July 31, 2023 • 19 mins
In this week's episode of the Brunch Hour podcast, we are excited to premiere our little sister Natice's upcoming podcast called "Talk Nice Tice," featuring Styles as a guest. If you're tired of navigating the complex world of gender roles and expectations in relationships, this podcast is for you. Natice and Styles take a deep dive into these dynamics, unraveling them one thread at a time.
Styles shares his own experiences, shedding light on the pressures faced by both genders. From discussing his personal checklist of desired traits in a partner to his own journey in understanding love, Styles provides refreshing insights that challenge the status quo.
In this episode, we don't shy away from the tough questions. Why are women judged when they fail to meet certain expectations? How do men interpret independence and masculinity? With Styles' candid reflections and exceptional understanding of the subject matter, we dissect these issues, emphasizing the importance of communication and setting boundaries.
Together, we aim to redefine age-old notions and advocate for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Tune in to "Talk Nice Tice" and let's challenge these stereotypes one conversation at a time.
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Natice (00:05):
You reach the tease the host from Talk Nice Tease.
Unfortunately I can't take yourcall right now, but please sit
back and relax and enjoy thisepisode.
If y'all could understand howmuch my producer bullies me when
it comes to anything I doregarding this show, y'all would
(00:29):
never believe it.
But you know what props to him,because every time I do a show
I get very nervous and I do slipup and I do mess up often.
But today I'm going to keep itsimilar and the same with myself
.
I'm going to keep it veryrelaxed To my topic.
Today we're going into multipleparts of how a niggazine shit
and how they have an obsessiveidea of a woman that they think
(00:51):
that we should be.
But that one's sinking.
My thing when it comes to thatis I do love when a man does
come to me as a woman and tellsme how a woman should be.
Multiple things that go wrongwith that.
For me personally, they werenot born.
You know XX chromosome.
They don't really understandcertain things that just go on,
(01:12):
but they have this very, veryset, definitive bullet points
that they require in a woman.
They have to do this, they haveto do that X, y and Z, a, b and
Z, but but when we have thesame things as women, sometimes
we get stereotypical words golddigger, etc.
Etc.
But in our favor and in ourbenefit I'll say that's what God
(01:36):
gave us, our gifts for,honestly, not going to lie,
we're just, you know, flauntingwhat we have.
But when we are not fitting theideal bullet points that our
men were, you know, talking to,I will say, things get very
different.
Their attitude tends to kind ofswitch up.
But examples being, let's givea personal example, let's do
(01:57):
that.
Someone has told me that I amtoo masculine to be in a
relationship.
Now, yes and no, yes and no.
And the reason why I say that?
Because at one point in my life, as we call now the soft girl
era, I gave soft girl era.
I gave lollipops and la-la-lansmy entire life.
(02:20):
But you have to get older atsome point and tragedy struck in
my life.
We'll get into that on anothertopic.
But I did change at one point.
And now what people perceive meas an adult?
Because you know the person I'mspeaking to about now we've
only known each other as adultsAt one point.
They know me as the soft littlela-la girl, and then the next
(02:41):
six years of their life untilthis day they've known me as
this hard masculine person, howI can't be soft, how it's going
to be hard for me to find a man.
My thing is how my mother raisedme.
I love her down.
Yes, I've had my past trauma soI have a little bit a different
outlook on how I will get intoand actually take how serious my
(03:03):
next relationship would be.
But I feel like the man has tomake me feel like I need to be
there.
Like certain things that Iguess are big deals now in
relationships I just requiremandatory, like certain little
respects go a long way.
There's a long list of them.
(03:24):
Ie my biggest thing people havean issue with nowadays
generational and millennial ZLiking photos.
That's a big thing for people.
Me as an adult woman, I don'tsee an issue with that.
But now, as a grown woman, if Ilike some other man's photos,
am I talking to them?
I like their stuff or something.
It's just perceived a littledifferently and that will get
(03:47):
you cut off Like that will getyou not into a relationship down
the line, depending on the dude.
My argument always is to peoplethat say or the person that says
that I'm a little bit masculineis when the right one is there,
I'll soften up and that shuthim the fuck up, because I guess
he thought in his mind that hewas up next in line or something
(04:07):
.
But if you still got me in thishard position and hard place
all the time, why do you thinkthat you're going to be able to
break that with your bulletpoints that you're requiring?
