of differenttype of personalities, but it
works so so, so, so good.
(17:36):
So let's talk about Dr Heavenlyfirst.
Let's do it so.
Before, like last season,season nine, the cast had really
got on Dr Heavenly about heronline vitriol and she promised
that she was going to do better.
But now that we are in season10, I'm still seeing the
gossiping on the show, on socialmedia, on different podcasts.
(18:01):
Where do you two stand in yourrelationship?
Because she said some hurtfulthings about you in the past.
Have you two been able to kindof come together and resolve the
deficits in your friendship?
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Heavenly and I are doing much, much better, but I
think part of it is justunderstanding.
She loves being on social media, her fans love for her to be on
social media and she's givingher unfiltered thoughts and
opinions on social media Right,and the thing is I try not to
(18:39):
tune in when she's on there andshe's being negative, especially
when she's being negativetowards me.
But I try not to tune in onthat and focus on that Deep down
.
Heavenly is a good person.
She just so darn messy.
She's so messy.
I have a friend but you know,every now and again I call her
(19:00):
up, like I heard you said, youknow, or somebody will send me a
clip or something she said.
But you have to let people bewho they are, accept them for
who they are and we all have ourgood and bad traits.
If I were a perfect person, shewould have nothing to talk
(19:20):
about, about me right.
So we all have to accept eachother for our good and bad
traits, and we have to do thatall year round in every
relationship in our lives.
Speaker 2 (19:34):
That's true, accepting your friends or
associates for who they are, whothey are If.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
I called Heavenly right now and was like, girl, I
need you.
My child has said could youhelp me?
She would help me out.
If you need her and need afavor, she has a good heart.
She's there for you.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You just got that old messy mouth child, I know, but
I'm sorry you mentioned thatbecause sometimes television we
get the snippets of therelationship, the toxicity of it
all, and I'm glad that youcleared it up that you two are
two friends, no matter what youmay see on television.
True friends and truesisterhood.
We work it out and we acceptour friends for who they are.
So now accepting another castmember for who they are.
(20:15):
A latest and newest addition tothe show is what's her name?
Leticia or Sweet Tea.
She's been sharing the nuancesof her relationship with Dr
Gregg.
What advice do you have forwomen who talk about the ups and
downs of their relationshipwith other women and other women
(20:36):
they don't even know?
What advice do you?
Speaker 1 (20:38):
have.
So that would have been my keypoint of advice to Leticia,
which is girl you don't know DrHeavenly that well, and Heavenly
is going to run on down to theYouTube channel and dog you out.
Don't do it.
Don't give her any informationuntil you get to know her and
(20:58):
you can honestly decide what youwant to share about yourself to
Heavenly.
And I think that Sweet Tea wasjust too naive, too naive.
Speaker 2 (21:14):
Has she learned her lesson so far, though?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
She has, but she's mad about the lesson that she
learned.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
And what?
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I'm trying to talk to her about is so much is just
understand the lesson, acceptyour part that you played in the
lesson and then understandHeavenly is who she is.
It ain't that deep move on.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
Yeah, yeah.
So in the upcoming episode andI'm super, super excited for it,
Like I told you, I'm a true DieHard fan, my daughter and I
she's 28 years old I have hertuned into Married to Medicine.
I love that.
Every full Sunday at 9 PM onBravo.
Thank you so much.
Oh, no problem, good TV isundeniable, so you don't have to
thank me, like I should bethanking you for giving me good
(21:58):
TV.
So on the upcoming episode,sweet Tea, she's going to talk
about the disconnect between herand Toya.
I'm surprised.
What is she going to reveal?
Can you share that with myaudience?
Speaker 1 (22:12):
Well, you know Toya Basi, she's Basi and Toya is
like a big sister to Tea andshe's my little sister, but
Toya's so Basi and the way thatshe tries to help you sometimes
(22:33):
if you don't know her, it can beharsh.
And so, again, Sweet Tea isstill learning all of us and
that's where the disconnect isis understanding people's
intention and then justunderstanding that we got
baseline personality traits thatyou got to work around.
(22:53):
I just think that Sweetie isstill learning the different
nuances in terms of ourpersonalities and how we roll
and once she gets that down, shewill understand Toya's heart,
Toya's intention and they'regoing to be fine.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
You got it.
Yeah, you know, friendships arehard to come through Exactly, I
think when people first meet meI'm straight cookie chaser,
like straight chaser.
You know it is what it is.
It is hard for people toacclimate to my personality, but
once they know who I am, theyfall in love with me.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Though that's so cool , you know, but ultimately just
be yourself and the people whoshould migrate and gravitate to
you, they will.
Everybody else can keep itmoving.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Exactly, show up authentically.
So that's another test.
Yes, let's talk about Ms Quad,ms Quad, ms Quad, why did Ms
Quad show up to thatbachelorette party?
She knew she was dead wrong fordoing that.
Did you talk to her about whydid she make that decision being
led by Phaedra Park?
