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Welcome to the Delvin Cox experience, the podcast which
each week I'm on a one man mission to you, not our coast to
diversity. I'm your host, Delvin Cox, and
this week the guest on the show is me.
As I'm recording this, It is nowthe end of the day of April 2nd
and I'm finished celebrating my 45th birthday.
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You know, it's been a long road.It's been a long year so far.
It's only been four months. But this week I had a kind of
hard time just thinking of episode recording.
There were several people I wanted to ask for to come on the
show. I can think of any off the top
of my head that would fit or would have time to come on.
So I said, you know what, let mejust do episode of my own.
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And, you know, I think just kindof keeping you guys up with my
life and everything going on I think is good ones to watch,
give you guys a heads up on episodes and letting, you know,
just get a little more in depth look in my life and what's going
on. So I just kind of want to just
have a conversation with you. Listen to the friends.
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I know a lot of my friends in this show and a lot of people
I've met over the years listen to this show and appreciate this
show because my whole thing was,you know, unite people through
diversity. So as I do this show, I try to
get different walks of life on the show and different kind of
conversations with people that you may or may not know I've
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heard of. And that's always been the thing
because one, it's fun for me to talk to different people and I'm
and just hear their stories. You know, I think it's fun for
other people to kind of hear those stories too and learn
about other people. And if you meet up, make a
friend along the way or make somebody meet somebody you can
become a fan of while listening to the show, then I think I've
done my job, you know, But nonetheless, you know, I've been
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doing this show for a while now and it's been a lot of ups and
downs. I guess I could say whether it's
the highs and lows of podcasting, whether it's, you
know, feeling motivated to record or not feeling a little
motivated or having family dramaor, you know, like I had last
year, Lost in the Family was really kind of affected my
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motivation to even record shows.Honestly speaking, when after I
lost my grandmother, I really didn't know if I was coming back
to podcast or not. When I say podcast, I mean
podcasting in general. I didn't have the motivation to
do it, didn't have the focus. I didn't have the drive.
And even now it's kind of harderfor me.
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It's getting harder and harder for me to get that drive to get
in there and record. Not just the devil cock
experience. I think that's not the problem.
I just think it's, I'm doing so many shows at one time, you
know, with my responsibilities, with all the shows, the PSBG and
everything that comes with that and just everything in general,
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it becomes more of a challenge to get in and just do my show
because of my hectic recording schedule.
And also frankly Speaking of work has got hectic after my
grandmother died and I kind of took over.
That's a full time job and that's me just, you know, going
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to work from that's just say I get up, I get there like 8:00
and I don't leave sometimes tillsix, 7:00 and then go from six,
7:00 to having to think about, you know, recording a podcast,
getting mentally prepared to record PSPG or trying to find a
guest for the show. Or on the flip side of that,
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being a dad. That's also like a full time
responsibility, being a father, talking to my son, having a
conversation with my son, talking to my daughters.
I would come see my daughter andjust kind of get them right.
You know, it's a lot that goes into that.
I think sometimes that drains onme maybe more than it should.
I think sometimes I kind of wantto, I guess the best way to say
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it is, you know, decompressed sometimes.
Sometimes I feel like I need a break.
Not just pocket, just life in general.
Because this this year, and I can imagine for a lot of people,
it's been a lot. We've been on a roller coaster
ride with a lot of things going on.
And it seems like every day there's something new that's
going to challenge our mind, ourspirits and kind of just take us
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to a place a lot of us don't want to go to.
And I feel that I kind of relateto that.
I think that and I, I speak on the on the political side of
this in terms of what's going onin this country, but I think I
feel like it's not only because I know because of who's in
office right now, I don't feel like it's only liberals.
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I think it's conservatives as well feeling both sides of that.
I think the country as a whole just feels uneasy, unsafe,
uncomfortable because we just don't know what's going to
happen. And I don't know how to feel
about that, that unexpected feeling when you don't know
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what's going to show up in the news, how it's going to affect
you, if it's even going to affect you.
Should I be mad about this, looking at tariffs, how these
tariffs going to affect me? How is this cost going to affect
me? Why eggs this price?