As a woman, I don't thinkthat's typically fair.
But let's get a perspective ofa male.
(04:27):
Let's see if that kind ofcounteracts what I'm saying.
We do have styles with us.
Introduce yourself on my lovelyshow please.
Styles (04:36):
Introducing myself.
This is not my show.
Natice (04:39):
Well, this is styles, and my producer as well.
Absolutely fabulous man.
He does it all and does it alltwice.
The floor is yours.
Styles (04:47):
My question yes, what's your question?
Natice (04:51):
Do you or did you have a specific set of personality
traits, characteristics for thewoman that you have today?
Styles (05:03):
I think that there's always a checklist First.
Secondly, can I discuss?
Actually, I don't even want todiscuss, I just want a slapbox
over the topic, like the subject.
Natice (05:15):
Right why I got to be ancient niggas though.
You know, because people canrelate to that and some people
will instantly gravitate towardthat Because they're like oh
yeah, I 100% agree.
That was just more of a socialNet to gather to catch some
people's eye or ear.
Technically, click bait, clickbait.
But technically it'll be airbait if you're here first.
Styles (05:36):
Well, this is my thing.
I think we need to stop doingthat, because every time I hear
it I'm like no, niggas, not thatniggas, ain't shit.
You just don't know how to pickniggas, and that's just what it
is like.
Your choice and you're going tothe supermarket getting rotten
tomatoes every time and you wantto complain about the like.
They're perfectly good tomatoesin that bin, but you keep
picking up these rotten fuckingtomatoes, bringing them shit to
(05:58):
him, and then you get mad.
It's not the supermarket, my,is you.
Is you back to your question?
Because my ADHD just kicked inmy fault.
What happened?
Natice (06:09):
I just Because the issue is, my ADHD kicks in too, but I
feel like that was the.
Styles (06:15):
That was a proper answer to one of my question Cool and
as far as like my chest list, ismy checklist Long and
distinguished.
So yeah, I want what I want.
I got what I want.
Natice (06:30):
Do you think that In the process of looking for your
wife that you had to let go ofyour past traumas to actually
find Actual you settled downlike actual true love for you?
Styles (06:41):
What's so ill is that, like I learned, I couldn't learn
.
Well, I couldn't learn how tolove Growing up in my household.
It didn't exist like that.
The way that it is, it existsfor me right now.
So, right now it's a little bitdifferently how I teach my you
know son, my daughter, my otherson, how to do it up it.
As far as like love isconcerned, I learned that in my
(07:03):
adult years, which is kind ofcrazy, which is why I, you know,
women are probably like niggasain't shit.
You know we, we're all dealingwith trauma, um, which is
probably why therapy such a bigthing right now, and I'm like
anti therapy for me personally,not for everybody else, but for
me.
I can't pay somebody to listento me and then give me
(07:25):
information about what theyheard, because it's not coming
from a personal perspective,like you don't know me, no, no,
no, which is fine, and I'm, andI'm with that a hundred percent,
like I'll quick Come to you andtalk to you about my problems
and I go you're gonna fuck yourdegree.
You know me, I get it.
(07:53):
Yeah, you are definitely theguard rails to life, but um,
come on, bit down to 80 dayskicking again, just so everybody
knows.
If you do here cause rolling by, we are definitely doing this
hood style.
Natice (08:07):
It's just urban.
Styles (08:09):
No, you know what, and I like the, the I'm you know,
right, exactly the ambiance andeverything is really young on
point.
Anyway, yeah, I'm sorry, that'sall right.
We're gonna trip each other up.
I don't know why you want me tobe a part of this, because it
helps me you be, it was gonnahelp me stay on track.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're talkingabout ancient niggas.
(08:31):
That'll bring you back, that'strue, oh, boom, perfect Actually
.
Natice (08:36):
But I personally even though I say that in that mm-hmm
, I am not always anti-niggas,though I definitely understand
and see physically that niggasdon't know how to love.
But because they didn't havethat growing up, they're not,
they're not, they're notknowledgeable how to do it.
But with that, I do say at somepoint, if you do want to have a
(08:57):
healthy and actual relationship, have it working, you have to
one see that there might be adifference in love language and
love communication.
I think those are two verydifferent things.
Styles (09:07):
Mm-hmm.
Natice (09:08):
That has to be Looked into and then actually applied.
I think people look into a lotof things but never really apply
.
