September 16, 2024 • 13 mins
Can impatience and doubt actually fuel your growth rather than hinder it?
Align your expectations with reality and learn to use doubt as a signal to re-evaluate your approach and upgrade your mental and emotional frameworks to overcome past pain and achieve substantial, lasting results.
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Dawn Landrum CI, CH (00:00):
Have you seen the latest dog meme going
around that says if dogs coulduse Google, and then it gives a
list of things that they'dsearch for?
I can relate Is it legal tosplit treats in half?
Or how much cheese tax can Icharge?
(00:25):
And then the one that justreally got me squirrels near me.
Now, the reason why thistickled me so much is that's a
function I use quite frequentlyPatio furniture on sale near me.
Hey, we're changing the seasons.
I'm looking for value added ora new shampoo that the gal who
(00:50):
cuts my hair Barb was telling methat maybe I want to try out.
Okay, where is it near me?
The challenge I've had, though,is whenever I searched for
something near me and, forwhatever reason, there was a
snafu and Google tried to tellme yeah, here's where you can
(01:12):
find it, either in Washington DC, as in our capital, or
Washington State, but I'm inMissouri, that's Midwest of the
US.
It wasn't anywhere near where Iwas, and the same thing can
happen for us when we look forthe right answers, but in the
(01:36):
wrong places, and this isn'tyour fault, because at some
point, someone took away yourawareness of where you were and,
in its place, put where theywanted you to be, so that way,
they could manipulate you intogetting their needs met, but at
(01:59):
your expense Not your fault, butyou do have to take 100%
responsibility for being able tomove forward in a way that
gives you progress on a dailybasis.
I'll give you an example ofthis.
Just the client I was workingwith this morning said that she
(02:21):
was getting impatient with theprocess for the results that she
wanted.
Now there's a differencebetween results and resolution.
Resolution is something wherewe can close the door on it.
We no longer need to have it inour life.
Results, though, are continualsteps to be able to move into
(02:45):
progress in a way that brings usout at our best In the very
beginning.
Whenever I work with clients onwhat's known as the core four
that's, your first four sessionswhere we need to move you away
from the pain that has beencreated in your life and give it
a purpose for your progress weare getting resolution.
(03:06):
We're closing that door thatyou have to continue to live
that way, but then you got tomove into results.
Where do you want to be?
What do you want to experienceas far as immersion?
Those are the people, placesand things on a daily basis that
nurture and nourish, as well aschallenge and put expectations
(03:31):
on you and what it is that youcan take from a dream into
reality.
By the way, this is the reasonwhy I require a coaching call
with all of my potential clientsis because I'm not a fit for
everyone.
I will put demands on you thatsay, hey, destiny's calling, but
(03:58):
this is who you want to be toshow up to open that door.
Because if you showed up basedon who you used to be, you will
continue to pervert thoseopportunities to your past pain
instead of the expectations thatthey're going to produce
progress.
So we have to get resolution,we have to close that door and
(04:22):
not everybody is a fit for thatexperience.
That doesn't make me wrong, ora challenge with you.
This is the reason why we havethat coaching call to make sure
we're a good fit.
This Wednesday, I'll give youthis story of you have to set
(04:44):
your bottom with boundaries andrules on demands and
expectations, because if youstep down to your painful past
or the painful past of others,that's what will pervert your
progress.
So we'll be talking about thatthis coming Wednesday.
Okay, so she was getting upsetwith the process.
(05:10):
She felt like she wasn'tgetting results fast enough, and
we've already been through theresolution.
So she was having impatience.
But impatience didn't show upby itself.
Its partner was doubt.
As far as we should be upsetwith this and maybe we're wrong
(05:33):
Maybe what we're asking for istoo much and we need to step
down here's what's interestingis that impatience and doubt can
actually be of benefit whenused correctly.
