#310 The Dark Side of ‘Attachment’ Parenting — How to Protect a Child’s Free Will & Psychological Safety

Have you ever worried about whether your parenting methods are building real emotional connection—or unintentionally causing harm?

We received a thoughtful question from a listener who shared a heartbreaking personal story: while her mom intended to foster attachment, her methods—like forced "holding time"—ended up destroying trust and psychological safety instead.

In this episode, we dive deep into what we do and do not mean when we talk about attachment, emotional safety, and parenting strategies.

Attachment parenting is about honoring a child’s free will—not demanding submission. True psychological safety is built through respect, patience, and emotional connection—not control or coercion.

We'll clarify why even good parenting philosophies can be twisted if they aren't grounded in emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.

And we’ll share practical ways you can foster true psychological safety in your home while supporting your child’s natural emotional development.

If you want to raise resilient, emotionally healthy kids who trust you deeply, don’t miss this important episode.

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Key Takeaways:

• Psychological safety is about trust, not forced compliance.

• Attachment parenting must honor a child’s autonomy and free will.

• Even good parenting methods can be distorted by emotional wounds.

• Emotional resilience grows when children feel seen, heard, and safe.

• Creating emotional safety at home starts with self-awareness as a parent.

  
  

Chapters:

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Attachment Parenting

01:32 Clarifying Misunderstandings in Parenting

04:23 The Importance of Parenting Skills

07:46 Defining Success in Parenting

10:41 Understanding Attachment Parenting

13:25 The Dangers of Misapplied Parenting Techniques

16:38 The Impact of Adoption on Attachment

19:21 The Consequences of Control in Parenting

22:41 The Role of Freedom in Child Development

25:39 The Misconception of Holding Time

29:11 The Impact of Sleep Training on Children

32:46 Respecting Free Will in Parenting

35:54 The Concept of Holding Time

40:41 Understanding Boundaries and Safety

45:08 Preparing Children for Adulthood

49:35 The Lifelong Mentor-Mentee Relationship

54:55 Building a Legacy of Good Parenting

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