Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast
Are you ready to Talk To Me? Join Debra Fileta, a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and bestselling author for an authentic, on-air, counseling-style show where we talk to people about how they are really doing on Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly known as Love & Relationships). Whether having a conversation with a caller from our hotline, or an on-air counseling session with a notable pastor or leader — each of these episodes is a raw, real, authentic conversation showcasing the best of counseling and psychology rooted in God’s Word. Each episode is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone! So if you're ready... Let's talk... Learn more at TrueLoveDates.com/TalkToMe
Episodes
September 17, 2024 • 34 mins
How many friends do we actually need? And does the desire to connect change through different seasons of life, or is it a sign that something is wrong? Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have Cindy from South Africa joining me on the hotline to talk about her recent journey with friendships, and her decreasing desire to connect with people. We process whether or not this is healthy, where it might be coming from, and how ...
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September 10, 2024 • 53 mins
Isn't it amazing how we can feel so disconnected, when our culture is more "connected" than ever before through social media?
Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have an on-air counseling session with Carlos Whitaker, and we dive into his feelings of disconnect from his friends and family, ironically, during the rise of his online connections on social media. He had a lot of "followers" on social media, but not many real "...
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September 3, 2024 • 35 mins
It’s book launch day for my new book Soul Care!! And I couldn’t be more excited to share this message with you. It’s a message about avoiding burnout, and staying filled. It looks at the 6 essential rhythms that Jesus practiced to care for his soul, and how we can do the same. I have no doubt it’s a message that will change your life like it changed mine.
I have been anticipating this day for so long, and it’s finally here!! So, t...
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August 27, 2024 • 38 mins
Is there such a thing as going TOO FAR with caring for our body? Though the church culture can be silent about caring for our body, the world seems to make too much of it. How do you know when you’ve taken it too far and then what do you do about it?
Today on the podcast I have an on-air session with Emily who feels like she tends to go TOO FAR when it comes to fitness and exercise, and wants to know how to find the right balance ...
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August 20, 2024 • 57 mins
We continue our Soul Care Series today starting with the rhythm of NOURISH. The functioning of our bodies impacts every other part of who we are, but it’s one of the most neglected messages in the church.
Today I have an on-air counseling session with fitness influencer Jasmine Mays, as we dig into her own story of learning to nourish her body after growing up in a world where she actually abused her body, without realizing it, by...
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August 13, 2024 • 37 mins
Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls?
Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book!
My first conversation is with Cy...
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August 6, 2024 • 56 mins
We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us… but what about the positive ones?
What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world… And then we have to lay it all down?
Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the crown of Miss universe… and realizing ...
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July 31, 2024 • 57 mins
How do you go from the adult industry to ministry?
What are the family dynamics, identity issues, and past trauma that go into someone entering the adult industry— and then how do you find your way out?
Today on the podcast, I have a vulnerable on air counseling session with Brittni De La Mora — as we talk about her transition into the adult industry, and then her transition out of it.
We talk about the darkness and pain in the adu...
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July 23, 2024 • 31 mins
Making friends can feel hard, and finding community can feel even harder….
Today on the podcast, I talk to Stephanie who recently moved to a new place and is looking for ways to connect with others and form community.
We often talk about the benefits of community, but we don’t always discuss how to practically create that type of environment.
If this is something you have been wanting to do, take a listen to this on-air session bec...
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July 16, 2024 • 48 mins
We don’t often consider the toll that full time ministry takes on pastors and leaders in the church.
The role of leading people spiritually also comes at a cost — and often times that cost can be great!
Today on the podcast I process this with Pastor Matt Brown, and specifically what to do when Ministry life is really hard.
In our on-air counseling session, we talk about what it feels like to have your life and family under a micro...
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July 9, 2024 • 44 mins
Heartbreak after heartbreak… you might know what it feels like to have your heart broken into a million pieces.
You might know what it feels like to have your heart broken by someone you thought you would be with forever.
How do you come out the other side of heartbreak?
How do you believe that God has good things in store for your life and for your relationships when all you feel is pain, rejection, and insecurity?
What can you do...
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July 2, 2024 • 26 mins
Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life?
Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships.
She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel… and is there a difference between those two things?
Is it anxiety, o...
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June 25, 2024 • 58 mins
How do you handle rejection?
Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust?
How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity?
This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection.
I he...
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June 18, 2024 • 62 mins
What do you do when you feel like you don’t fit in?
What do you do when you don’t even feel like you belong in your own family?
How can you take that feeling that you don’t belong, and turn it into something good… Something healthy… Something purposeful and meaningful?
This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life— and for good reason.
We talk ...
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June 11, 2024 • 31 mins
How do you date after the deep loss of a marriage? Is it possible to love again?
Today I talk with Diane who is a widow that is trying to heal her heart after the death of her husband. She’s having a hard time navigating the dating world now that she’s single in her 60s, yet hasn’t dated since her 20s!!
We talk about her grief, how to heal, and when to know you’re ready to date!
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June 4, 2024 • 59 mins
Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people… Dave and Ann Wilson!
I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years.
T...
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May 28, 2024 • 32 mins
Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren’t.
Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels.
She’s seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs…until it’s become problematic.
We unpack some of the relationships where...
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May 21, 2024 • 57 mins
Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!!
In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here).
In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history— and how it might be impacting what he does in the present.
Today on the podcast, we jum...
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May 14, 2024 • 33 mins
Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She’s wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships!
Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses…. And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal!
When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up — but that is also ...
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May 7, 2024 • 54 mins
Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf.
In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down.
In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about medical trauma, and how she has proc...
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