When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People

What do you do when your feedback is met with stonewalling, shutdowns, or accusations? In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney return with more live Q&A from their tour stop in Newcastle, Washington, tackling tough questions about feedback, conflict, narcissism, and relational disconnect. Through personal stories and real-life coaching moments, they offer wisdom for navigating relationships where feedback feels impossible and disconnection seems inevitable. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a one-sided relationship or struggled to confront dysfunction in love, this episode will equip you to stay powerful, connected, and courageous.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• What to do when someone resists or shuts down your feedback.

• How to stay calm, clear, and connected when emotions run high.

• Why asking “What did you hear me say?” is a game-changer for clarity.

• The difference between repentance and self-justification in broken trust.

• How to approach accusations of narcissism in a culture that overuses the term.

Key Takeaways:

• Don’t confuse judgment for feedback: True feedback is sharing your experience, not labeling or controlling the other person.

• Safe connection takes time: If someone has never experienced feedback as love, they may need consistent safety before they engage.

• Stay powerful, even when others aren’t: You get to choose self-control, honor, and clarity, regardless of how the other person responds.

• Build trust with repetition: Healing relational dynamics takes practice, courage, and time—not a one-time conversation.

• Repentance isn’t promises—it’s change: When trust is broken, words don’t restore it—consistent changed behavior does.

Join the Conversation:

Have you ever struggled to give feedback to someone who wouldn’t receive it? What helped you stay connected and powerful? Let us know by leaving a review or connecting on socials.

Stay Connected:

Website: www.LovingonPurpose.com
Instagram: @dannylovingonpurpose
Instagram: @brittneyserpell

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