April 1, 2024 • 16 mins
One thing we can all guarantee is that we'll all receive some sort of criticism at some point.
The trick is to not let it get under our skin. Easier said than done though, but don't let that stop you.
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Richard (00:02):
And hello to you, and welcome to the Richard Nicholls
Podcast.
The personal development podcastseries that's here to help
inspire, educate, and motivateyou to be The best you can be!
I'm Psychotherapist RichardNicholls, and this episode is
titled Taking Things PersonallyAnd if you're ready, we'll start
(00:25):
the show! Hello, you beautiful,wonderful people! What have you
all been up to?
I've been stretching my comfortzone a bit.
I directed a play! I've beenacting on stage for 20 years or
more, but I've never directedbefore, which was interesting.
(00:47):
I think I'd much rather be up onthe stage, though.
It's a lot less stressful.
It was great, though.
No one walked out halfwaythrough, which is always nice.
That did happen to a play I wasin once.
We did a children's play oneafternoon, and someone came in
not realising it was for kids,and left at the interval.
Which we totally understood, ofcourse, and I'm glad someone
(01:09):
overheard them talking, so weknew why they left, so that we
didn't take it personally.
We knew it was because of themand not because of anything we'd
done.
But it's hard for some people tonot take things personally
though, because there's acorrelation with low self esteem
and that's a fairly lengthy jobto improve.
(01:31):
Not impossible.
Otherwise I wouldn't have a job.
And actually even just being alistener to my podcast series
will improve your self esteem.
If you listen and learn, it justtakes quite a while for it to
become permanent.
So work on that and it is goingto be easier to let things that
people do or say just bounce offyou.
(01:52):
But what can we do to create apositive effect right now?
Are there things we can do tohelp prevent us from taking
things personally?
Because in doing so, you mightfind it's got a positive
influence then on your selfesteem.
Which is maybe a big part of whyyou take things personally in
the first place.
(02:13):
As always, I think it startswith understanding it.
Getting some awareness of themistakes in your thinking, that
then allows you to see thingsfrom a different angle.
When I was a manager, back inthe day, a colleague of mine
once said to me the immortalwords, How could you do that to
me?
(02:34):
Because I'd listened to somebodyelse's perspectives on a problem
that they'd got in the office.
How could you do that to me?
And that's an important thing tochallenge.
Because, like someone walkingout of a children's play about a
rat who lives in a rubbish dump,it wasn't about them at all.
(02:54):
But some people do feel as ifeverything is about them.
You might think of it asnarcissism, but Paranoia is
probably closer to the truth.
There's a feeling that everyoneis always thinking about them,
judging them, and that is not ahappy place.
So please don't belittle anyonewho ever says something like
(03:15):
that to you, because even thoughall you might have done was
forgot to reply to a textmessage, which we all do, don't
we?
But to someone with a damagedview of how they fit in in the
world, that might be a massiverejection for them.
Earth shattering.
Even though it's a tiny,insignificant thing to you, it
(03:35):
might feel like the worst thingin the world to them.
And of course, if it was theworst thing in the world, then
you wouldn't laugh at them andsay, Don't be daft.
For someone with rejectionsensitivity, it's more than just
a slow reply to a text message.
To them, it feels like you'vejust got them sacked.
(03:57):
And if you feel like thatsometimes, if you hear, How
could you do that to me?
in your head a lot, thenfirstly, just check.
Is it really targeted at you?
Is this actually about you?
Check the source of theinformation.
Look at where it's coming from.
In the same way that if you askan Audi dealer what the best
(04:18):
make of car you should buy is,they'll say Audi.
You ask a Lexus dealer, they'llsay Lexus.
To them, they're being honest.
Maybe they truly believe it, butthat doesn't make it right.
So if someone does hurt you insome way, like criticise you,
and you feel hurt, just check.
(04:38):
Do they count as a good sourceof information?
Do they even know you?
Do you like and respect them?
Are their views important toyou?
Because whether it's with a cardealer or a toxic family member,
some people's opinions you cantake to heart, others you take
with a pinch of salt.
(04:59):
If it's a one off, drunken, andlet me tell you what I think of
you Criticism.
Then you probably know itdoesn't come from a genuine
place.
They're drunk.
They don't actually mean it.
It's hard to let it go.
Leave them to sober up and nottake it personally.
