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April 25, 2024 9 mins

Your product or service was rejected? Was the answer to your proposal a resonating “no”? How about the deal you’ve put your heart and soul into didn’t close as expected? And what about your date that didn’t even bother to show up?

If you’re playing this human game on Earth right now, chances are that you’ve been rejected at least once thus far. I don’t want to spoil the enthusiasm, but I’m convinced most of you reading this have learned to cope with rejection.

Whereas some beautiful souls feed from rejection and have learned to transform this low-frequency vibration into something powerful, such as mental strength, emotional stability, and heightened awareness, others continue to suffer and deploy a variety of tools and strategies to alleviate the pain that surges from the word “no.”

The Power of “NO”

YES and NO are the most powerful words, aka spells, in the universe.

When you innerstand (that’s not a typo!) on a cellular level what I’m about to share with you now, you can alchemize all the “NO’s” that come your way.

YES and NO are the same thing. They reside at the end of the same spectrum. When we collapse the wave of “NO,” we get a “YES.”

Therefore, the million-dollar question in this 3D reality is this:

How do we collapse the wave? How do we turn a “NO” into a “YES”?

Here’s my short and sweet answer to that:

We do it by zeroing in on “push” and “pull”.

Now, let me elaborate on the concept mentioned above:

We live in a game of duality: Up, down. Left, right. Dark, light. Inside, outside.

While most of the time, we find ourselves bouncing around from one extreme to the other, there are those magical times when things seem to flow easily and effortlessly. This happens when we’re in balance. The chatter in the mind slows down or dissipates entirely, and we start to attract things into our lives at a fast pace. Unfortunately, these moments only last briefly as we are thrown back into the craziness of everyday life, paddling against the tides.

I’ve been in sales for as long as I can remember. As a child, I accompanied my grandmother to the local market, where we would sell seasonal vegetables and flowers. At this very young age, I was fortunate enough to experience first-hand the pros and cons of both push and pull strategies/techniques. Rarely would a customer show up who was a master of balancing the two.

Later, when I joined the corporate world, I witnessed the push strategy being deployed to the utmost extremes, harming sales and profits and destroying business relationships. When I transitioned to the entrepreneurial realm, I expected a more careful approach to the push strategy and a better integration of pull methods. My expectations were partly met. Both realms excel at the ends of the spectrum, and there is little understanding of the importance of balancing the two.

Operating from the Middle of the Infinity Loop

The most spectacular results are accomplished when zeroing in, aka balancing both push and pull. This goes beyond business; it applies to sports, dating, and life in general.

While push requires a lot of effort and willpower, it ultimately burns out the individual and the business in the long run. Pull is associated with magnetism and a clear intention of where one wants to go and take the business. A state of constant magnetism might seem desirable from the outside, but the act of “doing nothing” deprives the human mind, body, and soul of fully experiencing life on this beautiful blue planet.

Hence, it is essential to zero in on push and pull and thus achieve that state of flow the wise often speak about.

Of course, this isn’t a one-shot approach; we do it once and reap the rewards forever. It’s an ongoing process. It requires a growth mindset and the willingness to go deeper down the rabbit hole and uncover the essence of who we truly are.

Know thyself.

Easier said than done. It’s a process, beautiful soul.

Learn to weave your magical wand and transform the “no” into a “yes” or vice versa.

Play with the plethora of terminologies, colors, and vibrations across the entire spectrum of yes-no-yes. Lean into the zero point. Embrace the beauty of the entrepreneurial journey and all the amazing adventures you can experience in your human avatar.

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