Now, in her past, impatiencewould be that she would be
(05:58):
impatient with herself as far ashow much of a load and demand
others could put on her, and sheshould be able to handle it all
on her own Instead of goingwhoa, wait, maybe I'm impatient
here because I'm needing them totake on responsibility.
(06:21):
Remember how I said you couldbe looking for the right results
but in the wrong area.
You can't Google squirrels nearme if you're Thor, my dog, and
then wind up with squirrels thatare at a park that's a couple
of miles from here.
(06:42):
No, we want to see what's inthe backyard, miles from here.
We want to see what's in thebackyard.
So impatience?
Well, that could actually bereprogrammed, and programming is
based on the mental level.
Think of a computer and theprograms that it runs, and some
(07:04):
of your programs are incomplete,they're immature, they need to
be upgraded.
So impatience says well, it'snot just me, it's also the
people in my environment.
What do I need to be expectingfrom them?
Okay, and then doubt.
(07:27):
Doubt is an emotional state.
Doubt is conditioning, if youthink of conditioning like
working out and what type ofweight that you can handle.
And for women, that's one of myfirst recommendations as long
as their doctor gives them theokay is, are you using free
(07:49):
weights?
And the reason why I ask thatis because, as women, we're
really good at endurance.
Yeah, we can just go on and onand on with the same painful
problems, because your body alsoinforms your mind on how to
(08:09):
move forward.
And if all you've done iscardio with chaos, then your
brain will pick out the bestways to hold you back.
So doubt, doubt is all aboutconditioning and doubt.
(08:36):
When she said she was doubtingherself, I'm like okay, well, we
need to put a demand that whendoubt shows up, it can help you
lift something heavier.
So maybe you should be doubtingyourself.
Maybe your expectations are outof alignment.
Maybe, when doubt shows upcombined with impatience, we
(08:56):
need to be looking at you'relooking in the wrong place.
The doubt's trying to give youa message that this isn't going
to happen whenever you'reGoogling and it's coming from
the wrong location.
Now, whenever I work withclients privately, I always
(09:17):
customize this to what they'reexperiencing, and that's when we
looked at what was the upgradefor impatience and doubt, and it
was to be able to pivot forprogress.
I do know that not everyone hasthe ability to work with me
(09:40):
privately, for whatever reason.
It could be time investment, itcould be money investment, so I
wanted to let you know thatsomething is coming up.
I'm going to be opening thedoors in the next week or so.
That's going to assist you withthat.
Okay, so getting back to, it'snot your fault that you were
(10:08):
taught to think you were in thewrong location, but you're never
going to get to the resultsthat you want whenever your GPS
is set for self-sabotage,because what happens is you work
really hard and really long toget that resolution, to get
(10:30):
those results for someone else,thinking that you're finally
going to get what it is that youneed, but you wind up settling
for just the crumbs ofconnection, not the buffet of
benefits for yourself.
So what is it that we need todo to begin to refine that for
you.
And this is one of the reasonswhy not only do I relish in the
(10:56):
strategic intervention coachingthat we do together, where you
become aware not just of whereyou're going but where you are,
but then we use hypnosis to beable to upgrade those programs,
to upgrade that conditioning soyou can implement for impact.
It's the action for achievement.
(11:19):
So what is it that you need todo?
You don't get rid of thesymptoms.
Instead, you give thosesymptoms a better purpose, have
them show up.
The fact that where you callinto question on things, is this
(11:40):
right Instead of going?
Am I right?
Oh, what if I'm wrong?
No, ask yourself what's abetter question I can ask about
this.
What is wrong that needs to becorrected to bring me into
harmony and integrity with theexperience that I want to have.
(12:04):
So many times people are likeoh, what actions do I need to
take to get to this goal?
You want better answers, askbetter questions, and the very
first question you should beasking yourself after you set a
vision is who do I need to be inorder to experience that vision
(12:29):
?
And then the second questionmight be what symptoms have I
been experiencing that have beencreating pain, and how can I
give that pain a purpose forprogress?
