December 17, 2024 • 45 mins
This week, Suzi is talking about money! And specifically 3 money mindset changes you will need if you want to both generate and keep money.
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You're listening to the InsideOut Entrepreneur Podcast. Today's
episode is all about yourmoney mindset and three mindset changes
you will need to address ifyou want to be more wealthy. All
right, buckle up, enjoy theride. This is your time now. Okay,
let's go. Hi, I'm SuziBelmont, a multiple seven figure
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entrepreneur with 15 yearsexperience building and selling businesses,
as well as being a psychologyexpert, qualified coach and therapist.
Think of this show as personaldevelopment for women like you who
want to master your innerworld in order to lead yourself to
greater external success,whether that's in relationships,
emotionally, in business orfinancially. So pull up your chair
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and get ready to change yourlife and your business from the inside
out. This is the Inside OutEntrepreneur Podcast. Hello, hello,
hello and welcome back toanother episode of the Inside Out
Entrepreneur Podcast. And thisweek I am talking about about money,
your money and your moneymindset. Specifically, I'm going
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to talk about three moneymindset changes you will need to
address if you want to be morewealthy, you want to have more income.
And I'm guessing that ifyou're tuning into this week's episode
based on the title, it mightbe that money is a bit of an issue
for you right now. Perhaps youare trapped in a bit of a hustle
mentality, pattern, feelinglike you can't get off a hamster
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wheel and doing things thatyou don't even like doing whilst
not really making the moneyyou want. Or Perhaps you're working
247 in your business and thenat the end of the month you think,
this is it, this is all I'vegot to show for all of the work.
Or perhaps you feel just plainbroke or afraid of taking a risk
because of the financial risksassociated with moving forward. Perhaps
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you've got some huge ambitionsfor your business and you can clearly
see a vision for your future,but you just don't seem to be able
to find enough time to get onwith working on it or working on
the growth because of all thethings that you think have to be
done that are taking up yourtime. Or perhaps you're just really
afraid to go all in becauseyou're worried you won't make the
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money and that kind of feelspainful, so you avoid doing anything
so that you can avoid thosepainful feelings. Perhaps you sometimes
feel like giving up becauseyou just can't seem to get to the
next level. Perhaps you're sobusy that you're having to turn away
customers and yet you're notseeing enough financial return for
that level of business. Orperhaps you've become scared to spend
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any money or invest inyourself or your future business
education because you're sofocused right now on not having enough
money. And I give all of theseexamples because perhaps you know
that the real problem is withyou and your mindset and your energetics,
but you can't quite getyourself to a place where you feel
justified in spending money onwhat you know you need to do to progress
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through this stage, perhapsbecause of years of training and
belief systems that make youthink that it's what you do that
matters. And it isn't, youknow, that it's who you are that
really matters to howsuccessful you are in what you do.
So let me give you a quickexample of that. If you take two
people who are both buildingonline courses or online coaching
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businesses, and they both havethe strategy and they both have the
tools to do the business. Solet's assume that they are equal
in their skills and theirtools and their strategy. Person
A is absolutely confident itwill work. They believe that they
will make all of the money,and energetically, they know that
they are 100% a match for theincome that they desire. All of their
small actions in theirbusiness are based on that. And you
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can imagine the kind ofactions they would then take. Person
B, on the other hand, doubtsthe business will work. They're not
really sure if they should beshowing up or not. They don't really
want to invest any time ormoney in understanding why, and all
of their small actions arebased on that. Who do you think is
going to get the betterexternal financial money results?
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Yep, it's Person A. You see,your financial success, the money
you make is 100% dependent onwhat is happening emotionally and
internally in your innerworld. So today, my friends, we're
going to be continuing talkingabout money and your business and
more specifically, your moneymindset. How are the small decisions
you make about money havinghuge unwanted repercussions in your
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business? And what can you doabout that? That's what I'm really
going to address today. I'mgoing to show you some of the money
mindset shifts and why youneed to make them to improve the
health of your business. And Iwanted to talk about this as a topic
because it comes up a lot withpeople that I work with. You see
mindset around business andmoney is the very thing that is usually
stopping you from movingforward and growing in areas of your
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business. It is like youstarted out with all these great
ideas, but somehow you'veended up in a bit of a glass box
and you just can't find yourway out. And if you get trapped inside
your own glass prison and theneven the act of making a decision
starts to cause you to feelparalyzed, you can't move forward.
And you often then don't knowwhy, because it's quite hard to see
what's going on from theinside. You actually almost need
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somebody else to look at youfrom the outside and say, I can see
it. This is where I come in.As a coach and a mentor for lots
of my clients, I can see whatthey can't see. And here is the really
scary bit about this. And thisis the reason behind this week's
podcast. If this is soundingfamiliar to you and you don't break
the pattern, before you knowit, 15 years will pass and you will
look back at your business andyou will realize that you've been
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running it a little bit like ajob that employed you. You would
have gone in each and everyday, day in, day out, and done things
on a list, tick things off alist and gone home. And at the end
of those 15 years, you won'thave achieved what you set out to
do when you had your originalbusiness idea because you were too
busy firefighting all of thetime. On all of the other issues
that come up, a lot of whichare money mindset based, for 15 years,
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you will have underachieved onall those original goals. And yet
the fix. I hate that word fix,but I'm going to use it now. The
fix to this is so simple, butsomething you absolutely have to
commit to within yourself.It's about investing in yourself
and deciding it is time tochange things that sabotage you.
Because when you do that, whenyou decide to change these things
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and you get some tools andstrategies to do it, you stop sabotaging
your income and your money andyour life. So if this is all resonating
with you, keep on listening asI'm going to be talking about two
things. Number one, what is amoney mindset? Because it's really
important. We all know we'retalking about the same thing here.
And number two, what moneymindset beliefs are really specific
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to female entrepreneursgetting stuck? And how can you shift
those thoughts, those thingsthat are happening, so that you adjust
and break patterns to enableyou to grow your business and make
better choices, both about thechallenges that you face in your
business today and also theones coming in the future. By the
end of this podcast, youshould feel more equipped to direct
your business from the rightmindset when it comes to managing
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money and growth within yourbusiness. Before we start though,
it is time to make someone alittle bit more famous and read out
the review of the week, whichthis week comes from a listener on
Apple Podcasts called I lovethis name. Cruella Deville, 18 who
says that's such a cool name?Who says this podcast is one of the
best resources forentrepreneurs? I have followed Suzi
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since her daughter Wren was 4.That is to say, since before the
sabbatical Suzy took. Iappreciate the clarity with which
she presents her ideas and italready has helped me a lot in my
entrepreneur journey. I am soglad she's back and moreover with
a touch of neuroscience in herpodcast. This is a field which has
taken my interest to in thepast couple of years and it is great
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to learn how I can apply it inboth my personal and business life.
I totally recommend Suzy'spodcasts to my closest friends and
to the whole world out there.And that's the end of her review.
And thank you Cruella Deville,18, for a brilliant review. I see
from your review on ApplePodcasts you are from Romania and
I remember one of my formerclients a long, long time ago was
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from Romania. So if that isyou, if you are a former client,
do reach out, drop me a dm,send me an email and say hi. Identify
yourself if you want to. Youdon't have to of course, but it's
always just nice to get backin contact with former clients and
I hope that you will also findthis week's episode really helpful
to you too. Okay, so back tomoney mindset. And the first thing
to cover is what exactly is amoney mindset? You see, a lot of
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people assume money mindset isall about thinking and thinking positively
or changing your beliefs aboutmoney. But it's not just that. Money
mindset in really simple termshas two aspects. The first is that
it refers to your beliefs andattitude to money and your financials
and it is your attitude thatwill drive your decisions, the decisions
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that you make about money andyour business every single day. The
second, though, which is lesswell known, is that money is also
about energetics, yourfrequency and what you are an energetic
match for. In really simpleterms. Just to explain this at really
high level, think of money asa high frequency thing and then think
about whether you as anentrepreneur are operating at a high
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or a low frequency. Becausewhen those two things are out of
alignment you have a mismatchand then you end up with a lack of
money. Now I have a sayingthat I often use, which I think would
be really useful here. It iscommon to hear the phrase you are
what you think, or the phraseyour thoughts become your reality.
In part that is true, but intruth my belief is that your energetic
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frequency is the real sourceof your reality, especially when
it comes to money. So at thispoint, if you're thinking, well,
okay, Suzi, but money ismoney. It's not rocket science. You
either have it or you don't.The decision is just a decision.
End of story. You may notrealize until you've listened to
all of this podcast that yourdecisions are based on your underlying
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deeply ingrained thinkingabout financials and and that is
probably what's causing you toend up broke. Despite the huge amount
of effort that you're puttinginto your business, these deeply
ingrained thinking patternsare actually further rooted in energetic
patterns below that thinking.Some of these deeply ingrained core
patterns I refer to as moneysurvival patterns and I have an entire
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program about this and helpingyou release these money survival
patterns. For now though,let's dive into some of these really
easy and small changes you canmake when it comes to money and your
mindset around money. And asper many of the lessons in my podcasts,
I have a little story todemonstrate what I mean about money
mindset. You see, this year,James, my husband, for those of you
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who don't know him, James andI decided that we were going to sell
our central Bath Georgiantownhouse and observing other people's
money mindset blocks aroundthis was really fascinating. My starting
point was that I've alwaysbeen a good investor in property
and we've actually made about£400,000 profit in three years on
this particular profit. And Iwanted to capitalize on that. I wanted
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to sell it, buy a doer upperand do the same thing again, but
on a bigger scale. And weended up finding the right property.
But due to the cost ofconstruction going up in the in the
UK over the past few years, itwas going to be a lot more expensive
than we thought. But still wewere really happy to proceed. But
it was really interestingobserving how other people, estate
agents and other people aroundus were talking about what we were
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doing. We knew that the placewe wanted to buy was nearly seven
acres and it had multipleopportunities for passive income
and cottages and all sorts ofthings going on there that would
have been really, really goodfor us to do. And it exactly what
we wanted to do. But all ofthe people we spoke to were so full
of negativity and scarcitythinking and ultimately we had to
actually remove ourselves fromthose conversations where this was
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happening because it wasreally hard for us to level up financially
when everyone around us wasthinking from a place of scarcity,
was thinking that everythingwas going to fail, there was thinking
that everything was going tobe too expensive. And a lot of the
messaging we were getting wasthat money was going to run out.