But they made a mistake.
Humans do.
We're a bit crap like that.
We make mistakes.
(05:20):
We say things we don't mean justbecause we want something to
say.
And we displace our frustrationsabout something or somebody else
onto innocent people who don'tdeserve it.
People do that, but not often.
Not habitually.
If someone is consistent intheir criticism towards you,
then you might have to protectyourself and limit contact a
(05:41):
little.
But it's not easy to limitcontact with someone who's toxic
to you, if you have to work withthem, or if you're related to
them.
But at least it's easy to seethat their actions are because
of them, not because of you.
Unlike an Audi dealer trying tosell you a car, or a friend of
mine who got a new job in abank.
(06:03):
And when a joint friend askedhim for some advice as to which
banks had the best credit carddeals or loans, I think it was,
he said, Well, actually My bankhas some great deals.
They're better than any others.
Well, isn't that a coincidence?
And it wasn't in any waymalicious, but the guy had been
working for this bank for acouple of weeks, and he was
(06:24):
really committed to the idea ofsupporting them.
And that narrowed his beliefsdown a bit and stopped him from
being so open minded.
Some people become narrow mindedin their beliefs about lots of
things.
And for whatever reason, theyThey refuse to see the bigger
picture.
And that might mean that theyhave a different reality.
(06:44):
A friend of mine has a farm, nota working farm as such, mostly
horses and a couple of chickens,and their boyfriend bought the
farm at quite a good pricebecause it was in a mess.
I mean, a real mess.
You wouldn't think it could besalvaged.
But they worked really hard totidy it up, and it's an endless,
thankless task.
(07:05):
And it's looking really nicenow.
It has been for a little while.
But they've both had to workreally, really hard and go
through some serious Mentalhealth, physical health
destroying experiences that I'mamazed they've bounced back
from.
And as it was starting tofinally come together, someone
said to my mate, Oh, it'slooking lovely, they said.
(07:27):
You've really fell on your feet,haven't you?
And my friend just stares ather.
Fell on my feet?
Yeah, I bet you can't believeyour luck.
And my friend just smiles andsays, It's funny how the harder
I work, the luckier I get.
By the way, do you need to usethe toilet before you go?
(07:48):
It's just through there.
And that's probably ignoredevery text message that they've
ever had from them since.
Because she felt belittled.
Obviously, the message beingrelayed isn't, Crikey, you've
worked hard to make this farmwork.
This is, this is impressivestuff.
Well done.
That's not what was being putacross.
It was, well, your boyfriend didall this, didn't he?
(08:09):
While you just played with yourdonkeys.
Is that right?
Now, I don't know why theycouldn't see the hard work.
I don't know why they wanted tobelittle them and believe that
it was all luck.
If they were a client, we'dunpick it.
But I do wonder if seeing thetruth makes them uncomfortable.
Seeing evidence that successcomes from some real hard graft
(08:30):
can make us feel lazy.
If we haven't had the same levelof And so, as a defence
mechanism, we might have tobelieve that success comes by
accident, through luck.
So, is someone with thatviewpoint a trusted source of
criticism?
No, of course not.
But that doesn't stop them fromhurling criticism at us.
(08:53):
Sometimes the reason whycriticisms hurt as much as they
do is because it goes againstour own values, our own moral
code.
Maybe you wouldn't talk tosomebody like that, so why
should they?
Well, I'm sorry to say, that'sirrelevant, because they did.
The fact that you feel that theyshouldn't makes no difference,
(09:15):
and having a good moral codeyourself can backfire.
Sometimes when the world doesn'thave the same values as you,
doesn't see the world in thesame way, doesn't care as much
as you whether that's aboutenvironmental stuff, animal
welfare, or just how to treat afellow human.
Sometimes people do let us downand we have to accept that.
(09:37):
We have to accept that ithappened and move on from it.
And I wish it was easier donethan said.
Accepting the unacceptable isn'teasy, but in doing so, don't let
it change who you are.
Your values, your personality.
I had a client once who wasangry because one Friday night
whilst they were in bed, someonewalking home on the way back
(10:00):
from a pub, went into thealleyway in between their house
and the next door neighbours,and they took a dump in the
alleyway.
And their neighbour was onholiday at the time, so there
was only them to deal with itfirst thing on a Saturday
morning.