So, until we get together again, it's time for you to start
(12:51):
looking for the right answers inthe right place, and the right
place is who you really are.
Have you seen the latest dog meme going
around that says if dogs coulduse Google, and then it gives a
list of things that they'dsearch for?
I can relate Is it legal tosplit treats in half?
Or how much cheese tax can Icharge?
(00:25):
And then the one that justreally got me squirrels near me.
Now, the reason why thistickled me so much is that's a
function I use quite frequentlyPatio furniture on sale near me.
Hey, we're changing the seasons.
I'm looking for value added ora new shampoo that the gal who
(00:50):
cuts my hair Barb was telling methat maybe I want to try out.
Okay, where is it near me?
The challenge I've had, though,is whenever I searched for
something near me and, forwhatever reason, there was a
snafu and Google tried to tellme yeah, here's where you can
(01:12):
find it, either in Washington DC, as in our capital, or
Washington State, but I'm inMissouri, that's Midwest of the
US.
It wasn't anywhere near where Iwas, and the same thing can
happen for us when we look forthe right answers, but in the
(01:36):
wrong places, and this isn'tyour fault, because at some
point, someone took away yourawareness of where you were and,
in its place, put where theywanted you to be, so that way,
they could manipulate you intogetting their needs met, but at
(01:59):
your expense Not your fault, butyou do have to take 100%
responsibility for being able tomove forward in a way that
gives you progress on a dailybasis.
I'll give you an example ofthis.
Just the client I was workingwith this morning said that she
(02:21):
was getting impatient with theprocess for the results that she
wanted.
Now there's a differencebetween results and resolution.
Resolution is something wherewe can close the door on it.
We no longer need to have it inour life.
Results, though, are continualsteps to be able to move into
(02:45):
progress in a way that brings usout at our best In the very
beginning.
Whenever I work with clients onwhat's known as the core four
that's, your first four sessionswhere we need to move you away
from the pain that has beencreated in your life and give it
a purpose for your progress weare getting resolution.
(03:06):
We're closing that door thatyou have to continue to live
that way, but then you got tomove into results.
Where do you want to be?
What do you want to experienceas far as immersion?
Those are the people, placesand things on a daily basis that
nurture and nourish, as well aschallenge and put expectations
(03:31):
on you and what it is that youcan take from a dream into
reality.
By the way, this is the reasonwhy I require a coaching call
with all of my potential clientsis because I'm not a fit for
everyone.
I will put demands on you thatsay, hey, destiny's calling, but
(03:58):
this is who you want to be toshow up to open that door.
Because if you showed up basedon who you used to be, you will
continue to pervert thoseopportunities to your past pain
instead of the expectations thatthey're going to produce
progress.
So we have to get resolution,we have to close that door and
(04:22):
not everybody is a fit for thatexperience.
That doesn't make me wrong, ora challenge with you.
This is the reason why we havethat coaching call to make sure
we're a good fit.
This Wednesday, I'll give youthis story of you have to set
(04:44):
your bottom with boundaries andrules on demands and
expectations, because if youstep down to your painful past
or the painful past of others,that's what will pervert your
progress.
So we'll be talking about thatthis coming Wednesday.
Okay, so she was getting upsetwith the process.
(05:10):
She felt like she wasn'tgetting results fast enough, and
we've already been through theresolution.
So she was having impatience.
But impatience didn't show upby itself.
Its partner was doubt.
As far as we should be upsetwith this and maybe we're wrong
(05:33):
Maybe what we're asking for istoo much and we need to step
down here's what's interestingis that impatience and doubt can
actually be of benefit whenused correctly.
Now, in her past, impatiencewould be that she would be
(05:58):
impatient with herself as far ashow much of a load and demand
others could put on her, and sheshould be able to handle it all
on her own Instead of goingwhoa, wait, maybe I'm impatient
here because I'm needing them totake on responsibility.