They were acting like, well,if you buy this, you won't make enough
money. And I was responding tothis saying, there's always more
money, you can always makemore money. So it was a really important
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reminder, and I mentioned thisat the beginning, that you've got
to be really careful who youlisten to when it comes to money
mindset. You've got to thinkabout is that person just really
negative and really scarce intheir way of thinking? And is that
rubbing off on me? I couldgive you lots of other examples that
where I've had theseconversations where I've actually
ended up saying to clients orto friends or to other people, what
would you say if you weren'tcoming from a place of scarcity?
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And it usually changes theiranswer now on that property story,
as it turns out, the saleultimately actually fell through
for completely differentreasons and we were absolutely gutted.
But I also live in a place ofpossibility and I think that it probably
fell through because there's abigger possibility or a better possibility
coming for me. I just don'tknow what that is yet. And I will
wait for it to manifest. Thepoint of the story, however, was
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to highlight thoseconversations with the people around
us. It's such a reminder thatmost, and I mean most people around
you who are notentrepreneurial in their mindset
may have quite severe moneyblocks. And to be really clear with
yourself on understandingwhere your boundaries are here and
who you listen to, becausewhen you're an entrepreneur, you
have to be careful not tolisten to non entrepreneurs when
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it comes to money. There'ssome really stark examples here.
If I, if I sit myself in agroup of people who are employed
in average jobs, they willtalk quite often from a place of
scarcity and lack aroundmoney. If I sit with a group of people
who are entrepreneurs runningtheir own business, they quite often
talk as if there's no end tothe amount of money that they can
make. And you can see howsitting in those two different groups
will change how you thinkabout money. So are you listening
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to and taking advice frompeople who've walked the walk you
want to walk yourself, or areyou listening to people who are Too
scared to walk that walk andthey're trying to put you off. It
matters because your moneymindset will be influenced by those
that you listen to the most.So you might have to be the trailblazer
and the one who says, you knowwhat? This conversation isn't for
me. I'm going to take adifferent path and I'm going to listen
to other people. And then youget to choose who those people that
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you listen to are. You see,the choices you make in your life
and in your business are allbased on your thoughts about money
and your future where money isconcerned, a mentality that is based
in fear, lack and scarcity andbeliefs that money will run out,
beliefs that investing in youor your growth won't pay off, beliefs
that you will never makeenough money will create a future
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of exactly that fear, lack andtotal scarcity. Whereas a mindset
that focuses on being abundantand money being abundant and a belief
that there is plenty of moneyin the world, that more money will
come if you spend money, thatmoney doesn't run out, and that you
can always make more money,but just FYI, you can never make
more time that changes youractions. This belief that you can
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always make more money changesyour actions. Can you see how those
two mindsets are sodiametrically opposed? And for you,
the belief that is stronger isalways going to be the one that wins.
It's always going to be theone that dictates the future of your
life and your business. It'sas plain and simple as that. What
you believe is often what youbecome or what you go on to achieve.
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It's really, really powerfulstuff. So that's a little bit of
an explanation of theimportance of money mindset and what
money mindset is and how it'sconnected to deeply rooted beliefs
in your day to day decisions.And I haven't spoken at all really
about the energetics of money,the deeper energetic side. And what
I want to do now and for therest of the podcast is just go through
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these three mindset beliefsand how you can address them and
deal with them. So there'sgoing to be three between now and
the end of the podcast. Somindset number one, this is when
you focus on scarcity way toomuch. So we touched upon this already
in the preceding section. Butif you do this, if you focus on scarcity,
it means that you probablyspend a lot of your time thinking
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that money is scarce, thatit's hard to make, that it may run
out, that there's just notenough to go around. And as a result,
your business and your lifedecisions will all be based on those
fundamental beliefs aboutscarcity. Whether you're thinking
about it or not, it willbecome embedded into your system.
And this mindset, as I'vementioned already, quite literally
keeps you broke. Because ifyou live your life with a scarcity
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mindset, it doesn't matterwhether you make £1,000amonth or
a million pounds a month foryou, it will never be enough. You
will still worry that it willrun out and it's still not enough.
You will still feel broke.Even when you live in a seven bedroom
house with a swimming pool anda tennis court and a golf course,
you will live your life infear that you will run out of money.
So you will then not likespending it. You won't invest in
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yourself. You'll just focus ontrying to hold onto it really tightly
and hold on to what you have.And you'll end up taking as few risks
as you can, especially when itcomes to business. Now you can see
how this will inhibit yourgrowth if this is during your journey.
As I said to my eldest sonBarnaby just this morning, money
is simply an amplifier. So ifyou are in a place where you are
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feeling like money's notscarce, if you're happy and if you're
abundant now, then when youhave more money, you'll just amplify
that. If you are miserable andfocused on lack and focused on what
you don't have, money willjust simply amplify that as well.
In fact, in that case, you endup in the more money, more problems
mindset. But that's adifferent topic. So how do I know
this? Well, this was andsometimes still is me when I let
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my mindset get out of focus. Idon't come from money. My parents
were not wealthy. Money wastough and money was never spare.
My Nana, who I spent most ofmy time with as a child, was extremely
poor. She was from the EastEnd of London and her husband died
when My dad was 12. So Iremember my nana working three jobs
just to make ends meet. Butshe always said to me, we're rich,
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Suzi, we're rich. And that washer outlook on life. She felt rich.
She felt that anything waspossible. And this had a huge impact
on me, an absolutely massiveimpact on me. Because some of that
scarcity, scarcity mindset wasremoved because of the way that she
acted around money, eventhough actually, objectively speaking,
she didn't have that much.Despite my entire family, my, the
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rest of my family, my mom andMy dad, et cetera, always being in
this place of scarcity all oftheir lives. My Nana's impact on
me was that I was essentiallywealthy, even if I didn't have the
proof at the time. And so Itook action based on those inner
core beliefs. And over timethose actions added up. I now live
in a house worth two and ahalf million pounds and all of it's
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come from me and Jamesbelieving in ourselves. We also own
investment property as welland it all comes from this money
mindset that we have. But, andthis is really important, if my mindset
slips into scarcity mode,which it does sometimes, do you know
what I do? I start to worry. Istart to convince myself that maybe
I won't be able to afford thebills, maybe the government is going
to mess things up again, maybeBrexit or the economy will implode
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things. And I have a littlepanic and think, oh man, we should
probably sell this, this houseand get a smaller house and have
more ca cash available andless assets. Maybe we shouldn't have
bought this house in the firstplace. And I feel nervous about the
future. A scarcity mindset canquite literally make me want to sell
my house. That is how powerfulyour mind can be. And then when this
happens, I have to do my ownmoney mindset work and I have to
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work on my own money patternsbecause it's always ongoing work.
Life is not static and thingschange and your energy changes. So
reworking your beliefs as theworld changes and as I change is
all part of the ongoing innerwork. As you change, it's ongoing
inner work that you have tomaintain in order to maintain your
outer success. And when you dothat work, when you work from an
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abundant mindset, you havethoughts like, well, if the economy
gets worse, that doesn't stopme making more money. Or as I said
to a client recently, you canalways make more money. I know this
sounds simple, butentrepreneurs so often forget that
you can always make moremoney. And it's not always as difficult
as we make it. It is about ourinner capacity to make and hold money
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rather than whether the moneyis always there. It's always there.
You just can't always see itbecause you're not resonating at
that frequency. There is somuch money in the world, but so many
people don't attract it, don'tresonate with it because of the inner
world beliefs and because oftheir inner energetic blocks. Now
I will tell you another storyabout my business and the impact
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of a scarcity mindset in thedesign of your business as well.
So when I created my firstentrepreneurial business back in
2010, I actually didn't thinkit would work. I was convinced that
the money I was making was afluke that the bubble would burst,
that the customers woulddisappear, that it would all come
crashing down. And my mindsetwas so firmly in scarcity mode that
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I actually focused my entirebusiness as being a short term thing.
I woke up each morningthinking, well, today my business
will probably end. And imaginewhat that did to my ability to plan
the future of my business,what it did to my enjoyment of the
business. I never evenconsidered the future. I never planned
what it would be like 10 yearslater. I never did any thinking like
that because I never believedit would work. And that scarcity
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mindset got me trapped forquite a little time, not knowing
what to do. And it took moneymindset work to help with this, to
fix this. It was only when Istarted to believe that my business
could be huge, despite theodds being stacked against me because
it was such a niche industryand I had very young kids and I lived
in the middle of nowhere andall these sorts of things. It was
only when I changed my mindsetand I started to make changes as
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a result of that in mybusiness that I started impacting
the money that I was making.And it wasn't then long until I made
my first seven figures. Now,these days running a business, I'm
also constantly working on mymoney mindset. In the early stages
of a business, it's not somuch about the money, but the sustainability.
In other words, can yousustain your vision and belief and
keep going long enough untilyou manifest what you intend to?
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So many people just give up asthey're about to make the money,
literally just as they're onthe cusp of making money. And what
this stage is about is holdingout long enough when you're not making
the money, knowing that youwill make money as long as you keep
going, as long as you listento the data and the feedback and
you pivot things accordingly.You don't just keep hammering on
the same bits that are notworking. If they're not working,
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you've got to trust. You'vegot to know yourself well enough
to trust. So now I've said allof that, what do you do if your mind
tends to lean towards scarcitythinking? The answer is really simple.
You need to retrain yourthinking so that you create an abundance
mindset instead of a scarcityone. Now it's simple to say it's
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not always simple to do, noton your own. Sometimes you have to
get a bit of support to dothis. But as I say, awareness is
everything. Awareness is thefirst step. So imagine this scenario.