So it's just like you're doinghalf the work right, and it's
not even half the work, it'slike maybe one fourth of it,
because you can talk all day,but if you don't apply anything,
you're not.
Nothing's gonna change.
That's a fact.
I don't believe they were ever.
Some people, excuse me, weren'tgrown up on love like me.
(09:30):
Fortunately, I was grown up onlove, so there's certain
requirements I have now that I'mlooking forward to in my male
partner that if that doesn't sitright with me, certain things,
just how you look at lifebecause of the way you were
raised.
I'm not saying I'm gonna X youout completely, but I know in my
mind you are not going to havethe emotional capacity to handle
me or be able to understand whyI'm so damn emotional.
Styles (09:53):
Look at you putting words together, forming
sentences that are cohesive andall of that.
That's what I'm talking about.
Can I ask you a question?
Because you did talk about somethings when I was actually
muted and I couldn't talkbecause people Even know I was
sitting here.
But oh, why are you single?
No, no, no, scratch that.
(10:14):
We're not even gonna do that.
Fellas, fellas.
I'm fighting back for us rightnow.
But you did say that the personthat you are talking to, things
that you're masculine, is it.
Does he say that because you'reindependent?
Because a lot of dudes that Alot of dudes are actually look
at independence as beingmasculine.
(10:36):
You know, they want you to wantor pardon, they want you to
need them but, me personally, Idon't.
I rather Independent woman, girl.
Exactly shit, if I fall, Idon't want to hit the ground,
necessarily, I want to be caughtright.
Hey, finish like.
Is that the case?
Natice (10:53):
I Think that's one thing of it.
He's not too open about hisgenuine.
Hear me out.
This is all me speculating,because I am an over thinker.
I be thinking about psych overtime.
I just overthink every littlething, every little thing and
it's the most healthiest thingyou can ever do in your life
analysis paralysis guy I'mlistening.
(11:14):
Um, I really don't know wherehis head at when it comes to me,
right?
But I know he talks a lot aboutspecific things that he wants
in a relationship.
I, I yes and no, so maybe thefact that I literally do
everything on my own might rubhim the wrong way, but then,
even when I let me ask you aquestion, yeah stop, stop, right
there cuz you gonna get reallong-winded with it.
Styles (11:36):
Don't want to when he said no, not, you're not.
I'd appreciate if you stopgrabbing your crotch when you
talk to me, cuz it's kind ofmasculine.
What was your response when hewas like at the moment?
The moment he was like yo, youask it?
First of all, I would nevertell, and respectfully never
(11:58):
tell, a woman that I'm courting,that you're too masculine for
me, because I don't want.
I don't want masculine at all,I want soft and supple.
So the moment that you exhibitcalluses on your hands because
you know I work out Jesus.
Nah, you out here buildinghouses with your bare hands, I'm
doing the man's job.
Natice (12:15):
I'm going to war.
Styles (12:16):
Yeah, I'm going to war and building houses, yeah like,
and that's not to say I don'twant you know again.
Independence it's key for meBecause I can't build with
somebody that's not independent.
I get that because then I'm thethink pad.
I don't want to be the thingthat.
Natice (12:34):
You're not wrong, though , but I've just never heard that
.
Styles (12:37):
Yeah, no, we're not doing that, but what was your
response?
Let's not get away from that.
Um, um.
Natice (12:44):
What is my response?
Styles (12:45):
because whenever what is ?
I want to know what happened inthat moment.
Natice (12:49):
Honestly, it was probably one of those bitch up
the fuck up tape shit, but isthat what you told us?
Oh shit, you see but this iswhy I get called masculine and I
understand.
But then there's just certainthings that are put in place.
I'm from New York, so we have adifferent lifestyle growing up
in New York.
Styles (13:08):
Well see, the thing is yes, but we also have tech.
Don't do that.
Fuck off here, don't do that,because the moment you grab your
nuts, I'm out.
Natice (13:15):
You see, all right, hear me out.
I'm not doing any of that.
I'm not portraying.
Styles (13:20):
You just said bitch, shut the fuck up, like that was
a.
That's not a thing.
Natice (13:26):
That makes you masculine .
Styles (13:28):
It doesn't make you masculine, but it does make you.
Natice (13:30):
It makes me a little strong, it makes you coarse.
Styles (13:32):
Like yeah.
Natice (13:34):
But don't say no shit like that.