Why is this going on? Did something else happen?
You know, every day feels like it's a challenge.
And sometimes, sometimes I feel like, you know, maybe social
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media plays a part into it because it puts that right in
your face, so you have to face it.
So sometimes I feel like maybe Ineed to turn social media off.
But at the flip side of that, I've I've met so many great
people on social media. So it's almost a cast 22.
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And I think that's why I struggle about it.
Even so, I've noticed that a lotof the people I've met and cared
about on social media aren't there anymore.
They're just leaving because theit's becoming too toxic, too
hostile of a place. They, no, I'm talking about all
of them in general, but Twitter particularly was a place where
people can go in there. They can crack jokes, they can
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have fun, they can have insightful conversations.
Even there's one or two guys being a jerk off.
You can kind of brush it off andkeep it, keep it going
throughout your day and find like minded people, find your
tribe and kind of get into that groove and enjoy yourself.
Now it just feels like anything you say could be a ticking time
bomb where somebody could feel like the need to just go off on
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you and tell you you're wrong and call you harmful words and
kind of it makes it uncomfortable.
I think that I don't think saying that makes you soft.
I think saying that makes you realize like, damn, I don't have
to deal with this shit. This is not like, I don't want
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to say a priority, and I don't want to say real life because,
you know, people always say Twitter's not real life.
Yeah, in many ways it is. People have like lost their,
their, their, their place of employment.
People have lost their life overTwitter.
They've lost so many things overthese apps down on Twitter like
Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp. They've lost like a lot of
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things off of these things that just they say, oh, it doesn't
matter. But yeah, it does matter.
But I think it matters because we give it power.
And I think I'm getting to the point now based off everything
that's happening, I need to stopgiving these social media sites
power. I know that sounds easy sitting
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and done, but it just feels like.
But then again, see, that's the thing about it.
Even me saying that doesn't I don't all, I don't always feel
that way because social media isgood at in the very least of
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giving you important news quickly.
And what I mean by that is like I found out that Prince died on
social media. I found out Michael Jackson
died. I found about the Kobe praying
class on social media. Like within seconds, you know,
when there's a hurricane, come on, you see it in the instinct.
Social media is really good at giving you direct info to the
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source, giving it right to you within seconds of it happening.
The problem with that is a lot of times that information is
skewed or sometimes completely fabricated or wrong.
And that's the problem I have for social media, because you
can, you can do all the right things.
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You can do all the background checks, You can all check all
the things back, check anything you want to, but because it's
the way it's set up now, you still can like find things that
will be incorrect. And sometimes those incorrect
things, those fake news things stick and they hurt people and
they real people's lives. And I think that is crazy.
That sucks. But at this point, what can we
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do? How can we fix something like
that? I really don't know.
Let's get to some more positive things because I've talked about
that stuff enough. 45, I didn't know if I ever thought I would
reach this age. Well, I don't know it meaning
the way I go. I thought I'd be dead by that.
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It's just that you don't fathom growing gold until you're
actually growing old, if you getwhat I'm saying.
As I'm watching time go by and watching my son get older and my
son, he's 19 now, I watch him get older and grow up.
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And it's weird because I don't feel older as I watched him and
his sister grow up. I don't feel older, but I see
them getting older. And I think that's the part that
kind of makes me feel older. Like there's always things that
make you like the size that you're getting old, like, you
know, Gray hairs, you get a little tired, you feel a little
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fatigued throughout your day. Or just even the simple things
like, hey, I, I, I got aches now.
I got pains now a little harder to get up in the morning.
But the inside of me, who I am, I guess the soul is in sorts
feels like the same guy who he'salways been.
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Like, feel like I'm 19, feel like a young guy.
And I think that's the weird thing about it, you know, just
coping and coming to turn with growing gold, growing old and
kind of accepting that. And I don't think that's a bad
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thing. I think when age comes, grace,
dignity, pride, respect, wisdom and frankly thinking, I think I
still look good for my age. I'm 45 years old, still look
young, still look healthy. I still can up walk upright and
straighten all that good stuff. So I don't think it's a bad
thing, but it's just the thing that kind of just makes you
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realize your mortality. OK, You know, I am getting
older. Eventually that time's going to
come. I'm going to leave this earth.