Think about yourself for amoment. Picture yourself waking up
in bed tomorrow morning andlooking at your bank statement on
your mobile app and saying, Iam so broke, I can never afford what
I want. Imagine right now howthat makes you feel when you hear
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those words, I'm so broke Ican't afford anything. How does that
feel? Where do you feel thatin your body? It feels kind of depressing
for me. That feels like asinking in my stomach and that would
set my day on a low ebb ifthat's how I started the day. If
you were in that frame ofmind, you'd have to kind of drag
yourself up and kickstart withsome kind of motivation to get stuff
done. And it would be so easywhen you're in that place to think,
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oh, this is not worth it,maybe I should just get a real job.
Now imagine the same. Youwaking up tomorrow morning and looking
at your bank statement andsaying, I am so grateful for the
income that I have so far andI know that there's more coming.
I know my finances willimprove if I just keep going. Or
right now, I have the exactmoney I'm meant to have. Money is
easy to make. I don't need towork harder to create more money.
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I just need to work smarter.Imagine how that changes the start
of your day, how that changesyour outlook, your vision and your
motivation. Now imagine thatyou had that abundant mindset every
single morning for the nextyear. Can you see how much that would
change your motivation andtherefore how much that would impact
your business? These smallchanges are too easy to push off
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as woo woo and woo woothinking. But actually your brain
is so powerful that you canharness that power in a positive
way and it can really start tochange your life. If you listen to
a sentence like, I always haveenough money and it throws up for
you a ton of objections andyour mind says, no, I don't, Suzi,
no I don't at all, then that'sgoing to be your starting point.
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If I say to you, making moneyis easy and you immediately think,
no, it isn't, no it isn't,Suzi, then that's going to be your
starting point. Because yourbeliefs about money become your reality,
your frequency around moneybecomes your reality. You will subconsciously
make your scarcity thoughtsbecome your real life. Conversely,
if you work with abundantthoughts, that money comes to you
easily that starts to becomeyour life as well. If you think money
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is difficult to make, itreveals a belief that you doubt your
abilities, you doubt yourskills, you doubt your customers
want to buy from you, and thatimpacts how you market what you do
and ultimately whether youeven want to get out of bed in the
morning and market yourself oryour business at all. So to help
you with this and changingthose scarcity thoughts into abundance
thoughts, I've created a moneymindset challenge guide that gives
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you some help with this. Youcan take a look, print it out, stick
it on the wall, put it on yourdesk, wherever you want to put it.
And I think one of theadvantages of this is when you see
it all in black and white, aswell as listening to it, it becomes
even more powerful and itreally makes you think. So if you
want to get that download,just go to SuzieBelmont.com podcast
10 that's the numbers 10 sopodcast 10. I will also put that
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link in the show notes on thepodcast player platforms and also
on the blog post that goeswith this episode over on my website.
Talking of the website, ifyou're over there anyway, also have
a look out for the Inside OutWisdom series because that is something
that will really also boostyour self belief and your self worth
around manifesting things inyour future and just maintaining
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that higher frequency. There'sa series there you can find in the
footer of the website calledthe Inside Out Wisdom. You can read
about what it is when you goover there. It's totally free, it
uses no more than 20 secondsof your day up and it's awesome.
I know from people who've beenusing it for the past few months
that it's massively changingthings in their lives. So go have
a look. You'll find thatreally quite powerful. Okay, so let's
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go on to money mindset changenumber two. This is where you have
to start to understand thatyou have to let go of the past for
you to change your moneymindset. You have to stop holding
onto beliefs that don't serveyou anymore. And yep, I completely
hear you here. Changing yourpast beliefs about money is not always
a walk in the park. You willfall off the bandwagon a few times
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and it is ongoing work, not aone time when you're done kind of
thing. So the question is, areyou willing and ready to make a decision
to break past patterns, todeal with unresolved money patterns
and past trauma around moneyand to move forward rather than existing
based on past beliefs? Becauseit really is a difference between
existing and living. If you'renot ready and you're not willing
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to make the changes, you won'tdo it. A lot of money mindset work
that I do with my clients issubconscious work. But we don't ignore
the conscious mind. Theconscious brain plays a big part
too. And so if your consciousbrain is not willing to get on board
with this, you won't succeed.So let me tell you another story
to illustrate what I meanhere. Remember back in episode one
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of the podcast and I told youabout how one of my brothers died
when he was 27? He was aheroin addict and he was a twin.
And I can remember sitting inmy mum's house a few hours after
it all happened and looking atmy remaining brother, who was, as
you can imagine as a twin, sodevastated that he had lost his twin.
And he was there, he waspresent in the room, but he wasn't
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really there. He was in hisown thoughts. He was somewhere else.
But even at that time, I stillremember turning to him, and for
just a few moments, I wasn't100% sympathetic. I was determined.
And I think there's a bigdifference and there's a time and
a place. And this just feltintuitively like it was going to
be the only time that he mighthear these words. I was frustrated
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and I looked at him and I saidin a really direct tone, you know,
the drugs have caused Nick topay the ultimate price. He's dead.
He's gone because of the drug,because of the past trauma that they
were the resource for, becauseof not facing the inner wounds that
they were causing him to reachout for an external resource. And
he was finding that in drugs.And there was no blame in what I
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was saying, no blame at all.He didn't have the knowledge that
we do now. He didn't have theresources. But I looked at my brother
and I said, if you doanything, anything at all right now,
please do this. Please decidethat now it is your time. Decide
it is your time now. Decidethat today you will start to work
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on breaking these oldpatterns, that you will stop reliving
the same patterns from thepast over and over again, that you
can be resolved and determinedto change your mind, to change your
beliefs, to change what youare here to do on this earth, on
your limited time here, tochange your friends, if that's what
it takes to change youroutlook, if that's what it takes
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to change your future. Becauseif you don't, your brother died for
nothing. And you will goexactly the same way. It's a choice.
And I just looked at him andsaid, are you willing to make that
choice? Back then I didn'thave the knowledge that I now have
about trauma and traumapatterns, which I build into my courses
these days and my coaching andI do a lot more somatic work alongside
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the mindset. But back then, 20years ago, my intuition told me to
say those words. And honestly,honestly, part of me was thinking,
holy shit, Suzi, maybe this isnot the time to be this harsh because
your brother is really brokenhere. But the other half was saying,
if you don't tell him now, hewill die too. And it was what was
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needed. He had assumed and hehad learnt from his life back then
that life was happening tohim, that he didn't have any choice,
that he had no agency, that hehad no part to play in the future,
that it was all just going tohappen to him. But my words, albeit
that they were harsh at thetime, were coming from a different
place. I was approaching thisknowing life happens for you and
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you do actually have choices.They're not always the choices you
want to make, they're notalways easy. And my gosh, he had
to go on a hard journey to getto where he then had to get to. But
you know what? He did it. Mysurviving brother, he's called Simon,
he did do it. He stopped thatday. He started to work on his belief,
he started to change his innerbelief that he, he couldn't give
up and that it was just allhappening to him. He started to change
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his identity. He wasidentifying as a heroin addict and
a lot of work beyond thatwhich had to take place to help him
with that identity happened,which I won't detail here, but in
short, he changed hisidentity, he changed his beliefs,
he cleaned up his life, hemoved, he cut off his druggie friends,
he used the grief that he hadto ensure that his brother didn't
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die for nothing. By changinghis own life, he changed everything
and he removed all of thethings in his life that were causing
that destructive way ofliving. And now he's coming up to
20 plus years free of drugs.He could have made any change at
any time, but for him, it tookthe shock of losing his twin brother
that made him question hisbeliefs about life. It was a wake
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up call for him at the time.And so my challenge to you as someone
who's looking at your moneymindset, at your business, at your
beliefs, at your life, if youknow it's not what you want, if you
know something is not right ifyou know that it's causing you to
self sabotage. Why are youwaiting for a really big wake up
call to take action? Why don'tyou do it now? You don't need to
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wait for the serious worstcase scenario death level wake up
call to change something. Youcan choose to work on yourself, you
can choose to work on yourinner world right now. You can get
coaching from me, from anyone,doesn't matter. From whoever you
choose, from whoever youresonate with. You can take the step
to put your name on a waitlistor a program, or put money aside
for a program, or save up, putaside 25%, make a plan for how you're
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going to do it, or just buythe program if you can. Something
as simple as listening to meright now could be your wake up call.
If this is resonating withyou, it could be your time, your
time to choose to do it, tobe, to literally be who you're going
to be. Because what are youwaiting for? You can't be that person
in the future if you're notthat person right now. Today might
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be the day that you stopletting your old beliefs, your old
patterns rule your future.From today on, you may say, you know
what? From today I'm going topay attention and I'm going to start
to acknowledge that I matter,that I deserve wealth, that I'm the
one who makes this happen,that I'm the one who chooses the
next step I make. Whether thatis putting money aside for a program,
joining a waitlist, booking acoaching course, getting your own
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coach. Whatever it is, it'sone step, it's one choice, it's one
decision that you matter. Andit's from that same strength that
you will find the resourcethat you need to move forward and
let go of your past. When itcomes to money mindset, you have
to grab it by the horns andchange it. As a child, you may have
heard so many things that haveled to your beliefs about money.
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Perhaps your parents saidthings like money doesn't grow on
trees, or money is the root ofall evil, or the rich get richer
and the poor get poorer. Orperhaps you now tell yourself, I'm
no good with money, or I don'thave what it takes to be wealthy.
All these things you need torecode within your very core, which
is what I help you do in myprograms. But you can't do those
programs unless you make achoice that you matter. When you
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work from a place of abundanceand positive abundance, that money
can and does work for you.It's a game changer. It's how you
start the ball rolling. Evennow. You could take a really small
step and do something likecreate your own whiteboard on your
wall with your new matrix ofmoney beliefs that you want to have.