For me to say that.
Styles (13:36):
I get it.
It doesn't make you masculine,though I don't want to.
I don't want to put that inthere.
Part two though it doesn't go,part two maybe my.
Natice (13:44):
Gemini sign Shout out my Gemini, best sign ever.
Their sign is just naturallymasculine, though, so when I did
some research on that Is itmasculine.
Styles (13:56):
Yes.
Natice (13:56):
No, no, no.
So it's like basically there'syin and yang to your signs.
My sign is masculine sign, notmeaning like all Gemini's are
male masculine.
No, no, no, it's just there.
It's just perceived a littlebit different on their day to
day actions, life course ofanything.
I got that from the app.
That was good.
Styles (14:16):
And you did well, because our retention as far as
like shit, like that- I'm tryingto be family.
Natice (14:22):
My thing is, what makes a woman feminine is her being
taken For me in my eyes, how Isee it, how I was raised up for
my family, a woman being takencare of emotionally and
financially.
Yeah, you don't have to be themost.
You don't have to be mytherapist.
I don't require that, no.
(14:43):
But you have to understandsometimes that I'm going to just
cry and be upset about somedumb little shit Not even little
shit just because I'm superempathetic about things.
And it's going to affect me alittle harder than most people.
Don't get an attitude that I'mstill sad about some three days
ago.
Styles (14:55):
I got you, coming from a real place, the potential in
this potential connection thatyou have with this person.
Don't whisper to me, god damnit.
Natice (15:07):
I'm whispering into the mic this is for all of them.
What they.
Let us say wherever this goes.
But I don't like to live mylife like that.
I like to plan everything.
I really don't know.
I really don't know, becausethe requirements be thrown me
off.
But then what he'd be sayinghe'd be like you want to do
(15:28):
something but you want a softgirl, but love you down boo.
Example being he'd be like Ireally want a strong ass bitch,
like a ride or die bitch, crazylifestyle.
I need to be told down.
When you think of a solid bitchshe's been through shit like
that's a real tough bitch You'renot thinking no, cookie cutter
ass bitch.
Styles (15:46):
Fuck this.
Listen, ride or die chicks.
Is that's a myth?
But it's not.
No, I'm talking about Becausewhen you say it, it depends.
Yeah, exactly, it depends onwhat setting you say it in.
Like if I'm in the hood they'relike go ride or die.
Like you want to hold my drugsand my guns.
Natice (16:00):
Yeah, like nah, you want to take this book.
Styles (16:03):
Nah, I was not raised like that, you know.
And ride or die, again, like Isaid, it's a myth because
everything is within reason.
You know, I'm not even when itcomes down to finances.
I'm not going to sit back andride with you on something that
I totally disagree with.
I don't give a fuck how muchyour heart is into it.
So yeah, ride or die is a myth,everything within reason.
(16:26):
That ride or die sounds good onwax.
Natice (16:28):
Everything, whatever Love it is, for that we can make
a new one.
Styles (16:32):
Yeah, that's a fact though.
Natice (16:33):
OK, I mean the idea of it is nice, I guess, and for a
woman's perspective, like, yeah,I wouldn't ride or die, but
you're dead ass.
Right, if you are giving meyour gun to put in the fucking
purse, first of all, you don'tgive a fuck about me.
Why would you put me in asituation like that?
Come on, be serious.
Styles (16:51):
Be fucking for real.
I feel like you just sent thetext in all cats, just bring the
sit down to level it too,because you literally I did as
yo, my heart went up too.
Yeah, all right Cool.
Natice (17:04):
I'm sorry, but like you know what it is, what it is, we
still love niggas out herethough.
Niggas still love bitches.
One day I'll find the man in mydream.
That's really going to make me,you know, a softie, but it's
probably someone.
I'm never going to know themfirst.
I'm going to meet them off therandom.
Congratulations to you, though.
It must be nice to be married.
Styles (17:27):
Al.
I'm going to say like yeah,because I'm not going to
perpetuate the other shit that'sgoing on out there.
Where you listen to a song,niggas is like, yeah, love her,
her, her and them Not thepronoun, them the actual them
All of those, not the pronounthose.
It's cute, yes exactly thebunch of I don't fucking know,
(17:48):
chell the alphabet police.
Please don't come after me, andyo I'm not going to do this on
that show.