(24:03):
She should have known betterwhy.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Well, here is the thing.
She should have known better,but I think Quad was hurting
disappointed that we, as hergroup of friends, were even
allowing Letitia in the mix, andso she wanted to make a
statement, and I'll be done shemade an appearance that made a
statement.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Yeah, because I'll be honest, Dr Simone, if I was
your friend and you're buildingrelationships with my ex's new
boo, we have a problem.
Houston.
We have a problem, yes.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Well, make sure, if you're my friend and you don't
want me building relationshipswith your ex's new boo, that you
come around and you don't putme on ice, because when you put
me on ice, girl, I got you onice and I'm out here doing other
things.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Rolling on.
I know that Ms Quad had you onice for a few seasons.
Has the ice melted where youall able to sit together and
just drink some fine champagne?
Has the ice melted Well, I?
Speaker 1 (25:06):
need for you to continue to tune in, because you
will get to see where Quad andI, how, where we arrived to and
what place that is.
You have to treat people likeyou want to be treated, and I
love being a mirror to people.
(25:26):
Ok, I'm going to give you thevideo and Quad would be no
exception.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
I get it.
I get it.
I'm reading between the lines,Mm-hmm.
So let's talk about because webriefly mentioned her name
Phaedra Parks, who is a newaddition to Married to Medicine.
We saw her on Real Housewivesof Atlanta.
Do you think her joining thecast of Married to Medicine is
(25:51):
good for the sisterhood and therelationships amongst the women,
or do you think they justbrought her on because she's
just great?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
TV.
I think Phaedra superficiallyknew all of us.
Anyway, it was an easytransition and she's a
professional in this communityin Atlanta.
We all knew her, she knew of us, and so I think it was an easy
transition.
And Phaedra has a doctorboyfriend and so naturally, hey,
(26:21):
if I were on the outsidelooking in, I'd want to be a
part of this group too.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Me too.
I want to be a part of thegroup.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
I mean, honey, as a doctor boyfriend, we can shoot,
I'm a fine one.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
I'm a fine one, I'm a fine one.
So I just have a few morequestions, like one or two.
I want to talk about MariahHuck.
Is that how you pronounce herlast name, huck Huck?
Yes, so she was previously onthe cast.
We saw the relationshipsbetween her and the woman kind
of dissolve on television.
I don't know what it's like inreal life, but she is still an
(26:55):
executive producer With theexecutive producer title.
Is she's still connected to youas women in a positive way?
Speaker 1 (27:05):
I would say that she's not connected to us by her
choice and by ours.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Oh so it's just strictly the relationship
between what happens behind thescene bringing the show together
but not with the cast Correct?
So do you two have a friendshipor no?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
We do not have a friendship any longer.
I am not harboring any illfeelings towards her.
I haven't heard that she'sharboring any ill feelings
toward me.
Her daughter entered Spelmanthis year for college.
I continue to follow her onsocial media.
She continues to follow me.
We just don't have any contact.
(27:47):
Sometimes you have.
You know there's a season wherepeople in your life and when
they're gone they're gone youdon't reconnect and we have not
reconnected.
But I'm not harboring any illfeelings towards Mariah.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Got it, but that's you know, another grown woman
ish.
Just because we have toseparate as friends, it doesn't
mean that there's any animosity.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
It doesn't mean that I mentioned it just going into,
our time has passed, our roadended.
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Exactly.
The church service has ended.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Can we just say amen and move on Amen.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
So you know, I believe, that whatever
experience that you embark upon,you're supposed to grow in some
capacity.
What type of growth have youseen in yourself being a cast
member of Bravo TV's Married toMedicine?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
I'm so glad you asked that question.
I have learned how not to holdgrudges with my friendships and
in my marriage, to let some ofthat stuff go and to be a less
petty person.
I am so petty and I had no ideahow petty I am until I watch
myself on national TV and juststill trying to be a good
(29:01):
steward of friendships and tonurture and honor the
friendships that are good to me.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
I love it and you know I didn't mention her before
.
But since you talked aboutnurturing the friendships, I am
so happy as a viewer to see therelationship and friendship
between you and Dr JackieAbsolutely Lunches that you have
where you're carving out timejust to talk.
That serves us so well.
So, dr Simone Paige and DrSimone, keep doing what you are
(29:30):
doing because you are soinspiring I mean personally,
professionally.
We're watching and we'rerooting you on.
So for those who are tuned into Married to Medicine every
single Sunday at 9 pm Eastern,why should they be tuned in?
Speaker 1 (29:47):
They need to tune in because we have real
relationships, the OGs.
We've been together for 10years and we're showing you how
to navigate in your relationshipor with your marriage.
We also sharing our challengeswith these kids.
We can learn from each other,so just tune in, get on social
media and let us know yourthoughts and comments.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
We will continue to support, we will continue to
cheer you all on.
Dr Simone, thank you so muchfor blessing and gracing the
sign on your space.
Like I said, I'll be tuned inevery single Sunday.