You may not be able to cut outthe negative people around you in
your life and in yourenvironment right now, but you can
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control your own mind and thatis your power. You can decide that
you matter. You can decide toinvest in you. You can decide that
you are the one who createsyour own future and you have everything
it takes already to do it. Itis your time now. How are you going
to put yourself first MoreTake that example of the matrix of
money beliefs that you'vewritten down. If you've created a
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matrix that's just full oflimiting beliefs, that will be your
point of reference when youmake any decisions. So make a matrix
full of positive moneymindset. Write your beliefs down
or use the download that I'vecreated for this podcast@suziebelmont.com
podcast10 to help you identifysome of your limiting beliefs. Right
now. It is about letting go ofthe past and focusing on your future
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from today. And you will hearme say this a lot. You matter. So
start acting like you do. Makethat whiteboard from paper sheets
if you need to, but make it sobig that you see it every day and
it reminds you what you wantto believe and how you are going
to approach money so that itworks for you and your business to
build the income that you wantand to get you started with some
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really good supportive beliefsfor that whiteboard. As I say, have
a look at the download.There's a part two to the download
where I've set out some of thepositive affirmations I've used myself
to change my money mindsetover the years. And that's@suziebelmont.com
podcast 10. I will put that inthe show notes so you've got it.
And in the blog post for thispodcast on my website you can use
that list to build your ownframework for a new money mindset
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to slowly re educate yourselfand to give you a strong new set
of money mindset beliefs tokeep you on track. Okay, let's go
on to the final money mindsetshift for this podcast, which is
number three. And this is tostop blaming other people and other
situations and to start totake control yourself now. Okay,
this is a tough one, but I'mnot going to sugarcoat this. Your
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financial problems are no oneelse's fault. Yes, if times are tough,
you can blame the economy. Youcan blame politicians, all of them,
if you want. You can blameBrexit, you can blame Donald Trump,
you can blame anything youwant to. We can all find ammunition
there for a destabilizedeconomy if we want to. Look, you
can blame your background, youcan blame your family, you can blame
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your customers and say thatthey won't pay your prices. You can
blame the lack of time youhave. You can blame anything you
can think of. The list goeson. You can also fall into shame
and allow yourself to feelashamed of money, to allow that shame
to let you feel small andunimportant, to allow money shame
to keep your prices low so youdon't get rejected by people saying
no to higher prices, and so onand so on. But ultimately, if you
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do that, that victim mindset,that shaming, blaming mindset is
going to get you nowhere atall. If you want to be successful,
you've got to stop blamingyour circumstances. You can't fall
into shame as a default. Ifyou want to be successful, focus
instead on changing yourcircumstances by changing your mindset
and your energetic frequencyaround that. And again, I would remind
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you here that you have to becompassionate. You won't deal with
shame and blame by gettingangry. You need to get curious. What
are the patterns you have?Where are you being a victim? Where
are you stuck in shame? Andsometimes those wounds are really
deep and they need a lot moresubconscious and energetic work,
which is what I do, as I'vementioned a million times in my programs.
But for now, for this freepodcast, you can start. You can start
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to compassionately assessyourself honestly instead of giving
up at the first sign offailure. Analyze what is not working,
break it down, figure it out.Take responsibility for working out
where the blocks are. Takeresponsibility for making any changes
you can in your businessrather than just turning up like
an employee every day anddoing the tasks on your list even
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though you actually knowthey're not moving the needle in
your business. Be honest aboutthat. Take responsibility for doing
things that evidence the factthat you do matter. Instead of putting
all of your energy intocomplaining and finding other people
to complain with. Be the onewho breaks free from your complaining
group. Be the one who says,actually, no, I'm not going to do
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things like that. I am goingto change my outlook on what life
has served me and be gratefulfor what I have got, but also build
onto it with more. If youfocus on what you can control little
by little, that Starts tomanifest in things that work and
more success in your businessand your life. Little changes, little
things that you can begrateful for. Little progress is
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what moves the needle becauseit compounds over time. And I will
tell you a story here. Andlike the story of my brother dying,
it's another one around dying.I think maybe we learn some of our
biggest lessons about lifewhen someone we know is losing or
has lost theirs. It is a timewhen we look at things with more
objectivity. We realize lifeis short and there's not much time
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to get on with it. Andsometimes that is the kickstart that
we need. But back to my story.Back in 2007, when I was a lawyer,
my mother in law was diagnosedwith terminal cancer. She was diagnosed,
if I recall correctly, aroundMarch of that year. So March 2007.
And she died in August a fewmonths later. Her death was not easy
for my husband at all. But itwas made even more difficult because
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her choice was, and werespected her choice was to have
assisted suicide inSwitzerland because she knew that
her death was inevitable andshe knew she was going to suffer.
She was an incredibly bravelady, I think one of the bravest
women I have ever knownbecause that is one hell of a decision
to have to make. But herassisted suicide was also scheduled
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the same week as our wedding.As you can imagine, that was a rollercoaster
of emotions that James and Ihad to deal with. The happiest and
the saddest days of his life,just a few days apart. And at that
time, I just wanted to be athome. I didn't want to work, I didn't
care about my job at thatparticular time. I didn't care about
my clients, I didn't careabout my boss. I had too much other
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stuff going on. So I went toask for time off so I could support
my husband, who was in areally bad way at that time. And
I think I asked for somethinglike four or six weeks away from
the office to deal with theassisted suicide period, to deal
with the wedding which had tobe moved around or the wedding didn't,
but the honeymoon got movedand all of the changes that had to
be made, like reschedulingevery single thing that had been
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organized and so on. And myboss replied at the time. And her
reply is etched on my brain.It always will be. She said, this
firm cannot carry thefinancial burden of your family misfortune.
Now, whilst she wassympathetic, she was clear it was
not the firm's problem, it wasnot their fault. Why should she Pay
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me during this time. They werenot to blame, so I could not have
the time off. Now, whether Iagree with that approach or not is
neither here nor there. Iwould say that I wouldn't have had
the same approach if I was theboss. But that's not what I'm focusing
on here. What I'm focusing onis, despite my anger at the lack
of compassion at the time, Ialso learned a huge lesson from this.
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It is no one else's fault.Life sometimes deals you lemons and
sometimes you have to makethat choice. You can sit and look
at those lemons in a bowlcrying until they go rotten. You
can complain about someoneelse's lack of compassion or unfair
attitude to you. You can startan argument with them or a complaint
with them, or you can pick upthe lemons and say, right, how am
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I going to make these crappylemons into lemonade? How do I work
with what I have, even if it'sonly a really small thing? And how
do I make that into somethingbig? How do I make this work for
me, even if it feels like noone else is supporting me? How do
I make me matter and raisemyself and lead myself forward? How
do I lead myself to my nextlevel of greatness? How do I say,
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I am it, I am the one, I amthe vision of my own future and I
am going to mold me and mybeliefs and my energetic frequency
to fit with what I visualize,not with what happened in the past.
And this is a mindset shift.And this mindset shift in my own
story served me well. I stilluse it now when I'm really tired
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or when business gets on topof me. The fastest mindset shift
for me is to fall back intothinking it's because of X, Y, Z
that that happened. But I'velearned to train my mind into thinking.
This is where it stops.Looking at the facts and then stopping
before I focus on the blame.Because it gets you nowhere. Sometimes
you know that someone else wasunfair, someone else was mean, disrespectful,
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wrong. They did the wrongthing. Sometimes they did something
downright awful. Sometimesthey did something illegal. If you
see that it was their faultand you just focus all of your energy
or anger and negativitytowards them for years and years
and years. You never moveforward and you keep yourself broke.
If you know that it was XYZthat was to blame, but you chose
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to move on. You have ultimatepower, focusing on what you can control
and the choices you can makeand stopping any focus on blaming
Everyone else and the thingsthat you can't control is a mindset
shift that can get you throughthe toughest of days in your business
and in your life. You see,here's the thing. Sometimes, in fact,
oftentimes, you have to chooseinner peace. And that might mean
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walking away and resisting theurge to fight every battle just to
prove that you were right. Ifyou are right, you are right. So
move on. You can't drag thewrong person with you or make them
change. You can only changeyou and your future. And you know
what? If you do that, thatwill impact the person that you might
be frustrated with so muchmore. As they see you fly, as they
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see you succeed, as they seeyou soar to your greatest potential,
they won't have any morecontrol. Because you control that.
You control you. You controlyour future and you control your
income. You are literallyeverything you need. And if you put
half the energy into buildingyou from the inside out, as you did
on all of the other things inyour life right now, you'd be wealthier,
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wealthy beyond your wildestdreams. Because you can. You literally
can. And I'm going to stop atthis point or this episode will fry
my ADHD listener's brainbecause it's going to get too long.
Because I've been talking fora long time this week and there are
numerous other mindset shiftsthat you can make that will help
you grow and nourish a morehealthy money mindset when it comes
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to your business and indeedyour life. So in the download to
this podcast, I will add anadditional list of ways to transform
your money mindset. Justremember, you can find that over@susiebelmont.com
podcast 10 in addition,something I've not spoken much about
in this episode, or in any ofthe episodes actually, is that I
have a program all about moneymindset, work and the energetics
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of money, which is a muchdeeper dive into how you do all of
this. If you want to get onthe waitlist for that, or if you're
listening to this at somepoint in the future and it's already
been released, then head onover to the Work with me page@suziebelmont.com
and look for a course calledInside Out Money. Just add your name
there. Okay, that is it for methis week and I hope you have found
this podcast, provoke somethoughts for you. Keep on being the
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good person that you are. Keepon looking forward and asking yourself,
why is life happening for you?You keep on being you. And of course,
if you found this podcast orany of them helpful. Do take a screenshot
of you listening to theepisode and post it on Stories on
Instagram and tag me in it.Or, as I always say, you can post
a review on Apple Podcasts ora comment on Spotify. I recently
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found a couple actually onApple podcasts that I didn't know
existed. So if you do areview, please feel free to let me
know by tagging me somewhereor dming me or whatever you choose
to do. Sometimes it's that'seasier than me trying to find them
on the interwebs. Anyway, Iwill put a link to where you can
do reviews underneath thepodcast in the Show Notes, and also
over on the podcast page on mywebsite. Finally, Finally. Remember,
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you matter and only you canchange the future. It is all your
choice. See you next week. Bye.