Natice (17:54):
All right, thank you so much for coming on.
Styles (17:57):
Respectfully.
I have nothing against it,absolutely not.
But thank you so much, you'rewelcome.
Natice (18:02):
It was a great time.
Styles (18:03):
It was All right.
Natice (18:04):
Thank you guys.
So much for listening to usrants about nonsense and real
shit at the same time, so nexttime have a good night.
I'm sorry I missed you, but I'mglad you listened to the last
episode.
To keep in touch, dm me atTough Nice Tease and you can
also catch me when you catchyour favorite podcast.
And don't forget to like,follow and subscribe.
You reach the tease the host from Talk Nice Tease.
Unfortunately I can't take yourcall right now, but please sit
back and relax and enjoy thisepisode.
If y'all could understand howmuch my producer bullies me when
it comes to anything I doregarding this show, y'all would
(00:29):
never believe it.
But you know what props to him,because every time I do a show
I get very nervous and I do slipup and I do mess up often.
But today I'm going to keep itsimilar and the same with myself
.
I'm going to keep it veryrelaxed To my topic.
Today we're going into multipleparts of how a niggazine shit
and how they have an obsessiveidea of a woman that they think
(00:51):
that we should be.
But that one's sinking.
My thing when it comes to thatis I do love when a man does
come to me as a woman and tellsme how a woman should be.
Multiple things that go wrongwith that.
For me personally, they werenot born.
You know XX chromosome.
They don't really understandcertain things that just go on,
(01:12):
but they have this very, veryset, definitive bullet points
that they require in a woman.
They have to do this, they haveto do that X, y and Z, a, b and
Z, but but when we have thesame things as women, sometimes
we get stereotypical words golddigger, etc.
Etc.
But in our favor and in ourbenefit I'll say that's what God
(01:36):
gave us, our gifts for,honestly, not going to lie,
we're just, you know, flauntingwhat we have.
But when we are not fitting theideal bullet points that our
men were, you know, talking to,I will say, things get very
different.
Their attitude tends to kind ofswitch up.
But examples being, let's givea personal example, let's do
(01:57):
that.
Someone has told me that I amtoo masculine to be in a
relationship.
Now, yes and no, yes and no.
And the reason why I say that?
Because at one point in my life, as we call now the soft girl
era, I gave soft girl era.
I gave lollipops and la-la-lansmy entire life.
(02:20):
But you have to get older atsome point and tragedy struck in
my life.
We'll get into that on anothertopic.
But I did change at one point.
And now what people perceive meas an adult?
Because you know the person I'mspeaking to about now we've
only known each other as adultsAt one point.
They know me as the soft littlela-la girl, and then the next
(02:41):
six years of their life untilthis day they've known me as
this hard masculine person, howI can't be soft, how it's going
to be hard for me to find a man.
My thing is how my mother raisedme.
I love her down.
Yes, I've had my past trauma soI have a little bit a different
outlook on how I will get intoand actually take how serious my
(03:03):
next relationship would be.
But I feel like the man has tomake me feel like I need to be
there.
Like certain things that Iguess are big deals now in
relationships I just requiremandatory, like certain little
respects go a long way.
There's a long list of them.
(03:24):
Ie my biggest thing people havean issue with nowadays
generational and millennial ZLiking photos.
That's a big thing for people.
Me as an adult woman, I don'tsee an issue with that.
But now, as a grown woman, if Ilike some other man's photos,
am I talking to them?
I like their stuff or something.
It's just perceived a littledifferently and that will get
(03:47):
you cut off Like that will getyou not into a relationship down
the line, depending on the dude.
My argument always is to peoplethat say or the person that says
that I'm a little bit masculineis when the right one is there,
I'll soften up and that shuthim the fuck up, because I guess
he thought in his mind that hewas up next in line or something
(04:07):
.
But if you still got me in thishard position and hard place
all the time, why do you thinkthat you're going to be able to
break that with your bulletpoints that you're requiring?
As a woman, I don't thinkthat's typically fair.
But let's get a perspective ofa male.
(04:27):
Let's see if that kind ofcounteracts what I'm saying.
We do have styles with us.
Introduce yourself on my lovelyshow please.
Styles (04:36):
Introducing myself.
This is not my show.
Natice (04:39):
Well, this is styles, and my producer as well.
Absolutely fabulous man.
He does it all and does it alltwice.
The floor is yours.