And that's not what you want, isit?
It was horrible for them, and itshouldn't have happened.
But it did.
And they had to deal with it.
(10:22):
And staring at it didn't make itgo away.
Shouting about how unfair it isdidn't make it go away.
They had to accept that ithappened.
They had to deal with it andmove on.
And feeling angry aboutsomething might be warranted.
But it won't make it go away.
(10:42):
And we need to remember that.
Otherwise the only personstruggling with it is ourselves.
Like the old phrase ofresentment being like drinking
poison but expecting someoneelse to die.
That's not how it works, is it?
And unless we become a hermit,hiding in a cave, we 100 percent
will come under fire at somepoint.
(11:02):
It's inescapable.
It's hard to accept that, butaccept that we must,
unfortunately.
It's odd that a lot of peoplefind happiness in life, because
they've lowered happiness.
their expectations a bit.
You'd think that expecting thebest means you carry a feeling
of something good coming aroundthe corner all the time, but
(11:22):
actually now I don't see that somuch.
The people that tend to copewell with the critics are
usually the ones that have amore realistic view.
They might not expect thatcriticism is right around the
corner, but they know that itwill be eventually.
Maybe they're aware of their hotspots and they protect
themselves, like a bit of extrasunblock on their burnt bits.
(11:47):
If you know that something'sgoing to hurt you, you can be
prepared for it.
The thing is, if you know thatthe reason you're sore is
because of sunburn, you know toput on sunblock.
If you think it hurts becauseyou've pulled a muscle, then
sitting and relaxing in thesunshine with your feet up, It's
only going to make it all themore painful.
(12:07):
And it's the same with ouremotions.
Understanding why somethinghurts can protect us from the
pain.
If someone criticising youreminds you of some difficult
experiences from childhood, thenyou need to own that.
Because sometimes, even wellmeaning, standard, pleasant
(12:30):
advice can feel like criticismif you're that sore.
If you start a new job andsomeone has to show you how the
computer system works, but notknowing something in the first
place is a reminder of beingshouted at by a teacher or a
critical parent, then you needto own that.
(12:51):
Be aware.
That not knowing something makesyou feel insignificant, or
stupid, or whatever.
When you can accept that it's,that there is the truth, it's
easier then to spend a fewminutes talking yourself through
a process.
Even if it takes five minutes togo from, I feel stupid, to, I
(13:13):
can learn this.
Because you've got five minutesof Is this because of my
childhood or is this because ofmy mum or my dad or that teacher
or that bully?
Am I just being reminded of mypast here, today?
Before you then get to, it'sokay that I don't know how to do
something.
And you practice that and thenit becomes, that's fine, I can
(13:34):
learn this.
Now the first time, like I say,might take five minutes.
The next time it's four minutesand 59 and a half seconds and
then four minutes 59 and so onand so on.
And eventually.
You don't need to have thatcognitive process anymore
because it's automatic to think,that's fine, I can learn this.
(13:55):
So, to sum up, I think we needto find a balance between caring
too little and caring too much.
If someone criticising your workhurts, It's because you care
about your work.
That's a good thing.
It's good to be emotionallyinvested in the things you do.
Otherwise your work is kind ofpointless.
(14:17):
Care too little, and you won'tbe that happy.
But care too much, and And youleave yourself open to
perfectionism, which is equallyas painful, especially when
people criticise.
Because people do.
No matter how hard you work, orhow perfect you are, being you
will never be enough for somepeople, because they don't want
it to be enough.
(14:39):
No matter how perfect you are,or how much effort you put in,
Being a perfectionist with lowself esteem means that doing
your absolute best, yet stillbeing criticised, is a
reflection on you rather than onthe critic.
And so again, you might need towork on that because that's not
true.
If doing your best isn't goodenough, you might need to check
(15:03):
as to why.
Because it's your best.
You literally couldn't dobetter.
And if you're still beingcriticised, despite that, then
their expectations of you needto change.
And you can't do anything aboutthat.
Okay, people.
Time's up for today.
If you're a patron of mine onPatreon.
(15:24):
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today.
This is Monday when you'relistening.
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Creating a protective shieldaround you, which follows on
nicely from this episode.
Go and listen to that if you'rea patron.
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So you've got no excuse.
And you never know, you mightlike the extra stuff that I make
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Have a super week and I'll beback before you know it.