Hopefully it's a long time from now.
But that does cross your mind once in a while.
What's like, you know, I don't say I think about that often,
but I do. I think my grandmother's law
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passing made me at least consider that, Put that in my
peripheral. But yeah, I think 45 is good in
terms of my birthday. I think I had a good birthday.
It was a quiet 1. I had to work today.
So that kind of hinted a lot of my plans.
And of course Nintendo had theirbig direct for the switch to
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that also kind of overshadowed my birthday to say the least.
But it was cool getting all the birthday request a happy
birthdays. It was a lot of people messaging
me happy birthday on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and
all those other apps. And I truly thank you for the
kind words that all you people sent to me, the well wishes, the
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generosity and the kindness you sent my way.
I think that meant really a lot to me.
Yeah, it was it was it was special.
And when you as you get older and you realize that you mad at
the people, I think that's kind of the coolest thing about that,
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seeing how like, you know, people just like message me how
much you inspire them and how much you touch their life.
You know, it's really, it's a really good feeling to get that
people like it. It like almost it warms my heart
to get that. But yeah, this has been a a good
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birthday so far. I got a lot of cool gifts and
things. I probably, if you on the
Patreon, I'll probably show you some of those cool gifts on the
Patreon, some of the things I wanted to get.
I'm excited about the the new. Well, I guess getting older, I'm
sorry about getting older started about my weekend because
I'm probably probably quite sureI'm going to go go out to eat
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for my birthday and things like that.
I went out to eat the day too, got some food that was really
good and spent time with the kids and stuff that that made me
happy. You know, it's just, I guess the
best way to describe it is content.
I'm content. I talked to my dad, for those
who are wondering, I, I think I mentioned on the podcast
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earlier, so I can, but I can talk about it now.
For those who didn't know my dadlast year, last year was a hell
of a year. For those who didn't know, my
dad was diagnosed with cancer last year.
And you know, that's right afterdouble whammy or triple whammy,
you want to say was, you know, to to quickly synopse what
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happened last year. I don't want to get too much
into it, but we'll just go real quick.
My father-in-law, my ex father, my ex wife's dad, out of the
blue just fell out, died, you know, And while this was going
on, my grandmother was sick and a week later from him dying, she
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died. Then I got the news that my dad
had cancer and he was doing really bad.
Like really bad. Like at one point he called me
and he because he had to go to the house, he went to the
hospital. And the best for people who are
squeamish, couple years for a second.
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I'm going to say the best way todescribe it is he was peeing
sand because he was so dehydrated.
But yeah, he's a lot better now.Apparently the treatment works,
has been working for him and hiscancers almost gone.
So I'm very grateful and thankful for that.
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And I also say this to implore people who listen to this show,
especially my brothers, black men.
And I say this because I'm saying this to myself as well.
Get yourself checked out, get your cancer screenings, get your
colonoscopy. PS Get anything that you need to
do to kind of take care of your health, physical health and your
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mental health, because both are equally important.
And I don't honestly think I canspeak from experience.
I don't think we do enough to look after ourselves.
We do so much for others to protect others, to make sure
they're good, but we don't do enough to make sure we're good
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and we're OK. And I think that's the damn
shame. And I think we got to get it, do
a better job at that. I speak, I know I'm speaking for
myself, but I'm speaking becauseI know I have a lot of friends
out there, a lot of people who are great individuals who are
men who don't take care of themselves.
Say this on the shorts. My first, Is it my 45th birthday
to say to you as a birthday giftto me?
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I asked you to take care of yourself mentally, physically,
do the best you can to make surethat you are there with your
kids, if you have kids, with your spouse, if you have a
spouse and you live a long life.Because it's super important
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that we take care of ourselves and we take care of the ones we
care about. But yeah, in short, I think it
was a good birthday, a good weekend, a good week, probably
going to be a good weekend too. I think this, I think
everything's been going well mentally.
