Stop Being So Realistic: Why You’re Playing Yourself By Playing It Safe [Solo]

#304: Is being too “realistic” keeping you stuck?

This week, I’m getting into something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately: how being “realistic” can actually be a form of shrinking our goals to fit our fears.

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking why being realistic isn’t always the wise or grounded choice it’s made out to be, and how it might actually be self-sabotage disguised as protection.

I also share some mindset shifts that have helped me stop shrinking my goals to fit what feels “safe” and start thinking bigger again—without spiraling into overwhelm. If you’ve ever talked yourself out of something because it felt too bold or too unlikely, this one’s for you.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why “being realistic” can be a trap
• How I’ve noticed it showing up in my own life
• What to do when your big goals start to feel too far away
• The difference between grounded strategy and self-sabotage
• Encouragement to stop playing small and dream a little bigger

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