You're listening to the InsideOut Entrepreneur Podcast. Today's
episode is all about yourmoney mindset and three mindset changes
you will need to address ifyou want to be more wealthy. All
right, buckle up, enjoy theride. This is your time now. Okay,
let's go. Hi, I'm SuziBelmont, a multiple seven figure
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entrepreneur with 15 yearsexperience building and selling businesses,
as well as being a psychologyexpert, qualified coach and therapist.
Think of this show as personaldevelopment for women like you who
want to master your innerworld in order to lead yourself to
greater external success,whether that's in relationships,
emotionally, in business orfinancially. So pull up your chair
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and get ready to change yourlife and your business from the inside
out. This is the Inside OutEntrepreneur Podcast. Hello, hello,
hello and welcome back toanother episode of the Inside Out
Entrepreneur Podcast. And thisweek I am talking about about money,
your money and your moneymindset. Specifically, I'm going
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to talk about three moneymindset changes you will need to
address if you want to be morewealthy, you want to have more income.
And I'm guessing that ifyou're tuning into this week's episode
based on the title, it mightbe that money is a bit of an issue
for you right now. Perhaps youare trapped in a bit of a hustle
mentality, pattern, feelinglike you can't get off a hamster
(01:29):
wheel and doing things thatyou don't even like doing whilst
not really making the moneyyou want. Or Perhaps you're working
247 in your business and thenat the end of the month you think,
this is it, this is all I'vegot to show for all of the work.
Or perhaps you feel just plainbroke or afraid of taking a risk
because of the financial risksassociated with moving forward. Perhaps
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you've got some huge ambitionsfor your business and you can clearly
see a vision for your future,but you just don't seem to be able
to find enough time to get onwith working on it or working on
the growth because of all thethings that you think have to be
done that are taking up yourtime. Or perhaps you're just really
afraid to go all in becauseyou're worried you won't make the
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money and that kind of feelspainful, so you avoid doing anything
so that you can avoid thosepainful feelings. Perhaps you sometimes
feel like giving up becauseyou just can't seem to get to the
next level. Perhaps you're sobusy that you're having to turn away
customers and yet you're notseeing enough financial return for
that level of business. Orperhaps you've become scared to spend
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any money or invest inyourself or your future business
education because you're sofocused right now on not having enough
money. And I give all of theseexamples because perhaps you know
that the real problem is withyou and your mindset and your energetics,
but you can't quite getyourself to a place where you feel
justified in spending money onwhat you know you need to do to progress
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through this stage, perhapsbecause of years of training and
belief systems that make youthink that it's what you do that
matters. And it isn't, youknow, that it's who you are that
really matters to howsuccessful you are in what you do.
So let me give you a quickexample of that. If you take two
people who are both buildingonline courses or online coaching
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businesses, and they both havethe strategy and they both have the
tools to do the business. Solet's assume that they are equal
in their skills and theirtools and their strategy. Person
A is absolutely confident itwill work. They believe that they
will make all of the money,and energetically, they know that
they are 100% a match for theincome that they desire. All of their
small actions in theirbusiness are based on that. And you
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can imagine the kind ofactions they would then take. Person
B, on the other hand, doubtsthe business will work. They're not
really sure if they should beshowing up or not. They don't really
want to invest any time ormoney in understanding why, and all
of their small actions arebased on that. Who do you think is
going to get the betterexternal financial money results?
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Yep, it's Person A. You see,your financial success, the money
you make is 100% dependent onwhat is happening emotionally and
internally in your innerworld. So today, my friends, we're
going to be continuing talkingabout money and your business and
more specifically, your moneymindset. How are the small decisions
you make about money havinghuge unwanted repercussions in your
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business? And what can you doabout that? That's what I'm really
going to address today. I'mgoing to show you some of the money
mindset shifts and why youneed to make them to improve the
health of your business. And Iwanted to talk about this as a topic
because it comes up a lot withpeople that I work with. You see
mindset around business andmoney is the very thing that is usually
stopping you from movingforward and growing in areas of your
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business. It is like youstarted out with all these great
ideas, but somehow you'veended up in a bit of a glass box
and you just can't find yourway out. And if you get trapped inside
your own glass prison and theneven the act of making a decision
starts to cause you to feelparalyzed, you can't move forward.
And you often then don't knowwhy, because it's quite hard to see
what's going on from theinside. You actually almost need
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somebody else to look at youfrom the outside and say, I can see
it. This is where I come in.As a coach and a mentor for lots
of my clients, I can see whatthey can't see. And here is the really
scary bit about this. And thisis the reason behind this week's
podcast. If this is soundingfamiliar to you and you don't break
the pattern, before you knowit, 15 years will pass and you will
look back at your business andyou will realize that you've been
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running it a little bit like ajob that employed you. You would
have gone in each and everyday, day in, day out, and done things
on a list, tick things off alist and gone home. And at the end
of those 15 years, you won'thave achieved what you set out to
do when you had your originalbusiness idea because you were too
busy firefighting all of thetime. On all of the other issues
that come up, a lot of whichare money mindset based, for 15 years,
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you will have underachieved onall those original goals. And yet
the fix. I hate that word fix,but I'm going to use it now. The
fix to this is so simple, butsomething you absolutely have to
commit to within yourself.It's about investing in yourself
and deciding it is time tochange things that sabotage you.
Because when you do that, whenyou decide to change these things
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and you get some tools andstrategies to do it, you stop sabotaging
your income and your money andyour life. So if this is all resonating
with you, keep on listening asI'm going to be talking about two
things. Number one, what is amoney mindset? Because it's really
important. We all know we'retalking about the same thing here.
And number two, what moneymindset beliefs are really specific
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to female entrepreneursgetting stuck? And how can you shift
those thoughts, those thingsthat are happening, so that you adjust
and break patterns to enableyou to grow your business and make
better choices, both about thechallenges that you face in your
business today and also theones coming in the future. By the
end of this podcast, youshould feel more equipped to direct
your business from the rightmindset when it comes to managing
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money and growth within yourbusiness. Before we start though,
it is time to make someone alittle bit more famous and read out
the review of the week, whichthis week comes from a listener on
Apple Podcasts called I lovethis name. Cruella Deville, 18 who
says that's such a cool name?Who says this podcast is one of the
best resources forentrepreneurs? I have followed Suzi
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since her daughter Wren was 4.That is to say, since before the
sabbatical Suzy took. Iappreciate the clarity with which
she presents her ideas and italready has helped me a lot in my
entrepreneur journey. I am soglad she's back and moreover with
a touch of neuroscience in herpodcast. This is a field which has
taken my interest to in thepast couple of years and it is great
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to learn how I can apply it inboth my personal and business life.
I totally recommend Suzy'spodcasts to my closest friends and
to the whole world out there.And that's the end of her review.
And thank you Cruella Deville,18, for a brilliant review. I see
from your review on ApplePodcasts you are from Romania and
I remember one of my formerclients a long, long time ago was
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from Romania. So if that isyou, if you are a former client,
do reach out, drop me a dm,send me an email and say hi. Identify
yourself if you want to. Youdon't have to of course, but it's
always just nice to get backin contact with former clients and
I hope that you will also findthis week's episode really helpful
to you too. Okay, so back tomoney mindset. And the first thing
to cover is what exactly is amoney mindset? You see, a lot of
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people assume money mindset isall about thinking and thinking positively
or changing your beliefs aboutmoney. But it's not just that. Money
mindset in really simple termshas two aspects. The first is that
it refers to your beliefs andattitude to money and your financials
and it is your attitude thatwill drive your decisions, the decisions
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that you make about money andyour business every single day. The
second, though, which is lesswell known, is that money is also
about energetics, yourfrequency and what you are an energetic
match for. In really simpleterms. Just to explain this at really
high level, think of money asa high frequency thing and then think
about whether you as anentrepreneur are operating at a high
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or a low frequency. Becausewhen those two things are out of
alignment you have a mismatchand then you end up with a lack of
money. Now I have a sayingthat I often use, which I think would
be really useful here. It iscommon to hear the phrase you are
what you think, or the phraseyour thoughts become your reality.
In part that is true, but intruth my belief is that your energetic
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frequency is the real sourceof your reality, especially when
it comes to money. So at thispoint, if you're thinking, well,
okay, Suzi, but money ismoney. It's not rocket science. You
either have it or you don't.The decision is just a decision.
End of story. You may notrealize until you've listened to
all of this podcast that yourdecisions are based on your underlying
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deeply ingrained thinkingabout financials and and that is
probably what's causing you toend up broke. Despite the huge amount
of effort that you're puttinginto your business, these deeply
ingrained thinking patternsare actually further rooted in energetic
patterns below that thinking.Some of these deeply ingrained core
patterns I refer to as moneysurvival patterns and I have an entire
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program about this and helpingyou release these money survival
patterns. For now though,let's dive into some of these really
easy and small changes you canmake when it comes to money and your
mindset around money. And asper many of the lessons in my podcasts,
I have a little story todemonstrate what I mean about money
mindset. You see, this year,James, my husband, for those of you
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who don't know him, James andI decided that we were going to sell
our central Bath Georgiantownhouse and observing other people's
money mindset blocks aroundthis was really fascinating. My starting
point was that I've alwaysbeen a good investor in property
and we've actually made about£400,000 profit in three years on
this particular profit. And Iwanted to capitalize on that. I wanted
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to sell it, buy a doer upperand do the same thing again, but
on a bigger scale. And weended up finding the right property.
But due to the cost ofconstruction going up in the in the
UK over the past few years, itwas going to be a lot more expensive
than we thought. But still wewere really happy to proceed. But
it was really interestingobserving how other people, estate
agents and other people aroundus were talking about what we were
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doing. We knew that the placewe wanted to buy was nearly seven
acres and it had multipleopportunities for passive income
and cottages and all sorts ofthings going on there that would
have been really, really goodfor us to do. And it exactly what
we wanted to do. But all ofthe people we spoke to were so full
of negativity and scarcitythinking and ultimately we had to
actually remove ourselves fromthose conversations where this was
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happening because it wasreally hard for us to level up financially
when everyone around us wasthinking from a place of scarcity,
was thinking that everythingwas going to fail, there was thinking
that everything was going tobe too expensive. And a lot of the
messaging we were getting wasthat money was going to run out.
