Your Habit Personality, Motivation & Why Knowing Yourself Changes Everything

One-Size-Does NOT-Fit-All! Ever wonder why some people thrive with strict rules… while others immediately want to do the opposite the second a rule exists? In this episode, Katie and Shailey dig into why motivation isn’t one-size-fits-all—and why so many wellness plans fail simply because they ignore personality.

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We explore three powerful frameworks that explain how and why people take action:

-The Four Tendencies

-Abstainers vs. Moderators (do you need clear lines or flexible lanes?)

-The Enneagram as a lens for understanding values, motivations, and internal drivers

 

This conversation is all about permission—permission to stop forcing yourself into systems that don’t fit, to design habits that align with how your brain actually works, and to realize that needing fun, freedom, or structure isn’t a flaw… it’s data.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so easy for other people but so hard for me?”—this episode is for you.

 

What You’ll Learn

• Why Upholders meet expectations easily—and why Rebels instinctively push back
• How Obligers can reduce resentment by understanding the why behind a task
• Why Abstainers love clear, black-and-white rules (and Moderators… don’t)
• How the Enneagram reveals deeper motivations—not just surface behavior
• Why customization is essential for sustainable habits and wellness
• How autonomy and choice increase follow-through (especially for Rebels)
• How pre-deciding rules can dramatically reduce decision fatigue
• Why “fun” isn’t frivolous—it’s often a requirement for consistency
• How honoring personality differences leads to better adherence and less shame

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