See ya!
And hello to you, and welcome to the Richard Nicholls
Podcast.
The personal development podcastseries that's here to help
inspire, educate, and motivateyou to be The best you can be!
I'm Psychotherapist RichardNicholls, and this episode is
titled Taking Things PersonallyAnd if you're ready, we'll start
(00:25):
the show! Hello, you beautiful,wonderful people! What have you
all been up to?
I've been stretching my comfortzone a bit.
I directed a play! I've beenacting on stage for 20 years or
more, but I've never directedbefore, which was interesting.
(00:47):
I think I'd much rather be up onthe stage, though.
It's a lot less stressful.
It was great, though.
No one walked out halfwaythrough, which is always nice.
That did happen to a play I wasin once.
We did a children's play oneafternoon, and someone came in
not realising it was for kids,and left at the interval.
Which we totally understood, ofcourse, and I'm glad someone
(01:09):
overheard them talking, so weknew why they left, so that we
didn't take it personally.
We knew it was because of themand not because of anything we'd
done.
But it's hard for some people tonot take things personally
though, because there's acorrelation with low self esteem
and that's a fairly lengthy jobto improve.
(01:31):
Not impossible.
Otherwise I wouldn't have a job.
And actually even just being alistener to my podcast series
will improve your self esteem.
If you listen and learn, it justtakes quite a while for it to
become permanent.
So work on that and it is goingto be easier to let things that
people do or say just bounce offyou.
(01:52):
But what can we do to create apositive effect right now?
Are there things we can do tohelp prevent us from taking
things personally?
Because in doing so, you mightfind it's got a positive
influence then on your selfesteem.
Which is maybe a big part of whyyou take things personally in
the first place.
(02:13):
As always, I think it startswith understanding it.
Getting some awareness of themistakes in your thinking, that
then allows you to see thingsfrom a different angle.
When I was a manager, back inthe day, a colleague of mine
once said to me the immortalwords, How could you do that to
me?
(02:34):
Because I'd listened to somebodyelse's perspectives on a problem
that they'd got in the office.
How could you do that to me?
And that's an important thing tochallenge.
Because, like someone walkingout of a children's play about a
rat who lives in a rubbish dump,it wasn't about them at all.
(02:54):
But some people do feel as ifeverything is about them.
You might think of it asnarcissism, but Paranoia is
probably closer to the truth.
There's a feeling that everyoneis always thinking about them,
judging them, and that is not ahappy place.
So please don't belittle anyonewho ever says something like
(03:15):
that to you, because even thoughall you might have done was
forgot to reply to a textmessage, which we all do, don't
we?
But to someone with a damagedview of how they fit in in the
world, that might be a massiverejection for them.
Earth shattering.
Even though it's a tiny,insignificant thing to you, it
(03:35):
might feel like the worst thingin the world to them.
And of course, if it was theworst thing in the world, then
you wouldn't laugh at them andsay, Don't be daft.
For someone with rejectionsensitivity, it's more than just
a slow reply to a text message.
To them, it feels like you'vejust got them sacked.
(03:57):
And if you feel like thatsometimes, if you hear, How
could you do that to me?
in your head a lot, thenfirstly, just check.
Is it really targeted at you?
Is this actually about you?
Check the source of theinformation.
Look at where it's coming from.
In the same way that if you askan Audi dealer what the best
(04:18):
make of car you should buy is,they'll say Audi.
You ask a Lexus dealer, they'llsay Lexus.
To them, they're being honest.
Maybe they truly believe it, butthat doesn't make it right.
So if someone does hurt you insome way, like criticise you,
and you feel hurt, just check.
(04:38):
Do they count as a good sourceof information?
Do they even know you?
Do you like and respect them?
Are their views important toyou?
Because whether it's with a cardealer or a toxic family member,
some people's opinions you cantake to heart, others you take
with a pinch of salt.
(04:59):
If it's a one off, drunken, andlet me tell you what I think of
you Criticism.
Then you probably know itdoesn't come from a genuine
place.
They're drunk.
They don't actually mean it.
It's hard to let it go.
Leave them to sober up and nottake it personally.
But they made a mistake.
Humans do.
We're a bit crap like that.
We make mistakes.
(05:20):
We say things we don't mean justbecause we want something to
say.