They were acting like, well,if you buy this, you won't make enough
money. And I was responding tothis saying, there's always more
money, you can always makemore money. So it was a really important
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reminder, and I mentioned thisat the beginning, that you've got
to be really careful who youlisten to when it comes to money
mindset. You've got to thinkabout is that person just really
negative and really scarce intheir way of thinking? And is that
rubbing off on me? I couldgive you lots of other examples that
where I've had theseconversations where I've actually
ended up saying to clients orto friends or to other people, what
would you say if you weren'tcoming from a place of scarcity?
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And it usually changes theiranswer now on that property story,
as it turns out, the saleultimately actually fell through
for completely differentreasons and we were absolutely gutted.
But I also live in a place ofpossibility and I think that it probably
fell through because there's abigger possibility or a better possibility
coming for me. I just don'tknow what that is yet. And I will
wait for it to manifest. Thepoint of the story, however, was
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to highlight thoseconversations with the people around
us. It's such a reminder thatmost, and I mean most people around
you who are notentrepreneurial in their mindset
may have quite severe moneyblocks. And to be really clear with
yourself on understandingwhere your boundaries are here and
who you listen to, becausewhen you're an entrepreneur, you
have to be careful not tolisten to non entrepreneurs when
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it comes to money. There'ssome really stark examples here.
If I, if I sit myself in agroup of people who are employed
in average jobs, they willtalk quite often from a place of
scarcity and lack aroundmoney. If I sit with a group of people
who are entrepreneurs runningtheir own business, they quite often
talk as if there's no end tothe amount of money that they can
make. And you can see howsitting in those two different groups
will change how you thinkabout money. So are you listening
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to and taking advice frompeople who've walked the walk you
want to walk yourself, or areyou listening to people who are Too
scared to walk that walk andthey're trying to put you off. It
matters because your moneymindset will be influenced by those
that you listen to the most.So you might have to be the trailblazer
and the one who says, you knowwhat? This conversation isn't for
me. I'm going to take adifferent path and I'm going to listen
to other people. And then youget to choose who those people that
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you listen to are. You see,the choices you make in your life
and in your business are allbased on your thoughts about money
and your future where money isconcerned, a mentality that is based
in fear, lack and scarcity andbeliefs that money will run out,
beliefs that investing in youor your growth won't pay off, beliefs
that you will never makeenough money will create a future
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of exactly that fear, lack andtotal scarcity. Whereas a mindset
that focuses on being abundantand money being abundant and a belief
that there is plenty of moneyin the world, that more money will
come if you spend money, thatmoney doesn't run out, and that you
can always make more money,but just FYI, you can never make
more time that changes youractions. This belief that you can
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always make more money changesyour actions. Can you see how those
two mindsets are sodiametrically opposed? And for you,
the belief that is stronger isalways going to be the one that wins.
It's always going to be theone that dictates the future of your
life and your business. It'sas plain and simple as that. What
you believe is often what youbecome or what you go on to achieve.
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It's really, really powerfulstuff. So that's a little bit of
an explanation of theimportance of money mindset and what
money mindset is and how it'sconnected to deeply rooted beliefs
in your day to day decisions.And I haven't spoken at all really
about the energetics of money,the deeper energetic side. And what
I want to do now and for therest of the podcast is just go through
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these three mindset beliefsand how you can address them and
deal with them. So there'sgoing to be three between now and
the end of the podcast. Somindset number one, this is when
you focus on scarcity way toomuch. So we touched upon this already
in the preceding section. Butif you do this, if you focus on scarcity,
it means that you probablyspend a lot of your time thinking
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that money is scarce, thatit's hard to make, that it may run
out, that there's just notenough to go around. And as a result,
your business and your lifedecisions will all be based on those
fundamental beliefs aboutscarcity. Whether you're thinking
about it or not, it willbecome embedded into your system.
And this mindset, as I'vementioned already, quite literally
keeps you broke. Because ifyou live your life with a scarcity
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mindset, it doesn't matterwhether you make £1,000amonth or
a million pounds a month foryou, it will never be enough. You
will still worry that it willrun out and it's still not enough.
You will still feel broke.Even when you live in a seven bedroom
house with a swimming pool anda tennis court and a golf course,
you will live your life infear that you will run out of money.
So you will then not likespending it. You won't invest in
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yourself. You'll just focus ontrying to hold onto it really tightly
and hold on to what you have.And you'll end up taking as few risks
as you can, especially when itcomes to business. Now you can see
how this will inhibit yourgrowth if this is during your journey.
As I said to my eldest sonBarnaby just this morning, money
is simply an amplifier. So ifyou are in a place where you are
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feeling like money's notscarce, if you're happy and if you're
abundant now, then when youhave more money, you'll just amplify
that. If you are miserable andfocused on lack and focused on what
you don't have, money willjust simply amplify that as well.
In fact, in that case, you endup in the more money, more problems
mindset. But that's adifferent topic. So how do I know
this? Well, this was andsometimes still is me when I let
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my mindset get out of focus. Idon't come from money. My parents
were not wealthy. Money wastough and money was never spare.
My Nana, who I spent most ofmy time with as a child, was extremely
poor. She was from the EastEnd of London and her husband died
when My dad was 12. So Iremember my nana working three jobs
just to make ends meet. Butshe always said to me, we're rich,
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Suzi, we're rich. And that washer outlook on life. She felt rich.
She felt that anything waspossible. And this had a huge impact
on me, an absolutely massiveimpact on me. Because some of that
scarcity, scarcity mindset wasremoved because of the way that she
acted around money, eventhough actually, objectively speaking,
she didn't have that much.Despite my entire family, my, the
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rest of my family, my mom andMy dad, et cetera, always being in
this place of scarcity all oftheir lives. My Nana's impact on
me was that I was essentiallywealthy, even if I didn't have the
proof at the time. And so Itook action based on those inner
core beliefs. And over timethose actions added up. I now live
in a house worth two and ahalf million pounds and all of it's
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come from me and Jamesbelieving in ourselves. We also own
investment property as welland it all comes from this money
mindset that we have. But, andthis is really important, if my mindset
slips into scarcity mode,which it does sometimes, do you know
what I do? I start to worry. Istart to convince myself that maybe
I won't be able to afford thebills, maybe the government is going
to mess things up again, maybeBrexit or the economy will implode
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things. And I have a littlepanic and think, oh man, we should
probably sell this, this houseand get a smaller house and have
more ca cash available andless assets. Maybe we shouldn't have
bought this house in the firstplace. And I feel nervous about the
future. A scarcity mindset canquite literally make me want to sell
my house. That is how powerfulyour mind can be. And then when this
happens, I have to do my ownmoney mindset work and I have to
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work on my own money patternsbecause it's always ongoing work.
Life is not static and thingschange and your energy changes. So
reworking your beliefs as theworld changes and as I change is
all part of the ongoing innerwork. As you change, it's ongoing
inner work that you have tomaintain in order to maintain your
outer success. And when you dothat work, when you work from an
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abundant mindset, you havethoughts like, well, if the economy
gets worse, that doesn't stopme making more money. Or as I said
to a client recently, you canalways make more money. I know this
sounds simple, butentrepreneurs so often forget that
you can always make moremoney. And it's not always as difficult
as we make it. It is about ourinner capacity to make and hold money
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rather than whether the moneyis always there. It's always there.
You just can't always see itbecause you're not resonating at
that frequency. There is somuch money in the world, but so many
people don't attract it, don'tresonate with it because of the inner
world beliefs and because oftheir inner energetic blocks. Now
I will tell you another storyabout my business and the impact
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of a scarcity mindset in thedesign of your business as well.
So when I created my firstentrepreneurial business back in
2010, I actually didn't thinkit would work. I was convinced that
the money I was making was afluke that the bubble would burst,
that the customers woulddisappear, that it would all come
crashing down. And my mindsetwas so firmly in scarcity mode that
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I actually focused my entirebusiness as being a short term thing.
I woke up each morningthinking, well, today my business
will probably end. And imaginewhat that did to my ability to plan
the future of my business,what it did to my enjoyment of the
business. I never evenconsidered the future. I never planned
what it would be like 10 yearslater. I never did any thinking like
that because I never believedit would work. And that scarcity
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mindset got me trapped forquite a little time, not knowing
what to do. And it took moneymindset work to help with this, to
fix this. It was only when Istarted to believe that my business
could be huge, despite theodds being stacked against me because
it was such a niche industryand I had very young kids and I lived
in the middle of nowhere andall these sorts of things. It was
only when I changed my mindsetand I started to make changes as
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a result of that in mybusiness that I started impacting
the money that I was making.And it wasn't then long until I made
my first seven figures. Now,these days running a business, I'm
also constantly working on mymoney mindset. In the early stages
of a business, it's not somuch about the money, but the sustainability.
In other words, can yousustain your vision and belief and
keep going long enough untilyou manifest what you intend to?
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So many people just give up asthey're about to make the money,
literally just as they're onthe cusp of making money. And what
this stage is about is holdingout long enough when you're not making
the money, knowing that youwill make money as long as you keep
going, as long as you listento the data and the feedback and
you pivot things accordingly.You don't just keep hammering on
the same bits that are notworking. If they're not working,
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you've got to trust. You'vegot to know yourself well enough
to trust. So now I've said allof that, what do you do if your mind
tends to lean towards scarcitythinking? The answer is really simple.
You need to retrain yourthinking so that you create an abundance
mindset instead of a scarcityone. Now it's simple to say it's
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not always simple to do, noton your own. Sometimes you have to
get a bit of support to dothis. But as I say, awareness is
everything. Awareness is thefirst step. So imagine this scenario.