I think I'm in a good place. I'm going to start like wind
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down some things, kind of gets organized things so I can be in
a better space like I talked about earlier.
But all these podcasts, things Ihave, I've been doing and not
having time to do the things I need to do.
I'm going to start getting thosethings in order so I can have
time for myself, time to think, relax and focus.
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And also I think I'm going to start going back there pre
recording some more episodes just so I can take that time.
I haven't had time to pre recording a lot of episodes as
of late, but that's got to change.
I need to take the time for myself mentally and physically
because I felt myself at one point body breaking down, bones
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were aching more and it wasn't because I was sick, it was
because I was tired, because I was physically tired.
And even this week, I took a week off of PSVG, spend time and
celebrate my birthday and stuff like that.
And I would have gladly had a more time to do it if I didn't
get tied up at work. That's a whole nother story.
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But Even so, me taking that day off of PSVG for the day, I still
did PSXP Monday. I still got to edit and put that
out. But it's just like I have to
kind of start doing things to protect myself physically and
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mentally because I want to be here for you guys and I don't
want to burn myself out. And I'm super excited.
Even with everything going on right now in this country, in
this world, how things look crazy, I'm still super excited
for the future because I think the best thing we can do as
human beings. Is take care of ourselves, take
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care of our communities, protecteach other and just be good to
each other. So if there's nothing else, and
I mean nothing else, you get outof this episode.
It's going to be a short episode.
I don't want to see that too long.
I said it's my birthday and I just wanted to put something
out. If there's nothing else you get
from this episode, nothing else you learned from this episode,
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it's self-care. Take care of yourself, make sure
that you're good and make sure the people around you are good.
And if they're not and if you'renot good, find someone to talk
to them to make you good. Find help.
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If you don't have the money to talk to send me a damn.
We could have conversations. I think the big, the biggest
message of this year should be community.
Protect each other and look after each other.
Support each other, because frankly speaking, if we don't,
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no one else is.
Welcome to the Delvin Cox experience, the podcast which
each week I'm on a one man mission to you, not our coast to
diversity. I'm your host, Delvin Cox, and
this week the guest on the show is me.
As I'm recording this, It is nowthe end of the day of April 2nd
and I'm finished celebrating my 45th birthday.
(01:17):
You know, it's been a long road.It's been a long year so far.
It's only been four months. But this week I had a kind of
hard time just thinking of episode recording.
There were several people I wanted to ask for to come on the
show. I can think of any off the top
of my head that would fit or would have time to come on.
So I said, you know what, let mejust do episode of my own.
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And, you know, I think just kindof keeping you guys up with my
life and everything going on I think is good ones to watch,
give you guys a heads up on episodes and letting, you know,
just get a little more in depth look in my life and what's going
on. So I just kind of want to just
have a conversation with you. Listen to the friends.
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I know a lot of my friends in this show and a lot of people
I've met over the years listen to this show and appreciate this
show because my whole thing was,you know, unite people through
diversity. So as I do this show, I try to
get different walks of life on the show and different kind of
conversations with people that you may or may not know I've
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heard of. And that's always been the thing
because one, it's fun for me to talk to different people and I'm
and just hear their stories. You know, I think it's fun for
other people to kind of hear those stories too and learn
about other people. And if you meet up, make a
friend along the way or make somebody meet somebody you can
become a fan of while listening to the show, then I think I've
done my job, you know, But nonetheless, you know, I've been
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doing this show for a while now and it's been a lot of ups and
downs. I guess I could say whether it's
the highs and lows of podcasting, whether it's, you
know, feeling motivated to record or not feeling a little
motivated or having family dramaor, you know, like I had last
year, Lost in the Family was really kind of affected my
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motivation to even record shows.Honestly speaking, when after I
lost my grandmother, I really didn't know if I was coming back
to podcast or not. When I say podcast, I mean
podcasting in general. I didn't have the motivation to
do it, didn't have the focus. I didn't have the drive.
And even now it's kind of harderfor me.
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It's getting harder and harder for me to get that drive to get
in there and record. Not just the devil cock
experience. I think that's not the problem.