And we displace our frustrationsabout something or somebody else
onto innocent people who don'tdeserve it.
People do that, but not often.
Not habitually.
If someone is consistent intheir criticism towards you,
then you might have to protectyourself and limit contact a
(05:41):
little.
But it's not easy to limitcontact with someone who's toxic
to you, if you have to work withthem, or if you're related to
them.
But at least it's easy to seethat their actions are because
of them, not because of you.
Unlike an Audi dealer trying tosell you a car, or a friend of
mine who got a new job in abank.
(06:03):
And when a joint friend askedhim for some advice as to which
banks had the best credit carddeals or loans, I think it was,
he said, Well, actually My bankhas some great deals.
They're better than any others.
Well, isn't that a coincidence?
And it wasn't in any waymalicious, but the guy had been
working for this bank for acouple of weeks, and he was
(06:24):
really committed to the idea ofsupporting them.
And that narrowed his beliefsdown a bit and stopped him from
being so open minded.
Some people become narrow mindedin their beliefs about lots of
things.
And for whatever reason, theyThey refuse to see the bigger
picture.
And that might mean that theyhave a different reality.
(06:44):
A friend of mine has a farm, nota working farm as such, mostly
horses and a couple of chickens,and their boyfriend bought the
farm at quite a good pricebecause it was in a mess.
I mean, a real mess.
You wouldn't think it could besalvaged.
But they worked really hard totidy it up, and it's an endless,
thankless task.
(07:05):
And it's looking really nicenow.
It has been for a little while.
But they've both had to workreally, really hard and go
through some serious Mentalhealth, physical health
destroying experiences that I'mamazed they've bounced back
from.
And as it was starting tofinally come together, someone
said to my mate, Oh, it'slooking lovely, they said.
(07:27):
You've really fell on your feet,haven't you?
And my friend just stares ather.
Fell on my feet?
Yeah, I bet you can't believeyour luck.
And my friend just smiles andsays, It's funny how the harder
I work, the luckier I get.
By the way, do you need to usethe toilet before you go?
(07:48):
It's just through there.
And that's probably ignoredevery text message that they've
ever had from them since.
Because she felt belittled.
Obviously, the message beingrelayed isn't, Crikey, you've
worked hard to make this farmwork.
This is, this is impressivestuff.
Well done.
That's not what was being putacross.
It was, well, your boyfriend didall this, didn't he?
(08:09):
While you just played with yourdonkeys.
Is that right?
Now, I don't know why theycouldn't see the hard work.
I don't know why they wanted tobelittle them and believe that
it was all luck.
If they were a client, we'dunpick it.
But I do wonder if seeing thetruth makes them uncomfortable.
Seeing evidence that successcomes from some real hard graft
(08:30):
can make us feel lazy.
If we haven't had the same levelof And so, as a defence
mechanism, we might have tobelieve that success comes by
accident, through luck.
So, is someone with thatviewpoint a trusted source of
criticism?
No, of course not.
But that doesn't stop them fromhurling criticism at us.
(08:53):
Sometimes the reason whycriticisms hurt as much as they
do is because it goes againstour own values, our own moral
code.
Maybe you wouldn't talk tosomebody like that, so why
should they?
Well, I'm sorry to say, that'sirrelevant, because they did.
The fact that you feel that theyshouldn't makes no difference,
(09:15):
and having a good moral codeyourself can backfire.
Sometimes when the world doesn'thave the same values as you,
doesn't see the world in thesame way, doesn't care as much
as you whether that's aboutenvironmental stuff, animal
welfare, or just how to treat afellow human.
Sometimes people do let us downand we have to accept that.
(09:37):
We have to accept that ithappened and move on from it.
And I wish it was easier donethan said.
Accepting the unacceptable isn'teasy, but in doing so, don't let
it change who you are.
Your values, your personality.
I had a client once who wasangry because one Friday night
whilst they were in bed, someonewalking home on the way back
(10:00):
from a pub, went into thealleyway in between their house
and the next door neighbours,and they took a dump in the
alleyway.
And their neighbour was onholiday at the time, so there
was only them to deal with itfirst thing on a Saturday
morning.
And that's not what you want, isit?
It was horrible for them, and itshouldn't have happened.
But it did.
And they had to deal with it.
(10:22):
And staring at it didn't make itgo away.