Think about yourself for amoment. Picture yourself waking up
in bed tomorrow morning andlooking at your bank statement on
your mobile app and saying, Iam so broke, I can never afford what
I want. Imagine right now howthat makes you feel when you hear
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those words, I'm so broke Ican't afford anything. How does that
feel? Where do you feel thatin your body? It feels kind of depressing
for me. That feels like asinking in my stomach and that would
set my day on a low ebb ifthat's how I started the day. If
you were in that frame ofmind, you'd have to kind of drag
yourself up and kickstart withsome kind of motivation to get stuff
done. And it would be so easywhen you're in that place to think,
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oh, this is not worth it,maybe I should just get a real job.
Now imagine the same. Youwaking up tomorrow morning and looking
at your bank statement andsaying, I am so grateful for the
income that I have so far andI know that there's more coming.
I know my finances willimprove if I just keep going. Or
right now, I have the exactmoney I'm meant to have. Money is
easy to make. I don't need towork harder to create more money.
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I just need to work smarter.Imagine how that changes the start
of your day, how that changesyour outlook, your vision and your
motivation. Now imagine thatyou had that abundant mindset every
single morning for the nextyear. Can you see how much that would
change your motivation andtherefore how much that would impact
your business? These smallchanges are too easy to push off
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as woo woo and woo woothinking. But actually your brain
is so powerful that you canharness that power in a positive
way and it can really start tochange your life. If you listen to
a sentence like, I always haveenough money and it throws up for
you a ton of objections andyour mind says, no, I don't, Suzi,
no I don't at all, then that'sgoing to be your starting point.
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If I say to you, making moneyis easy and you immediately think,
no, it isn't, no it isn't,Suzi, then that's going to be your
starting point. Because yourbeliefs about money become your reality,
your frequency around moneybecomes your reality. You will subconsciously
make your scarcity thoughtsbecome your real life. Conversely,
if you work with abundantthoughts, that money comes to you
easily that starts to becomeyour life as well. If you think money
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is difficult to make, itreveals a belief that you doubt your
abilities, you doubt yourskills, you doubt your customers
want to buy from you, and thatimpacts how you market what you do
and ultimately whether youeven want to get out of bed in the
morning and market yourself oryour business at all. So to help
you with this and changingthose scarcity thoughts into abundance
thoughts, I've created a moneymindset challenge guide that gives
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you some help with this. Youcan take a look, print it out, stick
it on the wall, put it on yourdesk, wherever you want to put it.
And I think one of theadvantages of this is when you see
it all in black and white, aswell as listening to it, it becomes
even more powerful and itreally makes you think. So if you
want to get that download,just go to SuzieBelmont.com podcast
10 that's the numbers 10 sopodcast 10. I will also put that
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link in the show notes on thepodcast player platforms and also
on the blog post that goeswith this episode over on my website.
Talking of the website, ifyou're over there anyway, also have
a look out for the Inside OutWisdom series because that is something
that will really also boostyour self belief and your self worth
around manifesting things inyour future and just maintaining
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that higher frequency. There'sa series there you can find in the
footer of the website calledthe Inside Out Wisdom. You can read
about what it is when you goover there. It's totally free, it
uses no more than 20 secondsof your day up and it's awesome.
I know from people who've beenusing it for the past few months
that it's massively changingthings in their lives. So go have
a look. You'll find thatreally quite powerful. Okay, so let's
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go on to money mindset changenumber two. This is where you have
to start to understand thatyou have to let go of the past for
you to change your moneymindset. You have to stop holding
onto beliefs that don't serveyou anymore. And yep, I completely
hear you here. Changing yourpast beliefs about money is not always
a walk in the park. You willfall off the bandwagon a few times
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and it is ongoing work, not aone time when you're done kind of
thing. So the question is, areyou willing and ready to make a decision
to break past patterns, todeal with unresolved money patterns
and past trauma around moneyand to move forward rather than existing
based on past beliefs? Becauseit really is a difference between
existing and living. If you'renot ready and you're not willing
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to make the changes, you won'tdo it. A lot of money mindset work
that I do with my clients issubconscious work. But we don't ignore
the conscious mind. Theconscious brain plays a big part
too. And so if your consciousbrain is not willing to get on board
with this, you won't succeed.So let me tell you another story
to illustrate what I meanhere. Remember back in episode one
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of the podcast and I told youabout how one of my brothers died
when he was 27? He was aheroin addict and he was a twin.
And I can remember sitting inmy mum's house a few hours after
it all happened and looking atmy remaining brother, who was, as
you can imagine as a twin, sodevastated that he had lost his twin.
And he was there, he waspresent in the room, but he wasn't
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really there. He was in hisown thoughts. He was somewhere else.
But even at that time, I stillremember turning to him, and for
just a few moments, I wasn't100% sympathetic. I was determined.
And I think there's a bigdifference and there's a time and
a place. And this just feltintuitively like it was going to
be the only time that he mighthear these words. I was frustrated
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and I looked at him and I saidin a really direct tone, you know,
the drugs have caused Nick topay the ultimate price. He's dead.
He's gone because of the drug,because of the past trauma that they
were the resource for, becauseof not facing the inner wounds that
they were causing him to reachout for an external resource. And
he was finding that in drugs.And there was no blame in what I
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was saying, no blame at all.He didn't have the knowledge that
we do now. He didn't have theresources. But I looked at my brother
and I said, if you doanything, anything at all right now,
please do this. Please decidethat now it is your time. Decide
it is your time now. Decidethat today you will start to work
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on breaking these oldpatterns, that you will stop reliving
the same patterns from thepast over and over again, that you
can be resolved and determinedto change your mind, to change your
beliefs, to change what youare here to do on this earth, on
your limited time here, tochange your friends, if that's what
it takes to change youroutlook, if that's what it takes
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to change your future. Becauseif you don't, your brother died for
nothing. And you will goexactly the same way. It's a choice.
And I just looked at him andsaid, are you willing to make that
choice? Back then I didn'thave the knowledge that I now have
about trauma and traumapatterns, which I build into my courses
these days and my coaching andI do a lot more somatic work alongside
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the mindset. But back then, 20years ago, my intuition told me to
say those words. And honestly,honestly, part of me was thinking,
holy shit, Suzi, maybe this isnot the time to be this harsh because
your brother is really brokenhere. But the other half was saying,
if you don't tell him now, hewill die too. And it was what was
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needed. He had assumed and hehad learnt from his life back then
that life was happening tohim, that he didn't have any choice,
that he had no agency, that hehad no part to play in the future,
that it was all just going tohappen to him. But my words, albeit
that they were harsh at thetime, were coming from a different
place. I was approaching thisknowing life happens for you and
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you do actually have choices.They're not always the choices you
want to make, they're notalways easy. And my gosh, he had
to go on a hard journey to getto where he then had to get to. But
you know what? He did it. Mysurviving brother, he's called Simon,
he did do it. He stopped thatday. He started to work on his belief,
he started to change his innerbelief that he, he couldn't give
up and that it was just allhappening to him. He started to change
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his identity. He wasidentifying as a heroin addict and
a lot of work beyond thatwhich had to take place to help him
with that identity happened,which I won't detail here, but in
short, he changed hisidentity, he changed his beliefs,
he cleaned up his life, hemoved, he cut off his druggie friends,
he used the grief that he hadto ensure that his brother didn't
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die for nothing. By changinghis own life, he changed everything
and he removed all of thethings in his life that were causing
that destructive way ofliving. And now he's coming up to
20 plus years free of drugs.He could have made any change at
any time, but for him, it tookthe shock of losing his twin brother
that made him question hisbeliefs about life. It was a wake
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up call for him at the time.And so my challenge to you as someone
who's looking at your moneymindset, at your business, at your
beliefs, at your life, if youknow it's not what you want, if you
know something is not right ifyou know that it's causing you to
self sabotage. Why are youwaiting for a really big wake up
call to take action? Why don'tyou do it now? You don't need to
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wait for the serious worstcase scenario death level wake up
call to change something. Youcan choose to work on yourself, you
can choose to work on yourinner world right now. You can get
coaching from me, from anyone,doesn't matter. From whoever you
choose, from whoever youresonate with. You can take the step
to put your name on a waitlistor a program, or put money aside
for a program, or save up, putaside 25%, make a plan for how you're
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going to do it, or just buythe program if you can. Something
as simple as listening to meright now could be your wake up call.
If this is resonating withyou, it could be your time, your
time to choose to do it, tobe, to literally be who you're going
to be. Because what are youwaiting for? You can't be that person
in the future if you're notthat person right now. Today might
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be the day that you stopletting your old beliefs, your old
patterns rule your future.From today on, you may say, you know
what? From today I'm going topay attention and I'm going to start
to acknowledge that I matter,that I deserve wealth, that I'm the
one who makes this happen,that I'm the one who chooses the
next step I make. Whether thatis putting money aside for a program,
joining a waitlist, booking acoaching course, getting your own
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coach. Whatever it is, it'sone step, it's one choice, it's one
decision that you matter. Andit's from that same strength that
you will find the resourcethat you need to move forward and
let go of your past. When itcomes to money mindset, you have
to grab it by the horns andchange it. As a child, you may have
heard so many things that haveled to your beliefs about money.
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Perhaps your parents saidthings like money doesn't grow on
trees, or money is the root ofall evil, or the rich get richer
and the poor get poorer. Orperhaps you now tell yourself, I'm
no good with money, or I don'thave what it takes to be wealthy.
All these things you need torecode within your very core, which
is what I help you do in myprograms. But you can't do those
programs unless you make achoice that you matter. When you
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work from a place of abundanceand positive abundance, that money
can and does work for you.It's a game changer. It's how you
start the ball rolling. Evennow. You could take a really small
step and do something likecreate your own whiteboard on your
wall with your new matrix ofmoney beliefs that you want to have.