I just think it's, I'm doing so many shows at one time, you
know, with my responsibilities, with all the shows, the PSBG and
everything that comes with that and just everything in general,
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it becomes more of a challenge to get in and just do my show
because of my hectic recording schedule.
And also frankly Speaking of work has got hectic after my
grandmother died and I kind of took over.
That's a full time job and that's me just, you know, going
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to work from that's just say I get up, I get there like 8:00
and I don't leave sometimes tillsix, 7:00 and then go from six,
7:00 to having to think about, you know, recording a podcast,
getting mentally prepared to record PSPG or trying to find a
guest for the show. Or on the flip side of that,
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being a dad. That's also like a full time
responsibility, being a father, talking to my son, having a
conversation with my son, talking to my daughters.
I would come see my daughter andjust kind of get them right.
You know, it's a lot that goes into that.
I think sometimes that drains onme maybe more than it should.
I think sometimes I kind of wantto, I guess the best way to say
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it is, you know, decompressed sometimes.
Sometimes I feel like I need a break.
Not just pocket, just life in general.
Because this this year, and I can imagine for a lot of people,
it's been a lot. We've been on a roller coaster
ride with a lot of things going on.
And it seems like every day there's something new that's
going to challenge our mind, ourspirits and kind of just take us
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to a place a lot of us don't want to go to.
And I feel that I kind of relateto that.
I think that and I, I speak on the on the political side of
this in terms of what's going onin this country, but I think I
feel like it's not only because I know because of who's in
office right now, I don't feel like it's only liberals.
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I think it's conservatives as well feeling both sides of that.
I think the country as a whole just feels uneasy, unsafe,
uncomfortable because we just don't know what's going to
happen. And I don't know how to feel
about that, that unexpected feeling when you don't know
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what's going to show up in the news, how it's going to affect
you, if it's even going to affect you.
Should I be mad about this, looking at tariffs, how these
tariffs going to affect me? How is this cost going to affect
me? Why eggs this price?
Why is this going on? Did something else happen?
You know, every day feels like it's a challenge.
And sometimes, sometimes I feel like, you know, maybe social
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media plays a part into it because it puts that right in
your face, so you have to face it.
So sometimes I feel like maybe Ineed to turn social media off.
But at the flip side of that, I've I've met so many great
people on social media. So it's almost a cast 22.
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And I think that's why I struggle about it.
Even so, I've noticed that a lotof the people I've met and cared
about on social media aren't there anymore.
They're just leaving because theit's becoming too toxic, too
hostile of a place. They, no, I'm talking about all
of them in general, but Twitter particularly was a place where
people can go in there. They can crack jokes, they can
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have fun, they can have insightful conversations.
Even there's one or two guys being a jerk off.
You can kind of brush it off andkeep it, keep it going
throughout your day and find like minded people, find your
tribe and kind of get into that groove and enjoy yourself.
Now it just feels like anything you say could be a ticking time
bomb where somebody could feel like the need to just go off on
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you and tell you you're wrong and call you harmful words and
kind of it makes it uncomfortable.
I think that I don't think saying that makes you soft.
I think saying that makes you realize like, damn, I don't have
to deal with this shit. This is not like, I don't want
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to say a priority, and I don't want to say real life because,
you know, people always say Twitter's not real life.
Yeah, in many ways it is. People have like lost their,
their, their, their place of employment.
People have lost their life overTwitter.
They've lost so many things overthese apps down on Twitter like
Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp. They've lost like a lot of
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things off of these things that just they say, oh, it doesn't
matter. But yeah, it does matter.
But I think it matters because we give it power.
And I think I'm getting to the point now based off everything
that's happening, I need to stopgiving these social media sites
power. I know that sounds easy sitting
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and done, but it just feels like.
But then again, see, that's the thing about it.
Even me saying that doesn't I don't all, I don't always feel
that way because social media isgood at in the very least of
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giving you important news quickly.
And what I mean by that is like I found out that Prince died on
social media. I found out Michael Jackson
died. I found about the Kobe praying
class on social media. Like within seconds, you know,
when there's a hurricane, come on, you see it in the instinct.