Styles (04:47):
My question yes, what's your question?
Natice (04:51):
Do you or did you have a specific set of personality
traits, characteristics for thewoman that you have today?
Styles (05:03):
I think that there's always a checklist First.
Secondly, can I discuss?
Actually, I don't even want todiscuss, I just want a slapbox
over the topic, like the subject.
Natice (05:15):
Right why I got to be ancient niggas though.
You know, because people canrelate to that and some people
will instantly gravitate towardthat Because they're like oh
yeah, I 100% agree.
That was just more of a socialNet to gather to catch some
people's eye or ear.
Technically, click bait, clickbait.
But technically it'll be airbait if you're here first.
Styles (05:36):
Well, this is my thing.
I think we need to stop doingthat, because every time I hear
it I'm like no, niggas, not thatniggas, ain't shit.
You just don't know how to pickniggas, and that's just what it
is like.
Your choice and you're going tothe supermarket getting rotten
tomatoes every time and you wantto complain about the like.
They're perfectly good tomatoesin that bin, but you keep
picking up these rotten fuckingtomatoes, bringing them shit to
(05:58):
him, and then you get mad.
It's not the supermarket, my,is you.
Is you back to your question?
Because my ADHD just kicked inmy fault.
What happened?
Natice (06:09):
I just Because the issue is, my ADHD kicks in too, but I
feel like that was the.
Styles (06:15):
That was a proper answer to one of my question Cool and
as far as like my chest list, ismy checklist Long and
distinguished.
So yeah, I want what I want.
I got what I want.
Natice (06:30):
Do you think that In the process of looking for your
wife that you had to let go ofyour past traumas to actually
find Actual you settled downlike actual true love for you?
Styles (06:41):
What's so ill is that, like I learned, I couldn't learn
.
Well, I couldn't learn how tolove Growing up in my household.
It didn't exist like that.
The way that it is, it existsfor me right now.
So, right now it's a little bitdifferently how I teach my you
know son, my daughter, my otherson, how to do it up it.
As far as like love isconcerned, I learned that in my
(07:03):
adult years, which is kind ofcrazy, which is why I, you know,
women are probably like niggasain't shit.
You know we, we're all dealingwith trauma, um, which is
probably why therapy such a bigthing right now, and I'm like
anti therapy for me personally,not for everybody else, but for
me.
I can't pay somebody to listento me and then give me
(07:25):
information about what theyheard, because it's not coming
from a personal perspective,like you don't know me, no, no,
no, which is fine, and I'm, andI'm with that a hundred percent,
like I'll quick Come to you andtalk to you about my problems
and I go you're gonna fuck yourdegree.
You know me, I get it.
(07:53):
Yeah, you are definitely theguard rails to life, but um,
come on, bit down to 80 dayskicking again, just so everybody
knows.
If you do here cause rolling by, we are definitely doing this
hood style.
Natice (08:07):
It's just urban.
Styles (08:09):
No, you know what, and I like the, the I'm you know,
right, exactly the ambiance andeverything is really young on
point.
Anyway, yeah, I'm sorry, that'sall right.
We're gonna trip each other up.
I don't know why you want me tobe a part of this, because it
helps me you be, it was gonnahelp me stay on track.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we're talkingabout ancient niggas.
(08:31):
That'll bring you back, that'strue, oh, boom, perfect Actually
.
Natice (08:36):
But I personally even though I say that in that mm-hmm
, I am not always anti-niggas,though I definitely understand
and see physically that niggasdon't know how to love.
But because they didn't havethat growing up, they're not,
they're not, they're notknowledgeable how to do it.
But with that, I do say at somepoint, if you do want to have a
(08:57):
healthy and actual relationship, have it working, you have to
one see that there might be adifference in love language and
love communication.
I think those are two verydifferent things.
Styles (09:07):
Mm-hmm.
Natice (09:08):
That has to be Looked into and then actually applied.
I think people look into a lotof things but never really apply
.
So it's just like you're doinghalf the work right, and it's
not even half the work, it'slike maybe one fourth of it,
because you can talk all day,but if you don't apply anything,
you're not.
Nothing's gonna change.
That's a fact.
I don't believe they were ever.
Some people, excuse me, weren'tgrown up on love like me.
(09:30):
Fortunately, I was grown up onlove, so there's certain
requirements I have now that I'mlooking forward to in my male
partner that if that doesn't sitright with me, certain things,
just how you look at lifebecause of the way you were
raised.
