Part 2: Stop Blaming Yourself with Tamara Cooper

Dr. Rob and Tamara Cooper continue their discussion about codependency, boundaries, and the communal value of sharing your experience with others who have found themselves in similar situations. Tamara highlights the Empowered Women Retreat, a place for betrayed partners to heal in a safe and supportive space, as well as affordable options for healing for those who don’t have the resources for therapy.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:13] How does codependency fit into addiction and trauma betrayal? 

[4:15] Addiction is a disease that affects the whole family. 

[7:01] The model at Seeking Integrity is entirely supportive and judgement free. 

[9:37] Setting boundaries is an essential step toward help and healing. 

[11:48] Details about the Empowered Women Retreat. 

[15:15] The communal power of sharing your experience with others. 

[21:17] Where to turn when your spouse can’t be your go-to person anymore. 

[27:25] Offering love to your addict can give them hope in themselves. 

[29:05] Options for healing when you don’t have the resources for therapy.

 

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Seeking Integrity

Dr. Geoff Goodman

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Tamara Cooper

 

QUOTES:

• “Addiction is a team sport. You don’t just run the race, you drag the whole bench out with you.” 
• “If you haven’t walked a mile in the addiction shoe, I wouldn’t suggest you don’t talk about how the shoe fits.” 
• “When we set boundaries, that is the ask for help.” 
• “As addicts, they don’t feel worthy of love, and they can’t understand why anyone, especially the person they hurt so much, would still have love for them.  And that gives them hope for themselves.”