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Some days, we have to be the authentic voice that carries, especially when it's a message most people don't want to hear. We get to choose our words wisely and to whom we decide to share them with. We can deliver our messages based on the facts or the emotions of a situation at any given time, and should choose to stick to the facts over the opinions when we are making responses. When we are faced with someone bringing light to their own pain point, we need to acknowledge that hurt.

Communicate accordingly with appropriate questions and give wide opportunities for them to tell their side in their answer rather than agreeing with your direct assumptions. Sometimes it is THE words chosen to be said, other times it is HOW the words are said that can cause a negative response. Sometimes it's a person's reaction that becomes the source of anger or negativity more than the original comment. This confusion creates poor articulation, becomes ingenuine in nature, and their feelings aren't authentic because their reaction isn't the actual problem needing addressed most.

When you lead with emotion, you will automatically find failure. You cannot stoop to someone else's level and expect to come out on top. You have to lead with logic and remain calm above the emotional noise going on. Staying true to the facts will allow you to navigate to the win without falling into the reactive trap emotions pull us in to. Let factual information determine how you talk to people rationally rather than combat them in hopes of winning the "argument". You do not need to try to overcome stupidity with emotion, you conquer conversations by presenting them with facts they can't deny. 

Make sure the ground you stand on is firm and you are willing to die on it if need be, without engaging with irrational people who do not desire to see the clarity in the situation. Align with your beliefs and know your non-negotiables that you want to teach others. Allow the constructive criticism of others to be the opportunity for you to grow and become the best version of yourself yet.