(06:21):
Remember how I said you couldbe looking for the right results
but in the wrong area.
You can't Google squirrels nearme if you're Thor, my dog, and
then wind up with squirrels thatare at a park that's a couple
of miles from here.
(06:42):
No, we want to see what's inthe backyard, miles from here.
We want to see what's in thebackyard.
So impatience?
Well, that could actually bereprogrammed, and programming is
based on the mental level.
Think of a computer and theprograms that it runs, and some
(07:04):
of your programs are incomplete,they're immature, they need to
be upgraded.
So impatience says well, it'snot just me, it's also the
people in my environment.
What do I need to be expectingfrom them?
Okay, and then doubt.
(07:27):
Doubt is an emotional state.
Doubt is conditioning, if youthink of conditioning like
working out and what type ofweight that you can handle.
And for women, that's one of myfirst recommendations as long
as their doctor gives them theokay is, are you using free
(07:49):
weights?
And the reason why I ask thatis because, as women, we're
really good at endurance.
Yeah, we can just go on and onand on with the same painful
problems, because your body alsoinforms your mind on how to
(08:09):
move forward.
And if all you've done iscardio with chaos, then your
brain will pick out the bestways to hold you back.
So doubt, doubt is all aboutconditioning and doubt.
(08:36):
When she said she was doubtingherself, I'm like okay, well, we
need to put a demand that whendoubt shows up, it can help you
lift something heavier.
So maybe you should be doubtingyourself.
Maybe your expectations are outof alignment.
Maybe, when doubt shows upcombined with impatience, we
(08:56):
need to be looking at you'relooking in the wrong place.
The doubt's trying to give youa message that this isn't going
to happen whenever you'reGoogling and it's coming from
the wrong location.
Now, whenever I work withclients privately, I always
(09:17):
customize this to what they'reexperiencing, and that's when we
looked at what was the upgradefor impatience and doubt, and it
was to be able to pivot forprogress.
I do know that not everyone hasthe ability to work with me
(09:40):
privately, for whatever reason.
It could be time investment, itcould be money investment, so I
wanted to let you know thatsomething is coming up.
I'm going to be opening thedoors in the next week or so.
That's going to assist you withthat.
Okay, so getting back to, it'snot your fault that you were
(10:08):
taught to think you were in thewrong location, but you're never
going to get to the resultsthat you want whenever your GPS
is set for self-sabotage,because what happens is you work
really hard and really long toget that resolution, to get
(10:30):
those results for someone else,thinking that you're finally
going to get what it is that youneed, but you wind up settling
for just the crumbs ofconnection, not the buffet of
benefits for yourself.
So what is it that we need todo to begin to refine that for
you.
And this is one of the reasonswhy not only do I relish in the
(10:56):
strategic intervention coachingthat we do together, where you
become aware not just of whereyou're going but where you are,
but then we use hypnosis to beable to upgrade those programs,
to upgrade that conditioning soyou can implement for impact.
It's the action for achievement.
(11:19):
So what is it that you need todo?
You don't get rid of thesymptoms.
Instead, you give thosesymptoms a better purpose, have
them show up.
The fact that where you callinto question on things, is this
(11:40):
right Instead of going?
Am I right?
Oh, what if I'm wrong?
No, ask yourself what's abetter question I can ask about
this.
What is wrong that needs to becorrected to bring me into
harmony and integrity with theexperience that I want to have.
(12:04):
So many times people are likeoh, what actions do I need to
take to get to this goal?
You want better answers, askbetter questions, and the very
first question you should beasking yourself after you set a
vision is who do I need to be inorder to experience that vision
(12:29):
?
And then the second questionmight be what symptoms have I
been experiencing that have beencreating pain, and how can I
give that pain a purpose forprogress?
So, until we get together again, it's time for you to start
(12:51):
looking for the right answers inthe right place, and the right
place is who you really are.
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