I'm not saying I'm gonna X youout completely, but I know in my
mind you are not going to havethe emotional capacity to handle
me or be able to understand whyI'm so damn emotional.
Styles (09:53):
Look at you putting words together, forming
sentences that are cohesive andall of that.
That's what I'm talking about.
Can I ask you a question?
Because you did talk about somethings when I was actually
muted and I couldn't talkbecause people Even know I was
sitting here.
But oh, why are you single?
No, no, no, scratch that.
(10:14):
We're not even gonna do that.
Fellas, fellas.
I'm fighting back for us rightnow.
But you did say that the personthat you are talking to, things
that you're masculine, is it.
Does he say that because you'reindependent?
Because a lot of dudes that Alot of dudes are actually look
at independence as beingmasculine.
(10:36):
You know, they want you to wantor pardon, they want you to
need them but, me personally, Idon't.
I rather Independent woman, girl.
Exactly shit, if I fall, Idon't want to hit the ground,
necessarily, I want to be caughtright.
Hey, finish like.
Is that the case?
Natice (10:53):
I Think that's one thing of it.
He's not too open about hisgenuine.
Hear me out.
This is all me speculating,because I am an over thinker.
I be thinking about psych overtime.
I just overthink every littlething, every little thing and
it's the most healthiest thingyou can ever do in your life
analysis paralysis guy I'mlistening.
(11:14):
Um, I really don't know wherehis head at when it comes to me,
right?
But I know he talks a lot aboutspecific things that he wants
in a relationship.
I, I yes and no, so maybe thefact that I literally do
everything on my own might rubhim the wrong way, but then,
even when I let me ask you aquestion, yeah stop, stop, right
there cuz you gonna get reallong-winded with it.
Styles (11:36):
Don't want to when he said no, not, you're not.
I'd appreciate if you stopgrabbing your crotch when you
talk to me, cuz it's kind ofmasculine.
What was your response when hewas like at the moment?
The moment he was like yo, youask it?
First of all, I would nevertell, and respectfully never
(11:58):
tell, a woman that I'm courting,that you're too masculine for
me, because I don't want.
I don't want masculine at all,I want soft and supple.
So the moment that you exhibitcalluses on your hands because
you know I work out Jesus.
Nah, you out here buildinghouses with your bare hands, I'm
doing the man's job.
Natice (12:15):
I'm going to war.
Styles (12:16):
Yeah, I'm going to war and building houses, yeah like,
and that's not to say I don'twant you know again.
Independence it's key for meBecause I can't build with
somebody that's not independent.
I get that because then I'm thethink pad.
I don't want to be the thingthat.
Natice (12:34):
You're not wrong, though , but I've just never heard that
.
Styles (12:37):
Yeah, no, we're not doing that, but what was your
response?
Let's not get away from that.
Um, um.
Natice (12:44):
What is my response?
Styles (12:45):
because whenever what is ?
I want to know what happened inthat moment.
Natice (12:49):
Honestly, it was probably one of those bitch up
the fuck up tape shit, but isthat what you told us?
Oh shit, you see but this iswhy I get called masculine and I
understand.
But then there's just certainthings that are put in place.
I'm from New York, so we have adifferent lifestyle growing up
in New York.
Styles (13:08):
Well see, the thing is yes, but we also have tech.
Don't do that.
Fuck off here, don't do that,because the moment you grab your
nuts, I'm out.
Natice (13:15):
You see, all right, hear me out.
I'm not doing any of that.
I'm not portraying.
Styles (13:20):
You just said bitch, shut the fuck up, like that was
a.
That's not a thing.
Natice (13:26):
That makes you masculine .
Styles (13:28):
It doesn't make you masculine, but it does make you.
Natice (13:30):
It makes me a little strong, it makes you coarse.
Styles (13:32):
Like yeah.
Natice (13:34):
But don't say no shit like that.
For me to say that.
Styles (13:36):
I get it.
It doesn't make you masculine,though I don't want to.
I don't want to put that inthere.
Part two though it doesn't go,part two maybe my.
Natice (13:44):
Gemini sign Shout out my Gemini, best sign ever.
Their sign is just naturallymasculine, though, so when I did
some research on that Is itmasculine.
Styles (13:56):
Yes.
Natice (13:56):
No, no, no.