Shouting about how unfair it isdidn't make it go away.
They had to accept that ithappened.
They had to deal with it andmove on.
And feeling angry aboutsomething might be warranted.
But it won't make it go away.
(10:42):
And we need to remember that.
Otherwise the only personstruggling with it is ourselves.
Like the old phrase ofresentment being like drinking
poison but expecting someoneelse to die.
That's not how it works, is it?
And unless we become a hermit,hiding in a cave, we 100 percent
will come under fire at somepoint.
(11:02):
It's inescapable.
It's hard to accept that, butaccept that we must,
unfortunately.
It's odd that a lot of peoplefind happiness in life, because
they've lowered happiness.
their expectations a bit.
You'd think that expecting thebest means you carry a feeling
of something good coming aroundthe corner all the time, but
(11:22):
actually now I don't see that somuch.
The people that tend to copewell with the critics are
usually the ones that have amore realistic view.
They might not expect thatcriticism is right around the
corner, but they know that itwill be eventually.
Maybe they're aware of their hotspots and they protect
themselves, like a bit of extrasunblock on their burnt bits.
(11:47):
If you know that something'sgoing to hurt you, you can be
prepared for it.
The thing is, if you know thatthe reason you're sore is
because of sunburn, you know toput on sunblock.
If you think it hurts becauseyou've pulled a muscle, then
sitting and relaxing in thesunshine with your feet up, It's
only going to make it all themore painful.
(12:07):
And it's the same with ouremotions.
Understanding why somethinghurts can protect us from the
pain.
If someone criticising youreminds you of some difficult
experiences from childhood, thenyou need to own that.
Because sometimes, even wellmeaning, standard, pleasant
(12:30):
advice can feel like criticismif you're that sore.
If you start a new job andsomeone has to show you how the
computer system works, but notknowing something in the first
place is a reminder of beingshouted at by a teacher or a
critical parent, then you needto own that.
(12:51):
Be aware.
That not knowing something makesyou feel insignificant, or
stupid, or whatever.
When you can accept that it's,that there is the truth, it's
easier then to spend a fewminutes talking yourself through
a process.
Even if it takes five minutes togo from, I feel stupid, to, I
(13:13):
can learn this.
Because you've got five minutesof Is this because of my
childhood or is this because ofmy mum or my dad or that teacher
or that bully?
Am I just being reminded of mypast here, today?
Before you then get to, it'sokay that I don't know how to do
something.
And you practice that and thenit becomes, that's fine, I can
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learn this.
Now the first time, like I say,might take five minutes.
The next time it's four minutesand 59 and a half seconds and
then four minutes 59 and so onand so on.
And eventually.
You don't need to have thatcognitive process anymore
because it's automatic to think,that's fine, I can learn this.
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So, to sum up, I think we needto find a balance between caring
too little and caring too much.
If someone criticising your workhurts, It's because you care
about your work.
That's a good thing.
It's good to be emotionallyinvested in the things you do.
Otherwise your work is kind ofpointless.
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Care too little, and you won'tbe that happy.
But care too much, and And youleave yourself open to
perfectionism, which is equallyas painful, especially when
people criticise.
Because people do.
No matter how hard you work, orhow perfect you are, being you
will never be enough for somepeople, because they don't want
it to be enough.
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No matter how perfect you are,or how much effort you put in,
Being a perfectionist with lowself esteem means that doing
your absolute best, yet stillbeing criticised, is a
reflection on you rather than onthe critic.
And so again, you might need towork on that because that's not
true.
If doing your best isn't goodenough, you might need to check
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as to why.
Because it's your best.
You literally couldn't dobetter.
And if you're still beingcriticised, despite that, then
their expectations of you needto change.
And you can't do anything aboutthat.
Okay, people.
Time's up for today.
If you're a patron of mine onPatreon.
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com, then there'll be ahypnotherapy track out later
today.
This is Monday when you'relistening.
About letting things bounce offyou.
Creating a protective shieldaround you, which follows on
nicely from this episode.
Go and listen to that if you'rea patron.
And if you're not, well, there'sa seven day free trial.
So you've got no excuse.
And you never know, you mightlike the extra stuff that I make
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each week.
You might find you'd like tostick around for the sake of six
quid a month.
So go forth and make your dayamazing in any way you can.
Have a super week and I'll beback before you know it.
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