You may not be able to cut outthe negative people around you in
your life and in yourenvironment right now, but you can
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control your own mind and thatis your power. You can decide that
you matter. You can decide toinvest in you. You can decide that
you are the one who createsyour own future and you have everything
it takes already to do it. Itis your time now. How are you going
to put yourself first MoreTake that example of the matrix of
money beliefs that you'vewritten down. If you've created a
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matrix that's just full oflimiting beliefs, that will be your
point of reference when youmake any decisions. So make a matrix
full of positive moneymindset. Write your beliefs down
or use the download that I'vecreated for this podcast@suziebelmont.com
podcast10 to help you identifysome of your limiting beliefs. Right
now. It is about letting go ofthe past and focusing on your future
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from today. And you will hearme say this a lot. You matter. So
start acting like you do. Makethat whiteboard from paper sheets
if you need to, but make it sobig that you see it every day and
it reminds you what you wantto believe and how you are going
to approach money so that itworks for you and your business to
build the income that you wantand to get you started with some
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really good supportive beliefsfor that whiteboard. As I say, have
a look at the download.There's a part two to the download
where I've set out some of thepositive affirmations I've used myself
to change my money mindsetover the years. And that's@suziebelmont.com
podcast 10. I will put that inthe show notes so you've got it.
And in the blog post for thispodcast on my website you can use
that list to build your ownframework for a new money mindset
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to slowly re educate yourselfand to give you a strong new set
of money mindset beliefs tokeep you on track. Okay, let's go
on to the final money mindsetshift for this podcast, which is
number three. And this is tostop blaming other people and other
situations and to start totake control yourself now. Okay,
this is a tough one, but I'mnot going to sugarcoat this. Your
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financial problems are no oneelse's fault. Yes, if times are tough,
you can blame the economy. Youcan blame politicians, all of them,
if you want. You can blameBrexit, you can blame Donald Trump,
you can blame anything youwant to. We can all find ammunition
there for a destabilizedeconomy if we want to. Look, you
can blame your background, youcan blame your family, you can blame
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your customers and say thatthey won't pay your prices. You can
blame the lack of time youhave. You can blame anything you
can think of. The list goeson. You can also fall into shame
and allow yourself to feelashamed of money, to allow that shame
to let you feel small andunimportant, to allow money shame
to keep your prices low so youdon't get rejected by people saying
no to higher prices, and so onand so on. But ultimately, if you
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do that, that victim mindset,that shaming, blaming mindset is
going to get you nowhere atall. If you want to be successful,
you've got to stop blamingyour circumstances. You can't fall
into shame as a default. Ifyou want to be successful, focus
instead on changing yourcircumstances by changing your mindset
and your energetic frequencyaround that. And again, I would remind
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you here that you have to becompassionate. You won't deal with
shame and blame by gettingangry. You need to get curious. What
are the patterns you have?Where are you being a victim? Where
are you stuck in shame? Andsometimes those wounds are really
deep and they need a lot moresubconscious and energetic work,
which is what I do, as I'vementioned a million times in my programs.
But for now, for this freepodcast, you can start. You can start
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to compassionately assessyourself honestly instead of giving
up at the first sign offailure. Analyze what is not working,
break it down, figure it out.Take responsibility for working out
where the blocks are. Takeresponsibility for making any changes
you can in your businessrather than just turning up like
an employee every day anddoing the tasks on your list even
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though you actually knowthey're not moving the needle in
your business. Be honest aboutthat. Take responsibility for doing
things that evidence the factthat you do matter. Instead of putting
all of your energy intocomplaining and finding other people
to complain with. Be the onewho breaks free from your complaining
group. Be the one who says,actually, no, I'm not going to do
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things like that. I am goingto change my outlook on what life
has served me and be gratefulfor what I have got, but also build
onto it with more. If youfocus on what you can control little
by little, that Starts tomanifest in things that work and
more success in your businessand your life. Little changes, little
things that you can begrateful for. Little progress is
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what moves the needle becauseit compounds over time. And I will
tell you a story here. Andlike the story of my brother dying,
it's another one around dying.I think maybe we learn some of our
biggest lessons about lifewhen someone we know is losing or
has lost theirs. It is a timewhen we look at things with more
objectivity. We realize lifeis short and there's not much time
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to get on with it. Andsometimes that is the kickstart that
we need. But back to my story.Back in 2007, when I was a lawyer,
my mother in law was diagnosedwith terminal cancer. She was diagnosed,
if I recall correctly, aroundMarch of that year. So March 2007.
And she died in August a fewmonths later. Her death was not easy
for my husband at all. But itwas made even more difficult because
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her choice was, and werespected her choice was to have
assisted suicide inSwitzerland because she knew that
her death was inevitable andshe knew she was going to suffer.
She was an incredibly bravelady, I think one of the bravest
women I have ever knownbecause that is one hell of a decision
to have to make. But herassisted suicide was also scheduled
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the same week as our wedding.As you can imagine, that was a rollercoaster
of emotions that James and Ihad to deal with. The happiest and
the saddest days of his life,just a few days apart. And at that
time, I just wanted to be athome. I didn't want to work, I didn't
care about my job at thatparticular time. I didn't care about
my clients, I didn't careabout my boss. I had too much other
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stuff going on. So I went toask for time off so I could support
my husband, who was in areally bad way at that time. And
I think I asked for somethinglike four or six weeks away from
the office to deal with theassisted suicide period, to deal
with the wedding which had tobe moved around or the wedding didn't,
but the honeymoon got movedand all of the changes that had to
be made, like reschedulingevery single thing that had been
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organized and so on. And myboss replied at the time. And her
reply is etched on my brain.It always will be. She said, this
firm cannot carry thefinancial burden of your family misfortune.
Now, whilst she wassympathetic, she was clear it was
not the firm's problem, it wasnot their fault. Why should she Pay
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me during this time. They werenot to blame, so I could not have
the time off. Now, whether Iagree with that approach or not is
neither here nor there. Iwould say that I wouldn't have had
the same approach if I was theboss. But that's not what I'm focusing
on here. What I'm focusing onis, despite my anger at the lack
of compassion at the time, Ialso learned a huge lesson from this.
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It is no one else's fault.Life sometimes deals you lemons and
sometimes you have to makethat choice. You can sit and look
at those lemons in a bowlcrying until they go rotten. You
can complain about someoneelse's lack of compassion or unfair
attitude to you. You can startan argument with them or a complaint
with them, or you can pick upthe lemons and say, right, how am
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I going to make these crappylemons into lemonade? How do I work
with what I have, even if it'sonly a really small thing? And how
do I make that into somethingbig? How do I make this work for
me, even if it feels like noone else is supporting me? How do
I make me matter and raisemyself and lead myself forward? How
do I lead myself to my nextlevel of greatness? How do I say,
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I am it, I am the one, I amthe vision of my own future and I
am going to mold me and mybeliefs and my energetic frequency
to fit with what I visualize,not with what happened in the past.
And this is a mindset shift.And this mindset shift in my own
story served me well. I stilluse it now when I'm really tired
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or when business gets on topof me. The fastest mindset shift
for me is to fall back intothinking it's because of X, Y, Z
that that happened. But I'velearned to train my mind into thinking.
This is where it stops.Looking at the facts and then stopping
before I focus on the blame.Because it gets you nowhere. Sometimes
you know that someone else wasunfair, someone else was mean, disrespectful,
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wrong. They did the wrongthing. Sometimes they did something
downright awful. Sometimesthey did something illegal. If you
see that it was their faultand you just focus all of your energy
or anger and negativitytowards them for years and years
and years. You never moveforward and you keep yourself broke.
If you know that it was XYZthat was to blame, but you chose
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to move on. You have ultimatepower, focusing on what you can control
and the choices you can makeand stopping any focus on blaming
Everyone else and the thingsthat you can't control is a mindset
shift that can get you throughthe toughest of days in your business
and in your life. You see,here's the thing. Sometimes, in fact,
oftentimes, you have to chooseinner peace. And that might mean
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walking away and resisting theurge to fight every battle just to
prove that you were right. Ifyou are right, you are right. So
move on. You can't drag thewrong person with you or make them
change. You can only changeyou and your future. And you know
what? If you do that, thatwill impact the person that you might
be frustrated with so muchmore. As they see you fly, as they
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see you succeed, as they seeyou soar to your greatest potential,
they won't have any morecontrol. Because you control that.
You control you. You controlyour future and you control your
income. You are literallyeverything you need. And if you put
half the energy into buildingyou from the inside out, as you did
on all of the other things inyour life right now, you'd be wealthier,
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wealthy beyond your wildestdreams. Because you can. You literally
can. And I'm going to stop atthis point or this episode will fry
my ADHD listener's brainbecause it's going to get too long.
Because I've been talking fora long time this week and there are
numerous other mindset shiftsthat you can make that will help
you grow and nourish a morehealthy money mindset when it comes
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to your business and indeedyour life. So in the download to
this podcast, I will add anadditional list of ways to transform
your money mindset. Justremember, you can find that over@susiebelmont.com
podcast 10 in addition,something I've not spoken much about
in this episode, or in any ofthe episodes actually, is that I
have a program all about moneymindset, work and the energetics
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of money, which is a muchdeeper dive into how you do all of
this. If you want to get onthe waitlist for that, or if you're
listening to this at somepoint in the future and it's already
been released, then head onover to the Work with me page@suziebelmont.com
and look for a course calledInside Out Money. Just add your name
there. Okay, that is it for methis week and I hope you have found
this podcast, provoke somethoughts for you. Keep on being the
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good person that you are. Keepon looking forward and asking yourself,
why is life happening for you?You keep on being you. And of course,
if you found this podcast orany of them helpful. Do take a screenshot
of you listening to theepisode and post it on Stories on
Instagram and tag me in it.Or, as I always say, you can post
a review on Apple Podcasts ora comment on Spotify. I recently
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found a couple actually onApple podcasts that I didn't know
existed. So if you do areview, please feel free to let me
know by tagging me somewhereor dming me or whatever you choose
to do. Sometimes it's that'seasier than me trying to find them
on the interwebs. Anyway, Iwill put a link to where you can
do reviews underneath thepodcast in the Show Notes, and also
over on the podcast page on mywebsite. Finally, Finally. Remember,
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you matter and only you canchange the future. It is all your
choice. See you next week. Bye.
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