So it's like basically there'syin and yang to your signs.
My sign is masculine sign, notmeaning like all Gemini's are
male masculine.
No, no, no, it's just there.
It's just perceived a littlebit different on their day to
day actions, life course ofanything.
I got that from the app.
That was good.
Styles (14:16):
And you did well, because our retention as far as
like shit, like that- I'm tryingto be family.
Natice (14:22):
My thing is, what makes a woman feminine is her being
taken For me in my eyes, how Isee it, how I was raised up for
my family, a woman being takencare of emotionally and
financially.
Yeah, you don't have to be themost.
You don't have to be mytherapist.
I don't require that, no.
(14:43):
But you have to understandsometimes that I'm going to just
cry and be upset about somedumb little shit Not even little
shit just because I'm superempathetic about things.
And it's going to affect me alittle harder than most people.
Don't get an attitude that I'mstill sad about some three days
ago.
Styles (14:55):
I got you, coming from a real place, the potential in
this potential connection thatyou have with this person.
Don't whisper to me, god damnit.
Natice (15:07):
I'm whispering into the mic this is for all of them.
What they.
Let us say wherever this goes.
But I don't like to live mylife like that.
I like to plan everything.
I really don't know.
I really don't know, becausethe requirements be thrown me
off.
But then what he'd be sayinghe'd be like you want to do
(15:28):
something but you want a softgirl, but love you down boo.
Example being he'd be like Ireally want a strong ass bitch,
like a ride or die bitch, crazylifestyle.
I need to be told down.
When you think of a solid bitchshe's been through shit like
that's a real tough bitch You'renot thinking no, cookie cutter
ass bitch.
Styles (15:46):
Fuck this.
Listen, ride or die chicks.
Is that's a myth?
But it's not.
No, I'm talking about Becausewhen you say it, it depends.
Yeah, exactly, it depends onwhat setting you say it in.
Like if I'm in the hood they'relike go ride or die.
Like you want to hold my drugsand my guns.
Natice (16:00):
Yeah, like nah, you want to take this book.
Styles (16:03):
Nah, I was not raised like that, you know.
And ride or die, again, like Isaid, it's a myth because
everything is within reason.
You know, I'm not even when itcomes down to finances.
I'm not going to sit back andride with you on something that
I totally disagree with.
I don't give a fuck how muchyour heart is into it.
So yeah, ride or die is a myth,everything within reason.
(16:26):
That ride or die sounds good onwax.
Natice (16:28):
Everything, whatever Love it is, for that we can make
a new one.
Styles (16:32):
Yeah, that's a fact though.
Natice (16:33):
OK, I mean the idea of it is nice, I guess, and for a
woman's perspective, like, yeah,I wouldn't ride or die, but
you're dead ass.
Right, if you are giving meyour gun to put in the fucking
purse, first of all, you don'tgive a fuck about me.
Why would you put me in asituation like that?
Come on, be serious.
Styles (16:51):
Be fucking for real.
I feel like you just sent thetext in all cats, just bring the
sit down to level it too,because you literally I did as
yo, my heart went up too.
Yeah, all right Cool.
Natice (17:04):
I'm sorry, but like you know what it is, what it is, we
still love niggas out herethough.
Niggas still love bitches.
One day I'll find the man in mydream.
That's really going to make me,you know, a softie, but it's
probably someone.
I'm never going to know themfirst.
I'm going to meet them off therandom.
Congratulations to you, though.
It must be nice to be married.
Styles (17:27):
Al.
I'm going to say like yeah,because I'm not going to
perpetuate the other shit that'sgoing on out there.
Where you listen to a song,niggas is like, yeah, love her,
her, her and them Not thepronoun, them the actual them
All of those, not the pronounthose.
It's cute, yes exactly thebunch of I don't fucking know,
(17:48):
chell the alphabet police.
Please don't come after me, andyo I'm not going to do this on
that show.
Natice (17:54):
All right, thank you so much for coming on.
Styles (17:57):
Respectfully.
I have nothing against it,absolutely not.
But thank you so much, you'rewelcome.
Natice (18:02):
It was a great time.
Styles (18:03):
It was All right.
Natice (18:04):
Thank you guys.
So much for listening to usrants about nonsense and real
shit at the same time, so nexttime have a good night.
I'm sorry I missed you, but I'mglad you listened to the last
episode.
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