Social media is really good at giving you direct info to the
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source, giving it right to you within seconds of it happening.
The problem with that is a lot of times that information is
skewed or sometimes completely fabricated or wrong.
And that's the problem I have for social media, because you
can, you can do all the right things.
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You can do all the background checks, You can all check all
the things back, check anything you want to, but because it's
the way it's set up now, you still can like find things that
will be incorrect. And sometimes those incorrect
things, those fake news things stick and they hurt people and
they real people's lives. And I think that is crazy.
That sucks. But at this point, what can we
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do? How can we fix something like
that? I really don't know.
Let's get to some more positive things because I've talked about
that stuff enough. 45, I didn't know if I ever thought I would
reach this age. Well, I don't know it meaning
the way I go. I thought I'd be dead by that.
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It's just that you don't fathom growing gold until you're
actually growing old, if you getwhat I'm saying.
As I'm watching time go by and watching my son get older and my
son, he's 19 now, I watch him get older and grow up.
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And it's weird because I don't feel older as I watched him and
his sister grow up. I don't feel older, but I see
them getting older. And I think that's the part that
kind of makes me feel older. Like there's always things that
make you like the size that you're getting old, like, you
know, Gray hairs, you get a little tired, you feel a little
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fatigued throughout your day. Or just even the simple things
like, hey, I, I, I got aches now.
I got pains now a little harder to get up in the morning.
But the inside of me, who I am, I guess the soul is in sorts
feels like the same guy who he'salways been.
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Like, feel like I'm 19, feel like a young guy.
And I think that's the weird thing about it, you know, just
coping and coming to turn with growing gold, growing old and
kind of accepting that. And I don't think that's a bad
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thing. I think when age comes, grace,
dignity, pride, respect, wisdom and frankly thinking, I think I
still look good for my age. I'm 45 years old, still look
young, still look healthy. I still can up walk upright and
straighten all that good stuff. So I don't think it's a bad
thing, but it's just the thing that kind of just makes you
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realize your mortality. OK, You know, I am getting
older. Eventually that time's going to
come. I'm going to leave this earth.
Hopefully it's a long time from now.
But that does cross your mind once in a while.
What's like, you know, I don't say I think about that often,
but I do. I think my grandmother's law
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passing made me at least consider that, Put that in my
peripheral. But yeah, I think 45 is good in
terms of my birthday. I think I had a good birthday.
It was a quiet 1. I had to work today.
So that kind of hinted a lot of my plans.
And of course Nintendo had theirbig direct for the switch to
(13:11):
that also kind of overshadowed my birthday to say the least.
But it was cool getting all the birthday request a happy
birthdays. It was a lot of people messaging
me happy birthday on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and
all those other apps. And I truly thank you for the
kind words that all you people sent to me, the well wishes, the
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generosity and the kindness you sent my way.
I think that meant really a lot to me.
Yeah, it was it was it was special.
And when you as you get older and you realize that you mad at
the people, I think that's kind of the coolest thing about that,
(13:54):
seeing how like, you know, people just like message me how
much you inspire them and how much you touch their life.
You know, it's really, it's a really good feeling to get that
people like it. It like almost it warms my heart
to get that. But yeah, this has been a a good
(14:15):
birthday so far. I got a lot of cool gifts and
things. I probably, if you on the
Patreon, I'll probably show you some of those cool gifts on the
Patreon, some of the things I wanted to get.
I'm excited about the the new. Well, I guess getting older, I'm
sorry about getting older started about my weekend because
I'm probably probably quite sureI'm going to go go out to eat
(14:35):
for my birthday and things like that.
I went out to eat the day too, got some food that was really
good and spent time with the kids and stuff that that made me
happy. You know, it's just, I guess the
best way to describe it is content.
I'm content. I talked to my dad, for those
who are wondering, I, I think I mentioned on the podcast
(14:55):
earlier, so I can, but I can talk about it now.
For those who didn't know my dadlast year, last year was a hell
of a year. For those who didn't know, my
dad was diagnosed with cancer last year.