But, like I said, even thoughthe show starts at 9, I'm
sitting there at about 845, justpatiently waiting for the
(30:30):
amazingness.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
We appreciate you and thank you for interviewing me
today, truly appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Dr Hevlin.
You go back to ooh, not in,call you Dr Hevlin, it's okay
For today.
It's okay, dr Simone, you goback to being amazing and I know
you have a baby to deliver.
So because you carved out time,once again, I am truly grateful
.
Thank you so much.
Thank you.
Have a good holiday season, youtoo.
(30:58):
Take care, continue blessings,all righty, bye-bye.
So there you have it, dr Simone.
I can't believe I called her DrHevlin.
She's chat.
It's been a long day.
It's been a long day.
There you have it, dr Simone.
So we talked about so manythings.
We talked about if you are awoman over 50, let me tell you
(31:22):
something.
Our parents I'm talking to thewomen who are in their 50s Our
parents didn't talk about thehot flashes that will come.
They didn't talk about makingsure that your pH balance was
okay.
So if you are sexually activeexcuse me shout out, I'm burping
on If you're sexually activeand you have another partner
(31:47):
wait, what did she say?
Six to nine months before youtake off that condom, because
some of y'all just beraw-dogging it you meet him and
he tells you everything that youwant to hear, and then it's
just like no, protect, protect,protect yourself Because, like I
said, like Dr Simone said,changing sexual partners it can
(32:10):
interrupt your pH balance.
And I didn't even talk aboutthese diseases out there.
You could just walk by a personnowadays and it just seemed
like you're infected withsomething, if it's not COVID-19.
We talked about women of acertain age parenting young
adult kids.
It's not easy.
(32:31):
Like I mentioned before, I havea daughter who is 28 years old
and this level of parenting isso different, but what I've
learned to do, I truly pick mybattles Because at that age and
Dr Simone's two boys, they arein college, but I believe
they're like either in theirearly 20s.
I will say that theconversations are different.
(32:53):
Let them figure it out.
Parents, you've done your job.
The only thing that we arethere to do is support and
sometimes there will be somecorrections or feedback, advice.
Don't you do that moment butfor the most part, let them fly.
We've done so many years of theparenting, even though the
(33:14):
parenting doesn't stop, but wehave to start to decrease the
level of parenting but stillmaking sure that we are there.
She mentioned also about some ofher cast members and exploring
relationships, navigating therelationships and also
understanding that allow thepeople that you call friends to
(33:35):
be their authentic selves.
I was going to say something,but then I'm a thorough friend
of the bus so I won't say it.
First, the moments wherethere's ups and downs in
friendships with females inrelationship, intimate
relationships just allow graceand mercy.
(33:57):
Allow people to be who they are, if it's not too much of an
interruption to who you are.
Allow people to navigatethrough the relationships as
themselves.
And I truly do respect when Isee Dr Simone and Dr Jackie
carving out time during lunch tosit outside and just talk and
catch up.
(34:17):
I'm so glad they are back to abetter place.
But when I tell you this seasonof season 10 of Married to
Medicine, it is truly giving meand I'm sure you as audiences,
everything that we need.
We don't really see what seasonwomen, especially women of
color, on television and hearingthese candid conversations.
(34:41):
So this is why I'm tuned inevery single week and, like I
said, our parents didn't havethe conversations with us as
women who are over 50s.
This is why I introducedMarried to Medicine to my
daughter, because now it fostersthe conversation, it opens the
doors for a conversation so thatwe can have these teachable
(35:01):
moments about child when you getabout 40 something, the private
summers.
So now she, because at firstshe didn't understand why I had
to have one leg out under thecover and the window open and
the AC.
Now she kind of gets it,because now she's able to
(35:21):
witness other women goingthrough the same thing on
television, courtesy of Marriedto Medicine.
So great job.
Now, when it comes to thequestion that I asked her about
Phadra or was it Quart?
I would say Ms Quart, ms Quartand Phadra, you know really
being great additions to thesisterhood, or is it just
(35:43):
because they are great TV?
I think it's a combination ofboth.
Producers know, they know whoto put on the show and who not
to put out the show, because thegoal of every single producer
is to make sure that people aretuned in.
So Phadra and Ms Quart, darling, they are giving everyone what
they need.
They are adding more flair tothe conversations, to the
(36:09):
narratives on Married toMedicine, even though the flair,
you know it isn't always whatwe want to see, you know.
But it is great TV.
So make sure, like I said, thatyou are tuned in to Married to
Medicine each and every singleSunday, 9 pm Eastern on the
Bravo Network.
Also, make sure that yousubscribe.
(36:32):
Make sure you subscribe toevery Sanya on the Xtreme
platform and on every channeland streams, of course, every
major streaming platform.
And if you're watching this onYouTube, make sure you hit the
notification button.
So this is what I'm going to do.
Sometimes I, you know, talkabout celebrity news and all
those things, but it's been abusy day and I'm sure you have a
(36:53):
busy day too.
So until next time, my loveSmooches, take care.
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