And you know, that's right afterdouble whammy or triple whammy,
you want to say was, you know, to to quickly synopse what
(15:16):
happened last year. I don't want to get too much
into it, but we'll just go real quick.
My father-in-law, my ex father, my ex wife's dad, out of the
blue just fell out, died, you know, And while this was going
on, my grandmother was sick and a week later from him dying, she
(15:39):
died. Then I got the news that my dad
had cancer and he was doing really bad.
Like really bad. Like at one point he called me
and he because he had to go to the house, he went to the
hospital. And the best for people who are
squeamish, couple years for a second.
(16:01):
I'm going to say the best way todescribe it is he was peeing
sand because he was so dehydrated.
But yeah, he's a lot better now.Apparently the treatment works,
has been working for him and hiscancers almost gone.
So I'm very grateful and thankful for that.
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And I also say this to implore people who listen to this show,
especially my brothers, black men.
And I say this because I'm saying this to myself as well.
Get yourself checked out, get your cancer screenings, get your
colonoscopy. PS Get anything that you need to
do to kind of take care of your health, physical health and your
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mental health, because both are equally important.
And I don't honestly think I canspeak from experience.
I don't think we do enough to look after ourselves.
We do so much for others to protect others, to make sure
they're good, but we don't do enough to make sure we're good
(17:09):
and we're OK. And I think that's the damn
shame. And I think we got to get it, do
a better job at that. I speak, I know I'm speaking for
myself, but I'm speaking becauseI know I have a lot of friends
out there, a lot of people who are great individuals who are
men who don't take care of themselves.
Say this on the shorts. My first, Is it my 45th birthday
to say to you as a birthday giftto me?
(17:34):
I asked you to take care of yourself mentally, physically,
do the best you can to make surethat you are there with your
kids, if you have kids, with your spouse, if you have a
spouse and you live a long life.Because it's super important
(17:55):
that we take care of ourselves and we take care of the ones we
care about. But yeah, in short, I think it
was a good birthday, a good weekend, a good week, probably
going to be a good weekend too. I think this, I think
everything's been going well mentally.
I think I'm in a good place. I'm going to start like wind
(18:21):
down some things, kind of gets organized things so I can be in
a better space like I talked about earlier.
But all these podcasts, things Ihave, I've been doing and not
having time to do the things I need to do.
I'm going to start getting thosethings in order so I can have
time for myself, time to think, relax and focus.
(18:43):
And also I think I'm going to start going back there pre
recording some more episodes just so I can take that time.
I haven't had time to pre recording a lot of episodes as
of late, but that's got to change.
I need to take the time for myself mentally and physically
because I felt myself at one point body breaking down, bones
(19:05):
were aching more and it wasn't because I was sick, it was
because I was tired, because I was physically tired.
And even this week, I took a week off of PSVG, spend time and
celebrate my birthday and stuff like that.
And I would have gladly had a more time to do it if I didn't
get tied up at work. That's a whole nother story.
(19:27):
But Even so, me taking that day off of PSVG for the day, I still
did PSXP Monday. I still got to edit and put that
out. But it's just like I have to
kind of start doing things to protect myself physically and
(19:48):
mentally because I want to be here for you guys and I don't
want to burn myself out. And I'm super excited.
Even with everything going on right now in this country, in
this world, how things look crazy, I'm still super excited
for the future because I think the best thing we can do as
human beings. Is take care of ourselves, take
(20:10):
care of our communities, protecteach other and just be good to
each other. So if there's nothing else, and
I mean nothing else, you get outof this episode.
It's going to be a short episode.
I don't want to see that too long.
I said it's my birthday and I just wanted to put something
out. If there's nothing else you get
from this episode, nothing else you learned from this episode,
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it's self-care. Take care of yourself, make sure
that you're good and make sure the people around you are good.
And if they're not and if you'renot good, find someone to talk
to them to make you good. Find help.
(20:53):
If you don't have the money to talk to send me a damn.
We could have conversations. I think the big, the biggest
message of this year should be community.
Protect each other and look after each other.
Support each other, because frankly speaking, if we don't,
(21:14):
no one else is.
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